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People lie all the damn time. For all you know she is lying to you about her first kiss. You have only met her once, dont worry about it too much. Obviously if she is a virgin and so on then do the right thing. If she is a virgin and wants something super serious then she probably wont sleep with you so quickly. But you have only kissed the girl, dont sweat it, it is not as if you have both fallen in love or anything.
/r/seduction24/04/22 07:06 PM
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Fair enough, but I still think you need to do some 'taming' or more accurately have your game on for such women, and at that age it just seems more realistic.
/r/seduction24/04/22 09:47 AM
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You can, when she hits the wall around 30 or beyond and she gets bored and realises she needs to get real.
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:47 PM
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Yes, but at the same time there are women that look for signs that her man does see her as the 'one' or 'soulmate' as signs of security in the relationship. Otherwise the relationship wont even start or evolve without that. There is a balance to maintain. Dont get too cynical with it, but dont get too idealistic either. And important to add is that this is all why marriage and contractual social agreements have been around for so long to combat this inherent social and natural problems we have i…
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:46 PM
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Yep. Damn, to think anyone thinks otherwise is crazy to me. I mean people, wake up, morals and things that have existed for thousands of years do have a reason you know. Biological, cultural and so so much. For people to think living a hedonistic life of sleeping around incessantly is 'not a big deal' you really need to educate yourselves, damn. Slutty women are hot for short term things, but long term, men want loyal and non slutty women, and for obvious reasons. Men and women find different th…
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:33 PM
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The reason it is so cynical is to counteract the often idealistic and romanticized view many young men or boys hold towards girls, when inexperienced. It is supposed to be brutal and cold and uncaring, to aid insight and transition to a more mature perspective on love, female nature and life.
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:25 PM
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Because it is true, unfortunately. This phrase has lots of meanings, and uses. I see it as meaning: no matter how deep your love and lust for a woman, and her yours, some months or years in the future, it will all mean nothing, and she will have forgotten about you, and may even think of you badly or not at all. Romanticizing women these days, really doesn't have much merit, considering their options and nature. It is what it is. Yes it is horrible. That is life.
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:21 PM
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This. I have had to tell women about their bad breath before. It is pretty gross when you can even smell it just sitting next to them. People, use mouthwash before going out to meet someone. Edit: or use gum before making out.
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:49 PM
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Well, that sounds pretty normal unfortunately. My dad is much the same and that age. Maybe you should start looking for a long term partner and marriage. At least you will have someone in your latter years to keep you company. Love it seems when mature, appears to me to be about compromise. The young heady years of love are over but that doesnt mean your life is over. There is more to life. You think you are missing out because western society is so hyper sexualised. Disconnect from that image a…
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:58 PM
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I dont know dude, depends what it is and so on. Educate yourself, talk to a sexual health doctor etc. Talk to your partners. Avoid ONS etc. Use oral condoms and flavoured lube. But even with all that work and faff, who knows what is still going around, especially with how hard it is to diagnose. Probably best thing you can do is not sleep with promiscuous women honestly.
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:39 PM
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Nope. Stuff can get passed orally too.
/r/seduction20/04/22 12:47 AM
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Nah, not for me. I don't like those types of women. And it's too obvious now that men go there when single to meet women. Do it if you enjoy it sure, but it's not my thing, nor I doubt for most introverts.
/r/seduction20/04/22 12:26 AM
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Will never happen.
/r/seduction17/04/22 06:41 AM
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Yep. But many people that are young and horny won't agree. But get older and more jaded and you'll see how silly it is.
/r/seduction13/04/22 12:17 AM
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Join the club. Single women parents are so common too. Makes me feel for all the lost boys the future will bring.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/22 04:08 PM
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This. It blows my mind all the effort men go through to get laid for casual protected sex. It sucks. Kinda sad actually.
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:03 PM
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Normal. Get older and biological changes happen and the novelty wears off alongside the increasing realisation you are getting old.
/r/seduction10/04/22 04:00 PM
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Yeah bumble is way way easier for getting dates but it's full of women who have hit the wall or are tired of casual sex via tinder.
/r/seduction30/03/22 10:59 PM
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I remember the golden days of when tinder first came out. You would install it and swipe right on every girl, and by the end of the day I usually had 50+ matches. Now I get maybe 1-2. Tinder changed. It's bad now. These things happen to everything when they get too big.
/r/seduction30/03/22 10:56 PM
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Sounds like a typical reaction honestly. If you've had your heart crushed you turn cold. Men and women do this all the time to each other. Then we get old and stay single haha. Get married and don't pursue casual sex.
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:43 AM
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Have a lot of stamina, toys, be very experienced, talk dirty, fancy lubes, know her kinks, get kinky, set the mood with candles and music and dim lights, be sexy yourself, make her feel sexy, be very patient in making sure she gets off many times and probably a drug like Viagra or something so you last longer etc.
/r/seduction24/03/22 03:12 AM
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Sorry to hear that man. I'm sure you'll find someone you feel comfortable with soon. Perhaps focus on friends, work and family for now until you get a hold on your struggles first. In future perhaps if you express these concerns as you have here in your comment, with a woman, perhaps tacitly, it could be a good experience.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:39 AM
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Yep. Bingo. If they are comfortable with you and you have prior been talking about sex as they did in OP's story, then it's fine.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:35 AM
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Whatever floats your boat. I honestly find women that overtly express sexual interest quickly a turn off. But for many men maybe that's what they like.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:33 AM
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Dude chill. He got laid. If what he is doing is working on a regular basis, all is fine. Maybe his lack of neediness in thinking to escalate is actually turning these women on and making them more curious. But could be they are after something long term and not casual with op. Otherwise what you're saying might be true for flings and more casual in needing escalating quickly.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:28 AM
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Some are like that yes. Some no. In my experience the ones that are like that are not ones worth keeping, at least for a relationship anyway.
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:24 AM
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Maybe. But it is too much work. And it might take years. And won't last. And there is no guarantee I will find her. Or she will like older men. Like I was thinking above, I want some advice from mature older men with how to deal with the wall for men, and menopause which is coming for all men. And accepting that you've left your peak. I think constantly looking for the next girl to forget the last one is toxic and not good advice long term. We will be old before we know it. But yeah, I guess I'm…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/22 08:37 PM
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I'm not in a position to date younger than my ex. I'm mid 30's. She was 5 years younger than me. She was 27 when we met. I think age difference is a big problem in relationships. Dating a girl in her early 20's is a big no. They are too naive and immature, it's like dating a child. They are more pleasant and feminine sure, but they are not that good to be around for long. Besides, age difference that large is a big no for most girls, unless your SMV is sky high.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/22 10:46 AM
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Nah, it's not biology speaking. It's being logical. She was pretty damn amazing compared to all the girls I've ever been with. I'm mid 30's. Dunno how to quantify my SMV honestly. Even raised SMV I think I'd still struggle finding someone like my ex today. Women get trashier, less feminine, more angry and more selfish and mentally ill each year. My ex had it all, or most of the qualities most women lack today. Of course she had flaws and wasn't perfect though. And finding someone like that might…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/22 07:38 PM
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My thoughts exactly. In 5 years time there'll be a makeup routine for men and then a eye icepack routine and so on. Life is too short man?
/r/seduction28/01/22 08:55 PM
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In terms of the 'my relationship just ended' I really need some advice. As much as words can help and I can agree with what is said. Still, I think there is a peak for men just like women. And she 'was the one' mentality can be really hard for me to let go of. Because I think it's true. In that, she being the best or peak of what I had, over the years of my experience with women. That is why it is hard. We can't maintain our peak and quality throughout our entire life. And at one point it gets h…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/22 04:28 PM
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This is some good advice here and there, and I can agree with it to some degree, but god damn, it is like a full time job keeping in mind and working on all this shit. Most men don't have the energy, mental space and time to put this level of work in. They are probably better off focusing on other areas in their life. But yeah, this is age dependent I guess. if you are in your 20's and have the freedom and energy it is good stuff to keep in mind.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/22 05:32 PM
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I dunno, he has a solid point. Just because he can get dates doesn't mean he can't complain about the state and nature of the game and sexual marketplace. And it's bad. No reason to bury our heads in the sand.
/r/seduction18/01/22 09:16 AM
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That number will come down to 1-3 after a few dates. Unless you're already dated a few times and they are actually into you. In that case try keep them as long as possible, but it probably won't last.
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:33 AM
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Mate, I'm not in the least concerned from your silly strawman attacks and fallacies. If it makes you feel better thinking I've never been close to a woman you do that. I don't know you and frankly I feel embarrassed for you. I've been in several relationships. In fact I just had a date tonight. Nice try though and good luck with it.
/r/seduction16/01/22 09:08 PM
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Haha are these comments making you feel better? Is your ego sustained? Haven't you got something better to do? Thanks for providing further proof for my original comment btw. It's not women's fault they are the way they are. Whatever makes you feel better lady. Or girly. My prospects are fine, thanks for inquiring. Although women aren't special and I don't prioritize them. Fickleness remember? I don't expect you or any woman to sympathetic towards the male condition nor understand it. Nor do I h…
/r/seduction16/01/22 12:06 AM
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Just why.
/r/seduction15/01/22 09:00 PM
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Haha damn, I feel sorry for anyone who thinks that's true about men. But yes that's sexism or misandry or whatever. Good luck finding a mate with those views. But yeah nice trolling.
/r/seduction15/01/22 08:58 PM
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Well this looks like a lot of work to respond to. It sounds like you have issues honestly. If you notice the post is about fickleness and women. And I commented on this, with my perspective and experience. And understanding of evolutionary biology. What exactly is the point of your post? Honestly though I am not bothered. You snowflake feminist toxic types are tiresome.
/r/seduction15/01/22 08:56 PM
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I never said all women are. But they undoubtedly are more than men. There are some studies that outline this. Like I said above. Evolutionary biology. Saying something bad about women means I am sexist now? Guess I am sexist. And so are you and everyone probably. Don't care.
/r/seduction15/01/22 08:52 PM
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You sound burned out. Take a break. The chase isn't easy for any man. Look after yourself. Women aren't special.
/r/seduction15/01/22 03:21 PM
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No, probably better in some regards. Small town women seem to be different than big city types. Less inflated ego and more loyal I would say. Probably because less choice for them. Works both ways though.
/r/seduction15/01/22 02:48 AM
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Jesus wept. Not being sexist. That is just how women are. What planet do you live on exactly? And obviously I didn't mean every single one like I said in my post. Calm down lady. Maybe you should observe more and learn to listen, maybe you will learn something for a change instead of attacking people on the internet when they say something you don't like.
/r/seduction15/01/22 02:46 AM
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Yeah that caught me too. I'd expect if she has never given head that it'll be pretty crappy for the poor guy too. I once got head from a mostly lesbian chick and it was god fucking awful.
/r/seduction15/01/22 02:38 AM
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Eventually you get a quality interaction yes, but you need to go through many quantities to get there. And even then there is no guarantee, so it's back to quantity again until a quality woman comes along.
/r/seduction14/01/22 03:57 AM
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Women are notoriously good at manipulation. I remember reading this is because evolutionary they had to use their social skills and emotional intelligence to survive around men who are stronger and more dangerous. It makes sense. And you certainly see this today in modern times too. Women are fickle and very often don't say what they mean. Part is fear and part protecting themselves and part is manipulation. Notice how women gossip and connive at work? Some dont of course, but they tend to be ol…
/r/seduction14/01/22 03:53 AM
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Fuck it. Why the hell do men have to put in all the work. They can take it easy, life is hard. Socialising is not all that. It is a lot of work. Constantly putting yourself out there in spaces you wouldn't naturally is counter productive.
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:18 PM
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Dude, yeah give it a couple days at least. You could ask her today if she is free in a few days though if you want a definitive answer. Then at least you know where she stands and wants. I usually do that so I don't need to keep wondering. I would do the weekend. Next day is definitely too needy. You need to dial it back notch.
/r/seduction03/01/22 03:27 PM
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Just suggest dinner or movie at yours or hers. I wouldn't suggest a hike for a 2nd date. You could have invited her over even on the first date. If she was kissing and touching you especially, in my experience girls usually say yes when asked. Just have a reason like for a drink, a bite to eat, watch a movie, to meet your dog, something realistic and appropriate.
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:34 AM
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Toxic positivity and narrow mindedness at its heart. Believe what we need to believe. But when there are no smart and decent girls left or its too difficult to find them or when we are too old and tired to look anymore then what?
/r/TheRedPill03/01/22 06:16 AM
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Hell it has always been like this and women have never shown any signs of making a it any easier, actually if anything they have made it worse. So don't go blaming men for their efforts and making adjustments for making it easier on themselves, from the stress and strains of having to pursue, take rejection and grow as men. You think that is easy? Jesus Christ dude, what is your problem? And no I never said robotic shot. What even is that. Men cutting corners to filter out women who are taken is…
/r/seduction01/01/22 02:14 AM
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Nope this is what they wanted. More control and freedom etc. Or what their mothers wanted anyway.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/21 09:36 PM
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Fucking sucks fellas. Life is such a shit show when the one gets away. So many complications and memories and more moving on. It's like the light goes off in your life.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/21 09:32 PM
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This hasn't worked for me. But maybe because the new girls chasing me are not on the same level as my ex.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/21 09:30 PM
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I am definitely nearing the dead inside point. I honestly can't ever see myself going through the ordeal of a relationship with anyone ever again. Isn't much left of myself to give at this point and if there was no idea why I'd give it to someone who will just be temporary.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/21 09:29 PM
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Life is short and it's a numbers game remember. And men only have so much confidence and energy to spark such interactions. We aren't robots with unlimited energy.
/r/seduction31/12/21 09:25 PM
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I've been single for 3 months now and damn, I didn't remember it being this bad. I think the dating scene gets worse each year. But hey, this is what women wanted right?
/r/TheRedPill30/12/21 09:30 PM
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Not sure I understand question. Who wins in what? In love? Pros and cons to everything. Generally, this is the decline of society without God and morals, so nobody is winning really. Depends what you want and value. Go after that. But you'll come across disillusionment and heartbreak anyway. We all do. Men and women. Blame the death of God and breakup of social and family dynamics.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/21 05:27 AM
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Not classy joints though and pretty damn noisy and expensive. But maybe that's just mine.
/r/seduction10/12/21 10:47 AM
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I tried this, but most women, your average woman isn't like that. Or won't always be like that. Better to be realistic not idealistic.
/r/seduction03/12/21 10:09 PM
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Now women need to do this to guys as well. Where is their manifesto for keeping guys? No guy is gonna do all this if their woman is not giving equally back.
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:05 PM
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Don't be social with them. Tease, touch and flirt instead. That's what I learned for women to remember and give a damn about you. The old cliche is true, girls like bad guys not nice guys.
/r/seduction16/11/21 03:04 AM
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No I didn't say obsess about sex. I said be sexual. Having a 'getting to know you' conversation on dates doesn't go anywhere. Making ones intentions clear through confident sexual expression is how men escalate dates from stranger to potential sexual and romantic interest. Otherwise you're another leaf in the wind. Source: had 7 dates so far this month.
/r/seduction08/11/21 12:22 PM
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I have to say this is bad advice if you want to get laid. Getting to know a girl never really works for me on a first date. Other than finding mutual interests and having interesting conversations. Avoid such things if you want to develop sexual tension. You need to escalate sexually and show interest physically rather than just be another person she meets where she can talk about her life with.
/r/seduction08/11/21 03:29 AM
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For sure. I have found this. I would say it's more they are looking to pass the time and connect, acquire resources or find emotional fulfilment too with someone than pursue something romantically or sexually. In my experience. It's like they are open to put out timid feelers for something but don't really have a dire need for anything substantial or know what they want, especially in their hyper social circles where their needs are already all met.
/r/seduction08/11/21 03:24 AM
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Haha, truth bombs. Can confirm. Its fucking way overrated. I had 4 dates this week. Only now am I enjoying my time alone at home with a beer relaxing. Women are overrated. Unless of course you're a virgin, then it seems they mean the world. We men really are easily manipulated.
/r/seduction31/10/21 12:42 AM
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Women are flaky as fuck these days for dates. I've had several bail on me lately. Such a waste of time setting them up. Frustrating really. I wish they wouldn't waste my time.
/r/seduction28/10/21 09:10 AM
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Why has the post content been removed? I see this a lot in Reddit these days. Good quality posts end up being removed by the original poster?
/r/TheRedPill06/10/21 11:15 AM
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I think we need more info here. So she is an old friend? I would not rush it. You haven't seen her in a long time. Take it easy, there is no pressure. But if a time comes where you want to kiss her, then do it. Preferably after a drink in the afternoon, where you are close together.
/r/seduction21/09/19 08:33 AM
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Sounds to me like you did nothing wrong. You did well. Just try a different area. Like a park or something. And when you ask for the number give a good reason like, we can go see a gig or art show or grab coffee and talk about (whatever they are interested in). Also if they are shy, there is nothing you can do, shy girls are tough as hell, and exhausting, and in my opinion, not really worth it. But that is me.
/r/seduction13/07/19 06:01 PM
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anti-androgenic I did a quick google, and found this study. It doesn't explicitly say rice has it but it does say that pesticides and other chemicals worm their way into our foods and other products, and may be effecting us. And other stuff. Looks mega complicated. As are most things. Basically everything has the consequence of effecting us, not just rice. Because of pesticides and mass produced foods. Surely washing rice thoroughly can combat this though right? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/19 02:29 PM
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I dont understand what you mean. I think you are saying the old adage of you are born a certain class and you die a certain class. Which basically means all self help is nonsense, and to some degree i agree with that.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/19 07:44 AM
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Quite honestly, women found me more attractive when I was a fucking mess. These days, I am more of a man. I am earning money, in great shape, and dress well. I am happier than i have been in ages. BUT, no success with women. So always take dating and women advice with a grain of salt guys. There is always different perspectives on many things. The goal though, is to become happier, NOT to get women. Remember that only.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/19 10:30 PM
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I was not specifically meaning women. Just everything. It is in our DNA, forcing us to build that ship and sail away, colonise new continents, explore the seas and space. We always look out for what is next, what is better, faster, sexier. In anything. I am pretty sure it is not just me.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/19 08:54 AM
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Reading this and all I can think about is 'the grass is always greener.' We men are not hardwired to be happy, we are constantly looking out for the next best thing. Never content. Always striving. It sounds to me your struggle is a spiritual one. One where you need to find fulfilment in something beyond your woman and yourself. What you are describing what you think you want will likely make you feel the same way. You have found a fantastic deal. A beautiful and loyal woman. Stop asking for mor…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/19 11:10 AM
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When did it become acceptable to refer to people being autistic for not having high social skills and emotional intelligence? Nobody is angry for gods sake. Boys need to grow and learn and mature. That is what life is about for fucks sake. And spaces like TRP are what that is about. They are not angry at women per say, and if they are, there is nothing wrong with that either. You think women don't get mad at men through their maturation stages? It is not toxic around here, you are letting propag…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/19 07:04 PM
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It is all a joke simply. And not in a pessimist way. It isn't really fun for anyone at all. Even the most fun people at parties and in friend groups in bars, are the ones who drink the most to avoid feeling anxious. Or can be. It is not fun for anyone, not naturally. That is why everyone drinks so much, to make it fun, and loosen their inhibitions. It is work. But so is every pursuit. It depends if you think the outcome is worth the while.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/19 05:40 AM
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You are probably right. But the whole point is that I didn't want to. And I am not saying that to make myself feel better. I just did not want to that night. Nevermind.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/19 06:37 PM
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Absolutely. Nailed it. However it is important to note here, that such a take on dating and viewing women will result in success short term, but it is not the key to long term successful sexual relationships based on trust and openness. Although perhaps that can come later if both persons are so inclined.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/19 05:08 PM
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Just because i kissed her, doesnt mean i need to bang her that night. Was a first date. I wanted to do it next time. I was not desperate.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/19 04:43 PM
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It was a first date. And not wanting to sleep with her on the first date, seems pretty reasonable. I dont follow your logic. How is it a waste of time, just because i didnt want to bang her within the first two hours
/r/TheRedPill20/05/19 07:17 PM
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This reminds me of a date I had a couple nights ago. It was going really well, and she is normally above my league or at least above what I am used to sleeping with. She was getting looks from all the guys in the bar. And to be frank, i never experienced that before. Anyway, she was very sexually aggressive, and a tad tipsy, and pretty strange. She clearly wanted sex that night, and when i later got home she texted she wished i had gone home with her. My reasoning was that I was not in the mood …
/r/TheRedPill19/05/19 11:16 PM
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Yeah, this is my problem too. I have found it to be work pretty much all my life. I have no advice for you other than drugs unfortunately. Only drugs help me get into the playful mood and out of the work mode that i always feel when it comes to dating and women. I can enjoy some interactions, and going out with women and friends etc, but it has been rare, and only on special occasions in my life (birthdays, going away parties etc.) It is personality and life circumstances, and probably most impo…
/r/TheRedPill19/05/19 11:03 PM
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Look mate. Just because somebody on the internet disagrees with you, which i did with my original comment, does not mean that you go through their comment history, then accuse them of being whiny AND obese. I think you are the troll here. Your attitude is retarded, and I don't follow your argument at all. And it does not bolster your argument by insulting me. And no, not obese, in shape, lean and fit.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 07:21 PM
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Thanks. Yeah, it is a hell of a struggle. Especially when most events/social gatherings etc, people would rather sit in the corner and stare at their phone. Instead of talking to others. Well, in fact they do that everywhere. Young people are scared to talk to each other now. It is so bizarre.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 05:04 PM
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Yeah, absolutely. And i know all that. You are agreeing with me there. You need all these factors to be in the top, as well as what you said about gym, dressing etc. I make a lot of effort to socialise and meet people etc. I have been to two networking events in the last couple days. And i have met a lot of people. Building a good social circle is a whole other game though. And to do it, i think you need to be naturally talented with people and been living in the same place for a few years. Neit…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 04:55 PM
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Of course not, i just referenced it because that is what Speedracer1111 said
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 04:42 PM
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What is the concept? I thought it was just honest tools/advice for men in a very challenging and confused time.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 04:20 PM
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You think the top 20% of men getting all the women, just have to go to the gym and eat right? I have done that for years. It doesn't mean shit.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 04:19 PM
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Yeah, i don't believe that shit for a second. According to those metrics, i have been the top 20% for a while. But my success with women does not indicate that. But that might be just because i dont socialise/date often. Usually because of money and time concerns. I think its a lot harder than just getting some hobbies, getting in shape etc. You need a good income and good social circle and family/friends etc. Everything else i have, and have had for a while.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 04:16 PM
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I agree. In psychology this is called locus of control. Those with an internal locus of control see themselves as the molder of their own reality, driven from within. Those with an external locus of control look at it the other way, external forces determine their reality. According to studies those with internal locus of control succeed more. How did you make that shift? To me I recognise that i can go out into the world and make things happen, but know that I will come across difficulties and …
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 11:16 AM
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Damn man. Reading shit like this depresses the shit out of me. This is why I block Reddit now and then. As a man who is doing all he can to improve his career, academic and social prospects, and continually falling up short, it is very disheartening. I can not see myself becoming a top 20% in my life, or at least the next 10 years, if my past progress is any indication. This is why men become bitter in life, because despite their sacrifices and incremental change and struggle for the light, they…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 11:07 AM
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I just said I moved to a new city, to start a new life. Why do you ask?
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 06:05 PM
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That is the absolute fucking dream. I would love to do that.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 04:02 PM
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Exactly. This is my view on it too. Anyone that looks down on people and their choices in this subreddit or anywhere in life is usually inexperienced in life or just really vain. Like King Solomon said and all the wise men of the past have iterated in some manner: I have seen everything that is done under the sun, and behold, all is vanity and a striving after wind...
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 04:00 PM
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I have been socially outcast from the start. But recently changing cities.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 03:31 PM
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Preaching to the choir there. I am fine with my own company, and i do enjoy it. And all those things you just listed which i have done. I don't think you got the point or perspective from my comment, but thanks for the tips.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 03:29 PM
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Nailed it there my friend. A lot of what is spoken about around here and what OP says is true. But for the past year or two, I have begun to see it for what it is. Not shitting on this community or anything, but the answers really are not here. Personal circumstances and so many factors in life dictate our futures. You can go on and on about dopamine and video games all you want, but it wont change the realities of peoples day to day complex lives. Life is hard as fuck! And to some degree, what …
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 12:10 PM
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And how do men around here on this sub, expect to compete with that? Or match that? If a man has to get the same options as a woman, and he has to dedicate tons of time to meet multiple ones to keep his abundance high, on the same level as your average woman on tinder, how do you balance that along with other life responsibilities i.e gym/work/friends/hobbies etc?
/r/seduction10/04/19 04:38 PM
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Join the club mate. You will get over it. I did. Being alone is not so bad. You have full control of your destiny, and get to do what you want to do ALL THE TIME. Some people are so lost in their social circles and the drama that they come with, that they know nothing else. That is not freedom. You are free. Try to enjoy it. The only place you are gonna make real genuine life long friends is the military. It is that simple. Or a gang or some shit like that. Other friends will come and go, becaus…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/19 12:56 AM
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Hey man, yeah it is rough, but listen it is all just a test, don't forget that. If the game does not feel worthwhile, then stop playing the fucking game, and do something else! It is that simple. We are all starting to realise it. But we lie to ourselves, that maybe just maybe it might all make sense soon. But fat chance. You know it, we all fucking know it. The Red Pill philosophy does not offer an answer, it just outlines how women work and what you can do about it. But that does not mean wome…
/r/TheRedPill05/04/19 12:36 AM
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Yep, modern day life and stress. This is why people are having less sex. Shit is just getting more and more stressful and uncertain in life, for so many reasons. Do some meditating. Honestly, if you do it right, it is the only place i have, for the last 10 or so years perhaps where i can really feel at peace if only for a few seconds at a time. Your description of needing clarity and wanting to escape sounds like it is what you need. City life is hell, and people that grow up there tend to forge…
/r/askTRP31/03/19 09:41 PM
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I think it is a good one. I havent seen anyone else do it before. I dont think it is as big as you think it is. Try it as see how they respond, that is all that matters. When i did it, i actually studied the lines and what they genuinely mean, and made up a story that some gypsy woman taught me it. Later, when she then became my LTR, she would ask me about the gypsy woman, i think she believed me a little.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 09:37 PM
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On campus? How did that work out? There are a lot around, but most are in groups or hella younger than me.
/r/askTRP31/03/19 09:13 PM
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I need someone to hold me accountable for a challenge like this. Know of any communities for that?
/r/askTRP31/03/19 01:07 AM
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Exactly, and it is also the energy and money required too. Hell, the older i get and the more i try to get my shit together, the less time, energy, patience and money i have to spend on women. These women are shallow, vapid whores and they are all the fucking same. I probably sound bitter, and in a way i am a bit, but the truth is that it is becoming less and less worthwhile chasing and jumping through the hoops for these women. And we are all slowly starting to realise this, at least the intell…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/19 09:18 PM
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You need to start small, and make changes gradually over time. This month start with reading a new book on self-help. Next month read two and start going to the gym. The next month do all those and go to a social event. Next month apply for 5 new jobs etc etc etc. Habits take time to stick. And it is a CONSTANT UNENDING STRUGGLE. So unless you are superhuman, just take one step at a time.
/r/askTRP30/03/19 02:07 PM
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Yeah, it will feel weird and a bit bizarre now, like a dream. I find that hard too, when a week or two after a breakup, they seem to have no memory of the good times at all, like you immediately just became a random dude. That shit must be blissful for them. They seem to have an emotional switch. Lucky bitches. O Overtime it will probably hurt more and more for you. At least that is my experience from a LTR ending. It was fine at first, but then overtime the memories come back now and then and h…
/r/askTRP30/03/19 01:41 PM
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i think you missed the word collapse?
/r/TheRedPill11/03/19 11:37 AM
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So, basically you are saying to have and to hold onto your principles to avoid pain and a life of aimlessness? I definitely agree. I just wish society valued principles these days, instead of everyone just doing whatever the fuck they want and not even thinking about it. It is mindless out there. It is not respectable to have principles any more.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/19 11:35 PM
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Thanks man. I do try meditate when i remember, and sometimes it does really help me. But meditating is not gonna solve my financial pressures, my daily commute, and the stresses of a new job, new course, and new city. Especially without friends or family for support and advice. It is lonesome, and i do not want to fail. Why do you choose to work so much?
/r/askTRP09/03/19 07:48 PM
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I am not sure i fully understand your comment. But thanks all the same. Default to the easiest route i can fall back on? How do you mean? I know i gotta embrace the suck. I was looking for practical advice. Not just, suck it up and be a man bullshit.
/r/askTRP09/03/19 07:46 PM
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I like the YES to everything idea. And the hiking too. The problem i am gonna have though is money. I wont have the disposable cash to use on going out and doing all the things i get invited to. But i am hoping i can manage a gym membership, and find a big park or hiking trail nearby, that i can afford.
/r/askTRP09/03/19 07:43 PM
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Thanks for the words. But that doesn't really mean anything to me. I do a lot of things that interest. And in a way it has held me back time wise in the past. I tend to get distracted and neglect career and social responsibilities because of it. Yeah, i will be going through hell. But platitudes aint gonna help me. I was looking for practical advice.
/r/askTRP09/03/19 07:41 PM
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Exactly. I don't necessarily disagree with OP's actions, but I would be willing to bet that most guys in her situation would not confess the truth to their woman. I think it is quite admirable of her to confess the truth, despite expecting harsh consequences. It shows good virtue and a rare quality, and how highly she respects their relationship. It depends how you look at it really. I think OP has too high sense of self respect to consider any other angle. For better or worse.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/19 03:01 PM
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Do one thing for now, and that should be exercise on a regular basis. Focus on that until it becomes your new routine. So do that for 21 days, then come back here with your success post and ask for your next step forward.
/r/askTRP07/03/19 05:09 PM
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I think you misunderstood, i wasn't supporting peoples choice to watch TV all day etc I dont. And i dont play video games, but i used to a lot. And i loved it, maybe even more than i do now, when i dont play them ever. I was pointing out the fact that guys need incentive these days. That is pretty obvious. And i have never seen a Chad living the life i want, i don't think of shit like that. It is all relative.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 11:16 PM
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It doesn't work like that. You don't just stop watching porn and playing video games etc when you realise it is a waste of time. Everyone knows that for fucks sake. The fact is that these things are so appealing to guys now, that there is no better alternative, because they are immediate and varied and easily accessible. Guys are having too much of a good time. There is no incentive for much else. If there was community centres offering free music lessons and free language lessons etc, then that…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 10:27 PM
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To add to this, the whole analytically mentality we typically have around here is due to the fact that we lack social relationships or experience. I remember watching a video on it, where those who are lonely or depressed, their brains naturally turn inwards causing them to over analyse every social interaction. This video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Xv_g3g-mA
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 04:48 PM
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I think in the beginning that is fine. I remember saving one liners, and things i might insert into text messages, and funny stuff. And to be fair, that is still useful in a sense, but these days i see it as lame. If you think analysing your interactions and looking up for advice is helping you develop relationships with women etc, then keep doing it! But if it is just distracting you and wasting your time, then you are better off just living more genuinely and communicating that to the woman, t…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 04:45 PM
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Yes, yes and yes! Solid point, and one i have not seen around. But i have thought as much myself. People don't really listen to your words, in fact, people don't really listen at all. People have shitty attention spans too, and when listening to another person talk, are either waiting for their turn to speak or they are bored or don't really understand your point. BUT they do care about your energy, persistence and passion and mood and the environment you and they are in. It is all situational e…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 04:42 PM
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Well, what exactly do you want to get out of this now? You want to stick with her or what? If so, tell her that, if not just ignore her. Maybe tell her hoesntly that you don't want any drama, and just some fun, and if she wants to get all serious, and saying she loves you, then that is bad, and you should communicate you don't want something that serious.
/r/askTRP02/03/19 07:43 PM
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Starting a business is no walk in the park. Although i would love to do that in the future. What business type?
/r/TheRedPill01/03/19 11:25 PM
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Vancouver Any city by default is lonely. The bigger they are the ore lonely they are. Maybe it is time to move to a smaller town/city? I can not stand the city, but recognise it is needed for a career and money. Maybe save up some money and find work elsewhere? The city is not worth it long term.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/19 07:12 PM
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Nope. But it will certainly help OP break out of his shell and release his inhibitions so that he can approach people more confidently.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 04:15 PM
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Either be really really passionate about something else, like how tesla was for his work. Or go through heartache and realise what a cold and unforgiving world the dating game is.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:30 PM
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Start small. Take some drugs. Have a drink or two before you do. Smoke some weed. Try clubs and events first and build your momentum. Try the nootropic phenibut, that will fix it for you.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:27 PM
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Achieve your life goals, ones that dont require other people to tell you are doing okay. Do it for yourself and not for validation.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:22 PM
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Sounds similar to me. Not many friends due to my work life and similar personality. I think you would be happier finding a sport or community event/project to contribute on, using your time and money on that will be more fulfilling over time and more meaningful. That is what i intend to do, if and when i have the time and money. Cultivating male friendships and a social circle by doing these things, i would say, will make you happier. And what is more, by doing this, you will meet women along th…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 01:24 PM
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That is a college campus though, a whole different environment to anywhere else. Anyone can talk to girls there with a bit of courage, those girls are easy going and mostly don't have anything to lose, nor the stresses of the working world. And, people are not talking to each other as much as you say, because they don't necessarily have the need to anymore, they have their TV and porn and workloads as more than adequate distractions. If it were otherwise, they would be talking to each other. Wom…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 11:19 AM
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What made you go back to cold approaching exactly? A break-up? For me, i just don't see the appeal anymore, until i get really desperate. There are so many other things in life to focus on. Sure, it can be exciting and a challenge, and maybe MAYBE you might meet some slightly interesting women, but these days i am more of the opinion that young attractive women are pretty much all identical in their thoughts. So it makes it really hard for me to connect with them on some level, but that might be…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 11:13 AM
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People are tired, and they are stressed. They don't want to have conversations on the bus or train, they want to get to work and get home and relax. ​ And why talk to these broads on the bus anyway? What makes you think they will be interesting? This is the main factor for me, when i used to do cold approaches a couple years ago, it was fun at first and exciting, but the novelty wore off. And after some experience, and many more interactions with women cold approach and not, i just got bored. Th…
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 10:41 AM
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Those are the negative aspects of it sure. It is a hell of a lot more complicated than that though. And i am not stuck on a fantasy, in fact i just came out of a relationship.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/19 06:16 PM
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Everyone in the history of mankind is afraid of growing old and dying alone. Unless you are a sociopath or something. Stop spouting dogma at me. It is fine to have mastery and inner game and all that shit when you are young, but when you start getting older and your health and energy and philosophy changes, so will you.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/19 06:15 PM
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Because not everyone wants to grow old and die alone.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/19 03:45 PM
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I would say its more to do with that men and women are in competition with each other, for work, money resources etc. Instead of cooperating with each other for survival. And with the decline of community and family values, it results in all out war and confusion for everywhere.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/19 03:44 PM
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This is the secret that takes many men years to figure out. Most men can swept up in expectations and vices and ego fulfillment etc. And, in a way you can not blame them, because there is more drama and excitement in all that than simply living however you like, like the Budhha did for example. Sitting under a tree meditating doing nothing all day, what could be better than that?
/r/TheRedPill30/12/18 01:49 AM
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What makes you think Peterson is antithetical to our values? It depends which value you are referring to. I dont see how one man could be against ALL of TRP values, whichever they are. I am a fan of the man. From the lectures i have seen, from briefly skimming through his books and watching the interview on Joe Rogan, he is an extremely intelligent, insightful, kind and compassionate man. He is what a lot of young men need these days. He breaks down crying live on channel 5, when discussing the …
/r/TheRedPill20/12/18 12:33 AM
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Change job. Change city. Change country. Suck it up and get some serious savings, travel all summer or winter. Or invest those savings in college, learn a new skill and change careers. Frankly, if people are so fucking miserable doing their 9-5, why do they do it? Claim welfare or some shit and reasses your life and your options. You are not a slave, and you do have options, try to remmeber that.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/18 09:32 AM
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It sounds like you have read the way of the superior man.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/18 01:51 AM
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So basically if you enjoy the decline you are speeding up the decline of society. A very anti red-pill perspective that.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/18 04:59 PM
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When you reach your 30's you will learn that is an unhealthy way to live.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/18 09:18 PM
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What about difficulty hearing the girls in the club? Am I the only one that can not hear fuck all when trying to have a conversation in a club? People shouting in my ear all night does not help my hearing either...
/r/TheRedPill02/11/18 05:59 AM
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Have some fucking self respect. You are saying if a woman said that to you in a bar, dead serious you would laugh it off AND keep talking to her? Not every woman is worth your time and effort. Have some standards. Unless you are a clown or really thirsty to get laid, i do not see why you would want to continue to exercise the ego of some bitch that said something like that to you. I would probably laugh off her comment and tell her to go fuck herself, then leave.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/18 12:04 PM
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Out of curiousity, why is PHP your favourite language, and where did you learn it?
/r/TheRedPill09/10/18 01:40 PM
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Frankly, i do not think it will be as good as you make out. I myself feel alienated and increasingly more alone in a world which seems more and more full of lies. Being made aware of certain truths and the inner workings of the world does not make you feel more free or powerful. In my eyes it gives you an extra burden and responsibility.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 02:48 PM
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Hey guys, i just found out about the quarantine. And got VERY worried when i tried to see the subreddit on my mobile, to only find it unlisted. So, I am a bit late to the game here. What is the plan? It seems to me, that we are rapidly losing the fight here. Mostly because we do not see free-thinking as somethign we should have to fight for. It is truly truly worrying times for men. When social spaces for us to interact and share ideas die out. Personally, i am in a difficult time in my life. An…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 02:10 PM
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To be fair, a lot of guys would take that opportunity too. And lets not pretend we wouldnt. I have friends who have. Hot blondewithout attachments comes your way, your GF is out of town or been on holiday for a couple weeks, hard to say no, right?
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 06:18 PM
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He means secluded isolated areas. Like rural Africa or Asia or something i think. Basically places not touched by Capitalism and globalisation and the popular ideas yet.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 06:17 PM
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Your dilemma sounds like every fathers dilemma. The one my father had before he bailed on my mom and probably a lot of guys on this subreddit. Your purpose has been fulfilled. You got attracted to a young cute girl, had a lot of sex, fell in love, got her pregnant. She lost her initial attraction and changed from the process. All natural. Why do you want more? What were you expecting? As men we cant have it all. We get older. Wiser. Pine for the younger days when we had better sex and more fun. …
/r/TheRedPill01/09/18 08:46 AM
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Yep, and that is the problem. And perhaps that is the crisis we are experiencing currently. On some level, we as a species are realising that we need to do our part. Most educated and inteligent people that think like you do, not wanting to have kids, you dont want to subject life to the chaos of life etc. I have heard plenty of people say stuff like that. But if we all start not having kids, meanwhile all the uneducated and low IQ masses keep having kids at faster rates. Plus the government sup…
/r/TheRedPill09/08/18 11:48 AM
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I agree with all of that. And i never expressed otherwise, i do not think. No, i am not married, nor in a relationship. I have never had problems with controlling my feelings with any woman. In fact, most times, when things have fallen apart, is because i was too distant and cold and uncaring. I think th emain point i was trying to make is that, if you get to a point in life where you have to wrorry about not worrying about what your fucking girlriend is worrying. Then you are in a bad place. Do…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 04:22 PM
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This depends if you are talking about a relationship or not. This is terrible advice if you are. It is times like this when i read shit on the internet and i know 100% without doubt that i would be better off not reading it. Anyone ever get that? I mean too much information is a bad thing. So instead of worrying about another persons happiness you are worrying to not worry about her happiness? It is pointless and a waste of time, i am sorry. Just get on with it. Stop overthinking stuff like this…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 02:57 PM
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When i got a blood test, i was told my testestorone was normal. The thing is, is normal subjective? So many factors to take into consideration. I have no idea why they didnt tell me the exact number though. Or why i didnt ask.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 02:47 PM
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How does one find out what is low or high Testestorone though? Do doctors give people an average based on your height, age, weight etc?
/r/TheRedPill19/07/18 02:27 PM
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And therein you should be careful, for if reading stories on the internet makes you resentful towards women, you are in big trouble. Women are to be undertood, and many are worth your sympathy, time and attention. Do not let the bad stories of this mass information age distract you from the many good things that women can bring to your life.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/18 10:45 PM
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He seems happily married, so it is understandable that he is against a lot of meaningless sexual encounters. The 'red pill theory' you refer to isnt exclusively for banging as many girls as possible. It can mean using what you know about women to make a marriage work. Rollo Tomassi, arguably the godfather of the Red Pill, is married also.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/18 10:40 PM
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