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subrosa215/r/askTRP19/11/18 05:47 AM
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subrosa215/r/askTRP15/11/18 05:45 AM
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LOL... There wasnt a single question in your response. It was just a vague muddled opinion that hardly made any sense to myself, or the other folks that down voted it. Which is why I asked for clarification on it, and you dodge answering that by telling me I'm the one dodging your non existent questions. Lmao. Good day sir.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 09:33 PM
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The truth is simple. Focus on yourself. That's the most helpful piece of advice I've had my whole life. Not sure what you even mean by saying "it's about as helpful as everybody cant win when talking about inequalities". I think our minds try to make things more complicated then it needs to be. The only barrier to entry in life is yourself.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 07:08 PM
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You attract where you're at. Dysfunctional people attract dysfunctional people to reflect themself back. Dont worry about finding an emotionally healthy LTR capable girl. Become an emotionally healthy LTR capable man yourself, and the women will come. No pun intended ;).
/r/askTRP24/02/19 02:39 AM
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The thought of doing anything for the rest of my life is overwhelming. That's why we focus one day at a time in recovery. Becoming more and more present with ourSelf, we will regain the wonder of a child toward the world - which will cease addictive craving. We must re-enchant our perception of the world through being present to the eternal moment that's already here despite the egoic minds never ending thoughts. I wish you the best in your ongoing recovery. PM Me if you want to talk more my fri…
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:51 AM
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Hey Darthmorelock, Thanks for sharing your story! It takes a lot of courage to realize and admit the problem. I am in recovery myself for drinking and drugging but I was also addicted to video games as a kid. I think that you've taken a big step in your recovery, but I will warn that it's very difficult to beat an addiction cold Turkey on your own with goals like "for the next 30 days". Myself as well as many other of my fellow addicts have made the same proclamations and failed miserably. I've …
/r/TheRedPill11/02/19 09:44 PM
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Deja Vu! I said the same thing years ago. I tried to convince myself and others that I had it under control. Funny enough the more I made a point to tell other people how in control I was - secretly I really wasnt. It was a case of classic projection of the opposite. I was so lonely and afraid under the delusions of self control when it came to drinking and drugging. Now with over a year of sobriety through 12 step recovery I feel so much better not having to shoulder the weight of fake self con…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 07:11 PM
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This might sound like a troll but I swear it isnt. Visit www.howtostopbeingacuckold.com Basically the root cause of cuckold fantasy is the eroticization of deep unconscious psychological pain of feeling inadequate. So healing those underlying feelings will cause the addiction to fall away. I'm sure you could find similar causes with the milf porn. Really any addiction is done to ease emotional pain. So the question isnt why the addiction but why the pain. A lot of suggestions on here will be to …
/r/askTRP09/02/19 06:10 PM
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https://youtu.be/OpnHIjYqId8
/r/askTRP27/12/18 04:39 AM
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In a mystical state of consciousness the illusion of separation would melt away and you'd see those ducks in the park as you. The real and true essence of you. The spirit/soul of the universe in all. Not the ego that tells you who you think you are as separate from those ducks. So then it's not a question of whether you or the duck is more worthy to go to heaven, cuz death is an illusion and you've already been in heaven (unified consciousness) your whole life internally/eternally, despite what …
/r/askTRP27/12/18 12:33 AM
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I hear ya man. Theres actually a lot of hard science that now backs more ancient spiritual views of the world (interconnectedness, illusion of reality "maya" etc). Its hard when talking about higher power most folks assume were talking the Judeo Christian God in the sky. I dont believe in a higher power. Belief can imply that it's not "real" tangible, yet you still believe it to be true. I know the higher power and feel it on a daily basis. Theres a subtle yet important difference there.
/r/askTRP27/12/18 12:30 AM
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Just wanna add that from what/how you wrote "sad aknowledgement" "it sucks" when talking higher power makes it seem like theres a part of you somewhere inside that wishes it were true, but you just dont feel it to be currently. Correct me if I'm wrong please. But ya I felt the same way for years and then once I got out of my own way using the tools that were gifted to me I was able to feel the presence of a higher power. Its not an intellectual thing as it must be experienced. If you've never ha…
/r/askTRP26/12/18 11:18 PM
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Nope
/r/askTRP26/12/18 11:06 PM
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I appreciate your opinion brother. I will say that you dont need to believe in an idea of heaven, the after life, or a conscious God to have a higher power. All the best to ya! :)
/r/askTRP26/12/18 11:04 PM
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I am in recovery. How does the absence of a higher power empower you to make the most of every situation? Having a higher power isnt a cop out at all. Its acknowledging that I can't run the show with my own egoic control. I did that for years with all the self help bullshit and still felt empty. Sure I deluded myself into thinking I was making the most out of life by pretending that I was in control but it was all an illusion fueled by insecurity. As opposed to letting go thru the spiritual path…
/r/askTRP26/12/18 10:46 PM
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This just sounds like more controlling TRP motivational fluff. Finding a local mens group to get involved with is way more helpful then trying to tell yourself to just be the boss of your life. Also learning about letting go and surrendering control to higher power makes life a hell of a lot easier then pretending you're the big bad wolf in control of everything. (SPOILER ALERT: you're not.)
/r/askTRP26/12/18 09:17 PM
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In Jungian psychology, as a guy, your anima or soul image takes on the form of a woman. This is why a lot of guys fall for the myth of a soul mate. They think a girl will complete them. Then they find out this doesnt work. They're severely let down by this path of desire and suffering. Chasing their own soul in the external world of empty form. Wake up from the dream of this "reality." Become fulfilled from within and own your anima instead of trying to get it from the seemingly external world o…
/r/askTRP23/11/18 02:12 AM
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First off you need some self compassion and realize you're exactly where you need to be. Even if that means being "lazy". Sometimes nothing is something worth doing. Were so transfixed on the maya matrix illusion of the real world and what we should be doing or where we should be in life. This is complete and utter bullshit. The only thing that is real is the present moment and you are what you're seeking. You are everything. You are the eternal energy of the universe. Chasing women and success …
/r/askTRP22/11/18 09:26 PM
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Sounds like sex addiction. There are support groups to help you. You're trying to heal an internal void with something external. Once you feel fulfilled from within then it wont matter whether you hook up or not.
/r/askTRP20/11/18 07:28 PM
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Thanks for sharing your exp brother. Robert Glover talks about this in No More Mr. Nice Guy. He makes a point of NOT framing confrontation with "you" statements (ie you did this and that). This only triggers her and makes her shut down like what you experienced. Think about if someone made a list of things you did wrong. You'd respond pretty shitty right back at them. So focusing on yourself and expressing how you felt and what you need is all that has to happen.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 11:14 PM
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Nobody said you have to be heartfelt all the time. This is much more nuanced than the binary logic that seems to be abundant on this subreddit. Sure you can genuinely not give a fuck about most stuff. But for the small percentage of stuff that does cause an issue it's important to speak your truth and not pretend or repress. If you truly dont give a fuck then you'd be able to speak your mind without fearing how your coming off to women. You can maintain a strong frame while being able to express…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 11:04 PM
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There's a big difference between "spilling your emotions" and maturely expressing how you felt in a certain situation. The former exudes beta weakness, while the latter exudes strength and confidence. Most guys that make it a binary issue of you either spill your emotions or not probably dont know the difference and think that the only way to express their feelings is by victim puking unfortunately...
/r/askTRP19/11/18 01:52 PM
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Mens groups are an intentional space setup to deal with our issues. Releasing toxic shame about who we are so that we can become an actualized authentic self. It's different than having a few close friends you can talk to. I really recommend finding one in your area. 12 step groups are easier to find then some of the new mens groups out there.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 01:47 PM
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A truly confident man who's comfortable in his own skin doesnt need to play a role with women. He can assert and share how he feels in a masculine manner that exudes strength of character. As opposed to the alpha wannabe role player putting on a facade that healthy well adjusted women can see through. It's the insecure ladies who are falling for the alpha role players.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 07:36 AM
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Meditation and lifting are good tools. I think mens groups tho have a particularly special effect when it comes to releasing shame surrounding feelings. Instead of them being seen as bad things to be gotten rid of, they can be acknowledged and accepted.
/r/askTRP19/11/18 06:34 AM
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Thanks for this advice man! I agree on not letting it go. This is perfect opportunity to assert myself. Great point that pulling away is non communication. Didn't think of it that way and I will definitely bring it up. Do you think that if I told her I felt disrespected by this situation - that would be failing the shit test?
/r/askTRP15/11/18 06:22 AM
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"There’s a story about a man who has a fight with a circus bear. And the bear reads his mind, and always forestalls any attack that he makes on it… there’s absolutely nothing he can do to get past the bear. And so in the same way, you might imagine a guru who is a mind reader, and he always knows if you decide before you act, and if you do, you’ll see the devil will catch you. Instead you see of deciding that you won’t be an aloholic anymore… the only thing to do is not to drink, without any pre…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/18 08:52 PM
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Exactly. You can't kill your ego, and it's not the enemy. That which you resist persists. Trying to kill the ego yourself (an egoic action in and of itself) will only strengthen it ("Look at me! I killed my ego!" lol rolls eyes). It's about relativitizing the ego to the Self. We need a higher power to put the ego in it's place. So that we're driven more by the Self than the ego. But obviously we still need the ego to stay grounded in our humaness and do basic things to survive in our temporary m…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/18 08:48 PM
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If I gotta be Pavlov to keep a relationship, then I probably didn't deserve one in the first place.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/18 04:20 AM
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Thank you! Yeah, I understand there are natural hierarchies etc. In men's groups there is usually a chair for the group. But the emphasis is really more on egalitarianism and not so much posturing to know your rank or something. I've felt that way hanging with guys regularly and there's all this weird one up manship to see who's more alpha etc. I think this is really psycho-spiritually detrimental to us men always having to keep up that male persona. Which is why men's groups are so important in…
/r/TheRedPill24/01/18 11:37 AM
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I don't think you need to go as far as joining the police, military, let a lone a gang lol. I think most men just want to feel male support, which you can find in a local mens group. Which actually has more therapeutic value than joining the police or military. Of course with mens groups it isn't about hierarchy and bullshit. So if you go in with the attitude that you're the king of the tribe you should expect to get taken down a peg real quick.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/18 04:07 AM
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The more I tried to understand the variables of relating to people, the less I actually was able to relate and truly understand others. The more I tried to control the seemingly external world the more out of control I actually felt. The more I tried to win, the less I actually won. When I let go and surrendered that controlling mind set, everything seemed to just fall into place with hardly any effort. In Zen and the Art of Archery it talks about how you think and act (release the bow) simultan…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 06:25 PM
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When I was stuck in my head and under the false illusion of control I was really into that kind of quazi-schizoid game theory way of seeing relationships that you're describing. It's fucking exhausting mentally and spiritually looking back on it. As great as it sounded on paper and in our head with all the equations, it almost never translated into reality. "The map is not the territory." - Alfred Korzybski
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 05:53 PM
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Right, well that possibility of trouble comes from the integration of the shadow. Which only happens through expression and assimilation, not suppression. There's a difference between a guy who's integrated his shadow, and a guy who's walking around with an inflated false male persona to compensate for the insecurities buried in his shadow. Hence the need for expression of these feelings or issues in a proper setting. If you're worried about winning interactions with people then you probably fal…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 05:15 PM
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Got you. Personally, I don't think any feelings should ever be suppressed by men. That's what's really hurting and holding us back from living truly fulfilled lives. Whenever we suppress that stuff it all falls into our shadow, and then that can grow and unconsciously control us. B/c you better believe we need a release valve every once in a while, which unfortunately translates for many men as a drunken binge, etc. It's just about having the proper space to vulnerably express those feelings. Ag…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 04:41 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Honestly I think that whole king analogy isn't useful for making real connections whatsoever. Maybe for people who are higher in psychopathic traits that will "work" for them, but for folks that aren't that way they'll likely fall flat on their face trying to emulate. I can just imagine the amount of guys who have tried to "build their tribe" with a "king" vibe and gotten completely shut down or ruined potential relationships. All that stuff sounds cool while read on the in…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 03:56 PM
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Thanks for sharing this experience from your brother. I have family that's gone through a similar union mishap. The corporate and political world have really fucked unions over the years. Not to mention theres all sorts of weird internal politics in unions as well that come up. So either way there's a lot of short straw drawing. It's kind of like activist circles when there's a lot of ego involved trying to solve a problem with too many cooks in the kitchen. Like you said, the lesson here is tha…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 01:33 AM
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Unfortunately, I think many guys are unable to truly open up to their friends and just try to "behave like others" doing the same old banter bullshit but never let their guard down. We are socialized to never show vulnerability in our spiritually sick society. So the best bet I think is to find dedicated spaces (mens groups) for this way of relating by really and truly opening up to each other as men that are human. Not wannabe idealized movie characters in a pissing contest.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 01:25 AM
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Thanks man, appreciate that. I think we as recovering alcoholics/addicts actually have an advantage when it comes to TRP. Mens 12 step groups are the place to be for this type of beta recovery (via Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy). A lot of guys on this subreddit will probably never step foot into a 12 step room out of pride/ego thinking that they're not addicts/alcoholics so that's not the spot for them. But they say the most important aspect of recovering from the blue pill is through a g…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/17 11:53 PM
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this! mens 12 step groups are this.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/17 11:48 PM
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Find a local mens AA group. 12 steps applies to all of life not just alcohol.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/17 11:45 PM
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girls dont make a great higher power.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/17 10:44 PM
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Yas which is why you gotta be very careful not to delude yourself just cuz you can start acting more alpha. Let's be honest that it wasn't just your game that got this girl going, as it was also equally her own empty calling. Cuz sure you maybe acting a little more red pilled now, but as a recovering addict (like myself) I know that you can easily trip yourself up and start making chicks your higher power now that the drugs/drinks are out of the picture. Doesn't matter if youre beta or alpha rig…
/r/TheRedPill27/10/17 10:39 PM
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Or a source of repression. If something even mildly traumatic happens to you and all you do is move forward w/o fully processing it (ie EMDR) then you're just repressing pain that will manifest in physical problems if not sooner than later. Taking the time to fully grieve and release an emotional disturbance in life is very important. Otherwise you'll be walking around with a chip on your shoulder without even realizing it...
/r/TheRedPill24/10/17 03:59 AM
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Remember to consciously give yourself the credit you deserve for your progress. That's something I really struggle with despite making leaps and bounds over the past couple years. It's pretty easy to get tunnel vision on self improvement and get lost in the hustle and bustle of the work put in for all these changes.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 07:49 AM
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can you elaborate, Rian? Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 04:21 AM
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lul. "I LOVE PHARMACEUTICAL DRUGS!"
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 03:17 AM
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"I" enjoy "my" death every damn day, because it gives "me" life. Heard a wise man once say that it's those who cling to life that die, and those that welcome death who live. Dying to oneself (that is the false egoic self) every day to be reborn into the true Self is what gives real life eternally. I truly feel bad for all these technophile folks frantically searching for life extension modalities from fear of death. They are slaves.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 07:07 PM
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Sounds like some serious fear of mortality going on here. Red pill philosophy - seeing through the matrix system of oppression in society - should more fundamentally mean seeing through the matrix or maya illusion of material reality in it's entirety. Then you can let go of fearing death, and be a truly free human being, knowing that your true Self is eternal.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 05:13 AM
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EMDR to heal stored pain from past relationships.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/17 05:40 AM
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This. A therapist or a mens group is the place to talk about stuff. Talking about emotional issues with male friends can be dissapointing b/c you don't usually get the response you want. Where as in therapy you're getting a professional response/relationship to sharing your emotions.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/17 09:48 PM
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