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Once you get your depressive episode/bipolar under control I recommend the book "How to Keep House While Drowning" by KC Davis. Also strongly recommend connecting with the bipolar and neurodivergent communities. What helps a typical person may not be usable or useful for you but you're not alone. And definitely work on your massive ableism/internalized ableism when you can get to it (connecting with community will help this long-term) because your ableism and the way you think about yourself and…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 06:47 PM
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This is a great comment!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 08:14 PM
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I'm bad at reddit and can't find/see which comment you are referring to to learn from. TIA for any info/explanation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 08:12 PM
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Only if you literally don't know the definition of gaslighting. I'd ask you to explain in detail how my comment is deflecting but we both know you literally can't. Lol Also, ironically your first sentence in the comment is just projection, too. Too obvious, bro.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 05:49 PM
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Which counteracts literally nothing I said at all and I agree with and it's absolutely bizarre that you seem to be setting that up as what you are. Don't break your arm wotth that stretch there. :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 07:29 AM
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And it's not universal. You even literally said so yourself in your first comment. So stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 08:18 PM
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I literally didn't even engage in the subject you're referring to, just the way you chose to post about it. Try not to break your arm with that reach. No wonder you make low value comments, your reading comprehension explains a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 08:17 PM
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Literally no high value man wastes time giving enough of a shit about guys he considers losers to bother calling them names on the internet, pretending he's incapable of making choices (I can't help myself, I can literally only follow ly instinct - like a dog does!), and defending himself when he just knows he's right. But good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:52 PM
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It only did the opposite because you're with the wrong person. The problem isn't the honesty, it's ya boy's (and I do mean that) insecurity.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:31 PM
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Throw out the whole man. He doesn't actually have any value, himself, if this is his take on you. Also you're basically simping for him when you stumble over yourself to prove your worth to someone who finds value in never finding you valuable enough.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 06:15 PM
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In that case I hope it is irreversibly decided for you very soon.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/20 05:45 PM
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Thank you for never adopting - and I don't mean that in a supportive way.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 09:04 PM
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You literally edited that in to your response after I replied to it. Wow.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 02:11 AM
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What does choosing to watch porn have to do with it being an absolute necessity? How did people fap in ye olden days without available porn? Of course people are going to continue to choose to watch it. Duh. That doesn't mean it's compulsory and not a choice. Your comment doesn't even engage the point I made.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 01:24 AM
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No one "has" to watch porn out of "necessity" - everyone is capable of using their imagination.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 11:03 PM
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No one "has" to resort to porn - everyone is capable of using their imagination.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 11:02 PM
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YAAASSSS!!! I don't have the same restriction in place as you do but I am ALL ABOUT your answer here. LOVE it!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 11:00 PM
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I found your answer and how you explained your guys's commitments to that for each other to be very sweet. Normally I would brush that off as controlling but you really allowed me to see the positive and healthy side of doing such a thing. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 10:56 PM
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Well, an addiction of any kind is low value, porn is not particularly worse than any other specific addiction. Aside from moral reflections (addiction is a disease and some people are simply more prone to it genetically than others, etc.) any addiction is when the addict can't consistently control themselves and lack of self-control over behavior is low-value. Watching porn and being addicted to porn are two completely different things. My husband used to watch porn when we were dating. I have n…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 10:46 PM
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Thanks for being honest and sharing your experience with this.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 04:08 PM
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The more I have mulled and mulled this over I have started to think maybe this is the case as well. I'm also learning that the "biological clock" is real for some people and not for others. It's just not a universal experience.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 03:40 AM
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I completely agree with that part. People want to know about the major things going on in your life and relationships and kids and things like that are big parts of our lives and also often relatable subjects to start getting a conversation going. It's when they start telling you that you will never know the true meaning of love, etc. when you converse with them about these things that it irritates me. There's a distinct line between asking if someone has kids and telling them that they aren't f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 03:21 AM
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I would say there is absolutely external pressure to have children. I worked in a customer facing job for quite a while and my manager was having her first child so a lot of our regular customers discussed that and asked me about if/when I was having kids. When I said my husband and I weren't I got allllllll sorts of shit for it. Gasps. People begging me to explain how could I possibly decide in that direction. People telling me I would miss out on all meaning and fulfillment in life. People say…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 03:14 AM
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Did you feel like your love for your spouse prior to being a mom wasn't genuine? I hear a lot of people express what you are expressing and have that revelation but I don't relate to it at all so I was curious as to how you felt beforehand as I'm assuming you love your spouse very much.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 03:06 AM
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I think this is super individual. Some women have such a motherly instinct and I would describe it as a deep LONGING for children. My mom is/was like this. She literally wanted to be a mommy her whole life - when they couldn't conceive they adopted because for her and my dad it was more important to have children than it was to have children only of their genes. I have a friend who really wanted to be a mom. She loves it deeply and would do it over again but she also feels that it's not all it's…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 03:02 AM
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No. Too common, there would be no way to single out specific employers. Sort of like guns in America, it's a difficult cultural issue to grapple with for a lot of different reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 03:35 AM
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In Japan at least, there is a problem instead with suicide related to the overwork/work related part of their culture. It's sad but it's certainly nore considerate than taking a bunch of other people with you like we do in the good ol' USA.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 12:02 AM
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Yeah, that's pretty non-negotiable. Japan can be like this too. Totally different culture and expectations. Not going would almost be like literally telling his boss "Fuck you." to his face. Not a good career move at all to decline. Employee/boss relationships are much different in China and Asia than in "Western" countries. The socializing aspect is also much different - it's not just for fun - it's a matter of respect, etc. A bit ritualized in a way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 06:49 PM
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I don't see women faring very well in countries where there is currently a lot of dominant masculinity. At all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 04:23 PM
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Yup. We are both into self-improvement and give each other feedback and it helps make a great partnership!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 03:56 AM
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It's not an argument about anything - its just the reality of having children, even just one child. I'm just pointing out that raising your children not to be jerks only goes so far as far as offsetting some of the negatives of having them - not all of which are often considered.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 03:37 PM
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Also, keep in mind that you can train your own kids not to me parasites on the planet. I am not trying to be a jerk/mean/negative in any way possible but I am a science nerd and if you look at actual carbon footprints this is almost literally not true. I know you meant more like socially/culturally/economically, etc. but I just wanted to draw attention to this additional side of of reality of having kids. This is an often unconsidered, but very very real, effect of choosing to have a child/child…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 03:27 AM
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Reading previous comments about your opinion is not at all the same as dialogueing, and I think you'd probably agree with that if you thought about it. I was attempting to go off of what OP literally said instead of reading into it/interpreting it for myself and she basically did say that those are the reasons he himself had given. If he responded in almost literally any other manner you and I would be pretty aligned but I attempted to take him at his word. You're totally correct in appreciating…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 08:16 PM
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I agree with that and did not say you have to do anything or that this was an end-all-be-all-for-certain thing, that added detail makes you come across as lecturing AND you're also 100% (incorrectly) assuming intent. I responded to his thoughts, which are similar to yours, so I thought I might refer to the further dialogue about it to continue the conversation. It's fine if you want to just agree with him and move on, I just thought there might be further substance for dialogueing there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 07:20 PM
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See below.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 06:48 PM
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You misread OPs post. OP says her manfriend shuts down to avoid getting hurt/being vulnerable. That's a weakness/character flaw. There is a difference between shutting off to get shit done and shutting off because you haven't developed enough to cope. This is what most women don't understand about men like this. Their default state isn't emotion, it's logic and reason. I feel qualified to speak to this because: a). I married a man who is practically the epitome of this personality-wise and b). H…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 02:57 PM
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It's typically unhealthy for someone to shut off emotions like that. It's a trauma coping mechanism that I wouldn't necessarily relate back to being a specifically masculine trait. There's a difference between being stoic and being emotionally damaged. You might want to gently explore where that line is for him and determine what approach to take from there. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need and also to ask him what he needs from you concerning both your support given to him and what he n…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 08:00 PM
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Sames.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 09:27 PM
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Your third paragrah is really interesting to me. What field or specificity of history or subject does this knowledge come from? I want to know what to start Googling to learn more about this type of stuff. TIA!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 01:22 AM
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This has totally been my experience as well. Your comment about not discounting those first 5 years REALLY resonated with me! I have been with my husband through college, instructing, first career job, and now first big promotion (almost 6 years for all of that) and he is literally just now beginning to feel like he's even started the journey that he wants his career to be. The only reason he proposed and we got married before this is because he wanted to plan and dream about the future with me …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 12:53 AM
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I think this may more be in reference to the adage that "Women want marriage when they find the right one and men want to get married when it's the right time". A lot of it may even be subconscious but because of the way society is set up there is a ton of pressure to provide if you're male. Men often don't feel like they are a man/adult/reached a place where they can take their bearings for a second in life until they've reached a certain level of ability for provision. This isn't universal and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 12:36 AM
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This was my husband. I basically went through hell alongside him for the last 5 years but he will eventually get to a point where the payoff will be more than worth it, in many different ways. We're out there and we really appreciate you guys. You will find a woman like that and it will be worth it!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:32 PM
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I advocated absolutely no discrimination either way, nor did I present any dichotomy whatsoever. Did you mean to reply to my comment? If you did I've already found my answer. I broke my own rule of dating men even the slightest bit younger than myself and am happily married to somone with maturity, wisdom, and stability in every way well past his stereotypical years, exactly why I was advocating for keeping one's options in either direction. As a side note, I'm over 30 and he just turned 30 in c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 11:23 PM
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Associating maturity with age so strongly is also part of the problem. I've found maturity is much more of an individual personality trait than related in any meaningful way to age. A red flag for me in this would be taking this idea so on the nose that you end up vetting out potential best mates.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/19 08:27 PM
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My childhood was very similar, although it was always my mom's dream to be a SAHM but other than that... identical experiences and reactions. <3 This really spoke to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 07:30 PM
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I'm in a similar situation right now/for the last three years (sans nuggets though) and although it's been a technically joint decision to go this way I have wanted nothing but a house (with no roomies) and to be a housewife for the last several years. We have had roomates prior to, and during our entire marriage, and we've been married for over 2 years. Have not yet been married AND lived by ourselves. It's something I ache deeply for and it's often difficult to get through going without it bec…
/r/RedPillWives10/02/19 07:07 PM
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Hahahahaha, omg the last option you listed... I'm dying!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 09:18 PM
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If I have to "do whatever it takes" to keep a man, it's an automatic disqualification of him being "worth it". Literally oxymoronic in my life. Lol There's a lot more fantastic dudes out there than I think you're hoping there are. My time is valuable, absolutely no need for that kind of pursuit in my life. Not going to waste my time pursuing like that and would be super grossed out by the desperation if I were to be pursued in that manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 09:13 PM
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The only harem I've ever been interested in is the one full of men for me that I formed before changing directions and going for a serious/monogamous LTR and now marriage. So yes, I'd totally choose a harem/go back to that if that was one of the only options... just not in the way you're thinking of/wishing for. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 09:10 PM
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Definitely forever alone if these are the only options. I fiercely love being in a relationship but prefer monogamy because throwing multiple people into the situation whose moods, opinions, needs, wants, etc. now have to be taken into consideration? What a huge nopey hassle! Also I'm bisexual and still no appeal to me. Why would I choose sharing (a bad option anyway imo) over freedom (a good option anyway imo)? Lolnever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 09:06 PM
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That's beautiful. <3
/r/RedPillWives23/01/19 02:43 AM
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Can you point to where I implied any such thing and/or take responsibility for your own word choice? I'm just curious if not existing means I get to bag off work.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 08:45 PM
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Weird, I'm a woman and have never lied about that. Do I not exist? Does this mean I get to leave work early?
/r/askTRP21/01/19 09:29 PM
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applause
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 04:12 AM
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<sup>and</sup> you're calling me an idiot. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 04:11 AM
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Nothing I said was salty in the least. Surprised and critiqued, sure. Your perspective is largely self-mastabatory however so continuing to exchange with you is a waste of my time. Feel free to get in the last word in response to this, maybe it'll help you feel better about yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 04:10 AM
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Well, maybe you don't, but that doesn't prevent the rest of the human race living within such flat context and interpretation. Being inherently against something isn't inoculation against misuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 01:54 AM
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"So what? What does that have to do with what I just said?" Wow, woosh. Go back to basic debate if you seriously aren't picking up on that part. Yiiiikes. You have a stunningly narrow ability to interpret things. Then you decide they're stupid because you don't understand how it relates. Sophomoric. Low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 01:48 AM
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Eh, except for the fact that you're implying that breeding isn't selfish when, with the state of the world right now, it completely is. Just because something is natural or instinctive doesn't make it not selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 01:46 AM
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I'm with you on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 11:06 PM
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If thoug think it means nothing you don't know what I'm talking about either. Explaining something to me would be more productive and take the same amount of effort as the attempts at being condescending are, so you're essentially showing your hand that you don't actually have shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:58 PM
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<sup>mrtakestheeasyout</sup> If you can't explain it simply and understandably in a low-effort manner then you're just revealing that you don't actually understand it very well yourself, implying blind following. I'm only going to interpret this response as a total copout from you. Cheers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:52 PM
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Also taking a shit in someone else's house or eating their food is also selfish. Things don't inherently exist in a biologically driven vacuum outside of all context, as nice and neat asc that would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:41 PM
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Burying your head in the sand about things like, say, overpopulation, because it feels good and justifies you living the life you want is also childish, cowardly, and selfish, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:39 PM
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Also traditional principals, just like about anything else in the world, can be utilized selfishly - that's a big part of TRP is, uh, looking out for self, often times according to the principal of following traditional values. They can also be utilized altruistically with selfish consequences. You're completely contradicting yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:35 PM
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I suppose if you're considering the sustainable existence of the human race via overcoming resource scarcity as "materialist" then you're totally right. Enjoy either living in a completely make-belive vacuum or somehow breeding us all into oblivion in some magically non-selfish manner. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:33 PM
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I mean, a shit ton of parents are really open about having kids being to create a net benefit for them. Having children is inherently selfish because it's something parents themSELVES want to do. "Who will take care of me when I'm older?" "I want grandkids." "I wanna see what our kids would look like." "We want children." "I want to experience that part of life." "Hopefully they'll get rich and pay me back for everything I've (freely choson) to do for ." On and on, etc. etc. The poster is not su…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 09:34 PM
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Yeah, honestly that seems practically absent from that sub and certainly not a feature of it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:54 PM
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Yaaayy!! Thank you! :D
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 08:37 PM
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That's exactly it. Total insecurity. It just screams inadequacy and inability to take responsibility for oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 03:03 PM
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Lastly, I'm an old lady by Reddit standards, so I like to give the young women here the good advice I wish I had gotten myself when I was their age. Seriously, thank you for this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 03:33 AM
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Hahaha, your wall comment cracked me up! I think you really brought out a lot of what I have been experiencing but was struggling to say. Thank you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 03:31 AM
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I'm new here from a few days ago! I randomly found out about the book "Fascinsting Womanhood" while searching Pinterest for homemaking stuff. I'm only a few chapters in but, while some of the suggestions are completely laughable to me, overall a ton of it vibes with how I have been developing my femininity in recent years, my dreams for my life, and how I have instinctively approached relationships with men basically my whole life. I'm a feminist and already married to a man who I think (without…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 09:23 PM
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Better you than me! Haha. Enjoy wasting your time on me, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 06:11 PM
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I think it is totally food and cultural habits. Americans are soooo much more obese than most others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:37 PM
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I don't feel sorry for myself (I'm not the one with the lack of reading comprehension here, did you already forget the subject, too?!) and I'm not worried about aging, it's just sort of an added benefit to many of not having children so I add it on as yet another reason why.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:26 PM
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Oh definitely. I wouldn't say it's women waiting specifically that causes people to have kids later in life though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:08 PM
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Wow, it's like different people can experience different facebook feeds. Lol Also "in the real world"? Lol k.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:04 PM
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^Misinterpreting the word "part" as "definitely the biggest reason ever". Wow. Sorry about your reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:03 PM
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I'm not seeing hot moms posting things like that. Sorry, I thought that went without saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:53 AM
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She had twins so she had a lot of extra skin going on and basically empty bags for boobs. Also I am saying that some people are fortunate enough to have plenty to spend on their kids and on themselves instead of it haning to be either/or.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:50 AM
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Well, youth equates to fertility in females and to a certain point, the younger they are the more fertile and healthy they are, generally speaking. So obviously it makes sense that youth is a thing males really prioritize, at least in terms of attraction (which basically is your body telling your brain that person would probably be a good genetic mix for you to make babies with) and thus the existence of the wall. Women obsess over youth/beauty because attraction is important to, well, attract a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:40 AM
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This is part of why I'm CF! Pregnancy just completely takes it out of your body and the vast majority of people never bounce back. Literally everyone I know who has experienced pregnancy has regretted what it has done to their bodies, even those who really are in love with being a mom. I always have felt that the "tiger's stripes" thing about stretch marks was an uncomfortably obvious denial masquerading as empowerment. I know a mom who got a decent amount of plastic surgery after having twins a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:27 AM
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I'd want him to step back while I handle it. I'm more than okay taking very complete care of something like that myself. In addition there are plenty of really, really good careers out there that any sort of trouble with the law possibly resulting from a physical encounter will make disappear. I want a man intelligent enough to know that aggroing out on a jackass for such a thing is stupid. Try bringing in some serious money or some other much more important thing in your life and you'll find yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 02:05 AM
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