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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 108 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.What is it with firemen?? I dated a charismatic but scrotacious fireman 10 YEARS AGO and dude just messaged me through LinkedIn the other day, the only place I hadn't thought to block him. He's married with 2 kids. Wtfffff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:01 PM |
| 20 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsLOL I'll be right there with you vetting in the nursing home, sis! And I love that saying, so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:49 PM |
| 53 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsTotally agree. One of the things that attracted me to FDS is that most comments are in the spirit of helping other women, which I didn't sense in some of the comments to this post. I think most of us just scroll on if we don't agree, or respectfully express a different viewpoint in a way that adds to the discussion. Yes, any man can reveal himself to be LVM no matter if they had HV behaviors. The whole "only praise him in private, he's probably cheating" vibe struck me as not adding anything val… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:32 PM |
| 30 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsThank you so much :) They are well and we were lucky to make it through Ida unscathed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 141 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsOkay, agreed. Does that mean we shouldn't talk about high-value behavior? Should we stay quiet about HVMs in case they eventually cheat, lie, etc? If my husband turns out to be an LVM in disguise, no matter what, I would drop him like any other LVM. I was telling a specific personal story in response to another post asking for such examples or real HVM behavior. Seems like you want to dampen my happiness or cast doubt on what I shared, not help me or others. Like I said.. my eyes are open sis! Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:02 PM |
| 47 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsYes, thank you! This was exactly my intent. How many men would do that for their in-laws?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:48 PM |
| 107 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsI understand what you're saying but this response feels unnecessarily harsh and presumptuous. I'm not putting myself in a "difficult situation" by celebrating my HVM's behavior, but thanks for your concern? I'm not naive sis - I earn the most in my household, keep my finances separate, have an ironclad prenup, etc - and I don't need permission to publicly praise high-value behavior. If we can't talk about what HVM behavior looks like or celebrate it on the rare occasions it happens, then isn't F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:47 PM |
| 277 | What was your moment of clarity?Back in my pickmeisha days, I was dating an older emotionally unavailable guy, hoping against all odds that he saw marriage in our eventual future. Cuddling in bed, I asked what he most hoped for in his life, what life events he saw on the horizon for himself. He replied that he wanted to become a father. I am childfree. Fin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:21 PM |
| 16 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youThis is so beautiful and I relate deeply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:25 AM |
| 73 | This is why standards are important. Having them and enforcing them.Right?! Ahhh, Pandora: jewelry that looks like it was designed by and for pre-schoolers. I feel like Pandora's entire business model is catering to clueless, tasteless men. ESPECIALLY those hideous fucking charm bracelets! BARF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 20 | These guys get it: The Bar is Low by Pissed JeansExcellent punk band from Philly for any other FDS sistas into that! Awesome to see men acknowledging & owning what we know all too well: the bar is low for men. Lyrics: I've been described as good Some have even said great What have I done To deserve such a fate It sure seems to be Quite an easy bet Those we adore just haven't spilled their secrets yet I never steal I never fight My anger's locked up tight You haven't climbed a mountain Barely walked up a hill But that's good as gold Cause you'v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:20 PM |
| 67 | I will never prepare a man for his forever home that isn't with me.Since you asked... :) It was Christmas Eve, and we were invited to a party at his sister's house. He had a HUGE family, tons of siblings, nieces, nephews etc. and the adults were all big drinkers. Booze flowing at every event, and he often pressured me to drink and "keep up" with him & the others, despite the fact that I'm not much of a drinker (big red flag). His sister lived in my town, so plan was to meet up at my place, head over to the party, then spend the night at mine & go our separate w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:10 PM |
| 13 | Just sayin'This similie is apt as fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:22 PM |
| 106 | I will never prepare a man for his forever home that isn't with me.100% SIS. In my pre-FDS 20's I helped a 35-yr old LVM bf move out of an apartment into his first home, a modest townhouse. I knew he had hang-ups about his ex-gf, who he liked to remind everyone was a physician with a boob job, as if dating someone with those characteristics increased HIS value somehow. Anyway, while packing up his shit, I discovered the ex-gf's belongings - shoes, clothing, shampoo & toiletries, hair straightener, etc. He claimed he never realized she left the items, and she ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:17 PM |
| 11 | Finally people who get itCHURCH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 17 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?Thanks, we're both fortunate. It's a sad state for men when it feels like hitting the lottery to find an HVM, but here we are. Regarding advice, basically follow FDS rules. Focus on yourself first, finding your own happiness and satisfaction independent from men. Then, ruthlessly evaluate the men vying for your time and attention. Know your deal-breakers and what you truly want, and don't settle for anything less. Regarding online dating, I was on the scene back when Tinder was the latest new ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:40 AM |
| 36 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?Totally worth it. I mentioned that we met on Match... he was only the third date I accepted after HUNDREDS if not thousands of messages from dudes who for one reason or another didn't meet my standards. Stay ruthless, sis! I was far more focused on bettering myself than dating (career, grad school, family, fitness, etc.) and then one day he came into my life & the rest is history. Neither of us are perfect but we bring out the best in one another and choose each other every day. Had we not met, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 121 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?I'll go first: I am happily married to a kind, smart, mature, patient, thoughtful and generous HVM. We are childfree and will hit our 5 year anniversary this spring. We both have ambitious and successful careers. I earn more and he does more housework - roughly 70% to my 30%. We met in the early 2010's on Match but lived almost an hour away from each other in different states. We dated for a year, then got engaged and spent 2 years figuring out where to live, planning our intimate but awesome we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 11:46 PM |
| 93 | Always start as you mean to continue when it comes to dating! Don’t let men lowball you.Totally agree. He's already revealed the value he places in getting to know you & the extent of his interest and seriousness. Why settle or negotiate? He's already shown his cards. If a man is seriously interested and places a high value on the opportunity to meet and get to know you, that will be evident in the type of date he suggests. Personally, I don't negotiate for higher-value dates - I read the message he sends & decline/block if it doesn't meet my standards. To quote the lovely Ariana G… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:28 PM |
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