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Thank you brotha. All solid advices!
/r/askTRP06/05/21 04:56 AM
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This. Read the situation and lead the situation. Sometimes you can sense escalation sooner and other times they need to warm up a bit. Just don't try to read her every move for the perfect moment. Control your frame and create a good atmosphere.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 04:03 AM
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You are too heavily invested in her life. This is a dangerous and toxic mental place to be. Who gives a fuck about what she does with her social media. You can't ever control what she does/wants to do and portraying your insecurities is just going to make things worse. If you don't think she gives you the level of respect and value you deserve, then leave her. If her presence in your life isn't help you level up, then is that relationship even worth having? Focus on leveling up and less on stupi…
/r/askTRP28/04/21 08:47 AM
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It could be many things. Check your stress levels and muscle tension. Not being able to relax is a big thing. Also if you have any pains or knots, it might be good to get a deep tissue massage or have your back checked. Check your nutrition and diet. Check to see if your blood flow is good. Do you get enough sleep? Also try meditation. When you force your body to try and be aroused, it can put too much pressure. Practice the art of feeling/doing nothing and allow your body to function how it is …
/r/askTRP16/02/21 04:44 AM
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Anytime a person become a bigger liability than an asset, it's a good time to cut them out. Red flags are pretty much indicators of whether a person can become a liability to your life and well being. I'll often be lenient, but if stress ever overrides the joy of having a person around, it's time to drop.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 07:11 AM
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If you want it, then go get it. This is your life, fuck what other people have to say. If other people care, let them. It doesn't mean you have to care. Don't let fear of judgment stop you from living the life you want.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 06:59 AM
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I want to get back on this level. I used to love working out and meditating. Haven't done it as much lately, especially working out. I have chronic back pain, but I feel like incorporating running could be helpful to loosen my back tension.
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:31 AM
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Congrats
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:29 AM
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Nice. I've been holding off working out cause I've dealt with chronic back pain this past year. I heard that it could actually be effective to strengthen the back so I might start again. I need to fix my sleep schedule but I'm not motivated enough since I don't have anything to wake up early for anymore and I end up working late nights instead. What motivates you to wake up in the morning?
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:29 AM
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Did it hurt your feelings? Don't be a little bitch. [End of discussion]
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:45 PM
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There's a bigger irony that you engaged with me first, then telling me that I'm wasting my time engaging back with you while you continue to engage with me. I'm not upset at all, I was just entertaining myself by breaking down your psyche. But my fascination is over. Thanks for entertaining me and I hope you really sort out some of those insecurities. Best of luck. I also like your spunk kid. Keep using the "little bitch" slogan. I''m for it.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 11:32 PM
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Lol, seems like not being wrong is a big accomplishment for you. Congrats! It seems like you use reddit as a form of therapy to satisfy some insecurities, so i'll let you be. But you might want to look into why you seem to get so easily triggered from looking at words on the internet.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 02:45 AM
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You sound like you're hurt. I was just agreeing with OP with an example, not using any excuse or complaining. You took a single word, took it way out of context and wrote a whole speech about it. Good for you, I hope you feel better about yourself.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 10:01 PM
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I understand what you guys are saying, but I find it funny how you guys are jumping to conclusions from what I was saying. First of all, I was just agreeing with OP with an example, not complaining. Second, my right tricep was sliced in half with a knife. This was also the summer I was training for NCAA Division 1 wrestling championships. My goal was to enter the olympics, but again I don't expect the average guy to understand so I'm not mad.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 09:56 PM
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Yeah. I have a close friend that I grew up with who is very privileged. I was talking to him about a permanent injury I experienced caused by a family member, and the best thing he was able to say was, "at least you don't have cancer or anything." I've learned that every person has their role, and these guys who have never experienced real hardship and pain will never have the ability to actually relate and help those that are. Having experienced hardship and making it out the other side is a tr…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 07:18 AM
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I was once 15, and looking for the answer too. But let me save you time and say there's really no secret answer. It's something every man gains through experience. I guess the best advice I can tell you is to experience as much as you can. Experience everything, the good and the bad. Experience taking chances, getting rejected, getting heartbroken, then letting that drive you to become better. The faster you go through the shitty stuff, the quicker you'll learn how to really become the man you w…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 07:07 AM
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You can always grab a snack or dessert. If a girl wants coffee, I usually just end up ordering tea or hot chocolate.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:35 AM
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Figure out what you want to do. By reading your post, it almost seems like you are waiting for other people's permission to tell you what to do. If i were you, i'd take the first step in taking control of my own life and stop giving a shit about what other people say or think. Find your intuition and follow it. It's the only way you'll find your own satisfaction.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:27 AM
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It's one of those things that are most likely not going to be as bad as you run it in your head. If you're not a piece of shit, most parents will be cool. You don't have to be Mr. Perfect. When people try to put on a show, it comes off as insincere. As others have said, just be yourself and be respectful.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:17 AM
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Nice! She must like you! Send her a dick pic!
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:13 AM
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Have you ever felt a decrease in sex drive? Or has it been a steady high?
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:10 AM
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I agree with this. I think once a week is a pretty good frequency as it gets rid of the desperation, but you become loaded with energy to go get some.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:08 AM
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Hmm. I don't know because when I was younger, I would watch a lot of porn and still be horny. Now, I can go a month or two without porn easily and still not feel as horny.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:05 AM
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Was there ever a point when you felt your sex drive decrease at all or has it been a high ever since u can remember? I used to be able to cum 3+ times a day, and still be able to get hard on command. Now I'm usually chill after 1 or 2.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:02 AM
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Interesting. I'm the opposite. I usually can't cum from getting my dick sucked. There have been a few times where I can't cum at all but that is really rare. Girls tell me that my load is pretty big as well. My best performance has been when I masturbate once like every 4-5 days.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 11:00 AM
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Not as much as I used to. That's why I'm saying, it feels like I used to be hornier when I watched more porn although a lot of people say the opposite.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 07:50 AM
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Lol
/r/askTRP17/01/21 07:49 AM
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Work on yourself. I've had many younger women express their interest and they said they're attracted to how I carry myself. A lot of them told me that they were afraid to ask me on a date because they thought I would be too busy for them. When a guy who is busy makes time for you, it makes you feel special. Use social media more like a billboard and less like a telemarketer. I use social media almost like a progress journal. I showcase milestones I'm making in my career, fitness, hobbies, and I …
/r/askTRP17/01/21 05:43 AM
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Younger women find it creepy when an older guy tries to approach them, but they fantasize about characteristics an older guy MIGHT have. These characteristics include, having their shit together, being more mature, having social/financial power, not doing childish shit, not being simps, not being desperate, can be relied physically, mentally, emotionally and can afford doing fun exciting things. So if you're just simply sliding into their DM's, it disqualifies many of these characteristics and y…
/r/askTRP17/01/21 05:25 AM
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What is your objective? I would say if this is even an issue, then she is not the one. Seems like both of you have insecurities, and the mixture of both of your insecurities doesn't sound like a good mix. I wouldn't want a LTR with anyone that I can't feel comfortable being myself around. I would just ride it out, and not expect much. There'll be better candidates. Focus on yourself and overcoming the insecurity in the meantime.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 04:22 AM
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There was nothing to pass from the beginning.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 04:12 AM
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I would either not reply or say, "hmm...you got me there" and end the conversation there. Give them a shit answer if they give you a shit test.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 03:50 AM
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Honestly, every situation is different. I've recently found myself in a similar predicament. If you do, just make sure the dynamic is according to your terms. Don't catch feelings and the harder part is to make sure she doesn't catch feelings. In my situation, I gave her the option that we can go separate ways, or we can continue being friends, but I made it clear that any type of relationship we had before was out the picture. And she was the one who suggested being "special" friends. Whenever …
/r/askTRP17/01/21 03:22 AM
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Stop worrying about something that's already been done and something that hasn't happened. If you really did something that brings shame, the only person to need to regain honor within is yourself. You can't control how the world reacts and running away will only make you feel more cowardly. Own your character. If you don't want to be known as a guy that does weird shit to women, then don't do weird shit to women.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 01:00 AM
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Whether you're serious or not, I fuck with your energy. Most people try to invalidate anger, and sometimes it helps just to know someone else understands your anger. I know anger's not the way at the end of the day, but thank you for understanding how much effort I'm putting into not becoming a product of my anger. This message alone is better than what most of my friends were even close to saying. Thank you. To the fucking ceiling we go.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 06:29 AM
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Trust me I've given him chance after chance and I've gotten my mental and physical self continually damaged due to him. I was hoping he would get better with age as most people do, but he's turning 31. At this point, I don't see things getting better. Sadly, I think he's just a piece of shit and doesn't deserve any of my sympathy. True, at the end of the day I need to focus on my own success over anything else.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 05:27 AM
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Thanks for the reply. As a kid I always believed that you were supposed to love your family unconditionally, but looking back, I feel like he continuously abused me both mentally and physically. It wasn't until recently that I removed my blindfold to realize what a piece of shit he is. There are instances I remember such as when I had a national competition for martial arts and he would purposely beat me up and not let me sleep the night before the tournament. He would make me feel shameful for …
/r/askTRP08/01/21 05:18 AM
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I agree but it just pisses me off knowing he pretty much handicapped me and doesn't show any remorse. I get triggered when I have to deal with cramps and pain everyday due to his action and even have to pay my own money for pain relief creams and medications.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 05:05 AM
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You're overthinking it. Yes it kills attraction if you're constantly chatting with them like you don't have anything better to do. But it doesn't hurt to have them on social media. React to their stories if you see something that's actually cool. Have them intrigued in your posts/stories. In the meantime, go out with other girls/friends and show that you've got options as well as an exciting social life. When it comes time when you can actually meet in person, they'll be more excited.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:13 AM
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I'm personally more carefree when it comes to getting head. For the most part, I can grasp a sense of how a girl behaves and entrust that she's probably safe. If i feel sketched out, I'll just say, "just wanna make sure, we're both clean. have you gotten checked recently?" If I feel really sketched out, I wouldn't even bother or maybe let her give me head with a condom lol
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:05 AM
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I don't really see what the issue is here. Talk to them at the rate you feel like. It never hurts to continually expand your social circle.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 02:57 AM
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Honestly, I've learned to trust my own instinct on who I can trust. If it's your first time having sex with her, I would use a condom regardless unless it's someone you know is really clean and trustworthy. If it was me, I would probably say fuck it and go with a condom. If you're really sketched out, just pass, it's not that serious.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 02:52 AM
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I've definitely had those random hits that are signaling me to take care of something in life, but this is a little different. It's almost like an existential crisis out of nowhere. Last night I was feeling excited about life, but when I posted this everything felt meaningless. An hour passed since I posted this and now I'm back to feeling normal again.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 08:35 AM
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I understand that everyone goes through good and bad times, but I'm talking about random spurts without knowing where it comes from. I posted this an hour ago and I'm already over it and feel fine now. It's kind of like a random spike of anxiety/depression where you literally lose motivation for anything and everything that was exciting you about life seems meaningless.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 08:32 AM
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You broke up with her in June 2019, but have you eliminated her completely or does she still linger in your life? Last time I was deeply in love and infatuated, I literally had to make a commitment to myself to stop caring so much about that person. I didn't allow myself to have any interaction on the phone even when it was tempting. Didn't check their social media, etc., until their existence was completely out of my mind. Took a solid month or two to really stop caring.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 07:03 AM
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Impossible is a bad words choice. A better way to phrase it is that finding a high quality girlfriend is very unlikely if you're a low quality/average man. Even as a guy reading your post, there is nothing you wrote that stands out that seems interesting/exciting. Why would a woman who has the option of living an exciting life settle for one that doesn't bring any excitement. Just because something is nice and stable doesn't make it appealing. A Toyota Camry is nice and stable, but would you pic…
/r/askTRP19/10/20 10:31 PM
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Well to directly answer your question, you either have to completely not give a shit despite the consequences and be prepared to hold your frame with whatever may come your way (wouldn't suggest unless you have pure confidence), or really pay attention and avoid red flags. It sounds to me like a 2nd meetup isn't worth your time. If you don't see a potential LTR and she's already making you feel uncomfortable about hooking up, this is a waste of time. If you want a good hookup, find another girl …
/r/askTRP18/10/20 07:01 PM
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Dated the girl for over a year. At first we kept it very casual but she would go the extra mile for me. She would constantly surprise me with gifts and concert tickets as well. She was always down to do anything I wanted and would always accompany me to everything so it ended up becoming a LTR. I ended up finding her more physically attractive and actually began caring a little too much about her. Once I actually started showing her that I liked her, a lot of ugly traits began showing. It began …
/r/askTRP17/10/20 06:33 AM
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If you ask most guys, most guys will tell you that 21 was not anywhere close to their prime. This whole post lacks a lot of self confidence. If there's anything that's wasting your "prime", it's your lack of self-confidence. Yeah maybe you have disadvantages of not being the best looking guy, but focus on things that you can control. Keep hitting the gym, get your body and stature in good shape, read books, listen to podcasts, get cultured, become confident in stimulating other people's minds, l…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 09:07 PM
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Well that's where confidence plays a key roll. If you really want a higher quality life, you need to really believe in yourself with confidence that you are worthy. Eliminate the loser mentality of settling for something you don't really want. Don't live according to what society and other people say and create your own standards. I have a friend who fucked butt ugly girls on tinder every week for the past 5 years. He never finished college and works a shitty job and nobody wants a serious relat…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 08:53 PM
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It sounds to me like you just want to level up your life. I don't see no problem in doing that. I don't see it as running away, unless there is actually some sort of fear or insecurity that you are not willing to face. I see this as a good thing. If you constantly surround yourself with low value people, you will probably start adapting a similar mindset and patterns as them too. You want to surround yourself with people that normalize a higher quality of living. There was a time when I was a su…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 08:24 PM
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This could become a tricky situation. The problem is that she's going to be your only option and therefore you'll be dependent of her to overcome insecurity of your sex game. I would suggest not letting your insecurity be your motivation to go after a girl, because the moment she stops replying and you realize that she found another guy who is fucking her better, that insecurity might become a problem. I don't think it could be too bad if it's just once, but one time isn't going to help you real…
/r/askTRP14/10/20 04:23 AM
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Read books that are not related to seduction so that you have an interesting life and have interesting shit to say.
/r/askTRP22/03/20 06:49 PM
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Certain things that have helped me are gym, meditation, eating healthy, positive thoughts, surrounding myself with good people, reading, hobbies, journaling, discipline, being patient, keeping my mind occupied with things I feel passionate about, eliminating thoughts that cause any stress/worry. Create a schedule for yourself that actually excites you and you can end each day feeling proud/accomplished.
/r/askTRP17/03/20 12:23 AM
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Boxing/any type of workout is a great start! Feel free to message me if you want other suggestions.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:55 PM
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No, I just started going back
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:47 PM
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Don't dwell on something that's already been done. It seems to me like you're going through your own coping and recovery process so just focus on that. Break ups can be difficult so don't be so overcritical on yourself of whether you're doing it right or not. Do what you gotta do to cope and grow out of this experience and know that it's okay to take the necessary time needed. But from reading your post, it seems as if you're still emotionally reacting to her presence in your life. If you really…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:45 PM
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Most of the things you're worried about, aren't even worth worrying about. There was a time when I thought having a hot girlfriend/getting laid was going to make me the happiest person in the world. It even felt like I was constantly trying to improve myself to reach that goal. And I am so fucking glad that I didn't get a girlfriend until I moved past that phase. As you mentioned, you need to find solitary confidence and self esteem within yourself. If you want a hot girl, you need to have enoug…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:31 PM
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Stop stressing and putting so much unnecessary pressure on yourself. If a girl likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, then she doesn't. Stop putting your validation in another person. This can be extremely toxic and self harming if a relationship pursues. Find a partner who likes you enough and is willing to have sex with you enough so that you can learn to perform better. I couldn't even get it up with my current girl the first time, but I honestly wasn't that bothered by it. Bad performance…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 09:06 PM
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Second this. It seems like you need to understand your own misperceptions of reality rather than just women.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 11:03 PM
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Sounds like you're overthinking this. She's either into you or not. You got her number. Shoot your shot. Keep moving forward regardless. If you're worrying about little details of how "engaged" she was or how "dismissive" she seemed, it shows signs of insecurity which turns a lot of girls away.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 11:00 PM
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Few questions. How do you suspect that she is going to guilt you? Why do you keep getting back together if you know the relationship is not good for you? It seems like your best defense strategy is to have discipline. Mike Tyson said, "Discipline is doing what you hate to do, but nonetheless doing it like you love it." Break up with her as if that's what you love doing. Also I don't know you or your girlfriend so I don't know what you provide to her, but my best guess would be (as you mentioned)…
/r/askTRP09/03/20 10:45 PM
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You have to understand that everybody has their own issues and it's not always your fault. Some people are just naturally avoidant and dismissive due to their upbringing, past relationships, etc. It's not always about you. Your ego is probably obsessing over it because you are identifying how things not going as planned as a flaw in your character. It hinders your confidence when things don't go your way. But true confidence is being completely okay even when things don't necessarily go as plann…
/r/askTRP05/03/20 08:02 AM
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I understand where you're coming from. I'm currently in a relationship where this girl literally gave me the love and care that I always desired. She went out of her way to satisfy a lot of my personal needs. And it was as you explained, I fell in love with a girl thats in love with me. The highs of this relationship are amazing, but I realized that I fell into a toxic mindset through the process. I became addicted to her love and became somewhat dependent. It began fueling my anxiety, insecurit…
/r/askTRP05/03/20 07:45 AM
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It seems like you are worrying too much. Remember that sex is supposed to be enjoyable. Just as you said, it shouldn't have to feel like a chore. I've had discussions about this with my friends and one of them had a really good reply. He told me, "If i can't even get it hard, I probably wasn't going to enjoy it that much anyways," and he sent the girl home. I had a similar experience myself, and I understand how it could trigger many worries. Just realize there could be many factors that isn't a…
/r/askTRP28/02/20 06:24 AM
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I know this is the way at the end of the day. I just need a little rational guidance as my mind has been fully based on emotions in the past couple of months. How do I reawaken my rational mind and quiet my emotional one?
/r/askTRP23/02/20 05:08 AM
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What was it exactly that made you happier?
/r/askTRP23/02/20 05:03 AM
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I honestly just wrote this to get some thoughts out my mind. If anything, I was seeing if anybody could relate to my experience with anxiety and loss of purpose. It might seem pretty simple, but when you are in the state of anxiety, much of your thinking become irrational. You start moving based on emotion and it can be incredibly difficult to get out of that cycle. Thought it would be helpful to share my experience to whomever might be going through something similar. Hearing people who are mor…
/r/askTRP23/02/20 04:59 AM
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I did not have a serious relationship during those times. Rather I did not take relationships that seriously. I didn't even take this current relationship seriously at first. It wasn't until I fell into my anxiety/depression and she was there to comfort those times that I began taking it serious. But I definitely agree with your statement of the secret being in the daily routine. Thank you
/r/askTRP17/02/20 01:52 AM
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Any good places you'd suggest to look for more red pill stuff about LTR?
/r/askTRP05/02/20 07:34 AM
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Thank you for all of this. Anxiety really got me thinking that the world and all odds are against me. But not going to lie, I did reach a point where I became afraid of losing her and did everything she wanted. But she also did everything I wanted to accomodate to my anxiety. But yes currently focusing on recovery. Everytime I sense an anxious feeling or thought, I have been choosing to meditate to process those thoughts rather than acting on them and having her relieve my worries. I am practici…
/r/askTRP05/02/20 07:25 AM
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I am working on that right now. Really taking the time to recover from my anxiety. Made an oath to myself to meditate and workout daily, fix my sleep schedule, and also chose to limit how often we talk on the phone.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 07:18 AM
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Looking into the prolonged fast right now. Does that mean not eating for 48 hours? I've been taking care of myself, hitting the gym again, ran 2 miles today, planning to meditate before going to sleep today. How is your recovery process going and how long have you been at it?
/r/askTRP31/01/20 04:01 AM
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Don't be that guy trying to pull at a possibility of hope. It's either she's into you or not and it seems like you know it yourself that she's probably not. Don't waste your time and efforts, cause it's better to have a girl that's really into you.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 03:11 AM
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I think it depends on the relationship they have with their parents. Many people just hate being told how to live their life.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 03:05 AM
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Thank you for the reply. TRP definitely has a lot of truth but at the end of the day it is unhealthy to live constantly with a sense of distrust especially in somebody you care about. I see it as, be aware and don't take it so personally if people are disloyal, but I feel like that also applies with friendships. There's gonna be real ones and fake ones all the time. Thank you for sharing your experience
/r/askTRP16/12/19 03:29 AM
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Thank you. I do understand what you're saying but I also think that might be running away from the real problem. There's always going to be another dude out there that's better looking, taller, more wealthy, etc. If you're worried about that, you will never be confident and always have some sort of unsettled insecurity. I remember reading a post on this subreddit before that really hit me. It was about confidence and it was something along the lines that true confidence is about being completely…
/r/askTRP16/12/19 02:25 AM
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Thank you for this reply. Needed to hear this. Yes i've been doing a lot to pull myself back up. I've been working out, meditating, reading, even tried therapy. I've been able to pull myself back before, but it's just hard when there's somebody you really care about involved and you want to stay strong for her.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 02:13 AM
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Why would you advise against making her a gf? This might be the wrong place to put this but I am interested in hearing the replies. I actually like her and I think she's good for my personal growth, regardless of the outcome. If I end up getting hurt, the overcoming of that will only make me stronger. I used to think that I should hide my weak side, but doesn't becoming comfortable with your weak side actually make you a stronger person. Isn't a part of TRP to become stronger and confident with …
/r/askTRP15/12/19 08:41 PM
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After talking about this with a friend and reading all these replies, it's all pretty obvious. My emotions created an illusion and it really got the best of me. I started seeing her as someone special through the illusion. I'm realizing that I have to constantly remind myself that she's just one of many "special" girls that will enter my life.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 10:04 AM
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I guess I'm still getting used to the concept of having multiple women. How do you guys transition? I feel like I've gotten so intimate with this one that I wouldn't be able to openly talk to other women right now either.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:50 AM
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Damn thank you. I honestly forgot my own value for a second because I got lost in the illusion I've created for this girl.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:46 AM
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Damn. Okay. Thank you for this. Needed this reminder. What's funny is I feel like this girl fell for me thinking I was going to be the chad. She always tells me that she thought I was going to be an asshole and she honestly just wanted to fuck me. I feel like my emotional attachment slowly began growing a bitch inside of me. The role of the relationship completely switched. Really trying to let go of that emotional attachment. Or do you believe once the emotion has kicked in, that it's too late?
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:42 AM
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I've read the sidebar and the handbook. But I made the mistake of getting emotionally invested in one more than the others and I'm seeking a way to get out. I honestly let my emotions get the best of me and was trying to figure out if you guys had some sort of method to keep those emotions tamed.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:34 AM
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I was doing that at first and it was working great. But i started getting a lot more intimate with one. I feel like I began giving her emotional investment and I need help getting out.
/r/askTRP17/11/19 07:28 AM
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100% It's pretty crazy how you can completely change your mindset when temptations gets the best of your self control. There are pros and cons to the situation, but in the long run I know what is better for me. Tried ending it before but it didn't work too great. I think I'll demote to a plate and just fill most of my time focusing on raising my value.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 08:44 AM
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Ironically, I decided to pick up and read The Power of Now for my fourth time about a week ago. It has been helping me a lot. Another thought that came across my head today as I was working out at the gym is that if a woman really wants me, I want her to genuinely want me and not feel obligated because of our relationship/bond. That is actually one of my biggest turn ons, is when a girl is genuinely interested in me. It's actually a natural turn-off when I feel like the girl doesn't actually wan…
/r/askTRP08/11/19 01:50 AM
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I hit the gym 5 days a week
/r/askTRP07/11/19 06:02 PM
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At first I didn't think that I'd like her, but I think the mixture of going through a shitty period and her constantly being there for me made me appreciate her. I've tried ending it on multiple occasions because I usually don't like having people around during vulnerable times, but she kept convincing me that it's okay. So as of right now, I honestly feel like I wouldn't feel bad if she wanted to end it cause I know I have other priorities to focus on anyways. Will definitely take that last adv…
/r/askTRP07/11/19 07:48 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Yes currently dealing with my anxiety and it's been getting better. Current training my mind to be happy and completely fine when I am alone. Do you recommend completely detaching from the relationship or just practice self-discipline until the relationship naturally ends?
/r/askTRP07/11/19 04:25 AM
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Yeah 2 family members in the span of 5 months. Both were unexpected.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 03:33 AM
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Not gonna lie, I'm still aspiring to reach those levels of being truly RP. I understand that I will be able to bounce back no matter what, just trying to keep my mind as strong as possible to make good decisions during the difficult times.
/r/askTRP20/10/19 03:59 PM
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Thank you for the advice. Went with my gut and it actually cleared up a lot of emotional weight and mental blockage.
/r/askTRP20/10/19 03:56 PM
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Thank you for the response. For the relationship part, wasn't sure how honest i should be with expressing it because I feel like TRP says never to be 100% honest. I am currently putting the relationship on hold and she is being fully understanding/respectful of that. Conflicted whether i should just start seeing her less or if I should drop her and take this time to really focus on myself. For the health, I usually hit the gym on a consistent basis but an injury is currently disabling me from fo…
/r/askTRP18/10/19 02:43 PM
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Ok. I will really take this time to draw a vision for myself. Thank you
/r/askTRP18/10/19 02:06 PM
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I don't think the necessary answer is to "lie" to yourself, but instead believe in yourself and work towards making that belief into a reality. Focus on making yourself a high value man and the women will be compliments to that lifestyle. Become a busy person who has a mission in life. Improve your physical and mental shape to become more attractive each day. Eliminate those myths about feeling inadequent. Find abundance in other ways. Find happiness in other ways. If you let sex define your sta…
/r/askTRP18/10/19 12:37 AM
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To keep the answer simple, find more plates. Keep it fun for yourself. When a relationship starts feeling emotionally straining, it’s time to step away and give it room to breathe. You should be willing to let it go or walk away from a plate. Remember to keep your main focus on your self growth and journey. Keep life challenging and fun for yourself and stop playing it safe. Imagine your future self thinking about where you are currently. Do you think he would allow his growth to be stopped by a…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 03:06 PM
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without making my intentions abundantly clear or just making shit weird If you're already having these thoughts, you've already lost half the battle. It's only gonna get more weird if you're hiding your intentions until YOU feel safe to escalate. I would openly start flirting with both girls right from the start. Just start talking to them about interesting shit and make them feel comfortable with being open with you as well. Once you've established that comfort and attraction level, invite one …
/r/askTRP11/10/19 07:34 PM
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Honestly that's bullshit if she doesn't get tested as well. I personally get a bit paranoid every-time i have raw sex, so I can understand where she could be coming from, but I feel like she's already placing herself on a pedestal by saying you need to get tested and she doesn't.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:42 AM
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Seems to me like her cousin was just trying to avoid an awkward moment. Don't think you handled it necessarily wrong. I would've lifted her off my lap and sat her next to me and played a joke saying, that seat is for special reservations. I wouldn't just let any girl sit on my lap, especially one that has turned me down before.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:38 AM
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I think the fact that you're worrying if you fucked up, is where you fucked up. Shoot your shot and keep moving. If she replies back, great. If she doesn't, fuck it.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 10:12 PM
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No. I don't see there being a point to it. Do you want to apologize out of your own will, or are you expecting it to resolve anything, such as a personal guilt? Either way it seems meaningless. Even if it's for the thought of her well-being, the best thing would be for her to move on. The best thing you can do is to learn from the past and move on as well.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 10:10 PM
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I guess it's more based upon the judgment of character. I like to surround myself with good company and I feel like anybody that chooses to have ill intentions can be troublesome.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 04:45 AM
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I never brought her around my personal friends, but she started telling the few people that were our mutuals.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 04:39 AM
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Damn this video was really helpful. I needed to watch this. Thank you
/r/askTRP27/09/19 11:42 AM
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Everything you mentioned definitely crossed my thought process as I'm going through this whole thing. Thought about just ghosting her. Definitely don't want to sleep with her. And now I don't really want to be associated with her either. It triggered an emotional response at first but after talking it over with some close friends, I realized that I could easily walk away from the situation with finesse. Will probably just tell her that I'm extremely busy with my life right now and not in the pla…
/r/askTRP23/09/19 01:05 AM
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Definitely feel disgusted. I don't really care for free money to be honest, I make enough money myself and rather surround myself with people I can actually respect.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:57 AM
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This is the reason why I asked on this sub. I'm honestly not in a place where I even want a committed relationship and I addressed that to her when we first started talking, so never really considered her "my girl". But when I noticed these red flags, it made me want to cut all association.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:43 AM
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Hell no. I'm obviously going to drop her, but was curious to see how TRP would handle this situation.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:37 AM
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When we first started dating, I did not suspect it at all. She initiated a date with me and I gave her a chance because she put in the effort. Throughout time, I began noticing red flags. Never really saw her much as more than somebody to have fun with, but i feel like the signs are obvious to drop her now. Funny thing is I also make way more money than her.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 12:35 AM
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Don't dwell on whether you made a mistake or not. Instead see your decision as the right move. If her bringing up a bf made you feel like she was wasting your time, then you showed that you value your time and you're direct about what your interests are. If you think it's a shit test and want to get to the bottom of it, then pursue and see what she's about. Either way maintain the winner's attitude.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 08:21 AM
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I feel like bringing it up will make it seem like an issue, even if it isn't. You have to be okay with who you are and however she reacts shouldn't change your self-image and perception. The best thing you can do is to keep a strong frame.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 08:09 AM
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People in general like the feeling of being desired and some people like expressing that idea. Each situation is different but it could be that she's trying to make you jealous, or trying to make you aware that she has options.
/r/askTRP21/09/19 08:05 AM
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Bro you are good. Many people take a year or two extra to graduate anyways. It's only creepy if you have creepy intentions or preying, but it's totally fine to just enjoy yourself and have a good time.
/r/askTRP27/08/19 03:49 PM
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I just thought sidestepping both questions would make her feel like I'm hiding something, so I just answered. Was wondering what would be a good move for these questions.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 08:50 AM
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I feel like the whole point of a true alpha is to do whatever the fuck you want and you don't let the criticism of others phase you. So if a person is too shy to do what he wants, it kind of takes away from the point. But there is such thing as silent charisma. The guy who walks in the room, doesn't have to say shit but you just sense he knows what he's doing. He doesn't talk not because he's shy though, it's because he doesn't want to.
/r/askTRP18/05/19 06:30 PM
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Solid reply. As "confucius" as it sounds, this might be the answer I was looking for. Thank u
/r/askTRP13/05/19 09:15 AM
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If it didn't work, it might mean that you didn't build enough attraction or she wasn't comfortable. Of course every person is different but from my experience, the girl will let it be known when she wants you. I'll lean in, and if they seem to be holding back/playing games, I'll pull back as if they just lost their opportunity for an exciting moment. You always want to be the provider of the excitement. If she's into you, she'll definitely give some sort of signal. In my experience, they eventua…
/r/askTRP13/05/19 09:05 AM
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You have a good point. Essentially I'm not too worried because of that reason, but I just had a weird intuitive feeling that I should've held my tongue when telling this certain individual. Kind of like he might use certain knowledge for manipulation of others rather than just for his own well-being.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 08:40 AM
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Well he was sort of venting to me about his stresses. I was just trying to help him switch his mentality to relieve his stresses. Something about my intuition just felt like I might've told him too much, but that could also just be in my head.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 08:36 AM
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I didn't tell him about TRP, but relative knowledge I've gained through my TRP journey as well as other things. I wasn't trying to unplug him, but just give him some knowledge that could help him. When you see somebody struggling with something and you know something that can help them drastically, wouldn't you have a desire to tell that person or is it better to keep it to yourself?
/r/askTRP13/05/19 08:32 AM
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First of all, stop looking for an opportunity. You have to create an opportunity. Dominate your segment of the conversation. Make it known that you're trying to have a good time and can show her a good time. Sit close to her and be comfortable. Lean in when it feels right and pull back every now and then and make her lean into you. Go in for a kiss and maintain confidence despite the outcome. At the very least, ask if she wants a kiss.
/r/askTRP13/05/19 08:28 AM
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I think it matters what her intentions are behind saying it.I've been in situations where I'll be talking to girls and we can both agree on attractive traits of other people and not get jealous by it. There's usually an undertone where it's like "yeah she's hot, but her personality is dry." Or "he's a great guy," but they prefer to be with me. In a way it helps both parties understand what we see in each other without being insecure. I'm not afraid to let a girl know that if they feel like they …
/r/askTRP11/05/19 07:18 AM
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Honestly it's harder once that mentality and the feelings have settled in. Whenever I find myself developing any feelings for someone, I have to constantly remind myself that I'll be completely fine if they decide to leave me one day, or better yet I'm willing to leave anytime I choose to. Appreciate the fun that other's bring into your life, but don't become attached to that fun. There's always more to life if you have the right mentality.
/r/askTRP11/05/19 07:04 AM
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She might not even be aware of it herself but it is a shit test. The only reason you would try to belittle someone else is because there's something psychologically messing with you about that person. Maybe it's because you're younger? Maybe she feels a certain way about you but doesn't know why? Maybe it is out of professional interest? Or a mixture of everything? But that's aside the point. It doesn't matter what it is, the fact is that you're in her head enough for her to act out of her way. …
/r/askTRP11/05/19 07:01 AM
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I agree, but I think you REALLY need to be selective of who you talk to. I guess I was just curious about how TRP views it because there's the whole concept of maintaining power in your relationships. If you constantly need others to relieve your stress, I feel like that can get annoying as well. I think there's a fine balance to everything.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 10:24 AM
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Move on. At least move on from dwelling on a missed opportunity. Hit her up if you really want to, but not if you're any bit worried about rejection. If you're simply trying to get laid, you should be practicing game and approaching as many girls as you can. Don't put all the pressure of getting laid on a single girl. Also getting laid shouldn't be the goal, being someone who can get laid whenever they want is a much better goal to strive for.
/r/askTRP30/04/19 07:54 AM
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Working as a server/bartender is a great way to practice game, but I think it can get sloppy if you overdo it. In a work environment, I always treat everyone as a customer first and foremost and I'll provide game if there's an open invitation. So essentially, it's a really good place to sharpen your senses of picking up on social cues. Usually results in a fat tip. But I have gotten a couple numbers just off giving compliments on girls outfits. So to answer your question, I don't think there's r…
/r/askTRP30/04/19 07:27 AM
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Don't worry too much about the future, because things change very quickly in our society. Learn to adapt as the time comes. I have friends who went to the top schools in the country under the most competitive majors who aren't looking for jobs because they do not feel passionate about their competitive field. I have other friends who didn't give a shit about school and are traveling the world getting paid for what they love. Do things that you actually want to do and feel intrigued by.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 08:51 AM
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It really depends on how well you can sell. Selling a ferrari for a higher price is going to be easier than selling a hyundai, because there are many reasons it is worth more. You can tell yourself all you want that your hyundai is worth a lot but that doesn't mean shit until you find an actual buyer. Sure, it's okay to name your own SMV, but remember to test the market. Find ways to improve your strategy. And most importantly, believe in your product.
/r/askTRP07/04/19 08:33 AM
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This makes sense
/r/askTRP15/03/19 04:22 PM
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There's two things you can do. Do something about it or get the fuck over it. You can even do the combination of the two and get the fuck over it then do something about it, or do something about it then get the fuck over it. But never be stuck in the middle where you put yourself in a state of paralysis. Also stop making excuses. Realize that you can invert these same excuses and it gives you more of a reason to just do it. The fact that it's more of a ballsier move will make you seem more conf…
/r/askTRP15/03/19 10:18 AM
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I understand that, and I wasn't talking about sexual strategy either. I feel like an 8 year old's mind might still wander especially when they are being fed Disney films etc. I feel like a lot of these concepts take life experience to confirm it to yourself. But I do agree that having the concepts introduced at a young age wouldn't hurt at all.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 10:04 AM
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Focus on your alpha energy, not their beta energy. By focusing on beta energy, now you're exhibiting beta energy as well.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 09:59 AM
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But don't you feel like some of the things aren't as effective to a young inexperienced kid. If an 8 year old kid heard some of this stuff, I feel like he doesn't really have any life experiences to reference/understand some of the concepts. Although it'd still probably be pretty helpful than to go in blindly.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 09:54 AM
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I feel like it varies. I feel like the oldest children are naturally alpha's amongst the siblings, but the younger ones can easily learn alpha traits and exhibit those traits amongst friends. The oldest may also get intimidated when he is amongst others his own age. It really depends on the individual.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 08:08 AM
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Leading isn't about telling people what to do, I see it more as having the energy to inspire others. And let me tell you, people love to be inspired.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 06:34 AM
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Definitely agree. I've honestly learned to deal with this a lot better than before. There were times years back when I felt like the lows would last for months. Now it only lasts for a week at most, before I pick myself up. I've also noticed that during these times, I become more devoted to seek out something to get out of the low and I usually come across something that actually motivates me on a higher level in the long run. I just found it strange because right now I am actually in the best p…
/r/askTRP12/03/19 02:40 AM
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Thankfully I never had to deal with any stuff like this. I'm still pretty cautious with who I am open to about TRP, also with the fact that I'm still fairly new to it. I do share certain things that I've learned on here with one of my closest friends who is in a similar position/mentality as me. I was wondering if it is worth just telling him the source, but from the replies it seems it might be better to have him find it on his own.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 02:20 AM
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I have a friend who seeks advice as well and I've been subtly coaching as well. So far i've helped him quickly get over a heartbreak and find himself a better job. I have a subtle fear that he might take certain things the wrong way and get a little cocky for his own good. Have you ever had to deal with anything like that?
/r/askTRP12/03/19 02:12 AM
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Yeah, I wouldn't try to convince someone who is already set on their views. That would be like trying to convert a different religion on somebody who is devoted.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 02:10 AM
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Hahaha. No I am not going around telling this stuff to people for validation. Although it is very interesting stuff, I also believe it is something that people need to seek out on their own. Though I ask because I thought it would be cool to have a friend who I could talk to in person about these things.
/r/askTRP12/03/19 02:06 AM
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I think you answered your own question. Ask her out without being needy. Don't be emotionally responsive or dependent upon her answer, ask her out cause you want to.
/r/askTRP09/01/19 03:39 PM
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Depends what kind of girl you're trying to date. I once went out with a girl who didn't have a single social media account and it was the most refreshing thing. She didn't pull out her phone once while we were together.
/r/askTRP24/09/18 10:15 AM
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No, but it is a signal of leaving lol
/r/askTRP17/09/18 07:54 AM
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Thank you so much. This thread seriously helps so much!
/r/askTRP28/06/18 07:51 AM
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Thank you that's good advice.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 08:33 AM
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Can you give me some tips of escalating? I always start overthinking when I should make the move and give myself anxiety. What should I say? Should i touch her first? How do I be smooth about this?
/r/askTRP27/06/18 08:31 AM
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Do you usually just dive in randomly, or say something? Is there a smooth way of doing this?
/r/askTRP27/06/18 08:29 AM
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There was a girl that I had a similar relationship with once. Had a huge crush on her during middle/high school. Decided to move on during college and was focused on living my life and building a future for myself. During college she visited the city I was living in and we rekindled a relationship. Went out with her a couple times and realized she wasn't really my type. If she's meant to be, something will workout. If you really like her, I say you should make an effort but otherwise, just move …
/r/askTRP27/06/18 08:22 AM
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