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FIELD REPORTsubgirl182/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 10:14 AM
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DISCUSSIONsubgirl182/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 01:51 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEsubgirl182/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 10:53 PM
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Haha me too! x
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 11:07 AM
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Thank you, I read it all and found it helpful x
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 11:06 AM
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That's very true x
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 11:06 AM
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Thank you! x
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 11:05 AM
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Thank you so much! This is really helpful! xx
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 02:31 PM
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If he's broached the subject this early, it's a need of his to sub and unless you have a deep desire to dominate, you're going to struggle to keep up with his needs and not have your own met. There's a great discussion on Married Red Pill atm about sex and validation. You would end up using sex to validate him and it will become a chore for you. Make sure you get what you want from a man, vet him and don't settle for second best x
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 02:00 PM
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We have a very wide definition of sex, he knows that I like being denied but he is putting some pressure on himself for some reason to finish things off x
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 12:50 PM
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Having talked to him, I think this is the issue. We're in our forties now and though he's in good shape and still very active, he is worried that it's too much and he won't be able to perform x
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 12:49 PM
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Not a yes man. He's never turned down sex before but he know's I have... er... kinks. He knows I like being denied and told what I can and can't do and if he said no, I would very happily leave him alone x
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 12:48 PM
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Ok...beautiful compared to me then lol
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 09:06 PM
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He doesn't feel the same way as you do, put very simply. And after nine months, that's not going to change. You need to work on your own value and increasing that so that you can feel more confident ditching the time wasters and work on finding a high value man. He is not one of them x
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 02:22 PM
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If he's paranoid, so should you be. Don't send him any more pictures like that. Not until you're married anyway!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 02:08 PM
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Tiny Fey, beautiful and hilarious x
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 12:09 PM
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I don't spank, never have, never been spanked myself, it just doesn't come up in my mind as a required form of discipline. I'm generally a fan of natural consequences, it's just a natural thing I do. I parent very much by instinct, the kids haven't read the manuals lol. I've never had need to physically discipline mine, they are good kids :) x
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 08:50 PM
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If Donald Trump came near me I'd puke and I'm 40 lol. It's all relative. My husband is hotter than every...to me. To my 20yr old self...probably not so much x
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:54 AM
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Depends on what you define as Alpha, to me, someone who is psychologically impaired to the point where women hate him, such as a sociopath, isn't Alpha, he just needs therapy and possibly some meds. Beta guys can be very financially successful hence the term 'Beta bucks'. Alpha guys are the type of guys that you miss when they leave you, not the type that make you feel relieved you got out in time! x
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:45 AM
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YES!! I wasn't allowed razors, makeup, hair products, heels, until I was earning my own money! In fact, I got my first job when I was thirteen but I still wasn't allowed to buy those things until I was 18 so once I was old enough, I very clumsily tried to learn how to do it all. Luckily, my husband was into the more natural look when he met me lol x
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:25 AM
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I hit my peak in relation to looks at 28. I'm 40 now and more confident in my body and in the bedroom than I've ever been. My body is also pretty good for a woman of my age as I'm very much into fitness but my face is starting to show my age, fortunately I'm very happily married now though so I only have to please my husband :) He seems happy ;) lol x
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 09:21 AM
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Haha, I love that x
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 12:24 PM
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I think at 19, getting prepared is the best thing you can do. Never being ready for kids really applies more to when you're thirty and still putting it off because everything isn't perfect. Keep your standards high and prepare for the future but do keep in mind that men are peope so having a personality checklist might cause you to discount amazing guys because they're not what you think you like, you have to treat people as individuals. You can't guarantee anything in this life but I had high s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 09:18 AM
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Arguing that you're the one that's not committed is just projection, it takes the heat off him. You can't argue him into wanting to commit to you. You are in a position now where you need to decide if it's worth waiting around and seeing if he changes his mind or if you want to cut your losses and move on. It's harsh but I think you're wasting your time. I know you're in love with him right now and this is really hard but he doesn't feel the same way as you do x
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 10:31 AM
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Vetting is also about finding someone who is invested and wants to commit to you. It isn't about putting your heart and soul into a guy that 'seems' committed. Once you're married, then do that, before marriage, you're vetting. Yes let him lead and believe in him as a good, strong person (if he lives up to that) and yes, you do have to have a certain amount of trust to have relationships with anyone but don't convince yourself it's a done deal just because he says the right things or even becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 10:25 AM
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Telling you he's bored, then refusing to tell you what he wants and expecting you to take all responsibility and see how he reacts is not alpha behavior and I wouldn't encourage it tbh. That would be my own personal reaction but of course if you're happy to take that on then by all means. But lets be honest, most of us are here because we want a confident, go getting alpha. My husband has his kinks and he's never been shy in coming forward and stating what he wants and our sex life has been grea…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 09:09 PM
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Ok, what I did was ask if I could be added to his bank account which he agreed to and we both went along to the bank to have my name added. I then slowly moved all my direct debits and work income over to the joint account. I set up direct debits for everything so that nothing could be forgotten about and really, neither of us have to do anything regarding paying the bills. Once a month we go though our loans and and outgoings together which doesn't take long as it's all automated but it's nice …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 01:21 PM
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Two different, dramatic evening looks (he's taking me out next week) and a daytime look. I've never worn much makeup and I'm not very good at it so it's been fun learning x
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 01:12 PM
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With regards to talking about stress, it's much better and more fulfilling to chat about that stuff to your girlfriends. They know how to empathise and share their own stories, guys just feel obligated to come up with solutions x
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 02:11 PM
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Not read all the comments but my first though, given your financial success, is to hire a cleaner and outsource your laundry. You can't do everything and your man doesn't expect you to. He doesn't want you to be tired and stressed, so don't burn yourself or him out, get outside help! Doing all the chores is really more applicable to situations where the man is out at work all day supporting his family.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 02:09 PM
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First thing, give up the weed. You hate cleaning and organising because you are on weed. Believe me, I speak from experience! Also, buy a copy of Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, it's a bit quirky but if you follow through, it can quite literally change your life. But yeah, the main thing is giving up the weed, I might be hard to believe but you WILL be much happier for it x
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 11:33 AM
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Agreed, guys following the red pill are beta's that are either angry or trying to better themselves. A young single man that's already using it is a different beast to a married man trying to save his marriage. An alpha would be taking you out to dinner for a start. For you to follow the red pill you need to understand that you are falling for him because he's shown an interest in you but sooner or later he won't be good enough. The point is to find a man you can truly respect and admire x
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 11:26 AM
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I think the hardest part of the red pill to swallow is that we are all driven by the same things in the same ways no matter how we try to differentiate ourselves. You just have to focus on being the best you that you can be and become confident and happy in who you are. Desperately seeking approval no matter how you do it, is not attractive on either side x
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 11:17 AM
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Love it, thanks for sharing x
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 08:31 PM
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I love this! This is very exciting, so happy for you! x
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 07:34 PM
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My stomach is irreversibly changed after having two very large babies, as are my boobs. But I work out hard and I look pretty good for a 40yr old mum of two. My husband certainly seems happy! Whatever happens, I think it's always worth making the best of what you've got rather than just letting yourself go.Beware though, we struggled for 10yrs to get our sex lives back on track and for me to be able to gather the time and energy to take care of myself. Lots of mums do better than I did but just …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 06:58 PM
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I kinda get a kick out of being told what to wear ;) lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 06:44 PM
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1- Gain 1lb of muscle, I keep cutting my diet because I feel sexier when I'm hungry and not bloated lol but I'm working toward athletic rather than 'skinny fat'. 2 - get into wearing contact lenses, I'm scared of putting things near my eyes! 3 - Keep on top of the laundry and housework so that people can drop by anytime without us having to do a mad dash clean up. 4 - Try three new makeup looks as requested by my husband. 5 - Add in some self care, mainly more sleep and healthy foods/eating prop…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 11:24 AM
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I have a cheat meal rather than a whole day and every month or so I take a diet break and eat AT MAINTENANCE, not in surplus. I'm also pretty focused on pleasing my husband and he likes me slim ;) x
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/18 12:21 AM
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My husband downloaded a tick sheet list of things, fantasies, limits etc that I marked out of 5 what I would/wouldn't like and what are hard limits lol, gave him a good idea of what I like without me having to tell him x
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 09:46 AM
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That made me laugh too lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 03:53 PM
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I think it's really about being confident in yourself. If you start 'trying' too hard to be his wife, it doesn't seem like he's special to you. It was having children, not being married, that changed our dynamics. Now it's more important that he knows he's important to me and needed and desired by me. Likewise, it matters more to me now that he thinks of me and is romantic with me. I never cared about romance before kids x
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 11:13 AM
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I like weight training and running too as well as eating healthily. But I REALLY want to get into climbing and snowboarding. I'm also pretty good at sugar art. I do love tv and sex though, but I'm married. Not sure I'd put that on a dating profile lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 11:06 AM
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I happened across TRP as a 40yr old married woman after an argument online with a MRA (I was a feminist). Being open minded, I started reading up on her viewpoint and learned a lot. One thing that stuck out for me is Jordan Peterson saying that feminism doesn't make women happy. That really clicked with me, I realised I was done with being in charge of and trying to be good at everything. I stepped back, my husband stepped up, our sex life exploded lol and that was that! This post feels like a g…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:48 PM
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We have our own business which my husband is much, much better at running than me so I do ALL the household chores in order to free up as much time as possible for him to focus on the business and sure enough, he works super hard. It works really well for us as I really hate the admin and marketing side of the business and quite happy sorting out the kids and house and he's happy to sit for hours working, answering the phone, dealing with people etc.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:20 PM
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So if you've been reading the books and things in the wiki, you'll know that this is a clear sign that he neither wants you to work full time nor earn more than he. You're baby is very young to missing out on all that time with you and you would feel much better about life, mothering, housekeeping and your relationship if you are not stressed and overworked x
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 06:06 PM
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Give him a chance? He's not a charity case, either he's the one for you or he isn't. He's being as up front as he can about how your relationship is going to pan out, I would jump ship on this one!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 10:22 PM
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I thought the reason we vet was so that we kind find out this stuff and pass on the low value guys?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 10:21 PM
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Your family have weight issues and are trying to feel better about themselves by making jokes about you because if someone made jokes about them being thin, they would be happy, not offended. regarding baby size, I barely ate a thing during pregnancy due to issues and I had abnormally large babies, I have a friend who ate chinese takeaway through all her pregnancies as that was her craving, she's very, very overweight and had very tiny babies. The size of your baby is mostly due to your husbands…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 10:16 PM
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I'm not sure the whole TRP thing is best for the dating scene beyond embracing your femininity. Beyond that, men want someone unexpected, confident, someone that makes them sit up and take notice, that they can't 'game'. For that you need some serious inner confidence (not pretend confidence and extroversion) and you need to have faith you will find the right guy and not cling on to the first one that shows an interest and turn awalt.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 11:22 PM
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I recently lost weight so I'm rather clumsily trying to find my style which matches up with what my husband likes. I've bought several dresses that my husband doesn't really like lol but after much discussion last night I think I've figured out what style he likes so I'm going to sell those other dresses and get the things he likes. I used to like to be on trend but now I don't really know what the trends are, I'm pretty out of touch and it's becoming more important to me, as I age, that I look …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 01:39 PM
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Women are always attracted to men older than themselves but not significantly older. When I was 25, the thought of getting with a 40yr old man was positively gross but I'd have dated a 30yr old no problem. Now I'm 40 a 45yr old man looks pretty hot to me but dating a 30yr old would be gross. There are exceptions to this rule of course, but that's generally how it works for most x
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 10:44 AM
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That's a good point regarding how others respond to you. I for one would never say something like 'Oh you're 70lbs overweight? Yeah I can tell.' I would literally say '70lbs over weight? No way! You look way smaller' just to spare your feelings because I'm not a butthole.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 11:51 PM
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Turning heads isn't your goal. Be honest with yourself, you want to please your husband. That is the RPW perspective. Some part of you wants to be what he wants you to be, you're not for everyone else to look at, turning heads justifies why you haven't been a good wife but that's not what you really want.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 11:42 PM
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Your own lack of sexual desire probably has more to do with your own issues than your husbands. I definitely recommend trying out the books that everyone has mentioned here with an OPEN mind. You will also improve your sexual desire with healthy eating, exercise and weight loss. It is imperative that you look up to your husband for all the hard work he has put into providing for your family and improve your sexual desire. You seriously need to stop looking down on him, even I can sense that you …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 10:38 PM
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I also think that if you really love someone, you will love and accept him as he is, without trying to change him. If you want your guy to be different, how can you really love him? How would you feel if a guy said he loves you but wishes you were different? It makes the love part stop ringing true!
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:02 PM
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We work in the same field so through work really x
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 12:30 PM
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I'm married and in my 40's and my husband definitely puts more effort in than I do, that's why it's important to vet your guy properly and make sure you have a good guy who can also step up. He takes on the mental load of running our business and taking on the finances as well as taking care of car issues, boiler repairs that kind of thing. I take care of the house and kids and turn up to a job that I love without the mental load. It's very freeing and gratifying him in the bedroom, keeping the …
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:59 PM
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Does he still want to not be exclusive? If he's carrying that on, he's decided you're a plate or placeholder. Time to move on and maybe be a little more picky next time!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:47 PM
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This makes me so sad, I see so many stunning, beautiful women of color that I wish I looked like, I hate the thought that these women might be less desirable because they're not white!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:39 PM
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When I say together 18yrs, I also mean married with kids x
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:28 PM
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My husband is liberal and a feminist ally, also very attractive, enjoys body building and runs our business. He waited 4 months for me which isn't exactly till marriage but definitely different from the majority I think. Then I happily let him educate me ;) We've been together 18yrs now, I'm more traditionalist than him still x
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:27 PM
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Telling you that you're incompatible or immature is a mixture of him dealing with your rejection and manipulation. Assuming these guys are fairly young, this is not something to base your own life choices around. Men will have a fwb build to a romance for a time but she is just a placeholder. He won't marry her. A man wants a woman who will be a slut for him but not for anyone else. Stay picky, protect your heart, and remember that as much as men like sex, it's not everything to him x
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:15 PM
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You have to take TRP with a pinch of salt. For me, I took the pill because I was an angry feminist and it was affecting my sex life and marriage. I needed to be reminded that I'm a feminine woman who wants to be married to a strong man, not someone brow beaten by my bad attitude. It's a tool to help me put things into perspective, but my husband is still a person, in his own right, with his own personality and values which I love and respect. He is not some stereotype that fits into a box that w…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 10:07 PM
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Omg I just googled White Boy Extinction porn, what the heck??? Lol, people are weird!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 09:58 PM
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Yes this is simple disinterest. Staying over at his apartment on the third date seems weird? I would stick to regular dates and then going home at the end of the date next time and I personally wouldn't pursue a guy at all. If he stops responding, I would assume he's not that into me, not enough for me anyway. As for sleeping with a guy, I do that when I'm ready and he can take it or leave it. As a married woman I'm dtf as and when but when I was dating, it was only for when I was in love.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 10:40 PM
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Just to clarify, you didn't cheat on your boyfriend? It was your ex that cheated on his wife but you hadn't met your bf at the time?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 10:30 PM
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Verbal abuse is not always a two way thing but often it is. This particular situation sounds like the wife is doing all she can and he is still abusive. I have never encountered verbal abuse as I don't tolerate it and I don't do it to others. I've only encountered it from another family member who I eventually cut out of my life as I don't want my children to think it's acceptable to tolerate. You cannot assume every situation is the same but I think it's important to give Laura Doyles suggestio…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 10:07 PM
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Ah ok, I don't have much insight into online dating. I met my husband through a sport we both enjoy. Do you have hobbies/interests where you might be able to find a way to meet someone?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 11:50 PM
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I must admit your post really made me laugh! I am really attracted to my mans hands, they're big and manly. He's not 'perfect' in every way but honestly, I find it hard to be attracted to a man with slim, feminine fingers lol
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 02:24 PM
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Agreed, continue on your phd and try online dating. Don't put too much stock into TRP because most men are not aware of it and just want to find a woman that will treat them well and is stable and confident. Completing your phd will help you feel good and feeling good is attracctive. Just don't try to find the perfect guy, get to know him as an individual, as a human being x
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 02:20 PM
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Hello, am I on the right path in my current relationship? Thank you so much x
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/18 09:50 PM
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He is probably already trying to fit in and probably been trying to his whole life. My husband put it to me like this, if you pretend to be someone you're not, the friends you make aren't really friends with you, they don't really like you because they don't know you, because you've been pretending!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 10:56 PM
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True, I've been swimming and running roughly the same amount in terms of training hours and effort and my improvements in running are epically disastrous. To the point where people at my running club are surprised by how bad I still am at running lol, I'm a pretty excellent swimmer though! And no, I'm not over weight at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 10:46 PM
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My husband physically can't run as slow as me, he has to walk/jog if we go out together so we mostly exercise in this way separately and come together for walks and bike rides instead. Lose some weight and find a hiking group you can join, you will love it, most sports group are so friendly and welcoming! We weight train together also but he can obvs lift a lot more than me but it gives me a good opportunity to compliment his manliness and he likes seeing me squatting in my tight leggings lol. W…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 10:32 PM
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I wish I knew, I have the same issue which comes and goes, every time it falls out it's devastating to me but I know I'm very lucky that it grows back at all as for some it doesn't. I find that keeping in really good shape, eating well and exercising really helps both with feeling feminine and attractive as well as with my health. Also, as mentioned, good makeup and feminine clothing also helps. Nice hats in the summer help with outdoors with less stares and also protects your head from the sun …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 10:09 PM
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If he has aspergers, he will never be 'normal'. You have to love him exactly as he is, love his quirks, love that he enjoys your company and love that he makes friends with people that accept him for who he is. You can make your own friends if you need something more but he will always filter out uninteresting people.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 11:12 AM
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He cried because you spoke to another guy on your course??
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 06:47 PM
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Sorry, I'd been drinking when I posted this haha
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 01:46 PM
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I can't really advise you on this, I can only talk about my story. I started dating and he practically moved in with me on the same week. I lived in a houseshare so he moved in with me and my roommates. We didn't sleep with each other for 4 months as I don't sleep with a guy unless I know I'm in love with him. We lived there for two years before we got our own place together. It all depends on where you're both at in your lives. We were both at the stage of looking for long term serious relation…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 01:19 AM
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I got my husband a track day experience for his 40th which he loved. Nothing beats a blowie though!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 01:13 AM
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Is there a reason you couldn't/wouldn't carry the child in your own womb? x
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 12:25 AM
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Let me get this right, you want a father to your child but are not interested in loving the father but you do want to marry him? And you want a woman to carry the child through pregnancy and then you raise the child?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 01:51 PM
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Yep, he wants you to be a dirty girl, but only for him x
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 10:56 AM
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If you don't have the self confidence to date men more in your league then your weight is holding you back. Your last guy wasn't being allowed to take the lead as you were choosing dinners and vacations he couldn't afford and then having you pay for it! So then either you need to find a way of raising your self esteem or let the guy take the lead and get out of your comfort zone rather sticking with what you're accustomed to xx
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 10:14 AM
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He doesn't care about your financial success as long as you are engaged and passionate about life and have interests of your own. I'm sure he's happy for you that you are running a business that you presumably love and are growing it but as far as your actual monetary income goes, it's not important to him x
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 10:01 AM
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If you ask him his opinion you need to go with his suggestion, regardless of what you think, otherwise you are outright disrespecting and disregarding him to his face. If you have already decided on something, don't come to him asking for his opinion. Women do this thinking out loud thing where we verbally thrash out thoughts and then go with what we think best but men see it as us asking them for advice and then deliberately going against his advice. So you are right to just not ask unless it's…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 10:54 PM
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They guys on there probably saw it as a 'shit test' because if you were told by your man that he was about to finish while you're giving him head, you would stop or tell him afterwards that that's a hard limit. You wouldn't normally do it and then cry about it. So, there's the possibility that they are correct and it was a shit test that had nothing to do with what she's saying. It's something we do as women, we get emotional and we try to find a reason for our feelings and place blame instead o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 10:38 PM
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Try not to be afraid. Take good care of yourself and focus on your own development as a wife. Obviously there needs to be boundaries as far as abuse goes, but otherwise, let him ride out his anger and test his limits as captain. It was all work out for the best for both of you once you're through this stage. Are you both sober now? That will be the priority if not. Try reading The Surrendered Wife as it's a balanced take on RP for women x
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 02:54 PM
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He's very passive and wants you to be more adventurous? Do you think he could be sexually submissive?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 02:50 PM
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If he's being unkind now because you're not adventurous enough, it's probably that rather then the pregnancy thing that's turning you off. He has to seduce you and make you want him, he has to deserve your surrender. I'm not sure what the answer is here other than to keep reading and finding ways to invite him to step up and be a captain rather than a sullen child not getting what he wants...
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 02:39 PM
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Wrap slings are a game changer! No more spending hours trying to get baby to sleep just so you go to the loo and wash some dishes lol, I LOVED having a sling when I finally discovered them! Let your husband know that you 'can't' host his mom after the birth and leave it at that. He'll either step up and tell her, help you or at least be aware that his mom might be mad when he gets home from work because you've spend all day ignoring her lol. For the birth, it's really up to you who you have ther…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 10:54 AM
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I've never met anyone who's been 'alpha widowed' either. I've dated high value guys and yes, they took a while to get over, but you do get over it. My mum stayed single after her second divorce because the guys she married where knobs and she decided they weren't worth it (WGTOW?) not because she was alpha widowed x
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 10:36 PM
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My husband has actually had several accidents so it's not even a case of he 'might' have an accident if I don't say something lol. However I was beginning to wonder if some of his carelessness was because I was being a backseat driver. The last two weeks I've taken the decision to say absolutely nothing, no gasping, no grabbing hold of the door handle, not even holding my breath. I decided to literally trust him with my life. And do you know what?? No near misses, no actual hits, no sudden break…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 01:07 PM
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Did make me chuckle that he high fived her lol. Once you have your child you will gain a new perspective and then you will see if he's worth your energy. Having babies has a way of clarifying things. You just concentrate you and your baby for now xxx
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 09:35 AM
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Thank you! Yes I think we bring out the best in each other :) x
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 09:29 PM
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Ah I feel for you! My husband was out of work for a while at one point and he really struggled with it too. Like you say, it won't go on forever. You're doing all you can I think xx
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 08:36 AM
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I didn't settle or compromise, I fell in love with a guy who was handsome, fit, and an all round lovely guy (though not wealthy lol). You have to be realistic about your own value yes but I think it would be very difficult to have a good marriage to someone you find unattractive. Men need sex the way we need affection and love, if you can't give that to him, it wouldn't be fair! We've been together 18yrs and I'm 40. He's gotten better with age, me? Not so much, though I put a lot of effort into …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 08:28 AM
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I agree, we women varbalise everything! Whereas guys generally only talk about stuff that they need an opinion on. So if you've already made your mind up to do something, you'll say so and even pose it as a question whereas a guy will say nothing as he doesn't need any input since it's already decided and therefor not important to say x
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 08:22 AM
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Of course he's not going to agree with your proposal, would you even want him to? Do you want him to take the lead? Finances need to be his idea. Presumably you don't have children. If he is working toward increasing his income he is setting himself up as a provider. If you want to do less around the house, do less but don't try to control him. Studying is hard, he is working just as hard, if not harder than you. Like I say, just try to lay off telling him what to do at all and see what happens.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 10:07 PM
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Feminism almost destroyed my marriage and made me miserable. I can't believe how much happier I feel since having my eyes opened. I can't believe an ideology was changing who I was!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 08:20 PM
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Working full time and studying is pretty stressful? Also, did you just say that you want flowers and dinner or did you dictate where, how, what, etc? If he's already doing a lot to help around the house and he works full time and he's studying, what is it that makes you think you're putting more in? If you feel like he's a child, you're not respecting him and he's probably feeling it. He would much rather have a wife that respects him than a clean, tidy house. Step back and relinquish control fo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 08:07 PM
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I think you'll find this is much more common than you realise. If you are open minded and don't mind a bit of kink, most guys are ok with that without you feeling like you HAVE to do it ALL the time. Some guys have a very rigid sexuality but most guys are game for switching things up x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 02:35 PM
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Hubby and I run a business together. No degree, just followed our passion (we got together by a chance meeting doing work we're both passionate about so that came first, I'm not following his lead in that sense) x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 10:54 AM
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If, like me,you surrender to your hubby sexually, you pretty much need to look good ALL the gosh darn time lol. I need to feel sexy to be in the mood, that means exercising most days, eating well, waxing, shaving, make up, hair, underwear, etc every day! If I don't feel sexy, I won't be into it and hubby doesn't want that, he likes seeing me enjoy myself ;) x
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 10:52 AM
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I've read some of the responses you've received here and I'm sorry you've been attacked somewhat! Kids are a deal breaker for a lot of relationships because both of you have to be all-in. Kids are HARD work! If it's a no for one of you, it's a no. That said, there is more to life than children, your own children will be grown up and gone in a blink of an eye and then you will back to being just the two of you. Also, adopted or biological, your kids are not you, they have personalities of their o…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 10:35 AM
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Not read all the comments so I'm only answering your question in the op. I don't think there is any protection regarding splitting after having a child. In the UK the courts will award 50/50 wherever possible but if there is any dispute, residency is usually given to the mother with 50/50 access outside of sleeping and the parent without residency will have to pay child support. My husband didn't want children until we were in a house we owned and were married and I didn't want children after ag…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 10:09 AM
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I'm 40 and had two kids and I believe I still look pretty good! Remove makeup at night, take good care of your skin, don't get too much sun! Don't smoke, don't drink too much, eat well and exercise and you won't have to worry about extras for a long time. When we've got the money though, husband is getting a hair transplant and I'm getting a boob job lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:37 AM
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I agree, once you're in the right state of mind it's much easier to commit to improving your health and fitness. You're making amazing progress, congratulations!! I do a lot of lifting rather than cardio and I can see really good changes in my shape. I used to just run but I would end up the same shape just smaller. 1.5 kilo of muscle when losing weight is fantastic! And yes! I feel soooo much more energetic and positive by eating healthy and exercising :D xx
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 09:31 AM
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If your husband still wants you, don't stop having sex with him because of your weight. Submit to him in the bedroom and use that as motivation to get into shape. Plus you know, great exercise!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 08:09 PM
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My husband just said 'why are you being so nice to me? I feel on edge' lol! He's loving it though x
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 06:53 PM
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Yes he doesn't say much in response but I can tell by the look on his face that he likes the compliments :) I've read For Women Only, The Alpha Female's Guide to Men and Marriage, Feed me, F* Me and Shut the F* Up (Lol) and about to read The Surrendered Wife x
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 10:16 AM
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I'm improving my body and toning up, wearing more feminine clothes, taking my makeup off at night and taking better care of my skin. Reading up lots and practicing stfu. I'm also getting better at the housework and (this feels really awkward for me) I've started complimenting my husband on his leadership x
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 10:10 AM
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Thank you for your reply, he seems to be enjoying taking the lead so I think he'd handle it ok x
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 10:02 AM
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Aw he sounds like a good guy! Is it bad to text? I would have thought it would give him time to mull over a response to you? Anyway, glad you're learning to communicate better xx
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 10:24 PM
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Ah thank you but I'm vegetarian! xx
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:47 AM
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I sure hope so!! x
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:47 AM
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Ah I'm 40yrs old, two kids, together 18 years, married 12, I think I'm well beyond co-dependency lol. Thank you :D xx
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:47 AM
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Congratulations!! That's great progress!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:45 AM
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Thank you! xx
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:44 AM
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I work part time in my husbands business doing a job I love. It gives me validation and makes me feel productive and brings me out of myself unlike when I was home full time. You can find a balance if you find the right work that doesn't require you to sacrifice home life x
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:42 AM
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Btw I still call myself a feminist because I do believe in equal rights as a whole, I'm just no longer a radical feminist where I think I'm superior or that traditional roles should be looked down upon or that I'm some sort of 'victim' x
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:36 AM
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Exactly this! We need to respect and honor each others differences, that is what feminism is to me. I'm a woman, I have and nurture babies, I multitask and I hold the community together, that needs to be respected without diminishing anybody! How can you be a feminist and look down on everything that's good about women? x
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 11:29 AM
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I was a total feminist from the time I had children because, let's be honest here, being a mother in inherently unfair. It's us who suffer the discomfort and inconvenience of pregnancy and the pain of birth, who breastfeeds and as a result, never, ever, EVER, sleep lol, it's us who has the mothering instinct and therefor feel this huge responsibility/burden while our husbands swan off to work. I was also surrounded by strong feminist women all my life. But then one day, I had an argument with a …
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 10:52 AM
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It is, he deserves the best of me, thank you x
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 10:09 AM
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I'm sorry, I didn't take it as a joke, just the way you put it across was so blunt it made me laugh x
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 10:07 AM
2

According to the book it's career minded, assertive women who spent most of their time in their 'masculine energy' x
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 10:06 AM
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I'm glad, he's definitely noticed a big difference in me both around the house and in the bedroom but I haven't let on that I'm deliberately trying to be a better wife for him x
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/18 06:01 PM
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Aw glad her confession had a positive outcome!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/18 05:59 PM
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Haha x
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/18 05:57 PM
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He really doesn't need you to instruct him on setting boundaries. That would tell him that you don't trust him to be able to deal. If anything, just ask him if there's anything you can do you help. Your insecurities about the situation are yours to deal with, not his.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:46 PM
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I'm not faking, I'm learning how to step back and let him take the lead and we're both happier and better for it. So... indefinitely! I just worry that he would think I'm faking if he knew what I've been reading
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/18 04:44 PM
2

I feel like, if you try to split the chores, you will get mad at him for not doing it right. Whether we like it or not, women just are better and seeing what needs to be done around the home. I would just accept the household chores as part of life and ask him to give you a hand as you're doing it and tell him what needs doing (without micromanaging!). Men want to help but they don't want to be treated like children x
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:37 PM
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I would under no circumstances raise this with him. You MUST trust his judgement. The absolute most important thing you can do to support him is to trust his ability to deal with the situation and respect his decisions x
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 04:31 PM
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I've been reading The Alpha Females Guide to Men and Marriage, which is basically a manifesto for red pilled women. I haven't told my husband in case he thinks I'm faking suddenly being this awesome wife I've been working on becoming (never felt more myself in fact). Do men think like that? Would it be bad if he found out?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/18 04:21 PM
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We don't want a guy to do the dishes, we want a guy who takes charge and reduces the emotional labour. It wouldn't have taken much to get her to sort out the budget and he sort out the cleaning service but that is just an example. She doesn't want a man child, that is not attractive. She will happily keep the house if she doesn't have to think of and do everything, if he takes the lead and reduces her burden. She wants Christian Grey without the weird mommy issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/18 12:53 PM
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Not knowing what it is, it's hard to say if you should just indulge him or not but a fetish for a man is like his whole sexuality. My man likes a bit of bdsm whereas, being a woman, my preferences change week to week, so we both compromise and satisfy each others needs.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/18 07:21 AM
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I'm sorry, but if everything you say is correct, he is crazy! He told you he quit drinking, then started again = lying to you. He accuses you of gaslighting while gaslighting = projection. He's a great dad but if you weren't there, who would be taking care of his daughter? = not parenting at all. He's not doing anything with you and appears to not actually like you! Why on earth are you doing that to yourself? Most guys are pretty straight forward but he sounds like he needs serious professional…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 11:22 PM
1

As soon as you start feeling like he wants something from you, you're going to struggle to get aroused. You need to try to remember that he wants to share intimacy with you rather than just take something from you. Your body is his and his yours. When you are giving you will find the confidence to make suggestions and get him to please you. Definitely worth resolving before kids if you can as once you have kids, there is always somebody wanting a piece of you!! x
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 10:28 PM
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In fact, knowing about and indulging in his secret fantasies gives you an edge over other women x
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 09:28 PM
1

It's definitely not that he's getting bored. If he has a particular fetish or something, he will need to know that he can have that with you before committing the rest of his life to you. My husband has very specific preferences in the bedroom and the fact that I'm open minded is one of the reasons he married me lol x
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 09:26 PM
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I really hate the idea of comparing sex with my husband with giving a cookie to a child lol, not a very sexy thought at all! I don't say no to my husband unless I'm bleeding and then, like you, will do oral instead. He doesn't seem put off! As long as you're engaged and enjoying it, I think the more the better in a long term relationship x
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 08:07 PM
2

I assumed MGTOW types weren't into serious relationships so I wouldn't bother with one for a second! It's very important to be physically attracted to your partner, you'll just hurt the guy in the end if not. I prefer larger built muscular guys. My husband keeps himself in shape for me and I for him, that's how it works when you're attracted to each other, you make each other better x
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 10:07 AM
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I was a feminist until I watched a youtube clip of Jordan Peterson saying that radical feminism doesn't make women happy. It was a light bulb moment.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 11:51 PM
6

I told my husband I was going to start lifting and I did. He started lifting. I cooed over how much better at lifting he was than me and how much stronger he was looking, other women started to notice him too, voila! One large muscular husband (and much improved wife) haha
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 10:14 PM
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No helpful advice from me, I agree with you that he needs to suck it up or move on!
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 09:38 PM
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Best way to stay attractive to my husband as I hit my 40's?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 09:16 PM
1

The first couple of years with a child is really just a matter or survival. You both just gotta get through it alive!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:59 PM
1

A lot of this stuff is all about mindset. I used to feel this way and get hugely frustrated but now, never! Firstly, I've let my husband take the lead with regards to providing financially, running our business and making decisions. That has reduced the mental load so significantly that after an almost 10yr dry spell, my sex drive has returned with a vengeance because I have the rest, head space and respect for my man that I needed. On top of that, when you do things you feel you 'have' to do ra…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:44 PM
1

Before I'd ever heard of TRP, there was a guy who kept commenting on my posts and my husband thought he was getting a little flirty. I said to him then 'that dude is a 2, I'm a 6, you're an 8. Do the maths!' lol. Anyways, I moved the guy into a different contact list so he wouldn't see my posts any more and he married a beautiful Ukranian girl so it's all good now!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:21 PM
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If a woman flirts with my husband and he completely disregards her and seeks me out, I find that sexy. Doesn't matter if you're a man or woman, you want your long term partner to make you feel special. If a man flirts back with another woman, his value drops big time x
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 03:08 PM
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I was super hot in my twenties and met my guy at 22. Didn't appreciate my looks at all but at least I got a guy of similar smv to me. The I looks atrocious in my thirties due to having babies and going mad trying to control everything, sex drive gone. My mans smv went up and mine went down! I'm 40 now and looking and feeling much better now and my poor lovely husband is getting spoilt again so I think we're getting back to the same level. I'm lucky he stuck it out with me at my worst for 10 whol…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 12:54 AM
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