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ta1901/r/MensRights19/12/12 06:00 PM
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ta1901/r/RedPillWomen29/08/13 01:51 PM
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The only women they see as valid women are the ones they want to fuck. I know that's true for quite a few single men, but I'm not most men. I selected women for their personality and suitability for a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:46 PM
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I saw one study that showed American women are MUCH more picky than men in picking a date. Another study showed 70% of American women find a man's job, and the amount of money he makes, to be a big reason they pick the man. If his backstory is he makes more money, he is deemed more attracted by most women. Repeating this study in the streets (on a TV show I watched) showed the same thing. Study description on request.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:44 PM
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Men are not a monolith, but women are. By monolith you are implying women are all the same, when they are not. I would not marry 90% of women in the dating pool which I dated or when I read their profiles, for various reasons, but I did find a few there I had great experiences with. That's because I became more selective in my choices when I developed a system to weed out incompatible women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:41 PM
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Maybe you can start your debate with your one line assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:33 PM
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I respect that this was your personal experience, because it was my experience with my first marriage and 90% of the people I dated before and after my divorce, because that is what was in the dating pool and I wasn't as selective. I even went so far as to date a women in a neighboring country (I'm in the US). She was great! But it really depends on who you marry and/or date. I did better in my second marriage because I was more selective in who I asked out, and my current wife clearly does a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:20 PM
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She advises me to find men that will buy me things and do things for me and when they no longer do that for me, I should just get rid of them. These women become very obvious eventually, and I drop them as fast as possible. Your mom has very toxic self-defeating beliefs. This is sometimes called a "transactional relationship", she abuses men and will attract men that are also transactional, and she will miss out on a real close relationship that actually has trust to glue it all together.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 02:14 PM
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I'm a guy and this is a reasonable request.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:54 AM
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You give a lot of good advice which I also have used like: "A therapist once explained that a man is not an infinite void to which you can throw your problems into and expect them not to have a response." True "If you have problems at work maybe you should take control of the situation" Also true. I call it "being the captain of your own ship". "I responded with they should stop spending their money on frivolous things, save and invest yourself ." Mental health should not be ignored but it can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:10 PM
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(I spent 10 years growing up in a small town. There were pros and cons.) I'd say that might be easier since I would probably know someone who knows the family, whether the other person had 5 divorces, how long they've been on welfare, what other problems they have. Because townies LOVE to gossip. :) At least when I was there. Why are women allowing themselves to get sucked into this whole “the next one will be better than the current guy I’m seeing” fallacy? IMO because the women know what they …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:01 PM
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Body language is not 100% reliable between individuals. I can fake body language of anything all day long. They should be dressed neatly according to their income. I.e. if they show they have a shopping addiction or are terrible with money I'm out. I was looking for someone of average looks or higher. But their confidence and how they see themselves is also important to me. For me, having a practical woman who will help me reach my financial goals rather than sabotage them, for the family, is im…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:46 PM
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I have to agree because I made this change too, to become more dominant, and just a better leader. However I am also going to claim sample bias, because people are different and not all women like this. When me and my gf were talking about marriage we had a talk about what we both want and expect. I was pretty clear about what I wanted, I especially wanted clear communication because I am not qualified to read minds. I also said it in a stern way, and made sure she knew I was going to be in char…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:40 PM
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I saw too much whining and almost no action in MGTOW. Too sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:25 PM
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Can you provide links to the data? Who has time to go through 10,000 search results? And what search terms are you using?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:17 PM
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I recognize that this exists and is fairly common in Western "liberated" society. Not all people are liberated. I choose not to put up with this inequality. Others can too. I've actually broken up with girls who wanted inequality or were forcing gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:15 PM
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Instead, it seems to celebrate qualities such as vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and a desire for equal partnership in both providing and being provided for. Well that's what I want. I'm not judging anyone who wants something different, there's no point to judging anyone IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:13 PM
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because the internet has told us to no end that it is akin to sexual harassment. That is part of it. The other part is the 95%+ rejection rate that men get IRL. Which is why I went with dating forums back in 2010. I could weed through people and reject some without talking to them. And try to find a better fit by talking to them for a a week before actually going on a date with them. How they write their profile and how they spell is important to me in finding a compatible SO. And I met some nic…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:08 PM
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I agree with you. But i also think most people will not make the multi-year investment that is required. I did, and it was worth it. EDIT: I am highly motivated in this area and it took me 35 years of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:04 PM
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This happened after WW2 where many of the men died off, or had PTSD and weren't great mates. Women acted much better because women were in the majority. In China right now there are fewer women than men, and the lots of women are hugely entitled, and show it. They know men have to compete for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:47 AM
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That sounds like normal human behavior to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:46 AM
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Money has value but wont genuinely make you more attractive either. A study that has been repeated at least twice on 2 different TV shows showed that 70% of women find a man more attractive if he has a higher income. However what the study didn't address is, how shallow and dependent these women likely are. I dependent woman is like an adult child you would have to supervise constantly, and that's not something I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:37 AM
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M55 here. What you can't control: looks Well anyone can improve their looks if they know how: take a shower, comb your hair, get better fitting clothes. You don't have to spend a lot to look nice. Trim the beard so it doesn't look like a rat's nest. A haircut and nice clothes is not the big upgrade most think it is. It is for the shallow girls who make decisions on that. What you can't control: Personality I disagree. I am an introvert, I will always be an introvert. But I used to be shy and I g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:34 AM
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That is not something women have done to you as a man. It's rare, but yes, my wife shows me she loves me by asking me what I would like. But yes, it is VERY rare in the dating pool. I was ready to take a break from dating when I met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:27 PM
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I might argue men allow themselves to be used simply because they don't make an effort to be aware of the situation, and are unable to analyze the woman's personality and actions to see if she is a healthy mate. I support the "people should be the captain of their own ship" idea, and stop blaming others. Happiness does not come from another person, it comes from within. And it starts with each person making better choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:25 PM
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I'm not here a lot. At least half the responses were some version of “we don’t have any options so we take anything we can get” Are these responses from men? we’re witnessing some weird combination of defeatism (which often also correlates with low self worth, low self esteem, and generally just a low, not fun to be around vibe) as well as a priority for preferences that, ironically, correlate with women who would look at this defeatist attitude as judgements of poor character or lacking in masc…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 11:21 PM
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M54 here. Quick note. Many women overthink things and make something innocuous into a negative. This becomes more common in the dating pool, because it has such a bad effect on relationships. A healthy man doesn't want to deal with that drama. FACT: Women have more connections between neurons in their brain. Source: "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizandine. She also wrote "The Male Brain". THEORY: This is why they can handle 15 kids age 10 at a birthday party while this would overwhelm many men. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 01:45 PM
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TLDR: Don't underestimate the effects trauma has on relationships and other parts of a person's life. M54 here. I was going to mention that trauma can really limit a person's ability to have a healthy relationship, and how much new stress they can handle. But you did a great job of explaining. IME most people have some type of trauma that affects them and their ability to have a healthy relationship. The good women are taking out of the dating pool and what's left is mostly not suitable for anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 01:41 PM
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That was an open relationship, and she was on a dating site. It's very common for people to remain on a dating site and just forget to deactivate your account when dating someone too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:36 PM
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I've heard that in Sweden it's much better, from a Swede friend I used to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:33 PM
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I have a good degree and solid job in a STEM field. Should I lose this job my prospects are very good. I'm a decent looking guy. I have a positive attitude. I understand women more and their needs and I act on that. But I'm no simp. I prefer a long-term arrangement. I'm good at problem solving, even in relationships. I have 40 years of studying relationship psychology and it has been very helpful to me. I implement what I have learned to great effect. I don't whine. I'm confident. I can learn fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:52 PM
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In the US it's the man that does the asking on a date the most, by a huge margin. In other countries it's different. But I'm glad you are different. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:38 PM
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Splitting the bill is not about money, it is about balance of interest I agree. This is how a woman would show interest to me. This is also what kept me interested in my gf, who is now my wife. She SHOWED she was interested on a continuous basis. This is also what happened with women who I was quite fond it. For other girls, as I showed interest in them, their "apparent interest" dropped and so it was safe for me to assume they had no more interest. So I left to find someone who was interested. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:32 PM
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Girls. Well I agree with that. You are talking about immature, insecure people who are not functional adults yet. Remember, age does not magically make a person mature. Experience, dealing their their own issues, and learning from mistakes, does. always Well there goes the argument. There is no proving "always" or "never". This may be your own experience. It was my experience when I was under age 30 as well. But I didn't complain I just made myself better, I worked out, got a good job, and more …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:28 PM
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That most men are interested in most women? Yes. Many men have different standards for a sex partner than women do. Many women understand: If they get pregnant they will lose a large portion of their SMV and a larger portion of the dating pool that is available to them. If they get an STI they will lose a large part of their SMV. If they get too old they will lost a large part of their SMV. It's a tricky balancing act for a woman to find a suitable marriage partner so she can have kids and raise…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:23 PM
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If you are looking for that single study, I don't have it, but I've read about it. To really discuss human nature we really need to see more than 1 study. But yes, I have observed that women might want to sleep with a guy, but they do perceive he would not make a great marriage partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:20 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you clearer vision in the future, and more happiness. But sometimes we are limited by our local dating pool and it may be shallow indeed. One gf showed me the awful things she has to put up with, getting 30+ emails EVERY DAY from men, which are just plain inappropriate. I had no idea it was that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:18 PM
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IMO this is very individualized. So I won't judge people on it, nor do I have an opinion on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:17 PM
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Lol. M54 here. Well the study didn't include me. There's a reason I broke up with them. And I wouldn't go back to them either. Also, women tend to make more emotional memories which really stay with them, as emotions are more central to the average woman's life. Of course there are some exceptions too. This is also why women tend to remember happy dates like birthdays or anniversaries, they make an emotional memory. Emotional memories can be from bad things and trauma as well. Men can have emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:11 PM
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Good read! I'm an introvert. I do my homework and I know my facts. And I win. A lot. Pointless bloviating from an opponent means they are scared and have few facts to back them up. A lot of what Laura did comes directly from Sun Tzu, a famous Chinese general, though she probably didn't know that. Sun Tzu won. And he won a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:12 PM
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I didn't see any link for art. Where is the link? It sounds nice.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:00 PM
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The gist I get from redpill material is that women are generally inferior at most things outside of the home and children, and that the best place for me is in the home, raising children. And that's a generalization because it's true in most cases shown by my experience and the experience of every man I've talked to. That does not make it an absolute fact for every woman. The generalization reflects how most women act, it does not cause them to act a certain way. There are also exceptions, and I…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:51 AM
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Am I doing something wrong? No, you two are not at the 4 year mark. Talk to him about this again now, at the 3.5 and 4 year mark. After 4 years is when he may want to get engaged. IMO, after living for someone for 3 years you should know them pretty well by now. He may want to get married but may be really nervous about making it a legal marriage with a marriage license. Men are really gun-shy about marriage now because so many women use the divorce laws as a weapon, not a shield, and this has b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:39 AM
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People these days can take 3-5 days to respond. Be patient. If waiting this long is a problem for you, find someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:33 AM
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I read some of your other comments. This whole thing is shady, especially because he lied about when he went to the city where she lives. Don't you think you deserve better? Did you two even talk about being exclusive or did you just assume that?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:29 AM
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Yes but that often gets men into trouble too. The sex drive won't last forever and when that's gone, what is left to attract them to their SO? The personality. I also happen to get more turned on by a woman's personality than her looks anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:24 AM
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Put simply, women are born with and grow naturally what men seek(youth, fertility, looks), where as men earn what women seek(wealth, confidence, competence). Very interesting take on that! I think that's on the right track. Besides her being small(my preference), it all lay in demeanor. Also very true! Her confidence is everything. I want a submissive, supporting woman, not a helpless damsel in distress where I have to fix every cotton picking detail. I don't want someone I have to micromanage. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:18 AM
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Don't fight about the little things, take his lead. Be aware that you might have moody days, and try to nip any verbal moodiness in the bud before it comes out. Ask him what he would like. Every guy is different. Make suggestions to him, he may not have thought of specifics very much, especially if he is tired or stressed from work. TELL HIM you enjoy getting his input on your makeup, nail color doing chores for him. Make sure you tell him you do it for him so he can appreciate you are going out…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 11:06 AM
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I concur. The super high sex drive of some guys really interferes with their ability to have a good emotional connection. (Been there, done that. I really wanted a commitment but my sex drive was really high.)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 10:58 AM
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“I don’t want to do x and x until I’m in a relationship”, it sounds like I’m asking for a relationship right then and there, which I know should be his idea I see Red Pill rules not as inflexible rules but as general guidelines. Adjust and tweak to suit your needs. Everyone is different so an inflexible set of rules will not work for that many people. If you're not ready for sex you can say "Sorry, I'm not ready for that yet. I only do that for exclusive relationships." That clearly shows your p…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 10:56 AM
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I put all necessary tasks first and get them done first. So here's the top priorities first for my college life: Homework. Sending out resumes, if I should be. Going to the gym. Doing laundry at college. Finances. I didn't have a lot to invest in college so really I just balanced my checkbook once a month. Clean the dorm room once in a while. Play time or me time. Do this without fail, every day, no exceptions to make sure you get in the habit of things.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:25 PM
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It's spending time together and talking to get to know the other person. It could be movies, restaurant, art fair, picnic, just watching the ducks at the park, walking around the boardwalk, watching fireworks, trying new foods at an art fair, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:21 PM
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Psst. Go to the gym. It's calling to you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:12 PM
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I don't split every bill with my wife. I pay for one dinner so she gets the feeling of being "taken out", many women need that, she pays for the next one. It sounds like you date too many betas who "don't want to put a label on the relationship". Date better guys. It sounds like you need someone more alpha and more responsible. The alpha and beta terms are often misunderstood. An alpha is just someone who is confident, knows what he wants, and goes and gets it. He is also a responsible adult who…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:05 PM
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Read this, it's helpful. People who have poor compatibility will fight more. People who have good compatibility will fight less. It takes 2 partners to make it work, but only 1 to mess it up. If one partner is too immature that's a big red flag. So, ignore your feelings for moment, feelings are fleeting. Read the file above and look at your compatibility issues. How compatible are you?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 07:02 PM
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You have taken the first step, which is the hardest step, and you know what the problems are. That's a good thing. Stop taking so much, and start giving more. Don't expect anything in return. Just observe how you make your husband happy. Find a hobby or something that makes you feel happy or fulfilled, that is not someone else doing something for you. Make things, be crafty, volunteer somewhere, help deliver meals to seniors, help out a cat shelter or something. Look at ways your husband tells y…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:54 PM
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The human brain develops on average, around age 25. At this time the brain develops executive functions, like the ability to plan ahead, self-knowledge, what you really want in life, thinking before acting, etc. Studies show that the younger a couple marries, the more likely they are to divorce. The lack of brain maturity and lack of experience are probably major factors for divorce here. So, ask yourself. Do you have the executive functions to plan ahead, and execute said plan successfully? Are…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:50 PM
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Just because you think he will make a good dad, doesn't mean he thinks he will make a good dad. He might want kids but might be really nervous about mistakes he might make with the kids. You can let him know that the time is near where you two agreed to have kids. Is he ready now? Are you really ready? I'll be honest, I was never ready, I just jumped into it. I knew I would never get over my fears unless I jumped into it. We didn't do everything perfect, but it all worked out.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:45 PM
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the fallacy extends itself by saying that you won't be happy until you find him. Well put. Happiness does not come from someone else, it comes from inside you. Don't depend on someone else to make you truly happy, it won't work. !Remindme 4 days
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:40 PM
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The 5 Love Languages really helped me understand how people work and want to feel loved. It turned all my relationships around for the better. Read the web page, it's free, and really worth it! Once you ask your SO what their love language is, your relationships will get better. If they don't know, there is an online test, both of you should take it, and talk about what your love language is AND what you like your SO to do for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:39 PM
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If you're not ready for commitment, you're not ready. And that's ok! Also, what is a plate? The really messed up part is that if a guy that I want is willing to commit to only me, I’m afraid that I might assume that something is wrong with him and be turned off. So, this is definitely a personal issue. Sounds like you need to find the root of this issue, bare it, and deal with it head on. You go girl! The only thing holding you back is you. Don't be afraid to succeed.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:34 PM
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It sounds like part of the problem is him. Does he act like a normal adult would and gets things done? Or does he put things off a lot? Don't compare his actions to what is common, compare his actions to what an adult should be and what is healthy. The other thing is you. Try to let some things go and not get done. Stop being so controlling. Can you give an example of you being too controlling? Maybe he's just a layabout and you're tired of that. Remember, you cannot change him... ever, no matte…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:26 PM
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First you have to understand the male perspective. Guys lie about this because more than half the girls really overreact about this and he just got sick and tired of the drama. Now ask yourself, how are you different from the girls that overreacted? Did you overreact about the lie? Do you understand his viewpoint and why he did it? And finally, is it worth breaking up over?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:23 PM
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You can impress his parents by being confident enough to be yourself, but not your goofy self. Don't be too goofy on the first meet. Relax, this isn't the Inquisition. Try to find things you have in common with the parents and talk to them about that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 06:21 PM
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I've met just one. She claims she was straight, and acted like it, but she was butch, short hair, men's clothes and everything. Maybe she was bi but wasn't ready to go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 12:13 PM
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That's partly true but another issue is many people are simply giving up on dating altogether. This is a big problem in Japan where they simply don't have the courage to ask someone out!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:57 AM
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I'm fine with that. What matters more is she has good confidence, and A+ communication skills. Because those are the foundation of LTR. (Most of my comments are from the LTR perspective.) Huh. My wife looks feminine but I swear she has the mind of a man in many ways. And I love that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:40 AM
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What's a "bloop"?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:36 AM
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If you put a space after each dash, I think your list will bulletize. Or you can prefix each bullet item with asterisk and space.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:33 AM
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This line of thinking is baffling to me. What's wrong with poking fun at stupid ideas? Because some people want to have a mature discussion about things without trolls. And trolling is not based on fact, it's just opinion. Many people seem to confuse opinion with fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:31 AM
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This is new to me. Can someone explain why and how I would summon the automod?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:28 AM
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I would argue that if women can "vent" then men can do it too. The trash talking is what I call "venting" and women do it too, although maybe not as publicly as men. Once that door is opened, everyone gets to "vent". However I'd also like to add that it's the younger generation that really overreacts to, and exaggerates things. That plays a part in things too. We call this "butthurt" because they lack basic coping skills because of how they were raised. Yes they are reacting to something that ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:21 AM
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What they've been indoctrinated with goes counter to what they observe on a daily basis. Well put, I never thought about it like this. This cognitive dissonance is the root issue in so many problems today with the younger generation. (This same thing happened to Gen X but to a much smaller extent.)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:20 AM
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I disagree. First, many people don't understand the difference between "constructive criticism", or pointing out flaws, vs mocking. Mocking is like trolling, the main purpose is to make the other person mad, and that is not constructive and does not lead to rational discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:18 AM
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Many women are attracted to men with power and money, but not all women are like this. But that is one example of "status". Status increases a person's attractiveness for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:15 AM
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No. IMO confident people don't need to assert dominance. I might tease someone I like but that has nothing to do with a romantic interest. If someone needs to play games because they have poor communication, that's a big red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/18 11:13 AM
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Let me assume and ideology is a person's view of an ideal situation. Over the past 100 years there have been many ideologies: socialism, communism, etc but there often seems to be an extremist component to them. And extremism doesn't normally work well with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 06:02 PM
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This is sad the false allegations erode the significance of rape and the believably of the women victims. There seems to be a very wide definition of rape though, which is part of the problem. Like some people think regret = rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:55 PM
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Women are fine with having an emotional reaction, but men don't understand it because not many men are like that. Thus men respect level-headed people, not people who blow up emotionally. To some men, someone who lacks self-control is dangerous, whether it's a man or woman. I think this dovetails with the "men are protectors" instinct, so they become hyper aware of this type of behavior. Another point is women as a group have normalized this behavior without thinking of how men might perceive it…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:37 PM
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If reds cant see a middle ground, they are no better than the feminist Identity Politics that they rail against. I have to agree. In the 1980s there were fundamentalist "Christians" shooting doctors and setting abortion clinics on fire. I just rolled my eyes, it was so ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:29 PM
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Yes, there are more divisions today than I've seen in 40 years. Divisions based on sex, political beliefs, race, religions, their weight, even income. Instead of finding out whats wrong with themselves, they align themselves to 1 side of the debate and blame others for their problems. I agree. This is part of the entitlement culture of the younger generation. It's just how they were raised. Many were not raised to take personal responsibility for things, so they don't really know how to do that …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:24 PM
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There are parts of masculinity that can be improved, and some parts that are good. Using a minority of men in the world as evidence is pretty biased. Most men are decent, as are most women. I'm not saying they're perfect, I'm saying they aren't totally crazy. IMO this is not an issue of testosterone, it's an issue that someone might have a mental illness perhaps brought on by some type of abuse. Some people are just more likely to get all riled up without thinking, and join some extremist club a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:17 PM
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Sorry, I meant "some women". Also, I was not including cases of abuse or where the couple is really incompatible. I was trying to explain that the only reason the woman divorces is this vague feeling of "unhappiness", whatever that is. I'm not saying this happens a lot, but it does happen more often than you think, whether the breakup is a normal breakup before marriage or a divorce after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:11 PM
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Yes. I think many of the issues in this thread are about people (not just women) being too self-centered and selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 05:01 PM
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It's about some women constantly upgrading boyfriends and never being happy enough with what they have, then they are 45 and still aren't married and wonder why they are miserable. The constant upgrading is, IMO, about a lack of relationship goals, they don't know what a healthy relationship is, and they don't know how good they got it. There are more articles and videos about this issue I've found recently, where women have missed their prime dating period and are now alone where it gets much m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:59 PM
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Different girls look good with different haircuts and I literally have no idea which cut would look good on a given girls so I tell her "I literally have no idea which cut would look good on your so try something you like." I think obese girls look bad with a bob.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:55 PM
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Entitled women. Like women who expect to be taken care of and don't even bother to discuss this with their SO before marriage. Using rape and abuse laws as a weapon, not a shield. Judge Judy really got on one woman for this. Women that claim they want a healthy relationship but won't even bother to learn what one is. Women who want to get married and their primary goal is to stay home and go shopping. Before marriage women will sometimes lie about what they want but change after the marriage lic…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:49 PM
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I think what you're saying is don't go crazy with the banning and don't assume hostility in a text message?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:45 PM
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Whiney people that didn't get their way can often lead to an excess of harassing messages towards the mods. I mod some subreddits and I've seen it myself. Some entitled people just like to complain until they get their way. Since being entitled works when they make a complaint at a retail store, people still do it. I'm trying to differentiate here between an actual question that is non-bannable "Why did I get banned" to whining non-arguments "You're a racist and you only banned me because I'm 4%…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:41 PM
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Charged Content The content isn't the problem. The problem is the people talking about it are not good at being respectful and having basic manners. Will you have a progressive ban? First ban is 1 days, then 3 days, then 7, etc. Some subs do that. I think there should be discipline, but I also think people should have the opportunity to learn from their mistakes. Standardizing who and what to ban was really difficult for a subreddit that discussed feminism and MRA. I think it was /r/FeMRADebates…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/18 04:12 PM
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You can just say "I never really dated much but am willing to learn." Be open to learning. Some guys will be ok with you being newish, some won't. Here are some tips. Learn the science behind how healthy relationships work. Clear communication is the foundation of a solid relationship. Going out of your comfort zone to have clear communication is required. Learn about men and male sexuality, well, sexuality in general. Lack of sex (or good sex) is one of the top 3 reasons men will leave. It's th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 12:33 PM
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I'm really glad you got some clarity on this and made a decision! Good for you! The human brain doesn't mature until age 25 on average, so after that people can have very different goals. So the younger a person gets married, the higher the divorce rate is. On Reddit the Personal Messages are not threaded like in the subreddits so it can be more difficult to follow a conversation. I was involved in helping some people and I set up an individual private subreddit just for them, and it had the sam…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 12:23 PM
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Working as a team just makes good sense for a relationship, and being thankful is just good manners. I see nothing wrong with that. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 12:17 PM
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How is she going to learn if you never let her hit bottom and keep rescuing her?
/r/MGTOW06/03/18 06:48 PM
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I don't think you have to forsake anything or force yourself into any specific box. Just be you. And find someone who will appreciate you for being you. That's the hard part, and requires work, and good boundaries. But with enough work you can be yourself and find that special someone. I think I'm still too quiet, though Why do you think that? If you're an introvert, introverts don't talk that much unless it's something that interests them. Then they can be really chatty! If you want to work on …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 10:34 PM
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I think women like it because they don't get as many messages from 'creeps.' That's a good idea. When my one gf showed me all the messages from creeps she gets each day I was shocked. 30+ messages per day, every day, from childish aholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:49 PM
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we get told how practically every other woman on a college campus is being sexually assaulted (which is bullshit feminist propaganda anyway) That depends how the study defines "rape". If you include unwanted touching, and eye rape, then the stats are in the ballpark. "man up pussy", "quit crying", The above, IMO, are an attempt to get the man to make real changes for himself. No one can do that but you. "the world doesn't owe you shit". And that's how the world actually is. You don't get the cut…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:45 PM
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Some will, some won't. IMO this varies a lot. I noticed that older, more experience women tend to have better boundaries. Like they aren't all about the man's looks or money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:39 PM
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I saw another "men need access to regular sex to be mentally healthy I'd agree with that. so we should have prostitute vouchers as welfare" argument today I don't agree with that. They need to stop being cheapskates and pay for their own damn prossy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:35 PM
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It doesn't bother me, everyone is different. But if they are getting serious they need to tell their partner if they will do sex or not. I'd much rather watch the muppets than have sex. I can imagine there's a lot of chafing involved. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:30 PM
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Not trying to be mean here, but this is just my own experience. Yes, because she can't do any other "man type" chores anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:27 PM
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I'm always confused by the assertion that a woman's husband is never the best sex partner she's had. Does this really happen so rarely? I think men are over generalizing on this one and the men are coloring this statement with their own insecurities. And why would you wed a guy who isn't sexually compatible with you or willing to learn? Because most people, men and women, have no idea that sexual compatibility is one of the top 3 required compatibility issues. Go ask 100 people on the street "Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:25 PM
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I've seen the research that virgins have drastically lower divorce rates (5%) than women with more sexual partners (33% for women with 10+ partners). I'm going to chime in on this one. Based on what me and my friends have seen, sleeping with a virgin causes them to bond with you and almost always they go crazy level 5. And the men learn to stay away from them. So I do think there is something to this concept, but it's not accurate for all women. If a man marries a virgin it does not guarantee sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:22 PM
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I have some red pill qualities so I'll answer. If you knew me at work I'm pretty quiet. But see me at home, or get me drunk, and both me and my wife can start with dirty comments or jokes. And I love her because she's as demented as I am. :) Moreover, I'm pretty confident, but I don't have to be a jerk about it. I know what I want, and I go get it. I've never cheated and never hit a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:17 PM
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Women do not control my emotions. I am not a robot remotely controlled by her. I am able to separate her issues from my own and not take it too personally, but it would be tough. If there are other problems in the relationship, I might have to dump her. To say she settled for me, means she probably didn't have the confidence to know what she wanted, or to act on that, and the relationship would fall apart anyway. Her immaturity and lack of insight is not my fault, and it does not reflect on me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:11 PM
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I read your comment explaining some of the "truths". These truths seem to develop in high school and maybe continue in college, and then the over generalizations begin at some point. These truths come from, IMO, interacting with girls, not women. Women don't act like that. Also, if the men keep dating girls, instead of real women, that's his choice, and is not the woman's fault. If the man keeps dating girls based only on her looks, that's also his choice, and is not her fault. If the man keeps …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:07 PM
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Men. Men's brains are more visually oriented when choosing a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 04:01 PM
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Because most women don't see sex as a need. Because most women, at the peak of their sexuality, will never come close to an average 18yo male's sex drive. Most women have no concept what a typical man goes through, sexually. Because the guy can get diseases that can be very painful, or even kill their next SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:56 PM
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Yes, it's very different IME. Women are too subtle and don't want to commit to a real flirt. And that tells me they are low confidence, and I don't want them. Besides, communication is the foundation of a relationship, and I want someone who can communicate well right away, I don't want a fixer upper. But a girl with great communication, at any age (I was dating in my 40s) is still super rare. I've been on several relationship forums over the past 5 years and women are mostly really bad at flirt…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:52 PM
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I'm GenX. I think it's easier for men who look at least average to have sex. This cultural change does not help the ones with lesser looks, or low confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:48 PM
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I think that's less Red Pill and more Men Going Their Own Way. And I don't blame MGTOW. My divorce was messy and costly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:47 PM
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I think I should clarify something first. I see 4 basic types of Red pillers: Men who just want to control things, perhaps because they are insecure. Men who think they must control things, because of religious upbringing. Men who are naturally dominant. Men who over generalize and assume all women want a husband who is "in control". A successful marriage requires each person to be reasonably happy. That does not mean each person gets everything they want, because they won't. This is why compati…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:37 PM
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It seems to me that the way men talk about women and sex is to establish his power over her and the way they do this is by emphasizing her consensual degradation. I disagree. I'm a guy. Here are some factors I observe. These are younger men, and mentally and emotionally immature. They haven't made an effort to understand how women look at sex or a relationship. Thus they are often stuck with brief relationships. These are younger men, with a super high sex drive, so all they think about is sex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:27 PM
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I see many of the posters around here claiming that the women just refuse to date an average guy. There are many ways to measure a person. What about their looks? Their income? The type of car they have? Their house? Their net worth? Assets don't mean much if you have more liabilities than assets. I see a lot of women that focus mainly on a guy's looks or money, but that's mostly at the high school or college level, when most people (men and women) have not yet learned what is truly important in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/17 03:16 PM
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Some people think that sharing problems is a type of bonding. Women tend to desire this more than men. But most women really don't want their SO to fix things, they just want their SO to listen and be sympathetic. Just nod your head and say "You're right dear" and things go much better. :) But on the extreme end of things it's not healthy to expect your SO to deal with all your problems. It gets draining after a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 01:29 PM
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Your tone sounds calm and thoughtful. "We all have biases and use motivated reasoning to dismiss ideas that run counter to our internal values." Most people have bias, some have less bias. My experience comes from 30 years of dealing with people. And I try to get rid of any bias I might have. But in the end, my opinion is still based on my experience, but also the experience of others I have talked to. "I strongly support trying to understand how and why people think the way they do." Yes. "Bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 01:20 PM
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although I expect red pillers would say that it’s the “passive” feminine women who are in short supply these days. I think that all depends how one defines "red pill". Where does red pill begin and where does it stop? Isn't Red Pill a spectrum too? Certainly not all Red Pillers will want a totally passive woman. I'd say most just want a partner that communicates well. A woman who is too passive probably won't communicate well due to being influenced by all her insecurities she has never addresse…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 01:09 PM
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I do however take issue with the amount of hostility women treat me with. I think you might still have anger issues, because not getting the attention you think you deserve is not the same as hostility. Just because you think you deserve something does not mean you do. If you don't like women, and you're straight, don't expect your dating life to go well. There are consequences to your actions and your attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 12:59 PM
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If you code well then don't let anyone say you, as an individual, can't code well. We're just talking group averages here. Group averages do not determine individual actions. A smart manager will keep anyone who does their work well, regardless of who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 12:40 PM
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There are always exceptions to group averages. What would you like to happen to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 03:14 PM
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Because their differences affect how they perceive the world and interact with others. Women tend to be more emotional, for various hormonal and social reasons. That does not mean men do not have emotions. Let's look at group averages between women and men: Men tend to be better at focusing like a laser, but this also means they sometimes don't hear people talking to them. Women are better at managing many things at once. Men are more logical. Women are less logical but more emotional. A good pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 11:18 AM
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(I'm using the common, unwritten definition of "fascism" being more about the control of the media and thought.) I agree. They are switching sides and it's causing confusion. The left is more fascist than ever before with them limiting free speech and attacking people in wheelchairs to support that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 11:09 AM
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Google wants to maintain a PC culture of sexism and racism against white males, in preference to minorities. So I don't approve of firing someone who is against sexism and racism. They are hiring people based on the color of their skin, not their qualifications. That's called racism. Some people want equal opportunities for all. Some want equal outcomes for all. The latter is more heinous as it doesn't place responsibility for success on the individual. That said, technically Google can fire any…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 11:04 AM
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Man here. I agree. Because I also used to be a beta, or whatever you want to call it. When I was shy I didn't get many dates because I appeared unconfident. When I changed all that, and became confident and decisive, I got a lot more dates, and better quality dates. I wouldn't want to date the beta me either! I had to take a honest look at myself to change everything I could and I did. So I stopped whining, got in shape, and went out of my comfort zone to get more confident. A person who does no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:59 AM
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Because observation shows they do have low expectations. And that's why they fail with LTR. They do not understand how LTR works and what is required of both partners, so they can't even seek out what is needed. Schools really need to have a serious class on relationships. A 2-3 week class might do it. I've literally had guy friends tell me they really liked a girl, but can't date her because "she's a part time barista, and has no career aspiration beyond that." That's a valid reason for rejecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:56 AM
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You are confusing low T men get "cranky", and chronic super high T men get more violent more often. So we are both right. But I tried to make a clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:50 AM
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The studies are unclear and the correlation is weak but there is a little correlation between chronic high T levels, poor upbringing, and poor anger control. Problems are not normally 1 dimensional, I think the problem is high T AND poor upbringing which led to poor anger management.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:48 AM
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Anger is how men cry. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:46 AM
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The problem is much more complex, and so is the solution. I agree they have to get it together, but your comment is over simplified and not helpful. I think you are confusing low T men get "cranky" while chronic super high T men get more violent more often. The differences are subtle.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:45 AM
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I'm speaking as a former idealistic shy guy. I understand what guys are going through. But I was determined to make a change in my life and I did. And it worked and I'm much happier. men are naturally more confident and less insecure than women. About some things maybe, but not really about dating. Over generalization is over generalized. I think a lot of women have no clue that men feel as well, Then maybe men should tell them. they say they want a "vulnerable", "emotionally open" just to freak…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:43 AM
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Then go get rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:36 AM
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That's a more clear map. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/17 10:36 AM
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When I start dating, around the 3rd date we discuss compatibility in a range of factors, and that includes what we want in the bedroom. I don't expect anything, I actually talk about what I want. This "adult talk" also tells me if she's capable of having an adult conversation, and actually verbalizing what she wants. If she can't even tell me what she wants, things are not going to progress with me, because I'll eventually end it. I didn't realize until about my 30s that I need sex for intimacy …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:19 PM
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Lots of women told me they prefer my deeper voice rather than my higher voice. It changes somewhat from day to day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:17 PM
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in every human society, women are slightly better off than men are. That's a ridiculous over generalization. Women are much worse off in many Muslim and African and Asian countries. Are women generally better off, relative to their partner, in all aspects apart from the progression of time? That depends on the culture and the perceiver. Men who have trouble getting dates are going to be bitter and biased and just assume, based on just 2-3 years of dating, that women have more power of various ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:13 PM
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I was divorced once and thus neither me nor my parents had the money for another wedding. So I discussed this with my fiance and we decided that she would pay for the wedding, and therefore I would have no basis for complaining about the costs and she couldn't complain how the direction of the napkins I set up didn't exactly point to the current position of Jupiter. I did offer suggestions and brain storms and helped set things up where I could. It worked very well. And we have a pre-nup which e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:09 PM
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The circles represent the ratio of single men to single women in each city. No, the blue circles represent how many men there are vs women, the red circles represent how many women there are vs men. A larger blue circle means there are quite a bit more men than women, i.e. a more unbalanced ratio. It would be more clear if each circle had both red and blue in it, like a pie chart, showing the relative number of men vs women. Random example: In a city of 1 million there are 10,000 more men than w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 07:02 PM
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Over the years I've found that a similar sense of humor is really important. Maybe they will add that choice to the next survey.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:57 PM
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Women are liberated. That means taking equal responsibility for their actions and equal punishment under the same laws. I think the 15 months in prison is fair. SMV: 0. Not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:48 PM
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Affection. I really don't want to snuggle with my friend if I'm 45. Sharing bills. It helps to share costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:41 PM
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This is how I'd put it when looking for LTR: Most women don't have the skills or outlook for a healthy relationship so I'm going to find someone that does have those attributes. Experience shows me that being more choosy makes for a lot higher quality relationships, and more happiness. As for dating, I have to date more people in order to find that great person. Just sitting there being bitter won't magically change someone's dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:24 PM
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I think OP meant "feminine looking with sexy wiles". And this thread all depends on how people define "feminine", and whether that includes being bold or submissive. And I've been to a few strip clubs. They are mostly quiet, shy men, with some men faking confidence by being boorish.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:15 PM
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Women like to be wanted, that's not hard to understand. Women like to be wanted, but not objectified as being only an object. They want to be wanted as a human being that is worthy of love and attention. Men want to be wanted too, but maybe not as much as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:13 PM
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People who are shielded from life's challenges don't develop the skills needed for success. Bingo. I've seen studies on this but I don't have them now. But simple observation of how a parent parents their child tells me a lot. This issue I have seen cross all socioeconomic boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:10 PM
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Most people are not courageous, which is why they never face their demons to fix them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:09 PM
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Both men and women are. Studies support that. Are women becoming more narcissistic because of this behavior, or because Generation X parents tended to raise Millennials and Generation Zers in single-child or two-child families and were given an abnormal amount of attention in infancy and adolescence? It's more complex than that. It's not about the amount of attention, or lack of discipline, it's the kind of attention the kids get year after year after year. If the attention is mostly positive, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 06:01 PM
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I edited my comment. Reload the page and check it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:45 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:43 PM
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Do women really have this problem? Like who doesn't know it's bad to be a naggy, critical bitch? Yes, many do. They don't realize how much they actually nag.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:41 PM
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Encouragement to be nice accommodating non confrontational people pleasers? But do women use their agency to study relationships and psychology to determine what is really best for them in a relationship in order to overcome social conditioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:39 PM
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STFU does nothing to enhance communication or solve a problem. It's just an outburst.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:37 PM
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Forecasting is useless sorcery. What matters is past performance. Past performance is the best indicator of future performance. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:31 PM
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if she has trouble with orgasms it's your fault, if she's not happy it's your fault, if you watch porn or even think about other women you're a creepy pervert. What you are listing are unhealthy traits of women's demands. She is responsible for finding out what she likes in bed, and communicating that to her SO. She is responsible for her own happiness. If she can't handle her man watching a little porn, that's her own insecurities she needs to deal with. If most women are like this, move on and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:30 PM
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Why do they [men] settle for less? (Ltrs not one night stands) Those are men with poor boundaries and a lack of understanding of relationships. I used to be one of those. Now that I turned around my life I'm much happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:26 PM
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Guy here. Mind if I jump in? I like confident, assertive, career-oriented women. But maybe I'm the #edgecase. However I haven't found any that aren't really bitchy. Too many women confuse "assertive" with "bitchy" or "controlling" and those are not the same. Confident women do not bother me because I'm a confident man, and I sometimes enjoy verbally sparring with another confident woman. However, I admit most men don't like confident, assertive women. But there are exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:25 PM
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Man here. Mostly no. As far as money goes, money is tight for most people, so they are expecting too much for the guy to be a model, super fit, and a millionaire. As far as personality traits go, the man should be responsible, and should actually have a history of showing that. Potential is not enough. The man should be loyal and should not cheat. They should make an effort, and get results, improving their communication skills. They should know how to manage money in a practical way. Filing for…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 05:22 PM
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Women expect you to pay for everything I... think that's what I said. It's what I meant anyway. Not all women are like that but most are. It just so happened I increased my luck by finding the personality I liked, and I found a giver who likes to spoil me. Not that I need spoiling, I just wanted equal treatment and for her to buy half the dates. So I married her. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 04:58 PM
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it just seems like a strange juxtaposition to see "it's their fault for not telling me" alongside "it's not my responsibility to look out for others". Ok, that's more clear. If someone doesn't voluntarily tell you something, you can ask, but you can't make them tell you. While you are not expected to read their mind, you can ask them whatever you want to know. it was already happening in the 70s? Yep, and I was right in the middle of it, having no clue how it would affect me in high school or la…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 04:53 PM
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Parenting is a sacrifice, but some people do use children in a selfish way. Some parents expect the children, perhaps unconsciously, to give the parent the love they are missing. As a father I took care of my infant son all alone for 7 days. It wasn't a picnic but nor was it horrible. I had to adjust when I slept to match his nap times, 2 hours at a time. And then we got into a pattern and we were both fine. If I can do it for 7 days, I can do it for any length of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 12:47 PM
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What 'non patriarchal' societies are you comparing them to? The Amazons from the Russian Steppes was a matriarchical society, and it only lasted 100 years. That's only 4 generations, and is probably over estimated. There's also a Native American story of women in a village splitting away from the men and going across the river. But the women couldn't take care of themselves for various reasons. One was they didn't grow enough food because they were busy gossiping.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:55 AM
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How does monogamy and the whole "no sex before marriage" benefit specifically men? Men are supposed to take care of kids that are theirs, from a marriage or not. More kids is a huge financial burden. And if the man doesn't pay for the kid, then the city has to (via welfare). Not having kids means less financial burden on the man, and the city.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:52 AM
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I'd assume removing it would significantly reduce a guys sexual pleasure You would assume wrong. Me and all my friends have no problems in the bedroom. It's very rare that a circumcised man has problems. It does happen though. To make an overgeneralized statement where empirical evidence does not exist is silly. And there is almost no one who remembers anything before the age of 2, much less a circumcision done within weeks of birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:48 AM
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In these patriarchal societies, women's sexuality was more oppressed than that of men. Why? In the Bible and other old writings there are plenty of examples of women cheating, and breaking up families. The purpose was to keep families together by reducing cheating. This doesn't mean a majority of women will cheat. But the cases of women cheating are few, but frequent, and enough to justify controlling sex. However, since men were traditionally the people who earned the money, while the women sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:44 AM
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I'm confused. Are you saying it's ok for women to act like spoiled children when planning a wedding? It's their choice to have an expensive wedding, it's their choice to have this related stress. The criticism is all the more bizarre at a time when men in politics are engaging in regular public tantrums. That's not a man, that's a boy. Let's get definitions correct here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:40 AM
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Instead of putting $5000 into dating men will put $5000 and buy a flesh doll. Women will sit home and complain why no one will ask them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:36 AM
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Women like excitement, they naturally want to be entertained by someone else. Some women have low self-esteem and they think this is all they can get. Some women have a Jesus complex and like fixer-uppers. Some women have poor boundaries, just like some men. Some women don't like the pain of breaking up, just like men. So they stay with bad people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:32 AM
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I will agree with you in general, but there are rare exceptions. The trick is to find those rare exceptions where the mom understands a relationship takes time, and she can balance the kids with the relationship. I've found that the key to happiness is balance and moderation. And not settling on the personality. I want my SO to have a minimum income, but as long as they have a great personality and we have a lot of compatibility, I'm not concerned if they are a millionaire or not. And my second …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:29 AM
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I think there was a LOT of rounding done with those numbers. The circles are either-or. Each circle should have 2 colors representing percentages of men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:26 AM
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OP should lower his standards on looks (to something average) but not on personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:22 AM
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I think /u/cinmacn is talking more about approachability rather than cultural norms. Sounds like the Brits and Germans don't normally make a lot of smalltalk with strangers on the street, but Americans tend to do that a bit more. In America we start a conversation with a stranger if we want, and if it seems they are not interested, it ends there. No muss no fuss, no offense taken. In Charleston North Carolina strangers just offer to help tourists out of the blue who look lost. It's just how they…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:11 AM
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You have to be responsible for your own success because people aren't going to cater to you OR your ego OR how you view the world subjectively. You are not defined by trying you are defined by results. No one cares about try. And this is especially true in the business world. As a person who had a bit of an ego I had to learn this the hard way. Not that I was mean, but I did notice I had an ego I had to get under control in middle school. I understand the extremely difficult predicament of the "…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:07 AM
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I've dated in America and in Canada a bit. I found the Canadian woman much more positive about dating. And I see all the problems you see in America, and I'm GenX! But I just observe the women and see if they act in a mature rational manner. Most don't. That's why I started dating a Canadian in the first place. She didn't treat me (a man) like an ATM machine or the sole source of her entertainment, and she had much better communication skills and other basic adult skills. Ms. Canada even spoiled…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/17 11:01 AM
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I'm a mod in /r/femradebates. We only mod comments that are reported. I can go 5 days without a single reported comment. And if it doesn't technically violate the very simple rules, the comment is reinstated. Disagree all you want just be polite, and be sure to note it's your opinion or experience, and you're fine. Phrasing, and polite dissension, is important for a truly open discussion. I even let a lot of "iffy" stuff through and let the votes decide, rather than ban stuff. That's my style wh…
/r/MensRights17/12/13 11:52 AM
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Show me some love for /r/femradebates!
/r/MensRights17/12/13 11:48 AM
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the problem, at least from my understanding. Is that the most vocal and listened to feminists are the ones that actively hate men and ignore any problems associated with men. More and more people, especially younger people (like on Reddit) get most of their information online. This "vocal minority" online appears to be a majority, and so the extremists become the default definition of feminism. Thus the backlash against anyone using the word "feminism".
/r/MensRights05/12/13 01:05 PM
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The leading reason dads aren't in their kids' lives is that they're not allowed to be there In my case: I could enforce the court order to let me see my son every other weekend, but that would only create more stress in his life as his mom has quite serious anger management problems. Which I could not prove in court. In the US, restraining orders against men are routinely issued without evidence of domestic violence. In most cases, only the word of the woman is needed. Divorce agreement is writt…
/r/MensRights12/11/13 04:28 PM
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there are not as many women that respect men who have the lesser role. I'm curious why you say the child-rearer has the lesser role? It's a very important role no matter who does it. Are you saying this is sort of instinctive for a woman to view a man as caregiver as a beta? I mean, I get that instincts play a part here, we cannot deny that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/13 02:48 PM
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You have to pick one. This is the primary thesis. This is why single moms get so much government aid, I disagree with this part. I grew up in poverty and knew many of these single moms. They are mostly unintelligent, irrational people with little or no common sense. Their kids had nothing to do with them being poor mothers. My own mother was really awful with money. They are nice people, but largely are not very smart and are unwilling to learn or change. One common thing I noticed was these sin…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/13 02:46 PM
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This might help. What do you look for in a mate and why? The initial post says that you can’t have it all; Women cannot have a career, kids, family, and education. My interpretation: If you try to have it all, none of it will be much good. Instead of picking 3 and doing none very well, pick 2 and do them both well. Removing either education or a fruitful career makes the woman less desirable to the best males. Because actual experience shows most women want many material things, and now that the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/13 02:33 PM
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Were we supposed to discuss agreement or disagreement? The writer seems to be making blatant generalizations about both men and women, thus I take the above post with a grain of salt. WHEN A GUY IS FANTASTIC WOMEN (most) ARE A LITTLE AFRAID to make a move. I'm looking for a confident, submissive woman. I test her confidence by various means. If she fails the confidence test, she is not LTR material. Confidence often goes together with good communication. If you don't have the confidence to commu…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/13 02:24 PM
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I would never live in NYC. In this economy it just doesn't make sense financially. If I couldn't afford one kid I wouldn't have one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/13 09:37 PM
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Because after child support and /or alimony they often have to live in a lower-cost neighborhood in a different school district.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 03:59 PM
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Thanks! I didn't know that. Can you add this info to the Posting Rules post?
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/13 01:48 PM
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Can someone explain how the domain "np.reddit.com" works? I've never heard of it. Been on Reddit 18+ months.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/13 01:33 PM
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You deleted the post content so I can't help you. But you have to be tactful on Reddit, many people have thin skin.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/13 01:27 PM
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Real "alpha" males don't care about being alpha. OMG. This. 200%. Real alpha males don't use labels like "alpha".
/r/seduction30/08/13 01:25 PM
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Thank you for that. I've actually had feminists screaming in my face on a college campus, in their usual irrational way, so I was a bit defensive with that statement. However I wanted to add, that when she does stuff for me, it makes me happy, and I WANT to do stuff for her. That's just how I react. I'm still getting used to the female submissive mentality, but I'm gradually accepting it, because it just works better, and is better for the family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/13 09:47 PM
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They are actually making fun of the "gender choice" people.
/r/MensRights23/07/13 03:57 PM
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Ah, I see. If the person's physique is too far from the character's, then the costume really doesn't work well, does it.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 03:02 PM
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Here's the text: My favourite part is how this sexist graphic inadvertently illustrates why feminism is a serious and necessary movement and “men’s rights" is a fucking joke. "MRAs" have the luxury of “calmly explaining their points" because they aren’t actually being oppressed at all. It’s a calm (non-)issue. They’re not being actively hurt. They’re not living in a society that marginalizes and erases them and blames them for the assaults and rapes they suffer. They’re the most privileged, high…
/r/MensRights09/07/13 12:49 PM
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Um...part of talking is defending your views, to educate the other side, not convince them or forcibly convert them. I think we need to keep in mind that the majority of feminists we hear about want to demand unequal rights, not talk about issues. They are simply the vocal majority. Even in 18 months on Reddit only 2 feminists have told me they support equal rights for men and women. Two.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 12:43 PM
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Are you wanting something more moderate, gender-neutral and egalitarian? Because mensrights is mostly venting and documenting negative cases. That's part of the process of awareness and healing and is perfectly valid, but it does get tiring sometimes. The positive articles in MR are quite a relief.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 12:42 PM
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Just to play Devil's Advocate: Why should people be shamed for having fun without a perfect physique? I'm not sure you are supporting shaming or just observing the phenomena.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 12:37 PM
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Stop false rape accusations I'm glad the other girl defended you, and the crazy girl got kicked out. People need to take more action to stop this type of thing.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 12:34 PM
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Lol. It's ok. I just sort of figured you knew we were mostly a bit sarcastic and a bit dark in Men's Rights.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 03:14 PM
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Exactly. There are several laws in place to do this, and the cyclical manufacturing industry makes it worse.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:57 PM
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Sorry, I didn't mean to make you as an ass. I think we both see the inequity of the divorce laws, and that's what I meant to convey. It's a pretty depressing situation because no politician will change the divorce laws, because that would be political suicide. Michigan is also a no-fault state. But that has nothing to do with child support amounts, and little to do with alimony amounts. (In some cases infidelity might help the alimony case.) As a result I really can't see any way that you can sa…
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:56 PM
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We were so poor we couldn't get welfare. That's why I'm good with money now. And my $350 basically reflects my spending habits now.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:45 PM
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I think you misunderstood. You were commenting on how bad divorce laws allow your friend to be an ass, and get money for it. I was also commenting on bad divorce laws.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:40 PM
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Lol. I had to laugh. I think $350usd per month is reasonable for one kid these days. But that should be the base amount that both people split, based on their incomes.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:39 PM
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First let me explain. Michigan base child support is the amount that the state says a child absolutely needs to survive and both incomes are used to calculate this via a table. Then the couple divides that amount based on their salaries. I paid less than that in the end. Because her income was twice what mine was, that pushed the base child support quite high. And so, my point is, the amount the state thinks the child needs for necessities, is by far, much more than the child actually needs. My …
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:32 PM
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Michigan base child support was 75% of my take home pay. And I earn MUCH less than the average American household of $54k. The divorce laws are not really equitable.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 02:24 PM
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I think we've gotten way to far into the politically correct/coddling thing. As a man it's not my fault most women can't speak up for themselves. As a man it's not my fault their mothers taught their daughters to be silent in the face of abuse. As a man it's not my fault women's lady friends encourage them to stay with a guy they are not compatible with and "hope he changes". As a man there are many things that are just not my fault.
/r/MensRights16/04/13 12:01 PM
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You forgot about how women force men into gender roles they don't want by assuming the man will pay for everything. The issue here is, women don't want men to force women into gender roles, yet most women do it to men. Another way to put it is, most women objectify men as nothing more than a wallet, in the realm of who pays for dates, and unreasonable child support.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 02:41 PM
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Sorry to hear that OP. I was homeless as a kid also. Just some stats for you. Homeless study 2003 stats (keep in mind the demographics have shifted somewhat since the depression of 2007): Under age 18: 39% Unaccompanied minors: 5% Single males: 67.5% All single homeless: 76% (2007 US Conference of Mayors) Persons with severe mental illness: 26% Single homeless persons with addiction: about 30% 2006 US Conference of Mayors African American: 42% White: 38% Hispanic: 20% Native American: 4% 2010 An…
/r/MensRights08/04/13 02:27 PM
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but as soon as a therapist/psychologist/counselor (went through too many to count) tells her something she doesn't want to hear, she stops going so she was never formally diagnosed. Yep, That's very common with BPD or a sociopath. Denial is a hallmark of BPD and a sociopath. My ex was a sociopath.
/r/MensRights05/04/13 11:19 AM
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Yep. BPD.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 11:08 PM
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"Social Services" is my generic name for anything to do with social services or Child Protective Services. Different states name it different things. So, they are the same.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 06:27 PM
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I can only comment on US "feminism". It's great! Women get huge cash settlements from a divorce, so there's no reason to stay married.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:26 PM
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Holy flaming shitballs!
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:24 PM
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Call social services for the town your daughter is in. Tell them the situation. SS will help you get temporary custody. Your wife just abandoned your kid, you need to get custody of her. You need to pick up your daughter ASAP. Leave work if you have to. Now. Call SS on the way there. Take 2 days off. Meet SS where the daughter is. Bring with you any divorce papers, child support orders, any documents relating to the care of your daughter. Show them to the police or social services.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:23 PM
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I think "feminism" is defined differently in each country. In the US "feminism" means women should have MORE rights than men. Which they currently do. Female privilege in the US from the Men's Rights sidebar.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:14 PM
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Two loving parents are always better than one, if only to spread out the work. But i think it helps if one parent is feminine and nurturing, and the other is more masculine who helps the boys (and girls) take more risks and learn from that. Girls need to have fathers who will help them take risks, defeat their fears of crayfish, and be proud of that accomplishment (defeating that fear). I met this little girl at a park, about age 8, while me and my son were catching crayfish in a stream. She sai…
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:09 PM
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Here's my view: a child doesn't need a man and a woman to raise him. He needs a feminine nurturing personality, and a masculine personality to raise him. It's not about gender, it's about 2 personalities that balance each other out. The 2 personalities teach the child different things.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 02:02 PM
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My boyfriend had to teach me to not try to kiss my son's "boo boo's" at the skatepark in front of his buddies lol. And to let go a little bit and let him skin his knees once in a while. This is one of the main differences between how men and women raise boys. Boys need to learn by skinning their knees sometimes. They will remember the pain, and not be so careless. I let my son take age appropriate risks. When he was 3 I didn't let him run in a huge parking lot to get hit by a car. But when he wa…
/r/MensRights04/04/13 01:59 PM
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The message these women are sending to young boys is that they are unwanted, unnecessary, and less important than the girls sitting next to them. It was the same message sent to me in the 1970s and 1980s and 1990s.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 01:57 PM
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Thank you. Your positive balanced attitude as a woman is important to show here.
/r/MensRights04/04/13 01:54 PM
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Guy here raised by a single mom who actively kept me away from my dad. My mom was bitter about everything, she just happened to focus it all on my dad. I didn't let that get to me and today she is out of my life completely. She is mentally ill and I don't let drama in my life. (She has a mental illness which is one of the most difficult to treat.)
/r/MensRights04/04/13 01:54 PM
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Read the bullet points in the article. Now compare them to the bullet points of a sociopath. See any overlap?
/r/MensRights24/03/13 12:59 PM
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I didn't know a judge could override the jury's decision in a jury trial. Did the judge have to do this before the jury officially announced its verdict? Is this only true in some US states?
/r/MensRights24/03/13 12:57 PM
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Whenever I read something on the internet, I assume it's an opinion, and I never assume they mean "all" or "never". It's just their viewpoint. Or maybe, in their experience, it WAS all women did X. Who am I to say they didn't experience things in that way? But then again, memory can be selective. The brain tends to remember negative things as a sort of survival mechanism. "Is this plant poisonous? Can I touch it or should I leave it alone?" "Is this animal going to bite or eat me? Should I run a…
/r/MensRights24/03/13 12:49 PM
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Women are taught every man is a potential rapist. So for equality's sake, every woman is capable of this. But will they actually do it? Not if you give her everything she wants.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:24 PM
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You guys don't seem to understand that in SOME states, the officers don't need evidence to arrest the man, all the need is the claims of an emotional woman. Just CLAIMING Domestic Violence (DV) the officer HAS to arrest the man, the officer has no choice in the matter. The point is to separate the two people and do an investigation. Meanwhile the man is in jail, and could get fired for not showing up to work.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:21 PM
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Sorry to hear that.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:20 PM
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That's what my divorce lawyer said too. Which is why he went in detail to explain to me exactly what Battery and Assault were, and how judges treat those 2 laws. Because the laws are vague, you have to know how the judges generally use the law.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:19 PM
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Don't all men in England pay child support if the woman asks the court for it? In the US, base child support is often very high. Depends on the state. My base amount was 75% of my take home pay after taxes. I can't live on that, not even at a homeless shelter.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:15 PM
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Men are often ruined by child support. Paying child support is not the same as "walking away from parenthood". Some on Askwomen tell men, if they don't want kids, use a condom. Besides, if she didn't want kids, she should use birth control. Equality and all.
/r/MensRights09/03/13 04:14 PM
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That thread illustrates the typical female unequal, entitled opinion. No wonder men don't want commitment. Who can commit to someone they don't respect?
/r/TheRedPill08/03/13 04:48 PM
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Wow. I'm still new to the Red Pill stuff, but I agree with your evaluation. This woman only thought of the short-term and herself. She never thought about getting a compatible personality in a man to prepare for when her looks meant little or nothing. She wanted kids, I bet he had some money, you need money for kids, BAM, time to get married. Her short sightedness early in life is biting her in the ass now.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/13 04:37 PM
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Video was taken down.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:45 PM
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Huh. "Hate group" must be defined as something that is not politically correct, or has some passion behind it, or is controversial. New ideas are usually controversial. Thinking the earth was round was controversial, but people got over it.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:43 PM
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Just my opinions: Are men capable of loving women in an idealized/unconditional way without qualifications? ie a bad facial burn, medical condition, talking plainly about unsexy aspects of being female, the woman's looks fade, etc... Depends on the guy. Everyone is different. I could deal with certain scars but not major disfiguring. Can men appreciate the sacrifices women make? ie child birth, cleaning and other shitty chores I can appreciate it. That doesn't mean I'm going to give up equality …
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:38 PM
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Wow. Lots of good reviews for this book. Some of the top reviews were from women! Might be worth $20.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:33 PM
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how to I make the changes and manage what I am sure will be the greatest battle of my life (lol) trying to wrestle back the power that I have given to her and she has taken advantage of? You don't wrestle at all, you simply change your mindset. Tell yourself, "Her happiness does not determine my happiness." She is responsible for HER happiness, you are not. If she's pissed, don't take any yelling or abuse, just leave. Leave the house for a few hours. Come back and don't talk to her. She's a libe…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:27 PM
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Just wanted to pop in here and say I, a man, filed for divorce because I refused to put up with her unreasonable idiocy any longer. I guess I'm in the minority? Or maybe I'm not a pushover? Oh yeah. And I thought the rumors were exaggerated. Know what she did with the child support? Went to Europe, got granite countertops, and bought a new car. This happens people, this is not fiction. It happened to me.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/13 11:13 PM
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I agree with you orsini, but I also agree with JabCross. JabCross is allowed to have, and express, his own emotions. He might be more passionate about this than other people (maybe he was raped physically or financially) and you should allow for that. However your advice is still good advice to remember.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:31 PM
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Your gf sounds very immature and insensitive. Do you think you can help her understand your situation? I'm very sorry for what happened to you and I'm not going to laugh at you. However I have more fight in me and I would have lifted up the table to slide off the handcuffs. Was this possible in this situation? I'm not trying to be insensitive, I'm just really curious. Also I know a few lesbians. Most of them...are not my type. And I wouldn't want a threesome with them.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:26 PM
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WTF? Did you see the comments on this page? Did you see how many posters liked the idea and said how great Chengdu was?
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:23 PM
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I think it's horrible that women are treated badly in ANY country. The problem seems especially bad in Islamic countries, and African countries. (Some African countries happen to be Islamic, some are not.) Do you think there is a men's right problem in other countries? In African countries where the men force young boys to be in the their gangs (they call them "armies"), yes there's a problem. The boys often have to join, or be killed.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:19 PM
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It's experimental and mostly plays on what I see as the slanted writing/propaganda tactics of popular feminist media. You're not the only one who sees this. Most thinking, rational people can see it too. But not all speak out against it.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:17 PM
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I see your point about a dysfunctional cultural mindset. Sometimes I just explain things by accepting that some adults in charge are psychopathic assholes.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:15 PM
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What happened to moderate, rational thinking? Is that extinct too? Does the Men's Rights Movement have to go "in your face medieval style" to get any results?
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:09 PM
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Hello, I came from a divorced home where the courts ripped me away from my father and allowed my mother to prevent visitation (back in the 1970s this was perfectly legal in Michigan). However I came out fine. I'm a responsible citizen, have a college degree, full time job, my own house, and I like kids. I'm a pretty nice guy actually. Oh yes. Now I'm away from my mom, I have a strong relationship with my father.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:06 PM
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The law above I think, is less about slut-shaming men and more about preventing them from committing adultery. The law is actually quite sexist, because it implies that women don't have the faculties to control themselves, and so are exempt from the adultery law. You will notice the law talks about men committing adultery, not women. Instead, we have "creep shaming" when a man just doesn't measure up to a woman's version of visual perfection in a dating atmosphere, like a bar. (Not that there ar…
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:02 PM
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Only 2 "sex crimes" are a "pattern"? Shouldn't the courts also use drug, alcohol and violence charges from this past also?
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:43 AM
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because I felt that although I wanted his actions to be legally recognised, I wouldn't have been pleased to see him locked in prison and entirely ruin his life. Now I see. Yes you are right. There need to be different levels. But penetration is penetration. If you report it he's going to prison. That's like Sexual Misconduct First Degree. In Michigan there are several levels of Sexual Misconduct. If I bump a girl's butt on a crowded dance floor, because I'm a man I can be charged with one of the…
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:37 AM
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Hey OP, I'm not picking on you. I'm going to outline red flags so other people can avoid this sitation. I've become very familiar with relationships and psychology over the years. Sorry this happened to you OP. I was also in a similar abusive marriage. I was glad to get a divorce though I lost almost everything. I was just very lonely, smitten and had convinced myself that was what I wanted. Glad you recognized this in yourself. But try to recognize it sooner. Don't make big decisions based on e…
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:30 AM
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OP, thank you for understanding these things. I am mostly frustrated that many women don't take the time to even attempt to understand what men face. Really, we're not a bunch of bad guys. We just want equality. But sometimes we do have to vent. Surely you can understand that. :)
/r/MensRights04/03/13 12:16 AM
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Most lawyers in my area require a retainer (money up front).
/r/MensRights28/02/13 09:24 PM
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I'm serious. Lots of bizarre luxuries are factored into child support amounts.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:56 PM
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I don't argue with the mentally unstable.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:20 PM
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The oppression for men is different, and in different contexts, but it is still there.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:18 PM
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Men buy beer and women buy wine. Whenever I read this on the internet, in my head I fix it to say The trend is men buy beer and women buy wine. But many people read it literally and have a cow.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:15 PM
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Most communes in the 1960s and 1970s with the goal of total self-sufficiency collapsed because these were mostly middle-class kids who had no idea how to garden. They didn't even know you had to water the seeds! (I saw this in a documentary. It might have been on Youtube.)
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:13 PM
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If there were only women, who would open pickle jars? Who would kill spiders? There would be far from enough woman mechanics. Who would reshingle a roof in 105F July heat? The few women who would do these things are the exceptions, not the rule.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:11 PM
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I don't think all women are gold-diggers. However I already lost most of my life savings from a divorce. Marriage is simply too much risk for me due to local divorce laws. I still hope to find a woman who has basic relationship skills, and is a good, loyal person. I'm still looking because, these days, that's a really tall order in America. I'm even for child support. I'm just against the crazy-high amounts that courts dictate because the amounts have no basis in reality. No one died because the…
/r/MensRights28/02/13 06:07 PM
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I totally agree. In the 1980s I couldn't even say a women looked nice, because that was sexual harassment, and I could be fired for a first offense.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:44 PM
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They have an incredibly low opinion of people, UNLESS the person adheres to a quite narrow ideology. Just like religious zealots.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:43 PM
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Thanks for being supportive! A non-thinking person will usually be threatened by a thinking person because a thinking person has facts to back them up.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:40 PM
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Men have no legal right to abort a fetus, yet they have the right to pay child support. Regardless of if he wanted the child or not, he still has to pay child support, even if he's not the bio father. Non-bio dad pays child support for 1000 years
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:36 PM
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Your mom is a nut and I hope you aren't too screwed up to have a normal relationship.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:33 PM
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I wouldn't go with a state-appointed lawyer. They are generally way over worked and really low quality, especially in Michigan.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:26 PM
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Holy shit! I'd encourage them to call the police and when the police got there, remind the nice crazy ladies how false police reports are illegal and an abuse of limited resources.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:08 PM
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It's happened to me. While taking my son to the playground, a toddler would often wander by. I'd wave to him/her and try to be friendly. The mother would see me and immediately rush over with this horrified look on her face and take the child away. It happened a lot. Because of the misandry I face I have to be very careful never ever to invite the neighbor kids into my house. It could really blow up in my face. My one neighbor knows me well, for 7 years. But still, one can never be too careful.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 05:04 PM
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This is a concept direct from 1970s extreme feminists. So, what exactly is the point here? That Krazy Chicks(tm) still believe this stuff? There will always be crazy people.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:53 PM
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"Phi Alpha Tau fraternity". Anyone remember the gender neutral Saturday Night Live character Pat?
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:49 PM
2

How about a comparison of wife vs husband abuse. On one side, the wife has a black eye, and the husband is being led away in handcuffs by police. On the other side, the man has a black eye, and cops are pointing and laughing at him, and the woman has a smug look on her face. Caption: "Abuse is abuse, no matter who does it" or "This is not equality."
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:41 PM
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I like the third pic about dads encouraging kids to get out more and try again. Many moms won't let their kids take ANY risk, and prevent the kids from learning via experience. A sad place to be in.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:39 PM
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Low testosterone looks exactly like depression: persistent fatigue, grouchiness, irritability, short fuse, frustrated easily, sadness. This is why old men sleep a lot and complain. They have low T.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:35 PM
1

Oh! "Militant!" I get it. This woman "subtype" is not real common, but when guys get together to talk, she gets a lot of "talk time" just because she is so extreme.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:31 PM
1

It takes money to sue. Not everyone has enough to sue. That's the problem. Justice is only for the rich.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:22 PM
1

How do men know that if men don't hear about moderate feminists? This sounds like a Public Relations issue.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:16 PM
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SOME men joke about rape and imply it's ok. This attitude was prevalent in in the late 1980s in my social circles and other social circles. Apparently it's still around. In the late 1980s this attitude was most common in college social frats and college jocks. Source: my actual experience as a guy
/r/MensRights28/02/13 04:02 PM
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It terrifies me to know how deep the ideology of rape culture runs, that otherwise intelligent, fairly open-minded individuals - almost all male Um, guy here. Almost all the douche bags I knew in high school and college were male. Some guys were just raised wrong, and are just assholes. These assholes are the ones with the immature and highly ignorant view of rape culture that you are seeing. And, it so happens that most of them come from middle-class or higher families. (There's correlation, no…
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:58 PM
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OP, are you talking just about who gets primary custody by default? Or are you talking about who pays for child support? In most cases, since most fathers are poor, child support will ruin him financially. I mention this because actual CS amounts do not reflect actual expenses for raising a child. CS is much higher than reality. I'm not opposed to child support, I'm opposed to unrealistic amounts of CS.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:51 PM
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Society, and how the law is applied to women, teach women they don't have to be responsible for their bad behavior. It's "female privilege." It could be mental illness. And men are convenient to blame. As a guy in public school I was surrounded by assholes every day. Those men are still assholes, but I don't have to be around them anymore. It could be hormones. Anyone whose hormones are way off are going to act way extreme. I couldn't believe how much better I felt after I got my testosterone to…
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:43 PM
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This was assault, plain and clear. Intention is irrelevant. "Oops I didn't mean to rob that store and shoot 3 people. Hee hee." I've done stupid things when I was young, but never assault. Not all people are that stupid.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:38 PM
1

A local radio station reports the girl was NOT thrown out of the show.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:37 PM
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Disclaimer: I'm not a lawyer and this is not legal advice. Never assume she's on birth control. Never assume she's telling the truth about BC. If you don't have a vasectomy, wrap your willy. That was your first mistake. A vasectomy is only $600 without insurance. Do not sign the birth certificate. Demand a paternity test no matter how much she cries or begs. Sign nothing until the test is complete. Never presume the child is yours. Do not pay child support. If you do this is an admission that yo…
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:30 PM
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Hello. I had really low testosterone. I was angry and frustrated a lot. When I got on testosterone medication, I was much happier and confident. Not more racist or judgmental at all. With normal T levels I was much more level-headed, more tolerant, more positive and happy. This article is FOS. Finally, an issue where I've been on both sides and I can debunk the article. Also, I'm still on T, and I still look younger than I am, and I still have a boyish face. Again, this article is FOS. T levels …
/r/MensRights28/02/13 03:07 PM
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You cannot take legal action against a judge for a decision they make. However, they can be censured (get a letter in their file) by other judges...who are their buddies.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 02:50 PM
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"Patch (the defendant) will serve no jail time, probably due to her gender." Is a partial victory still a victory?
/r/MensRights28/02/13 02:48 PM
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I agree with you, but there are SOME laws where judges are given tremendous leeway in interpreting or enforcing the law. In these cases some judges do choose to be assholes. I think the defendant got a fair deal here, relative to other states' laws. The defendant will never pay the full amount, and the mother does not deserve it either.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 02:45 PM
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Thank you for bringing this up. These crazy laws need to be made public. If Parsons had not signed the birth certificate, he wouldn't be here. But he did, and the judge is holding Parsons responsible for the promise he made 13 years ago. Also, in Michigan if the father doesn't sign the birth cert, is he off the hook for child support? What about in other states? Just curious. In Michigan, bankruptcy will not erase any CS arrears. Your arrears follow you for life.
/r/MensRights28/02/13 02:41 PM
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One way is I talk about usually taboo topics, like sex, around the second date. Vanilla sex. Her answer will tell me if she has insecurities, or can't even talk about adult topics. We are adults, we need to talk about adult topics in a frank manner. If she shies away from an answer, she is not right for me. Good communication is the foundation for a good relationship. Or we might talk about our spending habits. She needs to understand that I put money in my retirement before I spend money on lux…
/r/TheRedPill27/02/13 08:04 PM
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I don't know what you want. The questions are in my comment above. And I'm asking for answers from other people. Here are my questions again. Where do I find a good, solid women that isn't a prude in bed? Should I pay for the Eharmony website? Is it worth the cost?
/r/TheRedPill27/02/13 07:52 PM
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First, her throwing things has to stop. It often gets expensive. Other than that, call me brainwashed, but her net value is not so bad. At least at some point she realizes her tantrum was bad AND makes up for it. My sticking point would be, did she apologize verbally, and say "I'm sorry"? The other thing is, if you guys are spending money on all these dinners and drinks, do you have the money to spend? Is the spending done realistically? A person addicted to shopping/gambling/spending will kill …
/r/TheRedPill27/02/13 07:06 PM
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Pretty girls are a pain, but each individual has her own reasons for being a pain. This does not change the trend that most pretty girls are a pain.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/13 07:03 PM
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OP, about 2 years ago I made very similar changes to yours. I have good solid boundaries and I don't tolerate "snowflake princesses" or abusive relationships anymore. I know what questions to ask, and I listen to the girls' answers carefully to determine if we should continue to date. Yes there are good women out there. But where do I find them? Been on (free) dating websites for 3 years, there are very nice women, but the ones that reply to me are all fat. I'm not attracted to fat women. Where …
/r/TheRedPill27/02/13 07:01 PM
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Thank you for answering, Jack. But I'll be honest. I'm a kinky SOB and a church lady just won't work for me. To me, "traditional values" means really boring vanilla sex, and I can't handle that. I'm a man. In the bedroom I take what I want, I'm not nice about it, and I need a woman who gets that. (All consensual of course.)
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:57 PM
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The label "girlfriend" doesn't necessarily mean you are exclusive. Are you two dating exclusively?
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:52 PM
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Ok, I'll agree on that. Once I exclude my Reddit experience, and look at the girls I dated, the majority of women weren't insecure. About 30% of them were noticeably insecure, but almost all seemed to get their dating advice from the 1950s.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:50 PM
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Hi Jack, I'm divorced, in my 40s, and have been dating with very little luck. I can't find a single local girl that I like, and girls from other towns, states, and even other countries, though are generally very much what I want in a healthy, equal relationships, can't move to be with me. What else should I look for in a woman? Where can I find solid women?
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:47 PM
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Hi, I'm a fellow American man in his 40s, and I hear ya. The quality of single women my age is really, really bad. All I ask for is an equal, healthy relationship. Even that seems to be asking for too much. I won't steal your depression, so I'll leave it at that.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:39 PM
1

Several of my grandparents have lived at a retirement home. I've never seen an obese person at any retirement home anywhere. I can only assume they die before they retire, or close to retirement age.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:36 PM
2

Narcissistic (from Google): "Inflating one's self-importance." How can women be narcissistic if they have such deep-seated insecurities as a trend?
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:35 PM
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I'm in my 40s. I have found my very first girl that wants to pay for dinners, and she did it all by herself, and she's persistent about it. They are a rare breed. Girls don't want to be used like a piece of meat, I don't want to be used like an ATM machine.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/13 07:31 PM
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You can't force a mentally ill adult to get help in the US unless they are a clear danger to themselves or others. That generally means they need to attempt to kill themselves or others before the police will step in. (Actual experience of friends and relatives.) Many people who are mentally ill don't realize it and refuse treatment, so they don't get better. He needs to legally protect himself since the law won't. Many states in the US assume that the guy is guilty of domestic assault, before t…
/r/MensRights25/01/13 06:07 PM
1

I have to give some serious credit to her mom for calling her daughter's behavior disgraceful, and apologizing for it. Because that would never happen in Murica. Usually the mom defends the brat.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 07:45 PM
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Canada has some common sense. Can you send some to the US? We ran out. Thanks.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 07:43 PM
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Your wife sounds mentally ill. I'd get a divorce. It's better than going to jail. Disclaimer: I'm divorced in Michigan. Michigan laws used to be like this in the 1970s, when my dad was arrested without proof of domestic violence. The law required them to arrest THE MAN, regardless of proof presented. I think that part of the law has improved since then though.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 07:35 PM
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Thank you very much for doing this. I'm divorced in Michigan. When I heard the many divorce horror stories from friends and family I just thought it was all a bunch of bitter men bitching. How wrong I was, because I went through it myself, and lost most of my life savings to child support. Michigan has super high child support amounts, that was the worst part in my case. Items needed: Some divorced guys (or guys that have just moved out and started a divorce) need 1-2 months of low-cost shelter …
/r/MensRights19/01/13 10:34 PM
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TIL Sweden is just like Michigan for divorce laws. This will not stop until men stop getting married.
/r/MensRights19/01/13 10:27 PM
1

You need to call a news station and publicize how racist the school system is. Frankly, the board of education (for the district) doesn't care unless the media gets involved.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 03:33 PM
0

Thanks. I have learned about myself a lot and now I know how to find people who are compatible with me, and I'm meeting some very nice people. What did you want pointers about? Reddit has topics for just about everything.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 02:09 PM
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Thanks. Sorry if I sounded bitter, but actually I'm not. I got through it and I started a new chapter in my life. But I wanted to warn people just how bad it is in Michigan. It's pretty bad. It's not an exaggeration. When I hear about child support from other states I am shocked by how low it is compared to Michigan. Even my lawyer sounded a bit angry about how unfair the whole system is. But he was just trying to tell me how real it was, to protect me, which was his job.
/r/MensRights16/01/13 01:26 PM
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Thanks for the comments. My lawyer said to me "Keep your mouth shut and don't ask for anything extra, you will not win. Just get through the divorce and get it finalized." Thankfully, my pro-equal rights lawyer is now a FOC referree.
/r/MensRights27/12/12 02:13 PM
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Thanks, I just read the law. I did not know I got to chose the makeup date. Things could get interesting now.
/r/MensRights26/12/12 02:36 PM
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Just don't get divorced in Michigan, that's all. Michigan seems to be one of the worst places I've heard of.
/r/MensRights26/12/12 02:30 PM
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It's my understanding as a layperson that the F.O.C. is supposed to give makeup parenting time unless it's not in the best interests of the child. You are correct. My point was, this rule allows the custodial parent (usually the woman) to violate a court order at will with no repercussions. That is a problem. When even a court order has no weight, that is a systemic problem which affects, not only divorced people, but business as well. If Michigan won't enforce a court order, why would Michigan …
/r/MensRights23/12/12 12:31 PM
0

Have you ever had experience with FOC in Michigan?
/r/MensRights21/12/12 12:10 AM
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FOC actually is the ONLY option. If you have a disagreement with your ex, or they don't follow the court order, here are the steps you must take to resolve this. Talk between yourselves (rarely works). You need to prove this before you go to the next step. Meet with a FOC worker for "mediation". They will almost always agree with the custodial parent, which is almost always the woman. If mediation doesn't work, you can go to court to see a referree/judge.
/r/MensRights20/12/12 12:50 PM
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Lol. Well, that's a new one to me!
/r/MensRights20/12/12 12:05 PM
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In Michigan it's around age 10-12. But in any case, the FOC will side with the child, which means FOC sides with the woman.
/r/MensRights20/12/12 12:24 AM
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I read it, thanks. But I did not sign up to marry, or fix, an adolescent twat. I'm just glad I'm divorced.
/r/MensRights20/12/12 12:22 AM
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No. FOC is the alternative.
/r/MensRights20/12/12 12:18 AM
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It depends. FOC has "rules" which override what is in the DA/Court Order. So, for visitation denial, the non-custodial parent who was denied visitation simply files a "complaint". Michigan officials say they try to address the issue without the courts getting involved. But this has side effects: no real punishment for the woman means violations continue, and the Divorce Agreement/court orders have no meaning in Michigan.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 07:16 PM
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Mother of Adam Lanza Reportedly A Doomsday Survivalist Great. Now the media is going to blame everything on survivalists, ie "people who have one camping stove".
/r/MensRights19/12/12 06:04 PM
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I'd be interested in stats about the many mass shootings in the US over the past 10 years. How many of the young shooters were in single mother households?
/r/MensRights19/12/12 04:08 PM
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Apparently about 1/5 kids in the UK are in single parent households. Google search terms: [kids born to single mothers] 36.8% of kids in the US are now born to single mothers. Page 1, first paragraph. From US CDC: 40.8% of births are to single mothers. US CDC PDF, Non-married child bearers: see graph about trends over time page 1.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 03:39 PM
1

If you get RES, you can use the Users menu, and User tagger to ignore users. Try it. Tag them with their own username, and ignore that tag. RES wiki here I have RES on a Win PC, not sure if it's for smartphones or not. Also try Reddit Investigator to get info on a Reddit user. It's fun.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 01:59 PM
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What Is it About Men That They're Committing These Horrible Massacres? I think one part is "Permissive Moms". I've both met and dated a few women who are "permissive moms", which means they don't understand what discipline is, and they think being permissive is loving their kids. It's not. If you loved your kids you would discipline them appropriately, so they can learn self-control, and how to constructively vent feelings without shooting the place up. Boys, as a group, tend to be more trouble …
/r/MensRights19/12/12 01:32 PM
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I don't follow Jezebel, though I've read her once or twice. What does the image mean?
/r/MensRights19/12/12 01:29 PM
2

I'm a pretty fit guy. Why can't I be at the booth in a tiny bathing suit along with a scantily clad girl, so we can get eyeballs from both sexes?
/r/MensRights19/12/12 01:27 PM
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80% of child criminals in the UK are living with their single mothers. Isn't that intersting? Interesting fact, yes. I was a child of a divorced (single) mom. I don't see many problems with children of single moms with my generation (I'm in my 40s). It seems to be the younger generations. They seem to have different values, or fewer values, and fewer boundaries, as a trend.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 01:13 PM
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My son looks around and he sees bitchy, arrogant, malicious women. He sees spoiled greedy women. He sees financially irresponsible women. He sees lazy undisciplined women. (Yes, even in the military; they had to lower the standards so more women could “serve.”) He sees overweight women wearing unflattering clothes that display muffin tops and rolls of fat, who drool over his biceps while telling him that “looks aren’t important.” It's the same thing that I see. Most women I see on dating sites h…
/r/MensRights19/12/12 12:58 PM
2

Glad the guy got a purple heart.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 12:52 PM
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I agree. The image totally did not address issues of rank, time in service, and type of job, combat pay, etc.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 12:52 PM
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