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She has said that wearing a T-shirt as a casual look, like to the grocery store, is not elegant. She has also said that wearing this to a sporting event/safari is acceptable. She pushes for wearing appropriate clothing for every occasion, including galoshes when it rains. The t-shirt controversy is my pet peeve lol. Everyone made such a big deal out of misinterpreting what she said. She said "if you want to be ELEGANT then you can't wear them outside the home" and somehow half of the audience tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:24 PM
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WAS you, maybe. You said “my ex”; you’ve moved up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:07 PM
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I always say it's not really a "gift" unless the person giving it receives zero benefit. "I got you this knife set so you can use it to cook me dinner!" = not a gift. "Here's a Pelaton, but I'm also going to use it so it's a gift for the both of us!" = not a gift. "I got teeth whitening for myself, but really it's a gift for you because now I look better for you!" = not a gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:39 PM
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Agreed. And the lack of good role models is compounded by negative “role models” who say things like “welcome to the real world, this is what dating is like. All I got was Burger King. You aren’t better than me, you deserve even less for thinking you are, so you aren’t allowed to want/expect anything better.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:50 PM
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I think I commented this in a weekly discussion but I’m going to say it again here: instead of meme-free Monday, I would like the mods to consider every day being meme-free and making a sister sub for memes (or redesignate Monday as memes-allowed Monday)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:17 PM
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How are you seeing his social media?? Block/delete. If it's friends telling you about it after seeing him in their own feeds, ask them to block/delete him also. There was a post this week about a woman being stalked by an ex who was looking through the sister's social media to find out where/when they were going on vacation. If they insist on following his socials to "keep tabs on him" or something, ask that they not bring him up to you while you're recovering from your breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:18 PM
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You read my mind lol. The parents are in “do as I say, not as I do territory”. They just pay the bill for everyone when the guy asks, then continue to go out with him, wash rinse repeat, and then wonder why the daughter tolerates his stinginess. Well, you’re modeling tolerating it over and over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:05 PM
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She didn’t say tests results mean you have an HVM, she said HVM will give test results. If-Then statements only go one way; “IF you have a golden retriever, THEN you must have a dog” doesn’t translate to “IF you have a dog THEN you must have a golden retriever”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:41 PM
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Yes they do, but the question was “are these girls mature?” And the answer is no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:13 PM
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Agreed. Both of those girls, while gifted artists, are incredibly immature. No stable, mature woman writes an entire album with lyrics like, “I’m crying over you every night on my bedroom floor!!” And then, she shares it with the entire world. Some women may journal similar thoughts but they would be embarrassed to air their dirty laundry like that. She’s been wallowing in post-relationship grief for years, much longer than what would be healthy or normal for a mature person. Even listening to i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:32 PM
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Her next letter: “my husband feels that my daughter shouldn’t live with us anymore. He thinks the space comprising her living quarters is ‘wasted,’ as well as the groceries I buy to feed her. Am I wrong?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:25 PM
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he says he isn't getting anything in return and the money is wasted "nothing in return" except living in this woman's $650,000 house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:21 PM
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I googled it and the average number of US students who take gap years is only 35 thousand per year, while 3.7 million students graduated from high school this year. That less than 1%. I don’t know anyone from my school who did it, you either went to university immediately or never went at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:14 PM
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Exactly. I guess the credit monitoring bureaus, car loan officer, mortgage broker, admissions office, dog breeder, and scholarship trustees are all just Wild and Crazy Guys going along with the gf’s impulsive schemes. Those people totally don’t have reputations for ruthless vetting of applicants. They just go with the flow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:14 PM
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You have a point about postgrad, I was assuming it was undergrad since he said “in college” instead of “when I was in grad school”. At least in the United States it’s fairly unusual to be 23 and still in undergrad because most students enter at 18 and graduate in four years at 21; there are extenuating circumstances but it’s not the norm, and I’m not about to give this LVM the benefit of the doubt. But what’s definitely creepy is hitting on someone who’s an 18-year-old freshman undergrad when yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:38 AM
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I call BS on “we met in college”. He’s 5 years older than her and they met “a decade ago” when she was 18. He was 23 when they met. Translation: “we met when SHE was a teenager in college and I was an adult still hanging around with college-age guys despite already graduating (or possibly dropping out). I was the creepy adult hitting on teenagers at a party and this one stuck”. “We didn’t start dating until 4 months ago because she wanted to experience life” = “she wanted to date someone in her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:14 AM
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Not just breezed her way in, but “just randomly” got a full scholarship to graduate school at a top-tier university for creative writing. Did her portfolio just poof into existence? Did it accidentally fall on the desks of the admissions board by mistake? You can’t just “impulsively” apply for grad school, they design the application process to weed people out who aren’t serious. Maybe uploading the documents was easy but writing the admissions/scholarship essays was certainly hard work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:02 AM
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“CEO at Self Employed” if I remember correctly 😂 On a serious note, considering how infrequently men are actually penalized for comments like this (and how much other men celebrate these attitudes), it’s more effort than it’s worth to meddle because you just look weird/obsessed. Block and report does the trick because it deprives them of the attention they’re seeking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:14 AM
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Agree with everything except ordering wine. Don’t drink around men you’re not married to (post FDS-vetting), it’s not safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:40 AM
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Came here to say this. However, every reply these guys get counts as “engagement” for the algorithm and boosts their comments straight to the top for more people to see. NEVER reply even if you feel like you “have to”. I was on LinkedIn (of all places) and saw a man comment on an article, saying, “women are too dumb to make any financial decisions.” There were 20 butthurt women replying “aRe NoT!!!” in the comment section, but all that did was boost his hate speech to the top spot. I reported it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 11:31 PM
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You've got 169,000 of us behind you. Godspeed, sis, and enjoy your new life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:09 PM
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For some reason Reddit isn't letting me copy and paste text from old comments/posts into the body of a new one. If you can do it and want to use the comment above make a separate post, you have my permission!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:05 PM
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An ex was texting a family member of mine repeatedly, trying to get to me. He knew her pickme/societal conditioning would leave her too scared to not reply because it would be “rude”. She wouldn’t listen to me when I said to stop replying and insisted on keeping candid pictures she had taken of us (me and the guy) when I asked her to delete them. So, I blocked his number and deleted the pictures on her phone when she left the room. Ask me how much I regret that (0%)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:03 PM
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Sadly it’s one that usually only raises its head when you’ve already moved in together Something you can do is test his reaction to a situation that doesn't directly involve you. If you say "oh, my friend Lisa called and told me her boyfriend thinks she doesn't do enough chores." If he replies saying she should "cOnTrIbUtE mOrE" or that it's "tHe WoMaN's JoB" then leave (a good reply doesn't necessarily mean HVM either, just that he isn't LV in this exact area. Proceed with vetting, with caution…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:44 PM
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What do you do As everyone else said, block and delete. But also, stay mad. Journal about how hurt you feel by this, how betrayed you feel, and how unhappy you are about it. If you ever consider going back to him (or discover something similar about a new guy) make sure you'll remember how you feel about this situation and how bad it is so that you aren't tempted to rekindle the relationship or "make it work". never let "maybe it wasn't so bad..." cross your mind. Tell yourself "yes it was, than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:33 PM
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Call your phone carrier company and ask them about blocking a specific number. That way it shouldn't even go to your phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:47 PM
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Buying me gifts that relate solely to his hobbies not mine, and expecting me to appreciate it(e.g. he bought me an expensive watch, i don't even wear watches wtf) I've seen this happen a lot with women I know. I always say it's not really a "gift" unless the person giving it receives zero benefit. "I got you this knife set so you can use it to cook me dinner!" = not a gift. "Here's a Pelaton, but I'm also going to use it so it's a gift for the both of us!" = not a gift. "I got teeth whitening fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:37 PM
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Ladies, note that he found this information on the social media of the sister, not the woman he's stalking. If you end a relationship, make sure that your friends and family block and delete also. If you use social media and a woman you know breaks up with someone, block and delete the ex and his friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:30 PM
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Saying "I don't know how to cook" is like saying "I can't follow written directions". Not enjoying cooking is one thing, but not being able is ridiculous. Unless the recipe is for some kind of Michelin Star restaurant French dessert, the directions are at a fifth-grade reading level and probably include pictures. If he can't follow instructions like "mix dry ingredients in a large bowl" then how does he have the capacity to handle an adult relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:16 PM
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This lady is going to die in a hospital one day because she's unconscious and her husband can't be counted on to provide an accurate medical history
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:25 PM
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Because in her mind the "rEaL JoSh" is the guy she met on their first date, and the man he is now is some kind of imposter. She wants to get the "real him" back and thinks its' possible because she's seen him act right before. But what she doesn't understand is that the current behavior is the "real him" and his good behavior before was the mask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:03 PM
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I read advice subs from time to time and soooo many men start showing their true colors after the baby is born Based on posts I've seen here, the men show plenty of signs during the early stages of the relationship, but the wife either misses them or chooses to ignore them (possibly after being pressured by pickme family members). The abuse may intensify after the baby is born, but it's usually preceded by behaviors that are identified in the handbook as red flags and deal-breakers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:15 PM
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Can someone link "The Mental Load"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:21 PM
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The rookie mistake I see 100x per day in this sub is assuming that every rule/statement is supposed to work in reverse. Someone says "A HVM will pay for your dinner" and then there's someone replying, "that's not true, a guy paid for my dinner and he was low value!!" That's not what OP said!! "HVM -> pays for dinner" does NOT automatically reverse to "Pays for dinner -> HVM". These are NOT bidirectional claims. All oranges are fruits, but not all fruits are oranges. All HVM have the essential HV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:19 PM
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did not spend even a quarter of what I did to prepare for our 'date' (clothes, cosmetics, hair removal, hair care etc). Exactly. This is my "contribution", those 64% need to reevaluate what that word means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:51 PM
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If our personal boundaries include "no condom-free sex until we're married and planning to expand our family" then it doesn't do them any good to lie, lol I see it as more of a "be pessimistic, that way any outcome other than the worst is a pleasant surprise" situation. For your safety you can assume they're lying, but if they're telling the truth then you get an extra layer of protection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:16 PM
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“She knew what she signed up for” except her entire life she’s been hearing societal messaging saying “you can CHANGE HIM” and “if you’re really THE ONE, he’ll become the perfect man who puts you above everything else”. In her mind, he was going to give up on all of that stuff after putting a ring on her finger, settling down, and getting his priorities straight. Instead he chose a Good Time and a chance at fame over their life together, and she’s “not allowed to be upset”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:10 PM
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They don't care much about how the risk affects the people in their lives. All of those people climbing Mount Everest and w/e have all decided that the risk and potential "glory" is worth dying for, but they never consider the havoc that their deaths wreak on others. What about their wife, who becomes a widow (and, potentially, indigent)? What about the parents who have to bury their son? The children who grow up without a father? What about the EMS and rescuers who have to risk their own lives …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:58 PM
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I've seen this argument before but it doesn't make any sense to me because of organ transplants. There was a woman on my local tv news yesterday talking about donating her kidney to her husband. I'm sure there are side effects from living with only one kidney for the rest of her life, but her surgeon is allowing her to do it to protect her husband's life. Why can't a man take a pill that gives him headaches to ensure that his wife doesn't become pregnant? Pregnancy is also a life-threatening con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:42 PM
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There are two disjoint schools of thought about education. In an article I read they called these two perspectives something like “rich-person mindset” and “poor-person mindset”. “Rich mindset” people believe that education exists for enrichment, teaching critical thinking, and building transferable skills. “Poor mindset” people believe that education is only vocational/job training. Everyone saying that someone’s education is “wasted” if they don’t use their degree for a 30+ year career in an i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:23 PM
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I read an article claiming schools are becoming “feminized”, but if anything they’re becoming more masculine. Back in the 1800s school was just sitting in desks all day memorizing poetry and chanting “2 + 2 = 4”. But now, making the children move around the classroom and get rowdy is touted as “essential to learning”. Little girls usually have no problem sitting still and memorizing; these changes are put in place to help the boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:11 PM
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Neither of his justifications make sense for the situation. “I don’t want to date a girl who needs an invitation” …then why are you inviting her out for coffee? “I don’t think men should pay” …so?? She never mentioned money or said you should pay, she wanted to change the venue for the date you invited her on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:58 PM
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I think OP's reply of "I do what it takes to achieve my goals" is a great dumb-fox option. You can also say "yes, this subject isn't for the faint of heart!" or "it can be difficult at times, but I find it so fascinating that I could never pick another field!" Another option would be to put the person on the spot by pointing out the neg exactly how OP explained it. "Hmm, do you think that's a fair question? Because if I tell you 'yes' I'll look conceited, but if I tell you 'no' then I look insec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:39 PM
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Wait. Is the baby here?? or is this some hypothetical baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:23 PM
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all of his ‘rules’ are really annoying and overwhelming. I’ve become incredibly anxious because of it. He gets nasty with me about how cleaning should be done. If it's already this bad and overwhelming for you, what do you think your life is going to be like once you're married? You have no reason to believe that this disrespectful treatment will end. Honestly, I think you need to reread the handbook and reconsider if this guy should be a fiance or an ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:10 PM
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For anyone reading this who’s currently putting up with this behavior but thinks it’s “more horrific to watch it happen to someone else,” just remember: that “someone else” could end up being your baby. Let it sink in, and then make your escape plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:43 PM
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“He shows his love in other ways, even if they’re not the ways I want,” So? What good is this to anybody? That would be like if your employer said "we know you want to be paid in United States Dollars, but we're going to pay you in Cheese of the Month subscription credits." Why would you accept any arrangement, dating or otherwise, where you don't get something of value in return for your time and effort?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:14 PM
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Responding to your edit: I literally saw a television news segment about lab-grown diamonds this morning. I was suspicious about all of their "oh look, it's identical, just as good!!" talk. What a shock, FDS confirming my gut feelings once again (in a different, yet related, field of expertise)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:07 PM
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I never thought about it before but this doesn't happen the other way around. Nobody is lurking in the Rolls-Royce Motor Cars Instagram page yelling at "@JoshJones17", like, "you should be happy with your Hyundai, you materialistic cow!!" "Take the subway like I did in graduate school."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:22 PM
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I'm so glad you appreciated it! The #1 priority is your safety and benefit. Honestly, I'd recommend staying off of OLD until you've fully internalized the handbook and know it back-to-front. You can meet men who your (trusted, FDS-minded) friends vouch for, but stay away from complete strangers who won't have to answer to anybody for treating you poorly. ​ I have a kind, loving brother who respects women, and I was raised by a wonderful dad You can use this to help you evaluate men. If you feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:37 PM
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I think you need to reread some handbook posts. There were a lot of things here that could have been handled differently right from the start: He seemed nice, immediately invited me out on a Friday night with his (mixed gender) friends. I told him it was too late notice to drive an hour and go drinking with strangers. Issuing an invitation too late shows he's inconsiderate of your time, or thinks you have nothing better to do than sit around and wait, on-call for him. Block and delete, and don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:18 PM
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That isn't a marriage at this point Agreed. He broke the terms of the contract. Why is she still beholden to her side of the deal when he can't keep his?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:45 PM
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I commented the following in the weekly thread, but I'm copying and pasting it here because it's relevant to your post: Was in another sub and saw a post from someone (presumably a woman) who went on a date. The man stole the chopsticks from the table as a “gift” for OP (she collects them) even though they’re available for purchase through the restaurant. OP says she told him she was uncomfortable but he said he thinks the gesture is “romantic”. The FDS response of “yes, theft is a dealbreaker, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:34 PM
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Honestly, most other subs are so poorly moderated that they probably haven't seen auto mods before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:27 PM
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First they were defending him before knowing his age, saying that “obviously he’s a dumb teenager” and it’s his “child’s sense of humor” so she needs to cut slack. But then when OP revealed he was 28 and she’s 30, only one person changed their mind. Everyone else is clinging to their original opinion, saying “he’s a child at heart, you have no sense of humor, break up with him because you don’t deserve him”. Meanwhile all the comments saying, “red flag, theft is wrong and he proved he’s untrustw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:24 PM
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it’s gonna be hard to find a guy like that/you’re gonna be alone It's going to be even harder for him to find a new job after his supervisor finds out he's doing shoddy repair jobs and won't give him a good reference. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:54 PM
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Genius move. Saved for future reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:52 PM
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Was in another sub and saw a post from someone (presumably a woman) who went on a date. The man stole the chopsticks from the table as a “gift” for OP (she collects them) even though they’re available for purchase through the restaurant. OP says she told him she was uncomfortable but he said he thinks the gesture is “romantic”. The FDS response of “yes, theft is a dealbreaker, plus he doesn’t care that you’re upset about it” is getting DOWNVOTED and the pickme saying “just communicate, stealing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:16 PM
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I bet there is a huge overlap between the 'not all men' scrotes and the ones that refuse to wear masks My conspiracy is that the Venn diagram of those men and men who don’t wash their hands before leaving the restroom is a circle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:29 AM
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you like to think that at the very least, it's a loss of control Lundy Bancroft absolutely demolished this idea in WDHDT, anyone who hasn’t read it yet needs to go to their local library tomorrow and check it out. He even talks about how strategically bruising women in areas covered by clothing proves that the man isn’t “out of control”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:07 AM
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he asked me to describe my worst date experience He’s trying to see how little you’ll accept and how much you’ll put up with. Sharing bad experiences lowers your value because it implies that you tolerate bad behavior and associate with LVM. Ladies, if you get asked this question, you can answer with something like “one time the waiter forgot our appetizer AND my entree! My date was so embarrassed that he suggested that restaurant”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:00 AM
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Someone mentioned elsewhere in the thread that weddings = your friends are getting married = you also expect to get married (and he doesn't want that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:41 PM
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3 months Straight from the horse's mouth; this is why we have this rule
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:51 PM
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affirm headship normative in the spheres of civil governance endowed I'll take "Words/phrases that have a better alternative" for $400, Alex. This reminds me of that post about men using Civil War quill-pen language when they argue online because it makes them feel intellectually superior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:47 PM
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You know who this reminds me of? Journalist Keith Morrison. He's 73 years old; if a female journalist had skin like that she'd never make it on the air, and yet Keith is doing primetime television. Compare his complexion to that of 79 year-old journalist Lesley Stahl; she's 6 years older but looks at least 10 years younger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:01 PM
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This is such a good analogy. Women are often blamed for starting “conflict” after confronting harmful behavior, but they’re not the ones causing the problem. The harmful behavior is sinking the ship and it won’t stop without intervention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:11 PM
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“Hubby”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:26 AM
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The HV option is waiting to date until it’s safe to do so. If it’s not safe to have a proper date, it’s not safe to date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:19 AM
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Yes. Instead of meme-free Monday, I’d like to see every day meme-free and then Monday is “meme Monday”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:23 PM
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He was yelling at me to come back, I kept walking, called me a few misogynistic slurs, golddigger Gold-digger = paying your own way?? 😂 he’s the real gold-digger here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:06 PM
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he hadn’t considered that if we were to do that he would need to take on the role of sole breadwinner for some time. Men who are in a 50/50 mindset are thinking only for themselves- not for 2 or 3 people- not for how to provide for a woman and potential child. Exactly. What if you get pregnant? What if you have complications and can’t go back to work regardless of original plans? If he’s not financially prepared to take on the responsibility of 100% financial support for a baby and mother then h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:16 PM
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