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MOOD FOR LIFEsmokeandfireflies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:52 PM
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When my bestie and I were still Pickmeishas, she was in the middle of a divorce, and stumbled upon FDS. Not realizing she had just found a pack of Amazon Warrior Queens, she posted a question about some “next guy” 🤡 who she wanted to date. FDS took her to task immediately for this behavior, and she asked me to defend her here (not realizing what FDS was all about). I took one look at this sub and said, hell no, I’m not taking on those Amazon Warrior Queens. The long and short is that today we ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:25 PM
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Congratulations! May you have a lifetime of happiness together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:06 AM
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Anal sex... because nothing is more truly erotic to a woman than the false sensation that you are shitting in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:15 AM
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Or it’s some ghastly #goals couple’s Instagram account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:09 AM
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Truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:12 AM
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That was just beautifully done. Thank you, from a newly single girl with a rich, and full life 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:41 AM
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If you’re thinking he’s HVM because of what he DOESN’T DO... honey, leave PickmeishaLand and get yourself over here where the weather is fine, the ladies are strong,and the bar is set higher. We will ruin you for anything else,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:29 AM
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Think of the power that each of us has to alter an entire family line. That’s profound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:43 AM
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Oh FFS people are just having fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:31 PM
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Omg my wasband is a Taurus: Beta as hell. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:29 PM
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The kind of man I will eventually be interested in does not hang out on OLD sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:30 PM
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I lived in a sexless marriage, where my “wasband” refused to address his issues. Right now I feel completely meh about sex, and utterly uninterested in men or dating. I have so much to see and do and become before I think about that stuff. And someday, if I decide I want that element in my life, I’ll jump into the pool. Meanwhile, I’m busy glowing up, leveling up, and showing up so hard that I don’t have room for any of that stuff. “Ain’t nobody got time for all that,” as someone wise once said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 01:09 AM
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I’m happy to say, you’re both right :) I’ve worked and paid for every one of these blessings, and I do choose to see these things as gifts from the Universe. It’s a beautiful partnership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:54 AM
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Thank you so much, I believe they have :) I paid the price for those blessings for sure, but the price was worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:49 AM
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Rock on! The grass is greener on the single girls’ side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:06 PM
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You know who matches contributions dollar for dollar? Charities, that’s who. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:38 AM
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The bug bites on the arm are super hawt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:32 AM
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He’s fucking broken, Megan, have some self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:25 AM
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That safari shirt tho 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:23 AM
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You don’t have to explain yourself to lurking scrotes with throwaway accounts. You did the right thing, my sis. Had a narrow escape, from the sound of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:21 AM
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Imagine trusting a man to safeguard your valuables for you. My recently-ex husband spent my stimulus check that he’d “kept aside” for me. Didn’t even try to account for what he’d done with it. Well. He didn’t spark joy anyway, so I had to Marie Kondo him. I’ll never let a man touch my valuables again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:18 AM
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Pam is so cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 11:37 AM
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I’m super disturbed by how the original meme poster is so up on the appearance of their daughters’ labia. And, puzzlingly, Taylor Swift’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:42 AM
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This is so brilliant I don’t even know where to start. I’m actually looking forward to the next time I’m buttonholed by a mansplainer, just so I can do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:38 AM
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Oh gods, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:32 AM
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This is my guiding star, right here. Words to live by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:31 AM
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“Scrotes be scroting.” That’s some glorious truth right there. It’s the answer to most of those troubling“why?” And “how?” questions about why a man does what he does. The answer is usually just that scrotes be scroting, ladies. Learn it like scripture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:00 AM
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They go to bed with Rosy Palm and her five sisters, which is all they can hope for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:23 PM
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People used to tell me “you’re such a good listener!” Which I thought was high praise. I finally grasped that being Such A Good Listener was a dog whistle that brought all of the energy vampires and drama-mongers out of the woodwork and into my lap. Now, I no longer give ear to others’ drama unless I genuinely want to or feel really led to be there for them, which is a lot less often than I’d have predicted it would be. Feels great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:16 AM
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The Gift of Fear, which every single woman ever should read, is all about this. His little jokes are where the truth is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:38 PM
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Thank you! Today is my first full day as a single woman in 30 years. And of all the exciting, adventurous, colorful things I want to do with the rest of my life, I find that “getting a new man” doesn’t even make the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:21 PM
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My then-boyfriend proposed to me with the pull tab from a can of soda as a ring. I was 19, and thought it was cute. I accepted his proposal and told him not to buy me a ring, bc we were just poor young soldiers. I stayed unhappily married to that man for 30 years, and tomorrow our divorce will be final. I made excuses for his poverty, and you know what, he never leveled up. Never learned to save, never learned to reign in his spending, never learned to buy quality things. Im sick, thinking of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:07 AM
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Meredith Grey is so cringey. Also, last year I happened upon one of those hours-long infomercials for plastic surgery. The star of the infomercial? Ellen Pompeo. Just spending hours and hours on TV (presumably for money), indoctrinating women about how to get their bodies altered. I have nothing against plastic surgery, but I do have a problem with this supposed “role model” pushing it on women to make herself another lil profit. Especially when her character’s main message throughout the years …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:19 PM
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Any 1:38 am text from a guy who’s been cut out of your life is bound to be a booty call. WTF with these jokers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:49 PM
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But... but I NEED a 15 year old incel boyfriend who pretends to be a doctor online. Where am I supposed to find such a specimen if I can’t date Redditors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:28 PM
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It goes to show that LVM are incapable of thinking of a woman apart from sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:52 PM
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This so cringey. I have second-hand embarrassment so hard for that girl rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:41 PM
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Well, a lot of these men don’t need to be procreating anyway. Let ‘em just keep on keeping their sperm out of the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:40 PM
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The Gift of Fear is a must-read for every woman and teenage girl. It’s a game changer. E: clarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:44 AM
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I haven’t watched GoT past the first few episodes (not my cup of tea), so I can’t speak to what other direction the series could have taken, but rape is one of the most common, and laziest tropes that writers reach for to show a female character overcoming adversity, both in movies and in books. It’s used commonly as a catalyst for change or victory in women. At the very best, it’s bad, lazy writing. At worst, it’s misogynistic, voyeuristic, sadistic, and just about any other -istic that men per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:15 AM
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Wtf. There’s plenty of LVM behavior to discuss in the world without having to do some deep horror-dive into extremely niche sadism like this. Why in the world would you want to devote an entire sub to it? Keeping your mental house clean is an important part of leveling up as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:28 AM
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Pickmeishas need to stop faking orgasms to make “their man” feel like a studmuffin. That’s reason #1 that men all seem to think they’re gods in bed. Stop faking orgasm, women. Stop faking pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:21 AM
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Every damn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:29 AM
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I meant the life storyline, but yes, we need more of this in the arts too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:24 AM
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Welcome! I am still married too, though my divorce was supposed to be final this week. Courts are closed, so my court date got pushed back until May. I married a good man 30 years ago, but we were basically children, and have grown in very different directions since then. I’m obviously not dating, and I plan to not consider it for the next year. I’m on this sub to teach myself not to revert to the pick-me ways of my boy-crazy youth, once I feel ready to consider the dating scene again. Also, my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:01 PM
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Hunny, I learned this lesson in the patriarchal church. Every preacher who obsessively preached about adultery eventually got caught with his pants down. Those who stormed on and on about “robbing g*d” always ended up with their sticky little fingers in the offering plate. Etc, ad nauseum. It was so predictable after a while that it would have been funny, had they not wrecked so many lives along the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:54 PM
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Sure! On the front page of this sub there is a tab called “menus.” There are a couple of links there, one for the handbook and one for the wiki. It’s very eye-opening reading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:47 PM
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My point is that many of us in these fields don’t have two sets of languages that we flip flop between in order not to offend anyone. In my field, the descriptor is “female,” and it is often “female” in my every day life as well, and it’s not disrespectful to other women for me to say that. There are a dozen things wrong with this woman’s low value post, but please don’t try to make the use of the word “female” one of them, because to do that implies that those of us who regularly have to use th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 09:43 PM
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Or just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:29 PM
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This is brilliantly stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:27 PM
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This is all in the handbook and wiki. I’m not trying to be snarky, but there is some great info in there that will answer this very dilemma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:21 PM
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And then there’s that old, tired saw from the church: “when you sleep with a man, you’re sleeping with every person he’s ever slept with,” complete with charts and infographics meant to shame women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:19 PM
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A man whose first response to “every comment” is that the woman should shut the f*ck up is a psychopath at worst, and an incel at the very best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:15 PM
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Exactly. A HVM will not expect you to drop everything just so you can reply “lol so true” to his last text, thus giving him that little romantic dopamine hit. A HVM is busy with things of his own, and understands he is not the sun to your solar system - your life doesn’t revolve around answering his texts, nor should it. A HVM is not keeping score and doing the math to figure out how long before you reply. A HVM has a bigger mind than this, that’s one of the things that makes him HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:12 PM
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She is the Spokeswoman™️ for all women, apparently. Who knew we were all incapable of voting with our brains?? Thank g*d she came along with her gigantic brain to explain it all to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:06 PM
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This is an unfair remark. Calling another woman a female doesn’t make you a pickmeisha. The entire military culture, law enforcement, medical professionals, first responders and many many other fields use the identifier “female” over “woman.” Often, it has everything to do with work culture and little to do with someone’s actual attitude toward women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:04 PM
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The clit is a myth, didn’t you know that? So there’s no sense in trying to find it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:56 PM
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Someone needs to tell this girl that “he who smelt it, dealt it.” Men who obsess, without grounds, that their GF might be cheating on them, invariably turn out to be cheaters. People who think everyone is lying are invariably liars themselves. People who think everyone is stealing from them are always thieves. Gossips always think other people are talking about them. Drama queens accuse everyone else of starting drama. See the pattern? This girl needs to run. But of course she won’t. She’ll just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:57 PM
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Gawd, yes. Why is marriage always the big “prize”? I mean, I know why. But women don’t need a man to take care of them these days. We need to change the storyline. “...and she lived happily ever after in a lovely place of her own, and she had lots of quality sex with people when she wanted it, and none when she didn’t. She had a wide circle of friends, and she created art, or music, or books, or any number of beautiful and valuable things. She traveled when it suited her, and she slayed in her c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:50 PM
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This is such an important post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 06:27 PM
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“As if a man’s interest is something valuable.” Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:08 PM
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If you are a minor you should be focusing on your education and future career, not a man. Girl, build your empire and change the world! A man at this point will only hobble you for possibly the rest of you life. Trust me when I say this - I married very young and immediately had a lot of kids. Although I love my children dearly, I wasted my potential by marrying so young. Now I’m 50 and facing divorce and the daunting task of starting from scratch, educationally. Don’t go down that road. Men wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 02:20 PM
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This is a great way of stating it. How about, it’s just good manners to treat the person you invite to be your guest, wherever that may be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:09 PM
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I had to unsubscribe from all of those relationship subs. The hive mind there is unbelievable, and the pickmeisha vibe among the women is frankly gross and embarrassing. I’m no longer surprised, impressed, or bummed by any the males responders on reddit. Once you recognize a pile of hot garbage you learn to just cross the street and keep walking. But damn, the women of this world need to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:58 PM
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Her dissertation is due in a month, and that should be her first priority. You SHOULD be taking back seat right now. This time is all about her, not you. Here is what I recommend: take a back seat, maybe have dinner delivered a couple of times if she’s too busy to prepare meals. Let her know that you will be there for her when she is able to lift her head from her work and finally breathe. Whatever you do, do for her benefit, without expectation of reward. This is HVM behavior. It’s only a month…
/r/askFDS17/03/20 02:19 PM
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Caucasian Shrek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:01 PM
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I have second-hand embarrassment so hard for this guy. Sir, get dressed. No one here wants to see that pasty pudge. Top 20% of HVM my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 09:59 PM
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Omg that sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:22 AM
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A man with a small dick said that, so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:21 AM
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This, Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:49 AM
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JFC I cannot believe we actually have to discuss shit like this, just to get ourselves back to baseline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 10:22 PM
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It’s a subtle dig at you, like patting the head of a small child, and it’s patronizing. It’s supposed to make you either snuggle down into the Innocent little girl/daddy role or else make you “woman up” and start being more worldly and sexual, in an attempt to refute him. Either way he gets to fulfill some grody little fantasy. Always trust your gut, when their words feel wrong. I would tell him immediately, in my best intimidating FDS voice “Do not patronize me, I’m not innocent, I’m an adult.”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 09:59 PM
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Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:41 AM
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Omg I had to unsubscribe from dating over thirty (and forty, and fifty). By and large it’s a lot of pick-me women agonizing over how to get a Manz to want them more. That, and LVM bloviating about how a woman Must Pay Her Own Way. The fifty+ sub is a lot of hand-wringing and fretting over the state of dating today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:37 AM
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He’s not interested in being a provider for you and your kids, he can’t even spring for half of the Air B&B loss you’d incur, responding to HIS booty call. This guy is a cheapskate, and he’s LV. You don’t need a LVM to combine households and relieve your debt, while considering you a drain and a burden. You said it yourself, you can take care of business on your own. I bet if you took sex totally off the table he’d disappear in a hot second. Also? I can’t imagine ever using words like “burden” a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:25 AM
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“Daddy finally loves me!” Pickmeisha is just another name for daddy issues, most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:35 PM
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What we think of as romantic love is almost entirely chemical. And Oxytocin, that feel-good bonding hormone that is released during sex, and makes you “catch feelings,” is a liar. Repeat this to yourself: oxytocin is a lying bitch. This is why a HVW doesn’t sleep with a man until after she’s had time to clinically evaluate his value as a mate, a provider, and a potential father for any future children. Once this evaluation has been made, then and only then should she sleep with him, thus allowin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:29 PM
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He’s a LV motherfucker but you should see his killer bong rips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:12 PM
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The Dead Bedrooms sub is rampant with this stuff. I can’t even browse there - so many women (and men) who don’t know their own value, begging a LV partner for a few scraps of affection, over and over, and over. Ick. People, get out while your dignity is still intact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:06 PM
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Never, ever, ever sit by the phone for a boy. Take your bad self out on the town, or meet up with some girlfriends. Have fun without him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 08:17 PM
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Men who take bathroom selfies creep me the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 10:52 PM
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Last fall I interviewed the president of a prestigious university in our state. He married later in life, and one of the first things he told me, brimming with obvious pride, was that he told his fiancée to continue working if she wanted to, but that he would be delighted for her to retire early and let him support her. And she did. That’s some high value sh*t, right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:19 AM
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In my younger years I was a 911/police/fire/EMS dispatcher for over a decade. I worked closely with cops, firefighters, medics, even living in the fire station, in some countries where I worked. I worked in different states in the US, and in different countries in the Middle East (as a defense contractor), and I have seen and heard it all. I can say with authority that the people on all sides of the mic (including dispatchers) were nearly all Low Value people. 99.999% of the cops and firefighter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:35 AM
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I’m guessing Pick-Up Artists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:40 AM
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