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DISCUSSIONsuzannehatton/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 06:12 PM
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DATING ADVICEsuzannehatton/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 07:33 AM
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OFF TOPICsuzannehatton/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 01:06 PM
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suzannehatton/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 07:29 PM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTsuzannehatton/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 09:39 PM
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I would recommend a twelve step recovery program such as SLAA, (sex and love addicts anonymous), Coda (codependency anonymous) or ACA (Adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families anonymous). The meetings are free and it works.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 09:32 AM
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I'm still single, but I have my self respect xxx
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:23 PM
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Merry Christmas XXX
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/18 02:18 PM
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I've learnt so much from this sub
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 10:32 AM
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Love it. Merry Christmas! Xxxxx
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 04:46 PM
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Singin' in the Rain. It'll melt your heart :-) xx
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 03:09 PM
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You must be worth it ;-) xx
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 02:48 PM
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High value men are in abundance if you are skilled at your ability to find and filter for them. Go out and meet ten new men in the same amount of time it would take to hope in futile attempts that he'll come your way again. I like this mindset. It can be so easy to get stuck in "he was the only one" thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/18 05:53 AM
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I have read that truly alpha men don't give a fuck what others think of them. This man of your sister's seems like he's very concerned with impressing people and being a 'nice' guy. This, to me, suggests that he is less of an alpha than your guy (who seems like he doesn't give a fuck what people think and will just be himself and do what he wants). Your husband sounds more fun and real. He gets along with your brothers. He is not high and mighty or too 'good' for them. He is one of the boys. He …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 05:19 AM
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I'm afraid that if I break up with him then I'll never find someone else I totally understand this fear, I've had it myself and it paralysed me for a long time. But my advice is that you must face it. Take the chance of finding out what else the universe has to offer you. ​ ​
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 07:59 PM
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I gave up alcohol in 2015. It was partly due to religion and partly because of alcoholism in my family (my dad is alcohol dependent). I have also had some mental health problems so it just wasn't doing me any favours at all. Even small amounts would send me on a negative spiral. At first people would pressure me to drink but now they don't question it. This is the advice I would give: Stick to your guns. It will get easier over time when people realize you are serious about not drinking and that…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 06:45 AM
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Thank you. Yes, I've started to mind my own business a bit more (stop fixing!) and focus on my own behaviour. It's empowering.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 06:26 AM
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It sounds like a great opportunity. And even better that it has a time limit - you know you are going back to work in March. It is early days yet. Staying at home/not working can be tricky, but maybe this journey is what you need. I would say don't expect to be totally zen after 2 weeks. This is gonna take some figuring out like anything else. But I do think you might learn some things about yourself through this process.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 07:35 PM
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You don't have to spend anything. You can watch the videos on YouTube!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 09:44 PM
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I would say that they are all relevant. They may be 'generic' but that doesn't mean you won't learn something. Also, for the UK this kind of coach is less common.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 01:36 PM
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He gives advice to women on how to attract men. To me that seems very relevant to RPW! I have looked at some of his stuff in the past, he seems like a nice enough guy with some good ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 12:49 PM
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Thank you. That's really interesting that just one meeting had such a big impact. Do you mind sharing what changed? I've been to 3 meetings now and have started reading the literature.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 06:13 AM
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Thanks for the post :-) Working on your personality is harder but I also think more fulfilling in the long term too xx
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 05:24 PM
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​ A walk with my dad A long, deep meditation Crocheting Singing to prayers Asking random questions to tarot cards :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/18 07:55 AM
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This is interesting. Could you elaborate a bit more what you mean? xx
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 03:46 PM
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No apologies necessary, that is very insightful! Thanks for sharing your husband's wisdom. It's funny I just had the same thought yesterday - that I don't really believe I can change - that all the improvements I am making are surface level only. And then I thought "what if I really did change?" It was a fleeting moment, but then I read your post today and I realised the importance. Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 05:41 AM
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Contacted an ex when feeling lonely. DAMN!!!!!!! He always gets back to me and offers to talk/help so the option is always there to emotionally dump on him. This is not something I'm proud of at all. I'm putting it on here to help me OWN it and STOP. Making much more effort with my mum and sister and we are supporting each other much better. I had decided that my mum was basically toxic so I have avoided her for years but more recently I've developed an attitude of compassion and more appreciati…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 06:24 AM
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Always made sure I was clean and tried to make me as pretty as possible (even though I rebelled). She was quite tough with me in lots of ways. Her attitude seemed to be "life is really hard but that's not an excuse to be lazy/depressed." I didn't appreciate what she was trying to do here (toughen me up) until recently. She started running when I was little and has completed 3x Marathons. She has always had a fantastic figure. Many more things. This is a lovely thread and a fantastic thing to pon…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 07:30 PM
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Aw, I'm sorry it went down like that. At least it's out in the open now! X
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 04:23 AM
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Thank you, this is really helpful xxx
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 07:11 PM
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Telling/discussing your story is different to bitching. One is helpful the other isn't (in my opinion).
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 04:08 PM
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Yea it totally is! I don't think my point above came out right. I wouldn't expect someone to stay married to an alcoholic. Absolutely not. But bitching about them is neither constructive or compassionate. People with this problem suffer from a terrible, life debilitating disease. Having watched someone struggle with this illness his whole life I can vouch for that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:35 PM
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Lol :-) :-) Sorry for so many questions - I was just wondering how invested he was in the move beforehand. He may be a bit intimidated by the fact that you can speak the language (as a native) and he can't. Maybe you need to boost his self esteem. Did you read the book Fascinating Womanhood? Some great tips in there for getting your husband to feel good about himself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:04 PM
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You didn't eat to stay where you were? Was he struggling to provide for you there too? X
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:23 AM
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What was your reason for moving? Was it your idea/his/both? Did you guys talk beforehand about the language issue?
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:14 AM
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Thanks so much! X
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 03:29 AM
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I dunno, it just felt kind of self righteous. They are all divorced and all kinda bitch about their ex husbands.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 10:05 PM
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This is really nice, thanks for sharing xx
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 06:19 AM
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I've been using tarot for a little while, if that counts? I was also wondering if this is conducive to or counter to a RP mindset. It does seem (to me) to be about female power.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 06:08 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 03:49 AM
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I would say that this behaviour reduces her value dramatically.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 09:01 AM
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I don't think an LTR would bring anything to your children's life, particularly if they still have their mother. But it may well bring something to your life. It depends on the woman.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 05:51 AM
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I'm really sorry that you're in this situation. You must end your relationship with this girl. Even if you don't decide to move. Do it as compassionately as you can, but get yourself out.
/r/askTRP11/11/18 05:45 AM
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Ever since I was little it was always expected that the male is always older in the relationship. It is advised. For VERY good reasons. Probably because it’s attributed to men being providers and maturity levels. There is a lot more too it than that but yes this is the basic premise. His desire to wait until he is 35 is sensible and healthy. You may both choose to go ahead, and it may or may not work out, but you can't pretend you didn't know what his ideal plan would be. He has told you. Yes, h…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 05:29 AM
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I read Fascinating Womanhood and tried out some of the principles on my dad. Ended up him talking for ages telling me some of his stories and me just thinking how ace he is.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 05:35 PM
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Many women aren't conscious of this fact but by their late 20's/early 30's they are indeed approaching or passing the Wall and will become more concerned with securing an LTR. Younger men are easier to secure because they are often idealistic and just turned on to hell by the idea of having sex with an older woman, without properly considering why she is still available (men her age may vet more thoroughly).
/r/askTRP10/11/18 05:27 AM
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Absolutely, I wasn't trying to suggest that she create drama or play games with her man. It just seemed to me that she wasn't respecting herself fully and that he may have picked up on it. I don't mean chastise or punish him like a little boy. I meant that nurturing him may mean letting him do a bit more of the initiating.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 04:15 AM
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That's very brave. I think you're in the right place. Did you read Fascinating Womanhood yet? Xx
/r/RedPillWives08/11/18 06:55 PM
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Lol this is impressive
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 06:33 PM
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I agree. It's difficult to tell from this one example but your husband does sound like he came down awfully hard on you. Have things been building up for a while? It seems like a big argument for such a small mistake.
/r/RedPillWives08/11/18 06:31 PM
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Nothing! Just act normally. Don't initiate it. If he wants something, he can always come to you! If he does come to you, don't just give him oral. Expect intercourse/to be pleasured, that's his job!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 06:20 PM
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He sounds spoiled. Why would he bother if you're gonna give him oral anyway? It's too easy for him, that's why he's bored.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 05:05 PM
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Why are you giving him oral on the days off if you want more sex?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 04:40 PM
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Do you have any idea why you may be depressed? I've found a lot of red pill literature and strategies useful for understanding myself and this has helped a lot with my depression. You said you've been battling for years, can you identify what started it? What is your life like? What could be the reasons for you seeming tired/angry to your friends?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 02:57 PM
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Thank you, that's very helpful xx
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 12:45 PM
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Thanks! I'll look it up xx
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 04:36 AM
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Thanks! I have heard Jordan Peterson talk about this but I hadn't seen an actual study.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 04:34 AM
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Awesome, thanks for recommending! I'll give it a watch xx
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/18 04:32 AM
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Lovely comment, very wise xx
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:31 PM
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Just be careful http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/12/more-confident-he-is-less-he-likes-you.html
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:22 PM
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I agree with Kaboomboomboomboom it sounds like there is something underlying. Are you happy with things in your life?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 08:01 PM
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Thanks for the info! ​
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 05:55 PM
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I have started running again as per my goals for this month. I've done 2 of the 3 runs I plan to do per week (next one tomorrow). I was also assertive in work and told my manager that I can't do any more early starts (I already start at 7.30am and the even earlier starts were putting out my sleep patterns completely!)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 04:02 PM
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Hey, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 05:09 AM
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Beating yourself up is going to stop you from moving forwards. It can be very tempting to dwell in self pity/self loathing but you have to be very firm with yourself here and stop this right now! Acknowledge the mistakes you have made and make a determination to try your damn hardest in the future to do things differently. Genuinely try to be better. This takes discipline. I don't think anyone has gone through life without making mistakes (I have made some whoppers and really hurt people) but si…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 04:33 AM
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Good point. I guess I've had some difficulty discerning what the truth is.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 04:35 PM
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Talk to a switched on friend. When I'm saying something irrational I can tell by the expression on their faces or their response, then I know I may have to re-think. Journaling helps me too, just to get my thoughts and feelings down on paper so I can read over it 'objectively' afterwards. If there are specific problems I would post them on here one at a time and work through the issues like that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 05:05 AM
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Sorry, I didn't mean to suggest it just happened to her out of nowhere. Thanks for calling this out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 08:09 AM
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Yeah, I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 04:52 AM
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How about The Rational Male? I am just reading the book and there is also a website therationalmale.com.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 05:55 PM
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I'm sorry this happened too, it really sucks. I think it will be difficult to establish trust between you now because you'll always know that the first time was like this. You can, however, learn from what has happened for future relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 05:46 PM
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Weird sexual requests (particularly a fascination with anal sex or wanting me to put things up his arse!) Feminist/leftist views Poor /inappropriate relationship with mother Against marriage Severe depression/ substance misuse ​
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:45 PM
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I don't have a captain at the moment but I wanted to comment on here instead about my dad. I've had a turbulent relationship with him, because he has been an alcoholic my whole life, but basically, on a good day, the guy is a hero. He's done so many things that I'm really proud of, e.g. chasing a guy down who stole a woman's handbag; saving a sheep from a bog (sounds random but it's a great story lol); stepping in to stop fights between guys. The alcohol has prevented him from becoming the truly…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:34 AM
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I've read on men's forums lots about the guys noticing 'how she responds to things, such as not getting her own way'. This is a big deal for men it seems. And rightly so huh. But the challenge here I think is to actually have a good heart. Not just to pretend to have one lol. I only write that because I've done a lot of repressing in the past in order to appear to have a good heart, but this can lead to resentment. So now I am trying to be as honest with myself as possible. Excellent post.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 05:14 AM
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Focus on learning to love a man, not on whether one loves you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 03:48 PM
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I've been following the keto diet since February and now have very few cravings for sweet things or junk food. I feel very satisfied with the food I eat. Also look up the bulletproof diet. The idea is to work with your body's natural desire for high fat, high calorie foods, that will satisfy you and keep you full for longer, instead of restricting yourself and then feeling 'guilty' when you crack.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:56 AM
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Ah sure yeah I didn't think of that. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 04:12 AM
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I'm familiar with being stuck in your own mental hell and I'm sorry you're experiencing that. I really hope things can improve soon for you and your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 06:03 PM
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I really appreciate this, and that's really good advice, thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 04:32 PM
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Thanks so much for the comments, it's really helped . Now that I think about it I can see that giving it a try won't hurt. ​
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 04:15 PM
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Yes, it has helped, especially this one! I would advise to do it daily for 2 weeks and see if you notice any changes XX
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 12:16 PM
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Something that has worked for me is this: Next time you meditate try to bring an image of him to mind, as if he is standing in front of you, then think from your heart: "I wish you to be happy and free from suffering." Say this over and over (in your mind) xx
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 11:09 AM
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I just read through your other thread and there was such good advice on there. The only thing I would add is that you sound so anxious. Are you taking care of yourself? Could you start meditating? Are you interested in spirituality or religion?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 08:59 AM
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Thanks :) Ah yes, the hamstering
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 08:21 AM
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This is very helpful thanks
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 07:18 AM
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Im new here and very new to red pill but this is my take on this: There must have been a problem in your relationship if you have looked for intimacy elsewhere. What are the problems? You have mentioned there is a problem with the sex. I'm not excusing what you did, but wallowing in guilt won't help. Instead you must start being honest with yourself. Your bf will respect you more if you can do this. Part of loving him is accepting his flaws but that doesn't mean REPRESSING your feeling towards t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/18 07:03 AM
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