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the_dancing_squirel/r/askMRP28/05/21 12:02 AM
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the_dancing_squirel/r/askMRP27/08/21 11:28 PM
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God damn. That hits hard
/r/askMRP12/08/23 10:25 PM
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Being a bitch is not the same as sharing heavy shit. She's not your therapist or mommy, she's your woman. She's the one you come home to after a shit day. And if she can't handle you being upset after a shit day, smth ain't working. Of course it should be an exception, not the rule
/r/TheRedPill09/07/23 02:17 AM
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So you're a hooker who's not happy with her sugar daddy. Nice setup
/r/askMRP26/06/23 07:09 AM
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What in the fuck...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 05:17 PM
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My mother has issues with me and my wife, which causes shit during family meetings. It came to a point where she'd act like a jealous ex. My theory is that it's a case of "covert incest" (grew up without a man in the house). So after trying to make it all work for years, I just said fuck it. I just keep my mother away emotionally now. She tries to act as if nothing happened from time to time, but just keep on not giving a fuck. As for you. You're in your 30s and still hiding things from mommy. U…
/r/askMRP15/04/22 09:50 AM
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I can figure out what makes me angry, take responsibility, and take care of what makes me angry. I don't show anger out of fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 08:47 AM
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I catch myself at the start. After that I want to realize that I'm angry, and figure out why. Then I can remove whatever pisses me off
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 08:45 AM
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OYS#18 180cm/80kg/~20%bf Physical. I did just one strength and MMA training this week. I was in the mountains on Friday, so not being lazy. But I am eating too much. I'm hiring a personal trainer on Friday. He'll set up my training and nutrition. We'll see how it goes. Still doing MMA. SQ 70 BP 50 OHP 40 DL 80 ROW 50 Mental. Am more stable, am catching my passive aggressiveness. In therapy we figured a pattern I use. I get angry, but am afraid to display it. So I start acting in a way that I kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 11:57 PM
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OYS#17 180cm/80kg/~20%bf SQ 70 BP 50 OHP 40 DL 80 ROW 50 Got a handle on my life again. I am now working from my cousin's place 3x a week. I'm teaching him programming, and after that we're going to the gym and MMA after. This is a very good setup. I'm out of the house, work is easier and more productive, and there is no way to skip the gym, or sleep in. I'm getting back into training now. I'm back to 5x5 3x a week, and MMA 4/5x a week. Ben doing that for the last 2 weeks, and is working out goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 11:01 PM
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OYS 16 The last 2 weeks were pure fuckery and chaos. First I was lazy for a week, then got sick and was shitting and puking at the same time, and I finally got to the gym on Monday. It was good. Legs hurt like a bitch. But due to some shit I didn't forsee, I'll have to skip tomorrow's workout, and will do it on Thursday. I see I have a major self destructive streak. I'll be going through it over therapy. I'm also preparing for a big event on the 16th, which takes too much of my time. After that,…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:29 PM
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Will read. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 10:37 AM
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So when I start feeling smth, just freeze, STFU, let the emotion ring out fully, and only then do what I actually want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 10:46 PM
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Yeah that sounds right. Will read it. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 05:04 PM
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That sounds right. I when she's happy, I'm angry. When she's angry (even not at me), I'm scared. So the solution is to stop suppressing my emotions
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 01:35 PM
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They sounds like a good strategy. I'll do that. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 10:29 AM
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"STFU with yourself" - what do you mean by "with yourself"?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 08:01 AM
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Job - good. Mental, physical, and relationships - suck ass. Mentally, I was doing good until today, when I was a dick because of my passive aggression towards my wife. So good for me. Physically - haven't been to the gym in over a week now. Laziness first week, puking and shitting at the same time this week. But better now. But moving tomorrow, and until the end of the week so will miss the gym for 2 weeks. I have some self destructive tendencies, and they present themselves in stuff like this. …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 10:46 PM
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Yeah. I usually love dogs, but if one is attacking mine, fuck it. My shoe is locking on it's ass
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 01:17 PM
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OYS 14 Fucked up my training, heading into self destructive land. Going through it on therapy. Lifts: DL 100 SQ 75 BP 65 OHP 40 ROW 60 Finances. Focused on work over other things. Deadline is coming, and it's important to get it. Physical. Didn't lift this week yet, but on the other hand I kept my head about calories, so am in good deficit. Lack of trening is mostly me, using excuses not to train. Need to fix it tomorrow. Mental. I started heading into self destructive behaviours (eating a lot, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 12:04 AM
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25/180/75/19% Physical (in kg): BP 60 Sq 75 OHP 40 ROW 65 DL 100 I started being serious about my diet. I have some self destructive problems, and working through them in therapy. Mental: I started standing up for myself. Feels good. Also started using my aggression in a productive way. Avoiding thinking about myself as a victim, and started to work towards truly taking responsibility. Also catching myself before I go on a passive aggressive path. Money: Going good. This month I'll make 3x what …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/21 07:06 AM
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OYS 12 Physical: 75kg/180/19% - I started watching my diet again. Fucked up before and got fat again. Lifts (in kg): - SQ: 80 - DL: 100 (Went down to focus on technique) - BP: 68 - OHP: 40 - ROW: 65 Mental: I realized during therapy that I'm making myself into a victim to avoid taking responsibility. I also figured out I was in a "covert incest" situation with my mother. I told her that I won't be her emotional sponge anymore, and it's not my role. I felt like I was breaking up with a gf. Going …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 06:25 PM
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Ok, fair enough. Thanks
/r/askMRP29/08/21 11:52 AM
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That makes sense. Thank you
/r/askMRP28/08/21 08:44 PM
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Sorry, I don't understand the last part. Can you elaborate/reword?
/r/askMRP28/08/21 03:08 PM
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Good points. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/08/21 03:07 PM
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Yeah the description hits hard. Smth similar to what my therapist said. Will read. Thanks!
/r/askMRP28/08/21 03:04 PM
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I read it a while back, but I see it's time for a re-read. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/08/21 09:03 AM
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True. Thank you
/r/askMRP28/08/21 09:02 AM
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Sorry, English is not my first language. Can you elaborate?
/r/askMRP28/08/21 09:01 AM
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All good points. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/08/21 09:01 AM
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I don't understand
/r/askMRP28/08/21 09:01 AM
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Yes. I'm still in her frame, and doing it your way would not work yet in my case. Good points, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/21 06:25 AM
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Yup. You're right about the frame and lying. Seriously though. Just STFU and not say shit in this kind of situations? Or smth else. What am I missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 11:28 PM
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OYS 11 25/180/78/21% DL 100 SQ 75 BP 65 OHP 37 ROW 57 Physical. I got fat this month. Cleaned up my diet, and started eating right again. I pulled a 100kg deadlift yesterday. Shit form though, so for a month I'm going 10-15 kg less, and work on my technique. After that, back to crushing prs. Mental. I stood up for myself for the first time possibly in 2/3 years. I was exhausted after smth and spilled water on the couch. I run for a paper towel, and my wife started asking aggressively what's wron…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/21 10:07 AM
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False Beliefs: People are a threat and I have to keep them at a distance. My wife will want to manipulate me into doing what she wants. I need my wife's (and others) approval for what I do and who I am. These beliefs are false. They all come from childhood. I don't have to keep people away. Figure out who is trustworthy, and let them closer. My wife doesn't want to manipulate me into doing what she wants. She's clear and direct as to what she expects of me. She doesn't hide anything, and if she'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 10:45 PM
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OYS #10 180cm/75kg/19%/25yo. SQ 77 DL 95 BP 60 OHP 30 ROW 40 Physical. I let myself go for the last week, and it's beginning to show. Had lots on my head, but going back at it now. Mental. Started reading a new book. About growing a business, and "Manning up". I had to pause my therapy till the end of the month. But now I realized I have a couple of core beliefs that are fucking up my progress. Both physical and in my relationship with my wife. I also lost my cool last week and acted like a todd…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 12:26 AM
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No, not actually. Just a word here for being stupid. Same as retard. I'm not being supportive, and even attacking her when she needs support. All this happens subconsciously, but that's no excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/21 08:34 AM
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OYS#9 75kg/180cm/19% SQ 75 BP 60 DL 95 ROW 45 OHP 30 Physical. Mostly keeping the diet, strength going up. Squatting my own bodyweight. I am mostly steadily going up with my looks. Taking care of hair, clothes and shoes. I have to use the home gym for now. Still working on the car. Mental. Reading posts here, keeping myself stable for the most part. Lifting helps a lot here. Also I have a new job, where my voice is heard, and am regarded as an expert, which helps. I know it's external validation…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 06:36 PM
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OYS#8 25yo, 180cm, 75kg, 19% OHP 38kg BP 60kg DL 95kg SQ 77kg ROW 50kg So much shit happened. I started a new job and missed the Monday training session. I also don't have a car (engine got fucked up) and am now working on a new one. Have to resort to home gym for a week or two. Will lower the weights on some lifts since I don't have anyone to stop me, or anything to catch the weight. Interesting thing. Weight stays the same, same with fat level. But strength is going up, and I can visibly see I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 11:59 PM
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Yeah. Had a similar situation. But my female friend turned into a plate for a while. Then I fucked up a bunch of shit tests and just had to next this shit. By the way. She was a devoted Catholic and was engaged. So no. If you have even a glimpse of value, she'll shit test you and fuck you. And you sound like a God damn white knight. I know. I've done the same shit you did. You also know what you should've done. Next her and just keep on the grind
/r/TheRedPill02/08/21 05:04 AM
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OYS #7 ​ 25/180cm/75kg/19%bf ​ BP: 55kg OHP: 35kg SQ: 70kg DL: 90kg ROW: 45kg ​ Got back into normal mode of training. Lifting 3x a week, MMA 2x a week. I went to my fist wrestling training yesterday. It's incredible how much going to the gym helps with fighting. Kind of fucked up my leg so might have to go lower on weights with squats today. But we'll see. Finally went to 90 on DL. Proud af of this. ​ I have my last day in my company tomorrow. Am starting a new job for 150% of my current salary…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 11:35 AM
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Yeah, you're right. His SMV is a solid 2/10 by the looks of it
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/21 08:14 PM
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Post this shit on askmrp. Also lifts? Sidebar? Height? Weight and fat level?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/21 06:47 PM
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Will do. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 05:06 PM
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Might be some truth to that. I explained the idea, told them to do the same thing you did and said they can ask questions if they want to. If they want help, cool, I'll help if I have time. If not, itself their life. But good point. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 03:00 PM
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Good point. I just fucked up. That's all. Am getting back to it tomorrow
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 10:05 PM
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OYS 6 25M 180cm/75kg/19% SQ 68kg OHP 43kg DL 88kg BP 55kg Row 50kg I fucked up the whole week. Last training session was on Wednesday, and tomorrow will be my first in a week. So fuck me. I had no way to train in reality, it wasn't being lazy, but it still hurts. But I'll just treat it as a deload week. I was on a 3 day trip with my friends. It was good. I was taking the lead for the whole group when they were not decided what to do, and it was just a good time. Drank, and ate some crap, but not…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 08:51 PM
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Just multiply by 2.2 and you have lbs
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 07:27 AM
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Thank you. Don't think there is a rule for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 07:27 AM
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OYS#5 25yo/75kg/180cm/19%bf Lifts: BP: 53kg OHP: 40kg SQ: 65kg DL: 83kg ROW: 50kg All lifts went up, Most proud of DL. Still fat + weight is going back up. Not sure how I'm in kcal surplus, but must be, cause that's how physics works. So will go into more of a deficit, and will add exercise. I now lift 3x a week, do MMA/wall climbing 2x a week + swim once a week on the weekends (that's accessory - if I miss it, nothing terrible happens). I also walk my dog for 1-2h every other day + weekends. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 01:36 PM
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Good point. But also no point for it being there. I know I will keep lifting, building wealth, going to therapy no matter what my wife does. If she's happy along the way, it's a "benefit". Kind of like free lunch from my employer. Nice to have, not gonna cry if I don't have it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/21 01:11 PM
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Right. No need for it to be there in the first place
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/21 07:35 AM
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I mean, yes. It's a good thing once in a while. The problem is this was one of the reasons sec stopped last time. It's fine once in a while, not every time for 3 months ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/21 02:23 PM
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Keep doing 5x5. You got a ways to go before linear gains stop. The gains did slow down, but you might be right to just keep going on SL. I'll try till the end of the week, and see what happens. ​ Any why did you do this? Why did you not lead? What stopped you? I got lazy. I figured, since he was there before and I wasn't, I should let him lead. But I forgot there is a difference between leading from point A to point B, and making the decision to go to point B. ​ Wtf? Dude if you came in 3 mins w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 07:30 AM
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OYS #4 25M; 180cm, 19%bf, 75kg. Lifts: OHP: 40kg BP: 50kg SQ: 60kg DL: 83kg ROW: 50kg Went for a trip to the mountains with wife and friend + gf, where a beta came out of me. I was just letting him lead, even though his gf was calling the shots for him most of the time. So a huge fuck up there on my part. Decided to do at least one thing for me last week. So have been keeping this approach. Fucked up my training cause of the trip. Wasn't just laying and eating, but still got fat. Got to training…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 10:57 AM
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OYS #3 Got banned for rule 9 two weeks ago. And it was the correct admin decision. For the past 2 weeks I started to do shit for myself. Train, keep the diet, got a better job, all for me, and not to finally fuck my wife. And damn. When I'm doing shit for myself I'm happier, way more confident, and shit gets done way better and faster. I think that's a breakthrough. But many are still ahead of me. Can't wait to see the next ones. I guess it's getting closer to the "I'm the prize mentality". I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 12:35 AM
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Unless you know how or have someone who also knows how read first. Sidebar is a good place. Spend the rest of today going through it. We have good info regarding nutrition as well
/r/askMRP20/06/21 03:35 PM
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And lifts? That's the driving force here
/r/askMRP20/06/21 02:03 PM
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Lifts? Sidebar? And yeah. You fucked up good. Also stop with the drugs. Go to therapy instead. I assume it's gonna cost you the same
/r/askMRP20/06/21 11:11 AM
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Yes that's what I did. After each paycheck she gets her part, and I get my part. All food, tax and other expanses are set aside before the division. And this seems to be working
/r/askMRP13/06/21 12:48 PM
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Yeah that's the course I took. Now I just let her know where the mutual money goes with short updates.
/r/askMRP13/06/21 07:16 AM
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Yeah. Programming is easy and pays crazy well.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/21 09:45 AM
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Yeah. Similar situation here. I'm in top 10% of my country (which considering how little work I had to put in, and how really little I make in comparison to higher ups is just scary), and was offering to show people how to do what I do. Teach them. One hour a day for a year or two and they can join my field. Two years more of paid work (more than what they make now) and they have my pay. So four years and they double or triple their pay, and that's just the beginning. The sealing is still 2/3x w…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/21 09:30 AM
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OYS#2 25yo/25so 180cm/75kg/19%bf sq 70kg bp 50kg row 50kg dl 75kg ohp 40kg SL 5x5 I have not been posting here for a month or 2. But need to start. Bad shit: Ate like a pig on a family party, am fat af now. Figured out to eat enough protein + 400g vegetables a day is enough to survive, and should be around 1500kcal. Walking and gym should be enough to get to 15%bf. Been fucking around on this for too long now. Possibly fucked up my hip doing deadlifts. Going to a doc to see it on Thursday. Had t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 02:28 PM
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I mean. Some small number have good ideas and suggestions which made sense. The rest was just shit testing or autists. Gotta pick the nuggets of wisdom from the pile of shit. But that's normal in any forum so it is what it is
/r/askMRP01/06/21 10:45 PM
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You can share, but not burdon her with your shit. At least that's what seems to work in my case. When I go overboard, she feels threatened, and not safe. After all you're supposed to be the stable one. So you can inform that smth is going on (so she's not afraid she did smth wrong), but it's not her job to hear about it or to solve it. At least that's how I see it.
/r/askMRP31/05/21 11:39 PM
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Good points. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/05/21 10:08 PM
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Yeah I was DEERing. Right. Also interesting point of view about the hole selling
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:25 PM
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If I was into it, sure
/r/askMRP28/05/21 04:18 PM
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Everything needs work. 3x a week 5x5
/r/askMRP28/05/21 03:37 PM
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XD good one. Working on it.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 10:53 AM
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Hm. And avoid DEERing along the way?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 09:03 AM
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Hm. Good points. But what's the solution here? Simply have more money? Also she said herself that wants me to be the one making financial decisions when we get married.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 08:41 AM
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Yeah that makes sense. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/05/21 08:28 AM
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The career is doing ok, and is growing. I am in the top 10% of my country, around 2x national avg. As I said I was shit with money for the last 2 years and started to fix it now, so she didn't have the chance to see the improvement yet. I am making 1.5x what I was making in January. So there is progress. I also like the idea of camper honeymoon. So you're saying finances are the driver here? If I don't have enough money saved, I need to start saving. That means we don't do a honeymoon before we …
/r/askMRP28/05/21 08:10 AM
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Good read, thanks. So shit test is just flirting?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 08:04 AM
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What's the appropriate behaviour then? Accepting every wish she has?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:48 AM
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The camper was her idea. She talked about it for a while now. The first wedding was just us, and our witnesses in the mountains. The second is a religious one. And put too much money into it, cause when I agreed to them I still was a pleaser. So that's my mistake I have to live with.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:44 AM
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She's a good wife material. Yup. 3 years Read most of the post and a couple of books.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:42 AM
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BP?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:40 AM
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So what's the appropriate honeymoon trip? That's something she was talking about for a while now.
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:40 AM
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Doing stronglifts according to plan. What's the appropriate honeymoon then? 5 star hotel and laying on a beach for a week?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:35 AM
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Yeah, I did. The camper was her idea originally. She was happy and excited about it
/r/askMRP28/05/21 07:33 AM
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Well shit. You're right. New things to fix I guess
/r/TheRedPill22/05/21 11:26 PM
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An option but can break. I'm just starting so a mini monk mode will work fine. After the test comes back I'll be 4 months into the training, and a better human being than now. I'd rather not fuck for 3 months than risk giving her HIV. That would be a shitty protector
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:55 PM
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OYS 1 Stats: 24yo, wife 23, married 1 year, together 4, 180cm, 77kg. Bf 20%. Lifts: Squat - 38kg OHP - 28kg Deadlift - 45kg BP - 30kg ROW - 35kg I've been lurking about here for a while now and decided to post cause I think it finally started clicking. I've done some good and some fucked up this week. I'm a "nice guy", so I'm keeping all my anger in, and letting it out at the least appropriate time. In therapy for this and other issues. Reading through the sidebar. Now re-reading "married man's …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 07:51 PM
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