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3 dates maximum. If there’s any chemistry I find that most girls are down to sleep with me on date one, some might want to save it for later but I can still tell that they want to. If there’s no movement towards sex by date 3 it’s a waste of time. The girl is either too insecure about men using her and thinks that’s what I’m going to do with her, she’s just looking for validation or she’s on the rebound and wants an emotional connection only. All just my experience with girls. Edit: I also like …
/r/seduction16/08/26 06:29 PM
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Chalk it up as a one off. Keep doing your thing. Onto the next!
/r/seduction12/08/26 06:20 PM
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You have to make kino fun and not forced. Did your physical touch have intention behind it and was it appropriate given the current context of the date? Example: you’re crossing the street with your date. It’s appropriate to hold her hand. Oh are you cold? Let me warm your hands up after she shivers etc etc Making it fun could be doing palm reading, comparing hand sizes, taking a look at her jewelry closer and complimenting her choices and why you like them so on and so forth.
/r/seduction12/08/26 02:49 PM
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It’s dishonest I don’t care for that. Just say what you want. If your want friends I’m gonna treat you like a friend
/r/seduction09/08/26 03:25 PM
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The new thing I’m seeing on there is a ton of chicks looking for friends and a lot of people saying they don’t drink if you ask them for drinks. Not drinking is chill, even admirable maybe. So that doesn’t bother me. But looking for friends is diabolical especially on apps like tinder. They’ll even match with me despite me saying that I’m looking to date only.
/r/seduction09/08/26 12:13 AM
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Side note: I made an exception with her by offering a Ramen date. Bro folded like a lawn chair smh
/r/seduction05/08/26 10:48 PM
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If you’re making friends with women easily you’re coming across as effeminate on some level. I can count the times I’ve been asked out on one hand. And if you count how many of those I would entertain I could be hand-less and make that work. Women expect you to do all the work and then some.
/r/seduction05/08/26 04:57 PM
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This has nothing to do with seduction.
/r/seduction01/08/26 10:25 AM
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I prefer 50/50 effort. Sometimes I initiate sometimes they initiate. You don’t want either party to be doing all the work all the time
/r/seduction28/07/26 04:51 PM
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What if the cockblock is hotter?
/r/seduction27/07/26 06:50 PM
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It has some pretty weird wording but the gist is to detach from the outcome. Having ice in your veins when it comes to women puts you at a huge advantage(if you've ever indulged in dating someone you don't really fuck with, you'll notice that you're a lot more likely to make that girl obsessed with you). Stoicism can help you deal with rejection, stay on your path of becoming a seducer, and you can vet dating prospects with a cool head instead of letting your heart lead the way.
/r/seduction27/07/26 06:56 AM
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Agreed. Books will only get you so far. You pretty much have to get a "PhD" in dating nowadays to get anywhere, and you get it by approaching in person. By PhD I mean that you discover your own method of seduction that's tailored to who you are and what you offer to the world.
/r/seduction25/07/26 07:43 PM
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A couple of factors at play here I’d imagine. You must be giving off good energy so your mental game is strong, you’re in a good location, you are thoughtful as you mentioned which makes you stand out, and at least slightly above average in looks if you’re exclusively using dating apps. I’m personally m34 in one of Colorado’s largest cities. I’m currently trying to get through a 6 month dry spell. I’ve been continuously stuck in a loop of asking people out, them giving me their number and then c…
/r/seduction12/07/26 11:05 PM
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Depends what you mean by approach. I’m 34M and it’s probably in the 50-100 range lifetime. Who the fuck knows for sure though. I’m counting things like girls starting conversations. I remember this one time in particular where a girl on the train approached me saying I looked familiar. I, as a young dumbass, thought she was out of her mind. So instead of playing along I told her I had no idea who she was. Plenty of times in my life where I didn’t even realize I was probably being approached. But…
/r/seduction03/07/26 06:24 AM
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Hype him up. Take it as a wing man W, and work the girls that he’s not choosing. He’ll attract a ton of girls, he gets first dibs you work with the other girls.
/r/seduction27/06/26 07:35 PM
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How do people date casually or do people date in general? The answer is confidence. I need you to develop a delusional sense of belonging. I want you to believe in yourself beyond a shadow of a doubt. I'm almost 34 and the only thing that has ever worked for me with women is being so confident it borders on arrogance. Hypnotize yourself into believing that you are everything you've ever wanted to be. Carry yourself like nothing phases you. Any obstacles in your way you'll overcome. If anyone doe…
/r/seduction27/06/26 02:45 PM
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No mistakes on your end tbh. It just works out that way. There is a luck component to dating. You’re lucky she didn’t string you along for years just to dump you all the same. She sounds delusional. The odds of finding a guy that could afford a farm like that is slim to none. She should hit up Jeremy Clarkson. I disagree with all the people in the thread that are saying you got played. IMO you have to take risks and let yourself fall for people. Otherwise dating is boring. Don’t be hard on yours…
/r/seduction25/06/26 11:31 AM
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We agreed pretty early on that neither of us was looking for anything serious and we’re mostly keeping it casual. she told me she hooked up with a guy less than a month ago and apparently it happened pretty quickly She actually seems pretty receptive to the idea of getting a hotel next time since neither of us really has a private place. You’re her little bitch boy. She says jump, and you say how high.
/r/seduction18/06/26 06:47 PM
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You do you man. I'd rather generate new leads than keep forcing it with women that are on the fence.
/r/seduction06/06/26 12:33 PM
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Exactly. You meet their criteria for a fun conversation, texting, whatever. But you're not what they're looking for sexually. Most men will fuck most women, most women will reject the advances of most men. Women love attention from almost anyone. Unless you're being a creep.
/r/seduction06/06/26 06:44 AM
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They’re using you for attention.
/r/seduction06/06/26 05:36 AM
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I’m willing to bet a lot of money that the time between relationships for a woman is much shorter than for a man. I’ve seen a hellavu lot of women jumping from one relationship to the next. I don’t see many of my male friends doing that shit
/r/seduction28/05/26 05:33 PM
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I went to a rave this weekend. One of my friends had an absolutely impeccable vibe. Both men and women responded incredibly well to him because he made everyone around him feel so good. He’s handsome too on top of it, but his aura did most of the work.
/r/seduction19/05/26 03:53 PM
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Girl you thiccer than a bowl of oatmeal
/r/seduction13/05/26 04:15 PM
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Challenge accepted
/r/seduction13/05/26 04:14 PM
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A friend of a friend in college slept with a homeless dude after which the homeless dude proceeded to kick her out of her own home. So it does happen. We always make fun of that chick.
/r/seduction12/05/26 02:27 PM
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Anywhere from 10 seconds to 5 years in my experience.
/r/seduction06/05/26 07:48 PM
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you’re probably not emotionally mature enough to even be having sex. Lmao this subreddit is pure entertainment. What's the next requirement, sweetie?
/r/seduction04/05/26 02:31 PM
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You gotta pay attention. You can constantly see dudes pulling in clubs. At a minimum you’ll see 1+ pull on a night out. It’s nowhere near as rare as you make it out to be.
/r/seduction03/05/26 02:01 AM
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Stay off social media.
/r/seduction28/04/26 08:16 AM
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read the energy, not the words This is good advice. Idk about the examples you list though. Most of those are gonna go nowhere even if you carry on the pursuit, unless you're dealing with a tease or a brat. Yes you do need to pursue these types if you want to maximize your conversions. But....I hardly think it's worth the effort to convert maybes to yes. It's so much easier to convert those that are yes from the start.
/r/seduction22/04/26 12:24 PM
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It’s a silly game. This should be a non factor, but women can’t detach from their lizard brain so you have to incorporate it into your game and have multiple options until you both agree to commit
/r/seduction15/04/26 01:43 PM
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Lol it's not a big risk but I'd personally rather invest it than get myself into a trick situation.
/r/seduction13/04/26 06:01 PM
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Just send it to me big dawg same thing ;)
/r/seduction13/04/26 05:44 PM
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Not necessarily I think you’re taking a big risk doing shit like this
/r/seduction13/04/26 04:45 PM
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I believe therapy is the answer here
/r/seduction12/04/26 12:16 AM
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Isn't that why we're in this sub. I know I am lmao. It's like a science experiment in here.
/r/seduction09/04/26 10:05 PM
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Don’t worry that advice doesn’t work in the US either
/r/seduction09/04/26 08:38 PM
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The dude is long winded as all hell but there are really no rules in dating. The only rule for men is that you approach. Buildup, no buildup - whatever, doesn’t matter. You could have the shittiest approach ever but if the girl likes you she’ll go with it. There’s a bit of randomness to it and a bit of luck with a dash of skill.
/r/seduction09/04/26 02:09 PM
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As a dude I can tell if a someone is confident or not. Of course a woman's going to be able to tell. They're more attuned to their emotions and others'.
/r/seduction07/04/26 06:22 PM
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This is my approach on apps. I find that for whatever reason flirting there doesn’t translate to dates for me. So I just make very brief convo then ask them out. Seems to work better for me than having endless conversation or “flirting” or being clever
/r/seduction02/04/26 03:09 PM
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Agree with a lot of sentiments in here to evaluate your partners more holistically. A partner who is a 9/10 personality and 6/10 looks is ideal. Getting along with someone is vastly more important than if they're the hottest piece of ass around.
/r/seduction31/03/26 09:09 PM
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It’s totally a style thing. I’m a night person so a lunch date would put me in a different state of mine than I’m used to. Judging by this thread it’s something I should add to my repertoire
/r/seduction26/03/26 02:26 PM
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No I’m not tall. I’m about average height Eastern European with rbf. Slim build - yea kinda but not as slim as I used to be. I went from 125 in college to 160 now because of weightlifting, aging, etc. Trying to slim down a bit more while retaining as much muscle as possible right now. I’m probably around 15-20% bf. Perception of calmness does help a lot. But I find that the less you say the less you fuck up as well. The times I fail is when I put my foot in my mouth. If I listen instead of blabb…
/r/seduction25/03/26 05:49 AM
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I'm no guru, but the "mysterious persona" is the only thing that works for me regularly. I don't necessarily perceive myself as that, but other people do and I play into it when I can and it's usually more effective than other things I do. Imo it works because there's intrigue, and girls love a challenge as much as anyone. I would much rather be perceived as the warm bubbly guy, but it's not my thing and I don't force it anymore.
/r/seduction25/03/26 04:15 AM
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Hi I’m ______. Lmao. How would it be any different? Maybe your demographics change but most shit stays the same. Spoken as an early 30s dude.
/r/seduction21/03/26 09:08 PM
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In my personal experience of doing night game hot women get approached way more. Anyone saying hot women get approached less is coping. It’s pure wishful thinking. If you go to dance classes, country dancing, etc it’ll be even more obvious. The pretty girls are constantly dancing while other girls are often standing around or asking guys to dance.
/r/seduction17/03/26 02:27 PM
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Bro is using maps at the gym
/r/seduction16/03/26 02:28 PM
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Our main drive as human beings is to create life. Women dictate the creation of life, because they have the burden of carrying a child to term and taking care of them. Therefore they get to call the shots on what they seek out. If we go a step further and look at the reproductive dynamics using this premise, we can also understand why men get demonized. Men's biological drive is to spread their seed no matter what (there's a preference for physically attractive women - men's version of seeking g…
/r/seduction15/03/26 02:32 PM
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Medical - anesthesia perhaps
/r/seduction13/03/26 09:43 PM
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Yea don’t do that. Stalker vibes.
/r/seduction13/03/26 12:25 AM
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Yea that makes sense. In that case it’s a non issue. Still better if you both live in a city with public transport. But in my area it usually means you are broke and need to get a job.
/r/seduction12/03/26 12:51 AM
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If you don't have a car you shouldn't be dating. You have other shit to sort out in your life guy or girl.
/r/seduction11/03/26 08:23 PM
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I’ve never understood driving an hour for a date. Is this really that common? I can barely be bothered to drive half an hour away.
/r/seduction11/03/26 02:42 PM
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People in the thread are talking about their experience. I’ve been approached as a guy and 99% of the time it’s by people I wouldn’t want to date. YMMV based on how attractive you are. I’m sure dudes that are 8+ get approached regularly.
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:24 PM
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I personally think of your approaching it’s hard to be humiliated or look desperate. If they’re not interested just walk away. If you do that you’re the one that won the interaction
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:19 PM
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Which is not approaching.
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:18 PM
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It would require men to stop approaching all together. That would never happen because it’s a competition
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:16 PM
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There’s a very small percentage of women that are worth the effort, as well if you consider looks and personality. There’s plenty of women desperate for a relationship as well you just don’t want to date them. I’m not sure what your point is. But men approach because we have to if we want something to happen. That’s it. All the other stuff is bs.
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:15 PM
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Highly context dependent. Some girls want to have you on social media if you’re in the boyfriend category
/r/seduction28/02/26 06:05 AM
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Anecdotally, I have the worst nights going out on holidays. Women are grumpy on vday if they’re single. But ymmv
/r/seduction14/02/26 11:42 PM
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You’ve never ignored someone? I know when I’ve done it, it was an ego thing. It was more about me than about the other person. When I think back on those moments I was the asshole not the other way around.
/r/seduction14/02/26 03:48 PM
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This is a no brainer. It’s not sleazy it’s common sense. I don’t even think most women would disagree
/r/seduction11/02/26 02:49 PM
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She's afraid of social stigma that will come with dating you. Best to start pursuing other people.
/r/seduction10/02/26 07:27 AM
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I'm getting hit with "how are you" bs when I try the "hey wifey" it seems kinda cooked.
/r/seduction10/02/26 04:02 AM
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At the very least this person used it to improve what he wrote. You can tell because there’s those cheesy lines thrown in like “that’s the secret sauce”. If you’ve used AI to see what it thinks about seduction it’ll use phrases like that on repeat.
/r/seduction08/02/26 06:03 PM
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Are we doing creative writing on this sub now? At least make it readable lmao
/r/seduction08/02/26 03:08 PM
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Anecdotally women find me most attractive when I’m already sleeping with someone. It’s like they can smell it on me. It must be the way I behave when it’s happening. It’s a really shitty mechanism because I prefer to date one person at a time. But sadly the most effective strategy is not giving a fuck, dating multiple people at once and waiting until one of them wants commitment.
/r/seduction07/02/26 04:38 PM
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I don’t mind a higher educated woman. I only have an undergrad degree. In my field it doesn’t make too much of a difference getting a higher degree unless you want to really specialize in something. But I’m still gonna want the same things in a more educated woman that I want from other women. I feel it’s usually sold as a trade off. Which is a load of croak. I’d rather take someone with less education that’s feminine compared to someone who’s very educated but is very masculine.
/r/seduction05/02/26 03:37 AM
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It’s 2026. The apps get worse every year across the board. They want more money, there’s less women, the women are more picky, etc.
/r/seduction04/02/26 03:44 PM
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If you actually develop feelings for someone it’s difficult to be friends with them. Not simply because you “want to fuck”. Sure the “just be friends” advice would work if you’re some kind of zen master who can detach at a drop of a hat. But I think your average person can’t do that very easily.
/r/seduction04/02/26 03:41 PM
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No, it's highly unlikely. Date people that already are what you're into. Trying to change someone is a fool's errand.
/r/seduction03/02/26 05:13 PM
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Oh I’m fully aware. I’m lurking to see if there’s anything in this thread that comes up that I could use to address this issue. I’m losing a ton of chicks during texting but I really couldn’t be bothered nowadays. I have a couple of things that get responses that are my go-to’s but leading a fun conversation over text feels nearly impossible. I have no idea how one can talk for days or even weeks on end over text.
/r/seduction02/02/26 08:10 AM
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I don’t get people’s obsession with texting. Sure if we’re exclusively dating we can text all the time. But if it’s new just save it for in person until we have built a lot of rapport.
/r/seduction02/02/26 07:41 AM
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Anyway I guess I need to be more careful in future. Nah man it's a one-off. If a girl likes you she's not gonna run. She might say no, but that strong of a reaction is weird. You can be a bit more subtle about it, but that's about it.
/r/seduction28/01/26 12:05 AM
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Bro didn't even read the post
/r/seduction27/01/26 11:20 PM
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They’re the most broken people I’ve ever dated. They will destroy your identity. Use you for all you’ve got and discard you. Stay away. Date wholesome girls.
/r/seduction27/01/26 04:36 PM
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Why would men care to put in effort into casual dating? That sounds like a contradiction. If I'm dating someone casually I'm expecting to put in very little effort into the situation. I'm only going to put in my best effort for long term partners that want to be with me. Casual is just that, I'm not gonna go out of my way to make you feel unique while you're banging other dudes on the side. That doesn't make any sense.
/r/seduction27/01/26 06:09 AM
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“What struck me is that this kind of attention isn’t limited to extremely attractive women. It seems like even average—or sometimes below-average—women receive a constant stream of attention, both online and in real life.” This has never made sense to me. I’d rather be alone than deal with someone I’m not attracted to.
/r/seduction23/01/26 02:46 PM
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I’ve improved for sure, but through learning irl. The knowledge presented here is pretty limited. I use it mostly for motivating myself to get back out there if I’m in a slump
/r/seduction14/01/26 09:20 PM
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I’ve noticed something similar. I don’t do as well as you, but I will get compliments like you’re handsome, I love your eyes blah blah blah. These conversations never go anywhere. My theory is that those women are fishing for compliments thinking they will get compliments in return and have no intention of dating you. The ones that go somewhere for me are always the most boring normal conversations possible.
/r/seduction13/01/26 02:27 PM
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With single women you’re competing against all men. With married women you’re competing with one guy.
/r/seduction11/01/26 04:27 PM
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Do both at the same time. Work on self improvement and date all at once. If you ignore one or the other you're gonna set yourself back.
/r/seduction10/01/26 05:05 PM
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There’s women here? 😂
/r/seduction09/01/26 06:45 PM
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Circling back to an ex is always regrettable. Leave it alone. Focus on new people
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:09 PM
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Translation: the sex wasn’t fulfilling either physically or emotionally. She would never say this if she had great sex.
/r/seduction09/01/26 03:06 PM
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Gaming at work? Bro is living on the edge
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:08 PM
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Grindr is better
/r/seduction07/01/26 04:27 PM
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Approach!
/r/seduction07/01/26 04:26 PM
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I bet you anything that if a girl you liked said this during a date you’d be grinning ear to ear. But yea as a dude you should leave it to girls to act like that.
/r/seduction05/01/26 11:49 AM
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Extremely hard to say. You’re also asking the seduction community on Reddit…I think there’s a bit of a bias here. Most of us are kinda on the promiscuous side. So really you have to ask yourself what you’d prefer - a stable relationship where you know what you’re gonna get or take a bit of a gamble and playing the field. You might find someone better, you might not. From personal experience I’m a bit older than you and one of my biggest regrets is not playing the field when I was your age. From …
/r/seduction05/01/26 02:58 AM
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You were desperately trying to be in control while in reality you came across as extremely needy. If you wanted to fuck then fuck, if you didn’t want to fuck then don’t put your duck in her. Why do that weird in between shit? When you feel desire for a woman communicate it clearly. Don’t half commit because you’re scared you’ll get rejected. Fully commit to the feeling. If she doesn’t reciprocate then move on onto the next. You’re not protecting yourself you’re confusing the huzz and yourself.
/r/seduction28/12/25 04:36 PM
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Work on being fun. Not just with girls-with everyone. You sound very self conscious. Let go of expectations, let go of how you think people perceive you. Lead the interaction with intent to connect above all, and get out of your head. The good news is you’re still young so you have time to develop your confidence. So get out there and face rejection and reflect on how it makes you feel. Sit with the discomfort then over time you will desensitize yourself to it. As I read your post I did not make…
/r/seduction22/12/25 05:18 PM
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Taking girls home the first night is wildly overrated. Connecting with someone first is way more important.
/r/seduction22/12/25 03:02 PM
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It sounds like you’re not a native English speaker. Where are you dating and what are the local customs in regard to courting women? Otherwise, when you meet these women you need to immediately break the touch barrier. Give them a hug. Then during the date slowly escalate. Start by touching her hand. You can make this fun by telling her you know how to do palm readings. Another way is to look at rings she’s wearing. “Oh wow I really love the rings you picked out for tonight.” *take her hand to l…
/r/seduction18/12/25 02:59 PM
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Shoot your shot. Just remember that it’s not very likely that he’ll stick around as he probably has infinite options.
/r/seduction15/12/25 03:19 PM
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You've proven to yourself a long time ago that you can bag girls. Instead of finding the next warm body for your ding dong you can focus on forming connections with people. Protect your body and mind. Treat sex as a conduit for deeper bonds. Take your time and find the women that are physically beautiful and emotionally stimulating. Stop fucking random girls to feed your ego. You can level up your game without having sex. That's the easiest way to avoid burnout.
/r/seduction12/12/25 12:02 AM
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She made it easy to set up first date. Second date she invited me to a party so she gets credit for setup. Third date I did everything to set it up. It's very possible that she lost interest after 2nd date.
/r/seduction09/12/25 08:09 PM
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She's a friend of a friend. I only met her a couple of weeks ago. A group of friends and I went out dancing. Two girls, four guys. Let's call the girl I went on 3 dates with K and other girl Sam. I only knew one guy from this group and he's been a good friend for years. He was the one who invited me out. Sam was hitting on me very openly, K noticed and hung around. I had absolutely no interest in Sam, and I thought K was kinda cute. They were more or less fighting over me. I bought K a drink bec…
/r/seduction08/12/25 09:40 PM
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Relationship intentions on dating apps mean next to nothing. In fact they vary from person to person. I could want to fuck Suzy, but have a serious relationship with Emma. Women are no different. You have to figure out what they want with you.
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:47 PM
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Hmm, did I expect sex? No. Did I want sex? Yes. I would've never done this kind of date unless I wanted something more serious. I plan exhilarating dates when I'm trying to only hook up with someone. I guess I might need to change my approach.
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:09 PM
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I wouldn't say that she was more fun or flirty the first two dates, just more engaged in what was happening. I kissed her a couple of hours into the first date. We ended the night making out, and I got to second base. Second date we were at a house party. We cuddled on the couch together, I tickled the crap out of her, and I kissed her to end the night. Her friend was near so we didn't go further. Third date. She seemed out of it. We talked more about her life, family, holidays, her going back t…
/r/seduction08/12/25 08:04 PM
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As I stated in another comment I was not performing. But the environments were different on the first two dates - dancing, billiards, karaoke, house party, etc. I was myself the whole time.
/r/seduction08/12/25 06:33 PM
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Shit I guess we only dated for like a week tops. I didn’t even realize we packed 3 dates into that short of a time frame. I mean regardless it’s not the most important detail. It kinda sucks that she didn’t trust me but I also get where she’s coming from.
/r/seduction08/12/25 06:09 PM
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All valid points. I did not state my intentions I just invited her in to watch Stranger Things and for her to take her meds that she forgot to take during dinner. I did consider that she might’ve lied about the meds. I never saw her take them and she did coincidentally start her treatment on our first date which I thought was odd. But I get it, guys use girls for sex so I looked past that and gave her the benefit of the doubt that it wasn’t malicious and that she was protecting herself.
/r/seduction08/12/25 05:55 PM
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Maybe boring is the wrong word. But I wanted something more lowkey, lower energy, comfortable, where conversation and spending time together was main the focus. If I had to guess, yes she is interested in hookups. She told me she mostly dates women, so it’s hard to say if she hooks up more with men or women but either way I knew that casual sex wasn’t in the cards for me and it wasn’t what I wanted with her. I invited her in to spend more time with her. I didn't think sex was on the table. She w…
/r/seduction08/12/25 05:34 PM
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Haha fair take. I’m just trying to see if there’s anything else I can learn here, but you might be right. I might be tapped out in terms of what I can gain here in terms of experience. I don’t think I fully lost frame here, but it was definitely not as solid as I would like. You’re right that if I were filtering for bad behavior during boredom that I would’ve just dropped her after the date without inviting her in. I do think that insight is important and I need to pay attention to how I’m behav…
/r/seduction08/12/25 05:17 PM
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Yes perhaps a little too early for that kind of date. I do take responsibility and the consequences of what I did, nbd. I wanted to see how she handles boredom. I think it’s impossible to only have highs in a relationship. I don’t actually think it’s a weird test. I need to know what she’s like when it’s just us two and there not some crazy exciting event happening. I need to know that our dynamic is enough to make things fun even if it’s something a bit mundane. Call me a hopeless romantic, but…
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:57 PM
1

Last text she sent was on Wednesday(dec 3rd). I didn’t reply. Last date was Friday before last(Nov 28th)
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:46 PM
1

Approach! Self improvement by itself is not enough. You have to do it all at once. Approach approach approach until you're blue in the face and until you have developed the skin thick enough to walk through the fire of rejection unscathed.
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:36 AM
16

It's 100% reversible. If you go back to dating one person at a time, you will catch feelings again. The downside is of course that it will be a lot harder to seduce that specific woman. It honestly feels like a catch 22 - to be able to seduce women you need to sacrifice emotional connection, in order feel emotionally connected you need to sacrifice being a womanizer. I think there must be some kind of balance you can strike, but it sure isn't easy.
/r/seduction07/12/25 08:28 PM
3

You want to date girls that will date you for who you are as an individual. Girls that make height their main priority should be avoided even if you fit the bill. If you want to date them casually knock yourself out but as a long term partner I think you should reject them regardless of how tall you are.
/r/seduction20/11/25 03:58 PM
1

You don’t. Especially not on hinge. That’s the fastest way for her to lose interest. Why do you want to flirt sexually anyway? In my experience women that are down to do that aren’t gonna fuck you anyway.
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:08 PM
1

Each you time you experience failure - whether it’s rejection during an approach or an end of a relationship you are back to your initial state of being single. You aren’t worse off after a rejection. It’s not a setback it’s one step closer towards your goal. You are better off because you gained that tiny bit of experience and you will be better next time. Make it about enjoying the process instead of seeking immediate rewards. Focus on other things you are doing in your life that are positives…
/r/seduction16/11/25 12:20 AM
63

If you’re actually his type nothing is gonna scare him away. Most men date completely outside their ideal type, hence the confusion.
/r/seduction14/11/25 06:51 AM
2

Man what have I been doing all these years. Approaching girls and asking them out, then banging them senselessly. I’ve been looking in all the wrong places. The answer was right here all along. Jesus Christ!
/r/seduction13/11/25 06:44 AM
1

I agree. I don’t see the point of communicating rejection unless you were a long term relationship.
/r/seduction13/11/25 06:27 AM
4

This is a dangerous game to play, be very cautious if you do this. Those girls are not for the faint of heart.
/r/seduction12/11/25 07:30 AM
1

As a follow up to this how do you text in between dates? I find a lot of them lose interest during this phase where you’re not face to face or sucking face
/r/seduction11/11/25 04:14 PM
1

Bumble used to be decent, but the user base seems to be shrinking. I get a fraction of matches I used to get in my area. Hinge is a lot more popular in my vicinity. Dating really does seem to be more of what not to say vs what to say. I put my foot in my mouth on a date last Thursday by explaining to the girl why I don’t put my company name on my profile. I basically said something like I don’t want people to stalk me and she immediately flipped out thinking I was getting stalked right there and…
/r/seduction11/11/25 06:05 AM
1

Depends. Does it count as an approach if other girls start cockblocking almost immediately? Then like 6 this year. But all kinda low quality. So in reality no one I would want to date, and I’m trash at dealing with cock blocks so I just let them go cuz it’s too much work.
/r/seduction11/11/25 05:43 AM
1

I haven't noticed a trend with times they text back, although it does come in waves usually but I do get the most attention during the year in the fall as you've mentioned as people scramble to find someone for cuffing season. The latter is super annoying...why did you procrastinate til the end of the year just to settle for someone in the fall. Makes the process feel a lot more rushed. If we meet in the summer or spring there's so much more time to get to know someone, not to mention how much m…
/r/seduction10/11/25 05:58 PM
1

You asked why I explained why. This isn’t fucking advice lmao. If anything it’s what not to do.
/r/seduction09/11/25 09:37 PM
2

It’s not fear, it’s optimization of a solution to the problem at hand. Women don’t function like men. They need you to be coy about sex, otherwise there’s a high likelihood that they won’t have it with you. You should go on dates you don’t want to if you need experience or haven’t figured out how to emotionally regulate dating women. You will have more results if you lie and say that you want a relationship instead of saying you just want sex. You will accept no blowjobs if you have no other pro…
/r/seduction09/11/25 02:48 PM
17

“Just have fun” is this sub’s version of “just be yourself”. It’s meaningless, generic advice. You can of course fake having fun on a night out and “not pursuing women for sex” but I don’t know what kind of person doesn’t go out to find someone to fuck. Better advice is go to events that you would enjoy even if you didn’t get laid, and try to get laid there on top of already having a blast. That could work. Just having fun is bullshit. Nobody is just gonna bang you suddenly if you’re having fun,…
/r/seduction09/11/25 10:02 AM
4

Stop watching porn and get your testosterone checked. At 22 your should be a horn dog 24/7
/r/seduction06/11/25 03:41 PM
2

I'm going through this right now with a girl I've taken on a couple of dates. She's physically attractive, as confirmed by some of my buddies. But when you interact with her she doesn't have a drop of sex appeal in her body so I'm finding it hard to escalate on her. On paper she seems like she would be wifey material so I want to give it another shot, but good lord she makes the physical aspect difficult.
/r/seduction02/11/25 11:40 PM
1

Big big cap don’t listen to this. Don’t change your plans for a girl.
/r/seduction30/10/25 11:23 PM
2

No, some of them will approach you, you can approach them. I treat them as any other girl. If there’s mutual attraction you move the interaction forward. Main thing is learning to not react to societal pressures of dating norms. Women don’t like men going for younger women bc it ages them out of the dating market extremely quickly. I feel bad for them, but you have to act in your own best interest. As long as they’re of legal age(personally 21+ is preferred) and there’s mutual attraction there’s…
/r/seduction28/10/25 02:45 PM
1

Bro you need to work on your internal world. It’s not that serious I promise. People just want to have fun in those situations. Be fun and watch how receptive people become. Calling her Santa is a good tease you just need to deliver it playfully with a big fat grin on your face. We Eastern Europeans are a sensitive bunch istg but good generous people. You’ll be all right.
/r/seduction26/10/25 09:49 AM
1

I have the opposite problem I can only pull from dating apps. It honestly feels shitty and almost emasculating. Like I got no balls or something
/r/seduction25/10/25 05:16 AM
3

Also grab a jalapeno, habanero or preferably ghost reaper and rub them on girls before talking to them. Then open with "omg you are so hot, can I take you out for ice cream sometime"
/r/seduction21/10/25 01:19 AM
17

Just Write Your Own Damn Content You Lazy Fuck
/r/seduction19/10/25 02:17 PM
1

No but it doesn’t take much to become skeptical of people in the early stages. You’ll save yourself a lot of headaches if you avoid dating people like your FWB.
/r/seduction17/10/25 09:14 AM
0

You already lost with this specific girl. Leave her be. The precedent has been set - she’s the leader you’re the follower. It’s extremely difficult to flip that dynamic. Cut your losses, or you’re going to be funding her lifestyle further.
/r/seduction08/10/25 01:17 AM
0

Simp deluxe. You had the right idea but didn’t hold your ground. Go again with a different girl and stick to your guns.
/r/seduction08/10/25 01:06 AM
1

Nah it's pretty rational, you just don't understand their priorities
/r/seduction29/09/25 04:00 PM
11

It’s all about frame and how you make her feel. If you over pursue, you make her feel like you need her. If you act aloof, or disinterested it makes her feel safe in your presence because it shows you don’t let your emotions sway you. It’s flawed of course, because you can genuinely be disinterested and the girl will feel more attracted to you because of it. It’s pretty backwards if you think about it, but generally if you want her to respect you and see you as a leader in your dynamic you have …
/r/seduction29/09/25 02:12 PM
2

Ignore such sentiments, don't react, and keep it moving. Any rhetoric like this is designed to drive down the "cost" of dating the most sought after men or to get engagement on social media. Of course everyone wants to have a 10/10 partner that will bend over backwards for them while doing nothing in return. In reality that will never happen. If a woman wants commitment she's unlikely to get it from the 10/10 unless she's herself a 10/10 and exactly what he wants. Of course most of us don't have…
/r/seduction28/09/25 08:22 PM
3

No the advice isn't to become her welcome mat if she rejects you. The advice is to make friends with girls without the romantic intent in the first place. Big difference.
/r/seduction27/09/25 03:37 AM
1

Run away as fast as you can.
/r/seduction23/09/25 09:22 AM
18

This is not for beginners. These are pretty advanced techniques that you should work up to. But you are correct double and triple texting when you have nothing to lose is a good move. You do have to wait though. It's not going to work if you double, triple text all at the same time. It can work if you are a cool guy with lots of shit going on in your life, and you are nonchalant about following up with a hot girl.
/r/seduction22/09/25 03:32 AM
3

Sexual* but social works too I supposed
/r/seduction22/09/25 03:30 AM
1

Outside
/r/seduction20/09/25 01:49 AM
1

Yes it definitely happens. I usually meet wingmen the night of going out, and there are dudes that absolutely slay. They are either extremely attractive, tall, and project a certain aura or they're literally local celebrities and everyone knows them.
/r/seduction19/09/25 07:40 PM
2

Trial and error. On repeat. Until you’re satisfied with your dating life. Main thing is to learn to not take rejection personally.
/r/seduction18/09/25 10:00 PM
21

We as men are so soft. I know I’m part of the problem. In an ideal world you cut her off the first time she pulls that bs. Life is pretty short, there’s no point in wasting time on people that are in and out
/r/seduction18/09/25 09:57 AM
1

Ever since reddit made their API paid I periodically delete my comments. I also don't want some random AI to train off of my account.
/r/seduction17/09/25 11:42 PM
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Bro…you should know better in your 30s good grief.
/r/seduction17/09/25 11:04 PM
1

Never rejecting someone is also easier, safer, and they don’t have to feel bad about themselves. The reality is women are amazing at lying and leading you on because it’s in their best interest. Their dating strategy revolves around permanently keeping their options open. Think of how many women use the “he’s just a friend” excuse. So if she never rejects you, the idea of maybe will keep you pursuing. If she’s not interested the attention might be nice, she keeps you as an option, and if she cha…
/r/seduction14/09/25 04:56 PM
1

Don’t bring it up even if they ask. Ftfy
/r/seduction13/09/25 10:09 PM
1

Not necessarily making a cool Instagram can be done at any age.
/r/seduction12/09/25 01:56 PM
1

Why would someone with a ton of options double text? They would just stop texting them and focus on the other options that are responding
/r/seduction08/09/25 09:38 PM
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The old term is AWALT. He just added an N to it. The old term has been around for a while.
/r/seduction06/09/25 04:06 AM
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Not all women act like this
/r/seduction05/09/25 09:42 PM
1

Take whatever guys are telling you with a grain of salt, they are probably bad with women as well and don’t know what women are looking for. I have a similar setup as you but I’m 10 years older. So this could be a glimpse into your future. Your career is a pretty big handicap when it comes to dating. The money is great, but atrophies your social skills and dehumanizes women. When I’m on the prowl I will make excuses to talk to women everywhere. You have to make an effort to talk to all women to …
/r/seduction21/08/25 02:52 PM
1

2 and #3 are complete bullshit. Who is upvoting this crap. Where you dating the UAE?
/r/seduction16/08/25 04:59 PM
1

I highly doubt that all men just give up on dating. You only hear the people whining about it. People that are successfully dating aren't on social media complaining. They're enjoying dating.
/r/seduction09/08/25 05:05 AM
6

I want to know your opinion from a seduction community knowing this was a hot girl who is dtf Down to freeload? You did the right thing. That chick is a gremlin.
/r/seduction06/08/25 12:45 AM
32

Popular Mark is
/r/seduction04/08/25 04:17 AM
1

They're talking about women as a whole not specifically your experience.
/r/seduction02/08/25 03:25 PM
1

It’s morale you doofus
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:56 PM
1

Should’ve told her that if she can kiss girls then so can you.
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:54 PM
1

First of all. It’s very unlikely that you’ll impregnate or catch an STI during your first time. Just make sure to use protection and you’ll be fine. Secondly, sometimes I’ve lowered my standards to break a rough dating period. For me it can create momentum. I get huge boosts of confidence from being desired by women, even if they’re not my type. (Mind you, I still have standards. There are women I would never go near.) I typically use this newly acquired confidence to pursue those I truly desire…
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:45 PM
0

their time
/r/seduction15/07/25 02:51 AM
2

Find a mirror. Say hi. There. You found your accountability partner.
/r/seduction13/07/25 02:17 PM
2

I’d like to hear more about these scenarios when it would be beneficial to call her beautiful…ever. In my experience either she’s already into me or she’s not. Either way it doesn’t seem to move the needle for them or accomplish anything productive.
/r/seduction12/07/25 11:57 PM
1

Lmao fair enough. I think his advice is more timeless.
/r/seduction12/07/25 11:30 AM
11

Meh I’ve read this book and it’s very self indulgent sometimes even pretentious and business focused. I found it to be quite outdated as well. I don’t know why it’s recommended for improving general social skills.
/r/seduction09/07/25 02:25 PM
10

It’s the best intro to dating if you’re a newb but it’s very heavily geared towards serious relationships. If you want to date casually or get laid often I would argue that it’s not that helpful and often it’s best to completely ignore its advice. But if you want to date to find your soulmate it’s the best book out there especially if you’re a beginner.
/r/seduction09/07/25 02:22 PM
35

Generally good advice, but I'd stay the hell away from that subreddit. Pure toxicity.
/r/seduction30/06/25 08:08 PM
1

“You should respect men all the time” - see how stupid that sounds
/r/seduction28/06/25 01:53 PM
3

This is why dating is so lopsided. Suzy McAverage gets plowed by Chadathy McGirthCock and all of a sudden she thinks she’s hot shit and he’s gonna settle for her. Modern women and men don’t understand their own value.
/r/seduction27/06/25 09:33 PM
9

Rejections are supposed to hurt your ego. You’re supposed to learn how to sit with the feeling. Process it and realize it’s not about you. Dating apps circumvent the mechanism that allows you to grow emotionally as a being and develop real world confidence. Sitting behind a screen is easy. On the other hand, putting yourself out there in person will make you face your deepest insecurities. It’s one of the few forms of therapy that I think actually works over time if you let it mold your brain. O…
/r/seduction19/06/25 12:06 PM
108

Play the eye contact game with everyone. Hold eye contact with them until they look away. Anytime you look away first you lose. Try to build up to where you always win the game. It’ll help you feel like these attractive women are the same as everyone else.
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:45 PM
3

The real question is where the hell do you find a philosophy book store lmao
/r/seduction01/06/25 09:46 PM
2

Neotenic - good word. Gonna start using that one
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:14 PM
1

Hooring*
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:12 PM
5

This is why women have the upper hand in dating. Have some self respect.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:47 PM
32

Yes frame is insanely powerful if you can stick to your guns and stay emotionally resilient, but it's one of the hardest things to do. Although I don't know why you would want to date someone who initially rejected you.
/r/seduction24/05/25 07:28 AM
4

Outside
/r/seduction21/05/25 06:38 PM
2

Um what. My most recent hookup was with a 25 year old. I’m 32. She offered to pay on the date. We had a bit of fun and then I never heard from her again. So not all people are gold diggers. I probably make about 3x what she makes. She could’ve easily tried to date me for money but seems like she didn’t like what she saw to consider a relationship and we left it at a bit of fun for the night. I’m not sure why women comment things as absolute truths here but it’s usually no where near accurate to …
/r/seduction21/05/25 06:35 PM
0

Is this a joke? Why the fuck are you posting this garbage on a seduction subreddit?
/r/seduction12/05/25 02:49 AM
1

As an old head I’m convinced 10s are purely personality based. You don’t want to deal with 10s that are looks only. It’s your overall vibe that matters more than anything. Men and women.
/r/seduction10/05/25 07:31 AM
3

You don’t understand men at all. You think men wouldn’t commit long term to a girl that they thought was 10/10 just because she wanted to have sex right away? My longest relationship to this day that lasted 5 years started with a coffee date. We hit it off like crazy and she was giving me head within an hour of us meeting for the first time. Stop making up arbitrary rules. Just admit you don’t know the difference between guys that actually like you and guys that are going to use you for sex. You…
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:51 PM
4

Lmao if you actually want to date college age girls you need to scale up your approaches. Your odds with one very specific college girl are gonna be extremely low. You’re up against a huge demographic disadvantage.
/r/seduction29/04/25 09:44 PM
1

On a primal level I think she wants to gauge how you will react. If you can control your emotions it's a good sign that you will be a good masculine partner. Think of situations where women are faced with real life threats. How are you going to react if you and your girl are getting robbed? Are you going to stay calm, cool, and collected or are you going to become an emotional mess that panics and runs away?
/r/seduction29/03/25 08:42 AM
2

How is that my fault that I've never been validated romantically by the opposite sex in my life? Nah nobody said that it's your fault, but if you don't take action to change then it will be your fault. If you let it fester it will be your fault. expecting that man just dump all that baggage and pain at the drop of hat is just ludicrous. It's a long process. You cannot expect immediate results. You need to take it one day at a time. Find things about yourself that you like and build on them bit b…
/r/seduction27/03/25 02:08 AM
3

Bro I can feel the anxiety and insecurity bleeding through the screen. Cut that shit out. Start by loving yourself, and building yourself up until you feel worthy of love. You cannot love someone else until you take the first step to love yourself.
/r/seduction27/03/25 01:23 AM
10

You're playing on hard mode in those settings. Women almost never go out alone. That means you'll have to get the approval of their friends unless she's set on fucking you from the get go. You'll have to deal with cockblocks - women get jealous really easily and a lot of them (regardless of what they say) will stop their friends from getting laid if they aren't also getting laid. Your best bet is lowering your standards 3 or 4 times over. I usually just go out to have fun anyway nowadays and to …
/r/seduction21/03/25 02:29 PM
49

Crazy? This is an old PUA trick lol. It'll also attract some really bad eggs.
/r/seduction16/03/25 07:04 PM
1

There’s some good advice in here but I’m suspicious of anyone who claims 100% success rate for anything. Also most girls are on dating apps are there to date? BIG cap, most are there for free attention. You’re not gonna convince me otherwise. Last but not least Tinder has been dead for me for years. Who still uses it??? Certainly almost no one you would want to date.
/r/seduction15/03/25 03:03 PM
1

She’s married. What other fucking clues do you need lmao
/r/seduction11/03/25 06:33 PM
4

Good points all around. I have definitely dated women that I didn't find conventionally attractive in the past, but they have to bring a lot more to the table. I would also like to add that once you've dated a certain caliber of woman it's really difficult to date below that threshold no matter what you look like.
/r/seduction26/02/25 03:40 AM
12

You can’t learn some things until you experience them first hand.
/r/seduction26/02/25 02:48 AM
2

No, you're missing the point. You should care the most about your purpose in life. Once you find something you're deeply passionate about women will become secondary. Instead of endlessly obsessing over them, you will pursue them in a respectful non-needy way. You will offer them to join you on your journey in life and they get to decide whether they want to accompany you or not. Rejections become easier to face if you can obtain this mindset. You will naturally have low investment, and you will…
/r/seduction05/12/24 05:45 AM
3

I would stop thinking in terms of “I’m a 10 therefore I deserve xyz in a partner”. It’s counterproductive. Instead think of what you can offer to the person you’re dating and only date people that improve your life. In order to do that you need to date for personality before looks. The best female seducers I’ve met had an irresistible aura about them. Some of them might not have been the best looking but they were charming, smart, and knew how to make you feel good. If you can make a person feel…
/r/seduction24/11/24 03:30 PM
1

It's all good. The guy is just very inexperienced with women. What women need to realize is that a lot of guys don't have experience talking to girls and it can take us a long time to learn to converse with you all normally and read in the between the lines. As a result, women deal with some really awkward interactions while the guys are learning to pursue the opposite sex. It's the unfortunate reality. If the guy is harmless with his approach, try to have a bit of empathy. It's possible you don…
/r/seduction15/10/24 10:43 PM
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Contrary to what women say you don't always need to make her laugh to seduce her. It helps but it's not required.
/r/seduction15/10/24 09:09 PM
2

They're not ready to date YOU. Move along.
/r/seduction15/10/24 02:36 PM
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She's not interested, just extroverted. If she was interested she would give you her number, and not mention the other guy.
/r/seduction15/10/24 02:33 PM
2

Why ask when you can witness it for yourself? I’ve seen a girl I met on a night out go through a dozen dudes. I was lucky to not have kissed her that night. She tried though. Oh boy did she try smh. Babe was going for a PR that night.
/r/seduction30/09/24 07:25 AM
1

I’m 32 and I’ve only dated 2 girls from meeting them back in high school. Almost everyone else has been from dating apps. I personally hate it. It feels emasculating. I’ve met plenty of people while going out but have only gotten a couple of hookups from bars. Both bars and online feel inorganic. In both settings you don’t really know what they’re like - bars people are intoxicated, online people are hiding behind screens. I’m currently working on getting back to making connections in person whi…
/r/seduction30/09/24 07:12 AM
1

They do I got banned from hinge because someone reported my profile as fake. I got it back by sending them by id
/r/seduction12/09/24 09:28 PM
3

There’s only one solution here. Girls don’t want to be friends with guys they want to fuck or date. Leave and find someone else.
/r/seduction11/06/24 09:45 PM
1

Pretending to be someone else to get results is only good for temporary fun. You want to be the best version of yourself and nurture your authenticity if you want to find something real. Finding purpose will help you be non-needy.
/r/seduction26/01/24 07:40 PM
2

Everyone loves novelty. Women and men. You’re exotic in the UK. Traveling can give you a completely different perspective on dating because you seem more adventurous than the local men when on vacation.
/r/seduction27/07/22 04:10 PM
16

"So anyways, then we banged"
/r/seduction30/01/20 03:20 AM
4

Holy shit I want to kill myself after reading that. I don't think I could ever be that persistent. Longest I can go is a week. Props.
/r/seduction29/01/20 07:02 AM
45

Develop a unique fashion sense and a muscular physique.
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:41 PM
2

Typically getting drinks will make kino so much more natural for you and her.
/r/seduction20/11/19 01:49 PM
1

Still implies she’s not interested for whatever reason.
/r/seduction18/11/19 05:30 PM
1

Unique openers that are funny are always better. But pick up lines can work sometimes.
/r/seduction25/02/16 05:31 PM
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