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These kinds of beliefs tend not to change easily. You are also at a disadvantage because you are younger than him and he probably views you as inferior on a fundamental level. The best possible outcome is that you will indirectly provide evidence to him that many of his beliefs are false. Planting seeds for future reflection. However, he will try like mad to reframe everything that happens so it fits into the world view he has adopted-- usually in ways that make you out to be the villain (or 'mi…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/25 03:29 PM
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I knew someone like this. Is it possible for them to change? Yes. Whether it's likely to happen is a whole other question-- and even if it does, how long will it take? Competent therapists can be hard to find. The guy I knew didn't even start to work through the worst of his issues until well into his 30s after several failed attempts, and it took years before he made noticeable progress. This is a project that isn't your responsibility. It's his. I'd suggest writing your thoughts out (including…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/23 06:33 PM
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In my experience, most normal, healthy, decent men tend to be attracted to women closer to their own age, at least for long term relationships. There are very obvious reasons for this if you want a partner who values knowledge and wisdom in any way whatsoever. If all a dude cares about is a certain body type, there is very little meaningful connection happening anyway and they would probably be better off with a sex worker. Not to mention the power imbalance, which is what I think this is really…
/r/ExRedPill06/03/23 03:58 PM
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I think low self esteem is very prevalent in both men and women who get pulled into redpill stuff. They are taught impossibly high standards combined with cruel, twisted logic which causes them to view almost everyone as 'not enough'. This leads to disregarding the humanity of anyone who isn't on the same path-- either completely ignoring most others or seeing them as only a means to an end. Being constantly judgmental narrows your capacity to experience real connections. I think we're all a lot…
/r/ExRedPill09/06/21 10:00 PM
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She talks about how she’s gonna “hit the wall soon and probably get really ugly.” I just want to say as an older person that this is complete bullshit. If you have a healthy relationship with your partner and neither of you is gaining a huge amount of weight or going full anorexic, you will still be able to find each other as attractive as ever even after you have gray hair. If someone becomes less attracted to their S.O. because of a few wrinkles or less-than-perfectly-airbrushed skin, they're …
/r/ExRedPill22/05/21 03:48 PM
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I have known straight men who are clearly sex addicts and very promiscuous (as well as chauvinistic), who talk about it a little too much and probably would fit in with red pill types. But those seem to be outliers, and would also probably be less likely to spend a lot of time on the internet shitposting. I agree with your rough assessment of the demographics, haha
/r/ExRedPill23/04/21 05:13 PM
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I have known multiple men who exclusively date women several years older than them because they can't stand dealing with the insecurity & immaturity of younger girls. A huge part of attraction and connectedness with couples is what happens in our minds-- when someone has less experience, knowledge, discipline or awareness than you, you will gradually (or quickly) get sick of them, because you feel less connected and it starts to kill your attraction. Unless you just see them as an object, in whi…
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 12:59 PM
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Imagine, for a moment, that everyone is asexual. Then think about the actual percentage of time the average person spends in sexual activity vs. everything else. What I'm saying is, most of the time we're all asexual, and that is not a bad way to be. All this gender politics stuff melts away, and we're simply people. People with complex emotions and needs. In my view, sex should be viewed as a bonus thing. There are various paths to it, but (especially if you accept that masturbation is okay), a…
/r/ExRedPill10/08/20 04:30 PM
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Without a doubt. Way too obvious. Disappointed I had to scroll down so far to find your comment. Come on, people, don't allow yourselves to be drawn in by shit-bait like this.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/03/17 03:42 AM
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I'm not sure what you mean about me sounding "damaged", other than letting someone 'get away' with verbally abusing me (when you've been through the same argument with someone enough times, you realize that sometimes people are irrational and it's not worth the fight, dude). You can rest assured that I did not stand down, and I stopped talking to her for the rest of the day after that. She can categorize it in her head however she wants, it's pointless to wrestle with her over it until or unless…
/r/MensRights24/02/17 09:39 PM
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The emotional abuse is a big one. Many women (more so those who have been abused themselves, of course), in my direct experience, have zero qualms about using demeaning, shaming, invalidating, belittling language - up to and including very hurtful direct insults - when a disagreement isn't going their way. A woman I'm very close to just pulled out every attack she could think of on me a couple days ago (among other things, totally invalidating serious mental heath issues I've suffered all my adu…
/r/MensRights24/02/17 04:03 PM
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This is honestly one of the biggest critiques I have of a lot of 'movements', modern feminism included. Show me in a compelling, measurable way how much depth of suffering you are reducing in the world. Show me. Now, explain to me why that's more important than ending child slave labor in unsafe, disease-infested environments. To a point, I recognize that the struggle for a truly better world encompasses many battlefronts, and that different people are equipped for different tasks (not all of wh…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 02:00 PM
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Eh, some fucking freaky-ass fetishes are out there. Nothing wrong with it, I've known quality people who copped to a few-- the important thing is that if they're about power imbalances, it needs to be adjusted for somehow. It's one thing to get turned on by dominating behavior, it's another when that turns into someone being disrespected 24/7. As in other areas, men tend to be more diverse (from what I've read). If dudes can be turned on by contact with shit and vomit, well... I mean, anything s…
/r/TheRedPill24/10/14 12:01 PM
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There are times in life where you need to be willing to risk everything you have, everything you've been taught since birth to look forward to, everything you might potentially be capable of in the right scenario... and just be free. Then you can really get to know yourself and what you're willing to put up with. The day I realized I would truly be happier homeless than in the scenario OP describes was the beginning of my escape from hell. My wife's reaction when I told her this was hilarious, s…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:33 PM
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liberal education I've read a lot about some of the scary current trends in schools, but I think people's experiences with the education system are going to vary widely. Not only due to regional differences, but changes over time. More than half my public schooling was during the 80s in the northern midwest, and it seemed like I had about as many male teachers as female ones, along with more traditional viewpoints represented. It was more indoctrination from the disney-hollywood industrial compl…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/14 12:23 PM
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'That one woman' has likely been more myth than reality for the majority of men through most of human history (at least post-agriculture, anyhow). One partner, if not each, will always be more likely to betray the other than either fully realize in certain circumstances, for reasons that are in large part subconscious. I do think there's a spectrum, though, and some people have had better luck. Problem is, you just can't guarantee that kind of result (although you can bump your odds). In any cas…
/r/TheRedPill07/08/14 02:04 PM
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One of the many unpleasant truths in our time is that statistically, a large majority of therapists you meet blind will be mostly useless to you. From my own experience and that of many others, it seems like less than half are what I would consider basically competent-- and even those are going to have uneven specializations, it's just human nature. Kinda funny for a job where most of what you need to do is keep your mouth shut. Edit: What I'm saying is, without a quality referral (and maybe eve…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 03:04 PM
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That last paragraph sums it up for me. Being in halfway decent shape and having a healthy diet are critical predictors of everything from mental acuity to longevity.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 02:28 PM
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You know, I still personally refuse to use the word publicly because I think it makes a person basically look stupid and lowers their perceived status, but I have to say, you make an excellent argument. I almost miss using it now. The word 'cocksucker' works for similar reasons-- I'm more okay with that, since no one these days seriously believes you're suggesting there's anything inherently wrong with blowjobs.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 01:30 PM
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women don't understand what their own brains are doing to them. Most people in general have a very poor understanding of how their own brains sabotage their best interests. I think an attempt to correct some of that is a big part of we're all trying to do here.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 02:48 PM
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Think about the times you've been most exhilarated and energized. Think about when you've felt strong, dexterous, capable, and confident in your abilities. Think about when your breathing was clearest, your thirst for - and appreciation of - general accomplishments was greatest, and your sense of spontaneous adventure was most compelling. Think about those times when you got dirty and scratched up and sore working some nasty job, and you were concerned you might get sick from getting so dirty...…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/14 12:34 PM
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Wow, that is the first I've heard of the angle with "The Secret". Explains a hell of a lot, in my opinion. That piece of shit book is what should be getting the headline blame here.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 02:00 PM
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Equating SMV with the more general concept of having value as a human being is incorrect. A number of people have zero chance of sex due to being physically incapable or just not being that into it (i.e. asexual) and don't care about their SMV. It's pretty fucking sick and wrong to say they don't have value.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 01:58 PM
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It depends on the therapist, and on what your needs are. Plenty of women are capable of professional conduct in their work. I saw a female therapist for a while, and she mostly just shut the fuck up and let me work shit out while being supportive, which in retrospect was exactly what I was paying for. She helped me more than the male counselor I saw for a while (who was a bit too blue pill). Now if I was looking for advice, it might've been different, but I think a lot of people are like me and …
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 01:36 PM
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(and I assume you mean women) Yeah, I don't think that's what /u/gstvtrp was saying at all. I took it as splitting reality between yourself and your environment, giving 50% to each. Your environment is 'society', and we should be able to agree that it can be pretty fucked up-- you can't control it, but you can control how you react to it. That's the 'yourself' part, the 50% you control. No one with any standing in TRP community believes that all women are fucked up. It's just a fact that women a…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 01:06 PM
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The like/sustainable Venn is essential. For those of us with a wide variety of interests, the next step would be a scoring system to rank options which fall inside this overlap. Choose all the criteria you want, but weight them appropriately.
/r/AlreadyRed15/05/14 05:59 PM
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A man will choose a thin woman over a fat woman 100% of the time. [*] All other things being equal, and provided he doesn't have some kind of fat fetish. Pretty damn close to 100%, though.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/14 05:44 PM
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Exactly. We continue to adapt to our new environment(s), but we have had very, very little time to do so compared against all that time spent adapting to a much harsher world, and the traits which evolved then aren't going away any time soon. Religion has often tried to duct tape over this in various ways - with varying levels of success - but our true nature always comes through, and science is finally beginning to explain why.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/14 01:17 PM
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This can be a tough concept, but I appreciate you taking a swing at it. I think you explained it better than I could off the top of my head. It's counter-intuitive to people because it's so difficult for them to even imagine stepping outside their own perspective (which, to confound matters, usually includes a reinforcing imaginary 'third person' overseeing things to maintain the illusion that we're not actually all trapped inside our own heads). Add it to the list of Philosophy 101 stuff that I…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/14 01:01 PM
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It's mostly an extension of the observation that nearly all adult relationships are transactional, and even more so with people who spend a lot of time together. We are handed these bullshit lies from childhood on that romance can somehow magically transcend the laws of physics and result in unconditional love, but the harsh reality is that romance is one of the most conditional, fickle forms of human interaction there are. TRP style has always been to present things in the most shocking way pos…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/14 12:13 PM
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blitzkrieg of bullshit Hahahaha! That's the best possible description for this kind of thing. You're right, it is maddening-- it triggers feelings of disgust for my own species and will often result in me curtailing all further human interaction for the rest of the day. When there's no exchange of information, everyone is wasting their breath.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 01:19 PM
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slow hamster That is great, I love it. For a lot of us, this is not a bad target to aim for.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 03:24 PM
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Nothing prepared me for reality. Nothing I was told was true about life tested out. I'm taking it as it comes. We're on the same page there. [Edit: Fuck everything I previously wrote in this comment. Gotta stop posting when I've been drinking too much. Improve yourself, improve yourself, improve yourself. Get respect. Get power. That path will be guaranteed to bring you contentment in life more than gambling on special connections with special people ever will.]
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 02:39 PM
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You only stay with someone for 60 years if fucking isn't an important part of that relationship. Or not the most important part, anyway. I tend to take the long view on life in general, so this statement makes sense to me. A mental and emotional connection holds much more power in the big picture than a physical one. The physical can and will beat everything else out in the short game (and its importance shouldn't be understated, I've made that mistake), but its power is fleeting. If they live l…
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 01:08 PM
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Thanks, man. I am actually working on it, been doing a little better recently. It's just that, like with everything else, I can't stay as actively interested as I was in the past. It's more of a steady trudge with minor benefits than the push to world domination it once felt like. The payoff seems too far off, too unlikely. Still, you're right, there's a good chance I can pull her up with me, and I'll feel better regardless. I appreciate the encouragement.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/14 04:38 AM
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I've seen a couple female shrinks. They seemed no less effective than the males, just different. Motherly, even. I think that male-female interactions tend to go a lot more smoothly when the female is being directly paid. Not saying that's the only way it should ever be done, just that it works. No lingering, ephemeral, implied attachments or commitments, no tangents; just cash money, the agreed-upon interaction, and you're done. Repeat as desired, or not, at will.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 01:24 PM
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Man, a lot of what you say here is very hard to accept at face value, and I find myself coming up with counter-examples for every example I can think of for many of these statements. But then I think about every big fight I've ever been in with a woman I was in a relationship with, and it all just clicks. Personal attacks, the inability to exchange information & viewpoints neutrally, making you feel like a jerk and/or an idiot for something you know deep in your bones is not wrong... it's emotio…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/14 01:10 PM
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The intensity of censorship of TRP views/ideas just confirms the value of a lot of what is said on here. I'm compelled to raise a counterpoint. People feeling threatened by an idea does not directly translate into that idea having value-- for example, they tend to respond the same way to racism or overt threats of violence. I think it's more accurate to say that people tend to gag and puke when they first encounter TRP because it clashes so strongly with everything they've been conditioned to ac…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/14 03:21 PM
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the work it takes is kind of exhausting Haven't seen anyone else address this part yet, so I thought I'd chime in. The thrill of the chase and lust for the prize are supposed to be your energy source for the high output involved with things like maintaining frame (especially when it's not natural for you and may never fully be; believe me, I understand this). Without either of those things, you're looking at a lot of hard work for something you don't value that much-- a poor return on your inves…
/r/TheRedPill17/12/13 05:27 PM
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Part of TRP theory - there are some statistics that back this up but I don't have time to look them up right now - is the concept that a higher partner count (as with many other things in life) generally tends to affect women differently than men, at least in the earlier stages of life (under 40, say). As far as I'm concerned, a whore is a whore, male or female, and either sex is going to have a harder time with monogamy if they sleep around a lot. Which is a bummer, because being a whore can be…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/13 03:46 PM
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I guess what I'm saying is that I had an idea of what the 'perfect relationship' was, but it was flawed and needed correcting. In order for this correction to happen, I had to cut that hope out of myself and start over with a more realistic concept, which hurt. Thinking about what you said, particularly the word 'maintain'.... ultimately, much of what I want from a woman is for her to inspire me to be my best. It would be great if she could still see that potential in me when I'm not doing so we…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 04:57 PM
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I get it, the last piece of the puzzle. This is exactly how I felt when I first encountered the same concept a while back. I lived 15+ years as an adult man thinking that if I kept looking for and/or spending enough time with the right woman, eventually she would love me unconditionally, like a mother (my mother has some issues which cloud this for me, but that's another story). Accepting that this was so unlikely that I needed to consider it impossible for the sake of my mental health was the m…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 04:14 PM
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Been with my wife for over 10 years. Started out more alpha - although with no idea what I was doing - then went beta pretty fast through lack of discipline and failing to maintain frame (always had trouble with that, I'm smart but not quick-witted-- memorization is the way to overcome this, working on it). Relationship went to hell early on but I felt 'stuck', in large part due to my own poor choices. Like with others in this thread, my wife professes disdain for red pill concepts while respond…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 03:53 PM
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I will never trust a woman again I know exactly what you mean. After years of drowning in severe, life-destroying misery due entirely to not understanding how shit works in the real world, then finding the red pill, I experienced a similar change in my ability to trust. There are a few things that temper this for me. Although it stings to know that I will almost certainly never experience the good parts of the total devotion to a woman I was once capable of, at least I know the horrifically bad …
/r/TheRedPill08/11/13 05:10 PM
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Yeah, when you think you've figured the world out and have all the answers and then find out that you were dead wrong, it tends to have a negative effect on your mind. I expect it eventually happens to everyone who attempts to value the truth more than their ego. What separates the truly wise from the rest is the determination to continue on that path even after it hurts you.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/13 01:05 PM
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Excellent point on the propaganda/leverage. The most I've gone remotely recently is 10 days but I think you're right that 30 is a good target.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 08:18 PM
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It's win. Period. I find that thought very calming, thanks. I was pretty shook up last night and this morning, but a cool, firm resolve is setting in now.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 05:00 PM
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Props for finally telling the truth but holy shit man, you are so self-destructive and filled with guilt that it's hard to read. Yeah, I needed to read that. You're not wrong. It's a systemic problem permeating my entire psyche, I'm working on it.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:38 PM
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Thank you for the inspiration. I think she's subconsciously wanted me to be more dominant all along but had absolutely not a single freaking clue how to help make that happen, and tended to reflexively shit-test-stomp me into the pavement when I half-assedly tried. Little did I know that she didn't actually know what she was doing. It's been a rather confusing experience (at least until the red pill went down the hatch). Now that I'm taking massive initiative for the first time, she's going to c…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:23 PM
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I think that's exactly right. I feel for my wife, she just wanted to settle down and has been completely faithful & mostly very good to me, but her sense of entitlement (thinking she's a great catch, failing to acknowledge that I got kind of a bad deal yet displayed honor in sticking around and still trying to improve things) is jaw-dropping. Not completely her fault, but a major problem. I was younger than her, didn't understand how the world works yet and ended up thinking for years that it wa…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 03:13 PM
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You're right about the drinking, it's my worst weakness at the moment and I intend to cut that shit out pronto. I don't believe full abstinence is the right way to go for me (or most people), but I fully intend to reduce bigtime. The extra financial pressure I'll soon be under - along with much more freedom to pursue long-neglected projects - should help.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 02:51 PM
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What you say makes perfect sense. This is kind of a rough moment, but a necessary one. It's a lot messier than one might think when you value a lot of things in a partner you're committed to but are finally ready to accept the truth about the negatives in the situation (whether they are or not). I think there's a good chance she'll come around, but she's stubborn and responds unpredictably to tough love. I need to keep improving myself either way. In any case, I really appreciate the kind words.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 02:46 PM
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Going to lift weights right now. I'll be late for work, but it's my last week and fitness is way more important, so what the hell. Thanks for the honest encouragement.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/13 12:52 PM
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once you've tasted the top you realize how EXCRUCIATING average is. I think a lot of us can relate to this in one way or another. To me, the essence of being a man is the grim determination to get back on top or die trying-- no matter how much of a painful, sweaty, muddy, bloody chain of suffering it takes.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/13 07:57 PM
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Oh, hell. Late to the thread, but can't resist this one. Mid-30s. First off, I was kind of deluded by some more fringe religious ideas that I've since almost completely let go of-- accelerating this process would have done me a world of good because I had been brainwashed from multiple sources into ignoring & suppressing most of my natural urges, causing me all kinds of grief. I would never have caved to pressure to move in with the sketchy dude I used to know in grade school who I already suspe…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/13 05:00 PM
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Meh, you'd be surprised. My extended observations suggest that a large number of people - if not the majority - continue thinking much how they did as a teenager, possibly even worse-- they get better at hiding this and putting on a good show, but if you look closely, their priorities are still all out of whack. Significant maturity doesn't just automatically happen, aside from in small things or skill specialties. It takes work and time and pain, things that people tend not to want to give more…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 10:52 AM
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All human relationships start out as a dance of "what can this other person do to enhance my life?" With time, as trust builds (particularly as people get older and/or closer to death), sincerity of appreciation will increase. In the first few years - or even decades - of a long term relationship, though, forget it. You have to constantly work to demonstrate value and maintain interest/attraction. It is very difficult for any person to truly know, understand and fully love another person, even m…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 12:48 PM
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I saw that yesterday, too. My approach is to compare it against other unhealthy behavior. Translate everything the fat lady says into the language of /r/cripplingalcoholism, for example (or any other drug)-- obesity is comparably deadly, after all. I have absolutely zero problem with someone choosing to be an addict, as long as they're honest with themselves and everyone else that it's pretty much an objectively shitty thing to do. Managing and controlling your bad habit to mitigate the damage i…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/13 12:33 PM
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That was extremely painful to read. Cringe city. I used to be almost that bad-- I often question how much better I've really gotten, but this was a great reminder of my substantial progress. Those who resist the truth the most are the ones in greatest need of it.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/13 06:01 PM
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Oneitis. Fucking. Kills. Once it's revealed that these feelings were misplaced, the damage is already done. If not leading to outright, literal, physical death in short order, it will destroy a life for any number of years (often to the end) by diverting focus internally & backwards and thereby preventing any significant forward movement. The worst thing is, practically everything our culture does further optimizes the conditions under which this wretched misery festers while shutting out other …
/r/TheRedPill20/06/13 11:27 AM
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Good point. Those who fail to realize their predicament are far worse off. I think the longer you spend like that, though, the longer it takes to fully purge it from your system. All that's left of it for me now are occasional twinges that I recognize as irrational, but they've been with me so long, I wonder if they'll ever completely stop. Still, as long as I have my sanity, my sense of logic will always obliterate them pretty quickly now.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 04:29 PM
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I got hung up in oneitis so bad at one point that it may have warped me for life (although I continue to improve/recover with time). My morally strict upbringing led me to swallow hollywood's lies and become a serial monogamist from the get-go, so the first time I got into a relationship involving decent sex for a couple months, she was all of a sudden the only woman I wanted to ever love for the rest of my life. Like 99.9% of teenage romances, it ended. I pined after what I thought I'd lost for…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 12:23 PM
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Yeah, it's difficult, especially for somewhat older guys who now realize all the mistakes they've made. Sure, I learned a lot, but at what cost? And it galls me to no end that, at least in part, all those 'jerks' were right about so many things I never used to accept (not everything, but way more than I expected). On the other hand, once you take off the rose-colored glasses, you can appreciate it more when people pleasantly surprise you by rising above their selfish natural tendencies.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 12:17 PM
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Absolute rage. What a shallow, worthless bitch. I hope he wises up and makes a clean exit before she makes his life too much more unpleasant.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/13 11:57 AM
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A lot of what you will find through this sub is generalizing. It's also very focused on the evolutionary underpinnings of sexual strategies, so the behavior of older (well-balanced) people may sometimes be somewhat outside the scope of the red pill. In other words, you &/or your relationship might be an exception. On the other hand, how would you feel over the long run if your boyfriend constantly put you on a pedestal and had trouble asserting himself? How do you think he would feel if you let …
/r/TheRedPill23/04/13 09:15 PM
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Be selective and carry a fucking condom, people. Seriously.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/13 12:30 AM
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For much of my life I was a raging liberal, although I always stuck to some conservative principles. Since encountering the manosphere I've become more conservative in certain respects, but I wouldn't say I've completely lost all my liberalism. There is nothing 'beta' about having empathy for people and wanting to reduce needless suffering. I think a certain amount of social safety net is extremely important-- as long as it's balanced by the equally important need to avoid wasting resources on l…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/13 12:00 PM
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Pretty badass response. That about sums up a lot of how I feel. I am way more interested in propagating powerful ideas that can benefit the human race than any other kind of legacy. And yeah, sex is awesome, but how much of my time, money (and risk) do I really want to dedicate to it? Learning game until you have it down has all kinds of rewards, but you don't always have to take someone home to feel like a man. Do it when it's convenient for you, sure, but if you're going out of your way to get…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/13 11:20 AM
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It's fascinating when we uncover solid evidence like this that explains so many major aspects of real-world behavior. My wife prides herself on being very 'logical and rational' and 'always saying what she means', yet I have noticed a strong tendency for her to make heated arguments that are clearly coming from a completely non-objective emotional place (while denying she is doing this if I call her out on it), as well as making statements she later backs away from. It's taken me a very long tim…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/13 11:49 AM
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The idea of breaking the biological "code," if you will, is very interesting to me, which is why I follow this subreddit You're by no means alone in that. Using this knowledge to my direct advantage will be entertaining if/when I find an appropriate opportunity, but simply getting a better grasp on human behavior leads to other potential utility & is rewarding in itself.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/13 01:38 PM
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That writer knows what's up. I especially like his advice to Susan Patton's son: "You need answers that will heighten their curiosity rather than satisfy it"
/r/TheRedPill14/04/13 01:28 PM
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Seems to me that lightly grasping her 'mirror hand' (your right to her left or your left to her right) almost as if you are about to kiss it - but without actually kissing it - would be the best way to go. Makes her think about the kissing part and potentially leaves her wanting more. Any thoughts as to how this might not be a good idea are welcome.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/13 09:31 PM
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Stop giving until you have the capacity to give. Bingo. There's a lot of substance to that statement.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/13 05:57 PM
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evaluate media critically during formative years Yep. I've always been really bad at this and am only slowly getting better. My default assumption was that the people designing various media products almost certainly have more life experience and/or training than I do, so what they're telling me must be important and true. Why would anyone misrepresent reality, right? [My dad, his dad and myself all took a strong interest in engineering (right now I'm an underachieving software engineer, but tha…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/13 11:20 AM
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I'm not disputing your first sentence, but fyi, that average life expectancy stat is skewed by the huge infant mortality rate and gets thrown around incorrectly a lot. Plenty of ancient people lived into their 40s and 50s and beyond (not as many as now, but still)-- they were just a lot worse for wear and didn't have any teeth. Since far, far more of their babies died then as opposed to now, though, the 'average' gets pushed down.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/13 12:04 PM
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This has been one of the most mind-blowing revelations of the red pill for me. Everything I was taught as a child led me to believe that I could pursue building my life however I wanted and expect loving support from all around... instead, I was undermined, belittled, shamed and redirected at every turn. This perplexing & infuriating phenomenon now makes perfect sense, and understanding it has brought me a great deal of peace & firm resolve.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/13 03:11 PM
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I think about this a lot. Constantly being around masses of people and mentally/emotionally processing all the relevant variables is often extremely draining. One item on my bucket list is to live in some kind of wilderness area for at least a few months-- I'd like to be within walking distance of some kind of internet, but I wouldn't mind being disconnected for long periods. Perhaps I'd have a satellite emergency beacon just in case (I think you can get that service for less than 20 bucks a mon…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/13 12:51 PM
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undertones of white nationalism in some of the blogs during some feminism talks, bringing everything back to Christianity... I try to take the good parts and avoid the bad but it is trying. I think it's important to have a strong, visible countering force in this community that calls these things out and clarifies that not everyone here shares such views.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/13 12:04 PM
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when he showed his racist and religious bias he lost all credibility Yep. I started out voraciously devouring everything linked in the sidebar and a lot of things linked to those things, but I stopped reading "Michael's story" part way through and never went back. It's way too narrow a viewpoint and treats personal convictions as fact, some of which are plainly nuts. It's also poor writing. I respect religious people-- I used to be one, and my parents still are. I admire the Golden Rule and am o…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/13 12:01 PM
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A lot of guys can relate to a lot of this, but raw-dogging strangers is always a bad idea. I can't endorse anyone who promotes it.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/13 11:44 AM
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Interesting perspective. I would accept that this is more than half of it (at least in the "what should we do differently?" category), in part because the results of these lifestyle changes will cascade into the other areas. It certainly makes sense for me to dwell mostly in these areas, since I'm 'off the market' except for flirtation at the moment due to previously mutually-agreed monogamy that I'm man enough to stick with for now-- better physical & mental health is what I mainly need to focu…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/13 11:52 AM
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Thanks for asking! I've been riding a continuing spiral of major depression for several years and I hate pretty much everything about my life. At least it's usually more boring than torturous... but in my silent, hidden core, I'm clenched in twisted contortions, screaming at the utter inanity and soul-crushing compromise I'm surrounded by constantly. Oh, I'm sorry, was that not what you wanted to hear? /sarcasm [I hate it when people ask me this question passing me in the halls, too. To me, aski…
/r/TheRedPill28/03/13 11:59 AM
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I just read Roissy's article and holy crap does that ever describe the disgusting beta role I've been playing throughout my life. It sounds pretty close to the relationship I was in for most of my 20s, actually. Not sure I could stand to watch it, but I might have to make myself at some point as part of reinforcing my new perspective.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/13 12:14 PM
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Seems fairly accurate in light of the primary LTRs in my adult life. Where it diverges for me is how the continuing damaging effects of my upbringing - and certain religion-influenced attitudes about sex - kept me from noticing the first three phases very much. Regardless, I always noticed when the disrespect started kicking in, and I always hated it. There really is no turning back from that once it's entrenched. I'm kind of stuck in that situation right now, actually... she's a decent enough p…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/13 11:47 AM
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when they say "I'd do anything for you" they mean it much more often than guys do. I'm not so sure about that. I used to think so, but not so much any more. I'm not saying there aren't exceptions, but... While he's stating it a bit more harshly than I would, I think what the writer is saying is that the woman who will be nurturing and love you unconditionally & selflessly is so very, very rare (especially these days) that she might as well not exist. We all yearn for motherly-like love - minus t…
/r/TheRedPill20/03/13 11:37 AM
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I'd highly recommend taking this with a grain of salt. Read the 'Criticism' section, as well as some of the comments in this recent post. I do think there is some useful insight in this concept, but don't take it as the scientific revelation it purports to be. I would have easily been considered a stage 8 at around age 17, but I still had a shit ton to learn and a helluvalotta mistakes ahead of me (which probably continues to be true today). Meanwhile, plenty of people who seem to hang out mostl…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/13 11:37 AM
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The only counterpoint I feel needs to be brought on this right now is a reminder (one I often feel is missing in a lot of these discussions) that a lot of things even out as we get beyond middle age. I know most 20somethings don't think about it a whole lot, but statistically most of them will still be around then, so it's good for everyone to examine that angle once in a while. Older women - provided they haven't allowed bitterness to consume them - have usually experienced a lot of realization…
/r/TheRedPill14/03/13 12:25 PM
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The long-term behavior of most reasonably attractive heterosexual western women can be fairly accurately predicted by many insights that are revealed here. If you are a western heterosexual male, it would do you a great deal of good to follow much of the advice here-- get in superb physical shape, up your game, project confidence/disinterest, learn to filter out women with low quality personalities (except in some cases where you're just looking for a trouble-free lay) and focus on your own majo…
/r/TheRedPill28/02/13 12:51 PM
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This post was apparently filtered out by the moderators due to not following posting rules-- basically because it's not directly about sexual strategy.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/13 01:16 PM
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She might still shrug you off, but by going for the close you cause her to regret shrugging you off. This is the heart of it to me. Relationships are tough, and they seem different from less committed situations-- but the same dynamics apply, just in a longer timescale. It's like lifting vs. endurance; either way you have to push yourself through some discomfort. When you give into the path of least resistance and regression starts to happen, it easily turns into a downward spiral you have to fi…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/13 01:04 PM
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I think there's enough variety in the human population for it to be possible under certain rare circumstances, with several mitigating conditions present (i.e. cuckold fetish, hooker fantasy, strict limits set, etc.). However, I agree that most of us who have strong romantic feelings for someone would prefer not to see them sexually involved with someone else. We might put ourselves through it, but we won't like it.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/13 01:06 PM
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Heheh. 'Stoning'. Heh. Nice one, XxXsmok3bluntzXxX420. No downvote from me, but no upvote either.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/13 12:58 PM
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Not always-- particularly if you enjoy the same activities and/or she happens to be able to get into what I consider deeper conversation (for example, discussing the value of making a positive difference in the world). The latter does seem more difficult to find than the former, however.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/13 12:48 PM
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Eh, I say never say never. Especially if major technology shifts enable us to more consciously direct our future evolution. Also, there are always exceptions to the rule that less-likely sets of circumstances bring about. With a population this large, and with past barriers to reproduction being obliterated, those less-likely circumstances could become more likely. I agree that your statement probably applies to most of the current female population, though.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/13 12:41 PM
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I appreciate your thoughts, thanks. Some hard-earned wisdom there. Any woman who is capable of being a close friend, even if the attraction part isn't strong, should be recognized for her value & rarity. Nonetheless, there is a difference between a close friend and an ideal mate, and I'm no longer sure the latter exists for me. I felt like I was in 'true love' for a year or so once, with a high school sweetheart long ago when I was 18, but I now highly suspect it was an illusion. As I mentioned …
/r/TheRedPill18/02/13 01:03 PM
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How have you managed to stay 10 years with an unattractive woman? ... You also said she is a good person, does that really outweigh everything else? In answer to the first question, it was a combination of things. I found her attractive enough at first (I thought she was hot but could stand to lose a few more pounds-- figured she was at her upper-end weight due to being single/unhappy, no idea it was going to go the other way). For one thing, I developed very low self-esteem as a child. On top o…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/13 12:41 PM
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