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| 34 | Why you shouldn't have a FWBFWB is the most insulting thing ever. Men literally use your body so they can focus on finding the women/mommie/bang-maid of their dreams while warding off their own loneliness so they don’t appear to ‘desperate’ when they ask her out. Getting regular sex allows assholes to hide their depravity from the women they are pretending to respect for longer. He doesn’t have to think about if sexting is appropriate because whenever he feels an itch, he’s got a woman with no standards or self esteem at t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 01:02 AM |
| 5 | I want your honest opinion (even if I know it already)asked advice previously 💯 Askhole She also wrote that her bf is teaching her how to budget, pay bills, get a job, build a career..basically how to adult but NOT the actual responsibility of being one. So her bf is raising her like a child, then she comes to FDS pours out thousand word essays…she clearly has no women friends or support structure, and is focusing her life on her bf instead of building her own. I’ll take the down votes. 30 year old with a fledgling career, relies her bf to be the a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 12:23 PM |
| 152 | If it’s one thing men are good at, it’s low blows.it wasn’t a one off The way he describes her defeated eyes….this is a wall abuse victims build up over years of mistreatment. She knows that she’s fucked up her life and is powerless to stop it….but continues to do things for him because she fears what will happen to her if she doesn’t. A slave’s spirit isn’t broken the first time they are whipped, those physical wounds heal. It’s the 100th time over existing scars does the defeat settle into the mind and eyes. You become an experienced victim a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:58 PM |
| 88 | Consent isn’t just a wordI wish I could give you a mom hug while simultaneously ripping out the throat of your rapist. It sounds like an Anal Fissure. They usually heal on their own, but you will forever be susceptible to them for the rest of your life. forgot to teach you They didn’t forget. They willfully hid information from you about your own body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 05:20 PM |
| 138 | Consent isn’t just a wordWarning graphic: I hope that you went to the doctor. The following info is for you and for others who may not be familiar with this damaging act that deranged losers have started to treat as “”normal”” and common. The wall between the anus and vagina is thin and fragile. The colon is also at risk. Usually anal rape (the kind that kills child victims) is because of serious damage to the colon and it bleeds out internally. The blood indicates a tear. The wall between the vagina and the anus can he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:36 PM |
| 94 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value Themselvesa man hasn’t written a single word on a page… Men are hired on potential while women are hired on achievements. The sadest part about this is women, ourselves, hold us to this standard by NOT having the professional confidence of boys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:03 PM |
| 25 | FDS Speaks: A Guide for Men On How To Save Your Relationship From The BrinkBefore they k**11 themselves or self medicate…..they will dump ALL their problems on the women in their lives (ruining her sleep, work, academic routine to emotionally/physically/sexually clean up after his loser ass) while he simultaneously cries his life is hard and no one understands… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:17 PM |
| 121 | This review for an odor removing laundry detergent….what the heck is wrong with your husbands health that led to this review????”showers” but probably doesn’t scrub or use soap or warm water It took me a fucking YEAR to figure out why my ex’s showers were short…and why I got UTI’s like I’ve never had before…turns out, you can’t stay in the shower more than a minute if the water is cold. His excuse is that hot water makes his body cold and he hates soap because it drys out his skin….Seriously. What 40 year old woman has ever, in the history of humankind, been excused for not being clean? Never. Not once are women given a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 07:24 PM |
| 95 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidThis is what men who use OLD refer to as “”the numbers game”” It’s a red flag when they drop this phrase. Q: What object are women today? Ans: Numbers. In a game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:04 PM |
| 17 | Middle aged men who “don’t know yet” on dating appsI feel like you need this: ( *・ω・)✄╰ひ╯ You’re welcome :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:13 AM |
| 70 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthBeing their physical ideal means you’ll get more attention, not that they will treat you better. I saved this comment and I love you for stating it so well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:51 PM |
| 149 | On what men do with nudes of their exes, majority responds “they are mine to do what I want with.” This is the entitlement they feel towards our bodies. LADIES DO NOT SEND NUDES EVER do not even watermark as those can be removed with photoshop“Until he stayed the night at his best friends and his friend copied every one of them while my boyfriend was passed out on his couch.” Sweet pea, my sweet summer child….your ex gave the videos to his friend. Your ex came up with the ‘passed-out’ part in hopes that you would continue to fuck him…and his friend covered for him so he could get more non-consensual porn they both know makes you upset. In fact, your ex will use your videos as a way to increase his social standing among the men around… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:43 PM |
| 21 | I caught my father watching porn. How should I address this?I hate to be the debbie downer here, but there is the possibility that he “”let”” you catch him. 😢😕😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:21 AM |
| 43 | Guy I dated thinks a woman should design and furnish his new apartment. Proudly establishes he WANTS to be a project.I think he wants to find a woman excited enough and that he can lie about wanting a relationship with so that she will pay for furniture, kitchen supplies rationalizing that she’s ‘there so much.’ …it’s just easier to have fully prepared kitchen and nice sheets. She literally BUYS into the lie that she’s building a life with this loser. When the apartment is finished and he doesn’t need her money or her labor, he will cheat because she “”forced”” him to move the relationship forward and “”pressu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:04 PM |
| 202 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?I agree!!! 100% of ALL pregnancies and abortions are caused by a man’s uncontrolled orgasm. A woman is limited to 1 pregnancy a year while men can get multiple women pregnant a day. Population and abortion are men’s issues. Men need to be more responsible. My dream is a world where men face actual, real life long consequences for their poor choices. —- I’ve put this in other threads but it’s true and I hope to change the way that women get blamed for “”getting””pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:24 AM |
| 393 | The unsustainable level of the human population on Earth is a direct result of enslaving the natural gatekeepers of reproduction: women.100% of ALL pregnancies and abortions are caused by a man’s uncontrolled orgasm. A woman is limited to 1 pregnancy a year while men can get multiple women pregnant a day. Population and abortion are men’s issues. Men need to be more responsible. My dream is a world where men face actual, real life long consequences for their poor choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:32 AM |
| 64 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?I don’t understand women like this. He didn’t magically become a deadbeat after the 1st baby. Yet she had a 2nd. Just admit that you wanted to be a mother no matter what and you’re stuck with the consequences. She choose to have multiple children by a douche who was all too happy to let her do the heavy lifting. Yet, she’s holding out for him to be a different person? So confuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:19 PM |
| 162 | Having a relationship start from a hook up is not the flex you think it isHaving sex too soon creates a power imbalance where women face pressure to be the Princess Charming and over-look all the red flags just to have the magical vagina unlike all those frogs he’s pumped and dumped before. tldr; men who pressure for sex on the first date get ALL the power while women get ALL the emotional labor and blame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 02:36 PM |
| 30 | The more I read, the more I am getting sure that I really don't want to have to do anything with men.The anxiety about how he's going to treat me? Is he even going to do the bare minimum and pay the bill? Is he going to try to coerce me into sex? How will he take rejection if I'm not feeling this? Gosh this is worse than taking drugs and alcohol. AMEN 🙌🏻💯 YES! This is exactly how I feel! Right now, and for the foreseeable future, it’s just not worth the aging lines anxiety puts on my face. EDIT: My bff is having her uterus out and while I am there to take care of her, I’m going to have a privat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 276 | Not a lot shocks me after following FDS for a while but this just sent me.They want the orgasm but without any responsibility at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:21 AM |
| 178 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Or worse, they dump her with ALL the mental, physical, emotional, and financial labor of their lives so have time to spend 3 hours a night at the gym and get that perfect bod….which they use as a weapon against their stressed out, struggling partner that sHe LeT HeRsElF gO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:06 PM |
| 18 | Why do guys tell you they don’t want a relationship with you but get mad if you date someone else? (long read and rant)”who hoped to use me as his side piece” and “who’s now his wife” He not only knows that his poor treatment of wife will result in less sex so he is actively anticipating it and planning a setting-up where he is still able to get sex. It is a societal lie that men are ‘bad at planning things.’ They are only bad at planning things that do not benefit their penis, like family holidays and birthdays, doctors appointments, etc. EDIT: The amount of energy that men invest to create a whole system and c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:00 PM |
| 107 | Women Achieves, society makes movie her father......>they wanted it this way Women acknowledge when they have received help. Women will give credit to their ladies, their family, their kids while men are allowed deny all help. Especially if that help houses a uterus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 12:28 AM |
| 240 | I can't help itAs an electrical engineer, I fantasize about creating a portable, powerful antenna array that will fry the wiring harness of their cars but not get me in trouble with the FCC ┐('～`)┌ A girl can dream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:44 PM |
| 46 | Weekly Reminder: OLD is trashA woman who has this on her profile, might have been OLD for a while and run into too many men who have simply user her as a fleshlight. She means: I know how to make a good, flowing conversation. I am smart, witty, funny, genuinely love life and will ensure that your night will be an event straight out a Geisha Girl's handbook. She's saying she's easy to be around and is asking the man to show up and just be nice. **She believes that a man who has swipped on her has accepted her conditions and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 9 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experiencehe wants to see where it goes <rolls eyes so hard, projects laser and burns/cuts object in half> He is afraid to be alone (not have his next orgasm on lock) that he will use you right up until the second the woman he swipped on (because ofc he is active) that he actually sees real potential with says ‘yes’ to being exclusive with him. -Then- he’ll use the, “we weren’t exclusive/just seeing where it goes” as a way to make it seem like you’re the crazy one when he disappears and you’re forced to s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:35 PM |
| 205 | No hiking dates— everhis backpack/feet/whatever hurt He did NOT like hiking/climbing in reality, but his idealized self and his perfect girlfriend did. He was trying to “”fake”” it until he was actually that person….which just makes the people around them carry the burden of their ideal self/lifestyle. ….which is why he was sexually turned on. You were literally his ideal. He is a jackass and I’m glad he’s an ex. The handbook says ‘don’t date potential’ but there should also be a section on this half-life/real self … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:31 PM |
| 73 | He said he wanted a relationshipHe’s telling you he’s someone who uses women and wastes time AMEN!!!💥🍾 Yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 10:07 PM |
| 65 | Childfree women, have you been able to find HVM partners?I am 5 years older than my partner. We are coming up on our 1 yr and live a child free life with a commitment to remain so. Looks like we’re going to get married, at least engaged, in the next year or so. I was a non-traditional student 15 years older than all the other undergraduates getting my electrical engineering undergrad, he was a non-traditional student getting his electrical engineering PhD. He was my TA…..HA! I don’t usually share personal details in my reddit but I think it’s importan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:04 PM |
| 260 | Reminder to have as much confidence in yourselves as men aged 45+ on dating apps who display their child preference to “someday”.This is a RED flag that lets you know what their age preferences really are. They want to date a woman their age for the mature conversations, the connection/satisfaction of being with someone who challenges them while simultaneously keeping the other eye for that hot 25 year old pickme who hero worships him and will sacrifice her life to have his baby. She will also sacrifice everything on the alter of staying young and bangable, not to mention the BDSM that she did before the baby so she has t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:08 PM |
| 21 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”crazy woman This is an example of internalized misogyny. Did it ever occur to you or krissycole that the gf is reacting to how the groomsman was behaving around her? You both immediately throw the gf under the bus. Maybe, instead of starting blame with women, you share the spotlight with the men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 135 | Men flip shiet when you say 'No'.first time meeting them They weren’t interested in getting to know you or even respect you enough to attempt real friendship. You were their entertainment. They did and said things to further and get stories to enhance their own night out experience. Live entertainment that takes care of herself, maximum male enjoyment for no emotional cost. Basically, you were a free Geshia Girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:48 PM |
| 10 | Financial abuse by male relatives and friends.I feel you so much! I was homeless my last year of high school…..I couch surfed and 1 Dad “”offered”” me his 30 year old farm truck so I didn’t have to hitchhike to work BUT I would be 100% responsible for ALL the gas and maintenance even when his daughter/their family used it. (the age of the truck caused A LOT of maintenance…..which is why he offered it) For the millionth time that year, as a 17 year old homeless child, I looked at that adult and thought, “I would rather die on the street than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:51 PM |
| 48 | Why do (straight) men try so hard to appeal to the male gaze on dating apps?selfies of themselves in bed they masturbate to women’s profiles while swipping. But with the added benefit, over and above regular porn sites, of actually swipping right to possibly meet the woman in real life. They take the photo then because they feel powerful and desirable, like ‘I just jacked to you, now let’s bang in real life.’ Bed selfies are disgusting. They demonstrate that he is using OLD as a way to get free sex. Add the dog into the bed selfie and 🤢🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:17 AM |
| 12 | If you must use OLD, then whatever you do please just stop using Bumble.all have high position jobs They say they have such-and-such job but NEVER take a man at his word on his profession, age, or relationship status. For example: Logistics Engineer ==> Truck Driver Environmental Engineer ==> the guy who mans the city/county/public dump site Senior Mechanical Engineer ==> building maintenance guy Software Developer ==> made an android app for his community college Java course etc, etc… get right into sex talk They do this on purpose to test the waters to see how muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 06:14 PM |
| 228 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeI think that women who earn good money want the freedom/fantasy to choose a low earning partner for the romantic idea of “”❤️❤️❤️LOVE❤️❤️❤️“” against all odds, like the story of the prince who marries the commoner and lives happily ever after. I don’t blame these women for wanting a fantasy and real loveTM. Another aspect is that women have been raised to believe that the women who stays home has to cook/clean/build the perfect home for her “”hard working”” husband because he EARNS the $$$. Thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 177 | FACTS 💯( *・ω・)✄╰ひ╯ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 10:38 PM |
| 35 | OLD Red Flag Words & PhrasesSchool of Hard Knocks—-high school drop out. sticks tongue out—-Trump Voter rides harley motorcycle—see above wears Ed Hardey T-Shirt—-also, see above enlightened centrist——<sigh> see above Speaks English—-........living in the south sux. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:13 PM |
| 689 | Stop normalizing men’s immaturityGirls mature faster than boys because girls are held socially accountable for behavior that boys are allowed to get away with well into adulthood, if they ever face consequences at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:06 PM |
| 18 | I had no idea this was even a thing?!When I lived in the midwest, I had to basically cause a scene in the Wal-Mart Pharmacy to get my birth control pills refilled before the very last day of the month. Thinking about still makes me pissed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 07:26 PM |
| 19 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?he went on to use a flashlight to search the kitchen counters..... This is because he sees cleaning as womens work. In his mind, Why would he clean or care that his place is filthy when it, literally, is not his job? But, when he finally gets a bang-maid, all of a sudden, there is someone who isn’t doing their job! ....cue the anger and hate directed at you for NOT doing your job. This is the how the social concept of women’s work plays out day-after-soul-crushing-day. When they are out with the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:54 PM |
| 197 | The majority of older Japanese wives suffer from “retired husband sydrome” which is caused by the stress of caring for an older husbandStick with me here, thoughts formulating:::: Women view marriage as transactional. If we support him, then he will take care of us whether it be financial or emotional.....traditional women view it as ‘one day’ it will be her turn to be taken care of. Like, an EVEN transaction plus love and, most often, children. She makes decades long deposits into her marital savings account having faith that her husband will let her draw on it, if she needs it. Men view marriage as transactional, but, one tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 04:07 PM |
| 432 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!I was having a glorious cocktail night with my friends when this came across which is why I replied at all. Super fun and laughs all around. Great way to end OLD! Bubbles and laughing at the audacity of losers! Ha! Note: My profile stated that, "I do not have/do not want children (surgically sterile) and yours don't fit into my lifestyle either." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:58 PM |
| 177 | Had to share because it made me crack up! Can’t even offer to but me a whole meal!That’s what I was thinking too. He probably likes the girl who handed him his ass in Ping Pong and is using OP as a burner vagina .....so he doesn’t pressure Ping Pong woman, whom he might actually see potential in, by moving on her for sex too early. This is a really, really disrespectful way to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:51 AM |
| 127 | To Death Do Us Part....or, you know, until your natural rhythm of life gets in the way of my peepee.The woman whose husband (marked with Red bars) got the pills so he could ""last longer""....just hurts. He isn't getting them to 'last longer' with his wife who is clearly uninterested in his sex Olympics. What about the women who get emotionally roped into being the 3rd for these sex ''starved'' relationships. Wanting your husband to purposefully seek sex out with other women??? WTF? Why make your husband's penis another woman's problem? That isn't right. Women should want better for other wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:32 PM |
| 129 | What object are women today? Art... but that's ok because his wife is a masterpiece. /sarcasm She is not an equal human, but a piece of art to look at.This is an advertisement for fertilizer. Shouldn't products be chosen based on their scientific merit and not how if their little pee pee responds to it? But remember ladies mEn ArE tHe LoGiCaL oNes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:11 PM |
| 36 | Save time: Picture-based vetting on OLDThis pic says that he lays in bed masturbating to women’s profiles. He thought his post jizz face is super awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 01:26 AM |
| 48 | Men start yelling when we're "not listening", but we just explain it 14 more times and different ways 🤔I don’t think this behavior is about listening.......They aren’t ‘problem solvers.’ They don’t want a discussion or talk to you ever, they “”solve”” the problem as a conversation ender. They don’t love and care for you. That’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 12:02 PM |
| 25 | Cuddle dates 🤢🤢🤢Another fat NO of OLD is ‘My Love Language is physical touch’ 🤢🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 11:37 AM |
| 69 | As Long As I'm Paying My Own Bills, You Don't Get to Tell Me When I'm Having a BabyHe had nothing, and to him, you having his child would have meant that he was something.....as if success in life is sexually transmitted. Men like this don’t really want children, they want a woman to sacrifice her life for them. Your life, your labor is an offering on the alter of their ego and insecurity. It’s a trap that men set up and so many women walk themselves into it, lock the door, and throw away the key. I am glad that you escaped a life of servitude from someone that wanted to use y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:21 PM |
| 14 | Does anyone hate dating single dads?favored his daughter......dad needed my ultimatums to actually give his son the bare minimum. ......this smells of grooming and possible abuse of his daughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:27 PM |
| 113 | I can't imagine how this will go down 😂Why are we blaming mothers without mentioning Fathers who raise (or not, as the case probably is) to behave like this? Hold men responsible for their children to the same degree we hold mothers accountable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 04:37 PM |
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