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So unfortunately it was less of a recipe and more of a "buy stuff from a bunch of recipes and combine them together to make the richest broth ever!" But I can tell you what the superstars were: To preface, I filled a really big Le Creuset stock pot with water and these ingredients, so you would need less stuff if you use a smaller stockpot. I'm pretty sure it's the one that's 10 quarts. Parsnips and dried shiitake mushrooms - these replace the beef bones. I used 2 big parsnips, cut into 3-4 chun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:45 PM
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I also love cooking challenges! I had a vegan friend who really loved pho (before she went vegan), so we went to this vegan Asian restaurant to try theirs. The pho was terrible though! So I did some research, made a really good vegan pho, and invited her over. She loved it and so did I! It was hard to tell that the broth was vegan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:54 PM
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I've had this happen to me as well, and it sucks! I met a really good friend during my last relationship because she was dating his best friend. Now she hasn't talked to me in months and has left me on read in more than one app. At least I got to warn her not to make him the godfather of their kids, if they have any, and I think she believed me 😬 Also, I felt I had to comment because I love Phantom of the Opera! Like, an unhealthy amount probably 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:19 AM
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I would not have even dated both my last exes if I were FDS back then...because I asked them both out 🤦‍♀️🤡 The one before my last ex, something may have started because we met at a party that a mutual friend invited me to, and that same friend told me he was interested near the end of the night, but who knows if he would have ever had the courage to ask me out if I didn't do it first 🤷‍♀️ The last ex, I randomly approached him at a grad school party cause I thought he was cute. Huge mistake! FD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:43 PM
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Oh damn, I didn't even make that connection, but you're right! She's absolutely encouraging that kind of disgusting evil. Especially a few posts back (no one else look at her twitter, curse my inability to do the same 🤮), she posted a sexually provocative picture of herself in a shirt where an anime-style woman was getting her throat cut, calling it "her next stunt." That's even more insensitive and disgusting than I first thought with that context!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:24 PM
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Fair point. Caring about the details means looking through more than just the first google result, and that's just so much work! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:09 AM
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This sounds like an amazing time, I want to join too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:22 AM
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I'm so glad too! I did at least see a couple comments saying that they weren't the same, but I only feel safe talking about the implications of that fact (that LVM don't try nearly as hard in so many areas) here with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:07 AM
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I thought so too, but I'm bad at body language more frequently than I would like, so I wasn't sure. Everyone in the comments was just saying she looked high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:00 AM
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To me, this just exemplifies how men don't see details, which is why so many of them never notice all the little things women do. Also maybe I'm being picky in this case, but if I'm getting something from a show I like, I want it to look nice and accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:42 AM
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It's definitely been very validating, which is important to me because my parents have been very invalidating all my life. I'm just now getting to the chapters with actual advice and they seem promising. Generally I just plan to be low contact with my parents once I move away from my hometown - being away helps, I've found that before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:31 AM
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I've been feeling like this while reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, because I need to get beyond my childhood trauma to level up and build my self-worth! It's much easier to avoid or get out of bad relationships when you have confidence in yourself. High five for both of us bettering ourselves with helpful literature and identifying toxic people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:37 AM
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You'd be surprised! My NVM ex did his PhD all while regularly playing WoW and League of Legends for hours at a time (hint: it's because he did almost nothing around the apartment and didn't spend much quality time with me). Also he did his in Scandinavia, where the offices and labs technically close at 4pm to force people to have a work-life balance, so there's that. And if a couple gets together in undergrad and stays together through PhD and postdoc, that could definitely be 5 years easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:24 AM
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True! I assume a lot of people on that sub are college students, because undergrad and graduate school are when most LDRs happen, in my experience. Especially in the sciences because people have to move where the research is. And those folks (I'm one of them, PhD life!) don't make much in the US sadly. Also military, but they're not buying PS5s on deployment, I assume. Edit: I'm also assuming paid weekly? I would hope! Cause making $500 or $1000 a month (monthly or biweekly pay), if you're not l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:01 AM
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I was happy to see this with the title saying "when your s/o has money for a ps5 but not money to visit you, priorities folks priorities", or something like that. But then immediately scrotes were at it in the comments saying things like "you're not entitled to other people's money" and "you don't have to spend every dime on a visit, it's ok to buy things for yourself." And unfortunately the poster backpedaled, saying haha it's just satire, and I was like, noooo, what a disappointment! The origi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:57 AM
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I went through the same thing with my ex! We had the same couple arguments over and over because he refused to do anything about why I was upset! And even when I laid it out, he would say "well I bet even if I did do that [the thing I said would make me feel better], you'd still be upset so I won't bother." That response was guaranteed to take me from upset to angry, and then like you say, he got to be the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:16 PM
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She had 2 daughters...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:05 AM
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Thank you for looking out for your fellow women! The last therapist I had (a woman) was horrible and was one reason I stayed with my NVM ex for the extra 9 months that I shouldn't have. When I told her that he was a pedophile (as in attracted to actual prepubescent children, not just teenagers), her response was "So what? Don't you have fantasies that you don't actually want to come true but still turn you on?" And I was just like pretty much no, and definitely not ones that involve hurting chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:32 AM
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I thought the same for the same reason! Unfortunately my NVM ex's new gf did not believe me like the twox poster, at least I assume not since she never replied to my message. Hopefully she absorbed it a little and it will give her strength later. She's relatively fresh out of an abusive relationship and I'm sure he's making her feel so special...for now. I just hope her child will be ok, since he is not cut out for fatherhood, can't handle stress. Also - love your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:19 AM
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Any man in the fisheries industry - no empathy for animals or understanding of the natural food web. Also very much an old boys' club industry, aka very backwards and misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:38 PM
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His "mise en place" had to find another place to be a mess XD Also in the apartment we had before that, he tried to insist that since we didn't have a dishwasher, all dishes had to be soaked in bleach water for at least half and hour after washing with soap. Yea, I wasn't doing that - he wanted it, he did it, I just had to put up with the smell... Edit: and also one time when I was home for a day and tired of looking at the giant pile of dishes, I picked a plate up to start rinsing and boom, mag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:29 AM
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Yes, so much this! Once my ex was in culinary school, he started treating our kitchen like a restaurant kitchen and me like the dishwasher. He would use a different bowl for every single spice and ingredient he cut/measured out, and like 3 or 4 pots/pans, and no rinsing or wiping with paper towels as he splashed stuff everywhere. Culinary school was his "job" so he "worked" about 20 hours a week, including all the practice time. Meanwhile, I was getting a Master's degree and working a 15 hour a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:47 AM
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So much focus on engagement rings and so much wooshing of the point of FDS over her head. I hope she gets picked! Also "they" on this subreddit almost always means NVM/LVM, so many people miss that and cry misandry (though I know we've got some ladies who are absolutely #yesallmen and you do you!) Though I do agree that engagement rings don't mean that much - my NVM ex was much more abusive and less committed to me after getting engaged cause he thought I wouldn't leave? Found out later he told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:38 AM
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Not following through on promises is one of the most hurtful things someone you care about can do to you, and it's super low value behavior. Sorry to hear you're going through this. I don't know if you still need any help, but I tutor and edit online articles part time, so if it's math or English you need help in, feel free to dm me. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 08:01 PM
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It's so nice to hear that there are HVM like that out there. Thank you for sharing so we can all keep our hopes up! ETA: though I will say, my ex used to tell me he bragged about me to his friends, but never with me around and didn't compliment me directly, probably to avoid building me up. Obviously that's different from your situation, just wanted to throw it out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:46 PM
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I relate to so much of your response, especially "The danger of disagreeing with me was that I would continue the discussion." And arguing something that wasn't even his opinion, what's with that?! Solidarity sis, glad we're out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:42 PM
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"You build them up while they tear you down" - so true! That was what I did with this NVM ex to the point that he tried to cheat on me because he thought that he was so amazing. Even though actually, I was the only one who would make him feel amazing and pursued him because I was in love with him. Well, me and his little sister, who he had like an almost-incestual thing with. It wasn't that "women never saw him before" like he thought (he was a late-20s virgin before me). And now that he's singl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:33 AM
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I asked myself this too. And then I got a bit of an answer from my NVM ex - he thought all female orgasms in porn were real. He thought women loved it and they were all eagerly signing up. And it did make him terrible in bed when he could get it up - he would think he was being subtle, trying "moves", and I'd say ow, that hurts! He would say, no it doesn't, girls like that, I saw it in porn. He also thought that my freeze response (the third alternative to fight/flight) was me going into subspac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:18 PM
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Aw thanks, I could always go for a hug! hug back we definitely got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:36 PM
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Yes, keeping score is such a low value trait - I'd rather a guy straight up not do something than do it and rub it in my face later, that hurts more and wastes time! Getting out of the scarcity mindset, I feel like, is the most crucial part of FDS - one good trait does not make a man high value and there are lots more out there who share that trait and are better! And ugh yes, LVM/NVM stop caring about your pleasure over time, but of course if the BJs for them stop, the internet will definitely …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:09 PM
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Oh they were referring to actual tacos? When I saw "love tacos" in profiles, I assumed they were implying that they enjoyed giving oral, cause that's like, so rare and high value to enjoy pleasing your partner! Makes me swoon and immediately want to hookup with them /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:30 PM
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I actually do this regularly! I put some cologne on my wrists when I'm feeling lonely or craving a masculine presence. The one I'm super into is called Edge of the Night by Solstice Scents, a great indie perfume company. And like u/passionatevirtuoso mentioned, listening to comfy audios adds to the warm fuzzy feeling with no risk of LVM ruining it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:37 AM
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I needed to see this today! I had a long, bad dream last night where I was all alone and he was drowning in new choices. Thank goodness I have this place to remind me how good it is that I got out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:34 PM
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Absolutely! This was an issue with my LVM ex, he was "so excited" to have someone smart enough to understand his research. He somehow didn't realize that because I am also a scientist in a closely related field, not only would I understand it, but also that I would challenge him and point out errors. And I did, and I was frequently right, his narcissistic ego could not handle that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:12 PM
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