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Male, 26, gamer and 24/7 stoner. Serial cheater AND serial liar, so double whammy!!! Super out of shape and only eats fried frozen food (which Im proud I cook like "haute cuisine"!!!!). Mother is a hoarder, I'm a hoarder, and we live together in our disgusting house!!! Job: part-time janitor, part-time CS community college student (GPA: -2.5, I've been on academic suspension my whole college career!!). Was secretly married.... but don't worry!!! My ex nagged me the entire three years of our rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:14 AM
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Male, 30 (with the life experience of a 15 year old). Wants forever girlfriend situationship, until can decide if should go ahead with parents arranged marriage proposal. Is it worth pissing them off? 🤔 Oops, I've said too much already; I truthfully prefer my life to be a complete and total secret. I will tell you just enough to hook you, but everything about me will be completely mystical. But you do have to spend alllll your time with me, so let's work on making you into my vision of a "perfec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:57 AM
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What kind of loser man in his 30s can't afford $20 for breakfast? God the bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:03 PM
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Funny story, but I don't waste my time trying to provoke men into anything anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:53 PM
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I'm sorry girl. Best of luck to you! Something similar happened to me when I was 20. Abortion, because THANK GOD I had the foresight to realize I was with a LVM in a dead-end relationship, and that same day my normally-unmotivated ex decided it would be AN AMAZING IDEA to detour after the doctors and take a college campus tour. "5 minutes" he said. 3 hours later, I'm sobbing in a random parking lot, throwing up everywhere, and security is telling me to leave because I'm causing a disturbance. Ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:25 PM
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Porn sick loser. "I think she's beautiful but not really." Poor girl, staying with someone who treats getting married like it's a death sentence @ "it's time for marriage".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:10 AM
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She literally flew out to meet this online stranger (🚩), trusted he was planning a safe "date" for them (🚩), and then is subsequently abandoned by him when in distress (🚩 🚩 🚩). Probably negged for not reaching the summit as well 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:35 PM
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Wow. Funny, but make it hurt. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:26 AM
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It's on the FDS Spotify playlist!!!!!!!! Love me some JLo!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:45 AM
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God I love FDS. I just got stood up on a date (no, I'm not following the handbook as I should be and thats exactly why I got stood up) and seeing someone this pretty get cheated on ....... Jesus Christ, men are just loser pigs. There really is nothing you can do/be to keep yourself safe from a NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:24 AM
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Dude my next to last ex was a cheater, and there really is 0 point in confronting them. I gave a similar speech "You know what you did. Hope it was worth it. How could you do this to us? You must think I'm stupid, pathetic, or both" blah blah blah.... They truthfully don't care. They may listen/protest half heartedly to see if you'll take them back, but mentally they've been out the door a long time. And nah, there is no way he tells his mom the truth. I know it's hard for the young ones to beli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:21 AM
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Good for you girl!!! Takes a lot of guts to leave a relationship at that stage and with someone who "looks good on paper". My ex also looked good on paper, so many people were surprised/unhappy when I broke it off. I should have left when he asked me out to dinner a week advance, but then didn't bother texting again until a few hours until we were supposed to meet up. I should have left when he made no effort to text/took days to text back in the weeks following. I should have left three months …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:30 PM
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And if he claims they've already divorced and living apart but waiting for the right time to tell their families............... STILL RUN AWAY!!!! 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:04 PM
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Look up Eleanor Roosevelt, Hillary Clinton, and Claudia "Lady Bird" Johnson. If you think being beautiful, smart, resourceful, graceful, ambitious, kind, fashionable, etc will save you from matching with a dumpsterfire of a man.... THINK AGAIN!!!! If there was no hope for these stellar women, what hope is there for any woman??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 06:31 PM
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Yes I like them older 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:17 AM
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Came here to say this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:16 AM
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Girl same way I used to think unfortunately. "You shouldn't judge men based on their living, financial, employment, or romantic situations, that's not nIcE. And sure, you had to beg him to notice you, but he's just a dumb man and didn't KNOW he loved you right? And isn't it TrUe lOvE when you stick by your man through thick and thin, even though he's always the thin and youre always the thick? Surely if you love him enough, he'll eventually get a job and be a productive member of society!" Pleas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:57 PM
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Lot of words for "I don't even know you, but I already despise you and am trying to control you" 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:28 AM
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Men always want children until it comes time to actually raise them 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:08 AM
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Yes!! I just recently rewatched "Brittany Runs A Marathon" 🤢 Impressions now post-FDS: 1) fAt iS bAd. wOmEn sHoUld tAkE uP aS LiTtLe SpAce aS PosSibLe. Case in point: she screams at the fat woman for having a skinny boyfriend, but her surrogate father is fat and married to her skinny sister but that is A-OKAY? 2) Getting noticed and receiving attention on OkCupid is special and life-affirming!!!!!! She could never have been blessed as that when she was fat as a whale!!! 3) You should sleep with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:04 AM
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Yaaaasss!!!! Favorite too!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:40 PM
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For real chick, its like all men: "I've done the minimum amount acceptable, which should be enough for endless praise and adoration."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:50 AM
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Dang, is it wrong I feel sorry for the male bees but think we are on to something for human males? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:00 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 At least they are always consistent in their selfish, thoughtless behavior......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:59 PM
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Lololol yeah that sounds like the kind of logic my ex would adhere too as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:58 PM
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Nice @ the thoughtfulness and complexity. Mine is just folgers out of the automatic coffee maker, and he didn't even do it every day 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:57 PM
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Oh my gosh thaaaank youuuu.... my ex and I both had an inappropriate "flirty" convo with the opposite sex (a year apart) that we both found out through snooping. Who forgave right away, almost no questions asked, and never brought it up again? And which of us demanded I give up my main hobby, brought it up every. single. week. for the next year, and used it continuously as "THE REASON" why they could never commit to marriage? Not only that, but subsequently completely forgot they also had an ind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:48 PM
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Yup. My ex thought bringing me coffee in bed was "big time". 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:31 PM
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Lotta words for "I settled and to make myself feel better, I think other women should settle too."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:41 PM
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I mean c'mon, you only have to give up every fiber of your being and submit to being sub-human for the rest of your God-given life. And in return, you get a "satisfied" man/overlord and you get to tell people you aren't shudder sInGLe. Seems a fair trade to me. 😑🙄😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:57 AM
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I normally do not like the male advice/wisdom videos shown in this sub (even if they are funny), mainly bc I've listened to so many men in my lifetime I wish they'd all just shut the f*ck up. I actually kind of bought this one though, idk. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:41 AM
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" every woman goes through it, it’s not a big deal" Exactly what my ex said to me when I explained I would rather adopt. He also issued an ultimatum about having bio children vs ending the relationship, and Im sorry to say I gave in for a year before the enormity of everything else wrong in the relationship + children issue made me realize I needed out NOW. Tg I had that realization, or this story could 100% be me (if I survived childbirth).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:42 AM
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Like fr. Wtf is wrong with men always wanting to take take take take???? And WE are the goldiggers???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:43 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:55 PM
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This lit a fire under me!!!! Tell yo daddy and yo brother and yo worthless boyfriend!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:51 AM
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I didnt like the way she called those women "thots" at the beginning. When the f are women going to stop tearing other women down???? I'm not sure its in line with FDS or that I particularly liked it........ But I do appreciate people talking about their mental health during quarantine. My life, like many others, was completely ripped to shreds after years(!!!!) of hard work on my mental health and building a stable foundation. I've only just now (10 months later) come around to the idea I need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:35 AM
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This hit home for me recently, as I got coincidentally snowed in with my ex for 5 days. It was expensive as hell to host him for 5 days at my house, and I was IN SHOCK I so readily agreed and was enthusiastic to do it for the previous two years of our relationship. Just like with household duties, where men (maybe even sincerely) think they are doing 50/50.... they are NOT. (That was another revelation during our time together). He thought he was being "50/50" bc he bought take out for us for 4 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:18 AM
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Future-faked, begging, second-fiddle, financially disadvantaged, begging internet strangers for advice.... Yeah, why WOULDNT you want to continue forcing this amazing relationship.... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:38 AM
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All I can say is THANK GOD nobody wants a woman whose belly jiggles when she walks; now Im free to be me and eat allllll the hersheys!!!! But first, I have to inform all the LVM in my DMs of this new revelation 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:03 PM
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I was one of two female employees on shift at my colleges rec department one day. I was getting paid minimum wage to work at this shitty state school that I also paid to attend full-time (and whom was also getting paid by the state to teach me). Needless to say, I was less than enthusiastic about the demands of the job, which in my opinion, were considerable for a full time student and pt min wage employee who also had a 2nd job in my "real" career. Anyway, I never volunteered to do anything out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:41 PM
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God I love this sub. I learn so much. This never even occurred to me. I'm not creative, Id go with "asshole" but I know its hard to deferiniate between the types 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:08 PM
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Lookin good girl! Get it!! He ain't the one 2021!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:59 PM
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So true :|
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:01 AM
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Aw girl, yeah there you go. Just another poor woman who will do anything to walk down the aisle. Thank heavens you saw through it. Take yourself on an amazing vacation. Promise it will be even better than having a cheating, worthless, complaining ahole chained to your ankle.... plus, you won't have to blow anybody for the privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:49 PM
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Everything is spot on! I quit OLD a few years ago, but this was my experience as well. The only thing I want to add (not for OP really, but for young impressionable women on here) is DECEPTION. The last time I was on OLD, I got tangled up in an on again, off again situationship that lasted a YEAR with a MARRIED MAN. Of course I didn't know he was married; he came up with lots of good convincing lies and excuses he had no problem relying to my face over and over and over again. And when I finally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:34 PM
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Just another woman who believes her value lies in male lust, nothing new to see here. Wait till she realizes that men purposefully prey on younger women..... unfortunately, like most of us, it will be too late by then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:24 AM
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I know it sucks, but its been said on here before.... Men will treat the next girl better, in order to lessen their guilt about how they treated you. Also, how long have they been together? Pos can't usually keep up the facade forever. And as someone else mentioned, you have no idea what pickme sh*t she may be doing to get that kind of treatment or if that is an accurate representation of their real relationship. Go back to the list you wrote of all the horrible things he did to you, send her lu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:14 AM
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Good on you!!!! Bc like you said, I think every woman here visualized the same thing when he said "friend": the excuses, the gaslighting, the begging, the apologies, the puppy dog sad face, the crying that was all going to come next if you had tried to communicate with him about it. And then the absolute smugness if you had given him another chance. And it would have been a slow steady descent into your confidence being undermined, your time being wasted, your sanity going out the window, your b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:23 PM
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Holy f girl, I thought I was a ballsy b*tch but you take the cake (I mean, dessert tray). You are my hero, teach me your ways!!!!! The next time some pickme comes on here with "is this a red flag" "should I ignore this" "but how will I meet men if I cut them off right away" bs, I'm sending them straight to this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:31 AM
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Yeah, I'm trying out the crazy dog lady old maid lifestyle. The take care of a man baby who insulted me all the time and made me feel like shit while trying to force me to have children and likely cheating on me behind my back and lying about it lifestyle just wasn't for me 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:25 AM
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Ohh yes girl......... I thought I was happy in my pathetic relationship bc I wasnt SiNgLe and he looked good on paper. I thought I was happy having my entire friend circle consist of mooches who I had to chase after and pay for the smallest kindness. I thought I was happy (and smug) looking down on women for this reason or that reason, or competing with them to hide my own insecurities. I thought I was happy my entire life goal was to get married and my entire self-esteem wrapped up in how many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:16 AM
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This reminds me of the movie LBJ I just watched, and some fascinating research I did on his wife, Lady Bird. She was one of the most respected women in America, unbelievably smart and polished, and yet..... complete pickme. LBJ controlled what she did, what she wore, who she talked too. He'd cheat on her right in front of her face, and she couldn't say a thing about it. She was such a pickme, she didn't even MIND. "Heavens no. I was delighted to do it. I adored him.” Can you believe throwing awa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:39 PM
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And when dont come flocking to this absolutely charming offer (🤮) hell be like "Women are bitches! They are superficial! Nobody will give me a chance!!!!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:23 PM
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I upvoted you just for the quick comeback lol ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:45 AM
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aLL yOu hAvE tO dO Is tElL mE wHaT yOu WaNt... hOw wAs I SuPpOsEd tO KnOw? aRe yOu oN YoUr PeRiOd? dOnT yOu TrUsT mE? I wOUlD nEVeR LiE tO YoU sHeS JuSt A FrIeNd. iT wAs JuSt SeX, iT dIdNt mEaN aNyThInG. i NeVeR uSe mY sOcIaL mEDiA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:52 PM
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Shoot, or a nice long walk in a field or a coffee (lady buys) behind a parking garage. But Im sure he won't ask for a bj on top of it. Oh wait, yeah he would. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:39 PM
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Tehehehe, I'll uber some food for us and we can netflix and chill stud!!! 😍😍😍🤩🤩🤩😘😘😘 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:34 PM
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Don't forget to pick the day, time, place, and buy his dinner sis! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:32 PM
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They always come back with some shit 🙄 I know my pussy is worth fifty years of time but on God, he’s not worth one second more of mine. Spot on girl!!!!! Next!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:30 PM
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Good job sis! That is disgusting on many levels. I swear, I dont think I will ever get used to the fact that men can baldface lie with no remorse 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:28 PM
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Lots of good comments here. For myself, it depends on the situation. If its a stranger in passing, I always say EXTREMELY LOUDLY TO DRAW ATTENTION TO THEM "Whats it to you asshole/And if I do/am, what are you gonna do about it asshole?" In all my life, I've never had a guy with the balls to come back at me once I've drawn public attention to him. And if you get strange looks from onlookers, just explain "Can you believe what that guy just said to me?" If its in conversation, I get really still, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:07 AM
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The legacy bs.... my god.... do they pull all men aside at some point and teach them to say that? Like assshole, you are ugly, health problems out the wazoo, no stable family foundation/name, no money, no friends, no hobbies, so-so career.... wtf is YOUR LEGACY exactly????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:45 AM
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Ohhh yes girl.... stalked my ex on OLD right after we broke up, he also pulled the "serious relationship or hookup" line. Dude, you are in the process of being deported and likely (could never prove) have an arranged marriage set up in your home country. Thats why we broke up, among other things. The fing audacity. MEN WILL SAY ANYTHING!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:35 AM
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“We’ll get along if...” And his response word for word: “You and I get off. My mission is to bring you to a level of erotic extacy you have never reached and will never reach again...” I actually went to downvote you when I read this 😂😂😂😂 PTSD OLD flashback, my bad. Take my upvote for hilarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:26 AM
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Exactly @ our bodies. Which is the very reason I became (secretly) CF DURING the relationship. He had no experience with children AT ALL, never changed a diaper, never held a crying baby, had no plans about how both of us would work with a child (I certainly wasn't becoming a SAHM). I had no illusions about the fact that if I were to die in childbirth (to which his only response to that possibility was "It PrObAbLY wouldn't happen"), he would have moved on to another woman within months. Thank y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:04 PM
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🤣🚀 ✌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:54 AM
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And make it a double, please 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:23 PM
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"The next night, he texted me telling me how much fun he had and that we should hang out again soon. After that, we hung out every week." Translation= That first night they had sex or fell just short and a💡went off in that dudes head: "Wow! Consistent free sex delivered right to my bedroom! Neato!" And he was too lazy/unethical to ever invest in or end the relationship, so they got married. And they lived unhappily ever after. Or at least, until their divorce and subsequent remarriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:29 AM
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Thanks for sharing your stories girls ❤ It makes me feel OK to share mine, which I (probably shouldn't be) am ashamed to admit: I also got my IUD for my ex. I wish there was some good reason, but honestly there isn't. Major desperate pickme + ex wanted to cum inside more = one of the biggest regrets of my life. Its really shameful and I feel very angry towards him still. But I think its important for women to know this is another form of abuse men will subject you too. Blue balls, condoms hurt, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:28 AM
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"I date indiscriminately and only want HVW so I have to take them on nice dates. My personality and/or expectations are so odious, HVW never speak to me again after the date. Would you be willing to meet me for free, so I can foist said personality/expectations on you?" 🙄 Welcome to OLD, ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:53 AM
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I just came to FDS to make a similar post about the documentary I'm watching "Not Carol" (Starz on Amazon Prime). If there ever was a dire warning against LVM THIS MOVIE IS IT. This could possibly be any one of us had we chosen to blindly follow a man into marriage, pregnancy, and motherhood. She was a high-achiver with big dreams, and her worthless sexist husband took the lives of her and her three babies (that he claimed to care "so much about" but couldn't be bothered with the day-to-day rais…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:40 PM
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Wow, thanks for all the support ladies! This was my first time seeing a counselor, so it is disappointing it wasn't the success story I was hoping it to be. Plus, the initial "meet and greet" session was $200 (I went 2xs) 🙄 However, I congratulate myself for making that first step, for recognizing her gaslighting immediately, understanding I was not at fault in the situation, and for not giving in to the sunk-cost fallacy and refusing to return! (FDS SUCCESS STORY!!) Any tips on how to choose a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:44 AM
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Omgosh girl, these men are complete and utter degenerate psychos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:28 AM
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The two worst were both instances I thought I would be assaulted. Of course, my whole dating life was trash, so this isn't saying too much. 1) Dude makes a bunch of excuses why we can't meet in public. Despite being a huge pickme, I usually declined to go to a dudes house, but this dude wore me down enough to where I reluctantly acquiescence. First 🚩: huge house, but no roommates, no family? Hmmm.... Second 🚩 (hindsight): No tour. I really had no idea who else could have been in the house with u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:27 AM
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😳😳😳😳😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:59 AM
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Oh my god......... the ole "What do you want to do? Yeah that sounds good." 15 minutes later "Actually, do you mind if we do xyz and then yours?" You've given me regret chills sis lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:57 AM
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Its taken me a looong time to realize this too!! After my breakup, I bought 7 new lingerie outfits and I wear them as pj's. I do my hair all nice and pretty just to go on a hike. I wear my nice clothes to pick up milk at Walmart. I live FOR ME now. I put all my time, energy, and money INTO ME now. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:48 AM
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My new counselor told me "how it was my fault for letting him in my life" after I gave a brief rundown of my past relationship. I then told her he would "accidently" hurt me during intimate moments, and then deny it with a lame excuse. 5-6xs. She said, "I've never heard of people doing that." As if I would make it up. Anyway, I'm still trying working on cutting worthless people put of my life, but it was a no-brainer to stop paying $100 a session to get put down like that. Mysogeny comes in all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:03 AM
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Completely agree; we have to work together to overcome ingrained, unintentional racist actions and thought processes. Thanks for sharing, and for welcoming discussion. I do wish you wouldn't say outside the scope of this sub; I almost see "dating strategy" as ironic, seeing as how most of us decided to stop dating completely after joining FDS. Idk how the majority or our mods feel, but I love to see all types of discussions on FDS. On that point I could be wrong; if anyone else knows of a simila…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:05 PM
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Hope that's succinct enough for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:23 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:22 PM
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Wouldn't it take less words for YOU to just say "shut up"? :) I'll do as I damn well please, and you are welcome to scroll on by. ✌ Ps- What exactly are you hoping to accomplish by trying to silence women, who have been told to "sit down, shut up, take up less space" their entire lives by the patariarchy, in a safe place that welcomes all forms of discussion so we can better support sisterhood and promote a feminist agenda? J/c.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:17 PM
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Wow thank you. Honestly, I am completely uneducated about the social constructs of European countries in general, and probably more so of the type of place you are describing. I am so glad you are here and commend you for trying to go outside the accepted norms in your community, trying to educate others, and trying to bring knowledge here to us at FDS. Way to go girl! 🏆 I hope to read more from you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:13 PM
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Wow, thank you so much for pointing out the language barrier, which I rarely even consider. We do need to remember we have a huge, diverse population here at FDS (YAY!!!!!!!!!!!) and we need to catch ourselves before we try to alienate anyone based on our own limited understanding of a situation. This place is a lifesaver for EVERY type of woman. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:09 PM
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I really hope the mod did not say that about short women, as that really needs to be brought to light. It is unacceptable to shame women on anything concerning their looks. I also agree that ethnicity and religion had no bearing on the story. I'm worried about the future of women if we continue to vilify each other for no real reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:14 AM
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I'm going to respectfully disagree that disparaging someone anonymously on the internet is "trouble"; in fact, its easier to do that than to take the time to explain and educate. Thankfully, someone did that for me. Thankfully, someone is doing that for OP. And yes, my comment was completely innocuous, and many women sided with me. However, understanding the faux-pas misconstrued from my comment, I corrected it and apologized immediately. I will never advocate for the suppression of someone's fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:59 AM
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I'm gonna get downvoted to hell, but I was recently accused on this sub for being racist, for an innocuous comment that had cultural connotations I was not aware of. (And if any of you knew me in real life, you would find that accusation so far outside the realm of reality it would be a non-sequitir from the get-go) Instead of trying to shit stir, why don't you truly try to educate and edify? I understand that racism and ignorance is rampant and in many cases intentional; I cannot even begin to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:09 AM
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Thank you for correcting her in a non-confrontational, edifying way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:57 AM
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sigh I'm still pissed at myself. F*ck you Joe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:51 PM
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Yup!!! Already made a res at the best restaurant in town for just meeee 💘💘💘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:48 PM
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God, where can I find these ads? I would love to see some half naked men instead of women, like I have my. entire. life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:36 PM
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"I spend my life convincing this dude to hang out with me, despite the fact that he obviously doesn't want too and continually lies to me about it. I'm trying to convince myself that neither him nor I are the problem by coming up with pathetic excuses for his behavior. Is there anything anyone can say to me to reinforce the idea that I'm not being disrespected and blown off? I really want to continue this relationship because I have low self-esteem and am scared to be single. Please help interne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:33 PM
3

Making worthless videos to gain worthless internet points with a worthless significant other who won't even willingly give up his worthless sperm. (If this video is even true) And how is her career going, her hobbies, her relationships with family, friends, and other women? Does she have any goals other than to be a c*m dumpster? What are her long-term plans? What are her dreams and aspirations? How is she helping her community? How is she furthering the betterment of gender equality? But we don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:52 PM
5

My god, the same thing happened to me.... I am not a fan of roses, which I tried to COmUniCaTe gently several times.... and he would always say, "but those are the most expensive" and I'd get roses over and over and over again. Wth is wrong with men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:27 PM
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I was missing my ex the other day, thinking about how we used to cuddle.... And then just as I started to daydream I violently remembered how he would grope me on a regular basis out of a dead sleep so we could have sex. We used to fight constantly about it; me cOmMuniCaTiNg "please don't wake me up every day by groping me" and him giving whatever bs excuse he felt justified sexually harassing me every morning. I never really understood why he was so wrong and my feelings about not wanting to be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:16 PM
26

Same, but maybe only 3 seconds of the trailer lol When the f are they going to start making media where women are not focused on men and relationships? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:00 PM
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Of course. I thought I was a strong feminist before FDS; and I was.... except in relationships. Outside of the house, I made my own money, my own rules, I was loud, I was aggressive, I was demanding, I was confident, and I laughed in the face of men who tried to tear me down. I regaled people at parties with my "this is how I fucked the patriarchy today" stories. People came to me constantly and told me how much they admired me for my strength and male bosses would say I wasnt like "other women"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:38 PM
7

I wish I understood this before I invested thousands of dollars into situationships. Then you add on top all of the money I spent on hair products, makeup, hair removal, birth control, perfume, clothes, lingerie.... its not a wonder women are usually at a financial disadvantage. On the plus side, now that I do not talk to men socially, my savings account is nice and fat, I spoil myself rotten the exact way I always wanted to be, I act/look however I want, I have more time, I'm more confident (de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:09 PM
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Same. We didn't get away with shit, and I was cleaning and doing yard work at 6 years old. This is why I can never live with a man unmarried, because I usually have 24 years of adulting experience on them. I'm not going to spend another 24 years trying to catch them up 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:29 PM
7

😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 I stan your mother!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:07 PM
44

Living for these comments. My question is, if they are so eQuaL and this "consensual non-consent" is so nOrmAL, why isn't it ever the man being raped? Tie him up, gag him, whip him until he bleeds, then shove a huge dildo up his ass sans lube. I think we all know the answer. (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:01 PM
9

Exact. Same. And the ONE TIME I asked, he scratched me so hard I screamed. We broke up soon after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:55 AM
118

By that logic, a few men out there owe me their soul for the $$$$ I put into our situationships 🤔 Any ideas on how I can collect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:41 PM
12

If I had a mentor when I was younger, my life could have been saved. I wouldn't be playing catch up now in my 30s. WHEN YOU ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL, you need to IMMEDIATELY find out what it takes to take dual credit courses. EARN YOUR ASSOCIATES DEGREE WHILE YOU ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL. After you graduate HS, you can then look into getting certifications that will land you a good job (if you do not want to go on to your Bachelors). Anything STEM is a good start. Anything business is a good start. Paralega…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:58 PM
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I didnt bother watching the video, 3 seconds was enough to extrapolate what its about. I also don't care about whether or not they stay together; I'm already leery or pickmes, their relationships, and people who feel the need to post their entire lives on social media. What makes me sad is how many young women spend their entire waking life pouring their energy into their looks, their sexuality, the pursuit of approval, and in front of their phone's camera. Is this a new thing? Have generations …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:37 PM
6

And while LVM post, hate, disparage, condemn, harass, victimize, threaten, insult, and live sinful, hateful double lives kept secret from their families, their SOs, their churches, their jobs, their friends.... This woman will be loving herself, God's creatures/creations, and her sisters all the while doing things she enjoys the most and living her best life. She will likely be spreading love and harmony, and inspiring others to do the same. I think we all know who will have the last laugh :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:28 PM
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Totally agree when I first saw the movie. And then at the end, how they try to wrap it up neatly by saying "Well if he hadn't been such a dick to wake her in the first place, everyone would die." So she also forgives him and learns to love him...... Yup. Thats all we are. Disposable bangmaid mommies whose main goal in life is to forgive whatever pos man picks you for a life of unspeakable drudgery. What else could a girl want?!! 😍 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:09 PM
18

Right, we learned that in Kinder. "No" means "No" and always has dipshit. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:01 PM
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And Im sure there are women on here who think this is a one-off and "not all men are like that". Both my exs were exactly like this, right down to the excuses, no shame, and were OK to walk off from the * relationship ( * destruction and chaos they created) without another thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:52 PM
27

Ohhh nice..... love it when women look put for each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:36 PM
16

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:24 PM
72

Sorry girl. Similar happened to me.... I knew he had FB, but "that was the only social media, he never uses it, never talks to anyone on it and no, I couldn't look at it." All lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:02 AM
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Wow. Incredible. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! These stories need to be heard, and I know how FDS is spilt on that idea, so thank-you for your bravery. I would like to emphasize to the young girls reading this........... It means NOTHING to make money off being sexy, sexual, and/or subservient to men. Any woman can do it; the sexual appetite of men in this world is deep and endless. You put your own self-worth at risk, as well as setting back the progress of your sisters. If women are groomed from childho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:59 AM
13

Yup, same. Ugh 😑 = big huge bitch with some expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:44 PM
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Aside from dating, I'm so grateful to see someone put my feelings into words. I feel like I am actually losing my gd mind. Please tell me I am not the only one, bc my job is acting I should be handling the stress better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:44 PM
26

I'm with some other FDS ladies, I'm starting to think some of these are fake. If only for my sanity..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:38 PM
224

"Give you head" 🙄 You mean one second of licking and two minutes of jackhammering your fingers before its 'your turn'? Same with "hang out as friends" = the minimal amount of time I can pretend to be interested in you before you'll sleep with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:32 PM
46

Here's a fun drinking game..... drink every time this woman apologizes for having high standards, calls herself names, apologizes for asking for information so she can make an informed choice, go out of her way to make a piece of filth feel less shitty about himself, accept his shitty behavior and attitude without question, accepts his name calling and degradation, and continues the conversation when she should have absolutely just BLOCKED and DELETE. 🍸 🍸 🍸 🍸 🍸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:26 PM
43

Do women not want more? Are they really OK with men getting to do whatever they want, while they sit home twidling their thumbs? I just can't even comprehend it. Everything he is doing, I want to be doing and better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:43 PM
30

I live for these "fuck the patriarchy" stories lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:03 PM
9

Thank you! My point exactly! Little girls are encouraged to sit inside a house, little boys are encouraged to climb trees. "Men are naturally stronger" is fake biology bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:03 PM
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This is exactly what I'm talking about. If women got the opportunity and were encouraged from childhood to increase their physicality and strength...... then WHO IS TO SAY that men are "naturally" stronger than women?? I've been stronger than lots of men I know, and more athletic too. Why is it everytime "biology" is brought into the conversation, women lose out? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:00 PM
9

This brings up ugly memories for me. My ex contracted genital warts while we were together. I had been regularly tested for STDs before we got together, and was tested after he found out, I was always clean. He always made me feel bad because I had 20 sexual partners before him, and he'd only had 2. So how could HE POSSIBLY get an STD with so few partners??? And of course he swore up and down he wasn't cheating. So idk, in my pickme state I just accepted it as a weird one-off. Was he cheating? D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:53 PM
35

"looking for a relationship" or "ready to get married". They never are, at least in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:46 PM
11

This is the one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:45 PM
29

God, I've thrown surprise parties for ex's, driven 4 hours to pick up their favorite food, planned/paid/executed extravagant dates, cleaned their rooms/apartments, spent countless hours and dollars on surprise lingerie/dressing up....... I'm pretty much wanting to be single for life at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:18 AM
6

Call and ask her, and if not, then look in a nearby city. You want to support women, plus it is a complete crapshoot whether you will get a creeper or a HVM. If you can't, and proceed with the male instructor, make sure one of your parents is available to greet him before and after each session. If he knows your parents are extremely involved in your life, it is not likely a man will be inappropriate. Hopefully your Dads insistence at a female instructor comes from a good place, and not a misgui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:54 AM
33

Damn, so you are familiar with my last few relationships 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:25 PM
7

I honestly attribute a large part of my former pickmeisha ways to Disney movies, Hallmark movies, teen magazines, teen pop, and teen movies. They mess you up, and make you hyper-focused on men and relationships. I was never encouraged to explore STEM subjects, and was frequently ostracized for being a "tomboy" bc I liked being outside and played sports.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:41 PM
24

So get him nothing, as that will likely match his effort in the relationship. Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:53 PM
7

✔ Talking to men socially (first time ever in my life-Im 30) ✔ Not actively looking for men, sex, dating, or relationships ✔ Being COMPLETELY FINE AND ACTUALLY GRATEFUL to be single and focused on my life and future ✔ Stopped feeling self-conscious when others are shocked/upset/offended at my sInGLe status and apathy towards finding a hUsBaNd ✔ Stopped investing time, money, and energy into men and relationships. I am spoiling myself rotten for the first time in my life and I am giddy as hell ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:44 AM
5

Good on you girl! Live you best life and take no shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:31 AM
3

Oh. My. God. I hope someone writes a book about this. I wish I was all your boyfriends!!!!! They made out like bandits!!! I cant believe how many other women have made this mistake too. My favorite worthless ex purchase (but by far not the only one 🤡) was a christmas present gaming computer chair $300, 3 weeks before I found he had cheated for a 3rd time and I broke up with him. I get real cringe walking into an office supply store this time of year 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:36 AM
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The only son I dated, his father had died when he was 13. Everything OP says, fit him to a T. This woman literally did everything for this 25 year old boy, and he honestly couldn't tell me her favorite color. I always felt bad for her, and tried to "make him" see how his treatment of her was wrong. When we briefly discussed moving in together (gross, tg we didnt) his plan was to literally move away and leave all his hoarder shit for her to deal with. Dude saw nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 07:51 PM
20

"I feel like he is so different from other men!!! He's 100% genuine, I just know it! I can really tell his intentions are true!!!!!!" also "I mean, we barely know each other...." Mental gymnastics. Desperation. Settling for less. Chasing. ✔ ✔ ✔ ✔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:22 AM
5

My problem is Tinder is this app is full of jerks, socially akward men who have trouble getting a woman in real life Yess... although I last did OLD 2 years ago, that is mainly what I encountered as well (+ hygenically disgusting, living in moms basement, unemployed). The only exception were foreign men who had recently relocated into town. They were still LV (as opposed to the 95% NV) but for various other reasons (cheating, family issues, future faking).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:51 AM
20

Agree with all you girls. This negging is just the beginning. If she continues on this pickme path, in 10 years she will just be a shell of herself wondering where the f*ck it all went wrong. Ask me how I know. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:05 PM
7

I totally agree. What kind of horrible upbringing did this girl endure to hook up with this deadbeat at 19, stayed with this abuse for 5 years.... and is still unsure she should kick him to the curb??? My upbringing wasn't all roses, but I thank God I had it better than this poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:36 PM
39

Yup. Same goes for men who never invite you over, always take phone calls/video chats outside, can only meet during working hours (I unfortunately speak from personal experience) 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:14 PM
52

What could that dude manipulate in real life? His pp? Even at my worst pickme stage I would have been like "hard pass".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:27 PM
22

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:26 PM
4

Ohhhh nooooo!!!! ExPiRe AlOnE????!!!!! Instead of with a big bag of worthless shit strapped to her ankle and hindering her every happiness?????!!! 😱😱😱😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:22 AM
24

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:32 PM
85

I'm not anybody's mommy. If you do not know how to treat others respect, take care of yourself and your environment, pay your bills, not cheat, not lie, nor how to help others.... then all I can say is "Sorry your parents were completely incompetent. Good luck and goodbye."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:11 PM
24

I never understand when a man treats a woman like shit but begs her not to dump him. Its truly astounding. If she hadn't caught him, he'd cheat on her indefinitely, for years even, and she'd never know. Do men have 0 shame? They really think women are standing around, happy and eager to be their support systems, even if they are being treated like dogs. Completely incredible. Tfg I'm single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:05 PM
38

Agreed. When I watched "The Business Of Being Born" I was outraged. In fact, so many reccommended medical procedures are misleading and dangerous. Also watch "The Root Cause". Be your own advocate!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:43 PM
15

Id rather go to a time share presentation than meet this ahole anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:36 AM
1

Wow. That did not even deserve a response. Thats an immediate block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:47 AM
52

At least they be calling themselves out 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:18 AM
8

And the reverse applies too. I am embarrassed to say I only recently realized I sunk all my time, ambition, a lot of money, and my career into the pursuit of gETtInG mArrIEd... and why? Because I watched too many Hallmark movies as a teenager? 🙄 I'm playing catch up in my 30s now. Don't be me!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:21 AM
40

Love how she says "My hormones are crazy so thats probably why this bothers me so much!!!" Yup. Women gaslighting themselves instead of recognizing true abuse. I've been there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:15 PM
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