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| 43 | Shy/Anxious/Overthinkers: guide to worry less on a date and in life | Comprehensive | spicy_simba | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 01:04 PM |
| 10 | Beware of overthinking and overanalyzing | Comprehensive | spicy_simba | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 07:55 AM |
| 3 | Just experienced awareness during casual hamgout | Comprehensive | spicy_simba | /r/seduction | 17/06/21 10:46 AM |
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| 2 | I analyzed 100+ interactions and found a psychological pattern that creates instant attraction. Here is the breakdown.I love how this sub is 90% of gurus selling courses to each other | /r/seduction | 10/01/26 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Men who have multiple women without spending money or losing peace — what’s the logic behind it?Possibly the best comment i ever saw in this sub in years, especially point 4 | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 10:36 PM |
| 52 | So Many Men Nowadays Don't Respect ThemselvesI mean this is the Hustler's sub, 50% of the posts are by self proclaimed gurus and 50% are by vulnerable people, it's not by chance | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 03:41 PM |
| 8 | A relationship will not make you happy, this is whyYou guys both are right, it's just a matter of sitting down and interpretation and talking through the topic | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:21 AM |
| 2 | No PUA course is good?PUA courses are part of a big market that is personal insecurity Body image, success in career, relationships and PUA are some examples, but basically any formula of "do you feel bad at this area of life, i was like you too, a lot of things won't work but i have dedicated my life to this little secret that will make your wish come true in 3days, but you have to watch the end of this video and subscribe to my free newsletter first, and remember to click on this link where i This market is predato… | /r/seduction | 14/06/24 09:58 PM |
| 373 | So this girl I grew up with hit me up the other day...Hey there buddy, I dont have much context here but I dont think seduction is much at play here, This sounds like a can of worms you don't want to open. Unless this is in the open and both couples agree, The damages for both your families are irreversible and not worth taking any action or making any assumptions. This will bring hurt to everyone, including your childhood friend, and yourself, let alone the people you married and their families as well. | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 09:46 AM |
| 2 | And I being targeted for a “provider”?Hey there buddy, As you mentioned, some of us are overly anxious and paranoid, Overanalyzing, comparing and overthinking are one way for us to try to get the illusion of being in control. This is common and human, especially to some of us with self esteem issues, and low confidence. The challenge here is to be aware of this behaviour and to say "that's the little voice again" then to not feed it. Regarding the comparison you made, it is lumping a lot of factors into account. People who go on dat… | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 08:30 AM |
| 8 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsHe there buddy, Well this is a conclusion that is not so uncommon, but that a lot of people dont get to that quickly Have you read the "subtle art to not give a fuck" ? There is a chapter where the author talks about this exact feeling, there is a big dark side and a big cost to such a lifestyle. I am not sure you are at the correct sub based on the answers, this sub has a different set of values that you may have identified with before but not anymore, which is normal. Part of growing up and ma… | /r/seduction | 12/05/24 04:39 AM |
| 7 | I approached my Gym crush and got rejectedHey there buddy, I can relate to your feelings throughout the experience 2 skills for you : turning off your overthinking, overanalyzing, over criticism...over doing things is counter productive, it likely comes from a place of insecurity, low self esteem, shame and obsessive patterns. I understand it is easier said than done, but this is to highlight that your issue is not the approaching people itself, it's how you approach approaching. Letting go of the past of " i should have " or "i fumbled… | /r/seduction | 08/05/24 10:14 PM |
| 13 | If you're a straight man, going to gay bars to pick up women is the best decision you could makeDude is playing hitman in real life The extent people would go to get some action are beyond infinite. Whatever makes you fulfilled brother. | /r/seduction | 07/05/24 12:16 PM |
| 4 | My fellow seductess, I need your help once againHey there buddy, The biggest challenge, is realising that how the other person is going to perceive you is out of your control This is the main reason a lot of people hesitate a lot and overthink what to say or to text, they think they can control it In the end, it is about accepting to let go of the illusion that you are in control, This realization should bring freedom to behave just as yourself, without gimmicks or a mask So just say you remember her form school, that you were curious to know… | /r/seduction | 06/05/24 12:59 PM |
| 7 | She was the instructor, I was a student.Hey there buddy, In my books, if it's reciprocal, things will go smooth without any need of making it a hollywood movie, no overthinking will help, if not they won't and that's oke. She is an adult and you are too, she has likely been asked before. Ask her for 2 min of face 2 face private chat, tell her you think she is cute and you are interested to get to know her more, and would love to ask her for a date. Mention that both answers yes and no are oke and that you had to ask as you have been t… | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | How can I avoid being too available?Hey there buddy, " Being too available" is not the question i would look for first, but let me you ask you this Do you feel you are too anxiously attached ? Do you feel insecure/uncomfortable in this relationship? Do you feel the other person is not matching your pace in communicating and initiating activities? These are possible root causes that would result in you worrying, and for example feeling too available I experienced the following before, i was overthinking about a girl, how much shoul… | /r/seduction | 04/05/24 06:45 AM |
| 7 | For the guys who had zero experience with womenHey there buddy, I was a shy and socially anxious kid and literally a magicarp I had no moves, Basically i stayed like that till age 30, no kiss, maybe awkward hand holding I read material, reddit posts, and watched videos It didn't solve my problem, i had an emotional/mental block, a lot of tips here are rational and logical, Logic does not defeat emotion in my case, i understand the concepts, but i just could not make a move, i was too overwhelmed by the moment, feeling too self conscious, too… | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | examples you do that show you're not a "nice guy"Hey there buddy, I am a life long "nice guy" here, who didn't accept his niceness, and was aware of it, self conscious about it... etc I can relate to everyone going through it, it's more of a phase of life rather than an identity I was conflicted avoidant and tried to please people, rarely complained and feared rejection so never opened up on my feelings to my crushes, but i was incredibly nice to them/ in front of them and would cater my responses and choices to manage their feelings. I starte… | /r/seduction | 29/04/24 04:21 PM |
| 9 | How do you escalate and stay out of the friendzone.Hey there buddy, From my experience, and following this community: There is a big misconception on how much you can influence your chances of "taking someone to bed" Gurus and people who go down their rabbit hole, believe that 90% + of the outcome is depending on how you are and what you do, This is good for the business model, because it feeds on desperation, rejection and insecurity and convinces them that "do this and you will get some" "i will solve your life if you follow my secret scientif… | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 06:58 AM |
| 0 | If I had to brag about one thing, it would be that all my LTR's were some of the best women on this Earth. That's not an accident, this title shows you how not to do it:I noticed that, I also noticed his reply to your comment was defensive, Perhaps it triggered some sensitive spots, my guess is OP is hurt about something, perhaps a loss, and was looking for some gain to feel better by making this post, It's really strange how the discussion spiral out like that, We are supposed to be helping each other, but somehow ego got in the way | /r/seduction | 27/01/24 11:24 AM |
| 68 | What lesson took you the longest to unlearn ?Unlearning a pattern of needing to win everyone's approval, especially people i am attracted to and trying very hard to do it, identifying to their approval | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 07:03 AM |
| 10 | What are some hobbies you do that makes you interesting?Apologies, got off the wrong foot here, my message got misinterpreted and or took personally as an offense of some sort to your knowledge or intelligence, the intention was not to judge or asses your knowledge, indeed I don't know you and what you do and why you do it. Hence the use of the word "if, sometimes a comment might not help you directly as you may already know it's message, but it might bring an addition to the conversation itself as it was not mentioned in the original post and other … | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 09:14 AM |
| 138 | What are some hobbies you do that makes you interesting?Hi there buddy, What makes you interesting is not what you do per sei, rather what it means to you, and how you convey it. If you do something for the sake of being interesting you might fail to be interested in it your self, and become counter intuitively a less charismatic person. I met people who wake up at 4am and run marathons and extreme races, but they were showing off with it so much they gave a bad vibe in parties and no one felt comfortable to talk to them as it felt like a battle of w… | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 08:05 AM |
| 2 | I feel like I have missed the boat when it comes to dating. And once that ship has sailed, it is never coming back. What advice do you have?Hi there buddy, A ship will never ship without its captain, Everyone is the captain of their own ship, Accordingly, You are the captain of your own ship, the crew may be giving confused looks and ask you "when are we shipping captain ?" but you are your ship and you can't go without you. You may see ships of others sailing, but your ship is always there, Just like you my ship sailed after thirty, i am just a few meters ahead paddling in all directions at once, it's scary, but it's fun, just like… | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 07:31 AM |
| 4 | I’m a grown-ass woman, and I’m scared to ask this man out. Someone convince me to do it anyway!!Hey there sister, Your sentiment is very relatable, No one is born walking on 2 feet, riding a bike with 6 pack abs and handling rejection. We all crawl before walking, we stumble and fall many times, till we get it. For some reason many of us forget we crawled, and get to a stage where everything in life is "supposed to be what it is" I thought i could never bike because i never learned and was always scared of falling, and some day at age 30 i was offered by a nice person to learn how to bike,… | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 06:49 AM |
| 1 | How do I make myself look like I’m out of high school.Hi there sister, Embrace it, take it as compliment, flattery, do not let what people say matter much, People are just quite bad at guessing ages ! At 27 people thought i was at high school. Now in my thirties and still people think i am in my 20s and get shocked to hear my age. Embrace the looks, dont let it affect you, time will do its job, wrinkles and grey hair will come and you shall embrace them equally If anything, a baby face is one of the staples of beauty, and many are paying money to g… | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Asking for feedback from ex datesYou can always ask for feedback, if you feel comfortable with the rejection and not in a vulnerable spot. it may be more revealing of the giver's personality than yours. It may be just politeness also, so to be taken as superficially as it is. Your closer friends feedback is likely more accurate and valuable about your behavioral patterns. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 07:30 AM |
| 1 | I Never Get the Women I Truly Desire (Help)As much as some cultures say you can do the rain dance, You can not control the weather, and no one can, sometimes it just rains where you are regardless if you did the dance or not. The problem starts when one makes a plan thinking one can control the weather. And take it personally if the dance did not work, obsess about what they missed. Instead one can control how they react to the weather, sunny day ? Have picnic! Rainy day ? Read a book at home. Make the most out of it. Life is too short t… | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 06:24 AM |
| 3 | Next move?Hi there brother, My 2 cents: you are overthinking this, and trying to control a narrative, This is not only draining, it also gives you illusion of control (which is what a lot of pua sells), and gives you an illusion that you need control to get into a healthy relationship. In reality how people perceive us is often very different from how we perceive ourselves from their perspective and what we are trying to show them, and trying to control this image often backfires in giving at least awkwar… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 06:41 AM |
| 10 | How do I talk to and make progress with the gym receptionist?Step 1 : stop comparing to others Step 2 : instead of saying am bad at talking to girls, say am a Padawan Step 3 : force yourself to approach people in social events, to gather both experience, bearing discomfort and confidence. This concept is to take in moderation, and progressive overload, stall small interactions of saying hi, introducing yourself, bearing the silence Step 4: Sign up for hobbies that involve being comfortable around others and comfortable in your skin like dance class Step 5… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:19 AM |
| 2 | I'm a socially boring person...Hi there buddy, You were able to change many things in yourself through educated effort. That tell something is that you have ability to learn, and ability to change. "Being hard on oneself" , while it is believed to be the source of improvement, might be blocking one's emotional growth, relationship with oneself and life perspective. I can relate to your story, we had similar paths and i used to feel kind of the same. I am person who is scared of failing, of being embarrassed and doing somethin… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:56 AM |
| 5 | why is it bad to be an emotional sponge?Between black and white there are many shades, The key is moderation and balance, supporting a close person is a noble and valuable thing to do. Issues come up when a situation becomes extreme in frequency or intensity Over extending one's way, consistently canceling one's plans, obsessing about how another person is feeling,q Assuming the role of a parent to someone else, Also Doing something valuable, with secret expectations of payoff/reward is a common pitfall people fall into. Sometimes thi… | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 12:26 PM |
| 23 | Why is flirting with girls so hard?Hi there buddy, You are too much in your head and overthinking it. There is not much you can change about what others think of you, some will like you, some not. And that is it. On the other hand, There is much you can do to enjoy yourself, to feel attractive for youself. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 10:58 PM |
| 3 | Keep attraction during/after holidaysHi there buddy, The elephant issue here is you worrying and trying to control what you can not control, You should not let this insecurity grow further by feeding it. Feeding it now, will continue the narrative "she only stayed with me because i did this and that to keep the flame going" This approach is not sustainable and will drain anyone going that path while putting the weight of the whole relationship on them. Instead, do not feed the monster, let the anxiety pass, journal, do some activit… | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Getting depressed from lack of sexual experience and lonelinessI feel you buddy, am not going to say it's easy, magical or comfortable, but there is a way out, and you can take it in small steps, it's not going to be linear and there will be ups downs and plateaus, and at the end it's not the destination that matters, it's the journey to get there | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 05:12 PM |
| 10 | Getting depressed from lack of sexual experience and lonelinessHi there buddy, At any stage of life, If you dont decide what is important in life, anxiety and insecurities will decide it for you, Dating and sex will not fill this emptyness, this is existential emptyness, it comes from life philosophy and perspective. For many years i lived in this prison of obsessing about what i didn't have and comparing myself. What you feel now is a first chapter in a long journey, each journey is different, my journey is about trying uncomfortable things, trying new act… | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 08:51 AM |
| 16 | Do girls ever tell guys to stop contacting them as a test?Hey there buddy, don't overthink it, likely some part of you is trying to justify reaching out to her after rejection, which is a common tendency after being cut off. Take it at face value, accept it, take time and space to process the rejection, also give time and space to the other person, it's the best gift to offer, to yourself and others. After rejection, our minds often try to make narratives to solve what went wrong of "what if i did this or said that" "what if she did not mean x when say… | /r/seduction | 30/06/22 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Need some adviceJust ask her honestly what she feels and if she wants to be just friends, | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 09:11 AM |
| 2 | Friend told me that I kissed her in her dream last night.Hey man, I guess the journey to confidence is different depending on where you are in life. Maybe i share my journey summary For my case, I was spending too much time at home alone, video gaming, overthinking and watching porn, a lot of porn. I was doing it and hating it, feeling stuck and ashamed, feeling helpless, feeling past my prime, feeling like i missed out on life, feeling creep, broken, invalid...etc...this happened for many years, then one day i woke up and was wondering "is this it ? … | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 08:20 AM |
| 13 | Anyone ever take dance classes?I picked up Bachata last year and Kizomba this year. It made me face a lot of insecurities and anxieties, including fear of failure, fear of being seen as a creep, fear of rejection, fear of being judged for my dancing. Being overly self conscious. I used to dread dancing and avoid it at all costs, i used to believe i can not dance and that will be that for the rest of my life. I used to avoid parties to not be put in a dance situation, big time anxiety and avoidance. It also taught me about acc… | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Friend told me that I kissed her in her dream last night."i dont know if i will get a chance like this" This sounds like FOMO and lust speaking, maybe something caused by lack of experience/confidence. in my opinion, you will get for sure better and healthier situations in life. remind yourself that you are worth way more than this kind of shady business. | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 04:12 AM |
| 7 | Friend told me that I kissed her in her dream last night.Hi there buddy, Anyone from any gender can do anything, including That being said, we live with our choices. I recommend to talk with this friend directly face to face, tell her that was awkward and ask her to clarify what she means by sharing that, She has the answer if it is a joke or some sort of game or whatever, make sure to get that answer before making up your mind what to do about it. Taking action and being transparent will relieve you from wondering land, and theory land. If some voice… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | What is something you've learned throughout your seduction journey?1) Moderation. Most people are either not trying at all, or try harding, the same person might oscillate between both states at different phases of life. 2) Beware of lust if you are having a crush, there is significant chance lust is taking over how you treat them and allow them to treat you, which might go against your values and boundaries, once the lust goes away, you may feel the pain of going against your values or boundaries. 3) stay centered should i call them or should i not call them ?… | /r/seduction | 20/06/22 07:51 AM |
| 2 | she has a boyfriend, she’s dating me, but at the end she said noIt is not clear 100% what you want from this, But it seems clear you are physically attracted to this person and likely driven by lust, Lust does not see good or bad, ethics and can drive someone into harming themselves and others. Additional, a mind high on lust will rationalize everything just like a gambling addict will rationalize selling his life savings to play one more round You do not want your life decisions to be driven by lust, especially if your decision also impacts other people's l… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 03:38 PM |
| 8 | girl i’m talking to sent nudes too fast and i don’t know what to thinkDont worry, dont think much, If this is bothering you, bring it up to her, you should be able to bring up the topic or any topic that makes you feel uncomfortable with your dating, time will tell you who this person is, You do not have to make your mind now in this moment, keep observing and getting to know who this person is | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?Imagine a group of salesman, one is selling blue toilet paper, one is selling red soap, one is selling yellow keyboards, They go knocking on doors, and try to convince every human that they need their products, They have been taught by a school of thought that if they did not get the sale its that they did not try hard enough, or that they messed up one of the steps or the opening speech, or the closing speech, and only a perfect golden performance will convince someone to buy their products. In… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 07:44 AM |
| 1 | I'm in autism spectrum and i have trouble flirtingI think for me the muscle making new friends is the same one to flirt, You go in, bare the discomfort, introduce yourself and strike a conversation, be playful, teasing and intention to have fun. I think a lot of the awkwardness comes from focusing too much on the outcome. Shift the outcome to you having fun instead of it convincing the person to come to bed with you. This will cause you to have more fun, be more yourself and feel less awkward at the same time. Over time going through this exerc… | /r/seduction | 19/04/22 03:26 AM |
| 2 | I'm in autism spectrum and i have trouble flirtingHi there buddy, I can relate to your story, to be honest i was so anxious i was afraid of online dating apps, as soon as i would match i would not know what to do next. My recommendation for anyone with social anxiety and with dating or meeting new people anxiety is the following : 1) make note that the social anxiety comes from a place to be figured out, and it usually comes in a bundle, packaged with other behavioral patterns, such as low self esteem, fantasizing, self criticism, fear of failu… | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 08:33 AM |
| 2 | How do I Stop Being Nice To Women?Hi there buddy, You are making assumptions based on your experience, Rejections hurt and put you in a emotional state of looking for the answer, this may lead you to wrong hasty black and white conclusions and a skewed 0 or one perception of life. Life is not black or white, it's about nuance Being nice and respectful is not an issue, Being nice and respectful as a transaction or token to communicate your feelings with expectations to get a relationship is the issue. The issue is most of the tim… | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Being shorter than other guys and same height as girlsHi there again, Everyone has a different journey, it started for me by challenging my beliefs of the world and about myself , then i learned some skills to take care of myself, i opened up with my insecurities to friends, somewhere along the way i found out i was not accepting of myself, which made rejections hurt a lot more than it does, because i was using rejection to hurt myself. In the path to self acceptance, there is likely some past events that still hold some unresolved emotions like gu… | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 05:29 AM |
| 1 | how can I flirt with and seduce my teacher?Hi there buddy It sounds like you are trying to justify or rationalize your choice, Your brain is equipped with such tools to make you not doubt your emotional choices, this is exactly why people make mistakes and can not realize their mistakes only after doing them. "There have been cases of something" does not justify doing it Example "there have been cases of rape" "there have been examples of cheating" When emotionally charged, It is rarely the case that someone makes a mistake knowing it is… | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Being shorter than other guys and same height as girlsPerhaps in another dimension where you would be different height they would reject and say something else. That is what i mean by can not be verified. Regardless, you decide what to do with such comments, you can let it eat you up or brush it off like car honk that sounds annoying but goes away | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Being shorter than other guys and same height as girlsThis is only assumptions, that will never be verified. What people say when people reject a person is not to be taken at face value. | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 04:45 AM |
| 13 | Going on dates with women has made me realize how invisible I am. Is this a woman thing or do I just look uninteresting?Hey there buddy, Comparing to others will bring disappointment and insecurities. Most of all, comparing mindset and usually is going to prove a narrative that already exists, like confirmation bias. If you feel bad about yourself already, any comparison data will be filtered in your mind to fee that narrative, like looking for ways to feel bad. For other people who feel superior to others, their mind will find excuses and filter the observations to prove they are better than everyone else. Your … | /r/seduction | 08/04/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | How can I get a good personality ?Hey there buddy, Step1 is to review your assumptions. Being complimented or not is not the be all and end all. Sometimes people give compliments because they are just being nice, or seeking to get complimented. You have a personality that is unique to you, some people will appreciate it, and some will not appreciate it. Regardless if they tell you or not. What's important is for you to appreciate being yourself. It seems though, there may be confidence and self esteem issues. Maybe that's someth… | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 11:09 AM |
| 3 | Being shorter than other guys and same height as girlsHey there buddy, At any height, You could be the best version of yourself and not have girls attracted to you in a moment of life. At that point it's a choice what to do with it, Option 1 is to let it eat you up, with comparing yourself to others and looking at your "differences" and blaming it on that. "Oh he is blond and am brunette" "oh his middle finger is longer than his ring finger thats why" "oh his forearms are hairy that's why" This is a well without a pit, and one can dwell and spiral … | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 05:28 AM |
| 313 | How long should you wait to reach out to a girl after you had sex with them the first night without coming off as desperate?Hi there buddy Why are you thinking about this ? The root cause of coming off desperate, is desperation and not timing of texts. Desperation is when nothing is going on in life and the relationship is the sole thing happening that will compensate for everything. If you have a well balanced life, and not obsessing about a relationship, text whenever you want, The obsession and fear of loss are the enemy, not the timing of texts. Do not let obsession and fear of loss win, as that is a path of suff… | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Biggest confidence boost?Facing my fears, anxieties, and learning to do things regardless of my mood | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 10:06 PM |
| 1 | If a woman says shes engaged, do you give her your number anyway or you just leave it be?Leave it be, stay away from can of worms and do no harm. Save your number for available single people who you might think are interested. | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 05:01 PM |
| 15 | Girl I’ve been seeing gets aggressive (hard punches and slaps) - should I hit back?No, you should acknowledge this is red flag and deal breaker , you may share to her it is a deal breaker and make your boundaries as clear as possible, and you should leave if your boundaries are not being respected. Hitting each other the way you described leads to escalation, injury, trauma, lawsuit and jail | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 08:36 PM |
| 2 | How to stop tying my self worth to how attractive I am to women?Hey there buddy, This is what outcome based thinking leads to, Doing things to be "good enough" and succeed with girls is not a healthy approach. In its essence you are doing things for purpose of getting others validation. All self care activities you do, be it exercising or style, should be for you, for you to enjoy it and for no one else, you do it because you want to care for yourself, keep yourself healthy, This mindset of outcome bad means am not good enough therefore i should feel bad and… | /r/seduction | 30/03/22 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Venting about interest levels. Hope some of you can relate/give advice.Hey there buddy, Of course this is very relatable Sometimes people may appear high interest at first, it could be out of politeness, out of fear to reject and trying to save face, it could be their type of personality is to upbeat when meeting someone new, sometimes they just want to have a fun friendly moment. A common mistake is to misinterpret bring nice with being interested and available. A "thank you" becomes "marry me" or "take me to bed" Also, some people maybe fun in the moment but they… | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 05:35 AM |
| 2 | When a girl asks you to bring her food at her houseJust take it as literally as it is, go there and bring the food, and trust yourself to handle whatever offer is on the table. If a girl wants you and you are at her place, she will make it clear, of not then just enjoy the moment as it is and appreciate the food, When you are there If at any moment you are in doubt have a question you can ask her, asking only clarifies things and helps avoiding a misunderstanding. | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Why is everything a man does considered creepy?Hey there buddy, General statements you read on internet are not absolute truths to take literally. It's good to have some basic level of situational awareness, like not approaching someone who is on an ATM dark at night, it feels weird. And not forcing yourself into people who do not want to talk to you clearly or are clearly busy. For me the answer lies in context and adaptability. Am in a dance class with a female friend, we dance in couples and switch partners, another guy is greeting every … | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 07:06 AM |
| 6 | I came to the realization that I am just so weird.Hi there buddy, I would not call that weird. A baby that does not know how to walk is not weird, A baby goes about a thousand times to stand up and falls and tries again, When you compare a 1 year old to a 5 year old you do not conclude the 1 year old is weird. You are going through a path many went through, does it feel weird ? Probably yes ! Does that make you weird ? No What you feel is valid in a sense you observed something happened in retrospect , but your conclusion is incorrect. Its a co… | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 10:15 AM |
| 2 | If she changes the conversation when you ask her out on a date through text. Do you bring up the date once again?Hey there buddy, You can do that of course, but adjust your expectations to this meeting likely not happening at all. You can also ask, if something went wrong in communication or if there was misunderstanding, you can ask if she changed her mind. The way it looks now, your expectations should prepare the answer is likely "not available/not interested" there is still that 1-3% chance it could be misunderstanding, before going there, ask how much is that person valuable to you for you to put more… | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Self-improvement and chasing ambitions are supposed to help you in dating but they are doing the opposite for me and I'm not sure how to fix this.Hi there buddy, Self improvement and chasing ambitions do not directly help in dating. Most of life is not a direct formula, but sometimes what people really need in life is direct formulas, as they are outcome focused. This is the reason a lot of people get really frustrated and start playing the game "look how hard am trying" Dating is not a product one can aquire despite what dating apps are trying to make believe. You definitely can do efforts to maximize your opportunities to meet people, h… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 08:43 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever felt like there's no spark?Be open and honest with her so she adjusts, and give some time for attraction to build up, have a talk after a month and see what could come out of it, friendship or friendship + or whatever it is | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 07:29 PM |
| 0 | How do I stop girls from assuming I'm just a player?Just continue being you and trust yourself. A lot of people have tryst issues, but that's on them. Do not take it personally. | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Trying to flirt with a escortIt doesn't hurt to be open and transparent and just ask if there is something more there or if its just some loyal customer perks. That will quickly stop all wondering and to know what's what. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 08:49 PM |
| -2 | Would it be inappropriate to ask out the HR assistant of a job I turned down?Hey there buddy I think it is exactly on the edge of inappropriate, There is no completely clean path to how you proceed, Maybe you can request a short informal meeting and that you had some general questions, feedback whatever it is, then when you meet you would open up about your intention and about your dilemma, mention its awkward, and leave a number, Besides appropriateness, its also important to weigh how much investment you want to do in a stranger, and why would you do that. Consider tha… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Dry texterHey there buddy, This is how you get your freedom : Ask her If she likes you, she will still like you after, if not then you will stop wondering about, and everything will be clear | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Alpha Female seductionHi there buddy, First, dating coworkers is a bad idea generally, for multiple reasons, for you and for everyone else. Second, you are making too many assumptions based on minor queues that could mean anything. Assuming you are past the point of stopping this from happening, Be as clear as possible, stop the indirect queues and gifts, go for it and ask her clearly on a date, mention your aspirations, and accept whatever outcome is there. If its there its there, if its not it's not. | /r/seduction | 27/02/22 06:33 AM |
| 179 | I sometimes feel like dating women is like playing a video game. I have to do certain things in a certain order at the right time to keep them interestedHi there buddy, This is a trap, this is the exam mindset This is the "am i good enough" trap A date outcome is not a response to "am i good enough" Thinking that way will result in a lot of suffering and insecurity in a relationship. A date outcome is a response to "are we a good match together ?" Not every 2 people are a good match for each other, sometimes because of insecurities we do not set boundaries and put up with non matching people, this ends up in relationships that are not healthy an… | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 06:40 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Hey there buddy, 2 things 1) body language is different from person to person, Some people get close and touchy with their friends. 2) sometimes we are stuck in narratives so much that we perceive events and people reaction more than they are, we are emotionally influenced, a hug becomes " i love you" and a "thank you you are so sweet" becomes "marry me" Reading queues and body language is to be done with a grain of salt and attention to ones bias. That is why it is good to ask at some point to … | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 10:36 AM |
| 27 | How to pass these serious shit testsHi there buddy, Read your story again, but this time with a guy coworker instead or a coworker you are not attracted to. Its funny how the narrative will change. You probably would not accept these behaviors the same way. When someone behaves in way you do not accept, most of the time we respond towards the person, and not the behavior, Forget this narrative of shit tests, and you needing to succeed them, Think of it this way, if a person like you they like you and no need for you to convince th… | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 06:36 AM |
| 1 | In my late 30s and never had a gf. Am I doomed to being single for the rest of my life?The first step, i think is to understand and acknowledge what you are looking forward to and what traps and opposing forces will face you. The main think you are looking forward to is to shift your life perspective, and your biggest opposition will be your self critical patterns and anxiety responses. this is a long term process, and this is a process were action comes first, and this is a process where outcome is not important, So in a first phase you might feel what you are doing is counter in… | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Does being in your late 20s or early 30s really limit your dating prospects as a guy?Hi there buddy, I think for me maturing as a person changed my perspective, i became a more confident person and started going out more, which led into more opportunities. | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 06:49 AM |
| 11 | In my late 30s and never had a gf. Am I doomed to being single for the rest of my life?Hi there buddy, "am doomed" and "its too late" are common narratives that come from low self esteem and self criticism. Posts in reddit that say "i am this X age and its too late" are quite common from age 18 till age 30+ There is no age for feeling doomed, just like there is no age to feel any emotion, it is just an emotion. Feelings are just feelings. Are you still alive ? If yes then nothing is too late to start anything. It's just our minds that create these catastrophic narratives to keep u… | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 06:05 AM |
| 3 | Absolutely blew my chance of getting laid in a nightclubHi there buddy, You are making assumptions that everything is a result of your actions and under your control. Which is not an accurate depiction of life. In your mind there is a version of events that would have led you to getting laid, just like in a video game if you follow certain choices. You probably feel like you failed the game because of your choices. Besides it being inaccurate, this way if thinking is is not a healthy life perspective, and this is likely why you feel devasted, You can… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 08:57 PM |
| 1 | How do you overcome rejection?Hi there buddy, It is hard to move when you are holding the earth on your back. This "i don't want to be single" is likely what is causing you pressure so much that you can not move. Letting go of this pressure sounds counter intuitive, but it is the key to your liberation from your situation. Its like you are holding your breath because you feel you are going to drown and suffocate, but you are not in water buddy, you are on earth where it is okey to breath, holding breath is what is holding yo… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 11:15 AM |
| 2 | gym attraction, girls with headphones on.Hey there buddy, Instead of reading signs, Think the following, if she likes you she likes if not then not, and you will never know until you ask ask yourself, do you find her attractive ? If yes then tell her that, | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 06:33 PM |
| 67 | Had sex on first date, got blocked immediately afterBetter to not make assumptions, and draw conclusions. It could be anything. Just let it be, | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 06:55 AM |
| 2 | How do I get over the fear of talking to girls in college?First things first Be mindful that your perception is shaping your reality. Again your perception, shapes your reality when someone is not feeling good about their situation, they can take whatever advice is given to them or compare to others and fall into traps of feeling inadequate or broken. So be mindful as you are now in doubt, and likely have some self criticism, and unprocessed emotions such as guilt and shame. And some anxieties and fears You may take a look at my comment of yesterday in… | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 10:08 AM |
| 3 | Bisexual women how to handle them?Assume friendship and be a good friend, till it is crystal clear she wants more, This assumes you like the persons company as a friend. | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 09:37 AM |
| 130 | So a girl at my local Wendy’s played me when I asked for her number. Then after not paying her no mind for a few weeks, she give me her number in a receipt. WHAT?!?Hey there buddy, For some people it takes time, to trust and to evaluate their feelings towards a situation. My friend was first rejected by his current girlfriend, then she thought about it for 2 weeks and asked him for a date. Do not look at it as a logical succession of events, emotions are not logical. Instead, Be curious and open You have the power of asking Ask her what she is looking for and why she shared her number, You have the power to take your time as well, you can spend a bit more … | /r/seduction | 16/02/22 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Mixed Signals :/Hey there buddy, reading the stars for answers is high cost, inaccurate and rarely effective. Its draining and it plays in your head, Do you like her for a date ? Ask her for a cup of coffee, then you will get your definitive answer. A yes or a no are both answers that will liberate you from playing the body language expert detective. The forever maybe there is something i dont know is like a prison labyrinth of torture, that is bittersweet but ultimately sadistic and unhealthy, | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 08:12 AM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]Unless a person tell you they like you romantically, assume friendship and dont start reading the stars, If it bother you, tell her that punching you will make you seriously fall in love and start doing romantic gestures for her in hopes she will leave her boyfriend for you and marry you forever, then you will know where she stands. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 06:58 AM |
| 1 | ValentineHey there buddy, check my last comment in another post, it has some answers that will being perspective. In brief, do what you think is fun, stop worrying what the other person will think, and be ready to face your fears, and to accept rejection. Get your freedom from worrying. Cheers, | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 06:49 AM |
| 7 | Have you ever been rejected multiple times by a friend but eventually come out victorious in the end? Or is no a forever no?In a situation where you see mixed signals, Go with the signals you do not want to hear, which are the "No signals" Our brains will look at signs everywhere in the stars, create narratives to keep trying and justify all moves we do, they will feed on any gesture a lady makes and interpret "thank you" as "marry me" If a person really wants you, they will make it clear. let go of the narrative of the ultimate try where everything aligns perfectly. Focus your energy on something else. You will be g… | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Is a girl resting her hands on a guy's thighs supposed to be a sexual advance?It depends on the context, are you alone at home or in public group of friends ? Best person to answer you in any case is her ! You have the right to ask, asking will not change her mind, if she likes you that way, she likes you that way, if not then you will avoid an awkward interaction with a friend | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 07:20 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Generally speaking, Talking to people in stores or service job, Be mindful of the position you are in, the position you put them in They have to be nice to customers A lot of people interpret politeness for "marry me" or "sex me up" Be mindful this person has been talked to by male customers a hundred times per day. And they have yo stay there and meet them again because its their job So generally speaking, no it is not a good place. Neither is any business. Now that being said, cuz one part of … | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 07:07 AM |
| 1 | How to prevent weirdo vibesHey there buddy, Puzzle solving or debugging looks like a rational approach but beware of the subtext of some actions we take, as actions determine our relationship to ourselves. No one shall or need be convinced of your value or to go on a date with you, The moment one starts on the convincing path, its setting up for misconceptions: 1- "i need to make more effort than i can afford to start, to grow and to keep this relationship going" 2- "i am not of value enough for a person to date me withou… | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 04:19 PM |
| 4 | What are some more Natural ways to break the ice like this one;The moment you start planning a move ahead you stop being genuine, and people feel it when someone is trying to be genuine. Most importantly you will also feel it and be awkward and self conscious about it. stop planning things to say ahead, it is a bad habit that we very often justify yet it kills self confidence, as it is teaching you that you need gimmicks for people to give you value. Thus subconsciously confirming to yourself that you do not have great value Allow yourself to be yourself, j… | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Was this girl into me?Yes it is possible, But don't read too much into star signs, just ask her directly, "do you wanna hangout" Hang out, spend time together, see if you like her, then tell her that | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 07:31 AM |
| 0 | Stop deluding yourselves that cold approach isn't necessaryHey there buddy, The devil is in the details, when people start doing things without knowing the reason behind. Without using common sense. This is a characteristic of cults and religions, some pua communities do develop cult like behaviors and get radicalized, and that is not cool The issue with text advice or short form audio video, is that it starts to simplify and condense information for the sake of format. In real life, you would spend days and weeks with your friend to teach him about dat… | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 07:27 AM |
| 1 | Why do girls keep giving number and then just flake?Hey there buddy, Everyone has their own reasons, there is no answer to everything, that would be too generalizing. The thing is, the reason does not matter, you just learn to push and chase less, with time you will start to feel it when you are pushing too much towards someone and learn to save your energy and not to persue as much Quite some people are uncomfortable of just confronting people and telling them NO to their face, people are scared how others will react to rejection. Other people d… | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 1 | My goal is to have my first date by the time I'm 40.Step 0: don't obsess about this virginity thing A lot of life is spent into obsessing about things for no reason,, that is waste of energy and bad mental health. Step 1: tell your circle friends you are a virgin and looking forward to start dating, ask them for help Step 2: get out, try new hobbies and join social events, introduce yourself and make new connections. Step 3: from the connection that you created, ask the one you think is suited for you out for a date. Step 4: repeat step 2 and 3, … | /r/seduction | 31/10/21 10:43 AM |
| 2 | I woke up today and i saw a message from a girl who broke my heart 3 years before.Hey there buddy, You can ask why she sent you the video, you can tell her this is strange to receive a video with no context based on your history. You can also nor react, Most important is don't make a big thing out of this person sending you a video, it means they sent you a video and that is it as far as it goes | /r/seduction | 22/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 3 | [Help] I'm 29 and never had a woman consider me attractive before.This is a good question, this is completely normal. Women will not come to you because you are a better or worse man. It's much more random than we like to think, but humans can not handle random and always try to rationalize positions. Women do not know your value and are not to use as measurement of your value. You know you are a great guy who is doing his own thing. Now here are some concrete actions, ask your networks to help you meet single ladies, mention that you are looking forward to ha… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 09:06 AM |
| 30 | Less Success with Women after Quadrupling my Testosterone LevelsHey there buddy, success with women is unfortunately not a mathematical equation. We humans like to rationalize everything happening in our life and look at what factors changed. This is hardly done by communities of researchers doing laboratory experiments on thousands of samples to reach a conclusion. Don't jump to conclusions based on what changed in your life, correlation is not causation Again, correlation is not causation. Women are all different, they have different thoughts all the time.… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 08:32 AM |
| 1 | Help for talking to women to attract themThis is one of those situations that our mind can not process logically. Sometimes overthinking puts breaks on us trying to do things, especially activities we are not confident with. So doing new things and hobbies without thinking much, will grow you an ability to handle situations without thinking much. In general, I think getting to a new life perspective where you are a happier person, less anxious, less overthinking and more confident. When your perception shifts, girls stop becoming an en… | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 07:53 AM |
| 2 | You miss every shot you don’t take!!Big up buddy, try some new hobbies too, do things that you are scared of or insecure about, step by step of course. | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 07:02 AM |
| 0 | Best way to respond if a woman says no when you ask her out?"thank you for the answer, I will get going now, have a nice day" Words are not as important as your intention and emotional state. The biggest challenge is to genuinely smile in acceptance that you can only control yourself and that beauty in life comes from not knowing things for sure. It's no one's fault, you were not judged. Its a normal thing that happens, people say no and yes and both are fine answers. | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Help for talking to women to attract themHey there buddy, I recommend to limit your time approaching people on social media. Use social media to find and join social events or hobbies you like. I also recommend to keep professional relationships at work what they are. Approaching all females at work, contrary to dating simulators, will make a bad reputation of you. And contrary to video games, reputation matters a lot in real life, it matters for making connections and finding jobs. I understand you are virgin and inexperienced, this d… | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 06:48 AM |
| 1 | Sex With 1 Girl A Day Doable?This is just like looking at a gigantic fastfood bomb meal on the small craft videos, it looks appetizing, but as soon as you get one bite you get full and would feel sick if you eat the entire thing. | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 12:15 PM |
| 4 | What does it mean when a girl likes your texts on Instagram,but doesn't response?Hey there buddy, Spend less time thinking about this person and the situation. These non responses are signs this person is not responding to you Now up to you to decide how much more energy you want to spend on this interaction. I would suggest 0 energy more, it seems from this this activity is draining you, on top of that it seems your self perception of your dating skills are draining you too. This position you are in I feel a lot of us went through, it's normal, don't worry about it. I call … | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I get rid of the idea that I'm not good enough for women?Hey there buddy, Here is what helped me, is asking a different question ! "Am I good enough for me ? How am I treating myself ? Am I cleaning myself properly, feeding properly, keeping myself healthy mentally and physically ? Do I deserve a great life ? Yes I do ! What can I do to take better care of me ! " Having discussions with friends is what sparked these discussions with myself. I started sharing my most shameful insecurities to my friends, feeling broken, not good enough...etc and that ex… | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 10:08 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]3 things ! Do not overthink it too much, overthinking brings weirdness, being attracted to someone is not weird, it's normal Talk to your sister, see what she thinks of it, you need her approval and support in doing this, When you have the approval of your sister, go talk to the girl, tell her you just honestly you think she's attractive and ask her out, She may say yes or she may say no, accept both scenarios and don't try to control a narrative, just accept whatever it and do not project it on… | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 06:16 AM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Contrary to what assumptions might be going in your head, What things may seem like to you is not really important. Ultimately the other person will decide and you can not control that. Step 1 : unplug your critical brain, that is critisizing your actions and aborting them before they happen, this is a safe defense mechanism, but you are safe, this mechanism will be calibrated through experience, just like through experiencing touching warm things but they are not burning hot. Step 2 "Hi, my nam… | /r/seduction | 06/10/21 11:29 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Hey there buddy, Your posts is charged with assumptions of what dating should be, what is expected and what is expected of you. I am here to tell you that any activity you start in life can be perceived very differently depending on what kind of pre assumptions you go with about it Example: I had assumption all my life that learning to bike is painful, that my knees will bleed and I will fall, this resulted in life long anxiety and not willing to be around bike discussions let alone invitation t… | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 09:01 PM |
| 8 | [deleted by user]Never thought I would find Patrice o Neal mentioned in this sub, I listened to his interviews and participation in radio shows about dating | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Apart from paying for the services of an escort, what's a good plan of action for an average looking guy to lose his virginity?Hey there buddy, My belief is some guys looking for losing their virginity are actually seeking ownership of their self esteem, validation, self acceptance and self confidence. My question to you is what is it you really seek to gain from losing your virginity ? Will paying a professional help you gain it ? What does being a virgin makes you feel like ? Why is it problematic ? I am asking in purpose to trigger a search to the root of your request, I think it's worth it to reflect on the root. Of… | /r/seduction | 05/10/21 08:09 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Issues start when we try to control things we can not control. Don't overthink much, what you can control is to explicitly mention what you are open to, what you want and move on with the day. Accepting all possible outcomes is a life honed skill. | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 07:02 AM |
| 1 | How to reply if a girl says she thought you were gay?Appreciate the compliment, have fun with it, say "me too" :) The guiding principle for me is to not overthink and to focus on making things fun for me ! If a girl likes you or not, your reply won't change her mind much, you can only control how much you have fun out of random interactions ! | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 12:37 PM |
| 2 | How do you not lose your shit when talking to a 10?Once you get to be the owner of your worth, and at peace with yourself. You will stop giving other people the ownership to decide who you are and your value. Once you know who you are and your value, then you will be okey whatever happens and whoever you meet. Also with time and meeting a lot of people, you will treat everyone equally as your equal. All this will make your overthinking drop down, less overthinking means more focus on you having fun. At the end of the day, it's all about having f… | /r/seduction | 02/10/21 06:30 AM |
| 1 | How do I seduce a man if I am too shyI can see very similar patters between us, I was the mute guy for many years, so much that it became a prison and I could not share anything with people I think you need to go through small Exposing steps to gain your social confidence and win over your social anxiety and fears of being judged. Basically you want to practice opening up to people about your issues, it's a learning process to open up, share your fears and feelings as silly as they sound and try to be yourself with them without bei… | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 03:56 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Could you detail your question a bit more and give it context, The interest is in the eye of the beholder I believe. They actively give interest to something or not, it's relative to everyone, what interests you might not interests another and vice versa | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 01:01 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to "you're tall"?Smile and say "thanks ! ! appreciate the compliment, I have been working hard on my morning stretching routines, you are also tall (or compliment something else ) " | /r/seduction | 01/10/21 09:49 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Don't overthink it, don't make any assumptions. Take the offer as it is, do you want to go ? Then go Don't decide what is on the other person's mind, just go there and see it. You are fully equipped to understand what is happening when it happens. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 07:47 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]This question is on point, It's quite awkward and uncomfortable to approach or be approached by people in the street or in public. A lot of the YouTube videos actually hire actors when displaying it, and they only select the good shots. Now there are a few factors, first is genuine opportunity: where the encounter happens by itself, spontaneous ly, like bumping into each other on a dance floor or at campus, or waiting in line side by side for drinks, or you genuinely having a question at a fair.… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 07:42 AM |
| 0 | If I always get compliments from gay men, am I attractive?Attraction is in the eye of the beholder, Some people find you attractive and others not, Attraction is also your style and charisma, your confidence and attitude, The most attractive people to me can smile, joke about their defaults and be confident in the most embarrassing situations | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:50 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Doing things just because someone is hot and it's a nice story should be balanced with not doing things because it can cause harm and regrets. The middle ground, if you are really interested is to talk to the teacher after you graduate. Also bear in mind, its likely your teacher is getting harassed on a daily basis by the douzens of students who want to have sex with her and you don't want to add to that. This person has a duty to keep teaching regardless of who is in the class or what happens, … | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Meet a girl who just clicked. Should I stop my game?Hey there buddy ! Personally, I think "better" is a relative term. And I think one can hardly tell who is a good partner for them or not at least on the short term. Sometimes, many times actually I find myself selecting people I was infatuated or admiring, but that were not necessarily good partners for me, rather it would be toxic and harmful for both parties. Everyone can be nice and well in the short term, and infatuation can make one blind to incompatibilities. with time an staying with a pa… | /r/seduction | 27/09/21 09:10 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It really depends on the experience of a first time, and the perception of the experience. Because of pressure and expectations, the experience might be underwhelming for some, and then that can play in a person's head and not help with becoming more comfortable | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 10:17 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Cheers and remember to celebrate the journey in all it's microscopic steps | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 09:27 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I went through a phase where I was seeking the answer and there was always another book, I ended up accumulating Soo many books and reading none. I just felt like I had hand brakes on or wheels going backwards, does it sound familiar ? From my personal experience, just like the laws of newton, I was subject to forces in life, forces that drove me forward and forces that drove me backwards. Now reflecting back at it these forces were mostly internal, and emotional, I had unresolved fears and inse… | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach seems so simple, yet so challengingWatching videos is the issue my friend ! Don't obsess about it, just live your life and make sure to replace overthinking with actions that make you challenge yourself ! | /r/seduction | 20/09/21 11:28 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Here are some cues, these cues require a state of mind adjustment, of being laid back and enjoying oneself Body language, being confident in ones skin, completely accepting ones flaws and owning them, being secure about ones body, this is gold, my previous crush was number 1 at this, its just Soo damn attractive and am learning from it. This shows in the way a person moves around, posture, walks, hand position, stands tall, dances, it shows and one can feel it. Smiling, such a big game changer f… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone chosen a job to meet someone? What have been your experiences with dating coworkersHey there buddy, here is my take Don't put pressure on yourself to get married at a certain age, this is a too big of a pressure Putting pressure on oneself makes people blind, desperate and in love with ideas of themselves being in a couple or in love, not with people. This attitude pushes people away and is toxic for the people who stay. Pressure and desperation are recipes for disasters, Do not go to a company with expectations that it will fix your personal situation, this setting up for dis… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:44 PM |
| 1 | How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem?Hey there buddy, Look at from this angle, the low self esteem state you are in now is like tinted glasses, the human mind is geared to keep status quo and to find narratives. One top shelf narrative is about being broken somewhere, and a very common trap is comparison, for a lot of guys we find ourselves comparing to folklore, Hollywood, pornhub and other guys stories. While this tendency is self destructive, it serves a purpose for our human mind, to keep the narrative stable by finding a culpr… | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Should I be bothered with my girlfriend's male best friend?If you send kiss emoji to your friends, don't worry about someone else sending kiss emojis to theirs, It's a bit far fetched to make conclusions based on emojis. | /r/seduction | 22/08/21 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Today was an epic failureThe one big flaw in this story is the perspective of basing your happiness and self worth on the outcome of a single dimension of life. Stay away from such perspectives, they can get you locked in unhealthy loops, obsession, black and white view of reality. Cheers | /r/seduction | 17/08/21 08:05 AM |
| 28 | Approaching women is fun af!Your story is nice, I want to add some piece of generic advice for readers regarding people who work in horeca Someone posted recently about people who work in customer oriented job such as waitresses. They are paid to be nice, and they get a lot of awkward moments due to customers asking for dates. the least awkward way to go about your way to ask them out is to leave your number on a note when you leave. | /r/seduction | 12/08/21 11:48 AM |
| 1 | How to not lose frame when a dude is flirting with a girl in your groupJust remember this next time ! Since we all likely will see many dudes talk to our crushes in future time! You are there to have fun, regardless who is there, anything else is beyond your control. You are at a club go talk to other people, dance enjoy it, In fact once you open up to your crush, and made your case, that's all you can do, from there on, it's their call. And once you know you guys are no good fit then fair enough you don't have to think about anymore | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 12:51 PM |
| 4 | Where to meet women if don’t drink and no online apps?I believe friends is the answer you are not seeing or disregarding. Friends are the most simple way to grow your social circle and social network. Which will bring you more growth opportunity, adventure and people in your life as a side effect. But Friendship in itself is intrinsically valuable, it teaches you about life, about social life, about relationships, about romantic life and it allows you to be part of society, as well as build your reputation and recommend you to opportunities. | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 12 | Settle this debate: me(m24) and my friends (m+f’s 30+) all tell me I should pick up chicks while I’m working but I feel that’s not cool. Who’s right?This is where nuance is important in life. As a people oriented job that is the face of a business, Using/abusing work just to hit on customers is not professional and makes a bad reputation for the person and the business. That being said, one can be observant, and if a situation happens where a customer keeps coming back just to say hi and seems genuinely interested to hangout, one might consider spending a bit more time together that may endup in a friendship or a romantic relationship. Obser… | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 09:05 AM |
| 2 | Is approaching a girl in the gym a good idea?So these kind of discussions, need context because some people read litterally and do not see nuance Going around all girls in the gym everyday will make a reputation of a creep in your neighborhood, your city and might get you kicked out Also, don't use gym as an excuse to hit on girls. The nuance is, you are working out, you meet this other person, you keep bumping into each other for weeks, she smiles at you, you get to say hi and introduce yourself, but don't push more, again this no speed d… | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 09:52 PM |
| 4 | How to take advantage of my dancing skills at raves?Dude you are fine don't overthink too much, and don't obsess too much These are your pitfalls, You may consider socializing a bit more, starting with baby steps, just to improve your social skills, just friends of friends, and even talking to your friends Is good. There is no secret, it will happen naturally, practice to share your thoughts and feelings and not judge yourself. Also big one : try activities where you suck at, things that scare you ! That's where you will develop inner confidence … | /r/seduction | 05/08/21 02:59 PM |
| 1 | I think my boss wants to fuck meAsk yourself what's important in the long run of your life, There will be many temptations in life, each one comes at a cost. Think of the costs for the boss, colleagues and the business as well, every choice impacts others, not just you. Whatever you do, know that it comes with consequences and you will learn something from it, if you chose to | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Why is it STILL scary to approach girls after 20+ approaches?Hey buddy ! I think there are different elements in play when you approach a stranger. There are many reasons for a stranger not to respond to a stranger, The outcome of the approach does not necessarily define how good you were approaching. When one tries to grow his comfort zone, it's better to grow in small steps rather jumping into the ocean not knowing to swim. In fact this is sometimes how people develop more anxieties rather than solve them. The trick is in finding enough challenge but no… | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 06:58 AM |
| 1 | How do I break out of the nice guy vibe?Based on this definition it is not clear enough still There is one common interpretation of nice guy based on low self esteem, not sharing ones needs and feelings and focusing too hard on others, putting them on pedestals, and praising them for existing. This also involves being very indirect and expecting people to reciprocate the amount of effort attention and care which is usually excessive and obsessive. | /r/seduction | 02/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 1 | How do I break out of the nice guy vibe?Your question really depends on what kind of nice guy you think you are ! What are common behave you do you think are nice guy behaviors ? | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Anybody turned shit around at 30 ?Starting change is step 1, a lot of people benefit from a big boost motivation, that is a really good starter fuel, though limited, while that is good keep in mind The biggest enemy is the voice in the head saying this is not possible, and saying all your efforts are worthless or not good enough. Finding excuses to stop you, this voice is your immunity to change, our brains do not like change, they will resist fiercely and use many dirty tactics, this is going to be a hell of a fight full of sur… | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 08:47 AM |
| 2 | How do you respond to “I’m not looking for anything serious”Option 1 Make it clear that you looking for LTR, Option 2 Make it clear you are not just a booty call and look for more You can not control others but you can make things clear, that will push some people away but that's oke since they don't fit your needs. | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 06:41 AM |
| 6 | Restaurant seductionIf you go to a restaurant or wherever it is, best thing to do is not overthink and be yourself. The less you think, the more you will relax, the more you relax the more you will be able to enjoy, the more you enjoy, chances are the other person will enjoy too. One issue with dating tips, is people take them like instructions and start to behave robotically, that does come awkward and puts pressure on people, something like stage pressure. So just do the following, trust yourself that you are a g… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 06:09 AM |
| 1 | I fucked a 10/10 last night. Unbelievably hot. I used to post in /r/foreveralone. She's going to stay over this weekend and we're going to fuck again. Help me make her lust for me.Take a deep breath, once you resign that you have no control over a situation, and go out of your own head, you will enjoy the moment more and be at peace with the uncertainty. Humans have trouble in letting go and dread the feeling of loosing something or someone. The more you try to control a situation the worse it goes. Don't think too much, do some other activities, take some time off, sometimes intense events in life skew once perspective, especially if they spend the next days reliving it.… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 09:21 PM |
| 2 | I have a date soon and I want it to end in sex. Any tips?The best date is the date you enjoy without overthinking, without acting as in a video game or a chess game where you pre calculate your moves. Each date is a training to be yourself, not your best self, just yourself. don't force things, don't come with an agenda, instead enjoy the moment, accept you have no control on the other person and enjoy the thrill of not knowing what's gonna happen. If you are having fun, the other person will likely have fun too ! Don't focus or obsess on your "end go… | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 07:38 AM |
| 17 | How to act sexy in front of your partner to make their mind run wild?It depends on the person, for some people it's the clothes you wear, for some others it s the voice, for some it's the words, the dirty talk, for others is the way you move your body, for others its touch, some like sweat, some like smell, some like wet, some like to be dominated, some like submissive. You can either try till you find it or just Ask them what they find sexy and act accordingly ! Also use the element of surprise!! Attack when they least expect it If all fails Whisper in their ear… | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 06:53 AM |
| 35 | How to have harder and healthier boners?There are many factors ! Some physical and some mental For physical, it's about blood flow, you want to maximize bloodflow, by being active physically and having a healthy body fat level, staying hydrated, you can also do kegels to train the muscles and learn to control them. For mental you want to avoid overstimulation through porn, and you want to wire your brain to real experiences, porn is an extremely high stimuli like hard drugs, it makes real life experience bland. Once porn became normal… | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 05:36 AM |
| 1 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierI suggest to just show your intention right upfront in a direct text, or have it up a phone call The back and forth is not a necessity, most adults want to know what you are up to and then make their mind. You just introduce yourself as per your previous interaction, and mention what you liked about her, and that would want to know her more ! You do it like a message in a bottle and then you stop thinking about it and continue life as normal. You will have more of those situations in the future … | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a girl who seems interested doesn't ask any questions?Don't overanalyze it ! Just set the logistics of the date and have a call before | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 01:55 PM |
| 1 | How to Overcome Anxiety and Fear of RejectionStart by talking about it to friends, and learn to approach people to make new friends.l and share with them your weaknesses. That's a good step | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Best way to approach a girl in a case like this?Hey there fellow ! You need to set yourself free ! You do it by resigning to think of the best ways and ideal scenarios for the rest of the days, instead just take action and trust yourself that you will be able to face whatever happens. You can not control how people react, you can only work on your side, By resigning, let go of thinking, you will be able to be yourself and that's the most important thing, | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierIn general I would not recommend hitting on staff when they are on duty, their job is to smile back and be pleasant. For texting, the most important is to not identify with your text, don't overthink it, say the first thing that comes to mind, get to the point ask to meet or call, that's it | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 01:10 PM |
| 1 | I’m a good looking dude but get no pussyGood luck on your quest, and take it easy on yourself, making peace with inner BS surprisingly helps to get past it more gracefully, low pressure, low expectations and small steps for the win ! Remember you are okay now and everyone has a bit of inner BS with them, it's just you don't see it immediately sometimes, or they don't make a big deal of it | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 08:59 AM |
| 14 | I’m a good looking dude but get no pussyOkey this is a good start, By tackling these 2 insecurities, you will go a long way in life. Make a list of things that scare you, activities you think you suck at or think you cannot do out of fear. Start with small ones. Like some people dont cook, because they don't want to fail, same for singing and dancing. Whatever it is that you see others do that you think you cant do or scared to do! For me it was biking, cooking, singing, dancing, socializing... I was so afraid of fallling I never lear… | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 05:38 AM |
| 11 | I’m a good looking dude but get no pussyYour challenge is to find where your insecurities comes from. Is it lack of experience ? Is it fear of failure ? Not feeling good enough ? Something else ? | /r/seduction | 22/07/21 05:19 AM |
| 1 | How to stop looking like a creepHi there ! 2 things ! Feedback is subjective, there could be many things that creep a person and not everything creeps everyone ! Feedback is as important as it is detailed ! You should ask the people who reported which exact behaviors they saw as creepy. In general if someone gives you an observation you want to know why, Was it something you said, the way you said it, was is something you did, the way you did it ? Some wide spread creepy behaviors, is touching people beyond their boundaries, f… | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 07:54 AM |
| 15 | Women at the gym.You dont want to creep on people anywhere in general, and especially in places were people have to go to and cannot change easily like a gym or an office. You don't want to become someone source of anxiety and a reason for not going to the gym. This is to say it s important to know the consequences of your choices. In general situations you don't want to reach out of your way to approach people, they can feel you reaching, and that drains you too much. What you want to learn is social calibratio… | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Interesting snap shot into mind of woman who cancelled on me.Indeed, the mind always tries to make sense of events even uncorrelated ones. This what magicians exploit to trick the brain through illusions, this is also where superstition thrives as well. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 02:38 PM |
| 46 | Interesting snap shot into mind of woman who cancelled on me.You are better off not looking much in other people's twitter posts nor reading into them and overanalyzing them. Your time and energy are more valuable than that. | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 01:12 PM |
| 1 | shes flaked on my twice then starts talking to me againPersonally am against chasing, be it one or multiple women or potential friends. Start seeing your time and energy as a reward for other people investing in you, rather than an investment in other people for them to reward you. Making offers, inviting for dinner, for doing something together used to be like a spam I send everywhere very frequently. Now it's a reward. With time you will realize the value of your time and energy, and no one should get them for free, especially people who did no ef… | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Should I (F22) start acting like a b**tch to get the guy I want? Please explain why this works.As a person matures, they will become less tolerant of people who do not respond in their life, regardless if it's romantic interest or friendly interest. A healthy person would look for a person who reciprocate the same amount of energy and care in a relationship. Everyone wants ultimately and deep down to ha e a healthy relationship with a healthy person. For some people it takes more experiences to realize it . it's the healthy choice. Just like veggies, most people know it's healthy but only… | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Battling the misinterpretation dilemmaFair enough, not looking for debating your overthinking things, Here are my biggest takeaways! First, trust and first impression is very important in meeting new people, parking lot is a suboptimal place to start to say the least. Don't approach people in parking lots. Second is always assume there are many storylines possible, and if another person stops contact with you it s not necessarily because of the last thing you said. In fact there are many possible explanation to stop contact with a p… | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 07:31 AM |
| 3 | Battling the misinterpretation dilemmaYou are overthinking/overanalyzing this too much, Letting go is a lifelong skill, Take a breather, take a walk, spend some time with friends and move forward with life. | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 06:51 AM |
| 2 | How to get rid of insecurities?2 things! Number one : self care will make you more self centered and less need for external validation, less affected by what others think Number two: share your insecurities with people, that will make less of a bit deal in them, that will allow you to learn from others, that will allow them to learn to under you and that will bring people closer to you. | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 09:22 AM |
| 4 | Got canceled day of. Was my follow up the right way?The way you replied is not that important in the grand scheme of things, As the other comment mentioned, learn to go with the flow, Do not invest more thought in it for now. And not chasing the shadow of your ideal scenarios. With time you will learn to accept the changes of plans. Letting go is a lifelong skill in life. | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Does Career Status Boost Attraction?Here is the trap ! Some people change after their career gets boosted, and can catch arrogant behaviors, looking down at people, entitlement...etc If one can remain true to themselves, a career boost with a nice attitude is a bonus, but being true to yourself, good values and fun is the core, everything else is bonus | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 09:00 PM |
| 1 | A random girl slept on my shoulder in bus what should I do?Well, if a girl is reaching out to you and actively making plans or asking to meet that is a start. This shows general interest. If a girl does contribute to making plans that are exclusive to the 2 of you and involve close contact, you don't run to conclusion but count is a extra points. This shows higher interest If a girl sticks by you when you do activities together or go to events, and follows you when moving to some other place or offer to continue the night at her place or in some bar, no… | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 07:26 PM |
| 105 | A random girl slept on my shoulder in bus what should I do?This is a life long learning of social calibration. For starters Random Sleeping on shoulder does not mean a person wants you. A person asking your number or asking to hangout means exactly that and nothing more.. Always take things for what they are, and stay away from the trap of romanticizing every gesture to the point of a "thank you " becomes "yes marry me" | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 10:57 AM |
| 2 | A woman’s brain is wired to get with people who increase her chance of survival, And they look at the behaviors mostly to make their judgementDo mating calls ! Shout like tarzan ! stop showering for a bit ! On a serious note, you need to start seeing people as singular and different, Just like you are different with your ideas. Deep down you want to be appreciated for being you , because being you is enough, it's just that you don't realize it yet. | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 02:14 PM |
| 2 | This girl rejected me three times and I still took her home that night.Fair enough | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 10:28 PM |
| 21 | This girl rejected me three times and I still took her home that night.This advice story, as do all, is to be taken with a grain of salt, A lot of people look for quick simple instructions to just take litterally, that is a root issue underlying The first paragraph is a take on an exaggerated approach and then the rest of the post is anecdotal personal experience Anecdotal experience, as valid and beautiful written as it is can not make a basis for argument. Just as a broken clock gives the time correctly twice a day, The key in these life advices is nuance, with p… | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 09:37 PM |
| 1 | 22M virgin contemplating suicide.Stop right there and read this! What you feel is very relatable, and however valid it is, continue reading You need to consider your perception is skewed by your experience, and when perception is skewed it pushes people further and deeper into narratives to live up to, this is how people spiral ! You are one of those who speak out but a lot of people experience this spiraling with different variations. Many believe that the problem is virginity/experience in itself, hold it right there it's a T… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Make a move on a restaurant employeeKeep In mind that people in restauration business are paid to smile and be nice, and get quite a lot of customers acting lewd or creepy to them. They have to bear with it and can not change workplace for every comment they get. They can't really make a scene or react too negatively. Their job is on the line. Whatever you do, be considerate, discrete and mindful, this is a person at their workplace, and their work can be quite stressful at times. Also, don't confuse their politeness with reciproc… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 06:39 AM |
| 6 | I made a move on a girl that I liked and she got super mad at me.Life tip, don't make a move when you still have to take the person home afterwards, You did what you did and learned something, stop the blame train and the guilt trip. Making a move does not make you a bad person, you don't have to be perfect, and if you feel like you do it's time to question it. Don't stay too much in the "what if", don't overanalyze and overthink other scenarios, don't take life too seriously. Pat yourself for giving it your best shot, that was you best shot at that moment, c… | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 05:12 PM |
| 15 | Gay men seem to always be attracted to me. I am a straight guy. Why is that?Short answer: straight men like women, gay men like men. Don't overthink things too much, and don't take events personally. | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Do you use dating apps? If so, how do you not allow them to crush your self esteem and drive you insane?The issue with online dating is to use it from a perspective that it is selling you love or dates, while it is a business it won't deliver those, those are by products that are out of the business scope. The scope is to have people hooked to the gambling mechanics and to convince them to get premium account by design of the app. That being said, if one is aware of his own faults and weaknesses and is able to visit a casino once in a while with just a couple coins, for the fun of it not for sake … | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 07:36 AM |
| 4 | How do most guys get a girlfriend even if they make so many mistakes?You make an assumption that a mistake is like game over, The assumption is incorrect, everyone does mistakes, because we are humans. There are many incorrect assumptions that we spread and build our life on top of. Hopefully you understand that you don't need to be perfect or an expert to get into a relationship. Relationship is something that happens, regardless of the amount of mistakes or achievements. It just happens. Just like you make friends at school, it just happened | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 01:27 PM |
| 23 | Where to meet quality girls.Good girls is a relative definition, I consider my friends good girls and they go to different places including bars. People of different sorts are everywhere, in bars and outside, you never know where the most compatible person to you will come from, be welcoming and let yourself be surprised, forget labels and just discover people when you hang out where you are. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 08:34 AM |
| 8 | What makes girls interested in a guy who's got nothing to offer besides being good looking?All the best to him, but remember your energy is better spent on yourself rather than thinking about others and comparing. | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 06:59 AM |
| 4 | Unpopular dating opinions I've gathered over the yearsThese are quite popular dating opinions, some of them keep popping in this sub. Also some of these are assumptions and narratives,, beware of the dangers of narratives, people like to fulfill the narratives they say | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...Reminded me of some Patricice O'Neal bit ! | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 06:55 PM |
| 8 | I keep making out with girls at the bar, but can’t closeMy opinion is once you get to making out, first enjoy it, celebrate it, then remember that there are many factors out of your control that a person may or may not take it further. There is a video game narrative that a secret combination will crack the code and get you to sex. This is only true in dating simulators. This narrative is control oriented and narrow minded. Just like a video game. In reality, If you are going to bed, you want the other person to be fully committed, and if they back d… | /r/seduction | 19/06/21 05:54 PM |
| 7 | Is it just me or for every dating advice there is an opposite advice?The keys to life are in nuance and balance. Also known as Nubalance :p | /r/seduction | 19/06/21 05:45 PM |
| 5 | “Do women like muscles?”Hey OP, Generalizations will not get you much further in your quest, it's sounds more like a rant. At some point when you start making assumptions, you might use this narrative as justification. And use confirmation bias as defense mechanism. Don't be that guy. Don't let rejection transform you Work out to be healthy, take care of yourself, if you like to look better for yourself do it, don't look at others or compare yourself, don't let muscles become an insecurity don't dwell on what women thi… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Beware of overthinking and overanalyzingFair point ! Will add it to post ! | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 08:46 AM |
| 3 | Beware of overthinking and overanalyzingHey there, thanks for putting in time to read and react ! You do point fingers on other issues, I will not disagree on those, but these are a bit on the side of my main point, which is that over analyzing and overthink are unhealthy To answer your question, of what is this based ? We base our opinions on our experiences, experiences of others and our learning. In fact this is based on personal and shared experience with anxiety and obsessive patterns, along with a few courses about anxiety and m… | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 08:33 AM |
| 4 | Unable to approach women even if they're showing obvious signs of interest (help)Small steps buddy, Just start by learning saying hi to everyone, not just girls, without thinking what could happen The reason you don't approach is fear of the unknown and fear of rejection. Also you are looking at a mountain from far away. You are not going there to ask people to marry you or have sex with you. Once you get close enough to a mountain, you realize it is not as steep from close, and that you could internalize saying hi by doing it over and over again, until it becomes a reflex. … | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 06:08 AM |
| 6 | Alone with a girl alone should I make a movdYou can tell yourself anything you want. It will not change the question mark in your head. Sharing your feelings and asking is proof that you respect and trust your friend, and proof that you are willing to be oke with the answer however it turns. It also will liberate you from having repressed feelings, and allow you to move on from what ifs. In fact, it can make you better friends at the other end of it. I know it might feel strange and scary, but once its out there it is there. Ask in person… | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Alone with a girl alone should I make a movdJust ask her, mention that you are attracted and ask how she feels. In all cases you win her respect by asking. | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Numbers to date conversion: what to improve in the interactionDude, it is no video game! Conversion is not within the sole result of what you do. In fact there is little that is under your control in terms of outcome. Don't frustrate, it's a trap that can make you bitter in the long run. Accept that some people are unavailable or uninterested regardless of how valuable you are. | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 01:32 PM |
| 14 | I paid for sex again, and it's making things worseHaving sex or masturbating, will trigger an effect that will want you to have more. That's how people can easily get addicted to porn, or to paid sex, or any addictive pattern. Personally, staying off porn/masturbating for a few months helped me reset and not think about it that much. Of course, this is an instant high rewarding mechanism, and your primal brain will fight for it's life to get back to it or replace it with another instant gratification. Removing instant gratifications, will uncov… | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 05:50 AM |
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