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I disagree, but glad I could help! 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 01:06 PM
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I’m sorry you’ve been taken advantage of. Please find help.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 05:06 AM
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Love u/PerryCox-MD response! Bodybuilder here as well. Genetics plays a part in our body composition in terms of which areas build faster or where we predominantly hold fat, so it's good to know where to limit certain movements. I do legs 3 times a week, one upper because my upper body builds fast & my traps also want to just make me look like a lumberjack haha. Also, muscle is important to have & you should absolutely train all muscle groups. Keep in mind that it takes years to build a body so …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 05:56 PM
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Gotcha. I’ll remove the link. But to clarify, I’m not using it to teach and I don’t charge for it. I use it as a FAQ, but again, removing it
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:15 PM
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?. I said I link your wiki…not that I use your content to teach. I use that link so they can see what RP is about.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:05 PM
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LOL, I love this, & absolutely accurate. It blows my mind that many women that claim to be HV are really just high maintenance emotionally & materialistically.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 03:15 PM
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I coach women in RP dating & directly link the RPW Wiki on my site, lol. While there's no real ownership to the ideas/lifestyle, I do think the Wiki on here is superb so I link it for that reason alone; not necessarily because it "belongs" to anyone. Do you! Love this idea by the way!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 03:09 PM
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I never did get the "six hundred horse-powered car" either, lol. I have never once asked how many horsepowers a man's vehicle has, haha. Some flexibility & variables to consider, of course, but I like them!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 01:05 PM
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You & me both. Haha. You're so welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 04:03 AM
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Yea, unfortunately, he hadn't even reached out to his best friend. He had only just told him the night he texted me, so his reaction is to deal with it alone. Idk how I can help to encourage him to open up to his male circle at least. Any suggestions how I can do that without crossing a line is appreciated. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 09:37 PM
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I'm going to update in a few. I'm so glad I went, you were absolutely right!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 02:21 AM
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Thank you for a super thought out response! I'll go from top to bottom. I was initially going to list the ways in which I was contributing to the relationship but I didn't want to make the post too long. I can see how important knowing that portion of the relationship history is too. I absolutely did my best to be there for him & bring peace to his day to day, from cooking him dinner to going over to massage his aching back (from golfing), to washing his dishes or doing general cleaning stuff af…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 02:19 AM
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Personally, aging gracefully is the goal, and I do think that can include the procedures you mentioned so long as they maintain a natural look. For example, as women age, their lips get smaller. I see no problem with a little filler to add suppleness & volume, but again, just a little. Just an example. I think accepting that we're going to wrinkle & age is important. It'll keep us from going extreme with these types of procedures. I get Dysport regularly, which is like Botox, as a preventative m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 04:00 AM
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Love this. I do this a lot, too! Great suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 08:38 PM
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I completely understand. I'm naturally such an affectionate person & very touchy. I have no solution, unfortunately, lol. *hang in there cat poster image* lol.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 08:07 PM
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I've been presented with the "cuddle buddy" thing before & it just does not sit right with me. Clearly, they're after more than cuddling, & it's just not a safe space to put yourself in. The intimacy can make it confusing moving forward, especially with a colleague. Personally, I've dated a bit & have gotten there with 1 guy, but honestly, it's just not worth it unless there's real, deep feelings there. I cared about him & all but I'm after a connection like with my ex, haha, tbh, where being in…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:08 PM
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You don't have to give up your financial independence. I say this as a woman who was married for 15 years to a man that refused to let me work once the kids were old enough. I didn't want to have a demanding career that pulled away all my time & attention, but I am an individual with wants & needs, & I wanted to not need to ask for $5 when I wanted a candy bar. (My ex-husband might have been too extreme though. My therapist called it, "financial abuse".) That said, I don't suggest putting yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 02:11 PM
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The more you practice voicing your needs/wants, the easier it gets. It's an art to know how to do it while not emasculating your partner or coming off as naggy. It's okay to stumble a bit. It seems like it's a safe enough relationship that will allow you to learn & grow, so rest easy in that, & even voice that you're a bit nervous. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 07:50 PM
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Waiting until he does it again is not the best idea because, depending on what he says, your response is more likely to be emotional. It's best to do it when you're not leading with emotion, but logic. Approach him when he's not overwhelmed or super busy, & just let him know there's something you wanted to discuss with him, ask if he can talk then or later that day. Give him the option to set the time/place, but make sure it's not vague or pushed aside.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 07:35 PM
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All I can tell you is how I would address it, & that would be by having a conversation with him in private. "I'm not really sure what your intention is by making those kinds of statements but I did want you to know that they do bother me, & I feel disrespected when you say things like that. I don't think that's your intention because you clearly do love me & show me respect in many other ways, which is why it's so puzzling to me. Can you help me understand?" **He explains** &, you, at some point…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 07:18 PM
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Give it 6 months at least. While I understand what you’re saying, there’s no way that you have learned AND truly grasped an entirely new relationship view in 1 month. I’m certain you see the error of your ways. I’m certain you’re taking steps to recognize your flaws & grow. But truly grasping entirely new concepts & learning how to implement them into your psychology is another matter. Give it some time. Put some of the learnt theories into action. Then, perhaps. Personally, contact post breakup…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/22 06:08 AM
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Of course not. But it's definitely something to discuss. I want to be with someone I find physically attractive. Aging & other legitimate illness aside, if a woman or a man let themselves go, it's something to bring up.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/22 04:13 AM
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I hope you find peace.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 10:52 PM
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Feedback. Negging would be like, "you're so beautiful that it almost makes you being annoying bearable." It's a compliment that isn't really one. lol. You being annoying is just feedback. The fact that you're a beautiful person isn't a qualifier.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 04:38 PM
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Love this so much. Thank you for sharing. Truly a great reminder to foster peace in our relationships. I feel like I've had progressive levels of understanding on some of the concepts but, until the last year & a half or so, have really begun to face the ways in which I sabotaged my relationship with doing what I call, "low-key leading". My bf is a strong, masculine leader, & it doesn't "look" the way I had thought it needed to. The issue was always MY expectations. To release into this relation…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 04:26 PM
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We appreciate you! Men are so important & we value your hard work!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/22 04:16 PM
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Elaine from Seinfeld lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 02:04 PM
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I don't even know why this question is in this sub. But, 2, it's a scam. & what's the purpose? Just for you? Hire someone. To post on social media? That's not very RPW. I'd say if that's something you want to do for your partner, wonderful, but in that case hire someone you both feel comfortable with.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 02:00 PM
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Stoicism comes into play for me here. I remind myself that, every day, is an opportunity to learn something new about my partner. That's a lovely adventure in itself. But also! What I find out, may be a non-negotiable. So I get to see our relationship as an adventure, a treasure to explore, but also cognizant of the reality that what I find may not work for me, so just enjoy the process while it lasts.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 05:27 PM
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Most welcome! 🖤
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 01:48 PM
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In agreement with u/TheBunk_TB . He needs another man of similar RP mindset to coach him through these moments. He's spreading himself out too thinly & not giving of himself to his LTR. However, your grandma was also correct. He won't always be that leader because things come up at work or with extended family, emergencies, financial difficulties, etc., that can overburden our men to the point where we feel neglected. In those times, it's best to do as you've been doing: refrain from taking the …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 03:03 AM
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Crocodile tears, if she's continued doing it. Look, it's up to you but that kind of makes it worse. She doesn't believe you. She doesn't respect you. I'm sure she's got great qualities but a man needs to be respected, but it IS earned, at the end of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 10:30 PM
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If this is true, OP, I'd say break up. Because if you've been pussy-footing around this that long, my initial advice comes too late.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 10:24 PM
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To answer your question, absolutely not. My man has to be the hottest man alive to me. I purposely avoid oogling men - single & in a relationship, lol - but definitely more so in a relationship. I will say that, while you say you lead the relationship, it appears she doesn't respect you as if you do. If she did, she wouldn't be doing this. Maybe she initially did it as a test & you not having been assertive enough in declaring the disrespect, she continued to do it so test the limit. In my opini…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 10:22 PM
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This is 100% it. & thank you! Couldn’t have said it better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/22 01:37 AM
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Yea, of course, girl! That's why we're here for each other. Navigating this is not always easy or clear cut. & thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:33 PM
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I love this! I find that a woman challenging her man to step up in some way is such an art because you don't want to lead or emasculate, but you do want to inspire. My bf, for instance, is a golfer. Golfers can drink, lol. I don't want or need him to stop drinking but I don't enjoy seeing a man lose control of himself. Such a turn off. So, early on, I remember telling him, "I admire when men can enjoy themselves without losing control". Just planting that seed & watching him step into it is sexy…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:04 PM
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I've been here before as well; recently in fact, lol. If you value yourself, & I suspect you do, you will want to be respected & valued by him in return. Part of being with a HVM is setting yourself up to be at his level, so to speak. You both want to be worthy of each other, basically. When my now-bf & I started dating casually, just getting to know one another, he did something like what you've outlined 3 times. 2 of them, he basically last minute cancelled a date due to needing to finish up &…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 02:38 PM
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Love a good alpha/beta mix! What do you think a good ratio is? Obviously, everyone's different so answers will be purely subjective. I think, for me, I like a good 3:2, so 60% Alpha, 40% Beta.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 04:04 PM
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So, I did this once, and never again. It wasn't a terrible experience but it wasn't fair to him. A few months ago, I started dating this guy from out of town. Handsome bodybuilder guy, 40 y/o. I wasn't *trying* to play him or anything but everyone kept telling me I needed to move on from my ex & that meant actually giving someone a chance, so....I figured, this guy is older, has a kid, I don't feel sparks (which I thought was a good indicator of longevity) & he was very sweet to me. I kept waiti…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 05:00 AM
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👏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you! Looking forward to all the refreshers!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 04:23 AM
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Yea, he really loved that! I'd also do it randomly when he was home. One time, he was in the middle of a work call (while we both worked from home) & I came out dressed like a sexy business woman & we role played me asking for a job, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/22 01:27 PM
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Things I did in my past relationship were writing him random notes/poems, folding his underwear, cooking/baking for him, making a cheapy charcuterie board, I dressed up in a super sexy outfit and sent him a pic (he rushed home from the gym, lol), massages. I'm sure there's more but I don't think its so much what you do but that it's coming from a place of appreciation & love. But, it's always nice to ask too! "Hey babe, is there anything I can do for you rn?" Also, just leaving them alone to pla…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/22 05:20 AM
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This, I think, is the perfect response. Additionally, meeting Brad will shed more light into who would be the best match & could possibly make things easier for you in terms of who is more compatible. But, it could make things more confusing as well. I'd consider the future, in this case: *IF* Brad turns out to be a perfect match, when the time comes, who's moving where? Will your/his career suffer to a degree, depending on who moves? Etc. That said, you absolutely can say "I'm not available", b…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/22 03:11 PM
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Shein has beautiful skirts and dresses that are very affordable! outfit 1 Outfit 2 The skirts, as well as the top/bodysuits are all from Shein.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 10:59 PM
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I wouldn't, but not due to some idea that maaaaybe he's cheating. I'd leave because I don't want to be a LTR/Marriage where we don't share a bed. That's just a preference. If you feel that this isn't a solution you can live with long term, why drag out the inevitable? If you know you're never going to be content in that situation, you're not compatible. This guy is your bf (not husband), you probably split rent, he comes into your room to fuck then leaves: you're his roommie with benefits. But. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 01:06 PM
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He's been unfaithful. I'd say you'd need to be concerned, yea. Lol. I'm sorry, this is just ridiculous. Should I be concerned? If you don't want to be cheated on. If you want an honest man with integrity. If you want a healthy relationship. But only if! lol. What.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 01:00 PM
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Do you know what kind of spirits he likes? What about a nice cigar? If you're unsure about what kind of liquor he likes, go with something medium-bodied. Editing to add that, if he doesn't smoke cigars nor do you think he'd be interested, I'd say baking something for him would also be nice.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 03:14 PM
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There's a level of truth that men desire younger women. This is rooted in the basal need for men to be attracted to women that are ripe for the reproducing. (Side prediction: I also think - my opinion - that many women, fueled by social media & TikTok, are delusional in thinking that they are goddesses while men are medium-ugly creatures they settle for. This is setting women up for a lot of disappointment & I foresee a sort of WGTOW wave in a few years once they hit a wall. But I digress. lol.)…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 08:11 PM
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Lol absolutely not. I’m not mothering a man. I have no problem helping a man I’m in a relationship with be a better version of himself but he has to determine what that better is. I’m not going into a relationship already trying to change someone. Recipe for disaster.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 11:11 PM
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I think your openness is commendable, one. I think those are a matter of preference, & I can’t comment on that since that’s not something I partake in 😊
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 10:48 PM
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I can't say you're wrong or right since I am not you. You could be that unicorn who isn't affected by porn in either of those facets, but I will say that - as a whole - research spanning decades shows that's certainly not the majority of men. And women, I will add. <3
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 10:00 PM
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What other things are you doing to "replace" the serotonin/dopamine rush that masterbation gave you? It sounds like a very healthy release of unprocessed emotion. It takes time, but you're making yourself a better man for a good woman!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 03:19 PM
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I prefer to not kiss on a first date, but I have allowed it before based on the connection. It's very dependent on that, & cues from the male. Like, this guy I went on a date with recently was making comments via text about us kissing & that was a sign for me that this guy needs taming - for lack of a better word, lol - so I told him in a half joking way that he was getting ahead of himself. He ended up giving me a sweet kiss on the cheek. So, loose guideline, kiss on the cheek is nice. But that…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 03:09 PM
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"I am 7 months clean now with little to no improvement in my symptoms except severe depression and emotional under regulation due to years of repressed emotions" First off, thank you for sharing. But, second, the above quote is truly telling & very self-reflective on your part. Being able to correlate the two: abstinence from porn + your current depressive disposition, takes predetermined effort. This is the main reason I stay away from men that consume porn. It's so much more than just the act,…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 02:51 PM
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I won’t. That kind of love is not real. It’s too passionate, too consuming. But thank you! Lol. I found something. 🙏🏾
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 01:13 AM
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Oof. This resonates with me so much. I’d never loved anyone the way I loved my ex. That plus other factors made it so I was so completely in fear all the time. It was exhausting & painful for both of us, at the end. I can’t help lol because I didn’t get to “fix” it. Our relationship had to end unfortunately. I offer no wisdom except to say….I understand.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 08:00 PM
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I love that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 10:57 PM
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There are different levels to it. An intention and end goal can be very different things. The end goal is, obviously, the chief goal. You reach it=success. For lack of a better word. Intention can be goal driven but may not be the end goal. So perhaps the intention for you could be, "I want to date & be partnered with a man I can grow with", or "I want to date a man that is focused on [list what's important for you be it career, faith, etc.], and learning how I can be a woman for a deserving man…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 10:44 PM
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This is beautiful and absolutely true. OP, when you put it that way, especially qualifying it with "wealthy", you *do* sound like a gold digger. After all, a conservative woman who wants to be a SAHM, loves and serves her husband no matter the financial circumstances. That doesn't mean you don't look for red or green flags like, is he careless with money, does he budget, what's his debt/credit score, etc., but that all comes with time. You know, getting to know him while you, at the same time, l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 07:05 PM
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Fresh&Fit is NOT RedPill. lol. I'd suggest a partner that isn't so easily influenced by fake masculinity, & can actually stand in integrity of his manhood.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 07:14 PM
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I don't think your response was mean at all. I will say that I didn't consider the biological clock part since I've got 2 kids, so I am not wanting more. That's a good point, and I see why there might be a bit more worry there. That said, the problem with worrying about partnering often leads to 2 things: Justifying red flags: Often, when women/men are in a rush, they tend to justify the bending of important boundaries. Compromise is one thing & there's certainly room for that, however, to have …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 12:55 PM
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I divorced my ex at 34. I was in a serious 2 year-ish relationship that just ended and. I'm going to be 37 next month. I think I get what you're feeling but I've not dealt with that myself. This is a beautiful time of self-exploration. From the sounds of it, you could use some time to really dive into what makes you tick, who you are & what went wrong in previous relationships, etc. You get to take yourself out on dates, do fun shit by yourself. I just booked a solo wine tasting tour for myself …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 02:06 PM
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I do see what you're saying, and respect the fact that it's how you were raised. The way I see it, it's an act of love. I certainly don't expect to do all the house work. I used to. I did a 15 year marriage stint where I was a Stepford Wife. It was exhausting, but it only got old once the kids were ready to shift from homeschool to charter school, & he still didn't want me to work. I love a traditional marriage in many respects but it was important for me to be appreciated and to have my acts of…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 02:20 PM
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I do see what you're saying, and respect the fact that it's how you were raised. The way I see it, it's an act of love. I certainly don't expect to do all the house work. I used to. I did a 15 year marriage stint where I was a Stepford Wife. It was exhausting, but it only got old once the kids were ready to shift from homeschool to charter school, & he still didn't want me to work. I love a traditional marriage in many respects but it was important for me to be appreciated and to have my acts of…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 02:20 PM
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I do see what you're saying, and respect the fact that it's how you were raised. The way I see it, it's an act of love. I certainly don't expect to do all the house work. I used to. I did a 15 year marriage stint where I was a Stepford Wife. It was exhausting, but it only got old once the kids were ready to shift from homeschool to charter school, & he still didn't want me to work. I love a traditional marriage in many respects but it was important for me to be appreciated and to have my acts of…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/21 02:19 PM
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Personally, not a fan. The market determines the beauty standard; there is no other way. That's why even when we've had great inventions or tried passing moral laws - sometimes, they failed - because they were "ahead of their time". Because what makes a group a people feel all warm & fuzzy inside does NOT determine financial success for a business/brand. VS is banking on the obesity problem rising & really HAVING TO find their new niche in a growing market (pun intended - lolllll). *ahem* Anyway…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:24 AM
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For me, there are much more important factors to consider. I've had a lot of the same commentary (you're too good for him, etc) &, personally, those people have it way wrong. Those people don't HAVE TO consider your SO's qualities as you do. They have much fewer things to consider as an acquaintance or friend - so it doesn't matter what they say. They don't live with the consequences of losing out on a potentially beautiful relationship. If I find my SO attractive in every way, I don't care abou…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/21 02:43 AM
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Right - I think we agree w/ one another. I'm not sure what we're disagreeing on, tbh lol. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 12:32 PM
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Right! Agree. There are many variables at play here. My ex would have scowled at the "providing for her" part, though he wasn't against marriage per se. So anything can be redefined. That's not the context of the post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 03:53 AM
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Please make sure you read the post a comment is replying to. The context here is the woman desires marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 03:50 AM
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Gawd, this is so fucking good. It's so very important than when a man shows you he's avoiding commitment, that you bounce. I have never understood when women say things like, "he hasn't proposed after 8 years". I don't think, "what an asshole he must be". I think, "wtf are you doing with him?"
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/21 02:47 AM
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Completely relate to this. I am submissive w/ the right (masculine) man. & for non-religious purposes. It's just me. Being submissive to be does NOT mean being a doormat. To me, it's making him feel like he is THE man. Like I trust him to be a leader, to be a cheerleader of his goals & aspirations. I serve him with love - not obligation - and go out of my way to show him I'm thinking of him. It's hearing his suggestions and saying, "that's a great idea, babe!" and thanking him, encouraging him& …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 02:01 PM
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Ha, I totally get that. I'm not at all vanilla, lol, but that side is brought out. I am a very passionate person, and I love intimacy too, but also don't have interest in casual shit. I was married to a Marine for 15 years & I have lived around single Marines long enough to know that your recruiter is RIGHT. lol. Be careful. Be wise. Take your time. There will be no doubt when you meet a man that's masculine and worthy of you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 08:45 PM
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I chose to be celibate following my first relationship after my marriage. I moved into that one too quickly & recognized it almost immediately. I wanted to give myself time to heal from the heartache & bullshit that came from that tumultuous time. I'm so glad I did! It also really helps to weed out the dudes just trying to get laid. I can't tell you how many guys went above & beyond for me for 2-4 dates only to fall off once they realized I wasn't giving in. (I did tell them I was celibate). Eve…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/21 03:06 PM
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A high value woman is so much more than appearance. I will forever be in the gym 6 days a week. It's important to take care of oneself. It's a sign of a HVW. However, it's not the main thing, and it sounds like you're fostering all the other qualities that make you a HVW. If he's truly a HVM, he understands that a woman that ages gracefully & alongside him is valuable. You are getting Red Pill confused with High Value Men/Women. They share similarities but are not the same thing. A high value ma…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:07 PM
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This is great, thank you! I'm going to make that broccoli soup for my boyfriend. Thanks again. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 05:57 PM
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WTF are you doing? Seriously woman - how does anything you're doing make you a high value woman? I'm not going to pussy foot around with you because, honestly, it seems most people have. Demand more of yourself. Leave the guy. You've drained him to the point of pushing him to go back to old vices. Ultimately, that's on him - absolutely - but do both of you a favor & let go. Focus on your studies. Watch some YouTube videos on becoming a HVW. Do it now before you're left with no one else willing t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 04:12 PM
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I didn’t downvote you. 🙁 Didn’t think you were being negative. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 04:12 AM
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Yea I changed my response. Meant to say “as long”. OP could definitely use more foreplay but ol boy needs to be willing to help.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 03:31 AM
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Definitely don’t mom him/train him, etc. That’s honestly not something I could handle. It would be a deal breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 03:09 AM
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Thissssss. Dudes that Jack off to porn don’t last as long.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 03:08 AM
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Gotcha. Here's what you do, babe. You take your man to a sex store. Shop around. Have fun. Look at new toys he might like. Look at toys YOU might like. The goal is for him to pick one he really wants to try on/with you. & you pick one too. No peeking! Do a reveal at home. You'll buy a dildo/vibrator. Make him watch as you play with it. Take turns enjoying each others picks and, when you're close to having an orgasm, ride him. Control the rhythm and jump off to tease him a little by playing with …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 02:56 AM
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Uh, well it's not just about his enjoyment. Sounds like he's being a little selfish to me. I mean, you don't ENJOY having a two-pump-chump and yet there you are!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 02:29 AM
5

I love this! I’ll be doing this exercise. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 05:22 PM
8

It absolutely matters. And it's okay that it matters. While it's wise to know/understand and accept that, as we age, certain things will change. But what cannot change (at least not for very long & illness aside), is that attraction that our partner induces within us. This is not only about the physical, no. But if you're already not sure, then I doubt it's something that will happen. Is he mentally stimulating? I find that "dumb" men are a huge turn off for me no matter how physically attractiv…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/21 04:24 AM
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N-count has literally never come up in my relationship. With mature adults, it's not something that needs to be a source of insecurity at all. Personally, a man asking me this would be a red flag. Idc to know how many partners he had. I'm certainly not divulging all my "stats" either, though my n-count is relatively low. To most men - unless you're looking in religious circles or certain cultures - it will NOT matter, I promise you. I will add that I understand you though. I don't feel comfortab…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 01:50 AM
1

That's really sweet of him & I love that you recognize his intentions! Because you've said it many times - politely - I wouldn't mention it anymore. I also would not want to micromanage my man or make him feel like his effort to do something nice kept receiving negative feedback. You're only stressing yourself out by mentioning it. You already know it'll happen. So let it go. There are enough issues in a marriage. An overloaded washer is small in grand scheme of things. I also like Designer_Rub_…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 02:15 AM
40

How do you handle confrontation or hard conversations? What role do you believe you should have in relationship? What role do you believe the woman should have in relationship? What are your deal breakers? What's your view porn/sexual experiences? When you're upset, do you need space or do you attack the issue? What traditions that you grew up with do you no longer practice and why? Do you want to have kids? If so, in how long? ..just off the top of my head.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 06:37 PM
3

Go spin plates.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 02:26 AM
3

Second this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 02:25 AM
3

Sexy shorts & comfy tops. I have a rule about pajamas: don't own any. For this reason. LoL. They're too comfy. I can totally see myself wearing them too much.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 02:06 AM
2

I think that's a sad mindset. Our brains absolutely have the capacity to change. It's called neuroplastisity. The thing that would worry me about that comment is not his opinion on therapy, but his opinion on "you're 28, you won't change". Why? Because he's projecting his own inability to forge change within himself. And that would tell ME that this is the type of man that would use his experiences/circumstances, etc, as excuses. It's the lack of growth-mindset for me. What a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 04:37 PM
2

You are making yourself too available. Why would he seek you out when he doesn't have to? You're already there in his texts. He wants the benefit of a relationship (sex/intimacy/affection/validation) but not an actual relationship, otherwise he'd be wanting to see you more, spend time with you, plan things out, etc. It's okay for you to pull back. In fact, you should. One of two things will happen: he'll not text you & you'll know exactly what you meant to him. Or he'll text you. If he takes day…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 04:29 PM
8

My ex-husbands mom taught me! I find that the best way to please your man is to learn to cook/bake his favorite dishes, and who better than his mom?! So, while I definitely would take a few, fun but not too in-depth cooking classes for now, just know that you'll have lots of time to learn too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 03:30 AM
1

Try vintage shops. I've found some beautiful dresses that are modest but still sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 03:26 AM
2

Ha, thanks, and absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 01:16 PM
1

If it’s your preference to wait until marriage, go for it but I wouldn’t hold that expectation on other people. Like you said, those men tend to come from religious circles and those men don’t tend to be my type either, so I get you. Plus, I’d want ONE OF US to have some experience lol. I will add though, because of your last paragraph, that you don’t have to be a virgin to do that. Be discerning, value your body & demand respect and value - you’ll have a low n-count & the right man will absolut…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 02:15 PM
6

"I'm so scared...of sleeping with other men" < "I'm so scared to sleep with my husband who keeps sleeping with other women" Also, you can keep your n-count low. Definitely don't need to go out and sleep around. But, right this minute, your focus should be on getting out of a relationship where you are neither valued nor respected.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 08:32 PM
4

Ha, yea, it's so much cattiness & everyone knows everything! & God forbid you make a mistake: straight to jail. lol. I made a chore log that I had on my refrigerator. I made it work for MY feeding/cooking/their napping schedule, but I found that it was super helpful for me personally. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 08:27 PM
7

It is absolutely doable. Even with 2 kids 2 years apart. You just have to prioritize and have a cleaning schedule. I cleaned every day, did half of the chores, then did the other half the next, with the few daily ones thrown in (dishes, sweeping). I will say, extend yourself grace as you recover postpartum. And enjoy your baby! Sleep when she/he sleeps, and practice self care, get around other adults (avoid internet mom groups) & you'll manage just fine.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 08:06 PM
13

Being feminine and an RPW is not about being a fuckin doormat. You're an adult and you wanted to know why. It sounds like you asked in a polite manner. You are not a child that needs to just "accept his answer". There's no need to argue or create waves, & certainly there's a way to go about this, but no, it's not your fault for not preemtively thinking of all the scenarios and how the day might go. It's not even his fault. Maybe he decided last minute based on how he was reading the room, but yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 02:53 AM
82

I love this so much! I've never minded being protected or being called cute, as in your example, but I have an older brother who was/is my best friend and biggest protector. That said, I did think more deeply about this in my last relationship. Every time I saw him at the gym, I'd go up to him and love on him briefly. I made sure to be close with him when guys I knew had shot their shot with me before, were flirty, liked me, eyed me, etc. My instinct was to make him feel like he was MY ONE. I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 03:22 PM
3

YES^^. 1 & 2 are spot on. Shit testing is such a game, and I hate games. You'll know if he's assertive after a few dates, and you can even tell if it's a facade they put on. Look out for words vs actions, like, "I'm driven" but they have no real goals, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 04:28 AM
2

Absolutely. But there are many more men NOT subscribing to those videos. And, many of those are very young men just growing into themselves and I can tell you, I had views in my early/mid 20's that I no longer have. Everyone's just trying to figure themselves out. Hopefully, most of them will simply pull what IS of value out of those videos. But, in the meantime, don't let it make you bitter. They're not actually judging YOU, or me. Know yourself, project that you & let who you are be the walkin…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 08:22 PM
13

No. Men who have that type of narrow understanding of women, relationship dynamics and human behavior is not someone a RP would want to be with. So think of it as trash throwing itself out. (Not to say those men are trash. Just an analogy.) Not all men do this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 08:06 PM
2

I have GAD. My relationship almost ended due to my anxiety at one point. I mean, it was the catalyst to bad choices on my part, and we're doing our best to rebuild now. This is an interesting question. I used to think that it would be wonderful to have a partner who could hold me when I had anxiety, or could comfort me and love me through my moments of fear. An unhealed part of me still wants that, probably the child in me because that was never given to me. (Today, my meditation was focused on …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:03 PM
3

All of this.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:41 PM
3

Mate-guarding your man reeks of insecurity which, hey, been there, lol. But is it something we should actively do? NO. A man should set boundaries with other women because, ahem, he's a grown ass man. If he can't do that, why would you want to be with him? That's beta bitch shit. We don't want betas. Mate-guarding from men is different, but it comes from a place of protective love, not ownership. I mean, a little bit of ownership can be sexy, lol, but the foundation is the same: adults create bo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:40 PM
4

9!! Yes. Haha, fucking love it. Also 4. Thanks for this.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:36 PM
9

You should take care of your body in a way that represents health and love for yourself. That might mean gaining weight for some women, or losing weight for others. What you should do is look at yourself & ask: do I feel good in this body? Is it healthy? Does it represent how much I love myself? Does it represent the kind of partner I aim to be & have? NEVER should you alter your body for someone else. It's one thing to care for yourself in a way that your partner can appreciate, and another to …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 03:20 PM
2

This^^^. I believe a big part of the goal here is to be a high-value female so that you/we attract a high-value man. Vetting these men is so crucial, and this sub is not meant to be some cover for traditional legalism, so to speak, creating with it a culture of women that are only subservient, but to be strong leaders & matriarchs, and leading with grace & femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 08:23 PM
14

Most men pull away in the beginning. This is not a time for you to get in your feelings about it because you’re not even in a relationship. As someone else commented, at best, it’s a pleasant online exchange. Are you a woman of value? Yes? Let him pull away. You’ve asked what’s wrong. If you ask again in another way, he’ll see you as clingy because-again- you’re not in a relationship. This is why, when you begin to get feelings, you ask for clarification on where you stand. Now, he’s pulling awa…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 03:48 AM
16

I love this so much! You attract more bees with honey than vinegar. I love how you say that it’s the equivalent of us getting dressed up and receiving a lukewarm response. Very true. Great insight!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/21 04:22 PM
2

You've gotten some good advice already. I don't think a couple needs to have all the same hobbies but this goes beyond that. I wouldn't feel comfortable with my partner spending money like that on other women. That's a fine boundary to have. I'm a little confused though because he says "that's it, we argue too much" but is "willing to work things out". What does that mean? Get clarification on that. If working things out looks like you having to shut up & deal with it, that's not a solution. You…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 08:46 PM
14

Honestly, it's going to be rough to find that again, but it's not impossible. This is a learning experience for you and I'm sorry you had to learn this way that "spinning plates" only works for so long. You're a young guy. You have a lot to learn and part of the spinning plates concept is just being open to connections, vetting these women & developing your needs/wants as you go. It's not necessarily about having sex with them all, getting laid all the time & just being careless, because - hones…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 06:50 PM
1

I haven't. I do follow a Jake Woodard though. Same topic. I'll check her out!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 05:10 PM
0

Their help isn’t actually help if they lack wisdom and/or experience.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/21 06:06 PM
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