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ADVICEteammeli/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 05:29 PM
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ADVICEteammeli/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 03:43 PM
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get a summer job on Nantucket
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/26 01:52 AM
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tell him he can wear dresses and skirts since he wants to be a kept woman and sahm
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/25 07:14 AM
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but yet you weren’t invited or considered? no. these people are not friends
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/24 03:23 AM
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girl come on
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 02:41 PM
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you’re describing suburbia
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 11:19 AM
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holy shit right
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 12:29 AM
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are we collecting marriage proposals now? lol
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 02:02 AM
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People show you who they are. You can talk about this til you’re blue in the face but unacceptable behavior (yes OP this is extremely unacceptable) speaks much louder. Is there a point addressing this with him? Is there enough of a reason for him to give you excuse this behavior? For me, there wouldn’t be. What is understood doesn’t need to be explained…respect, good manners, appropriate behavior with important family members and elders. You can’t teach that, nag it into him or explain it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/22 01:13 AM
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you cannot fix him or change this. only he can. stop making excuses and trying to paint these traits in a way where he looks decent, because he isn’t. this borders on verbal and emotionally abusive. abuse victims often blame themselves or work very hard to fix the behavior when it’s not yours to fix. he’s 40. he will only change with enough desperation, awareness and willingness. which would probably only happen after everyone leaves him which would be a natural consequence of his actions.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 12:39 PM
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bc who uses the term “femme fatale” outside of romance novels and black and white films?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 12:42 AM
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he sounds like a tool
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 01:27 PM
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She lost me on that one bc if that scenario ever happened to me, my husband would basically react like most people and say, why the fuck didn’t you tell me ?! Sitting there passively feels just strange to do in that example
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 02:51 AM
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i disagree, i don’t think it’s inappropriate for a therapist to manage OP’s expectations for her chronic depression. What might be implied in that statement is that like any other chronic illness, it’s expected to be managed over a lifetime, not that she is hopeless.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 12:31 PM
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girl, get ahold of yourself and wake up! you’re questioning whether someone who IGNORES you in public is normal??? please, read your post over again and truly ask yourself what you think is happening here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 12:37 AM
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OP have you considered posting this question in a mom/new parent group on here ? to get a non RPW response ? It might be wise to post for their perspective, as being a new mom is a universal experience regardless of RP stance. Just a thought! Try /newparents or /beyondthebump
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 10:40 PM
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I was a bit alarmed when you referred to your husband doing basic tasks as “taking a big step”. This isn’t taking a big step, it’s doing basic parenting stuff. I wonder if there’s a subconscious reason that you have done all the caretaking thus far, meaning that you instinctively didn’t trust him?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 01:15 AM
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yup
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/22 12:40 PM
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this is not cute. he’s not lying to impress you, he’s lying to make himself sound better and seem more appealing. he also sounds exhausting. this is weird and major 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/22 01:42 PM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼THIS is the response, OP! Don’t read anything else it will only confuse you and dilute this pure AF message
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 11:55 PM
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what is the purpose of posting this? yes, it’s a shitty situation but what value does this kind of conversation have here? feels a bit mean to pick this apart IMO
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 10:54 AM
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good luck finding a dude who doesn’t do this😂
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 11:00 AM
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This man is verbally and emotionally abusive. Google “signs I’m dating a narcissist”. This is classic love bombing followed by making you work for his affection and approval by cutting you down.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 01:41 AM
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wtf is this about adderall “corrupting” him?? that’s not how medication works and is a piss poor scapegoat.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 11:56 PM
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I hear that. It’s really hard to find support IRL when your values start to change or you question the status quo. This sub was super helpful to me a few years ago before I got married - essentially just navigating a LTR that I wanted to turn into marriage, kids, etc. That happened for me! But it might not have if I relied on just my immediate friend group/mainstream media.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 02:08 AM
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not trying to call you a noob but more so make you aware of where you are posting, and that the sidebar is full of information. If you truly feel lost and are looking to align yourself with certain principles/standards, then posting here makes sense as long as you’re interested in adhering to RPW values. If not, then why not just post in a more general subreddit with a variety of responses? You’re going to get a different response anywhere you post .
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 01:53 AM
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Did you familiarize yourself with the overall concept of RPW before asking this question? RPW basic tenants is ensuring commitment & security prior to buying a home, having children, etc….
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 01:37 AM
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your children’s health and safety supersede your husband’s opinions on modern medicine. come on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 03:43 AM
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I wonder if the way you’re dressing is being perceived as trying too hard, prissy/uptight or attention seeking by some of these people. not saying you are, of course, but that could be an explanation. especially if the way you’re dressed sticks out. or maybe that you’re hyper aware of your surroundings and assigning these thoughts to people out of insecurity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 07:31 PM
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good job is all i have to say. i was worried this sub completely jumped ship with all the tip toeing around i’ve seen in responses!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 02:08 AM
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confront the behavior and set clear boundaries. he doesn’t have to agree or see it the way you do, but boundaries are put in place for YOU not him. “if you continue to __, i will _.” or “i feel ___ when you __. I will no longer tolerate ___ and this is my boundary (insert boundary).
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 02:09 PM
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oh honey
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 06:58 PM
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do you need his permission? i have never felt the need to keep my husband in the loop on my upkeep and the lengths I go to to maintain my appearance. No one needs to see how the sausage is made! I find most regular men hear botox or fillers and picture botch jobs and extreme versions. When done correctly, it’s not obvious and should look natural.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 02:50 AM
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i am screaming
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 09:21 PM
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i don’t understand why you came here looking for RPW advice, when this situation is the opposite of any RPW situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 03:07 PM
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yikes. that’s a hard no for me. sounds like you will always come second to this female best friend. also, you lost me a female best friend. Next !
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 04:05 AM
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i've never heard of that one! i'll have to look it up. yes, i've found her marriage-based books to be more helpful, as i am not single and looking/vetting/etc. i enjoy them because she teaches you how to maintain a solid union after the "spark" and butterflies wears off from a new relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 02:37 AM
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men are from mars, women are from venus! i also love laura doyle's other books, the surrender wife (still applicable even if not married) and first, kill all the marriage counselors.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 01:34 AM
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thank you so much, you really hit the nail on the head. like i said, i don't mean to sound so harsh, i guess i'm just in the thick of it and needing a safe place to vent and get feedback. sometimes i am forgetful and lack the empathy she needs to get through the divorce due to my own selfishness and not wanting to get overly emotionally involved in her issues (like i did for many years) i used to be very codependent with her when i was a teenager and into my early 20s, and i feel that i have com…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:02 PM
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thank you for responding. we spent the day together doing things outdoor and it was nice. i have suggested therapy but it falls on deaf ears unfortunately and she insists there's nothing a therapist can do to help. i agree, endorphins are great medicine!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 08:57 PM
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gotcha. yes, i think it's totally reasonable and expected for someone to just "know" after 6 months.
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 03:28 PM
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i don't know, i think that "rule" might be a bit too rigid. after 6 months a man will probably know whether he wants to marry you or not, sure, but might not be in the right place financially or in his career to do that. i think expecting a ring after 6 months or it's a waste of time sounds like a mistake to me. of course, being with someone for 6 months and never mentioning a future together/marriage would be alarming- but expecting a ring after that time period and not getting one is certainly…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 03:13 PM
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yes, i can relate! i go through periods of time where i feel so secure, bonded and tight with my SO that nothing can change it. and then, it will change into me being insecure, needy and looking for problems that don't exist by overthinking and over analyzing. i decided that i didn't want to live like that anymore and until my SO gave me real reasons to act paranoid, insecure and needy (which he didn't) i needed to learn a way to manage it or else i was going to lose my relationship. i decided t…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/17 02:29 AM
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love this! thank you for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 08:59 PM
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why is this posted in RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 01:56 PM
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got that right
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:47 AM
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have you tried seltzer? i used to hate it, but it's a good step down from soda. now i can't live without it 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 01:23 AM
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the CBT workbook for anxiety is self-help and user friendly. intended for someone with no background or understanding in that type of treatment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 09:47 PM
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hey, asshole, i am a recovering "heroine addict". not only do i associate with them, but some of my best friends and the greatest people i know are in recovery. so take your dickheaded comments elsewhere. i hope you never have to hug a parent whose child overdosed from heroin. and your "extensive" drug history of mostly smoking weed does not make you an expert on the topic, just a douchebag with an opinion not relevant to this sub, or even the topic itself.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:17 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I admire your ability to use this as fuel to improve yourself and commend you for taking care of yourself. healthy self care and time will heal your heart, but of course you will always carry it with you. I suggest not worrying about how this could possibly affect future relationships and stay focused on the day. yes, a "day at a time". that's how I deal with things that take up too much space in my head. when the time comes and you meet someone else, your current con…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:58 PM
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insensitive much? wow
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:53 PM
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holy shit, i got anxiety reading this. girl, you need to calm down and do your homework around here. read the sidebar posts over and over again until they are drilled into your head. i also suggest reading men are from mars, women are from venus to better understand male & female needs/communication styles/etc. also laura doyle's books are gospel around here. there is no quick fix here, no overnight solutions or ideas that we can offer to make this better overnight. you need an attitude makeover…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 04:08 PM
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practice makes perfect. it gets easier with practice. when i first started i felt like i was constantly on the brink of blurting shit out every second. once i started realizing that you don't have to apologize/backtrack/explain yourself if you don't say every single thing that pops into your head, and many times if i give careful thought and consideration to my words, i get a much better outcome (in all areas of my life)
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 01:29 PM
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me too! nothing says "i love you" like something useful and handy. i liked getting cute stuff at first, but then all the teddy bears end up in a closet hanging out together. don't get me wrong, i love a mushy gift once in awhile, but a practical one is much more useful after a certain time together.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 01:24 PM
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thanks for your input. i downloaded a few fertility apps just to get more in sync with my body and see if it's something i'd like to try.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 01:31 AM
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yes, "truly" supporting his decision is definitely where it gets difficult for me. the good thing about all of this (RPing) is that it certainly gets easier, and more comfortable with practice and continued diligence.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 03:59 PM
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great, thanks! it sounds like a lot of work and personal responsibility to not get pregnant, that's my only qualm. taking the pill takes the guesswork out of everything. effortlessly not getting pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 03:56 PM
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sounds like you need to get out of your head, start smiling and start making people laugh. easier said than done, right? practice on everyone. at the checkout line, in group activities, whatever. people can sense when you are taking yourself too seriously and it makes things weird. also, a lot of "being ugly" is fixable -- hitting the gym, changing your diet, clearing your skin up (if you have acne), learning how to do hair and makeup, and you will go up a few points already. women have it good …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 07:34 PM
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can someone point me somewhere to learn more about NFP? i have been on the pill for about 10 years and i really want to get off HBC but afraid of getting pregnant. we don't want kids for another 3 or so years.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 03:36 AM
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i am super pale and i use fake bake. never looks orange ! you can get it on amazon. i like the airbrush formula.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 03:49 AM
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my apologies. I meant to say not something you can control without help, or medication. you have all the power in the world to make this better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/17 03:19 AM
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you sound depressed. see if your school has a mental health center and see if you can talk to a therapist. that was very beneficial for me when i went through this. also, it's helpful to keep in mind that oftentimes depression is a chemical imbalance which means that it's nothing you did or can control. best of luck
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/17 01:43 PM
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yes i am with you 100%. i too need time to calm down and self-edit to make sure i'm not making something out of nothing/overreacting. 9 times out of 10 i am.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 01:02 PM
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yes, i agree with this! i have felt this way before and sometimes worry that i am turning into a doormat. on my worst days i fear that my newfound behaviors and attitudes will not get my needs met and i will feel apt to return to controlling, nagging and complaining. however, i always do better when i STFU. and if something still bothers me a few hours later, i bring it up. i enjoy keeping my mouth shut these days. it keeps me out of trouble :) however, when i do revert back to old behaviors, it…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 07:38 PM
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I feel comfortable being and feeling feminine which I have never felt comfortable doing before. I used to be hard on myself for being sensitive and "girly" and try to stifle it and be more "blue pill" and "strong independent woman who don't need no man". now i enjoy embracing my feminity, and being soft and warm. It certainly takes some practice. I didn't grow up in a terribly warm environment, but the women in my family are pretty domestically inclined which helps. I work with adolescents and p…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 05:24 PM
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you don't have to agree with marriage to understand that it comes with major benefits in the legal sense. why not just get your papers signed together at town hall? i can see why someone would forgo the traditional wedding bells and all that, but just for legal purposes (ie changing the name, financial benefits, old age stuff) seems to make sense? there's a reason why people get married. sometimes it just makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 05:12 PM
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The DBT workbook is an excellence self help resource for emotional regulation and impulse control. best of luck
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 02:09 PM
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encourage him to shampoo the beard. my man has a helluva beard and loves to eat. never had an issue with odor. lol.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 09:33 PM
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someone needs to read the sidebar until they understand.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/17 02:06 PM
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maybe just going to a psychologist would be benefitical, instead of trying to become one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 10:17 PM
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this
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 09:18 PM
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you can't submit and trust a man who is using drugs. period. you can't be first mate to someone whose ship is sinking. you gotta save yourself first.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 05:32 PM
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I've been through this. We are both in recovery but he relapsed when we were living together and it was hell. When someone is using, the man you fell in love with is gone - and you are left with a shell of a man. In my experience, you cannot trust a using addict. they will lie, steal and manipulate everyone around them. I recommend self care for you and also checking out NarAnon (for loved ones of addicts) and Codependent No Moee by Melody Beattie. You can't do this for him. If he has been clean…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 03:14 PM
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from reading some of your other posts on other subs, being in an open relationship sounds like a one way ticket to insecurity and neediness. clinging and neediness stem from insecurity and fear. I don't blame you - I would be constantly checking my phone if I were you! build your value, find your independence, and you will find a man that loves and values you 100%. do this and you will find your captain. this guy doesn't sound like captain material.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 02:27 PM
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I'm RPW because it just makes sense for who I am and what I want out of life. I want something than what my mother had, and millions of other women. It just makes sense to me! I also enjoy the feeling I get rebelling against the current norm and embracing more traditional values :) edit- I am in my late 20s and in a masters program for social work.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 02:26 PM
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yikes, not a fan of this. i understand where the author is coming from - like john gray says in men are from mars..., men go into their caves and women go into the well. when my man goes into the cave, i get it. space and time and he will come out. when i go into the well...i do everything in my power to not be a giant bitch. it took me a long time to learn that "loving me at my worst" is not acceptable - get it together, don't be a bitch, and if you are in "the well" - stifle it !
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 12:21 AM
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wow, thank you for sharing! you and your parents sound like wonderful, special people. your insight and wisdom will be invaluable in years to come. i wish i knew half this stuff sooner than a few months ago!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 04:08 AM
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i am in graduate school for social work.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 03:38 AM
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