TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

sla1317 Archive

View 1 post and 39 comments by sla1317 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
15

ADVICEsla1317/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 06:23 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

Are you saying only the ugly ones say it out loud, or only the ugly ones have to dress provocatively because they're so ugly?
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 03:59 AM
2

Congrats OP! While I personally don't think that other people's sexual business should be my business and as long as everyone is safe, sane, and consenting, they should be able to conduct their lives how they want, I don't think it's the most fulfilling lifestyle. I was someone who dated the same person for six years, broke up and slept with several people for not very good reasons because I was single and felt I had been "tied down" during my undergrad so I deserved to do whatever I wanted. how…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 01:03 AM
1

I mean I was looking for according to RPW who I gather espouse the idea that women need to be looking for husbands asap because I'm only getting older and more hag like and less fertile by the day (allegedly), would you all advise ending a great relationship that has a dubious future in favor of finding someone who would be a better match. Also, I was trying to see if it seemed possible that I could convince my boyfriend I do in fact want children and that I would be happy having them. He has de…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:19 PM
1

It's possible I would be fulfilled having kids and it would improve my life. I am not nearly as closed off to the idea as I was in the past. I also do think I would be happy having kids with my current boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 01:24 AM
1

He wasn't stringing me along. I was I guess stringing myself along. He had already said he was like 90% certain we wouldn't get married, and I thought that it would be possible to convince him that in fact I did want kids and our worldviews are not so different. But I realize now that theres nothing I could say that would tilt the scale towards it being substantially likely that I actually sincerely want kids and would not be resentful having them. as it is now, I said too many things in the pas…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 01:23 AM
1

well, he's not dissatisfied now at all. He's 23 turning 24 soon and perfectly happy to have a great girlfriend even if she won't be his wife. He has all the time in the world. He did however say that he would feel incredibly guilty should I miss out on finding someone who is a better match because I am dating him. So, yes, likely after finals we will break up.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 01:17 AM
1

no we've had the frank conversation before. But now, he has made it explicitly clear that there's really nothing I can do at this point to disabuse him of the notion that having children would be too risky with me because of the possibility I would not be happy actually having kids. Which is fair, because while I think it would turn out fine, I couldn't say 100% certain I would be happy having children. so, we're going to break up
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 09:43 PM
1

the boat we are in is that he thinks it is too risky to say that he wants to have children with me because of my assertions to the contrary. So, it's not even a problem with him or me it's a just a difference in goals and so yes we aren't good for each other. So, should I find another guy at school who has the same ambivalence about kids, then no, it won't be the same boat.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 09:40 PM
1

He does all of those things; he's literally on my mind all of the time. Very unfortunately, we had a very frank and exhaustive discussion and it is now clear that there is almost no possibility we will get married because of my previous feelings about children. He feels it is possible that I have now convinced myself I want kids because I want to stay with him and it might be the case that sometime in the future, or maybe even after I have kids, I will realize I was wrong and be resentful and no…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 07:34 PM
0

My life keeps happening after 35 too. Women after 35 don't just disappear. Yes of course he thinks I'm worth marrying. He wishes that the extrinsic things weren't there and we could "live happily ever after" his words to me. Not right now he doesn't have plans because I have a job in another city. Should that change, he's assured I do want children, and I am completely recovered, then yes I think he would.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 11:37 PM
1

Meh. I'm not really worried at least about looks. I don't have to justify myself to the Internet although tbf I have opened myself up to criticism. I'm just most worried that I won't be able to find someone who meets my standards but even then I'm not too worried. I have had disordered thoughts around food but I have not actually been underweight. Physically I am unaffected.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 09:29 PM
1

Thank you! I truly do appreciate everyone who took the time to read this and comment. I used to frequent another board and would see outsiders make threads and everyone on the board would give helpful advice that was usually a tough pill to swallow for them. Similarly, it's helpful to have you all a perspective on this issue. I truly love this man and he makes me want to be the best me I can be. It's hard to convey on an anonymous board the nuances of our relationship. So, one interpretation is …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 06:32 PM
1

The words in quotes are from him. I am quoting words that he has said to me. I'm not projecting. He said those things.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 06:14 PM
1

We are in a giddy relationship high. He isn't questioning if we should be together and I only am because of of the future issue. His hesitancy comes not from me, but extrinsic things. 1. I don't currently have a job in his city and 2. He doesn't know that I want kids. However, should I be able to find a job and make it clear to him that I do want kids he would want "everything to work out and be happily ever after" he would want me to "be his person" should the other things work themselves out.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 05:59 PM
1

I started worrying about the wall when I learned of TRP from an article deriding you all. That was probably 2 years ago I guess. I am a long, long time lurker. If the wall wasn't there, my course of action would still be to try and get to my boyfriend's state because he is my most favorite person who makes me want to share all of my life experiences with. If he were poised to be less rich it would not matter at all to me. I don't want him for his money and we started dating before he had his job…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 03:58 PM
2

I am excellent. However, it's possible I am not the best possible choice for my boyfriend and he isn't that best possible choice for me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 03:46 PM
1

He's not debt free, and he's not really that much in shape. I find him very attractive, but I am definitely more attractive than him, and by far his hottest girlfriend. When he first started trying to hang out with me, I actually didn't consider him as someone I would be romantically involved with and agreed because he invited me to hang out just as friends. I did not give the best years of my life to someone else. I am a better version of myself now than when I was 17. Sorry, but literally look…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 03:44 PM
1

That guy was told I didn't want kids and he decided that he wanted me more than kids and that was okay with him. It's unclear when it came up because I was 17 and wasn't considering that. However it did come up. My ex bought a ring and would have proposed I presume but he wasn't marriageable so I made it clear to him not to ask me because he wouldn't like the answer. I did ask my boyfriend. Should he do it again, he said he would marry a girl who didn't have extensive higher education so she'd b…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 02:28 PM
2

He would understand if I wanted to break up because he knows the anxiety I feel about being able to find a husband. But he definitely doesn't want me too.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 02:29 AM
1

It seems though that after the wall I won't be desirable and won't be able to find a suitable partner. So then I don't have all of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 02:28 AM
2

Well, what would be your verdict? Should I break up with him since he doesn't want to marry me and as a woman with a time limit I shouldn't waste anyone's time?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 01:45 AM
2

I mean, if I only have five years where anyone would want to marry me, using up two of those on someone who doesn't want to marry me seems irrational. Isn't that the takeaway?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 01:41 AM
3

Unclear. I hope so. But I'm not sure which is what drives me to post on rpw and ask if I should break up with an excellent guy because I don't want to be 33 and find out I'm wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:59 AM
1

lol. I do not have a roving eye. and I will pay my debt. but fair fair. It's why I am on redpill. because I am afraid I am not a catch and so don't want to waste time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:11 AM
2

It's 100k for undergrad and law school. I took on the debt with the intention of ensuring I could live the lifestyle I wanted without having to rely on someone else to make it happen. Also, I will be making 160k then bonuses and lockstep afterwards, so I will be able to service my debt. I'm only considering SAHM because of my boyfriend and he will be able to ensure that we can live the lifestyle we want. I would probably work after the kids were in school.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:10 AM
1

I say not a relationship stopper because he doesn't want a marriage right now and so being in a relationship is perfectly fine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:06 AM
0

The discussion only came up because right now we are conducting our job searches for after graduation and I am not trying to move all the way across the country for someone who doesn't want to marry me. Also, when we first started hanging out it was causal and on my terms because I said the next person that I date will likely be my husband because I dated someone for six years from 17-23 so I'm not wasting anytime dating if it's not leading to something. We started dating officially before he ha…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:06 AM
1

We both care deeply for each other. He's perfectly happy with me as a girlfriend. He's a year younger so not even trying to find a wife right now anyhow.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:06 AM
2

If he knew that i would be happy to have kids, then yes I would meet his expectations. I have a fine job but the question is whether I should try for another good job, but in his city.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 12:05 AM
3

Yes, which makes me apprehensive and not want to waste any time.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 11:59 PM
0

I do believe in gender roles, generally.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 11:59 PM
1

I'm pretty attractive. I am domestic. Cook, clean etc. I am articulate and interesting and can hold intelligent conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 11:59 PM
1

that would be true as well, except the reasons are more extrinsic reasons. like getting a job in his city. that's overcomeable and not really a failing on my part. I do want his children and I feel like I could convince him of this. I don't think our views differ as much as he think he does and I am progressing with recovery. So it is possible that those reasons could be resolved and they aren't really intrinsic failings on my part that need making over. So eh. time will tell I guess. thank you …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 06:28 PM
3

not quite. it's more he said he was 95% sure that we would not get married. those aren't good odds. and so, if I only have five more years left to be desirable or whatever, then I don't want to waste them. I played the field for like six months after breaking up with my ex of 6 years. I have no desire at all to see what is out there if this man wanted to marry me. I only suggest breaking up because I am aware of the timeline of my desirableness and I don't want to waste it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 06:08 PM
1

Thank you everyone for your replies! I really appreciate it. I think that I most definitely need to get my life together and have been getting help to do so. This man makes me take into account his feelings before mine. Challenges and makes me want to be better in a way that no one else has. I've been on enough dates, met enough guys to realize what I need in a relationship and what qualities would make a good life partner. So, I think it's worth it to work on and work towards resolving our issu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 03:49 PM
1

None of them are relationship stoppers at all. None of them on their own are even bars to a marriage, but taken together, the whole is that it most likely in his view won't work out. I think though that he is a wonderful person and I'd rather have this time with him and hope it'll work out than be single because I really don't prefer that state at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 03:41 PM
-1

See, I'm the type of woman that you all bemoan, pretty constantly. No, for the longest time, it was not at all clear to me that children were a worthwhile endeavor. In fact, the cost of children always, always outweighed any benefits that could potentially come. I live a fulfilling life. I did not need a drain on my resources and energy to subvert myself and goals etc for a kid. Being super adamant however, was to be contrarian and get a rise out of everyone. Because people hate when young women…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 09:38 AM
3

I feel like, at the moment, and for the next year and a half while I am still in school. Yes, I have many, many options. I'm pretty attractive, very smart (although judging by my typos that is debatable), and will be making good money when I graduate. I don't want to say I'm going for the advanced MRS degree, but there will likely not be another time in my life where I have the time for dating and a great pool of men my age who are as intelligent and poised to be as successful as I will be. I'm …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 09:32 AM
3

ah. I suppose yeah I was vague. We literally had the conversation of how hard should I be focusing my efforts to get a job in his city, he said that he loved me, but that he did not see us getting married because I probably won't be able to get a a suitable job in his city (I will have an expensive degree that I'd like to be working in my field) Before meeting him, I was pretty adamant about not wanting kids. Mostly to be a contrarian. But falling in love with him, I want kids with him (He's not…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 07:41 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter