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I understand, Thanks I appreciate it
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/24 06:25 PM
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I would totally understand that, but I don’t live with him nor am I ever planning to move in with a guy before marrying me. Tbh I only see him for 3 hours twice a week (and the rare occasion of half a day on sunday) so it’s not attention that I need more than him seemingly enjoying being around me. I know this is still demanding and I’m upset it still gets to me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/24 06:13 PM
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I told him many times I’m okay with anything outdoorsy, I was never picky about a place or restaurant or distance. By dropping hints I really just mean acting cute and asking “where are you taking us this weekend”, I’m pretty aware of the importance of communicating what I want but I try and do it as nicely as possible. I’ve planned many outings to parks and cinemas and malls or the peer but in the last 3-4 dates I realized there’s a pattern of him being too upset or too tired when we go out and…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/24 11:52 PM
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I appreciate your comment a lot. It’s been hard navigating my first ever relationship while also being abroad so adjusting to an American culture. We do have shared values and goals which is very important and your comments encouraged me to be more compassionate rather than anxious.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 06:49 AM
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Thank you for your insight. Out of curiosity, would you still consider the degree hard even if it was done online? We are pretty aligned when it comes to future plans and I think that’s why I picked him from the start. I admire him a lot but I can’t deny that I found him complaining about money a bit unattractive, but I’m also learning how to be a good partner myself everyday.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 11:49 PM
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He is 24 and he is in university studying electrical engineering. I don’t think by any means that a supermarket job is his ceiling, he just didn’t have luck with other jobs while searching online (which I kind of sympathize with because I was only able to find a job through networking). I’m not going to break up with him right now just because he is going through a hiccup, but in the future if things stay the same, is it a valid reason to break up?
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 05:05 PM
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No, I’m so glad I got rid of that one😅
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 04:26 PM
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Not fretting over losing him, more so shocked at the rejection and kind of insults I got over something I thought I was being smart and mature about. I was told I can’t provide for a man, I have no right then to place any sort of expectations, and that me asking this because he “rescheduled” is absurd. Im still new to dating, let along dating white men and did not expect this to happen
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 08:53 PM
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I’m not sure if it’s the information really, I’ve been very fear mongered as a teenager about my pictures online (which are very appropriate pics of me in some vacations or outings) so that’s what I’m worried about in the socials. Do you think its a big deal? With the socials he’ll know my last name, which will be and easy identification of me in the future ig since it’s not english. I shared my job title and like the area but not exactly where and I don’t think I want to yet.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 09:47 PM
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Completely aware of that that’s why I’m asking about tips to find a middle ground here
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 07:34 PM
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Oh sorry if i haven’t clarified but I already met the guy and went on two dates with him. I’ve tried looking for socials but I only found a facebook page that hasn’t been used for like 2 years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 05:12 PM
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I have his first name and maybe last or middle name, I think I remember the car plate number. I tried to look for his socials but I only found a facebook page where he used to post work but hasn’t used it for a year or two. Is there like another way to do a background check just to stay on the safe side?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 05:08 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:58 PM
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I apologize for not doing so, My original post wasn't really aimed to help me with my specific problem, I have always wondered even prior to my break up if I should be tolerating this type of speech or changing my view to it wither in my previous relationship or to any future relationship if I end up having one. I'm sorry if I bothered you with mentioning or asking you about my specific or complicated situation
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:47 PM
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I do completely understand you point, I don't hold on blame to him for what he said but mostly on me. I appreciate you advice, but also, you said " don't expect anyone with a lot of self-respect to stick around if you carry that burden into the relationship", what makes a relationship last if we're never going to grantee them sticking by us when we go through our burdens and hardships? I can't grantee to any future partner that I'm going to be perfect, I would make a conscious effort to always i…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 01:28 PM
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It's a bit more complicated than that, I have depression and the current circumstances and covid made my situation a lot worse, I felt like I was processing a lot of hurt and grief from him and from the world and that I couldn't be as affectionate as I used to be, he decided that he can't wait for me to process things and get better and that the relationship is too hard on him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 12:55 PM
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Your response is very helpful and I agree with what you're saying. On another note how do you process your feelings after being told a blunt comment or statement? I try not to have a big ego I try to understand why he said this thing and recognize what I need to do be better but I can't deny it leaves a bad taste in my mouth, it makes me very resentful of myself to know that I wasn't as good as I thought I was and that I am very unpleasant to the person I was with
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 10:33 AM
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I'm not sure if I'm being incorrect, but respect to me is wanting to spare the other person's feelings, If I love and respect the person I would want to cause as little burden or as little hurt as I can because I worry about how they move on after I leave, I don't like the idea of ending relationships on bad terms or turning the other person into a sworn enemy/ saying they were so shitty because I care about the memories I had with them and I recognize that before the break up we were good for e…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 10:20 AM
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