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I was in your shoes!!!!! Lose the weight!!!!! You are doig the exact right thing!!!!! Your quality of life is going to improve so much!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 11:49 PM
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Exactly ny point. Because you’re a man, love without respect seems like pity.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/19 01:48 PM
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I feel for you. I’m sorry you’ve had this experience. So I’m saying this with the utmost sympathy: MRP is better equipped to answer this question in a way that will be helpful to you than RPW/RPWives. That being said, here’s my hot take: I think the good job, money, status stuff all pertains to ‘respect’ moreso than ‘love’. A woman can “love you” (experience compassionate love) without ‘respecting’ you. But that compassionate love, without respect, is probably not going to feel like “love” to yo…
/r/RedPillWives14/05/19 09:06 PM
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You need to pay your way, but if you feel awkward about individual transactions (like taking the check at restaurants) you could Venmo him in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 02:22 PM
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Sweet Jesus. This feels like reading a series of “grrl power” bumper stickers
/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 02:11 PM
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I’m in the middle of Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs— although I skipped the section ‘for men’. I also joined a Fascinating Womanhood online course, so I’ve been listening to the webinars/lectures while I do chores.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 01:06 PM
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Do you suppose it could be influenced at all by the fact that it’s televised? Like maybe unsuccessful ones get better ratings, or the type to agree to have their courtship televised/compensated are more likely to behave dramatically anyway?
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:08 PM
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An understanding of healthy diet and portion control. Would have saved me a lot of stress between the ages of 12-24.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 01:07 PM
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I feel this on a spiritual level. Our bedroom is as sparse, clean, and minimalistic as possible and then you go out to my car and there’s fifteen pairs of shoes, a pillow from camping three years ago, one thousand expired parking passes, a dead guy...
/r/RedPillWives14/08/18 10:22 PM
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I hated the process of online dating but saw it as a necessary evil in order to cast a wide enough net. I had to consciously “duty date” using OLD to screen candidates at any rate conducive to finding someone. What aspects of it do you dislike? Maybe we could also suggest some ways to mitigate those factors, if that’s advice you’re open to?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 02:14 AM
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So then, maybe your answer looks different than if you were dating in a coal mining town or something. Assumedly, somebody scrolling through OKC will be seeing a higher level of education on lots of profiles, and it’s not going to be glaringly ostentatious and off-putting. As long as you don’t make a big deal about it in the actual body of your profile, and come across as humble and self-aware, I think you’ll be OK. Guys aren’t gonna be put off by an intelligent woman’s credentials; they’re put …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 08:01 PM
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As long as you don’t come across as too self-congratulatory in the body of your profile, I don’t think many high quality men will disqualify you based on including factual information about your life. On the other hand, not filling them out is a perfectly discreet and valid strategy if you think including them is, in and of itself, too ostentatious. This may be dependent on your locale and the dating population you’re in— but your profile should still communicate that you have a degree and are e…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:34 PM
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What an appropriate username 😂
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:33 PM
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Ok, first off, YA GOTTA RELAX. Your question reads as if your biological clock is a literal actual time bomb that will instantly kill you at age 24. YA GOTTA RELAX, GUH. Ok. Now that you’re breathing deeply and feeling peaceful vibes: Is “straight As” vs. “As and Bs” the difference between being able to support yourself and not? I don’t know what your field of study/career path is like, so if it’s ruthlessly competitive, maybe that will change your answer. I assume that you have wisely chosen a …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:14 PM
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The perennial favorite 😂
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 11:18 AM
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You’re so right!!!! These are excellent!! Also, I friggin’ love that post!!!
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 11:18 AM
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That’s hilarious!!!! 😂
/r/RedPillWives07/08/18 11:17 AM
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No, people are downvoting because you’ve never participated in this sub before and called OP a man. How would you like it if we came into TRP without EVER having participated or read one whit of the material, made a flippant drive-by comment, and called you a woman? Edit: Not to mention the tone of your response is cruel/mocking in response to OP’s genuine question. It provides no value to her. This isn’t TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/18 10:33 AM
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That sounds adorable, and also sounds like a great lesson for the kids to observe!!!!
/r/RedPillWives06/08/18 04:07 PM
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I can’t believe I didn’t think of that!!! Thanks!!! 😂
/r/RedPillWives06/08/18 04:06 PM
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Do you know what sub you’re on?
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 04:05 PM
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I friggin’ love that analogy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 03:59 PM
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Hahah!! I watched it this weekend too! Her thing about “please take my egg, sir” had me rolling 😂
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/18 03:16 PM
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Since you suggested it: how would you/a guy want your wife/girlfriend to broach the concept of MRP with you? Like, I’m trying to picture a way that a woman could achieve the outcome of having her man familiarize himself with MRP WITHOUT coming across like “Hey, I found an Internet forum to teach you how to be a man!”
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 09:56 PM
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Would it be fair to rephrase your question as “I love him but never felt the infatuation phase; should I still marry him?”?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 06:57 PM
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Username checks out
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 03:04 PM
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Yeah, seriously! OP didn’t write ANYTHING that would merit the implication that SHE is somehow cheating. Yikes. 👀
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:25 PM
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Whoops!!! That’s NOT my post, haha! I can’t take credit for that— that’s u/fleetingwish !
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 02:00 PM
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I had a situation very similar to this one recently. I found this field report to be very helpful in giving me some perspective. I would make plans for around that time so you’re not tempted to mope (like I would be!). You’ve been clear that you wanted to go, so he has that information. Don’t try to wrest the decision back into your hands. As for the stuff about ex-girlfriends— the best way to firmly establish that you are superior to them is to NOT make this into a big deal and accept his wishe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/18 11:18 AM
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Sounds like you’ve already thought of most of my ideas, haha! I do find that if I don’t eat enough protein it has weird effects on my emotions and makes me testier. I’ve heard (though this was probably just Dr. Oz bullsh*t) that it’s related to hormones in that a woman’s reproductive/endocrine system would need to be responsive to changes in nutrition (i.e., you don’t want to implant an embryo if you don’t currently get enough protein, indicating you could potentially be entering a starvation pe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 01:46 PM
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1) Are you on any hormonal BC that could potentially be making it worse, and if so could you consider changing it? Could you consider asking your doctor for medical advice on this? 2) Are there any changes to your routine/surroundings that you could make that would pre-emptively stop any recurring conflicts around this time? 3) Are you eating enough protein and fat? Do you get enough exercise, especially in fresh air? When you’re getting upset, could you go for a walk/jog alone to reset your per…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 12:12 PM
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“I take the mindset that he is exactly the man he boasts that he is.” This is such a great and oddly reassuring line. I’m gonna have to meditate on that. I struggle with this sometimes because the stuff he wants to accomplish is just so insanely difficult/ambitious. Even though his track record with respect to career achievement is 100%, I still get nervous about the potential for failure, how plans could negatively change our lives, etc. I think I’m good at keeping a lid on it— I don’t openly q…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 07:59 PM
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Just chiming in to add to these excellent answers: A man can exhibit qualities that might indicate he is FIT to be a ‘captain’, but until you’re married or otherwise VERY seriously committed, he isn’t ‘your Captain’. Too often there are girls posting on here who seem extremely deferential to men who have given them almost no assurance that he will act in their best interest. In other words, they’re slapping on the label without the guy having earned it. A guy can be decisive and confident and ye…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 01:24 AM
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My boyfriend’s work can be tedious and thankless, so I really try to create a fun and distracting environment when he’s home. That’s the lens through which I’m gonna answer this. Here are some of the ways I try to create levity for him— as I’m typing, they sound so stupid, but they work for me. Your mileage may vary depending on your personality/relationship. We call it ‘making memes’ before sex. We build in a certain amount of time to just be goofy before sex. It’s not necessarily sexual, but u…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 01:02 AM
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I’m really looking forward to your post(s)! Thanks for the links!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 04:41 PM
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read the sidebar
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/18 06:20 PM
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A cursory search on Wikipedia shows that it was first used in this context in the 18th century. :/
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/18 01:46 AM
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Nope. No response, move on. If he wants to see you again, you’ll hear about it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 01:56 PM
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“Right now I am just a decent horse at most” — 😂😂😂 I’m stealing this phrase!!!!!!! Remember, TRP’s audience is guys— and for that specific post, it was guys who are starting to vet for potential LTRs. I think what the poster was saying is that STATISTICALLY, if you look at the entire dateable population, women with strong family relationships are more likely to exhibit family-oriented behaviors later in life. The key word here is ‘statistically’— looking at the aggregate— but it doesn’t mean tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 05:49 PM
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Cool! Thanks for posting this! I always wondered why I hardly ever see her referenced here (with the exception of one of her books in the sidebar, I believe). I’ve been on the lookout for something like this, but similar ‘courses’ are astronomically expensive and I can’t see what possible benefit you could be getting that would justify the price as compared to just reading their books (Laura Doyle has an online course that can cost up to $3000!!!)
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:18 PM
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You’re 21– How long were you together? I mean, I think you’re right in sensing that there is a line between ‘hypergamous instincts gone awry’ and ‘just good vetting’. You mention a lot of things that I would consider deal-breakers: lack of pursuit, lack of career prospects or ambition... Maybe I’m totally off-base, but your post doesn’t speak to me of ‘evil hypergamous instincts ripping a solid marriage asunder’— you just vetted correctly and recognized you maybe weren’t so attracted to this guy…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 01:46 AM
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No problem at all!!!!! It’s wonderful of you to be searching for answers for your mom!!!!! I hope it works out for both of you!!
/r/RedPillWives18/07/18 01:02 AM
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Based on what you’ve said here, I would advise her against the relationship. Sounds like he (whether intentionally or not) is engaging in confusing and low-effort behaviors. Whether he’s doing this out of some kind of TRP mentality, playing “regular” mind games, or just not that invested, it sounds like what she’s getting out of it just might not be worth her investment. But dating in her age group is hard. Of course, this is only from what you’ve written— and she may have a different perspectiv…
/r/RedPillWives17/07/18 11:48 PM
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You mean your ‘on and off’ ex that you’re considering filing a restraining order against but still having unprotected sex with? A woman who was psychologically healthy would not be posting nudes to cater to this guy. You’re willfully ignoring bigger and scarier issues that you need to fix within YOURSELF before you can seriously work on issues within a relationship. That’s why she mentioned your post history. It’s like somebody asking “best socks to keep feet dry?” and their post history shows t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 09:44 PM
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u/girlwithabike has given you nothing but solid RPW advice in your best interest and she has done so respectfully and clearly. This sub deals in PRAGMATIC advice to help you maximize your success in dating. That’s exactly what she gave you. If you’re not interested in receiving advice that aligns with the views of this sub— even if it’s hard to hear— then why post here?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 09:16 PM
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What was the book for #3?
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/18 04:45 PM
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Not necessary. What are you hoping to get out of this conversation? You provoke ‘captain’-y behaviors by embodying feminine ones, not by making him a specially labelled ‘Captain’ hat.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/18 06:14 PM
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This is awesome!!! Great job to both of you!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:40 PM
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This could potentially be an unpopular opinion, but at 17, I personally would advise you to focus on your academics and college and/or job training. Note that I am NOT advocating for endless degrees and a life in academia. As with everything, YMMV, but here is my rationale: You should be able to support yourself with a marketable skill if needed. Even if your goal is to be a SAHM, lack of visible means of support is a red flag when dating. The key word here is ‘marketable skill’. If it is import…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 11:06 PM
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Well, if I’m understanding correctly, OP isn’t saying she’s not going to voice any opinions when they’re solicited, just that she’s going to say ‘yes’ when presented with an idea... I might try it out for July too!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 05:22 PM
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Seconding the concept of ‘duty dating’. It sounds crazy now, but I think it really took an explicit explanation for me to internalize the idea that going on random dates with strangers that I didn’t immediately love was necessary in order to find a serious relationship. There was never gonna be a neon sign that said “MARRY THIS GUY”. Prior to thinking of it as ‘duty dating’, I would be sitting there before a date thinking “This guy (has a fish/is an accountant/lives 45 minutes away), which is OB…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 03:50 PM
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Cool! I was looking into that one, I’m glad you recommend it!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/18 12:36 AM
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Do you have any specific recommendations?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 10:54 PM
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Agreed!!! I’ve been re-reading it recently and no matter how many times you go through it there’s always new stuff to absorb!
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 09:51 PM
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Yeah, I kind of chuckle to myself when I see this because ot reminds me of how socially accepted it is to denigrate men, cast aspersions on their ability, etc. This ad is seen as funny and lighthearted, but I thnk if the genders were reversed (i.e. the commercial were about a woman’s homemaking, cooking, caretaking, etc.) it would be interpreted to be much more sinister.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 05:14 PM
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I really feel like this person is intentionally asking ‘edgy’ questions in the hopes that the RP subs will say something provocative. This is based on last night’s post re: the ‘beta’ boyfriend and now this unrelated post asking RPW/TRP to assign ‘point deductions’ to the disabled.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 04:46 PM
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Oo, I remember that exact post. This comment is dead-on. The purpose of RPW is not JUST to recognize these patterns of behavior, but also to do our due diligence in CURBING THEM when they are harmful to ourselves and others. Some people seem to just get caught up in the lingo and use it to excuse their poor behavior instead of strategizing as to how to improve it. If we take no action in good faith to improve our ACTUAL BEHAVIORS AND ACTIONS as a result of RP awareness, there is no use even ascr…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 01:50 AM
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Leave him so that he can find someone who appreciates him. He doesn’t deserve to be with someone who will speak so harshly of him to strangers on the internet, and you don’t appreciate or deserve the generous “””~beta~””” qualities that you speak so poorly of. Put yourself in his shoes. If you were him, would you want to stay with someone who secretly felt this way about you, resented you, and posted this about you? Additionally, even discounting all the above, you can’t negotiate attraction and…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 11:59 PM
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‘Best dad ever!’ is non-specific praise that gets printed on millions of coffee mugs and balloons every day. It strikes me as generic and meaningless... In teacher school, they teach us that generalized praise leads to distrust of your feedback... Even the rest of it seems disingenuous. “Great job watching the kids with your sick tum-tum!!! A+!!!” strikes me as patronizing and not something I’d send to my very capable boyfriend. Tbqh, that line would probably work better on me than on him. Maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 01:50 AM
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Sounds pretty disingenuous— like something I’d send to a coworker. Maybe that’s just because we’re not so ‘texty’/verbal, so it seems off-putting/meaningless? I would prefer to communicate with physical affection rather than texts...
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 01:33 AM
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My only addition would be that since I know he COULD deal with it himself, it’s not really a cry for assistance so much as maybe a ‘bid’ for recognition of his efforts... Hence the ‘appreciation’ bit... I know he CAN deal with it himself and doesn’t need my help, but why should he HAVE to if he’s feeling poorly and I can come home and give him a break?
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/18 01:15 AM
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The sub doesn’t exist to defend its existence/ it’s not a debate sub, so that may be why the mods took issue with the post. As for “what are women waking up to”: 1) The lie that ‘you can have it all! building a family can wait indefinitely!’ 2) The lie that ‘any man would be lucky to have you!’ even if you’re overweight, masculine, argumentative, skanky, etc. 3) The lie that casual sex is enpowering for women 4) The lie that your relationship should be perfect and require no effort to maintain; …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/05/18 09:09 PM
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I CAN’T STRESS THE IMPORTANCE OF PEEING AFTER SEX ENOUGH. This is one of those issues that is sometimes mentioned but takes a backseat to birth control, etc. They are NOT KIDDING.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 03:23 PM
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Are his decisions putting you in serious discomfort or distress? If not, I would strongly consider changing your perspective. If he is making decisions in your mutual best interests, consider prioritizing expressing your respect for him over ‘having your way’. Are you raising your concerns in a way that is respectful? (Are you bringing him your problem, not your solution?) Have you read up on The Surrendered Wife, Fascinating Womanhood, or the other recommended reading in the sidebar? These offe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 08:37 PM
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Amen!!!! This man’s response is incredibly, unnecessarily callous and adds NOTHING to the discussion!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 09:17 PM
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I would consider it virtually impossible to cajole somebody into changing their worldview to the extent that would be required for what you deacribe here. I think what pushes people to change is recognizing for themselves that they’re at rock bottom. Pressuring her into it, without her having recognized that there needs to be a change, is just going to make her see you as the bad guy. Unless she’s ready to change for herself, your advice is just going to stir up a lot of insecurity and bad feeli…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 02:27 AM
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I just used the LoseIt app to track calories and become more aware of normal portion sizes. I started at ~1700 and gradually increased my deficit until I was at 1200 daily. I also did keto for quite a while.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 04:41 PM
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Unrelated victories directly caused by RPW: I’ve lost 90 pounds, I went ring shopping two weeks ago, my boyfriend can’t stop talking about “when we have kids”, and also recently told me I’m “the only woman he has ever trusted enough” to have kids with. His mother was apparently overjoyed to hear we might have kids, sonce he told her previously he would never want any. Thanks RPW!!! 😂
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 08:55 PM
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Right, I should have clarified! I don’t think this particular study addresses that, but maybe take a look at this one? It would seem that cohabitation with just the one partner is not associated with much higher risk.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 02:42 PM
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Sorry! I did so in the comments; I hope that’s ok— I can resubmit the entire post if needed!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:10 PM
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Synopsis: The article provides evidence supporting RPW advice against cohabitation in addition to premarital sex. “According to researchers, the 23 percent of participants who only had sex with their spouse prior to getting hitched reported higher quality marriages versus those who had other past sexual partners as well. On top of that, researchers say that participants who lived with an S.O. -- who did not become their future spouse -- also reported unhappier marriages. Rhoades and Stanley hypo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 01:08 PM
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This would be a better question for r/asktrp than RPW. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 01:24 AM
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I learned a lot from this!!! Thanks for this insightful comment!!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 09:50 PM
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I’m here because RP provides a cohesive, and for the most part demonstrably realistic, view of personal value, male-female relationships, and natural female tendencies that the predominant culture does not otherwise provide. Finding RPW allowed me to: Acknowledge my “unfeminist” desires: In my BP days I struggled with feminine aspects of my personality. I strived to fit into a more competitive/domineering role in my work and personal relationships. I felt questioned, if not shamed by, my peers f…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 09:13 PM
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Thank you for the reply and also for your other excellent posts!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 10:58 PM
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Could you elaborate a little on your statement that “being a virgin is an unbelievable advantage for an LTR”? I guess I’m familiar with what I’ve read from the male perspective, i.e., why FINDING a woman with a low n-count is a good idea— and I understand why indiscriminately pursuing casual sex is disadvantageous for women. Is that mostly what you’re referring to, or is there more to it?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 09:45 PM
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I just think it’s something of a RP adage that women (and maybe people in general, with a few notable exceptions) are notoriously terrible at giving relationship/sexual strategy advice to the opposite sex. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 12:40 AM
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You should seek advice from the mens’ subs (e.g. r/asktrp) on this, not from RPW. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 12:18 AM
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Lose the weight!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 09:33 PM
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Yes please!!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 09:45 PM
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I feel like the conventional wisdom would be that you can't organically force that to develop; just listen nonjudgmentally to what he does offer up in conversation and eventually it will escalate. To me date 4 seems a little early to worry about pushing emotional intimacy. I would highly recommend reading The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle for more thorough advice on this exact topic. Super helpful book.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 01:49 AM
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ok
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 06:30 PM
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I did, actually. If you had bothered to read anything about RPW-- like, ANYTHING-- you would have known better than to write "where does this man pass or fail in the vetting process". So I guess you didn't do anyone here the same courtesy, of reading anything about the subject you want to take issue with.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 05:45 AM
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I have the urge to point out that based on this person's post history and the phrase "where does this man pass or fail in the vetting process" that this poster may just be looking to start a fight, not actually looking for a real discussion...
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 03:04 AM
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I love this post. ❤️❤️❤️
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 04:58 PM
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I believe it's r/rpchristians. Not many subscribers, but despite that it seems pretty active recently.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 10:12 PM
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Fair. I think this is what I needed someone else to point out to me. Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 05:59 AM
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Love this and will definitely be using it in future!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 09:01 PM
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How did I dismiss or insult the OP? I thought my comment was pretty objective. I would love to see more posts focusing on core RPW philosophy, but I don't see how this post helps. It's needlessly antagonistic and doesn't create a new avenue for the kind of 'real' RPW discussion the OP wants to see.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 03:54 PM
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You created a post to whine about having too many whiners. If you don't like the content then contribute an original post that could facilitate discussion you find meaningful
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 12:52 PM
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Any RPW-friendly romance novels or authors out there? I'm wondering if (certain facets of) Kresley Cole and JR Ward novels could exemplify RPW tenets...
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 09:04 PM
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"MyFitnessPal", the app.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 02:30 PM
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I'm not sure whether these will be specific to her situation, since I've never personally experienced what she is going through, but here are some RPW book recommendations. Even if many of them are written, like you say, as guides on how to ultimately be a good wife-- a lot of the topics covered are probably relevant to most women (e.g. psychological femininity). -Making Sense of Men by Alison Armstrong -The Empowered Wife (First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors), Things Will Get as Good as You…
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