TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

swillah Archive

View 0 posts and 32 comments by swillah on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
2

Just be honest and up front from the beginning. Set your expectations, and if they try to convince you otherwise, remind them of what you said from the beginning. You don't need to feel guilty about any of that. It's your life! Live it how you want :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/19 02:39 PM
4

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 03:53 PM
2

Agreed. My experience was very similar. However, I have seen healthy relationships that work. They do exist. So I’m not holding my breath, but I’m not giving up either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 10:53 AM
1

I was there. Just moved into my own place. I understand what it feels like to be completely disappointed and let down, but the fact is you can’t rely on someone else to make you happy. No one can save you but yourself. You need to reprogram yourself to un-fuck what society did to your brain to make you feel like you won’t be complete without a husband. I’m not saying don’t love, but don’t expect that marriage will make you happy or complete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 02:34 AM
2

How about the super common one where both work 40-50 hours per week and she still does most of the cleaning and household admin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 10:30 PM
2

Thanks! I still intend to be a great mother if and when I am ready to adopt! I will surely be around to help my friends with their babies too. I feel personally responsible to help educate young people into thinking for themselves instead of buying in to other people’s bullshit philosophies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 09:51 PM
1

So a couple of things... As a woman who was younger and is now older I have to say that I was far stupider, ruder, unsympathetic, manic and hapless etc in general when I was young. Now, if you asked the object of my affection if they thought that about me, they’d probably overlook my faults and make excuses for me because they were getting laid. As soon as those relationships ended they saw the sweet sexy girl become a vicious crazy bitch. Another thing worth mentioning is menopause (which I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 08:51 PM
1

Really? I’ve seen a lot of vacuous crazy bitches who are young and old. Not sure age has anything do do with it. Edit: and by that I mean no not all of us women are wonderful, we need to look at ourselves honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:22 PM
3

You’re right, but it’s better to be single than settle. A romantic relationship is not the only way to live a fulfilling life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 07:00 PM
15

We need to remember that feeling alone in a relationship like that is far more painful than living alone while investing in friends and family. Stop telling yourself that a romantic relationship equals success. Focus on your own life and special talents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 04:19 PM
1

I've heard this roommate thing before. I don't get why people expect that being married is going to hold the same romance forever. Maybe this is a good conversation to have early on in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 02:08 AM
2

Consider if this will impact you guys going out and spending time with friends. I dated someone who I got along great with, but didn't seek out or maintain friendships. I found myself feeling less motivated to go out and be social as a result because it was easy to just be at home with him. This did not pan out well over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 02:03 AM
6

I don't consider their reaction a validation, it's kind of besides the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 01:55 AM
32

Stay single! Focus on friends. Numbers show that women think they need to find a partner so they don't die alone, but we usually outlive men and end up dying alone anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 01:50 AM
3

The exciting thing is that it's stopping right here. I'm glad I came across this subreddit when I did. I actually feel much more prepared to go back to the single world with some of the thoughts and advice I've read here. Although I don't agree with everything posted here, there are a lot of gems that have changed the way I will look at dating forever. I will definitely be keeping my needs front of mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/19 01:26 AM
4

All I’m saying is if sex up front is someone’s priority, there are options out there to fulfill that. If you want to have sex with a woman that has her own criteria for worthwhile relationship, then your priorities and hers will often not be compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/19 05:53 PM
8

Guys can get sex up front whenever they want. This is not about sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/19 11:42 PM
1

Nicely done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/19 11:41 PM
-1

And what non-white men have you dated that have made you believe that they are mature and worth your time? Please explain why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/19 01:01 AM
2

I've been burned too, but what I've learned about myself is that I have chosen poorly. Sometimes it's not obvious in the beginning, but if it wasn't I then chose to stay when I should have left. It doesn't excuse the behaviours discussed here, but taking responsibility for choosing to be with emotionally void men just to avoid loneliness is our own responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 11:31 PM
-1

Do you make these kinds of generalisations about races too? edit: bad grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 11:25 PM
3

^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 02:42 PM
7

I’m moving out in a week. I have invested a lot in friendships the last few years so I will not have to feel alone like I did when I was younger. I learned that the hard way. This is my 3rd long term relationship of more than 5 years. I’ve learned valuable lessons from each of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 03:19 AM
18

Know what's worse? Feeling lonely when you're in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 01:54 AM
3

No, My childhood was what you described and much much worse. His was not perfect, but stable and supportive. I pushed through years of therapy and self improvement while encouraging him to do the same while he sat on his computer neglecting his life (himself, me, his family, what friends he had) and numbing himself continuously each evening. I stayed physically active and encouraged healthy eating habits while he protested and would reluctantly drag himself to do 15-20 min of exercise once or tw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/19 11:05 AM
2

Clearly you have not been someone's partner/maid/personal assistant before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/19 02:55 AM
2

I don’t think you’re wrong at all, and especially if there’s no reason why she can’t physically get up on a ladder and do those things. Honestly there’s a lot of women thinking they are exempt from certain kinds of chores when they are perfectly capable. I think the most important part is that the work is split in a way that both feel are fair and to check in from time to time to make sure that it still feels that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/19 11:45 PM
16

Lots of people prefer humiliation, men and women alike. I would say men who prefer this can be good sexual partners, but not life partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/19 12:19 AM
17

I'm in the process of breaking up with my partner of 6.5 years. It took him over 3 to kind of get that things didn't magically happen on their own. He seemed mystified when I explained that my time has value, and that I would actually prefer to be playing video games and reading Reddit sometimes too. For the second part of our relationship he paid for cleaners to come by every two weeks. I'll just say that I still did more than him in terms of meal planning, shopping, detail cleaning, laundry an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/19 02:18 PM
2

Everyone wears clothes, bud. Not to mention that men's wardrobes are often less complex/expensive. I don't see a lot of guys dropping $150 plus per month on aesthetics either. Do you wax? Do you get your nails done? I mean I know that some men do it and that's great, but I can tell you like 2% of my male friends do it and they aren't looking to impress women.
/r/PussyPassDenied27/03/16 12:23 PM
1

I actually wouldn't do it for myself. I do it to be more broadly appealing to others, and currently to my boyfriend in particular. I think there is a common misconception that women do all these things for themselves. While that may be true for some women, I bet a lot would rather save their money and time to do more productive/interesting things. Unfortunately, adhering to the constructs of female beauty has practical benefits. I don't like it, but it's real.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/03/16 11:08 PM
-11

I think there are certain things that guys tend to pay for more like booze. I tend to buy the majority of groceries and bathroom supplies along with all the hair, nails and other services that my man tells me are unnecessary, but I know he appreciates.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/03/16 01:48 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter