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Field Reportt_odd_/r/seduction03/07/26 01:57 AM
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t_odd_/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 02:37 AM
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if the sex is/was good I'd say implement three strikes rule
/r/seduction16/07/26 07:51 PM
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not according to this 55yo divorced dude, but the closest college is an hour away...
/r/seduction07/07/26 06:43 PM
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good
/r/seduction04/07/26 04:14 AM
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All my drives and pulls are reduced these days...
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 12:20 PM
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Yes in hindsight it was a huge mistake, maybe the hugest of them all. I'd had my heart broken a year prior to meeting her and had a life full of abandonment issues and thought subconsciously at least that I was playing it safe, that it would earn me extra loyalty points or something, but we all know how that worked out... And as I've said, she wasn't unattractive physically in the beginning. She wasn't attractive enough physically for me though and deep down I knew it. Doh.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 04:31 PM
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Yes I relate.. For me, I loved her and loved being married to her, but her face looked like miss piggy once she gained the weight. She even started wearing fake eyelashes and hair extensions in later years to feel prettier and I'd have to fake liking it when it just enhanced the miss piggy effect..
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 04:21 PM
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It's hard to imagine me living those moments.. I'd need the right type of peer pressure to get me there I think, which is highly unlikely when my friends are married and 15 years older than me...
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 04:09 PM
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I hear you and appreciate that. I have zero pictures of myself which is why I haven't even considered the dating apps. And I read all the time how they suck for men.. I can handle some extra pounds it's just can her face handle them? I need to like and want to look at her face especially... Definitely a bit concerned about relationship pull because I was always quick to commit and I love partnership/companionship. The astronomical amount of pain I've endured and wisdom gained through this heartb…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 04:04 PM
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CEO of her own booming startup biz. She dumped me and our 30 year marriage one year after starting it and right before the big bucks started to roll in..
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 06:47 PM
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In your head you're over her. In your heart you are not.
/r/seduction27/05/26 02:08 AM
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totally relate to wanting to wake up from the dream.. dont relate to trying to fuck the pain away unfortunately because I dont have your skillz. Does it work? 1.5 yrs down in my twilight zone episode now so sure would like to try it!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 06:41 PM
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haha didnt know this had a term. I got majorly tt'd over 1.5 years by my ex... sprinkled with expertly timed deceptions too of course...
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 06:38 PM
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sorry man. 19 months after 30yrs here and still in the same twilight zone episode
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 07:31 PM
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I will generously bear 50% of the responsibility for our getting to her breaking point that she wanted to leave and divorce me. I for sure got lazy and checked out while weathering the perfect storm of difficult circumstances we were in. Thanks to the implicit trust I had in her, I was miscalculating the few signals she was sending over. They seemed (then and now) minor issues to me but were obviously big issues to her, especially in the last six months before she left. I figured we would patch …
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 01:10 AM
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As extremely foolish and difficult as it would be, it'd probably only require one sentence from her along the lines of, "I want you back and am willing to do whatever it takes". I'd be more surprised if that happened than when she left, which is saying a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 07:16 PM
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It was a year in October after sudden surprise ending of 30yr marriage and just now starting to feel ready, but only for low hanging fruit which has no realistic way of ever happening... But that's just as well because dont think I could casually date without getting attached.. Which reckon means I'm not really ready. Found out over the weekend my ex already has a bf...
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 03:15 AM
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good shit bro
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/26 09:48 AM
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I realize this might not apply to you if you already have it figured out. Maybe it'll help.somebody like me who didnt and suffers terribly for it..
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 01:29 PM
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how established are you in your own life purpose direction career etc? I married at 24 and had the wife kids house and made my life about happy wife etc but then got dumped at 53, now just turned 55 and no happy life... The biggest lesson I got from all of this is that making the wife and fam the purpose and focus of my life before getting established in my own life purpose and direction was my biggest mistake. I basically ended up with my wife driving and crashing my ship. The best place for a …
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 01:26 PM
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Guess I need to eat less fiber...
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 10:27 PM
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My childhood and teenaged self had it accurately assessed and swore the entire time that I would never marry. My early twenties spiritually awakened self thought I'd cracked the code and got married... Thirty years of marriage later got suddenly dumped at the curb and oh how I wish I'd listened to my younger genius... At least I can honor that wisdom now and never marry again...
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 06:36 PM
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This a good deed you have done here for the bros with this thread. Thank you. First time I have seen something practical like this on here. I don't know how far off I am from becoming ready to try it myself but it gives me an idea of where the marketing needs to be if/when that time comes!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 04:44 AM
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same
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 10:57 PM
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I would like to know too but doesnt seem like there is a fix... 30yrs married and she left blindside sudden a year ago... Doing my best on all fronts and having more better days now on average but living alone first time in my life for over a year now at 54yo and no desire to pursue/engage women means I still hit bad snags sometimes like today where the heartache is so bad it physically hurts and had to force myself to eat dinner.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 12:05 AM
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in my 50s after 30yr marriage and would have loved to have your wisdom and foresight at 31. that would have been next best thing to having listened to my own teenager wisdom who swore he would never marry. Sorry kid I had to learn the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 04:50 PM
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30 years of marriage, raised five kids together with her telling me all the time how great I was, how we slid down the rainbow from heaven together, soul mates, perfect match with her being enfp and me infj, best friends, etc, to suddenly gone divorced with no attempt to patch seemingly minor issues... It's almost the year mark and Ive been living alone first time in my whole life... yeah, doesn't seem like this twilight zone episode has an ending... Of course last night saw her on Instagram and…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 02:15 AM
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feel ya man. same boat except it was a 30yr marriage here..good words above so you clearly are on right path now, as hard as it is.
/r/seduction06/09/25 02:02 PM
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As someone who got blindside left and divorced after 30 year marriage, i regret not listening to my teenaged self who swore he would never get married and i regret trusting that my ex was as committed to our marriage as I was so much so that I never once questioned her behavior and misinterpreted it. And regret ignoring/rationalizing / spiritualizing the red flags that were there pre-marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:27 PM
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My ex 'only' had an emotional affair with her biz partner who didn't even know it was going on, so it's less difficult for me to see who to focus on... My AP is everything I am not so just makes me feel even less significant.. Oh and she didn't tell me any of these details until six months after she fled.. All that said, still feel for you and can imagine having your feelings and imaginations...
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 01:23 AM
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Yes and majorly rocket boosted by ChatGPT
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 03:06 AM
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Wife left suddenly/surprise/blindside last October after 30yrs/5kids, and divorce will be finalized any day now.. I've been intentionally refraining from making any efforts toward women until divorce is final... At least that has been my lame excuse for not feeling like trying and for being as perpetually sad and completely isolated as I am (first time ever living alone etc)... So had a woman contact me through meetup.com messaging today unsolicited and I responded to her with brief introduction…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 02:54 AM
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I would guess my number is somewhere around -5, and they are all aware...
/r/seduction17/08/25 06:25 PM
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Not financially... Believe me everyone advised me against settling on her terms but just couldn't go the hardball route. Don't have the fight in me. As tough as it is, I want her happy, and I'll be ok... Just not rich like her. There are things we did to kick back to me like the equity in our house, it's just not guaranteed etc...
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 03:00 AM
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54 after 30yr marriage. Wife left me last year just as her biz started to take off.. Live in 50/50 state but we worked things out so I don't get any share of it, otherwise her partner was going to dissolve etc... Profit projections are in the multi-millions within five years if it keeps growing at current rate... So yeah 'significantly affected'.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 02:51 AM
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name checks out =)
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 01:32 PM
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Cat 2 - married 30yrs and she out of blue left last October. Didn't see it coming at all unfortunately so full traumatizing train wreck experience. I'm 54 now and despite best efforts and intentions, being honest have to say don't think I'll ever be getting over it. When she left she dropped me into a twilight zone that seems to be inside a black hole from what I can tell... Won't keep me from trying to get out, and hoping to be pleasantly surprised by a 'got over it' as so many guys say does ha…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 03:01 AM
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Wife left last October and still don't think it's the right decision but it's her decision, so gotta move on. Knew it was over over a few weeks ago when after making one last ditch effort to reach her she was responding to me with texts that were obvious chat gpt generated psycho-nonsense. She's been saying all along that her getting to the point of leaving caused something like a light switch to flip off inside of her... Well her responding to my deep sincere communications via chat gpt after 3…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 02:42 AM
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Can you describe your experience rotating women? As a recently divorced man after 30 years married, this is mind-boggling to imagine. Even landing a single date is beyond me at this point but still curious haha...
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 12:38 PM
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as long as you are not the romantic type that your feelings could hook you in. full attraction is needed for LTRs.
/r/seduction24/07/25 12:26 PM
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sorry brother. not the club any of us wanted to join.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 01:37 PM
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yeah man.. had no clue whatsoever that it was coming. I never once imagined my wife would or could just up and leave, until she didnt come home that night... then I never imagined she would never even once feel compelled to try working it out when her issues were and are so relatively minor and mendable from my perspective.. so bizarre. I don't think I will ever understand.. can only accept and try not to drown until hopefully feeling like living again someday instead of just not dying...
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 10:38 PM
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congrats and thanks for sharing since I am at nine months after a thirty year marriage and it's never ending twilight zone mode over here...
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/25 04:15 AM
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Just better be leading man Hallmark material in your favorite flannel or its going to be more vinegar no matter what
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:09 PM
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name = check lolol
/r/seduction11/06/25 05:02 PM
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And look out for the emotional affairs too. Learned this the hardest way a month shy of the 30 year married mark.. Five adult kids... We are divorcing and have been separated nine months now... Day before she left I would have told you we were happily married... I knew there was a little trouble based on subtle* (from my perspective) signals she was putting out there, but had no clue there was big trouble... Turns out she left me for an emotional affair with a man who wasn't even interested or a…
/r/seduction11/06/25 02:07 AM
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My start over began 8 months ago at age 53 when wife (also 53) of 30 years and five kids suddenly left. Up to the day she left I was always claiming happily married status... At first she called for a three month separation then it turned to open ended then it turned to divorce and we are still in process. The twilight zone experience has not ended as we start month eight and don't imagine it will because I feel like I don't know the woman anymore that I thought I knew best for 30 years and who …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 12:19 AM
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