TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

sywonsmumu Archive

View 3 posts and 152 comments by sywonsmumu on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

...Is there even enough women to be considered arm candy of a hotshot exec? To stay realistic, there are still a lot of family men and providers out there, so they’re not hard to find, but it’s more so of the ones that ladies find a true desire for, and that’s where I think the difference lies in advice. Anyway, I’m glad you’ve found what you wanted from your ways. It’s also good that your results helped your child and in turn your child brought your marriage to a stronger place. It would’ve bee…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 07:27 AM
1

I’m not applying it to all women, just women who take this advice and want more. They should ask themselves if they will be content in what these ladies have/do, and not only in what they say. As far as your results and partnerships, if you’re satisfied and content with that then that’s what really matters.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 06:31 AM
2

Like I said her advice is just for average results and women may take her advice and try to gain above average things from it. This advice is seen commonly and women do not seem to be truly content in it - it’s more of an excuse for the lack of discipline. There is also a focus on “inner beauty” as well but more often that is discovered with time and not with the initial attraction. It’d be helpful for the women reading this to ask themselves if they are fine with the results we see of this kind…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 06:14 AM
2

Ok, but then how do we quantify a HVM? If everyone around us is of poor character then our version of a HVM may be close to that, but we generally look at his overall character and drive because that is what women want. We cannot assume men have the same lifestyles and preferences, 'high value' or not. feel like my version of a HVM (and trust me, I’ve dated plenty) places more value on my health and happiness. Genuinely curious, has advice like OP's helped you land one?
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:42 AM
15

I feel like women take this advice and use it to justify a lack of discipline. Are the majority of women Excessive dieting, not being willing to indulge, and obsession with appearance No. If anything, women today are more focused on their inner workings/mental health because we can't see it and gauge the process as visibly as the physical. Plus we get validated for it as well. It's pretty obvious that men do not like excessively thin women, so why is it expressed so frequently? The fact of the m…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 02:31 AM
6

I think it would be good for you to ask yourself what it is that you seem to need from your ex over the years. Your ex seems to not want anything serious with you given the time span of 9 years; and if we cannot get over someone in 9 years (not periodically miss/pop into our thoughts) and stop ourselves from thinking/dreaming about them daily, then they may have something that we are not finding in ourselves/lives that we crave. I would suggest to find out what that is, as it comes across as you…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/20 03:52 AM
7

...Yes this sub is a reaction to how big the manosphere has gotten and how women want to stop believing/living a lie portrayed by feminism; and embrace the truth of where they stand to improve themselves. I don’t want to nor never have wanted to be a man. I don’t want the things of a man either lol. With that being said, women are hypergamous and men are polyamorous. Not inherently bad things, or limiting - it’s in how you use it and express them. And I too enjoy a ridiculous story. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 04:56 AM
46

Men will pass us up for various reasons that we cannot change, and that is fine. They are entitled to their preferences as much as we are; even if it does hurt our feelings. With that, we should ask ourselves what is the best option for us in where we stand so we won't set ourselves up to get hurt. We still want to be realistic in our options so that we are able to find what we need, but that does not seem to be dating/looking right now. I think nun mode is the best option for you now as you are…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 11:40 PM
4

Your feelings are valid! Your values and virginity are worth something so feeling negatively on giving it away is okay. Virginity is a gift not only to your spouse, but to yourself. No baggage past sexual experiences, less regrets. I’m in the same boat as you, and I think it’s a wonderful gift; but more importantly it’s for God. To follow a path and to not be entrapped by the things of the world. I pass up men too, but they’re not worth it if they’re not equally yoked to you. Whenever you feel l…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:08 PM
10

I don't know but it seems like pretty low and embarrassing point for your friend to be called a bitch by her husband, in front of her kid, and you. I don't think it's really time to shine and have a high-value response to a low comment like that. We don't know what was said before, but the response does seem pretty harsh. It's their marriage though. It can change.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 03:50 AM
12

From reading, I’m guessing women don’t technically get “looser”, we just get wider due to loss of muscle tone, tissue, and elasticity. In the partners perspective we are loose/looser because the opposite of loose is tight. There’s not the same amount of “tightness” for him. Saying being loose is a myth is for our feelings, I believe it’s now we just get wide lol. Kegels and seeing a pelvic floor specialist may help stay tight or improve it, but we don’t snap back to 10/10 tightness.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 02:19 AM
2

Rejecting someone of their past can hurt people’s feelings. That’s why I think people try to equate their consequences. Either way if you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone you probably want it to be more pleasant. Look for more good than bad. How should Christian women deal with guy's that have traveled overseas to pay for sex and then repented of it? God has already dealt with it. For me, it’s only what can I overlook or what do I consider to be a red flag for a stable marria…
/r/askRPC31/05/20 04:26 PM
2

How exciting :)
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 11:56 PM
1

Haha so true. This or the older ladies who really appreciate your hair. Plus, there's so many tutorials out there now and trimming the ends are pretty easy. Even it I accidentally cut more I won't come out with a new do!
/r/RPChristians19/05/20 08:17 PM
2

Your hair obsessed friend was definitely jealous. It makes me think of my doubts towards hair salons. They are so eager to chop off your hair! They want you to look like them lol. A trim turns into 4 inches off my hair and a new 'sophisticated' look, no thanks.
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 06:55 PM
1

Women are used to constant abuse so we should eachother from it and even help them get ahead. Could you elaborate? I want some of these friendships my life lol I think we can be competitive out of our insecurities or just human nature. As for helping each other out to get a guy, it could be due to a power thing. Seeing your girlfriend get a guy because of you is the next best thing to some if you can’t have him, it would be kind of like living through her. Or she could be genuinely hooking a gir…
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 05:21 AM
2

Seeing moments as a competition to a one up your man or to regain attention.
/r/RPChristians17/05/20 05:07 AM
2

Yes, the world is sad but it serves as an opportunity for you and your mission. Feeling alienated from the world isn’t bad. We’re in the world but not of it. Just try to have your moments and social interactions for what they are while continuing on your mission. I’m 21 and I feel out of touch with whatever dance/social/music trend is going on, but it’s good. Being in touch with it doesn’t bring any value or new insight, to me at least.
/r/askRPC16/05/20 10:23 PM
23

For the men in my life, for them I would look for a woman who’s dedicated to a healthy lifestyle, can cook/clean, kind, small digital footprint, healthy outlook on sex, submissive, not a big spender, and believes in the biblical roles of marriage. The cons I’d watch out for is flakiness, attention seeking behavior, competitiveness. If a job loss or stuff like that happens, you don’t want her to jump ship. Also competing with a woman is tiring, especially in public. Women in my life told me to co…
/r/RPChristians16/05/20 04:10 PM
2

Okay so this is more for your image in regards to your dad’s opinion and culture. Well, I don’t think this is a good idea since you’re doing this for others and not for your own beliefs. It’s a lot that’s being asked and especially since it’s for other people, but who knows he might be okay with it since he has a low sex drive and knows you weren’t really in on it as much.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 02:45 AM
1

Is your fiancé religious too? I think it’s pretty hard to backtrack on sex unless both of you do so religious reasons. I think most guys would walk especially since you’re back tracking right before marriage. To him it can seem like you’ve gotten the ring and now you’re taking all that you’ve given away since you’ve gotten it. He might not see the conviction. If you’re really convicted about it and worried about your dad’s approval then I would be prepared to move on. You are asking for a lot bu…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/20 02:37 AM
5

I hope she finds repentance and fear during this time. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless.
/r/RPChristians09/05/20 07:22 AM
21

I say just continue to be a friend and a good listener but don’t limit yourself at the same time, unless you guys get into a relationship before he leaves. It would be ideal to meet before he gets deployed but here we are. He’ll be back in six months so you know where you two will stand.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 01:53 AM
2

It’s not supposed to. I understand being lonely and then the ladies at work don’t make it any better, but what else can you do? From your post the ladies seem rude and catty but it’s up to what you want. You could try to speak to them if you want to know why they behave the way to do. Maybe they’ll tell. You know them, but I think focusing on your work and yourself can help with confidence so you can move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 08:30 AM
9

I dealt with the same thing at my job. I still said good morning and the regular small talk stuff, even if they were short or had no response. I did it to cover my tracks so that no one could say anything about me. I can only say ignore them. They’re catty and it could be for a number of reasons. Jealousy of if you have a positive attitude, better worker, something going on in their life, covid, who knows. If they’re not over you or effecting your work then I would say ignore them. They’re not y…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 08:17 AM
1

You can live your life as a man of God through your actions as a great teacher and continuing to focus on your kids. One of the men over us always talks to us with his door completely open, and there’s a camera in the room. Women try to flirt with him and he’ll change the subject. He’s married too. During meetings he sits away from most of us. Everyone thinks he’s funny and great but all he does is crack a joke and avoid us like the plague. Really he’s just a good director and ignores what’s thr…
/r/RPChristians04/05/20 10:18 PM
2

Right. I think we’re saying the same thing?
/r/RPChristians04/05/20 03:45 PM
7

Completely valid. If Roosh did have visions or even if it was just a bad trip, it doesn’t matter. It was still used as a spiritual experience because he did find God. Finding God out of fear or hallucinations doesn’t make it invalid. Just as being innovative or having realizations on drugs doesn’t make the thoughts or creations invalid. Now I’m not recommending it just because of what the drugs can do to the body. Also we’re called sober, but God can use any chance to reach people, even if that …
/r/RPChristians04/05/20 06:37 AM
2

Most of which women are oblivious to and just don't care to even understand as is evident in this very thread I was kind of surprised to see that in this sub. Truth still hurts I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 03:04 AM
3

Yes. I used to read it more often until I found RPW. I found it interesting, eye-opening, and helpful in terms of understanding relationship dynamics and the dating scene, what not to do, etc. I do think the bitterness that some of us can sense is them just being fed up. Regardless I do think a lot of it is accurate.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 02:41 AM
2

You could encourage him through your actions and behavior. You can pray and find your quiet time and he can see what it does for you, and do the same. I'm not saying lead him but you do have to grow and be changed in Christ regardless of him, so therefore your growth and renewal in Christ could be inspiring for him to pursue the same even more than now. Let him know what you're reading, and maybe suggest what to read next. Let him know how you feel about praying and reading the word together and…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 07:56 PM
2

Of course you can be forgiven for your past and have a healthy marriage. Statistics are for us to understand the negative effects of promiscuity, but they can still be worked through. There are couples out there who have long lasting marriages and done such before, because they put in the work to be changed. Still, you can be forgiven and let your old ways die and become new again. Generally I wouldn't recommend living together before marriage because there's a lot of temptation regarding sex. Y…
/r/RPChristians30/04/20 06:52 PM
5

I really like the idea. I too can only go so far in redpillwomen. A lot of the advice can get watered down to just compromising. A space where women can give insight, good advice, and share the topics listed would be great.
/r/RPChristians25/04/20 05:47 PM
2

Running is the absolute best. You get me! Soon we’ll be able to get that runners high again :)
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 06:02 AM
1

Hey well it’s so good that you’re owning up to it and even wanting to change your ways. Not making excuses is already a good accomplishment. no outside to run I feel you. Running helped me lose weight and it’s a good stress reliever for me. Others probably know more about toning and building muscle but running really help me shed the weight early on. wasting away the desire to serve a man that God gave me and the beauty + traits I have developed with His help. First feminism and now a quarantine…
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 05:02 AM
1

Cheers to that!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 06:28 PM
2

I was compelled to do the opposite because I didn’t want to be miserable. I value my happiness over being normal so it was easy for me. Also, I was raised very traditionally so rejecting the norm wasn’t hard. Good luck on your process! Look for actions and proof, not words. Lots of girls say they’re happy with their lifestyles but they’ll sprinkle in a little truth here and there. Also looking at the health and dangers of certain lifestyles solidifies a lot of reasons to develop yourself and not…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 12:57 AM
3

All women my age were career focused and were highly stressed, out of shape, and impulsive with their decisions. They also bragged about their sexual escapades and laughed when they did stuff that they were ashamed of. They said it was “normal”. I honestly didn’t like what I saw and questioned it to why it was the default on such a large scale. Found answers and continued to live in an opposite, happier way.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 12:21 AM
4

started questioning why women around me were miserable...then doing the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 09:14 PM
-1

After awhile you kinda have to assume they like it in some way or just don’t consider it to that bad in order to change their ways. They can protest all they want but if you have multiple kids your actions say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 12:24 AM
-4

To be clear, I don't think any women dream of becoming single mothers raising sometimes multiple kids on their own We don't. A lot of women now dream of raising multiple kids with the help of the state and the validation from social media. Even if it was an accident, it's not widely frowned upon or considered bad. If anything it's maybe unlucky. Regardless it's something to do for them, so protection could be an afterthought.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 12:18 AM
4

I couldn't agree more with this. Hearing women have no clue what to do with their families during quarantine is telling. No more placeholders to fill in the time in with their child for awhile and it's so hard for them. We believed to be independent when we just depended on different sources to take most of our load.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 12:41 AM
1

Yep. It’s easier to sell a women on validation than it is for a man. The fall spreads like wildfire because a woman can get a flood of validation over night. No validation comes from anything of value though, it’s just a lot. The serpent did go through the woman. It is so important to stay diligent and remember that to not become another victim.
/r/RPChristians04/04/20 04:52 PM
1

I see that obsessing over details, proving your love for the child thing. There’s a age gap between teachers, they’re either 50s or in their 20s/30s and the older ones always let their kids play freely outside, solve their own issues, and express themselves. They really don't sweat the small stuff. Colleagues my age get way too involved in elementary age drama and minor complaints. We over complicate activities and lessons. I think it is that feminist agenda of trying to prove yourself. • Women …
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 05:28 PM
2

I work with small children. These small children are in trouble lol. I see a lot of solipsistic mothers but I don’t think it’s just our nature. I think it’s selfishness, accepted behavior. It hurts their children and if the bare minimum is taken care of, they don’t care or don’t start to until it’s too late.
/r/RPChristians02/04/20 04:07 AM
1

I get it. I’ll just say I think there can be some outliers, probably very few, as if God may have His will for them to be single, or if they can’t have kids or something. I agree on our completeness definitely being more than a shadow of heavenly things though.
/r/RPChristians02/04/20 03:59 AM
2

A lot. I just don’t agree that it’s a natural trait for women to have.
/r/RPChristians02/04/20 03:35 AM
1

I agree with everything that's being said here but She is as incomplete as a person as Adam was without God. I'm not sure if a woman has to be married to be complete as a person. I think a woman can be complete as a person in Christ, married or not. Although I don't think or recommend it to be common a path for us, I think its possible. I say this just based partially on the dating scene and hookup culture and how difficult it is. If it can take a long time to find someone then we might grow mor…
/r/RPChristians02/04/20 01:05 AM
2

If man is in God's place toward the woman (husband/wife), as God is to us (Christ/church), then it makes sense that the man would bear the image of God, while the woman responds as we do toward Christ. I see where you’re getting at but if Christ and God are one wouldn’t we still be in the image of God? Or is, what I’m understanding, that women have to be married to do so?
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 08:04 PM
1

I still don’t understand how solipsism is a natural or good trait for women to have. We practice self-preservation which can tie into hypergamy but believing that nothing else exists beyond myself sounds like a disorder or some accepted behavior. I’m not suggesting perfect equality. I don’t believe that between the sexes and I don’t think men and women are equal. I was suggesting that women were created along with men in Gods image in response to your quotation of Saint Augustine.
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 07:29 PM
2

We keep harping on the fallen nature of women to be some sort of innate point of what we're designed to truly be. We're easier to brainwash, especially if we don't truly follow Christ or have some strong moral background. We see the effects of that today. Women aren't designed to be solipsistic or flexible in loyalty. That's our sinful nature and that's what is praised today. Why would God design a helper to be focused on herself and flexible in loyalty? Also mankind was created in God's image. …
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 06:00 PM
4

13 “When I shut up the heavens so that there is no rain, or command locusts to devour the land or send a plague among my people, 14 if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land. 15 Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place.” 2 Chronicles 7:13-15 New International Version (NIV) Locusts plague in …
/r/RPChristians18/03/20 05:13 AM
4

I don’t have much to say except that I feel for this situation. I just think that you shouldn’t get caught up in the thought that some other woman will have undying love for him. Don’t divorce him for that. No woman on the earth is going to get turned on from smelly breath but a wife can love and push him to improve his ways. We should strive for unconditional love and to be like Christ, but at times we do fall short. I think you should have a conversation with him and continue to drop more hint…
/r/RPChristians17/03/20 04:22 AM
5

I think she’s alright. She’s another beauty blogger imo. Giving tips on hairstyles and what not. She never really does into depth about her faith and when she does its kind of disappointing. There’s not too many feminine Christian bloggers out there either.
/r/askRPC12/03/20 04:00 AM
3

What helped me is learning that we will all be held accountable for our own actions one day no matter what. If women want true “independence” and freedom then they need to realize that yes they are weaker but are still held to the same standard as God’s children, despite what people tell us. A slap in the face to me would be sitting there on judgement day, pointing my fingers everywhere else and not realizing it’s all my own fault. That’s the trick of the enemy. It may be harder to reflect and s…
/r/askRPC09/03/20 06:29 PM
1

Where does it say that a Proverbs 31 wife is such because leadership of her husband?
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 06:08 AM
1

Either go and try something or tell her no. If you’re distracted put some headphones and focus.
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 12:44 AM
11

I think Christian women should pursue marriage because it can help a lot with our fulfillment. Who doesn’t want to be a part of something bigger than themselves. So ideally, helping your spouse, raising godly children, and glorifying God through all that help would be very fulfilling, humbling, and rewarding. Not having that fulfillment may be difficult for some I imagine because you would have to get creative with finding your fulfillment, and I personally don’t see that working.
/r/RPChristians24/02/20 05:28 AM
8

I’m a debt-free virgin without tattoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 07:36 PM
2

Go ahead. There’s a lot of resources and programs out there to help with homeschooling too. You can sign your kids up in activities and school clubs for socializing. Plus teaching is more of facilitating now, a more sink or swim standpoint. Close friends of mine were homeschooled and they graduated from good colleges, have their own lives now.
/r/RPChristians01/02/20 11:31 PM
3

Interracial marriages come with what it is, but there’s no supporting scripture that deters us from interracial marriages. If you’re just not attracted to a race than that’s fine. As for children, they’re going to have some issue in their childhood that makes them different. Your kids are already going to be set apart if they’re followers of Christ. Marry the race you’re attracted to but pinning it on some identity, easier childhood, or culture thing sounds like a cover up for just wanting to on…
/r/askRPC15/01/20 03:10 AM
2

Hair down to my waist. Be careful of not touching your hair for too long as once you began to touch it, your hair probably won’t be used to it. Take care of it, moisturize, wash, condition, deep condition as often as needed and during whatever phase that your hair is in. Don’t be afraid of heat if your style calls for it. Use a heat protectant. I use heat almost every week.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:30 AM
10

I say don't go braless because you don't want attention/objectification/looks headed your way, and I'm pretty sure it would be safer for them for you to wear a bra as well - since you're feeling this way.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 11:40 PM
4

Spot on. In general, we live in a culture where all of the responsibility in a marriage is heaped on the husband whereas the wife is a perpetual victim of her husband "never doing enough" (to make her happy). I see that a wive's sinful actions are all of the husband's fault too, even though we are accountable of our own sins. In the end, God will judge us all individually and I think it should be stressed that wives should find the importance in their role in covenant between the husband, her, a…
/r/RPChristians29/10/19 11:46 PM
1

No I really don’t think he had insecurities. I may be wrong but I don’t think he had any. I say that because Christ is Christ out of Gods grace and mercy. What did he have to be afraid of? He didn’t and doesn’t need us. He was human but he is also God’s son which I think trumps over being and feeling human, hence why he could preform miracles, rise from the dead, and form in a virgin’s womb. You could go on. You saying him being human sounds convenient to ops situation. It kind of sounds like “W…
/r/RPChristians23/10/19 11:07 PM
1

Not how it goes. Lol I’m not about to be held responsible for a teeny spouse.
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 10:57 PM
1

That sounds more suitable for a child.
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 02:24 AM
2

Sure. We don’t know everything he does but he does convey to the church how we should function as a body. I think a plus to having a godly wife is to be able to confide in her. “The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.” Proverbs 31:11.
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 01:56 AM
1

When I think about confiding I think about a person telling someone something private or sharing a vulnerable aspect of them, and not having it be shared. Furthermore, I think the receiving end should help that person or feel honored/flattered in some way in that someone confided in them for whatever reason. With that being said I do think people should be careful who they confide in. Personally I feel honored and blessed when someone confides in me because I hope they see Christ’s light through…
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 12:55 AM
2

This is a clear answer. This would be interesting to see play out. On another note, Christ didn’t have insecurities.
/r/RPChristians18/10/19 12:21 AM
1

Interesting. You have to have strong male friends to confide in. Will you work towards confiding in her? And how does not confiding in her help her to Christ?
/r/RPChristians17/10/19 08:54 PM
3

No I mean for you and your fiancé.
/r/RPChristians17/10/19 02:06 AM
5

The first four points are true. But I would never show it on purpose/in my right mind How does this work long term?
/r/RPChristians17/10/19 01:33 AM
1

No one expects a man's career to tank because he has a family, do they? No. I agree with you, that would be fighting nature. There's still some traditional expectations out there. Of course that didn't happen, for the most part. I'm not sure if younger women are still trying to pound this particular square peg into a round hole. We are :( (like guaranteed paid maternity leave) Going on a tangent but I wonder if this should even be a thing. Is it an employers responsibility? Anyway I'd love to he…
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 02:48 AM
1

Yeah women don't really want to quit working but that still coincides with the lack of importance of the household. The ones who throw in the towel and quit seem torn between resentment and feeling like they should be grateful because they can stay home even if they don't really want to. I wonder if this resentment comes from a seemingly lack a power. I agree women generally don't know how hard it may be to juggle a career and family, or if it is even doable for most of them. A women's career mi…
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 04:00 AM
2

I'd like to add that I see the same thing with women who can't get their households together in my field. The whole crashing and burning thing. I just have a different reasoning. I think there's a lack of importance on their part regardless of the protest that it is so important to them. Actions speak louder than words. If they quit working and are still bored to tears with their house and children, then that's a fundemental issue. A wise wife is suppose to build the house, but if she cannot han…
/r/RPChristians15/09/19 11:59 PM
1

I don't the without attraction part. Anyway, it's then obvious that the sex she gives will be duty sex since the attraction isn't there. I was saying that an understanding wife that can only give duty sex was a bit off. But now we're talking about attraction which if it isn't there then yes it would be duty sex.
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 07:37 PM
1

Duty sex comes in different forms. I see that. Now saying that only an understanding wife can give duty sex is a bit off. What's given just varies case by case. I guess the argument comes down to frequency, denial, and different types of sex that is wanted. As for OP's case, I agree that understanding is not the best for him and his wife right now. Understanding may come later.
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 01:55 AM
1

As others have alluded to already, even if she did fully understand you, this only leads to an intellectual adherence. Is this bad? To fully understand the roles of a marriage and her husband? Anything sexual would only come down to a preference and that may be fixed even with understanding.
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 01:29 AM
4

This was good insight. I choose the second option for myself. I looked at it as if I'm getting an education either way. I learned how to just hold my tongue and turn in my work, and maybe write a review later. Also online classes helped me out a ton. Wrote a bunch of essays and turned in work without seeing them. Easy grade when they don't see you and start to judge you.
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 07:30 PM
4

Follow the norm and get expected prizes. cool if you're into that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 11:39 PM
2

But his disciples had to follow him and trust in his future glory before they actually saw that glory as we do now. Oh I see. This also sounds like a parallel to a Christian marriage.
/r/askRPC29/08/19 04:18 AM
2

I understand your point. This was really sound advice especially with the fasting point. I won't fall for the trap of waiting to get married. The guy I fell for was often homeless; constantly harassed by the authorities; his feet were dirty; he stunk often; he said things that extremely offended the type of people I would have wanted to impress; people hated him so much they tortured and murdered him. But he was a good man and a godly leader. I couldn't have asked for better. Was this an excerpt…
/r/askRPC29/08/19 03:44 AM
2

I'm still in college. My issue is just the waiting period until I graduate. That's what I meant by the holding tank. I just don't want to wait around but it looks like I may. As for the guys my age, you said it, they're immature around me. For the time I may just continue to work on myself and how I present myself. during this period, it can be good to fast from things like love songs or romantic movies. I can see why. Use nun mode to glorify God rather than to look for a specific outcome. This …
/r/askRPC29/08/19 02:25 AM
2

Like no joke, I didn't even read the rest of your post because until you figure out how to not be a stick figure, you are asking Lol I've been slim all my life and was hoping to not hear this answer. Reading that lifting will help aging definitely makes me consider it more. This isn't the first time I've heard I needed to lift. Like, the fact that you know what reddit is and even found a place called askRPC indicates that you aren't drowning in guys wanting to lay pipe on you (in the marriage be…
/r/askRPC29/08/19 02:07 AM
1

This doesn't seem like a real issue. More like a tantrum/spat. Yes you could've left early to avoid all of this but then you're just living up to her expectations of everything going perfectly. That's not life. I think your wife's tantrum is a build up of something else as she even expressed. It's disrespectful to have that kind of reaction in the first place but the only reason I can think of to why she reacted that way is because there is something else that added to the situation. There shoul…
/r/askRPC28/08/19 02:12 AM
6

Fear of losing followers. Churches would rather have a lot of members than to hold them accountable. That's why there's a lot of feel-good messages and repulsive behavior from members. Also half of these churches just hide behind the name Christianity imo. A lot of these mega churches look like cults or teach far off from the word.
/r/RPChristians25/08/19 02:28 AM
3

Yeah you attract what you put out there and most people do wander around in life. Not too shocking...
/r/RPChristians12/08/19 06:50 PM
2

If you really want him, I'd say ask him one last time to do something and express your interest in him. Not "wanna meet up" but "can we meet up at x I feel like/I want to/we should x" & keep it short.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 06:38 PM
3

To me it sounds like he put in a lot of effort and expected something more out of it. All those planned dates over months showed interest imo. It sounds like he got tired. Did you want a relationship out of it?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 06:27 PM
2

I understand. Before though, have you ever done anything or put in any effort for him?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 06:18 PM
2

How do you show your efforts towards him? If you're not putting in effort plus no sex for months, then it could come across as disinterest in your relationship. Maybe try to do or plan something for you two.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 06:10 PM
2

Sewing! It's fun, useful, and you also feel productive. Everyone I met that sews so far happens to be over 40 though lol and I'm 20. Doesn't bother me but that may be something for you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 01:20 AM
14

I'd think it'd be smart to get your certification now and then be a sahw/m so then you'd have something to fall back on if he couldn't work or something. If you wanna stay at home, go ahead and do it. A certification may just be extra sercurity for both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 04:09 PM
2

I think wives are 'gifts' in the sense that they'll help their husband grow in some way rather that journey may be good or bad. A Proverbs 31:10-31 wife would probably be seen more as gift though because of the obvious blessings from finding a woman like that.
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 11:58 PM
1

Interesting. Where do vices come from? Why would a person want to live a virtuous life based upon what you're telling me? What is there to gain now and later, if this is believed to be the end all be all? I do agree though it seems unrewarding or unappealing for people to life out this kind of lifestyle, especially if the gain is an emotion or a sense of self righteousness.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 04:39 AM
1

I appreciate the honesty. I was moreso seeing if you thought these numbers had any effect on anyone now. I couldn't quite tell before. You were talking to someone about seeking virtue. What would cause a rpw (or any woman) to want to seek virtue in this time period? Besides the obvious material gains...then that wouldn't be a true virtuous quality.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 03:25 AM
1

What do these numbers mean to you, if anything?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 02:39 AM
4

She could not discern for herself right from wrong. Right, but God did command them not to eat from the tree of knowledge. She could've fell back on his word or think about not eating from the tree because of what God said. Since she ate from the tree, I believe she had free will, therefore she could've listened to God. Anyway, could've would've should've - God did tell them not to eat from the tree. That is, she made an emotional impulse decision. The serpent likely knew this about how God crea…
/r/RPChristians08/07/19 10:34 PM
1

I don't know if it does. There's a number of reasons that cause that type of behavior and that make it so acceptable, but we are called to have self-control. I'll just pull from my own thoughts and say that such behavior is from the flesh and the spirit. One may lead us to know what should be done and what's acceptable, and the other does the opposite. Outside influences are a factor, but the flesh and the spirit are at war.
/r/RPChristians02/07/19 04:59 AM
3

I wear ribbons to tie my hair back and the usual hair clips for a half up half down look or an updo. I think it can tie a look together.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 07:50 PM
1

That line in Genesis is so true. Yes, we can be so blinded by that curse plus having our hearts and feelings deceive us. It's time to truly let go and follow God's word or I think something similar to Japan would happen to finally understand. Who knows, I personally see more women (in their late 20s/early 30s), trying to change their life around. Sometimes skeptical of the reasoning but anyone can be led to Christ.
/r/RPChristians27/06/19 03:08 AM
1

how smart is it to exploit instinct to create such vile behaviors. the providing government, abortions, ect. unsure of how long it will last though considering the amount of unfulfilled women there will be. it will go to show that God's word does not come back void.
/r/RPChristians26/06/19 06:02 AM
3

lol yes virgins can know about sex and at least have an idea of what they'll like. They can communicate this. They'll be able to explore with their partner which will probably build bond. There's a reason why virgins have a more stable marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 06:15 PM
6

No, I'm sure that people are able to know themselves and at least have an idea of just how much they want it. Doing all this experimenting doesn't align with the positive discovery period you expressed. A higher n count shows a higher chance of divorce. It's better to fully understand and to have an idea of what's to like and to experiment, than experiment with a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 06:16 AM
7

No. You can prepare to have your first drink and drink water throughout the night to avoid a hangover, but dive in head first and expect a hangover repeatedly. I'm saying sex should be talked about thoroughly and not just a sit down 'lets talk about sex' talk, but with conversations, flirting, etc. People will know and have a pretty good idea if the sexual compatibility is there.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 11:26 PM
7

That's why it's important to communicate what's expected, what they'll provide, or what they are interested in before getting married.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 11:18 PM
1

and the issue is that no matter how good she might be the result is the same with her being the actual power of the household that merely delegates power to her husband and can easily unleash the state upon him anytime she feels like it not unlike a queen can to her subjects. If she's the actual power of the household then she is not different from any other standard girl, and is in fact sinning. You're then talking about a marriage not in the spirit, or a worldly marriage. In the back of her mi…
/r/RPChristians03/06/19 06:43 PM
1

And idols were in these "churches".
/r/RPChristians30/05/19 12:32 AM
1

What this means is that rather than seeking a marriage certificate honored by the state, a couple seeking to be married make vows witnessed by their congregation, elders, and God. They are then held accountable to these vows by the same community. Breaking these vows in groundless divorce results in the application of the stiffed possible sanctions by the church community and total excommunication Would a couple then have to stay in the same community or be a part of it forever? What if they dec…
/r/RPChristians30/05/19 12:19 AM
2

I think He does this for some humbling reasons. If women want children in this manner then it is best that they humble themselves and understand the roles of marriage. The same goes for men. I think He does this to not give one sex more clear advantages over the other. The two sexes in general offer the things that the other one wants, but if women could have unlimited egg then she would not marry or submit. There would be too much power. The same goes for man; no real inclination to be with a w…
/r/RPChristians22/05/19 02:25 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it not to be a big deal, or it could be a deal breaker. It's up to them. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men an…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:50 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:47 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:42 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:41 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:40 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:32 AM
1

This is the same difference in that if it were a woman revealing she slept with x amount of men, a dog, or other women to her bf. I'm sure with a similar revelation to any SO, regardless of sex, would consider the past and the possible consequences of it. They may consider it to not be a big deal, of it could be a deal breaker. The way a high n-count in women shows correlation with divorce and cheating, or the way an absent father figure may cause issues, is considered by men and rightfully so. …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:31 AM
1

Agreed. Some tips seem kinda surface level to me, but hey, they seem to help women out there. It could be a start.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 05:28 PM
18

Don't take it too seriously in highschool. Do fun and light-hearted things with them so you won't be jaded, if it lasts then great, if not then that's great too. Go to the movies, park, mall, or whatever with them and just date. You'll can get jaded or hurt at any age if you invest too much. If you invest too much while being too young, then it may hurt more. As for becoming more feminine I would say invest time in yourself in terms of health (physical and mental) and beauty. Do things that inte…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 06:41 PM
2

Sad. I think they believe that they are actually doing good and bettering themselves when its just a different look of extracting. Nothing of substance, just, "I like cooking now" lol Real benefits come from truly cleansing the heart and turning to Christ. Far more fulfilling than any mask. first we need to create many red pill men Maybe rpc men...witness, disciple. Some commenters say the downfall was also contributed by those who wanted to protect the individual lifestyle, or valued it over th…
/r/RPChristians02/05/19 01:45 PM
2

Cause women proved incapable and unwilling to contain their jezebelness and hypergamy themselves, as the age of total permissiveness proved. Majority of women do not want to contain their jezebelness. If you're talking about women as a whole, then yes. Though, there are true female followers of Christ out there, regardless of the overwhelming majority, just very few and far in between. I'd just like to add, there's something about the women who now masks themselves as a women who 'learned from t…
/r/RPChristians02/05/19 02:12 AM
3

Did they tell you this? Convey any feelings to you about their drop out?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 01:48 PM
7

I think you're confusing intelligent with energetic. People grow up and mature, they don't feel the need to speak about any or everything at any given time. This doesn't mean they're unintelligent. Why don't more women that stay at home get into things like stock trading and ecommerce since they have so much time on their hands to learn? Sahms don't have so much time on their hands unless they are not doing their job. Being a sahm is another job that takes up your time, sometimes you won't have …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 01:35 PM
-2

Yeah and he will definitely keep going with her friendly responses/gestures. They're adults. I've watched my cat do it with squirrels and rabbits plenty of times. lol Good luck u/carry2388, take their advice and accuse the absolute shit out of him so you won't risk being social shamed. Meanwhile, accuse anyone else you see fitting a stereotype to keep our streets safe!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 12:02 AM
0

A woman has the shaming coming her way if she accuses someone of sexual assault because he fits her steroetype. I don't believe that the majority of women will not speak up in an actual sexual threat in this type of situation because of some social shame. If she blows any whistle or alludes to any sexual assault from him, I can almost guarantee that the majority of people that would know would take her side. Look at all the movements going on now, she wouldn't be shamed from a majority. You even…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 11:45 PM
-6

If she was genuinely afraid of being raped or killed she wouldn't be so friendly to his advances for this long. Her mistaken stereotype isn't superior to him being screwed over. Edit: spelling
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:24 PM
-5

Yeah, go ahead an report him if he fits a stereotype based upon her standards, don't try to first talk to him or anything. Lol this guy is screwed.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:11 PM
2

The friendliness behavior toward him is not be a clear sign of disinterest. Try to handle it yourself first, if it presists or gets worse, then go to management. Simply tell him you're not interested. Also, have you ever told him to stop before in any manner? This should be your first step.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 07:06 PM
9

It mostly comes down to keeping yourself by taking care of you, your child, and raising him. If you are absolutely bored in the house, being a sahm, then there may not be enough being done. If that's your standard, then by all means find work that makes you feel fulfilled. There are hardships of being a sahm. Regardless, sahms should busy themselves in their child, husband, and household. That is the job anyway... There's no fault if one can't handle or isn't cut out for it. The job may be harde…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 06:07 AM
2

Good stuff, brother. Sister, did you just assume my gender? Just kidding, but yes sister. But the relationship we have with Jesus is never the emphasis of Scripture I didn't know this. When I say relationship I mean obedience, servetitude to Jesus Christ. I do not mean "Jesus makes me feel happy! Happy all the time", I may have lost that in translation. "Yes, Jesus has things he wants you to do, but you must have a loving relationship with him first." In reality, Jesus says, "The one who has my …
/r/RPChristians05/04/19 12:02 AM
2

Long story short, the modern church has bought into the materialism of first world countries by assuming we must be fancy and impressive in order to accomplish God's work. In reality, this merely placates people and forces the great commission from "GO make disciples of all nations" to "Hope all the nations come to you to be made into disciples." In other words, money is the biggest idol of the church. This reminds me of the scripture acts 12;24, anyway, God can use anything of any standard, yet…
/r/RPChristians04/04/19 06:53 PM
2

Interesting, the church is committing idolatry while Jesus' presence is not there. This may be for a slew of reasons as the same for the wife. What kind of idols are being worshipped by the church? Are you referring to the presence of the female imperative in the church?
/r/RPChristians04/04/19 03:38 PM
2

If its important to you it should be important to her. Make your decision based upon what your boundaries and deal breakers are, don't go back and forth or bring it up once or if you two are married.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 04:37 PM
2

Right but I was questioning the sense of fulfillment of the role with or without marriage, the background.
/r/RPChristians02/04/19 03:59 PM
2

Note that for men this is different. Christ does not need us. He has no compulsion toward us. That is why man was not made for woman - men were not destined to seek marriage the same way women are. This is true because Christ doesn't need the church. He innately wants the church and desires to work through the church whenever possible, but he doesn't need us, just as men are not destined to have an innate need for marriage - only a general desire. All of that said, we are still biologically a pr…
/r/RPChristians01/04/19 06:14 PM
4

I see The fulfillment that comes that aspect may help her (or husband) grow closer to Jesus.
/r/RPChristians30/03/19 09:17 PM
8

I know it is better to marry than burn, but can a woman reach her full potential of being a helpmate if she is not married? ​
/r/RPChristians30/03/19 05:48 AM
2

For clothes, I would go for essentials and simple pieces right now. Essential clothing pieces can look really flattering if they fit your body type well. Also, if you feel less than great about your body right now, you can just throw on a nice white (or any color) cotton tee, simple necklace, and earrings. Pairing it with a dark denim skirt or denim (high waited possibly) jeans may really pull the outfit together. You see models wearing jeans and a nice blouse, or a nice tank, and it looks put t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/19 04:58 PM
2

An ECE career is a good path for your reasoning. Anyway, what do you want in and from your type of high value man? Is it more of a lifestyle that you're looking for, and would that cause the fear of them being unimpressed with your career? I would say to try to cultivate anything more of substance so you won't have to rely heavily on your career choice and degree, unless the type of guy you want requires a master's degree. Also, the same things that impress us does not usually impress men.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 04:59 AM
1

Right, there's always a chance. Men not willing to take a big chance will definitely help avoid some of the situations listed in in this post. Like the divorce threats for the trash? There had to be a red flag for that. But like you said it can go unnoticed for whatever reason.
/r/RPChristians24/01/19 02:15 AM
1

Those marriages served their purpose, but for us, we can mitigate those AWALT tendencies if we are able to listen and discern what's going on in the relationship. If God has us to be with someone promiscuous or infertile, then of course we'll endure hardships and do what He is calling us to do, but if we have the chance to choose and vet, I do think God will give us signs of where to take the relationship.
/r/RPChristians23/01/19 05:39 AM
1

I think you can vet pretty close to perfect if you seek God's understanding, knowledge, and wisdom. We overlook red/yellow flags or quirks because of the positive our partner brings into the relationship. These red flags are overlooked because of our emotions, and also if sex is involved in the relationship. God gives us signs and speaks to us through the Holy Spirit, but sometimes it's hard to listen to the silent voice if we are overwhelmed by our partner's qualities.
/r/RPChristians23/01/19 03:37 AM
–

They have some patterned ones on amazon, but they are mostly a solid color. & Yes I have too many mitts! Especially when the seasons change I just can't help but to buy more!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 07:49 PM
–

Yes! I love to wear aprons, they're so cute! Recently started wearing gloves to protect my nails, it also adds a little feminine touch.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 06:58 PM
2

With or without you, Christ will show her His forgiveness. Do you have to meet with her again because of the divorce? If so, I think you should show her His forgiveness then through a short conversation or through your behavior. e g. not acting bitter towards her, no engaging in spats. If you don't have to meet up with her again then I think you should stick to your original plan. Philippians 3:13 To her it may come across as a holier than thou attitude if you do meet up with her without having …
/r/RPChristians13/12/18 05:27 AM
7

Think about your future. If what you want now doesn't outweigh your future plans don't do it. You'll be thankful if you wait an save if for a guy who values it. Also, if a guy doesn't lower his standards and continues to push for sex, why should you lower yours? Don't settle I was in a very similar situation when I was 18, I'm 20 now and still a virgin. I'm thankful that I waited as the type of guy I'm into values a low n count/virginity.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 05:19 PM
5

I don't think curiosity hurts all women, also having a blunt and logical perspective allows for women to receive a different viewpoint. Sometimes (in other groups) the knitpicking and having the focus to shift on details may leave the message to be missed. Furthermore, the enemy can be in the detail in order for us to lose focus of the matters of the heart (this particular detail may regard women's participation) Also, banning or leaving someone out of the group may be a trick of the enemy to lo…
/r/RPChristians13/11/18 01:36 AM
–

I'm thankful for the lessons I've learned. Lately I've been reflecting and realizing how much effort my parents put into me, and I am grateful for it because I know it's not the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 11:43 PM
–

November Goals: Get my driver's license, I've been putting it off because I can walk to most places, but I'm 20 now. Start working out in the morning, I don't always workout after work. Practice my hobby. Haven't progressed on my projects this past month. Start actively putting myself out there for once e.g kickboxing, running club ... hopefully this is a good step.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 06:40 PM
1

There are signs that may indicate rather they are telling the truth or not regarding if they want marriage. If they drop plates or bring you around their family then you could suppose they are serious about what they want. Also, it's likely a conversation would happen before marriage regarding how both parties interact with the other sex. Some marriages that I've seen work are open, swingers, or completely exclusive; it just depends on the couple. It would be pretty risky to lie before a marriag…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 05:40 PM
4

Maybe you could write him a small heartfelt letter. You can write down some of the things he has done for you that you really appreciated. If you want to dress it up, you could get the letter laminated and placed into a frame, or put it into a nice envelope. Also, you could find a few favorite pictures and get them processed to make a small photo album, or even a collage to place into a frame. Starting a photo album with the both of you would be nice to look back on in the future. Just make sure…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 03:31 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter