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3	Ladies of r/exredpill what inspires you to help and advice men here? I totally agree with this. I used to occasionally comment on purplepill and ended up thoroughly frustrated because nobody actually wanted to hear/believe a different perspective. I like that this is a much more supportive atmosphere for people who may just need a little more support in leaving that mindset, rather than just doubling down on their own toxic beliefs.	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/22 05:55 PM
4	Self-improvement It’s always good to try and be the best version of yourself. However, a lot of RP tends to focus on self improvement with a focus on things they think is needed to attract women. And that thought process is then built on a sexist platform with little respect for women. The beauty is that people don’t have to be perfect. But quality partners will see through the sexism of RP and want nothing to do with it, no matter how much self improvement is done. The best thing is being able to improve the mi…	/r/ExRedPill	11/02/22 12:42 AM
3	Why haven't women produced an alternative to the redpill that actually works? There’s a vast difference between women wanting casual Sex and the type of behaviors RP endorses. Plus, many RP think women with “high body counts” are not able to commit in relationships and other horseshit. So why would a woman help men manipulate women into sex who then do not respect them at all BECAUSE it is casual sex? Emotional manipulation to get laid is a form of abuse. Lying about yourself and who you are to get laid is emotional manipulation.	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/22 05:36 PM
5	Why haven't women produced an alternative to the redpill that actually works? Even as a griff, it’s not a great look for a woman to “teach” sexist men how to use and abuse women. Teaching someone how to emotionally manipulate a person into bed who is not inherently attracted to the other person already is just skeezy. Now dating on the other hand..there are tons of places to go for dating advice but redpillers don’t want to hear it because they refuse to believe things women say. Which leads me to another pint- even if a women did try this grift, it would never get attent…	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/22 03:23 PM
13	Another question for women: Would you consider a relationship with someone who considered themselves Red Pill or outright identifies as Red Pill? Ditto	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/21 03:50 PM
14	Are women really the choosers? Ultimately it’s a mutual decision of both parties. I think both have to be invested for something healthy to develop. I also think the idea of choosing is based on perspective. If a guy approached a woman and she agrees to date him, some would say it’s him that did the choosing and some would say it’s her that chose to say yes and date him. Same thing if a woman approached a guy. Some would see it as the woman choosing the guy but it could also be the guy choosing to say yes and date the woman.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/21 11:39 PM
3	Do older men even like younger women let alone hit on them? This is anecdotal but viewing the people in my life (older, peers, friends, acquaintances, family, younger), it seems like those with the biggest age gaps are those that 1) want someone young and pliable, 2) fo younger because women their age won’t date them, or 3) are going through a midlife crisis. Many other guys who date closer to their age will do so because they say they 1) feel like dating teenagers is gross and predatory, 2) want someone compatible with similar life experiences or 3) wan…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/21 03:14 PM
7	Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you? I absolutely agree with pencilbride above! I have had a lot of male and female friends in college and afterwards. Friendships and romantic relationships mean so much more when people are vulnerable because you are getting a chance to know the real person inside. Oh yes, there are the friends that only know the “party/fun face” but they often remain fairly superficial relationships. I can’t connect with a romantic partner if things remain superficial either. I need to understand and know the pers…	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/21 10:58 PM
2	What are your family/parents like? Me: adopted. Adoptive parents divorced and both remarried but never spoke ill of each other. I grew up with two well-functioning families who were extremely loving and did not fight or have any significant issues other than my adoptive dad’s original infidelity that led to the divorce. My mom was a bit of a helicopter and tiger mom but it helped push me when I needed it. I’ve had a mix of short and long relationships but with the exception of a couple that I exited ASAP, most were with decent an…	/r/ExRedPill	29/09/21 06:04 PM
13	The Red Pill teaches that women can't love you for you. Suggestions on how to get past that? Our of curiosity. Would you say that men can love women for themselves and not what they “provide” (be it beauty, sex, intelligence, companionship, love, mother, children, etc)? In that sense, women should be worried about the same thing, that men can never love them for who they are, that they can never love us and only care about what our bodies provide. It’s such a silly statement because we all look for something in a partner that adds (love, friendship, companionship, conversation, etc) to …	/r/ExRedPill	28/09/21 03:52 PM
10	Important question: how is guy supposed to be like to be considered GOOD ENOUGH to date? I think that comment "If I were a woman, would I date me" is a very meaningful question. Would you want to date a woman who is all the things you describe yourself to be? Would you want to date a woman with so much self-loathing? A woman who doesn't trust or believe relationships are possible? There has to be some level of self love if you expect someone else to be able to love you. If not, it's a recipe for a toxic relationship. And this does not mean you have to be perfect. We all have parts o…	/r/ExRedPill	22/09/21 04:48 PM
2	CMV: Women care about lifestyle over money/wealth Ok Cupid has some filters and questions geared toward lifestyle. You can put in salary, answer lifestyle, philosophy and family questions. But its not as common an app anymore and I’ve heard it’s gone downhill since I was on it years ago. Now it’s up to a lot of first impressions and vibe while texting. There are also certain groups that have singles events that are geared toward getting like-minded people together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/21 11:45 PM
2	CMV: Women care about lifestyle over money/wealth Absolutely this 👆	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/21 01:41 PM
4	Am I a redpilled? Black pill? Idk anymore Very well said! 😃	/r/ExRedPill	18/08/21 08:17 PM
3	Then what should men do to get dates? Bored of honesty and being yourself? You have to be interesting to someone in order for a relationship to develop. Do you think you’re boring? The women who crave drama will find or make it. Find someone who isn’t like that.	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/21 02:48 AM
5	Then what should men do to get dates? It’s probably partially the type of women you’re pursuing or engaging with. Those tactics work on some because they target insecurities. They catch women who are afraid of rejection, of being alone, taught to play those games or have really low self esteem, etc. Playing hot and cold is just cruel because you’re also messing with their emotions. Even if a woman is pretty confident, enough mind games will cause damage. If you’re looking for a real equal partner, be yourself and be honest about you…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/21 12:46 AM
1	Then what should men do to get dates? I saw you mention TikTok women in a comment below. And was reading through comments saying you were interested in finding a lifelong partner. With both women and men on TikTok there’s a lot of flaunting and showing off, talking a “big game” and whatnot. That doesn’t cross over to real world relationships most of the time. Also Red pill tactics work on a subset of women because it plays on their insecurity. I saw you said that getting laid isn’t the problem, it’s that you are ready to find someth…	/r/ExRedPill	15/08/21 12:23 AM
1	Myers Briggs RESULTS For Ex Red Pill (For Fun) I like the enneagram as well. I was the ENTJ years ago in Meyers Briggs but a 9/3/6 like a year ago in the enneagram.	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/21 04:19 AM
3	Ex Red Pill: Myers Briggs Personality Test Yeah, I consider myself pretty logical and pragmatic in life and have always been in the STEM fields. I also enjoy good theoretical discussions, psychology and working with people as well.	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/21 08:16 PM
2	Ex Red Pill: Myers Briggs Personality Test 34F. I was an ENTJ last I checked years ago but I was also pretty close to midline on E/I and J/P at that time. Never was RP either.	/r/ExRedPill	07/08/21 05:59 PM
2	When you're dating/in a relationship with someone, do you start including them when you're haging out with your friends? Unless it's a specific girls night out, I have an open invitation for my bf because at this point pretty much all of my friends are paired up and bring their SOs as well. It's kind of an unspoken sentiment that an invite to one person includes their SO unless specified otherwise. But at this time most of them are married and I have been with my SO for 4 years. Never really bothered me unless it was supposed to be a girls night out. My SO has some social anxiety but the fact that he is willing to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/21 04:42 PM
7	Boyfriend is funny about money This is quite frustrating for me to read because it does not sound like he is taking your particular financial situation into account at all. I would hope that in situations like school or job loss, the partner making more would WANT to ease the stress of the other by partially compensating for a period of time. As a student, you're income is less than his and if he did not feel comfortable with a short term imbalance (I'm guessing your income would go up after graduation), he shouldn't have ent…	/r/RedPillWives	07/08/21 04:09 PM
1	Are "sexual skills" really skills in the fullest sense? Yeah. That is definitely is a really important part of great sex. Truly caring what what the other person enjoys. It has to be mutual though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/21 11:52 PM
1	Are "sexual skills" really skills in the fullest sense? Agree 100%. Those conversations are so important because sex is a significant part of a relationship (a lot of the time). Everyone has slightly different preferences, positions or angles they like and both people have to talk about their likes and dislikes to make it the best experience for both. Plus sometimes experimenting with new positions can lead to a new favorite! It comes down to having both people care about wanting their significant other to have a good experience. :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/21 10:28 PM
14	Your 30s are the most ideal time to get married. If you’re saying that about women, do you also think men in their 30’s have more “mental baggage” because they have also been in more LTRs and STRs? That they may also be entitled in what they think they “deserve” and lack empathy? I would agree with OP in that people are more set in their ways in their 30’s so it’s much easier to see how life would be long term. And while some may still want flings, just as many are finally able to settle down a little more. In the 20’s there’s a lot of growth …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/21 07:32 PM
8	Do women really like asshole type guys? Great take on this!	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/21 02:15 PM
1	What are the social benefits of being a man? I had this happen when I was young. They were quite good at convincing me to go with wheels and tires that were ridiculously expensive and not necessary. My dad called them and they apologized and i received them at cost. Got compliments on my “rims” everywhere lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/21 10:59 PM
14	Question for women: which pilled men do you prefer? What women want/prefer: All women want love, respect, consideration, trust, loyalty, etc. That doesn’t seem to be easily obtainable dating a RP dude. Some women are more old-school conservative and want the lifestyle a financially well-off conservative would provide and are willing to trade in the equality aspects for that. The ironic thing is most of the successful people I know want/date other successful people so a lot of the pill power plays and roles have no place in their lives. Most logic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/21 03:13 PM
8	Can we agree that it is over for some? Not blaming anyone for this Don’t “improve” yourself in the hopes of getting women. You’re 18 so improving yourself right now is working on becoming the best version of yourself when it comes to education, work ethic, kindness and whatever else you want to add to the list. Yes, your facial issue is a hurdle but there is an end date and the next few years should be used to figure out your path in life (for everyone at that age). I see people everyday with partners who are not conventionally attractive. In fact most people I…	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/21 11:00 PM
3	People have the right to live alone for the rest of their lives but... That’s the hard part, right?? Finding that compatible person. I hope that whatever baggage you carry doesn’t keep you from seeing something good if it does cross your path.	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/21 01:23 AM
2	People have the right to live alone for the rest of their lives but... Do you want to be seen as LTR material again? Or is it just easier to do the NSA fling and avoid even getting in the mindset of pursuing a LTR?	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/21 12:49 AM
3	People have the right to live alone for the rest of their lives but... Ok that’s fair. Do you think you’re LTR material? Or only NSA?	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/21 12:30 AM
11	People have the right to live alone for the rest of their lives but... By that logic, women shouldn’t want to date you either because they are the “sucker” to your promiscuity, right? Like any woman shouldn’t look at you as LTR potential because you’ve had multiple partners. Just so we’re consistent here with role reversals.	/r/ExRedPill	27/07/21 10:27 PM
1	Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays" There are plenty of women out there who make more then their partner and plenty of men who refuse to date women who make more than them because they perceive it as a hit to their masculinity/ego.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/21 04:48 PM
9	Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays" And conversely I'm a 34 year old woman and would never want to feel dependent on a man for my financial security.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/21 04:46 PM
4	Men want to feel needed and provide. Totally. Technically speaking, yeah I can survive fine on my own. But I love the companionship, friendship, affection, love, support, and all those non-tangible things a partner provides. And yeah, splitting bills helps us both save more, splitting chores is great, and I don’t need to drag a ladder around to reach tall things. I also have someone who can squish bugs lol. I don’t look at a partner as someone to complete me or fill a deficit. They enrich my life and we both are able to be our best…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/21 06:40 PM
7	Men want to feel needed and provide. Totally. Technically speaking, yeah I can survive fine on my own. But I love the companionship, friendship, affection, love, support, and all those non-tangible things a partner provides. And yeah, splitting bills helps us both save more, splitting chores is great, and I don’t need to drag a ladder around to reach tall things. I also have someone who can squish bugs lol. I don’t look at a partner as someone to complete me or fill a deficit. They enrich my life and we both are able to be our best…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/21 06:37 PM
5	In reality people always need to settle or compromise on something. Out of your list of the desirable traits of the opposite sex, what would you compromise on if they were a great person "besides" it? In your experience have you ever compromised your standards, how did it turn out ? Omg. You totally sound like my bf and I! I also agree with your 3rd paragraph list.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/21 03:47 AM
2	Is there a fulfillment gap between women and men? Ah I see. So why are these jobs known for being lower paying? And what kind of jobs are they referencing? I don’t think it’s emotional fulfillment that draws women to lower paying jobs. I think men are valued more so men’s jobs made more money. when salary comparisons are done in those “male dominated” jobs, there is still a salary discrepancy between the two genders despite the same work and education. I think the conversation needs clarification on what jobs they are think are emotionally fulf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/21 02:44 PM
2	Is there a fulfillment gap between women and men? I don’t see the connection between fulfillment and your women are wonderful statement. Many of my colleagues have professions are fulfilling but women have to fight harder for equal respect (and pay) in many fields. Medicine, higher level teachers, professors, Ph.D research PI’s, business, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/21 04:35 AM
1	Do "Guys night out" and "Girls night out" actually exist? Going out dancing was something that happened like every weekend during my early and mid 20’s. Whether it was girls night out, or mixed couples night out, it was always a good time. We went to regular dance clubs, 90’s night, 80’s night, themed parties… but that was in the early 2010’s and I feel like clubbing was more of a thing then. And yes, when there were just a couple of us we would often see groups of guys out together too. There were a number of nights out when it was just one of my girl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 11:20 PM
3	Why Vet Men Based on Height? I know tall women who would say that’s incorrect. They run into guys who don’t want a woman taller or bigger than them because those guys thought it reduced their masculinity to be smaller than their partner. The guys ego couldn’t handle it. All the women I’m mentioning are 5’10” to 6’0” and are within normal BMI range. Personally I don’t know the feeling. I’m 5’3” and only hear from tall dudes how much they like short girls because they can pick us up and carry us around easily. I’ve dated 5’4”…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 07:21 PM
12	Why Vet Men Based on Height? I had a tall guy friend 6’2” tell me he only dated women under 5’4” because he liked short girls. He said tall women had it tough because a lot of tall guys liked short girls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/21 05:18 AM
8	CMV: dating is not worth it for many men. Why is dating so frustrating for men? I was initially drawn to the Red Pill bc of frustrations in dating and I need help getting out. Please change my view. At 20, you can’t even go into bars yet. That will open up a whole other world for dating. Outside teen/young women are more likely to travel in multiples (harder to approach and more likely to be rejected if the girl is overly concerned with what her friends will think, etc). Online they may come across as more superficial because we all (men and women) are thinking more with our eyes/social expectations than our brains at that age. both genders are also figuring out how to engage with the oppos…	/r/ExRedPill	21/07/21 12:38 AM
2	How can women get a man to commit to her? Yeah, most of that is pretty spot on. I would really emphasize knowing what you want (realistically) and what you bring to the table as well. If I’m confident and understand myself well first, it allows me to better identify compatible personalities and know what I can and cannot work through in relationships. Typically a well-rounded person often wants another well-rounded partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/21 03:34 AM
2	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? But your comment to me was originally asking how one single thing could destroy a relationship and how that was nonsensical. So those were some examples of singular events or realizations that could doom a relationship. Otherwise relationships fail all the time when smaller things don’t align, communication is poor, or there are deeper issues that people are struggling with that others can’t handle, etc. the hope is that some of the kinks are worked out before something like marriage but that’s …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/21 08:41 PM
3	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? This is not just about the guy. This could pertain to either partner. And something that makes one person view another differently varies depending on the person/relationship and the core beliefs of that relationship. It could be something said or done that is so cruel/intentional it is unforgivable. But more often it’s something the person does/says that highlights a contrasting belief/life philosophy which isn’t compatible. An example of difference in philosophy could be finding out one partne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/21 03:53 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? Sooo. A guy with this mindset won’t respect or consider a girl who sleeps with them quickly relationship potential. But he also gets upset when she won’t sleep with him quickly. And also doesn’t respect a girl with multiple partners even though guys all work their hardest to get girls to sleep with them ASAP and often use manipulation tactics to get the sex. It’s a lose lose for the girl- damned if she does, dammed if she doesn’t. Sounds like a fun game to play.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 07:41 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? You maybe can’t promise /guarantee physical safety, but you can provide a level of emotional security through actions and words. The hot girl comment was just an easy example to use because that’s a common argument on this sub. And should that scenario happen I wouldn’t be blaming the single person, I would be blaming the one in the relationship if something were to happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 05:48 PM
3	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? Depends on the situation but sometimes it is a learned method to diffuse awkward or tension-filled situations so we don’t get accused of being confrontational or bitchy. Other times someone may just be a carefree happy bubbly person?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 05:35 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? Hahaha! Kind of love this	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:55 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? I don’t have the things that are necessarily fetishized but I have had my fair share of attention. It has pretty much allowed me to choose who I wanted to date from a larger pool of options. By having that larger pool, I was able to be pretty selective and find people i really clicked with on deeper levels. Baseline physical attraction should be there but personality can make someone society would consider average seem very attractive. Plus, what makes a real relationship last is the ability to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:54 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? “Ruining it” is such an interesting thing that has been unfortunately internalized by a lot of people. I remember being told growing up that men would lose respect for me if I slept with them before x dates. Or that I needed to wait if I was actually interested in the guy. Once I was older that mindset went out the window but it is still echoed a lot. And it is always from the mindset that “men will lose interest/respect” if sex is given freely. And honestly that is echoed by guys on this subred…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:44 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? I would think some may want that physical safety but many would like emotional “safety/security”. I want to know that my bf is as committed to me as I am to him. That some hot girl isn’t going to lure him away. I hate emotional/psychological mind games. My bf and I are quite independent and strong people but are both very secure in our relationship. We don’t use feelings to manipulate each other. It creates a feeling of emotional safety that you have a partner though tough times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:35 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? I would agree with this. Over time you have more experiences with a person and there can definitely be something said or done that is such a giant turnoff that it forever changes the way you see that person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:25 PM
–	Instead of theorizing, what is something you genuinely don't understand about women? This kind of made me chuckle. I agree with you. It gets real awkward at some heights. I’m 5’3’’ and dated someone 5’4” before. He was super fun to dance with because we matched heights. Also dated someone 6’2” and the height thing was part of the reason I broke it off…smart, great guy but it really did feel a bit awkward with physical things and dancing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/21 04:23 PM
1	This red piller claims that he has slept with over 150 women. Sounds like bs to me. Ugh, definitely	/r/ExRedPill	16/07/21 03:00 AM
10	This red piller claims that he has slept with over 150 women. Sounds like bs to me. He could have. I mean that’s 1-2/couple months, 15/yr for 10 years. He doesn’t sound like the type to have longer relationships or stay loyal during a relationship. But im also pretty sure he is also inflating that number to sound “more experienced”. He probably aims for the pliable young women with low self esteem or the young girls who aren’t ready to settle down yet. Also easy to pick up people when drunk, etc. His tactics are disgusting though. It’s this blend of things that people want in a…	/r/ExRedPill	16/07/21 12:08 AM
–	I think it’s true- the more successful you are as a woman, the more you expect for men. It’s easier to just stay single I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a partner who matches you on a number of levels. This can be said for all income and interest ranges. I know a lot of “power couples” who get along great because they are similar in ambition, have had similar lives growing up or have similar fundamental beliefs on other things. Personally, I had plenty of luck dating but had a hard time finding someone who I really clicked with on communication. I ultimately wanted it all- great communicator, loving/suppor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/21 10:06 PM
1	What is "Casual Sex"? To me it’s pretty much anything where I’m not invested in a long term committed relationship with someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/21 09:31 PM
1	Is it ever okay to tell a very unattractive man to focus on something else besides wanting to date? (Genuine) That makes sense. Once in the shuffle of middle class there is a different type of economic pursuit than pure survival. And once a certain level is reached it is accompanied by some level of entitlement. Competition in that environment can be harder. Kind of throw a wrench in some of the “biological” arguments once you step far enough in either direction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/21 06:03 PM
1	Is it ever okay to tell a very unattractive man to focus on something else besides wanting to date? (Genuine) I see so many “odd”, “mismatched”, “looksmatched”, “power” and any other way you want to describe couples on a daily basis at work. For this discussion they range as low as 1 or 2 (if a scale must be used) to homeless or just making ends meet. And most of them have partners or spouses. They cover the spectrum of disabilities, personalities and hygiene. So I don’t think you can really tell anyone that they will be alone forever. Somehow they are all able to find someone, it’s just where the bar t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/21 12:54 AM
9	Why does RP like to make blanketed statements like men and women all think the same? Hahaha. So true! And the most ridiculous was seeing someone say the other day say “you can’t ask or believe women to tell you how they think or how to get in relationships with them…you have to ask men”. Like whaaaa???	/r/ExRedPill	11/06/21 05:42 PM
4	Is it possible to discuss relationship problems to get an alternative to TRP-rules? I think advice will depend on what the problems are. Sexual attraction issues can stem from a huge range of issues. Reasons range from childhood trauma, physical changes causing insecurity, concern about a partners perception of their body, external stressors, easily adjusted physical things like amount of hair and everything in between. I think we will need a little more information before non-TRP advice could be provided.	/r/ExRedPill	10/06/21 05:29 PM
1	How redpill videos made me feel insecure as a woman While I can’t shed much light on a transition out of the RP mindset, do you have friends, family, mentors or other adults that you grew up around who demonstrate healthy and respectful relationships? For myself, I grew up seeing many relationships where both husbands and wives respected each other and valued equality, intelligence and strength more than traditional “feminine” qualities. I definitely enjoy being “feminine” at times but I also wore T-shirt, jeans and sneakers to most frat parties …	/r/ExRedPill	09/06/21 11:55 PM
2	I paid for sex again, and it's making things worse Experience isn’t always just a multiple partners type of numbers game. It is quality practice. When you meet girls and they are asking you what you’re looking for, why not be open to a relationship? It’s extremely rare to marry your first girlfriend/boyfriend. If you find someone you vibe with and have fun hanging out with, why not enjoy that time together and get experience that matters? New relationships are exciting and fun. I’ve easily had daily sex with past relationships. It’s a time to ge…	/r/seduction	31/05/21 03:10 PM
1	Can't be it all It’s interesting. I feel like women are stuck between a rock and a hard place often. With all of the contradictory societal pressures stated throughout the post and comments (which I agree with), the necessity of certain things in today’s society affect our choices. Sure, being able to rely on a high paying husband sounds nice but I can’t guarantee that 1) I find a compatible partner that also makes the equivalent of a dual income household and 2) that the relationship lasts. Obviously people ma…	/r/RedPillWives	29/05/21 02:23 AM
2	Women tend to make bad decisions in regards to their safety. They are too lenient with dangerous men and too cautious with safe men. They have standards which actually rewards pushy guys and pushes away respectful ones. I see what you mean now about somewhat innocent. Seems like I keep seeing the same arguments being made over and over with attempts from women to refute them and it does nothing to change most minds. It gets a little tiring so I may have rolled with just a piece of their comment. Yeah, I’ve definitely played the “friend” to strangers out dancing. And I have also had some cool random guys step in to help block an unwanted situation. But it is sad to me that the only way for some of those situatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/21 03:04 PM
6	Women tend to make bad decisions in regards to their safety. They are too lenient with dangerous men and too cautious with safe men. They have standards which actually rewards pushy guys and pushes away respectful ones. I don’t think OP talks to many women about their experiences (or talks to them willing to accept their experiences as valid). Almost every woman I know (who has actively dated in their life) has faced an uncomfortable, pushy, slightly scary 180 from a guy who was “nice” or even “a friend”. Vetting someone is so vague. Meeting a person in real life is the only real form of vetting (besides blocking the real creeps online) and you can’t have someone “safe” third party person walk you to your car e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/21 02:52 AM
2	Straight men will not spend a significant amount of time/are not close friends with a straight woman in whom they are not sexually or romantically interested. I have a friend like this from college. We’ve been friends for probably 15 years now and still catch up on the phone a number of times a year. I’ve lost touch with a lot of my other college guy friends due to distance and time but he and I have always kept up to date with each other’s lives. He is happily married with a 2nd kid on the way. It’s true we don’t spend “significant time” together but I don’t spend significant time with many people anymore outside my own relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/21 07:53 PM
12	Please help, I think my fiancée is beginning to resent her own existence because of RP content It’s so heartbreaking seeing women in otherwise happy relationships (or really young women) internalize this stuff. You mention in another comment about she likes to think of herself as a rational person. I wonder if you could play out a scenario on paper with her that would help quantify her contribution to the household. You can start out with your income on one side and make a column on the other showing all the “unseen” costs she is and will be contributing in your life together. List out co…	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/21 02:20 PM
6	What do women on this sub think of the "where are all the good men gone" types of women? And then in the very next sentence, that person will be the one saying asking why he can’t meet women because he’s a good guy. This would then be followed with a complaint that women will never look at him because “females only want chad” with a slew of negative generalizations about women. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/21 12:37 AM
1	Love between genders What are people considering romance? Large, sweeping gestures or the sweet cuddles from your guy when he agrees to watch a tear jerker movie with you that they would otherwise never choose? I feel like all the guys I’ve dated have been romantics on some level. But then again my idea of romance is somewhat grounded in practicality. Ive been flattered by a few big unique gestures in the past but they certainly weren’t required. I enjoy the small loving gestures that show we’ve thought about the ot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/21 12:23 AM
3	Financial stability is about to become the biggest obstacle in an already chaotic dating market, particularly for young adults. I have no idea where you all are meeting these women who are then used as a judgement against “most” women. Nobody I knew in college, grad school, work etc would seek out the flashy spenders. Maybe get a free drink from some asshat who was getting pushy, but definitely not be seriously interested in that. We know what flaunting money means (they may or may not have the means to sustain the flaunting, but either way not the type of person any of us wanted). And it’s always been a mix throughout m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/21 06:08 AM
6	RedPill stole my years of love Living at home at 27 is only a red flag to someone with their life in order if it’s coupled with an aimless lack of life direction. It can still be viewed as a transition period in life if you’re working toward something. :) But if you’re still trying to figure out a path, there are plenty of people also in that same boat and that search could become a great foundation for growing together. As for money, a number of women I’ve worked with over the years make more than their husbands and it’s not…	/r/ExRedPill	07/05/21 12:02 AM
7	TRP trauma I can't get rid of. Plz help. Take a look around when you’re out in public. It will hopefully be reassuring to see couples of various shapes, sizes, heights, and appearances. I would recommend trying to just be open to the possibility of a genuine connection and force the skepticism to the back of your mind. Be open to all types of connections. Sometimes simply getting better at developing regular non- romantic relationships (friends, coworkers, etc) will help develop the interpersonal skills that will ultimately help with r…	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/21 09:59 PM
1	If not for having children, what are some reasons that a man would want to get married? Thanks for the suggestion! I should definitely run those numbers. Each year it changes for us, depending on his contracts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/21 07:25 PM
2	If not for having children, what are some reasons that a man would want to get married? Lol! I bet people on this sub will just call us outliers and continue telling us what we “want”. For the most part I would agree my partner and I are pretty low spenders (prefer to spend on travel). But I was soooo impressed with two close friends who probably didn’t drop more than 10k on a really fun party because they kept decorations simple and had so much help (with product donations) from friends. But I’ve also been to a fully catered weekend event where I’m sure the couple dropped $$$. I t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/21 06:43 PM
3	If not for having children, what are some reasons that a man would want to get married? DINKs: - so I can put him on my work health insurance plan and save us like $300/month. - medical/legal decision making later in life - Citizenship (not in our case, but still relevant) - satisfy parents - excuse to throw a giant party and get friends in from around the world	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/21 05:29 PM
3	If not for having children, what are some reasons that a man would want to get married? You definitely hit the big ones. My partner and I will eventually get married but I really want to be able to put him on my health insurance plan because he pays through the nose right now as a contract worker and I have pretty decent benefits working at a hospital. As we get older the medial/legal decision making will come into play more. Also, We are chid free and I make more than him so it’s not like there’s real financial incentive in the way that OP is hunting at. I like how some of my frie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/21 05:22 PM
1	Why do redpillers hate single moms but not hate men who also have children from past relationships Of course not all of them are. But I said the philosophies “overlap”, which they do.	/r/ExRedPill	19/04/21 04:22 PM
12	Why do redpillers hate single moms but not hate men who also have children from past relationships Conservative and RP philosophies definitely overlap...	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/21 06:21 PM
13	Why do redpillers hate single moms but not hate men who also have children from past relationships >This is a good way to identify if an ideology is bullshit. When the enemy is both very smart and sneaky and evil, but also stupid. Yeah, lol. Wow, we really are something! It is jaw-dropping to see how RP can twist every situation to be the woman's fault. I mean, I guess I should be used to this already...we get blamed for everything that happens to us already in mainstream society.	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/21 06:16 PM
4	Social circles/groups to find dates are not that reliable because most have already established members and don’t consistently invite newcomers I think age has a lot to do with social circle fluidity. In my 30’s people only have time for those they are already friends with because many are already hitched. I had more single girlfriends in my 20’s and when my friend group merged with my ex’s group of single guy friends. 2 ended up married lol. There were also more individuals in the periphery of the core group so you could actually meet lots of single people during a big night out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/21 05:06 PM
30	Why do redpillers hate single moms but not hate men who also have children from past relationships Yeah and it’s her fault for being promiscuous to begin with and for “choosing the wrong man” because she should know who would leave/cheat/abuse her and who won’t. This said even as pumping and dumping is ok and it’s their nature to leave one girl for the next hotter one.	/r/ExRedPill	11/04/21 04:58 PM
1	Having a nervous breakdown.. Yeah there are a lot of relationships that don’t work out but I always feel there are also a lot that are really positive and long lasting with great compatibility. So it is absolutely possible. Im fortunate to have grown up around many successful partnerships. My bf, on the other band, didn’t have many healthy relationship examples at all. Part of it is knowing not everyone is perfect and may have flaws, but if there’s a difference between flaws like being messy and flaws like taking our anger …	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 10:56 PM
4	A Critique Of The Red Pill By A Guy Who Was Supposed To Be A Model Love this.	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 08:39 PM
1	Having a nervous breakdown.. You say that they taught you that “intimacy is something that will never be achieved without catastrophic consequences”. But you say you do ultimately want intimacy. If other theories and philosophies offer recommendations suggest intimacy is possible and there is a large population of people who have successfully achieved happy and supportive relationships with intimacy, wouldn’t it be nicer to follow those recommendations? I would certainly want to follow the people who have successfully navig…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 08:29 PM
3	Q4All: When it comes to casual sex, why does it seem like people are living in two different worlds? I’m in the same boat. It takes time filtering through people to find real LTR compatibility so why not have fun in the process? Casual can be really fun and even if they don’t fit the picture for LTR, they can still be cool, fun dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/21 05:52 AM
1	Even if people generally want a partner similar to themselves, is it common that women find it attractive for men to be more experienced, knowledgable, worldy, smarter than themelves? I think there may be certain women that look for this. But I was more concerned about finding someone with compatible communication skills, intellectual curiosity and some fundamental common views about the world. My bf and I are in vastly different fields and I would argue we have both taught each other things. Experience is also hard to quantify. My partner had traveled more than me but not to the same places I had. I had one more degree but we both went to 4 year colleges. He is more in tune …	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 02:07 AM
1	How to prevent myself from getting sucked into the red pill, MGTOW? You’re 16... everyone’s hormones are racing at that age and nobody has much experience in either the right or wrong way to treat potential partners. It’s a tough age and will be for a while. You’re just starting to figure out who you are and what type of person you want to be. Old jaded MGTOW/RPers are not the people to listen to when figuring out if you are a decent human being. Disconnect from those feeds and work on those goals you mentioned. Work on enjoying life and treating everyone with r…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 01:55 AM
1	Interested in being an ExRP I don’t have much to add since the post is more commentary and I agree. So I just wanted to say, it’s so nice reading posts that use the term “woman” and not “female”! :)	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 01:39 AM
1	I can't stand this disgusting mindset that I can't get out of my head I think the fact that you’re aware that you want to see women as people and understand redpill can contribute to toxic behaviors/feelings about women, is a fantastic starting point. That being said, it’s totally normal to want sex as a part of that “laugh, talk to, assist and connect with” human connection. Continue to think about your intentions and try to focus on being honest and genuine, rather than using manipulation to reach a goal. It sounds like your self awareness is a great starting po…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 01:28 AM
1	I always knew redpill was toxic Wow. This guy is not only acting like we all think the same but is telling us what, and why, we think it??? And wonders why it’s hard meeting women...	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 01:15 AM
1	What now? There’s a lot to unpack there which other people are addressing. I do want to add that it is OK not to want a LTR at this time in your life if you’re busy. You just have to be honest and up front about it to the women you meet so there’s not lying and manipulation involved. When I was in grad school I wasn’t interested in LTRs but still liked casual dating because it was a fun distraction. It’s ok not to feel like you want to settle down yet. Now you just have to be careful and make sure your de…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/21 01:06 AM
8	[Q4W] Do you dislike men with too few previous partners, similar to how some men dislike women with too many? Lol. So true. And that can also be a role some women are just playing for the media. Heck, I was in a sorority and was Sweetheart of a fraternity. I never slept with the frat “president” and really just had a group of great guy friends throughout college. I knew girls like the ones they are concerned about but by no means is it the majority lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 06:53 PM
9	[Q4W] Do you dislike men with too few previous partners, similar to how some men dislike women with too many? The funny part is also how I see so many topics about the inability for men and women to be friends for very sex centric reasons but many of the guys talking about women’s motives don’t actually have women friends and haven’t talked to real world women about their friendships...	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 06:36 PM
3	[Q4W] Do you dislike men with too few previous partners, similar to how some men dislike women with too many? Haha, yup!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 06:33 PM
6	[Q4W] Do you dislike men with too few previous partners, similar to how some men dislike women with too many? Lol! So true	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 06:33 PM
26	[Q4W] Do you dislike men with too few previous partners, similar to how some men dislike women with too many? Seems like there are tons of anecdotal stories from women and a guy will always come say, “no, that’s not how women think”. Ummmm...	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 05:15 PM
3	If men and women can just be friends, Then why do a lot of women stop talking to their male counterpart once they are in a relationship? Not in my relationships but in my mid-20’s girlfriends of some of my guy friends were insecure and communication changed out of respect for the other persons insecurity and to avoid jealousy. There was certainly less “crashing at the other persons place” to maintain appropriate appearances. Now in my 30’s most people are in LTRs or married and there are only a couple guy friends who I still stay in touch with. But I also only have a few closer girlfriends I stay in contact with regularly as well…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/21 05:12 PM
2	Regarding this sub Nice! I feel like I’ve been a sounding board for a lot of guy friends and their relationships through the years. I’ve observed and helped problem solve relationships of frat friends in college, boyfriends, friends of boyfriends, coworkers etc. I find human interaction really interesting and it’s hard seeing some of the threads on TRP and PPD because many of the methods won’t result in healthy relationships with stable people. Most of those conversations happen in the 20’s of course, when people …	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/21 03:26 AM
5	Regarding this sub Honest question because this does a nice job clearly describing the purpose and target audience of this subreddit. Are occasional comments helpful from the perspective of a woman who has had pretty successful dating years, healthy relationships, guy friends, and is financially stable on her own? Or should commentary be left more for those who have/are experiencing the struggle and exit from TRP?	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/21 10:49 PM
6	Why do (some) women sleep with one guy the day they meet , but waits until commitment with another? I’m sure many women wouldn’t mind getting down with those they are attracted to (if they have been in the past) but society still calls women sluts and states those that sleep with someone quickly will make poor LTR partners. I see it all the time here...statements saying women who have multiple partners are not LTR material. Sooo women are more likely to try to refrain from being intimate with someone who they see has LTR potential because they want to also be seen as LTR potential and are afra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/21 12:25 AM
1	I feel like shit I’m so sorry you have been sandwiched in such a position within your family and now your boyfriends. Feel free to PM me if you need to vent more. Although I don’t have your lived experienced in my past, I have grown up seeing and feeling the underlying sexism within certain STEM/medical fields.	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/21 08:48 PM
2	Interesting at FDS there’s a trending post about a woman having to give her boyfriend the card to pay so that he wouldn’t feel insecure. My bf said he just feels like it’s something he’s been raised around. No real feeling about it either way. We didn’t intend for things to work out this way but he often picks up the tab/pays for the activity when we are out and I end up ordering most of the food delivery, lyft rides, etc on my card. I do think it makes him feel good to pay in public. However, I have my own money and feel more comfortable evening out costs, so I cover most of the less public purchases.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/21 12:30 AM
12	I'm confused. Ex red piller men, help I agree with zoeymondo. Talk to a divorce lawyer and have them walk you through all the possible options. I would also hate for you to remain attached to a mooch and then once you have yourself fully established, have him ask for the divorce and get half of what you have if he ends up with less due to his unhusband-like lifestyle/habits. I’m sorry he has put you through so much.	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/21 01:42 AM
17	I'm confused. Ex red piller men, help If you did force his hand with divorce, who would financially benefit? For being such an awful person, might be worth it to make him pay (literally and figuratively). And if that happens to contribute to his TRP mindset, he should be expecting it anyway.	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/21 12:11 AM
2	The main criterias women use when it comes to selecting a partner for casual sex vs. relationship I wasn’t a big ONS person but short lived casual dating was fun. Or at least if something was intended to be a ONS, it typically turned into something short because I would be selective enough to ensure I enjoyed something about them as a person. Intelligence was a bonus. When I was younger catching my eye would typically require some level of clean shaven pretty boy who liked going out dancing. Late 20’s I started to think the clean shaven pretty boys looked like kids and started finding the mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/21 01:49 AM
1	Q4W: Is your current boyfriend in the top 20% of men looks wise? Yep! I think he’s the hottest guy I’ve ever dated, though some friends may think otherwise. I think he has looks, brains, humor and real long term compatibility across the board. People have said he looks like Christian Bale (maybe with a little wider nose and broader smile). I would throw in a little Tom Ellis too but he doesn’t think so. 6’1”, dark hair, hazel eyes, scruff, slim build, deep voice, music nerd. I don’t often get to share how cute I think he is so thought It would be fun to answe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/21 08:21 AM
2	I am disturbed by the RedPill Yeah I perused the sites once I learned about them and it makes me incredibly angry as well. No functional relationship can develop from people who distrust and despise their partner’s entire sex.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/21 05:27 AM
4	Would women consider a man with a low N-Count more desirable? I don’t care about N-count. It seemed like something important to ask when I was 22 but by 30 I really don’t care. Plus by 30, most people have had multiple partners and a variety of relationships. Many people had a few wild years and then grew out of it. Edit: I’d like to add that as I got older it was almost a deterrent if someone didn’t have at least some mix of dating experiences. It takes time to learn about oneself in a relationship and how to compromise and communicate effectively. Having…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/21 05:07 AM
3	I am disturbed by the RedPill Agreed. I took the gentler approach because this subreddit has people that have escaped from that mindset. But yes, I would agree with what you said. And TRP also casts women as a scapegoat for their manipulation, jealousy, anger, depression etc. Its a terrible and toxic way to view others and any relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/21 04:40 AM
16	I am disturbed by the RedPill Please do not get lost in the rabbit hole of redpill sites. Those views are toxic, spiteful and often either made by men who have had a poor dating experience or someone without any dating experience at all. Even more important to avoid their influence if it is causing you undue stress and anxiety because they aren't worth it. Most men do not think like that...and if they do, they aren't worth your time. Like someone else already mentioned here, in their eyes you're "damned if you do, damned if …	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/21 07:29 AM
1	[Q4All] Just how successful are your close friends in dating/romance? 1.)Just how successful are your friends In dating? Back in college, i had a few different friend groups and it seemed like most people didn't have a problem dating. However, there was always a couple of people who had a tough time, which may have been partially due to being less outgoing than some of the others or a bit less attractive. After college, friend groups shifted based on location and there were work friends and other friends. Again, most didn't have a hard time dating with the excepti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/21 07:15 PM
2	How do you identify your looks match as a man exactly ? Aim high until rejections indicate you need to set the bar lower? Or just aim for who you are attracted to combining both looks and personality. There are looks matched couples and couples who at first appear unbalanced in that department but it works for other reasons. There also used to be that funny site “hot or not” where you could upload a pic and have the public rank it lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/21 07:55 PM
2	The reason most women are indirect with rejections...is that we are afraid of retaliation. This is so true. And it extends past dating men too. There are a lot of people on here saying to “just don’t date abusers”. People don’t enter relationships expecting to be abused. And I can’t even count how many times I was out at bars/clubs (over the last 10yrs), where guys won’t leave you alone no matter how “nice you are” about saying you’re not interested. Saying I have a boyfriend only works sometimes. Leaving to “go to the bathroom” only works sometimes. Basically we often have to pretend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/21 04:17 PM
2	Do men in these modern times want to be breadwinners? Some men I know want a working wife because they don’t want the responsibility to only be on them (who knows when someone could be laid off). Some are cool with their wife making more because it takes the burden off of them or they don’t feel used. However, a certain subset of those guys also want to make more than the woman and will only date someone who earns less. Personally, I have FIRE goals and started my career late due to grad school so I wanted the whole package- attraction, personality…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/21 02:13 AM
1	Society does not and will never care about incels and TRPers "opting-out" Yep. And knowing the US’s desensitization with frequent news topics, we were dangerously close to having that form of lashing out normalized.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/21 07:04 PM
2	Society does not and will never care about incels and TRPers "opting-out" What worries me about the incel and TRP philosophies are not that I am missing out by not dating one of them but rather, the social/physical implications of the “revenge fantasies”, hatred and desire for violence that some of them have against women. Now I know this isn’t all incels or TRP, but anger at women have been driving forces behind a variety of things including school shootings and domestic violence, etc. I don’t care if either gender writes off the other for personal reasons or due to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/20 08:40 PM
2	Women Live Comfier Lives Than Men And I’m not saying this is all that plays into things by any means. Just a piece of the pie.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 07:11 PM
5	Women Live Comfier Lives Than Men I consider myself a poor example of a traditional woman for many reasons. But most women I’ve worked with have those stories and most men I’ve worked with have the inverse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 07:10 PM
8	Women Live Comfier Lives Than Men Not all women of course, just like this wouldn’t apply to all men. But disproportionally so. I didn’t really do much of that when I was single but when dating, I found myself doing more of that organizing for guys because they did even less and I wanted both of us to be on top of things for longevity sake (whether it be health or financial).	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 07:05 PM
16	Women Live Comfier Lives Than Men I wonder if women (historically raised with a lean towards taking care of others/family), have developed more general life skills than some men. Every professional job I’ve ever been in has women saying they have to schedule the doc appointments, drag men to their doc appointments, manage diet changes for Heath reasons, teeth cleaning, daycare, etc for their husbands or write out lists because the men would have no idea how to do do it or fall to do it on their own. So In that respect a single w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 06:30 PM
3	If you can’t get a relationship from your social group then it’s an indication you’re not attractive enough and something is wrong with you Interesting. For the most part I would agree with this. I had my pick of guys to date in college and while friend groups were large and many guys had great personalities, it was the more attractive ones who received the flirty attention. As I got into my 20’s, that’s when dating for looks/dancing ability wasn’t enough and personality compatibility began to play a stronger role in my selection. Two people may both be the same attractive level but one persons personality may be more compatible for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/20 04:53 PM
3	Why do men say they prefer experienced women IRL and not so much online? and finally started feeling confident until I discovered TRP Please do not internalize TRP culture as typical viewpoints for healthy relationships. Do not let their views on women create insecurity or feelings of inadequacy. Those are not the views of most men and especially not the views of anyone I know in healthy/happy LTRs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/20 01:29 AM
8	Hey guys share your thoughts about this perspective - Do you consider sex as merely a form of action or is it more than that? Can it be equated to activities like Dancing or Singing? Somehow I think the same people that most judge women in this way could find a way to whine about legitimate “dancing”. “I feel inferior because she may have had a better tango partner in the past. What if she compares me to her last dance partner? I don’t think it’s right to dance with too many people. If you do dance with multiple people, I don’t want you anymore. What if she leaves for a better dance partner? I’m just not going to dance because women only want good dancers and they dance with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/20 09:20 AM
2	If women find less men attractive than men find women attractive, shouldn't women make the first move? 100% yes to all of this. It’s exactly what both my response would be and what my experiences have been.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/20 08:26 AM
2	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized Haha, yeah, that cheeky, humorous show of jealousy can be fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 04:41 PM
2	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized All of that is one toxic view of women and far too much emphasis on sex. Foundation to engaging in meaningful relationships includes a basic respect for the opposite gender. So even wanting a girl who hasn't had casual sex is not an acceptable/reasonable preference? No. Because your definition of casual sex is not someone who is looking just for one night stands. you lump all relationships into that group as well. So the only women who meet your criteria are either extremely young (and haven't h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 04:39 PM
2	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized That would definitely make me consider ending a relationship too. I don’t do jealousy. As long as a bf doesn’t give me reason to be jealous, I take women hitting on them sometimes as a compliment lol. They are ultimately coming home with me because they are committed to me and that’s what matters. :) Plus, talking to the opposite gender isn’t always to flirt/hit on them. It’s just communication with another individual. So jealousy over SOs that end up engaging in normal friendly conversations is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 03:40 PM
3	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized There’s all sorts of ways to be the victim of an unjust system. I can just as easily flip it to say that all guys want is a hole to put it in and use us and dump us (no matter how serious a woman may want the relationship to be). Is this fair then to be judged later for having experience when it was the guys who left? I could complain that guys don’t get stigmatization from having multiple partners as much as women. That guys are the ones always looking for the next hottest younger thing because…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 07:06 AM
2	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized Ok so you don’t want a girl who wants to date to try and find compatibility with another person but you do want an inexperienced virgin who has no experience with relationships at all so you don’t feel inferior to anyone. That’s such an unhealthy mindset. Relationships help people learn about themselves too. They are how a person learns what they do/don’t like, what they do/don’t need and what they will/won’t tolerate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 06:06 AM
3	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized I understand what you mean. However, entering a relationship with that level of distrust and insecurity is toxic to developing anything long lasting. So those beliefs lead to a self fulfilling prophecy of failed relationships. And then people complain and turn that from a consequence of their insecurity to blaming their partner for “upgrading”. Of course a girl will want to leave if her partner is always jealous of a non-existent/past person. There are good reasons people move on to other relati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 05:19 AM
3	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized Yes, I think women can be more selective for appearance when it comes to casual sex and dating apps because young guy are often just looking for sex, period. Attractiveness isn’t the highest thing on their list, it’s getting laid. So that inherently makes it easier for women to be more selective (whether they select based on looks or other attributes). Dating apps are designed to be superficial so if someone is looking for a hookup, they will likely go for the hottest on the site. However, if so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 03:47 AM
4	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized So are you saying that you are one who always thinks their partner will be looking to “upgrade” even though they are with you? Even though they are spending time, energy, love etc on/with you? And subsequently if that is what you think women do, would you be the first to bounce if someone you thought was “better” came along? Those feelings mean the relationship is doomed from the start. The woman shouldn’t be blamed for a bad relationship when it’s a guy’s insecurities that contribute to a found…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 01:39 AM
4	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized Yeah. It’s interesting because they are thinking exactly what they are afraid their partner is thinking. No relationship stands a chance with that mindset.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/20 12:57 AM
17	Many men here overestimate the importance of attractiveness over personality because they are undersocialized 100% Agee with this. These people are putting a lot of assumptions into their relationships about their partner that is all based around their own insecurities. “My partner will always be comparing me to their exes”, “my partner will always want to upgrade”, “my partner is settling for me”. That will inherently lead to trust issues which hinder healthy communication and healthy relationship building. And it also inversely reflects their views of relationships and the likelihood that THEY would b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/20 11:32 PM
4	When all of your opinions about the opposite sex and dating comes from a sample size full of only teens and young adults in their 20s, you’re ALWAYS going to be disappointed, disgusted and angry. But isn’t that obvious? Omg. I love this post. What people look for in a significant other and what they can bring to the table themselves changes/matures so much over the years. What my guy and girl friends experienced in the teens was vastly different than their 20’s (early, late) and now 30’s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/20 02:14 AM