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Off Topicstoic_style/r/TheRedPill03/08/14 05:24 AM
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Are these plates or girls you know? Why are they even having these conversations around you unless they think of you as a friend, in which case, why do you care? Getting angry = losing frame. Don't let her words influence your emotions. Why do you even get angry? Are you envious that it isn't you? The solution would be to be Chad... Since these aren't girls your plating [I assume], experiment. See how they react to your different reactions You can amplify, and talk about all the guys you've slep…
/r/askTRP30/03/19 12:35 PM
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She's a women and this is an LTR, not a plate. Women's arousal will change throughout the month and due to life in general. Don't be insecure about it. If there are more flags then the occasional lack of arousal then you should start to be concerned. ​ ​
/r/askTRP28/03/19 12:20 PM
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It's going to be hard to 'restart your social status'. The people who know you have put you in a bin, and they will treat you that way. They just know you that way and will treat you that. Telling them you want to be different won't working. Acting different will work, it'll just take time and people will complain in front of you and behind your back. ​ It is unrealistic to think that you'll 'pull hoes' at 15. What you can do is lay the foundation to do better in a few years. As everybody else h…
/r/askTRP28/03/19 10:29 AM
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Abundance is a mentality, not something you show her. You demonstrate the mentality by telling her this isn't fun and she needs to leave. It implies that you have an abundance of other, funner women available and you don't have to put up with her. Let her imagination work for you. The less you say the better.
/r/askTRP27/03/19 11:42 AM
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Previsualize that she has already cheated on you or somehow disappointed you. Now the unsullied time you have is that much better, and when something happens you were prepared for it. One day she will call you and say, "I've met someone else," and you're already primed to accept that. Obviously having abundance mentality makes this easier... To go full Stoic, be happier when she finds someone that makes her happier than you did. Ending on good terms makes it easier for her to come back to you an…
/r/askTRP26/03/19 11:05 AM
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You got shit tested hard because you put up with it. There appears to be no outcome independence nor abundance mentality. She is using the potential for sex to see how much she can get away with. Quite frankly she strikes me as immature and potentially emotionally abusive. Trying too hard to dominate her could potentially go sideways quick. Is she worth the risk? I don't think she's worth your time. The only thing she understands is being cut off. Don't reward or indulge her childishness. You ar…
/r/askTRP26/03/19 10:29 AM
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I understand where you're coming from. A lot oxytocin and bonding happened with y'all. It sounds like it was your first big, extended dose. It can be like drug withdrawal. ​ The only prescription is experience. Specifically, you need to experience a lot of women. Reading the appropriate sidebars will help you learn faster.
/r/askTRP26/03/19 09:00 AM
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-Yes, read good sex guides. -Use her to get more experience. ​ Sidenote: Texting should be for logistics; you should have left more to her imagination. Sounds like you've already left that frame. So tell her what you're going to do to her and then do those things to her.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 11:35 AM
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The best way to get revenge it to be happy and successful without her. Show her how little she meant to you. Don't bring a girl. Your here for friends, don't make this about you and her. Your friends should be the focus of attention. You should be above instigating drama. All you're doing is making her life more interesting and emotional if you bring a girl. Girls need that sort of excitement, don't give it to her. Be a class act. Bring a small gift for the hosts. Offer to help out. Out-attentio…
/r/askTRP25/03/19 11:28 AM
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Okay, so you're learning bars and clubs. It's harder for you because it's unfamiliar territory. You haven't learned how to navigate it physically or socially. The only solution is experience. ​ Don't be afraid to go solo. Right now your friends are a crutch. Feeling lame at the club/bar? I'll hang out with my friends. When you're solo the only excuse is you. When you're solo it's easy to change locations too (see #3 below). A few nights ago at a club (solo) I opened with something along the line…
/r/askTRP24/03/19 12:23 PM
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Could you have done better? No. But you shouldn't get pissed. Being pissed accomplishing nothing. For whatever reason (and don't try to figure out why, that answer will change) there's some weird push/pull in this relationship. Use this girl for experience: Dread game, pre-selection, etc. If you piss her off or hurt her feelings it's no loss. Just have fun with her, and if you aren't having fun, take yourself somewhere else. Don't expect anything from her.
/r/askTRP05/01/15 01:52 AM
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This is ASD. Brush it off. Your response depends on your frame. "Ok, we'll have fun" or "No worries, just fun" will likely suffice. Follow that with logistics and nothing else. You're awesome and have abundance so you don't care if you hook up, right? Go out, have fun, make sure she pays for some stuff. Escalate. If she's not receptive then cut it off early. Focus on her actions, not her words. Please post follow-up.
/r/askTRP02/01/15 01:11 AM
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Yeah, I could go for #2 too. #2 and #3 seem pretty similar.
/r/askTRP31/12/14 08:21 PM
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If I were at a major school with enough time to be bored I would take more classes until I wasn't bored. The better your education the greater you post university SMV.
/r/askTRP31/12/14 07:08 AM
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Fold: In cards (usually poker) "fold" means to stop playing that hand. There is zero chance you win, but you also can't loose any more chips. If the odds cease to be in you favor you should fold. Don't invest anything in this chick, you might get lucky, be an asshole, and she'll sleep with you....or she could string you along with hope, precluding other opportunities. If you fold there is not chance she'll string you along. Learn: You made a mistake. That's fine, it's a way to gain experience. L…
/r/askTRP31/12/14 06:53 AM
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It's weak sauce (beta) to be jealous over an ex. They are an ex for a reason. People can end relationships and still socialize. If she's going to cheat there's nothing you can do to stop her. Confrontation/insecurity = weakness. Additional factor in the dynamic: Christmas break, people go home, they fall in on their old social circles. Possibility exists that this ex is now a beta orbiter. Don't tell her that you're checking out her Instagram. You don't want to burn your source or condition her …
/r/askTRP31/12/14 06:32 AM
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I pick #3. This is an LTR, not a plate. You can't be all alpha. You have to give her some beta. But...I wouldn't give some beta by [seriously] talking about getting bored with each other! You threw some reason for concern into the relationship, maybe she'll make sure she never gets boring. Drive on and have fun together while maintaining frame and you'll see this LTR to it's natural conclusion.
/r/askTRP31/12/14 06:09 AM
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Fold and learn.
/r/askTRP31/12/14 05:58 AM
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"...I don't really want to hook up," is something you should ignore. Standard resistance because she isn't a slut, not easy, yadda yadda. Now if you two do hook up it's because she 'couldn't control herself' or you were 'just irresistible'. You're doing the right thing by bringing along some preselection. She'll feel 'special' if you 'pick her' over the other girls. However, do you want to spend your time on a girl who stops at fingering and making out?
/r/askTRP31/12/14 05:48 AM
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You two are not compatible. This relationship has an expiration date. It would be better for you to end it sooner than later. You need to make her choose between not shaving and showering and you. If you aren't that important to her [that she can shower and shave] then you should invest your resources in something else. Confronting her and being logical are separate things. "You not showering and shaving is very unattractive to me," direct - but not a spreadsheet of how often she showers and sha…
/r/askTRP29/12/14 07:29 AM
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You don't have to A&A. From the TRP side bar: My go-to advice for how to deal with shit tests are as follows: Agree & amplify (to absurdity) Change the subject Ignore her shit test completely Pressure Flip The Nuclear Option (reserved for women who aren't flirting and are giving shit tests because they're deliberately trying to tool you, or worse) Command respect With some thought, and if the frame is right, I'd ask her for a 'cuter' picture and see how she responds: pressure flip. Perhaps somet…
/r/askTRP26/12/14 08:08 AM
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She was definitely in to you. Just not in to going home with you that night. In the macros sense, to close, not TRP but: Some alcohol and sex talk. 2-3 drinks lowers inhibitions. That will make it easier to get her hormones going, make her think with those. Girls do that to guys (she knew how you would react when she showed you the sexy pictures - BTW, she wanted some validation). Then suggest you leave at separate times and then meet up nearby (validate her number first). If you voice this befo…
/r/askTRP17/12/14 07:17 AM
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Drop her when you can't deal with the shit anymore. You have abundance, right? If you're feeling nice, tell her that her excessive attachment is unattractive. She needs to be taught that this is not how people in mature relationships act. She might change if you dread game her a bit (tell her that her actions are unattractive). But some lessons have to be learned the hard way. I suppose a 'nicer' TRP answer would be to treat her as you would a child who has excessive crying and attachment.
/r/askTRP16/12/14 07:59 AM
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If the girl does not want to seal the deal that night it won't get sealed. She can have 1,001 reasons and they only have to make sense to her (period, 3 date rule, roommate, whatever). She knew exactly what you were going for with your two attempts and wasn't interested for her own reasons. The card you were dealt was a girl who wasn't going home that night, probably with anybody (including Brad Pitt). Accept it. You can not force/negotiate attraction. What you can do is drop her and go after so…
/r/askTRP16/12/14 07:46 AM
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Pulling girls is like playing cards. No matter how good a card player you are, if you get dealt poor cards, or everybody else gets better cards, it'll be hard to win. It looks like in the past you were doing pretty well. Either you were lucky and now you're returning to your normal or you are doing well and just going through a dry spell. Only you'll truly be able to evaluate that. If you change anything make it in small, incremental change. If a girl smiles at you approach her. Sometimes girls …
/r/askTRP25/10/14 09:50 PM
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The TRP way is set a precedent/boundary early on: When you're with me, you're with me. You aren't texting a bunch of other people. If it's truly important they will call.
/r/askTRP24/10/14 04:58 AM
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You have to do what's comfortable for you. When a false frame breaks it can be ugly. My way may not work for you. For me, I look at everybody. I may make eye contact. Everybody gets inspected. Ethnicity? Strong? Weak? Wedding band? Name brands? Gray hair? Tired? Body language? How many times have I seen this person (at a crowded nightclub for example)? Who are they with? What conclusions can I draw about them based on what I see? If I talk to them I may try to confirm my thoughts. I may make eye…
/r/askTRP21/10/14 07:08 AM
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Concerns Oneitis. How long have you been with this girl? You know yourself, you know what infatuation feels like (look at limerence too). If you're still in this stage then don't even think LTR. You might as well be drunk. Enjoy it, but assess things once the Limerence Gogglestm are off. Experience. How many LTRs have you been in? Do you at least know what you don't want from an LTR (very different from a plate). Feelin like a bitch. For an LTR you're going to have to give some beta - can't be a…
/r/askTRP21/10/14 06:33 AM
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Let her go. Move on. She'll get a hold of you if she wants. Maybe reach out to her in a few months. Don't chase her.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 06:13 AM
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Your frame appears to be reactive asshole...better to be calm and mature. You'll only get that through experience though. Hot guy text She painted you into a beta/orbiter position. A girl talks about the guys she's flirting with to her girl friends and orbiters. She doesn't talk about that to the guy she wants to get with. She's being a bitch and does not respect you. Nuclear option. Be ready to fold those cards. As soon as that portion of the conversation started you should have made it clear (…
/r/askTRP19/10/14 06:04 AM
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Shit Tests 101 has a good definition of Shit Test. Anything that isn't an ST is a normal question. However, even normal questions should be RP opportunities. Maybe they aren't STs, but they are a change to demonstrate frame, establish/reinforce boundaries, instill mild dread, etc.
/r/askTRP19/10/14 01:35 AM
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What you're probably feeling is a mild form or some variant of limerence. It's not abnormal. It sounds like you're not spinning plates. This means that your brain will tend to focus on the one option you have. This heightens the likelihood of these effects. The cure: Go through this experience enough times and you'll become less susceptible to its effects. Furthermore, if you understand what your hormones are doing you can more easily compensate. Spin plates so you can't focus on one girl. Remin…
/r/askTRP08/09/14 02:08 PM
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There is no timeline. You should never 'settle'. You should uncompromising get exactly what you want from a long-term. Once you start down a path of compromise a precedence is established. You're already starting off in an unfavorable position in the relationship. 'Settle' implies Beta behavior. When you 'settle' you're accepting there are things you don't like but you're betting they won't bother you over the long run. They probably will. The 'cute thing' or 'quirky thing' will turn into the 'a…
/r/askTRP27/08/14 07:58 AM
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'I don't trust women in general - neither do you. Prove me wrong if you like.' This may not work for your frame. A more important issue is, why is she saying this? Is it in response to something or just a random girl/needy thing? Are you exhibiting insecurities that make her think you don't trust her? That would be much more concerning.
/r/askTRP22/08/14 07:01 AM
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Since I'm full of ideas tonight: Having an automated method encouraging people to follow-up in the thread or through an "EDIT:" on how the advice worked would be helpful. We're all continually learning. This is an opportunity to learn from someone else's experiences. You've asked the community to give you something (advice), give back (how did the advice work out). Provide some analysis on why things worked/didn't work. Discuss how you could do better next time if applicable.
/r/askTRP22/08/14 04:45 AM
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Having some required, basic, information in the question would improve the quality of the questions and answers and make it easier to provide better support: [F] if you are female (not always clear, we default assume male) Age: The advice you give a 16 year old is different from what you tell a 26 year old. [LTR]/[P]late/[ONS]: If applicable Experience: [V]irgins & near virgins [NV] may be told different things then those who are experienced[X]. SMV assessment: You can be told all sorts of RP ad…
/r/askTRP22/08/14 04:39 AM
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High School: Lay the foundation now for your future greatness. There are things you can do now that will ensure your SMV is maximized when you're 22+. That's when shit gets real. Life is easier with a high SMV. But you can make decisions in HS that will affect your SMV for the rest of your life. Focus on gaining copious amounts of experience. Good experience, bad experience, it will all be helpful. Best way to get a girl is to....get a girl. Any girl, don't be too picky, don't be exclusive, don'…
/r/askTRP14/08/14 03:50 AM
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In the future, set a lower standard of communication with women. Once you set the precedent for a multiple e-mails a day you will likely be expected to maintain that indefinitely. No matter how you're feeling. You need to explain to her that the way she is acting threatens the relationship. You are not interested in being with someone who thinks that because you don't e-mail enough when you're sick that or don't invite her over that she "[is] nothing to you lately," or that you're mad. If it end…
/r/askTRP14/08/14 02:41 AM
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How can women not consider how what they say/do affects others: solpsism. It's a consequence to how many women are raised today where things are significantly all about them and they've never had to consider the impact of their actions on others. Things you should worry about in the near future: All the standard stuff in the /r/TheRedPill sidebar; hypergamy is chief among them.
/r/askTRP14/08/14 02:27 AM
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RP is amoral and about maximizing your SMV. If you cannot accept that then RP is not for you. Furthermore, do you think girls will lie to you to get you to commit? Yep. All. the. time. This is one of the things you can do to make the market more symmetric.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 05:51 PM
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Watching a girl you barely know run a half-marathon is not consistent with RP. This places you in a cheerleader/supporter role and is not alpha. It might be too late, but conveniently you've 'made plans already' for Sunday. These plans should be vague, non-specific, and involve friends. The other option is to say you'll go and either don't go or be late for a vague reason. May be effective depending on your frame.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 08:01 AM
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A chick is a chick. The basic biology and hormones are the same regardless of the sub-culture. The principles of TRP still apply. That being said, the SMP sounds a bit different in your sub-culture. You'll have to evaluate that to determine what frame will provide you optimal results. Continue to lift and do the conventional TRP self-improvement. It will lay a foundation for success post-uni. It appears the best, first active step is to isolate and escalate with a girl - don't be too picky and d…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 10:25 PM
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What women say they want and what actually makes them happy are two different things. Do not respond directly to what she says - it's a flavor of shit test. Do something together that you will both enjoy. Repeat occasionally and unpredictably.
/r/askTRP12/08/14 02:13 AM
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Life Pro Tip
/r/askTRP11/08/14 06:56 AM
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Ask her. Directly.
/r/askTRP11/08/14 03:32 AM
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I would recommend reading everything in the sidebar for /r/TheRedPill. Then read it again. The answers you seek are there. RP is a framework, you need to take it all in for it to work properly. Do the reading.
/r/askTRP10/08/14 06:34 PM
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For TRP you're supposed to tolerate a low N count. Not wantonly accept everything she's done sexually (/r/sex will have a different opinion). Let's examine to the pro's and con's to female virginity: Pro's You know you're the father of the kids She's clean If you have a fetish for virgins it will be satisfied, once Con's Probably intimidated by sex and will lack confidence Doesn't know what she wants sexually. This can make it harder for you to satisfy her. May decide she wants a little variety …
/r/askTRP10/08/14 04:54 PM
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Both. Take time until you're experienced enough to respond quickly. LPT: Nobody cares how quickly you give the wrong answer to a test.
/r/askTRP10/08/14 04:37 PM
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As a baseline, it doesn't matter whether she's doing it on purpose or even if she's actually doing it. What matters is what you think/perceive. Treat her like you would an adolescent who is misbehaving. Confront her about it. This should be an unemotional, low-drama, factual discussion, be prepared to imply her actions could threaten her relationship with you. Expect her to turn the hamster on overdrive. Expect her to shit test the shit out of you. Expect things to get icy for a few days. Stick …
/r/askTRP10/08/14 06:16 AM
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Let's do some line by line analysis, for science: "I am not like all other girls" Most girls say they aren't like other girls. Ignore or A&A "I actually hate women, they are so random" All women hate other women. They are their competition. She also trying to imply she isn't random. Trust me, she's random in her own crazy way. Pay attention to what she does, not what she says. Ignore "I won't get married or have children" ...right now. She could 100% change her mind, for an apparently random rea…
/r/askTRP08/08/14 07:22 PM
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If you're alpha enough and your SMV is high enough it's a non-issue, there is nothing better for her to trade up to. If you want to ironclad avoid feeling insecure do what you need to do to get there. Insecure actions reek of weakness. She may like them for a while, but in the long run it will turn her off. Then she will cheat. You have to suppress your insecurities and act secure. Fake it til you make it. If she cheats: next. You have abundance, right?
/r/askTRP08/08/14 06:40 AM
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Might I recommend stoicism
/r/askTRP08/08/14 06:30 AM
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Finding girls you really like is a numbers game. Meet a lot of girls. One will hit the right mix of smart, not depressed, joyful, sexy, etc. You are spending a lot of energy anticipating what a girl might do. Women anticipate and focus on what might happen. Men plan for what might happen and then shift their attention. Focus on her actions not what she might do. If you aren't investing many resources, having fun, and getting laid it's a net gain for you. Furthermore, the window of what you'll to…
/r/askTRP08/08/14 06:27 AM
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You should not bring it up. All relationships are considered non-exclusive until exclusivity is requested. If she has not learned this then she can learn it from you - if she asks. You need to consider your response beforehand to ensure you don't break frame. Feeling like a dick for not 'defining the relationship' sounds like a beta/bitch move. You probably learned to feel like a dick for 'not defining the relationship' from previous girls and beta guys. Alpha would proactively 'define the relat…
/r/askTRP08/08/14 06:15 AM
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All girls you can live without. 3.5 billion chicks in the world, there's more than one for you. See: Abundance mentality and outcome independence Practice, experience, and confidence. There is no other way to get better around girls. When you mess up, analyze what you did wrong. Go to /r/askTRP/, describe the situation, ask what you should have done/said/etc. Understand how your hormones react so you can better counteract them. Go google 'limerence' and 'infatuation'. They are your kryptonite. L…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 06:03 AM
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It doesn't mean she's easy - it means she doesn't want you to think she's easy. Pay attention to what she does, not what she says. Escalate. Be prepared for light resistance.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 05:53 AM
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Great advice from karmasutur3. Furthermore, at this age, you should be maximizing your experiences. Make mistakes, learn, gain experience. If she wants to do stuff like this encourage it, see how far you can push her, within your comfort. It will make you comfortable sooner getting girls to do what you want. She isn't your forever girl and the experience will be good for both of you - help you and her figure out what you like and don't like.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 05:49 AM
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This is a great answer and is good relationship advice, not just TRP. ♂
/r/askTRP04/08/14 05:41 AM
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It's okay to go out alone. You're not a loser, you're 'just chilling/relaxing/watching people/watching the game/unwinding/whatever.' And why do you care what people assume? That's their problem, not your's. You can't control what they think anyways. There are websites out there that talk about solo game. You won't meet people unless you go to place where people are.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 05:38 AM
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It's better to get hers so you have the initiative. It's a beta move to let her decide when to contact you. It also puts you in a position where you risk starting to wonder, 'why hasn't she contacted me.' I have them type their numbers into my phone. Then I call their phone immediatly so they have my number. This also confirms they didn't 'accidentally' mistype their number. You can do it the other way (give her your number), if you're SMV is so high that the girl will contact you or you don't c…
/r/askTRP04/08/14 01:33 AM
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In the link it states that TRP is amoral. It isn't just me saying it's amoral. You have an SMV of 0, want to 'escape the game', and generally seem resistant to change. I'm not sure TRP is for you. If you truly want to do better you should stop discussing and just do something (even if you don't entirely understand it), do lots of things, then come to TRP when you're ready.
/r/askTRP03/08/14 07:03 PM
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You can get a women without lying, she may be slutty or looking for a beta provider. Is that what you want? You can get a girl you really want without lying, but the truth has to be what hits all her interests: your SMV without lying has to be high enough for her. That being said, TRP is amoral. It is a means to an end - maximizing your value in the SMP. If you can't accept that then TRP isn't for you. Furthermore, do you think girls are telling you the truth? Why would you want to play this gam…
/r/askTRP02/08/14 11:36 PM
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Don't expect rational decisions from women.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 11:24 PM
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No. It isn't too late. You seem to be concerned that she's moved on (<cough> male hamster for inaction). It sounds like, inadvertently, you've established a pretty good frame in her eyes. Therefore, if she has 'moved on' she'll likely be happy to trade up from whatever she's with now to someone with greater perceived SMV (you). Hypergamy can work in your favor. Privately tell her when your term is up. Tell her to put her number in your phone (then call to confirm). After the term is up call her.…
/r/askTRP02/08/14 06:19 AM
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At 15 everything you do, good or bad, is for experience. You will mess up many things with this girl. She's not your forever girl. You will/should both use each other to get experience, comfort, and confidence with the opposite sex. TRP doesn't really apply to 15 year olds. But you can do things now that will prepare you to be RP later. Escalate and see where things go. Don't do anything that changes someone's life (pregnancy, criminal record, etc).
/r/askTRP02/08/14 06:00 AM
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My stance: Nutty is for plating at best, not LTR. I stay away from nutty. Nutty sounds like a synonym for 'lots of shit tests and drama'. I don't have time for that. Don't open up. I want to be known for what I do. Not what happened to me in the past. I gain nothing by opening up about the past.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 05:48 AM
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I think you made your point to her. She should know her actions were not acceptable to you. You treated her like the child she was being, that's okay. You established you aren't going to tolerate her actions without being a dick and just leaving her. To resume the relationship just act like the incident never happened. Do whatever you like within your frame to meet her again. Don't forget to imply that she has some competition from other women. Consider that her friends may be affecting how she …
/r/askTRP02/08/14 05:24 AM
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For an LTR you have to give some beta and not pure alpha. If it makes you happy (to see her happy of whatever) give her a gift. Just be aware, if you haven't established the right frame, she'll expect a gift every Valentine's Day. How will you react when you forget?
/r/askTRP30/07/14 06:52 AM
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She is a likely a very inexperienced girl who doesn't entirely understand how guys work. You tried escalating and she wasn't ready. Good thing you didn't drive the 45 minutes. Not every girl on Tinder is looking for booty. They don't all get the same information. This girl is in the percentage that thinks Tinder is 'fun' and for 'meeting people'. Your expectations were different. I know, you're thinking that it's obvious from your profile what you expect. Don't expect rational thought from women…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 05:20 AM
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Know your feelings and your hormones and control them. What you're feeling sounds like limerance. Ask yourself, 'would I do this/act this way' if I wasn't wallowing in limerance? This will separate the 'stupid' you from the less stupid you. When you go through this enough times you'll be able to easily mitigate its effects. Life experience.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:55 AM
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Abortion is a shitty method for birth control. The smartest thing you can do here is not get her pregnant. Avoid the drama. You're in a committed relationship and still young (TRP is a sexual strategy, not an LTR strategy incidentally). She will likely not be the mother of your kids. If she goes on the pill and goes for someone less masculine guy (BTW, I think you're way to focused on this and are overstating it) so what? Have you instilled some dread in her life? Do you have abundance mentality…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:35 AM
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To maintain frame, ask yourself, 'What will getting pissed off accomplish?' What is it to you if she's with your room-mate/boss? You cannot control either of their actions. You should be pleased that she's found someone to fill her hole and that he gets your sloppy seconds. It clearly satisfies them both. If she means nothing to you then this shouldn't bother you. Now you need to shift your focus from the immediate situation (which anger won't fix) and instead focus on a goal. Do you want her to…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:25 AM
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The Red Pill is a sexual strategy, not strictly an LTR strategy. It can facilitate LTR, but LTRs are much more complicated. You have to give her some beta as well as alpha if you want to maintain it. Additionally, you want to establish a Captain and First Mate type of relationship for a good LTR. That being said, tempered with good judgment, all four of those bullets will likely maximize your happiness in an LTR.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:17 AM
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Meeting people is meeting people. Girls, guys, it's fundamentally just a numbers game (go to locations and do things that stack the deck in your favor though - frat and gym invites are a good start). You've got the right idea, start somewhere and start now.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 03:48 AM
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Some people learn best by their own painful experience. He has built up a certain paradigm over his life...to shatter that is challenging due to certain cognitive biases. He needs to go through divorce and experience many more women. Then he may be ready for the pill. Taking most of the pill and ignoring the 'slut-shaming' aspects of it will still do him better then totally disregarding the frame work.
/r/askTRP28/07/14 06:04 AM
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So, you want some redpill advice... You don't need a male figure. You need to grab life by the balls. Start improving yourself (read everything on the right side of the /r/TheRedPill and do that). Go internal for a year, focus on yourself. Once you're heading in the right direction start being more social, make friends who are like what you want to be. Make mistakes, but mistakes of commission, not omission (and don't do stupid shit either). It will be painful, but nothing worth doing is painles…
/r/askTRP28/07/14 05:37 AM
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If she doesn't like the way you talk to her then this is not a relationship she wants to be in. The choice is hers. You may have to let her know this. You have abundance and she is replaceable (right?). You control commitment. Whoever can walk away from a relationship has the most control. However, while holding the line against any of her childishness and sensitivity you need to ensure you don't cross the line from mature and stern into rude and disrespectful. No sense in losing ass just becaus…
/r/askTRP28/07/14 05:14 AM
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