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sorry bout your dick, bro, but it can and does happen.
/r/seduction28/05/14 10:11 PM
1

Sure, but nonverbal consent in this circumstance would have been something a little more explicit, probably involving guiding his penis towards her or taking out a condom, than just taking off her pants.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 08:34 PM
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Actually, no, I think there are plenty of people out there who have figured out that if you have sex with someone, you need to ask first, especially when it comes to penetration or protection.
/r/MensRights01/04/13 09:11 PM
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Putting your penis is someone without asking first or hearing the words "Let's have sex" is what's rape. Doing so without a condom is despicable, and rape.
/r/MensRights01/04/13 07:27 PM
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Why is it so hard for someone of either gender having sex with either gender to ASK "I'd like to have sex. Do you want that?" or even keeping it steamy and saying "I want you. Do you want to fuck?" so that consent is always possible. It is never, ever the victim's fault (of either gender. This is important to reiterate) , and the guy she was with raped her because a) he put his penis inside of her without asking and b) he didn't check about using a condom.
/r/MensRights01/04/13 05:26 PM
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She didn't consent to have a penis inside of her. In the same way that a woman should always ask if she's going to move from a handjob or blowjob to climbing on top of the guy, he had ZERO right to have sex with her. Have a nice life supporting rape culture.
/r/MensRights01/04/13 05:23 PM
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Fair enough. I really have given thought to the other side, it's just that no one on this subreddit appears to think feminism has any value whatsoever and personal experience has made me a firm supporter. I take it just as personally as you take men's rights. Enjoy your day as well.
/r/MensRights21/03/13 05:55 PM
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http://freethoughtblogs.com/almostdiamonds/2011/12/01/examining-mras-prison-rape-factoid/ Article on prison rape stats vs. rape of women stats
/r/MensRights21/03/13 05:21 PM
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I disagree. Cultural equality can't be forced on anyone, but it can be cultured through legislation, through policy changes so that rape kits are tested more frequently, so that rapists can't sue for child custody, so that school curricula don't relegate the majority of famous women to a single month, etc. And men are the victims of violence frequently, sure, but it's not because they're men. Women are systematically raped as a war tactic in the Congo. Women have their genitals sewn shut--not ci…
/r/MensRights21/03/13 04:43 PM
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That's fine, but I'm asking you not to generalize. There are places where abortion is available. There are more places where it isn't, at least not readily. And the measures you suggest only work if abortion is readily available, so we really can't talk about putting them into place until that baseline is met. There are plenty of men at feminist demonstration, but not men's rights activists. Not people on this subreddit. You ignore the demands of feminism, unallied mainstream culture ignores the…
/r/MensRights21/03/13 06:35 AM
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I didn't ask about belief. I know you're pretty much all pro-choice. I asked about effort. Volunteering, canvassing for pro-choice candidates, donations, whatever. It makes no sense to attempt to live in a myth of readily available abortions. If you as a movement are going to center arguments and demands for equality around readily available abortion as fact, I want to see the legwork to make it readily available. Because it's not now. I think an opt-in document would make a lot of sense were ab…
/r/MensRights21/03/13 05:00 AM
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Except for the fact that abortions are becoming increasingly difficult to obtain. There is one abortion clinic in Mississippi. One. When is that last time that anyone on this subreddit volunteered to a cause that makes abortion, birth control and sex education easier to obtain for women, rather than complaining about the negative consequences for men when a society makes these services unavailable? Also, please stop using the word whimsy! The choice to keep a child is not a whim. You might not a…
/r/MensRights21/03/13 04:08 AM
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I don't know- I think that a kid being placed with a family who does want it as opposed to one who doesn't is probably better in the long run. It's not fair that anyone has to raise a kid that they don't want to, either financially or otherwise. But my argument (which I actually don't know how well aligns with the views of a lot of feminists) is that if a mother chooses to raise the child, the money has to come from somewhere. The most reasonable place is from the father. Now, that money shouldn…
/r/MensRights21/03/13 12:46 AM
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Can you explain what you mean by this sentence? "the best interests of the child are not being met on the female side of this as well as the male side." The syntax is unclear.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 06:21 PM
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It's sort of cute how you're downvoting one-word comments of mine at this point that are completely innocuous. If one person reading this thinks harder for one minute about the necessity of feminism, the rest of your bullshit is totally irrelevant.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 03:51 PM
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Actually, carrying it does entitle them to that choice. You cannot force someone to keep anything in their body they don't want to have there. I resent you calling a woman deciding to keep a child the "whim" of the woman. It's a difficult situation, but when she decides to keep the child, she's deciding that for eighteen years of her life, she's going to put another person's needs ahead of her own, every day. It's about a whole lot more than money. Now, I believe it's unfortunate when a child is…
/r/MensRights20/03/13 03:48 PM
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Also I don't think you understand what a red herring fallacy is.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 08:26 AM
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I need some time to look over these resources, but thank you for providing them. The one part of this that I will respond to, because it's not an issue of research, is the issue of abortion. It's an incredibly difficult choice to make, absolutely. Because the promise or potential of a child is just as meaningful to many people as a child. But it comes down to a question of rights. The vast, vast, vast, vast majority of pregnancies that are ended NOT for health reasons are ended within the first …
/r/MensRights20/03/13 08:24 AM
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Sure.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 08:20 AM
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It's really not. You're twisting my use of the word "miniscule." I don't mean that the egregiousness of every occurrence is miniscule. It's not. It's massive. My argument is merely that just as we need men's rights activism to combat false accusations, we need feminism to create a world in which rape victim aren't so heavily stigmatized that rapes go unreported by the thousands or hundreds of thousands.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 08:19 AM
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"Value" is one of the available options to qualify something as equal. Men and women are of the same value. They're equal.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 03:14 AM
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Well, maybe if you got your information from actual feminists or feminist websites, I'd be a little more willing to believe you.
/r/MensRights20/03/13 12:32 AM
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Do you believe that men and women aren't equal simply because they have different bodies?
/r/MensRights20/03/13 12:26 AM
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So, until about 1950, in most parts of the world, women didn't even have enough power to cause most of the bad things in the world. This doesn't mean that men did bad things like start wars, commit genocide, etc because men suck, but by default the people perpetrating atrocities were men. What feminism says is that we haven't yet reached equality and that women bear the majority of the inequality. We also, however, are big on not viewing men's or women's natural state as rapists, which is why th…
/r/MensRights20/03/13 12:22 AM
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That's completely false and the reason why I posted this. Most of the aims of men's rights are compatible with the aims of feminism. Yes, there are women who report false rape, but it's minuscule compared to the number who are raped but don't report it. Yes, some women deny male rape or abuse by women of males. They DON'T REPRESENT FEMINISM singlehandedly. Feminism and egalitarianism are essentially the same thing. If there's anger among feminists that leads to bad logic or rash instances of sho…
/r/MensRights19/03/13 11:29 PM
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If you're anti-abortion, you're speaking for other people (as you're wrongly accusing feminists of doing) by denying them the decision to choose what's best for them at a given point in their life. The "feminist party line" is about choice, respect, and equality.
/r/MensRights15/12/12 09:15 AM
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Yeah, without feminism, you wouldn't be able to talk in any real way about speaking for yourself. Feminists aren't trying to put words into your mouth. They're trying to give you a space to speak.
/r/MensRights15/12/12 05:22 AM
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The problem is that men also get violent when they suspect women of cheating on them or become extremely upset for no good reason (for the record, a partner cheating never justifies violence). I'm really sick of this whole stigma of women-as-crazy, because that leads to the assumption that women can't be taken seriously, don't deserve respect, and should be subject to the better judgment of the less crazy men. Violence and destruction of property by either gender is illegal and abusive. There's …
/r/MensRights15/12/12 04:59 AM
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Seriously? Seriously? r/mensrights protests until they're blue that men's rights advocates don't hate women, and then you all upvote this kind of bigoted drivel.
/r/MensRights29/11/12 05:49 PM
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Oh, I absolutely agree that if it's beyond reasonable doubt that the accusation was false, the false accuser needs to be punished. I understand some people's viewpoints that this occasionally discourages real victims from speaking out, but it's by FAR the lesser of two evils to discourage people from making false claims.
/r/MensRights16/09/12 06:49 AM
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Now I am just really curious as to why the numbers are so drastically different between lifetime and 12 months. I do wonder if it's not men redefining their experiences over time. Thanks for showing me that. Yes, there's a low level of proof. But it's an extremely complicated crime because so many people can't agree as to what qualifies as rape and the victims often suffer as much blame as the perpetrators. Ideally, rape education is a mandatory part of the middle school curriculum and victims g…
/r/MensRights16/09/12 02:47 AM
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Good point, particularly with genital mutilation. I guess I should have been more clear that I don't think that legitimate gender rights have to be a zero sum game.
/r/MensRights16/09/12 01:15 AM
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I don't really consider "forcing men to pay for kids against their will" to be a "right." I think the child support system needs to be reworked somehow, but admittedly don't have a solution because I'm not educated enough on the subject.
/r/MensRights16/09/12 01:14 AM
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I'm not sure why the difference in a 12-month period and a lifetime measure is so extreme, but for the lifetime measure, here are the numbers I'm seeing: "Approximately 1 in 21 men (4.8%) reported that they were made to penetrate someone else during their lifetime." This number is what I'm taking as the number of female rapists, although it could certainly also apply to male rapists. But for the sake of generosity, let's say it's female rapists. "Nearly 1 in 5 women (18.3%)" have been raped in t…
/r/MensRights16/09/12 01:02 AM
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I think the most important point to stress is that rights are not a zero sum game. You can support women's rights and men's rights, as I, a self-identified and incorrigible feminist, do. You can agree that men and women both face unfair treatment, stereotyping and prejudice because of their gender. Because if men's rights activists come across as wanting to take rights away from women or belittling women's complaints of inequality, you're not going to get many women to listen to you. Same reason…
/r/MensRights16/09/12 12:32 AM
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Why MRAs Should Be Pro-Choice: because men gaining rights doesn't have to mean women losing them, and women must have the right to decide when they want to be mothers if men want to have the right to decide when they want to be fathers.
/r/MensRights15/09/12 11:36 PM
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Well, men are the rapists in a vast majority of the situations. But I agree- that does leave out male victims of rape, and when we start picking and choosing who are "legitimate" rape victims and who aren't based on criteria like gender, we're losing the battle. I think that campaign is a response to the prevalent societal belief that it's a victim's job to make sure they don't get raped. Because society sees men as the perpetrators and women as the victims, it's a quick and catchy title to get …
/r/MensRights15/09/12 09:36 PM
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6 is completely false. If either party is drunk, rape occurred. Women can rape men, women can rape women, men can rape men, men can rape women, and people who don't identify with either of these genders can rape and be raped if one party is drunk and the other isn't.
/r/MensRights15/09/12 03:11 PM
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Also useful to remember that Arizona has a pretty terrible track record of institutional racism, which may actually be the cause of his being kicked out of the store. Now, the fact that "he was a man" was used as an excuse isn't even slightly comforting because it means that's supposed to be a more reasonable cause than racism, which it isn't.
/r/MensRights15/09/12 03:06 PM
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Actually, what this poster is saying about feminism is that we don't believe that ANYONE'S default state is to rape. We don't believe that men are born as these violent, warped, twisted creatures that need to be saved by our ideology. We believe that a patriarchal society defines men and women in offensive, one-dimensional ways and that when someone says something like "She was asking for it" when talking about rape, it's equally offensive to men because it presumes that men will always rape whe…
/r/MensRights15/09/12 02:52 PM
1

You bring up an interesting point with the logic "You have original sin by virtue of x religion, therefore you must atone." Actually, if we reread this logic as the poster claims the patriarchy does, it looks something like "You have original sin, in the form of being an uncontrollable violent rapist, by virtue of your gender, therefore you must atone." It's logic like this that feminists are fighting AGAINST. "Patriarchy" doesn't mean the same thing as "all men." It means a structure that deval…
/r/MensRights15/09/12 02:43 PM
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