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Get your validation from God. When I started going to Jesus it changed everything. I realized I didn’t need a woman. And it makes me free to do all kinds of things. Obviously freedom spent on some stuff is better than others, but knowing i don’t need a woman is worth it. It lets me let them be them. I don’t bug them. I can let them do their thing and come to me when they want to. And I can give them a good experience without needing something back from them. Jesus is good to me. And He’s good to…
/r/askTRP29/03/21 09:20 PM
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You’re welcome brother, and thank you for the award. All the best your way and reach out anytime, and make sure to update this post, make a new post, or PM with news on how you change your situation for the better. Looking forward to hearing it.
/r/askMRP29/03/21 08:44 PM
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You should try to work it out. When you make a decision like ordering food out, if you don’t like it you can send it back. But with marriage and significant decisions like this where you also are aware your own kids’ future hangs on it, you stick with it. She hasn’t cheated on you. I know what you’re talking about in the pleasure addiction. Avoiding chores and going after dopamine. The high from turning other women’s heads can become a drug if you let it. If it eventually turns your own head tho…
/r/askMRP27/03/21 01:41 PM
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Porn is likely the medium through which this shame and loser mentality has come through. It’s dark stuff man. Demonic. I went to Jesus and keep going to Jesus. And it’s working. Porn rots you from the inside out. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter what future you could have. It doesn’t matter what you look like. You’ll find a way to hate it, to lose your drive and purpose, and a general loss of your humanity and humanness itself. You won’t get excited about the summer anymore…
/r/askTRP21/03/21 02:26 PM
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It will literally kill you from the inside out
/r/askTRP16/03/21 04:41 AM
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Permanent nofap
/r/askTRP16/03/21 04:39 AM
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What are the advantages of marriage to you as you see them, and try to avoid feelings unless they signal something truly worth pursuing (and list that thing and not the emotion)
/r/askMRP15/03/21 08:22 PM
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It freed me from a bad place. I have felt a weight slide off. Like we were taking about, I kept finding myself ending up w girls who were not good for me. I got engaged to a girl after, and worked really hard to make things work. But the relationship ended in tragedy, and that’s when I truly saw that I was repeating exactly what my parents were doing. And that I was blessed by God to have been saved from that marriage. But I still hadn’t forgiven the one who hurt me all those years ago, and was …
/r/askTRP11/03/21 03:24 AM
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Having and being a friend are part and parcel. It’s not transactional, but what I’m saying is there’s something to be said for giving a little to help a friend out. That’s not codependency, and you’re not becoming your friend if you help him. Thinking that would be like making the mistake of the skinny guy at the gym who only runs bc he doesn’t wanna look like Arnold. He’s so skinny no one would mistake him for the Terminator. So help this guy out. Maybe teach him to fish too (the give a fish / …
/r/askTRP10/03/21 10:22 PM
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That’s pretty vulnerable man. I had some bad beats w girls too. When you forgive and let go and love, the pattern ends. But if you’re caught between grieving and revenge sex, you can repeat this a long time. Save yourself from trouble at your age and forgive her. Let it go. Personal experience here: I had to go to Jesus about the woman who I wouldn’t forgive for the longest time. He made it not just possible but so worth it.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 10:16 PM
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The problem with TRP is that men approach women like it’s a computer hack. Believing women are machines to hack, they forget they themselves aren’t machines, and in your case, you found out not quite too late but still late. You have feelings for her. And you found out you have a heart. That’s a good thing. You care about someone. And from what you said she’s been good for you and to you. It’s reality. What you’re also experiencing is mortality. And learning that TRP doesn’t have all the answers…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 08:17 PM
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Of course. That’s a good, fair question. Here’s the explanation. Corey Wayne (a dating coach) posted a video answering an email from a male subscriber of his, and the subscriber said something like, “My wife cheated on me and left me a year...” [or two or so, I forget but it was a short while] “... ago. Since then I’ve gone through over 100 women, but I’ve got this one girl I’m crazy about now and ...” The remark Corey made was that if this guy had gone through this many different women and not …
/r/askTRP10/03/21 08:11 PM
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I’m Catholic. Your choice is yours to make, but you asked for some advice. So here’s some ideas to ponder. Imagine your son found photos of you with another woman who wasn’t his mom, and suspected of you what you suspect of your mom. What would you want him to do with regard to you? What would you be proud of him doing with that info? Now separately (for your dad) imagine your son found photos of your wife with another man like the photos show, and suspected infidelity. What would you want him t…
/r/askTRP10/03/21 12:14 PM
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Some other users have commented on your question already. But if just like to point out that 20 different sexual partners by 21 may mean you’ve got a problem. You could be a bit of a psychopath. And that’s not something to be proud of or take in stride. That could really damage your life. To go through this many women in so short a time is a dangerous pattern to set in anyone’s life, particularly this early.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 11:59 AM
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She’s better off. Grow some character and do better next time.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 11:53 AM
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You honor each other’s strength in how you speak
/r/askTRP10/03/21 02:36 AM
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“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, remember to dig two graves.” - Confucius. No thanks. I’d rather have life and life abundantly.
/r/askMRP10/03/21 02:33 AM
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Having your stuff together means also having integrity. You have a dodgy marriage. You should address these things with her if you’re still dealing with them in silence. That’s part of any healthy relationship w someone. She may not understand but you would have said it. At least give her the opportunity to respond well. If you say it with kindness and come from a place of talking about your own experience then you could mitigate damage (as opposed to accusing her etc even if justified). If you’…
/r/askMRP10/03/21 12:53 AM
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Keep your chin up and keep working at it. Don’t fault yourself for giving it your best shot.
/r/askTRP08/03/21 12:11 PM
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Keep your chin up. As long as you’re trying and doing your best, then you know you’re doing what you can. Find something to do for work, have a great attitude and be excellent in that, and work on applying through people who know you than random online stuff. This can entail getting to know people.
/r/askTRP08/03/21 12:09 PM
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It’s not as great as it seems. Not fulfilling. Just stick to Him and delight in Him. Look to Him and for Him. Talk to girls. But do it God’s way. Really delight in Him.
/r/RPChristians08/03/21 05:18 AM
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I come from a dysfunctional home similar in ways to yours. What worked for me: Went to Jesus Christ. Didn’t believe any of it was real but when He healed me of some deep stuff, He changed my life. I have reason to hope now, and hope itself. Forgive. This is not about trying to feel perfect about things but how to truly move on and find mental and emotional freedom. This came later. I noticed years ago that I’d go thru this cycle of rebellion or compliance w parents, and that each of these were t…
/r/askTRP07/03/21 03:41 PM
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Need more info. Just saying you can’t get a second date isn’t anything to go on. Reflect. Look for patterns. Are you yourself enjoying these dates? Are they meaningful? I applaud the ownership of where the problem lies. But There’s no way to tell if you’re creepy and smell bad, it’s just bad luck, or it’s your attitude or what
/r/askTRP05/03/21 07:52 PM
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Stop masturbating and your sensitivity issues should resolve, barring some crazy non-normal issues. Cut out porn too (no sense in watching if you don’t jack off). Not moralizing here. Speaking from experience.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 02:13 PM
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Run
/r/askTRP02/03/21 01:50 PM
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It’s not pathetic in circles that are kind and good. How much porn do you consume on a daily or weekly basis? If you abuse that stuff chances are you’ll have a distorted view of what sex is and should be. Virginity feels like a curse, but take it as a blessing. You’re not led around by a woman. Sure, you’ve got less experience, but the issue isn’t that you’re a virgin but that you’re not confident about your choices and seem needy. You’re not looking at it in the way that you have something to o…
/r/askTRP01/03/21 05:11 PM
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Don’t
/r/askTRP28/02/21 03:05 PM
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You need to find a more fulfilling pursuit than sex. It has been disorienting to you and your life feels chaotic for a reason. I have chosen Christ and have not regretted it.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 07:59 PM
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When you’re doing it for approval that’s a no. When you really wanna just reward her for being great, that’s better. Be real about it and yourself. As for degree of showing affection, put yourself in her shoes: if she’s your girlfriend you know her and what would overwhelm her. So don’t do that.
/r/askMRP27/02/21 07:43 PM
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I echo the 1-1 discipleship thing. My thing is a lot of guys in church aren’t going to respect your fight club rules. They’ll talk openly about it w their wives, some men will disagree demonize and betray, some women will go after you, and you have a lot to lose as a pastor by staking your name on something like this. So I’d pick the men. A couple ideas I’m not recommending but for thought: Start small and then maybe toss something controversial to test a candidate (who doesn’t know he’s a candi…
/r/RPChristians26/02/21 07:59 PM
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Just the encouragement in this thread is unreal.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 12:22 PM
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Be strong and take an interest in someone else’s life, don’t be needy, have a sense of humor, respect him with time and stuff, ask questions to get to know, and let it happen over time. As others said common interests are important, but like others said too being in a position where you could hurt them or betray them but you don’t builds trust.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 12:17 PM
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In what way(s) do you specifically mean that about social media? Not that I disagree but I'd like your perspective.
/r/askTRP24/02/21 03:27 PM
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That’s witty. And an acceptable saying. Do you think the world has always been this weak, and now they just have an excuse to get patted on the back and paid for it? Or do you think this is a symptom of our era for reasons specific to our era?
/r/askTRP23/02/21 02:45 AM
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Not so much a look but an inner sight. It is complex. If you’re not masculine enough in comparison to her femininity, you’ll find yourself potentially overwhelmed and under her power. She may not be interested and you could feel obsessed and not really know why. The draw is powerful. Some males hate women who are this feminine, because they themselves refuse to be men. But sometimes these women can make a man realize how good it will be to BE a man now having met her. But if you are strong and m…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 01:48 PM
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Stay the hell off her. She better not be my sister or you’ll be meeting me next.
/r/askTRP21/02/21 01:41 PM
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Because men masturbate and cast out their masculinity for the sake of a little pleasure, and because they have forgotten to go to God and Jesus for what He made good and strong. Masculinity is a spirit. The same way femininity is. A woman can be beautiful at a 10, but there is a 7 who just casts a spell on those around her that mind find irresistible. And there are guys who are jacked muscle-wise but who are weak inside and could be overcome by someone much smaller but fiercer inside. Men need t…
/r/askTRP21/02/21 01:38 PM
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People who put others down to relate need inner work. Pass. You don’t know who she knows, so why trust her with knowing more about you? What if she jeopardizes a future relationship you wanted? Sex isn’t the best thing in life. It’s fun and pleasurable, but it isn’t the best. And this woman is not high quality. Maybe physical/financial, but spiritual inner poverty will eat at you. Plus with this trait (which while she may not be narcissistic is a huge red flag), you don’t know what else may be w…
/r/askTRP08/02/21 06:02 PM
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I've been thinking about getting tattoos, too. Already have one. But the truth is it's not gonna change things. Eventually you forget you have it. And most times you'll have clothes on covering that up. Your expectations for social reactions once you get a tattoo are a bit unrealistic and something out of an anime. Women when they see I have a tattoo have usually been impressed. But this is nothing if I am not confident. If I am not strong. Like, it's just ink. Anyone can get a tattoo. Think abo…
/r/askTRP03/12/20 06:56 AM
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Trusting God to really forgive us can be a complex issue. Even when I crossed over and became Catholic and went to confession, I still encountered issues. If you have the holy spirit, then if you don't think you're forgiven, think about this seriously. Speaking bluntly, sometimes you're not really sorry. You regret the consequences. You may regret being caught. You may regret this or that. But sometimes we still really just love the sin. We don't want to be forgiven for the sin, just to have the…
/r/RPChristians03/12/20 06:47 AM
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because guys fuck beauty and don't care about boring, and girls know this. that's why they don't improve character, because they never needed it. they don't fear God, and they sure as shit don't fear men when they (the beautiful ones) have so much power over them. well, sometimes men scare them. There are women who do have character, but they have to make that choice. Sometimes it's being in a healthy, good family. Other times being with a good guy who helps shape her conscience. Maybe even she …
/r/askTRP03/12/20 05:59 AM
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Thanks man, respect for your gains too
/r/askTRP02/12/20 01:29 PM
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/r/askTRP01/12/20 05:42 AM
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This is great. Thanks for taking the time to write this out, brother 👍👍
/r/askTRP01/12/20 05:41 AM
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Hey man. Sorry for you. Can imagine the crying, the real lows, the despair and hopelessness, and the constant temptation to compromise versus the overwhelming desire to stand up and cut the whole smothering yoke of dishonesty and manipulation off. Not to mention the sickening presence of addiction and it’s incessant whispers to indulge so you just don’t have to feel it anymore, all your sorrow and confusion. Both my parents have narcissistic tendencies, father more than mother. He probably is. I…
/r/askTRP22/11/20 06:44 PM
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Have what may be a BPD mother. So can relate. BPD will intensely bond to you, so intense you think you’re connected internally. But they split. They just split. One day you’re eating grapes in paradise and the next burning in a lake of Fire. And when the ship is romantic, if you let her in AND THEY WANT IN you’ll experience extreme highs. Ad they’re real, too. To her it is. She doesn’t know she’s crazy tho. That it’s not the detailed, nuanced way a healthy person comes to know and trust and bond…
/r/askTRP22/11/20 06:34 PM
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I work with a retired state trooper in his second career. He’s thin, runs a lot, and reasonably jacked. Well built but not roided. His kids are grown and in their 20s now. This thread get me thinking: are you working out for how it looks, or because you like the exercise? Some guys just don’t like to do it. Idk why. But they don’t. I like it. And I like guys who like it too. It’s part of being strong.
/r/RPChristians13/11/20 07:42 PM
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35M, singe A couple nights ago a girl I was seeing dumped me. What I am working on: Physical. I’m filling out better. 5’10” and 173 lbs most of which is muscle. I’m standing straighter. The biggest thing for me is confidence from the heart. I can jack myself up or whatever but if I’m not strong inside, it doesn’t matter how strong I look. Granted, girls also notice the form. And I do feel good exercising and relating to other men in the gym. I’m coming off a really bad addiction right now, and a…
/r/RPChristians13/11/20 05:51 PM
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