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smadat/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 02:49 PM
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I don't think we have meetings. In all seriousness, yes it's crossed my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/13 06:33 AM
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I see what your getting at. You're going to have to develop social skills on your own Having been floundering around for years trying to do just that, and getting nowhere, I hope you're wrong, even though I suspect you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 11:42 PM
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Well, no. That is, in a nutshell my point. I really want to learn how to become better at interacting with people. And the advice I find when I look for help is either frustratingly vague, or its "sleazy and manipulative". I'm not really sure what you're getting at, to be honest. Apologies if I'm missing something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 11:16 PM
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I know. I'm just no good at making friends either. I think I was off sick the day they covered it at school.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 08:51 PM
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Well, I'm saying it never has come naturally for me. If it had come naturally, I'd have some friends. And I don't think my problem is meeting people. I work in a busy office. I have gone out and tried doing things (I volunteered at a couple of event last summer). It's just that when I meet people, I fail to make a connection with them. How do you make friendships without talking to people? You don't. But I never know what to say. Or I say the wrong thing. How do you maintain friendships without …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 08:31 PM
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This is both off topic and massively pertinent to the discussion at hand. It might come naturally to someone who can do it, but it's not easy for me. I have terrible social skills. I have no friends, no social life, and I haven't had a text from a non-work colleague or non-family member in the two years I've owned my phone. I'm sorry if that comes off as harsh, I really am. I know you're trying to help, which is far more than you have any obligation to do, and I am genuinely grateful to you for …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 08:00 PM
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That sounds like good advice. Now I just need to find a good guide to making friends... I wish I was joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 07:18 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation. His book's on my reading list, and since you're the second person to recommend it, I think I'll bump it up a few places.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 07:09 PM
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Mark Manson His book's on my reading list.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 06:47 PM
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Funny you should say that That's a huge wall of text you probably don't want to read, but the relevant bit is: Why does no one ask how he's dressed, if he needs a haircut or whether he's been working out? Does he have a good job, an interesting career? Is he someone who looks like he could show her good time? In short, I get that, and I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 06:28 PM
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And it helps to be attractive. Physical attraction is probably the most important part. I agree one hundred percent. And given that I'm currently overweight, out of shape and badly dressed, my current project is to dealing with those problems. In five or six months, when I look a lot better, then I'll be getting out the door. But at that point, I'm going to need help with the non-appearance bits. Which is why I'm reading everything I can on the subject. And that's what prompted this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 06:26 PM
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Oh, OK. I never saw the original version, and I'm genuinely curious, what did you originally say?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 06:13 PM
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Yes. Is that so terrible?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 06:09 PM
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Oh I know that's what they mean, but the reason I'm so down on it is that I don't think it really helps. I could wake up tomorrow comfortable confident and proud. I'd still be lonely. It's very vague and unhelpful. The attraction of the seduction community, in my opinion, is that it actually says "go to these places, do these things, say this, then this, then do this". It's specific, and it's tangible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 05:54 PM
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The best dating advice is dependent on what kind of relationship you want (flings, long term, ect) and what type of girl you want. I don't feel I'm in a position to be choosy.. Joking aside, I think you may be spot on about the moderates being drowned out. I'd love to see some more, for want of a better term, blue pill friendly social skill training being promoted though. I'm currently reading tons of PUA books and forums. I have massive problems with some of it, but I know I'm going to end up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 04:47 PM
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Can you give an example of some PUA material you don't think is misogynistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 03:34 PM
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So you think there are no non-shitty PUA guides, because the insular nature of the community creates a kind of misogyny feedback loop? Whilst there's probably something to that, it doesn't really explain why there's no one else offering useful, non-misogynistic advice. I'm interested because I'm looking for advice, and the spectrum seems to jump from "be yourself" to PUA, with very little in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/13 03:33 PM
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