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NICE FOR WHAT?theawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:40 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨theawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:41 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:41 AM
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TRIGGER WARNINGtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:45 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF FAMEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:41 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:04 PM
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NAH, SIStheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:36 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:05 AM
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STAY WOKEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:54 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:42 AM
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SCROTES MADtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:38 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:18 PM
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#JustLVMThingstheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:34 PM
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QUEEN SH*Ttheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:52 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:49 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:42 AM
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SCROTES MADtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:28 AM
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theawkwardalli/r/askFDS10/12/20 04:41 AM
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DISCUSSIONtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:38 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:26 PM
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SCROTES MADtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:37 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYtheawkwardalli/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:42 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
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Every guy who has tried to rape or assault me has been a friend or boyfriend. It’s so disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:27 PM
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Omg, can I be friends with his girlfriend?! She kicks ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:03 PM
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Queens helping other queens! We love to see it 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:15 PM
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Read: “I can’t bring my wife to orgasm”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:37 PM
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We love to see good triumph over evil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:24 PM
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DiCreepio 💀 💀 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:45 PM
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The one guy I crushed on for a while always bragged about how much he loved giving oral and how good he was at it. Eventually, we fooled around and 1) he had a tiny dick and 2) he was HORRIBLE at oral. 100% regret that experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:53 AM
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Exactly what I thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:47 PM
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My ex would constantly pick on me for my weight. Funny enough, he was insecure about how thin he was and I lost the weight once I dumped him :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:08 PM
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LOL I know this girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:58 PM
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Her post made me so angry for her! 100% agree with divorce but if she doesn’t want to do that, BARE MINIMUM he needs to add more money to their joint account to cover for the pet expenses, a maid, and landscapers. He also needs to start cooking and sharing the burden of taking care of the pets. It’s not her job to do everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:38 PM
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Judging by the lack of intelligence in posting his crusty dick on a dating app, I bet that “diploma” is a high school diploma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:37 AM
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I’ve been assaulted and experienced attempted rape 4 times by 3 different men. It’s absolutely mind blowing how prevalent these issues are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:24 AM
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I’m the same way. I repainted my kitchen cabinets last summer and fix/build everything on my own. It’s great not having to rely on a man to get things done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:44 PM
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I think physical touch as a love language means different things to men and women. For me, specifically, if I have a boyfriend, I’m usually always touching him in some way—whether it’s our legs touching while sitting beside each other, holding hands, hand resting on the thigh, etc. I found out this was one of my love languages when my LVM ex almost always refused affection (he literally ripped his hand away when I tried to hold it at the market). Men usually think of physical touch in a sexual w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:22 AM
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Treating my mama to some Starbucks and flowers, then going on a bike ride! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:31 AM
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So proud of you! Welcome to the first day of your new life 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:26 AM
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We hadn’t said “I love you” in a week or two, he was always ignoring me, he continued treating me the way I asked him not to, and to top it off, he tried raping me again. Told him I was done and moved out a week later.. he cried. After a week passed by, he told me he didn’t love me anymore, meanwhile, he was still taking me out to eat and sleeping with me (obviously pre-FDS). Eventually, on one of the nights he took me to go get dinner, he was texting some girl, so I freaked out on him. Took me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:15 AM
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You have little-to-no investment in this man. If he wanted to, he would. It’s time to move on, girl!
/r/askFDS24/01/21 12:06 AM
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I think this may be above our pay grade. This would be best dealt with/understood through a qualified therapist (woman). You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, so don’t push yourself to get back out there if you’re not ready. I hope you get the help you need and I’m rooting for you 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:11 PM
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Quench that mofo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:29 AM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:12 PM
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Right?! Like, I’m sorry, I thought you said single 30 year old women??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:27 AM
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Just like how posting a lot is a red flag, so is not posting about you at all. My last boyfriend posted one photo of me the entire year we dated and he only posted it because his friends told him it was weird that he didn’t post our photos. After breaking up and him finding someone else, I unblocked him to check his Instagram and he posts about her regularly (I have him blocked again). At first it made me really sad to see that he’s doing things with her/for her that he’d never do for me, but I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:25 AM
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I have IBS too and I’ve literally been unmatched on a dating app because I said that I couldn’t drink for medical reasons. Really shows the audacity of that man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:14 AM
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Girl, this is awesome! This story is really important and I think a lot of women don’t understand that it doesn’t matter how much you like someone, you have to have enough self respect to know when it’s time to walk away. “..But I like him SO much!” Well, he doesn’t like you “so much,” if at all, and you can’t make him change his mind, no matter how much love and affection you give him. So are you going to pine after him for a year and be more hurt than you expected, or break it off now and move…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:00 PM
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Approval, please! :) Stoked for this new sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:29 AM
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If you can’t do this for you, do this for your daughter. She doesn’t deserve to see the abuse from her father. Show her how women can step up to abuse and say “no more.” Show her your strength and courage in making difficult decisions. You can do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:43 PM
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Honestly, men will never be happy no matter what we do. If it’s “hey, can you help me lift this heavy object?” their response is, “carry it yourself! FeMiNiSt!” Or it’s this scrote who’s mad that we don’t ask for help with “manly” things. Just leave us alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:39 PM
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I’m pretty sure I’ve seen that guy on one of the dating apps 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:52 AM
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I prefer to have female doctors for all my medical needs, tbh. The only male doctor I see is my ophthalmologist, who’s trustworthy and not predatory in the slightest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:41 AM
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I, I, I, me, me, me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:53 PM
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Unprompted monologue intensifies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:29 AM
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My ex put that he was a paralegal. Like, BOY, you haven’t even finished community college and you work at a call center... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:40 PM
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Girl, SAME! IBS is a legitimate medical condition, but I’ve never gone in the fucking bushes/in an alleyway. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:32 AM
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Omg—I’ve literally seen this exact profile on Tinder! I screenshotted it and posted it on my finsta 😂 He changed it a little though. My friends thought it was absolutely hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:20 PM
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She’s my background on my phone! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:34 AM
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complains about something you own not being “nice enough”/too old/not up to his standards So, are you buying me a new one, then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:51 AM
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Thank you for sharing your experiences! I think learning through others is a great way to see how FDS comes into play in reality. Good luck with the non-OLD guy—keep vetting! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:13 AM
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I technically go through three pairs a day! I wake up with one pair on, change into a fresh pair, shower at the end of the day, and change into another pair, which I wear all night until the next morning. I like feeling clean, though, so I may be an outlier.... but why don’t men feel the need to be clean? I don’t understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:06 AM
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You’ve got to be kidding me. Also gag me at “my holes”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:18 PM
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Are men really this stupid? This is the most ridiculous things I’ve ever read. Hope everyone is telling her to dump him because he’s absolute garbage for trying to demand what she does with her body and being so jealous of literally nothing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 07:46 PM
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Honestly, (I hated when people said this to me) it’s just going to take time. I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex two years ago now and I’m so much happier than I’ve been in a long time. There are some days where all I can think about is the emotional abuse: why did he treat me like that if he said he loved me? As time goes on, the pain gets less and less, he stops living in your head as long. Try to stay busy and do things you enjoy. I tried using my frustration as motivation to be “bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:41 PM
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Her man watches too much porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:06 PM
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I’m 25 and the highest I’m willing to date is 30...but even that “old” kind of weirds me out! You’re totally justified and normal—don’t worry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:47 AM
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Your last relationship sounds like mine! So glad we ditched those losers and found FDS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:46 AM
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I’d recommend finding a feminist female doctor, if you can—this will take time and you’ll only really know if you ever get a pap-smear from her. My female doctor did my first ever pap-smear and asked me if I was sexually active, experiencing any pain, etc. I explained how I experienced pain with sex almost every time I have it, so she looked to see if anything was wrong. All she said was: ”The inside of your vagina has lots of ridges. It must feel good for him” Like, excuse me??? I’m telling you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:40 AM
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Almost no one knows my story. I thought about another incident today that happened a year and a half ago and realized it was assault, but I can’t bear to think of being assaulted twice, so I’m not considering it that to prevent me from going into another downward spiral
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:56 AM
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Why would she be proud to share this? This is so cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:25 PM
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Has anyone reached out to her? She really needs a voice of reason right now and I think someone should be helping her/validating her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:07 PM
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I love the line that says something like “I can’t even think about planning a wedding with her right now” Boy, you’ve NEVER been thinking of planning a wedding with her. It’s been 11 years!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:02 PM
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GoOd HeAd But can he reciprocate? Does he have anything to provide? No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:56 PM
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This should be the standard we teach all young girls! You don’t have to wait for a list of red flags—one is more than enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:23 PM
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Most of us are here because we let a LVM ruin part of our lives—don’t be so hard on yourself! Your life isn’t over. You’re overcoming obstacles to enrich your life. It’s not fast, glamorous, or easy. We believe in you! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:26 PM
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When any man complains about not getting dates, I really think they need to be more introspective and/or fix their profile. If you have a good profile and a good personality, you’d be getting dates, so something is amiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:22 PM
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I’m living for everyone’s hilarious OLD horror stories! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:54 PM
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Show this to all the men in dumb dating subreddits that say ”It’s so much easier for women on OLD” No, it isn’t! And because you can’t believe our lived-experience of it being difficult, here are the statistics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:34 PM
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I feel so sorry for this woman but I think she’s in some serious denial for thinking this isn’t about him. He’s the reason why she lost confidence—he was directly making her feel bad about her boobs—but claims it’s about what she wants. She may want this now, but she wouldn’t have wanted it in the first place if he wasn’t being a complete asshole. She needs to ditch the guy and get some therapy before making this decision
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:22 PM
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I’ve had the same thing happen to me! The pornstar barely resembles me and I found it so insulting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:59 PM
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joined! Thank you :’)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:33 AM
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Thank you for saying this. I often feel discouraged from feeling like a true HVW, too, as I had to move back home this March when my uni closed down due to COVID. I graduated in June, have been working a crappy part-time job, and will be living at home for the foreseeable future, as I’m in serious student loan debt. I’ll do what I can to find a full time job to pay them off over the next few years (essentially, dumping the majority of my paycheck to shorten the length of the loan) and then hopef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:23 AM
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Why haven’t you blocked him? The mature thing to do is to cut contact. Tell him to leave you alone and block him EVERYWHERE. You’re in control of the people you allow into your life—he should not be allowed. Maturity is knowing your boundaries and holding firm to them. He’s manipulative and immature and knows what he’s doing. Don’t give him the opportunity to vent. If you want, get a new phone number entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:17 AM
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A little off topic: I think what’s worse than the excuses are the responses from others when you share how shitty his performance was. “Well, why didn’t you teach him how to do it?” If this guy is not my boyfriend, I’m not teaching him anything. I shouldn’t have to teach him at all! He should be so focused on me and asking for feedback. Most men don’t take initiative to actually want to get better because they’re lazy and only care about their own orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:58 AM
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Buddy, dinner with your Mommy once a week isn’t a regular
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:04 PM
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This! ^ I know it feels good to tell people off, but it’s not worth your energy or time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:57 PM
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You shouldn’t be responding to him. You already know he can’t bother to take initiative to plan a proper date. You don’t need to coach him to make a better decision or apologize/explain your disinterest—block & delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 08:15 AM
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Hollywood made me think that closure was something that everyone deserved. Reality taught me that closure isn’t real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 09:14 PM
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Read “Why Men Love Bitches” and you’ll get 100 answers to your question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:29 PM
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Had a boyfriend who did this but with his music that he made/played. I would visit back home for a little, then FaceTime him as I was driving back to our place and he would play guitar the entire drive. I started getting sick of it and would just end the FaceTime and tell him how boring it was to hear him play the same 3 songs. When I would get home, he was always fucking around with his music. I started hating being around him because he always ignored me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:19 PM
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My aunt and uncle did the same thing. Turns out, he made a porn with her friends and became extremely emotionally abusive and stalked her after the divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:51 PM
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I’ll make it easy 1)-21) I’m a misogynistic asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:17 PM
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Don’t forget good hygiene!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:43 AM
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• If your friends or family have concerns about him—listen to them! They’re always right • You can’t make anybody love you. If he doesn’t act in ways that show love, he doesn’t love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:25 AM
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He probably won’t even give her the money because he was “just kidding”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:19 PM
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Lol how embarrassing for him! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:37 PM
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I think you absolutely should write a post about that! Thanks for the suggestion :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:07 PM
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Always a great idea—and it’s free 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:49 PM
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Great suggestions! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:49 PM
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Here’s a great website that hats lots of different safety devices! I’m linking the stun gun page for you—I have the Inferno. It’s only $20 but man does it pack a punch! Guard Dog Security
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:34 PM
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Exactly! Keep your cards close to your chest! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:23 PM
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You don’t tell him that you’re looking for a relationship so that he can’t mirror your answer. Men will do anything to get in your pants and will wait months to get the opportunity then break up with you once they’ve got what they wanted. You tell him something vague: “I’ll know it when I see it” or even better, ask him what he’s looking for first so he has to be original
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:16 PM
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I used to THRIVE in my RBF. I would just stare straight ahead and walk with purpose in cute outfits. Everyone always got out of my way. RBF is powerful!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:26 AM
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She’s giving me some serious Cher vibes! 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:58 PM
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I’m so sorry about your cat! My cat is literally like a child to me, so I understand how bonded you must’ve been. At least the trash took itself out! You didn’t waste too much time and you practiced feeling out for red flags. I think you did a great job! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:35 PM
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ConsumeThePatriarchy LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:44 AM
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What can I say? Women are visual creatures. Maybe she saw something in these men that her bf didn’t offer. Has he let himself go lately?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:57 PM
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I read an entire book yesterday (“Why Men Love Bitches”), I’m going to a pumpkin patch and winery with my best friend tonight, I did my nails, and I’m going to do nice makeup and get all cute tonight :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:29 PM
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His profile reeks of incel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:59 AM
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I’ve noticed a lot of what you’re saying, too. I think it’s important to remember that everything comes and goes in waves on this sub. Sometimes things are more positive and then we’ll go into a more negative wave, or certain topics are more “trendy” than others for a while. I’m sure this will pass soon. While I agree that there is some harshness when we talk about pickme’s, it’s important to recognize that there are pickme’s who know better and pickme’s who don’t (victims of abuse, and the like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:41 PM
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This is a bad idea! Also, taking birth control doesn’t cause abortions. You and your boyfriend should take a sexual health class together at your local community college. Birth control makes it so that the lining of your uterus is thinner and the mucus is thicker, so it makes it more difficult for a fertilized egg to attach and continue to grow. Also, the term “spontaneous abortion” refers to a miscarriage—so maybe that’s what your boyfriend means. I do have to point out how hypocritical your bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:07 PM
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I love when they get denied the first time, they go “well, that’s not what I meant!” and try to cater to what they think you want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:39 PM
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Maybe try to get in contact with the OLD customer support. Let them know this guy is stalking you and making fake accounts. Give them his full name and a link to his Facebook I’ve been stalked from an OLD match for 6 years now. Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:07 PM
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Nothing dries my coochie more than spelling and grammar errors. I instantly lose all attraction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:54 AM
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Humility is one that I haven’t seen here yet. Having confidence is great and very important, but egocentrism is a no-no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:48 AM
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If he has such a problem with how she’s lived her life... why is he with her? Being with someone is a choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:47 AM
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I had a guy message me one of these lines on Tinder. The last “option” (#4) was to have him repeat the option list. I chose #4 at least five times until he unmatched me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:51 AM
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I matched with a guy on OLD who ended up living about 3 hours away. He wanted to meet me after talking for some time, but “never had time” because he wanted to golf every weekend and couldn’t miss his ultimate frisbee games 🙄 NEXT. My second boyfriend ended up being so focused on his music that he never spent time with me. He thought sitting in the same room was more than enough quality time. NEXT. It doesn’t just have to be games, ladies. These “hobbies” end up being life- and time-consuming. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:24 AM
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3-in-1 not accepted 💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:00 PM
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”I’m insecure and stupid”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:19 AM
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There’s some called Total Woman, but I’m not sure how widespread they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:10 AM
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Are we able to report conversations? If so, report & block! Don’t let it get you down. People over the Internet say incredibly cruel things because they are somewhat anonymous and can hide behind a screen. “Lions don’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:25 AM
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SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:59 PM
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Why do men think we give a fuck what they say? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:33 PM
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He’ll probably tell her all about this, so she’ll be acting as his “therapist” anyway. At least she’ll be getting paid for the emotional labor lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:30 PM
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I wouldn’t call this a victory, tbh. There’s still a lot to learn here. The pet names are super cringe and the flirting needs to stop—He uses you because you’re too available. Should’ve just said no and blocked/deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:25 PM
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“Strong women scare weak men”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:10 AM
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Certified Scrotationship right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:30 AM
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OP didn’t end up sleeping with her, but she messaged him later about meeting up again to “warm her up 😉.” I can smell her desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:21 PM
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I’m so sorry you experienced all that. I can’t imagine how terrified you must have been! We hear you and support you! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:29 AM
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^ exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:22 AM
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Walking dates refer to unpaid walks usually in a park or around town. Idk what walking date you’re referring to that requires tickets. I think activity dates are great! Museums, zoos, aquariums, art galleries, botanical gardens, etc. The issue isn’t walking ON the date, the issue is having something TO DO on the date. Walking around a park is for friends, walking around a museum gives you something to talk about! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:43 AM
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Girl, don’t even bother telling him to piss off—they KNOW what they’re doing. Just block & delete! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:50 PM
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PUA’s always say to wait a few days to message us women back. It’s honestly horrible advice because it shows they’re uninterested and didn’t enjoy the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 09:41 PM
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Nev Schulman and Laura Perlongo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:16 PM
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When I was with my last boyfriend, “C,” I felt so ugly. He picked on my appearance constantly. I would think, “I remember being so much prettier, what happened to me?” I thought about the boyfriend I had before C, “S,” who practically worshipped the ground I walked on. He was always so sweet and thought I was so beautiful. I was scrolling through old photos the other day and got to the era when I was dating S. I was really surprised to see that the way I looked back then was exactly the same as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:54 AM
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He was really jealous of Luke, though. He picked a fight over it and only proposed to Lorelai to keep her to himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:34 AM
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My Pisces boyfriend was the best I’ve ever had. My Scorpio “boyfriend” was a cheater. My Sagittarius “boyfriend” was sex-obsessed. My Aquarius boyfriend was emotionally abusive and tried raping me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:20 AM
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Always ignore anything that says “female” in it, unless it’s coming from a biology textbook or scientific article. Notice whoever wrote this uses “man” but not “woman”. They do this because “female” is dehumanizing—it makes us women become nothing more than some sort of feeling-less specimen. This language is intentional and always written by a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 02:28 PM
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You’re absolutely right. Any man who takes personal offense to what we have to say has something to be ashamed over. I would like to think that Reddit is filled with mostly LVM. I think there are more good men in the real world, but Reddit is inundated with incels, misogynists, and the like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:33 PM
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I’m so sorry for all the things you’ve had to endure. I wish that the men that were critical of this sub looked into WHY we’ve come together to create this space. Why aren’t they critical of their own gender instead of critical of us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 07:02 PM
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Do men not understand that we can never fully trust them? The man that sexually assaulted me was my FRIEND who I thought I could trust. My (now ex) BOYFRIEND tried RAPING ME! Twice! 99% of my guy friends have tried having sex with me. We are cautious/untrusting for a reason!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:18 PM
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You totally reminded me of a somewhat recent interaction I had on OLD! Hinge has prompts that you can answer to help show off your personality. A newer prompt they came out with is “What’s a social cause you care about?” I answered about how there’s a huge overpopulation problem with cats (especially strays) reproducing and how I’m all for TNR programs (trap, neuter, release) and want to foster kittens someday. A man liked this prompt and asked if I had fostered any yet. When I told him no but I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:12 PM
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This is what I did when I was going through my last break up. Write everything down and read it every time you’re tempted to contact him. Eventually there will be days where you don’t think of him at all and you’ll be totally over it. When you find that letter you wrote, you’ll be able to throw it away and it’ll feel SO good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:07 AM
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I’d comment “*your “ because I’m petty as fuck :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:31 AM
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This is something I’ve thought of too. I feel like I wouldn’t be able to trust my future partner if we met via OLD. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there are good apples, but the risk is what worries me. You’re not alone in this way of thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:39 PM
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I usually only swipe on Tinder out of boredom now. I swipe left 99% of the time. I screenshot profiles that I find ridiculous and send them to my friends. It can be entertaining, but it’s just too much garbage to sort through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:37 PM
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Personally, I would never ask for qualities in a man that I don’t have, myself. THAT is what’s fair and equal in a relationship. Women typically ask for bare minimum qualities, such as the qualities you’ve listed (assertive, well-groomed, independent, etc.), while men ask for too much and/or traits that are contradicting (i.e. kinky/good in bed, but virginal). I think society would really benefit from equivalent and fair exchanges in expected behaviors from romantic partners. We BOTH are indepen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:30 PM
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I went straight to a gastroenterologist because I was having intestinal issues (all the symptoms of IBS). The doctor (man) told me to eat more fiber and he’d have to do a colonoscopy 🤡 I automatically thought this guy was a total perv. Went to my primary care physician (woman) who made a really weird face when I told her what the gastroenterologist said. She agreed with me on my IBS while he said he wouldn’t know until he performed the colonoscopy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:45 AM
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Your last ex and mine were similar, except I was the one who was overweight and eating unhealthy and he was the fit one. Every time I tried to change my diet and start exercising, he had no interest in helping me, complained about the food I cooked us, and made fun of me for trying to go on walks. When I would give up, he’d go back to picking on my weight and food choices, and laughing that I didn’t continue my diet. About a year after I dumped him, I took control of my eating habits, cooked hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:14 AM
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Sex, gifts, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:50 PM
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Is there a way to talk to the leasing office? Sometimes if you tell them about any kind of abuse, they’ll make an exception and take you off the lease. Let them know you feel in danger, you’ve been abused, you’re moving out, and you were coerced into resigning the lease. It may be worth a shot! Good luck, girl! Stay safe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:29 AM
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Sarcastic/dark humor = ”I’m going to emotionally abuse you” “You’re intimidating!” = ”I’m not good enough or worthy of your time” “So why are you on here?” = ”I’m going to mirror what you say so I get a chance with you, fuck you, and never talk to you again” “Ladies, you’re not as hot as you think” = ”I’m insecure and ugly” “No, I won’t follow you on Instagram” = ”I’m bitter as fuck” “Just here for fun” = ”I have STD’s” “Let’s grab a drink!” = ”I’m low effort and don’t want to waste my money on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:24 PM
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I’m convinced that 99% of the men who complain about us haven’t read anything that’s been posted. None of what we do is “trickery.” They take the one or two things they’ve seen/heard of and spin it to suit their narrative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:15 PM
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You can also take him to court for custody of the animal. Happened to someone I know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:47 AM
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asks for an opinion gets angry when a woman voices their opinion ???? Don’t ask if you don’t want to know the answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 08:02 AM
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You can’t fall for the suckering in anymore. They do it because it works.. they have zero intention of changing their behaviors. For break up options, either: 1.) go to his place before you break up with him and collect your things. Downside is that you’ll have to act like everything is fine and he may ask why you’re gathering your belongings, so have an excuse ready. Upside is that you’re guaranteed to get all your belongings back with no risk to them being damaged and you’ll have a clean break…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:53 AM
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I found him really annoying—you’re not the only one. He could’ve asked you about your experiences there, but him mansplaining your choice to move back home was rude and unnecessary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 01:46 AM
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WHY WRITE A CHECK YOUR MOUTH CANT CASH I’m dead 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:04 AM
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I had a guy friend who bragged about how good he was. Things heated up between us (pre FDS, of course), and he gets to it and is literally pushing his upper jaw onto my vagina HARD while going down on me. It was so incredibly bad and painful! Because he wasn’t my boyfriend, I didn’t feel like I should be coaching him on how to do it. He stopped and I was so glad it was over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:05 PM
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The ones who brag are typically the WORST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:29 PM
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Something I like from hinge are the questions about drug, alcohol, nicotine, and marijuana use, as well as if they want kids or not. From Bumble, I like that you can fill out what kind of relationship you’re looking for (I.e. something casual, something serious). Although I like these features, we don’t often get access to filter out what we don’t want because we have to pay to do so. For example, if I want someone 5’10 and up who wants kids and doesn’t do drugs or smoke weed, I’d have to pay mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:14 AM
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My LVM ex and I’s relationship started like this.. lots of jokes and making fun of each other. His “jokes” weren’t jokes, though—he started “joking” with me that I was ugly and other horrible things. Any man that really loves you won’t make fun of you in this way—jokes will actually be funny without using each other as a punchline. Hope she wakes up soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:20 PM
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This isn’t a you problem, it’s a him problem! Live your best life and you’ll attract the right person :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:07 AM
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I remember crying to my LVM ex that I only felt close to him when we had sex. The only times he initiated telling me he loved me was during sex. The sex wasn’t even good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:11 AM
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Congrats on dropping the LVM and leveling up! You’re going to do great things! 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 11:19 PM
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Bootycall or wanting nudes. Block and delete! This guy made it clear he doesn’t want a relationship and there’s no point of keeping him around.. he’s not going to change his mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:26 AM
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Kelly from The Office... not sure about the libfem aspect but definitely a huge pickme!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:43 AM
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This is great advice! I have a few already but I’m definitely making at least one more for professional use only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:54 AM
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Great idea!! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 07:37 AM
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Small update: did a Google search on the name and there’s a man (same name!) about my age who goes to a local community college. I think this is most likely who it is. I can’t find him on social media, so he probably blocked me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:09 PM
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Wow, I didn’t realize this could be that big of a deal! Thank you for letting me know! I’ll definitely keep everyone posted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:07 PM
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I had some friends play the music video while we were together last weekend. I was horrified by the lyrics and most of the dancing. The only thing I liked about it were some of the outfits/rooms and the color schemes the producers/directors chose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:00 AM
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Look up your local laws too. For example, if you’re in California, it’s a two-party consent state. So both individuals need to consent to being recorded if you’re doing it on your phone. I would rely on security cameras, if possible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:59 PM
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I’m so, so sorry this happened to you. I can’t imagine how horrible this must make you feel. What he did is absolutely disgusting! Is there a way you can go above your manager and talk to someone higher up about this issue? The fact that your manager won’t take issues with this tenant seriously seems like a good enough reason to go over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:21 PM
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Take an online course through Coursera! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:49 AM
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So he’s well hung and breeds labs.. is he breeding with the labs? Like why did he feel the need to put those statements beside each other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:35 AM
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I had a little meltdown the last time I had a Pap smear. Literally cried on the table and the doctor felt so bad! She really tried to help but as someone who’s encountered sexual assault/attempted rape, it can be really hard to separate these feelings. Right there with you, girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:00 AM
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I think you should say something about keeping contact exclusive to work-related issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:56 AM
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I think his reasoning sounds pretty valid and shows he sticks with his commitments and has decent risk assessment skills. I think once you’re approaching your 30’s, you should have your own place. Personally, I’m still living at home because I graduated at 25 with my BS degree and my mom would rather I put my entire paycheck into my student loans to pay them off quicker than into rent. I think if the person has a valid reason for living at home/with roommates, it’s acceptable—but your standards …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 07:30 AM
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OH MY GOD. I resonate with this so much! I’ve danced since I was 7 (now 25), and almost every guy who has known me has sexualized me because of it. The first question always is “so are you flexible?” Like, yeah, actually I’m flexible enough to kick you square in the fucking face :) Even on dating apps, one of my photos is of me doing a leap and my bio mentions dance as a hobby... I’ve gotten questions like “can you do the splits on my dick?” And the “I love dancers 😍” So glad to have someone tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:29 AM
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I had a guy match me the other day just to insult me! In my bio, I wrote one sentence about how I love my cat more than anything. He messages me to tell me he hates my cat because it seems very antisocial of me??? Like why the fuck did you match me if you have a problem with me caring for another living creature? Bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:15 PM
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Same! My friends I made post-breakup saw him and told me how ugly he was and how I could do so much better! I thought I was so ugly because of the way he treated me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:44 PM
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LOL it’s okay! One commenter said Taurus, which is what I am 😂 I’m in this photo and I don’t like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:21 PM
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Aquarius! Emotionally abusive and emotionally unavailable 🙄 great combo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:39 PM
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I don’t unmatch because I don’t want them to go back in the deck and swipe right on them later when I forget who they are lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:33 PM
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Exactly! I wouldn’t care so much about this if we weren’t held to different standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:26 AM
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One of my doctors told me that by your third partner, you’re almost certain to get HPV. Idk if that’s true or not but she really freaked me out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:25 AM
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Preach, girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:02 PM
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Block his profile and his number. Same thing with the guy who just used you. Stop dating, get into therapy, and work on yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you other than your lack of self-respect.. which will be fixed in therapy. I totally understand what you’re going through. I was in a similar position myself about two years ago. I’ve been working on myself and feel better than I’ve felt in such a long time! I know you can do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:55 AM
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You’re getting too invested. You can’t know if he’s a HVM within two weeks. He backtracked when you questioned his “hang out” question because he could tell you weren’t into that. He hasn’t been overly sexual but he’s telling you that you have the sex appeal of a former stripper (and huge pick-me!)? I don’t think that’s a compliment. Date more men so you’re not too invested and work on seeing through men’s bullshit. You’ve got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:43 AM
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I absolutely LOVE them together! They’re both so sweet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:21 AM
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I just realized that your post title says you’re in the early stages of dating—sorry, I missed that! I definitely wouldn’t recommend a meal unless this was a committed relationship. Hope someone here has some good input for you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:38 AM
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Not sure if this goes against FDS principles, but if you don’t want to send him flowers, you could always send him a meal from GrubHub/Uber Eats/etc. My grandpa has been in the ICU with COVID and my friends have sent flowers and food, which was SO incredibly kind. It’s hard to care for yourself when you’re experiencing loss or are very concerned about loss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:37 AM
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Why on earth is he using LinkedIn to hit on you anyway? I absolutely cannot stand that men think it’s okay to use a professional site to meet women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:06 PM
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You don’t do anything. If he’s not responding on Bumble, you unmatch. He stopped putting in effort because he doesn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:54 AM
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This story made me think of that quote “men’s greatest fear in dating is getting laughed at; women’s greatest fear in dating is getting killed”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:42 PM
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I wAnT sOmEoNe CoNfIdEnT.... but you can’t be funny or have boundaries because I’m emotionally abusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:50 AM
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This is a reference from the show Tiger King
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:16 AM
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He needs to remember that, yes, if you’re paying for my expensive meal “out of the goodness of your heart,” I still don’t owe you sex in return. Doing things altruistically means NOT EXPECTING TO RECEIVE ANYTHING AFTER YOUR GOOD DEED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:54 AM
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And don’t worry about the cost of the gifts that you’ll be giving him—it’s about the sentiment behind the gift. Meaningful gifts are so much better and sweeter than something expensive and useless. You deserve to be treated nicely! It seems like this gift was very well thought out and I’m sure he’s so happy to pick it out and give it to you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:33 AM
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This would’ve been funny ONLY if he had actually made legitimate spaghetti and set it aside. It feels like a dad joke, but the “haha just kidding, here’s the actual spaghetti” part is essential
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:40 AM
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These are all really great accomplishments but....what is he going to talk about if he goes on a date? Like you have nothing interesting left to share with anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:24 AM
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Lol I was banned from one of the relationship subs for screenshotting a post and posting here. They hate us no matter what we do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:59 AM
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My last boyfriend used to constantly tell me I was ugly and pick on my weight. It made me feel so shitty about myself. I was feeling brave one day and looked him dead in the eye after another insult and said, “you know I have other options, right?” He was stunned! Couldn’t even figure out what to say. LVM hate when you’re confident—that’s why they emotionally abuse us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:57 PM
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The important thing is that you recognized what he was doing! It’s okay to make mistakes—we’re all here to learn and improve :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:27 AM
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What the ever loving fuck did I just read??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:20 AM
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It feels good to stick up for ourselves like this, but you’re doing exactly what he wants—taking the bait! Next time, don’t respond to the bullshit and block/delete. We don’t have time for these Scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:19 AM
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a wild misogynist appears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:42 AM
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Any man who chases after these kinds of women is automatically a LVM. Any man that doesn’t have self-respect has serious issues and needs therapy to resolve it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 11:50 AM
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1.) you’re getting too attached! Don’t put all your eggs in one basket because it almost always leads in disappointment 2.) be yourself! Don’t worry about if he’s going to like you or not. All you need to worry about is if you like him! 3.) be positive and don’t overshare Have fun :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:24 AM
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I feel like if you weren’t going to talk to him, you should’ve just gone alone. There’s nothing wrong with doing things alone! It feels empowering sometimes and you don’t exhaust yourself by being in the company of someone you don’t want to be around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:15 AM
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He sounds really inconsiderate. The fact that he keeps doing it shows that he really doesn’t care either. Personally, I couldn’t date someone like this. You should totally treat yourself to a spa day though, because you deserve it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:59 AM
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I understand how you feel because about a year and a half ago, I ended my emotionally abusive relationship with someone I really really loved. It took me so long to heal from all the damage he caused and I’m still a work in progress. If you can, go to therapy and work through this with a professional! Find hobbies, read books, try new things, exercise, learn something new! Focus on yourself right now and work on loving who you are. You’re going to get through this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:55 AM
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He’s like gold-digging but with his family lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:04 AM
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I joined this sub after I broke up with my abusive ex boyfriend. I’ve grown so much since joining this sub. I’ve loved both contributing to the conversation and learning from you ladies. I’m so sad and really going to miss this community :( Can’t believe we’re being viewed as “hateful misandrists” and being shut down for speaking against misogyny and questioning our current societal relationship expectations. Those of us here KNOW the truth—we want to help women discover that they deserve to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:52 AM
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Best Gift from a (seemingly) HVM: We were 22 and had been together for a year. He was so sweet and practically worshipped the ground I walked on. I mentioned once months ago that I wished I had diamond earrings to match my diamond necklace that my grandparents bought me as a graduation gift. He bought me the diamond earrings! I cried. He worked 2 part time jobs to make it happen. Even though we haven’t been together for years, I still wear those earrings on every special occasion. Worst Gift Fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:52 PM
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I was in a similar position as you about a week or two ago. My family friend told a guy about me, showed him my picture, and asked me if I was interested so he could give the guy my name. I saw a picture of him for five seconds and he looked cute so I said yes. The guy adds me, so I look through all his pictures and he’s so unattractive! I was hoping he wouldn’t message me and he never did :) Don’t message first because it’s on them to pursue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:18 PM
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When he said “men’s greatest fear is getting laughed at by women. Women’s greatest fear is getting killed by men” goosebumps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:02 PM
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lol i was his first real girlfriend, which is why I stuck around for so long, so unless you’re the rebound he’s been with since I broke up with him, I doubt it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:36 AM
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My ex hated the way I dressed, no matter what I wore. It was exhausting. If I wore something super casual and comfy, he’d give me a look and say “are you really going out like that?” But if I’d dress up more and look nice with some makeup, he’d be suspicious of me. Like WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME??? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:30 AM
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LOL @ the part where she says he’s bought her things cheaper than a 50 cent ring. What’s something you can actually buy that’s cheaper than 50 cents????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:52 AM
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What lawyer would defend him & take this case? I’m genuinely dumbfounded that he found legal representation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:47 AM
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I have an intestinal disorder and my first long term boyfriend was so loving about it and really pushed me to seek medical treatment, while the next (abusive) boyfriend mocked me for it, told me I was gross, and minimized my pain. Some of these men really don’t give a fuck about illnesses unless it’s their own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:45 AM
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While I understand what you’re saying, I think it’s important that she gets help. Sometimes it takes a lot of abuse as a pickme to hit rock bottom and find the strength to leave. Love blinds us. It’s easy for those of us who see beyond the fog to cast judgment, but we need to remember to be empathetic to those who need our help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:33 AM
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Post copied below: Link to post My boyfriend is in a massive strop with me because I brought up feeling manipulated into doing anal. (28f)(30m) Together 1 year. It’s a long story but, my boyfriend has always put a LOT of emphasis on me doing anal with him. To the point I think he’s obsessed with it. I don’t mind, I’ve done it before and actually enjoyed it, but the way he made me feel about the whole thing was a bit of a turn off. He used to be extremely degrading while we were doing it which I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:06 AM
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Do you have the option to go to university? I took out loans by myself (with a co-signer), moved several hours away, and had access to on-campus resources like therapy. I know it’s scary to make a big step like this, but I really believe getting an education, moving away, and seeking therapy will be a huge step in your level up strategy! My parents didn’t go to university, so I had to figure most things out myself, so if this is something you want to do but don’t know how, feel free to send me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:03 PM
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It’s funny because one of my standards is dating a guy who could pick me up. My line of thinking is if something happens to me (there’s a fire in my house and I pass out), I need the guy to be able to carry me to safety. Totally reasonable. Unfortunately, when a man says he wants someone he can pick up and toss around, you have to question their motives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:07 AM
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You can report profiles without matching on different dating apps. Just send a report (or even email) saying that he’s been harassing you. The app may be able to permanently block him from making accounts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:13 AM
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I feel the same way! Even at my university, I only made friends who were in my orgs, who lived with me, or in my study abroad classes. I feel like it’s so hard to meet people here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:56 PM
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I can understand how you may need to compromise some cleaning standards.. this girl is SO clean (even cleaner than I am, and I’m pretty damn clean).. but this guy is fucking disgusting! No (unwashed) dick is worth getting an infection for. This is indicative of a societal problem though.. WHY ARE MEN NOT TAUGHT TO CLEAN?? My mom only has me help her clean the house. My brother sometimes does the dishes and takes out the trash weekly, but that’s it! My ex and I’s old roommate used to clean our sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:17 PM
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Definitely didn’t deserve one lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:20 AM
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Ew bye lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:57 AM
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Be careful if you’re a disabled single mother, too! I used to work with a man at an after school program who was just really creepy towards kids—specifically the boys (a bit too touchy, had his hands in his pockets all the time). He ended up dating a woman who was confined to a wheelchair who had a son. Disgusting. I wouldn’t say don’t date as a disabled woman, but just be EXTRA mindful of who you’re bringing into your home and watch out for anything suspicious. I think this is where Advice numb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:58 PM
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You can always text him that you’d prefer to chat in person so you guys have more to talk about when you see each other next. I hate to play devil’s advocate here but guys are given some pretty bad dating advice, so he may not really know about the “no texting between dates” thing. I say, you should know by date three if you’re feeling him or not (or if he listens to your request of not texting). Totally up to you what you want to do! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:07 AM
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ALWAYS trust your gut! This guy is super insecure. If you end up dating him, you will spend so much time either trying to “fix” him or constantly apologizing—very energy draining! We need men to be fully put together in order to date them! Send him back to the factory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:58 AM
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link FULL TEXT BELOW: ——————————————————— Are women aware how men are REALLY sexually attracted to them? TW: If you are sensitive/disturbed about sexuality topics then please close this page. From time to time, I read posts on here from women expressing their insecurities and how it makes them super self-conscious about getting involved or intimate with men. Yes, you have a valid concern and you should sort it out yourself but if you think guys will reject you just because of that then think aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 07:44 AM
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Full text below: My (21F) bf (34M) justifies his reasoning capabilities by stating that he was a TA for a logic class, invalidating any criticism I make of him Last night during sex he tried (with my full consent and approval) to slap me in the face. It was the first time we were trying it, and we were watching a porno alongside, mimicking their acts/techniques. He ended up slapping three times, each time being too hard for me but I didn’t really stop him(only kind of grabbed his arm to restrain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 06:06 PM
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He killed a girl I grew up with. I hate when people post about him. Disgusting that people glorify him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:35 PM
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You may have some options: Study Abroad, join some hobby/activity groups, student orgs, things like that! Or it may be worth waiting until you graduate and move. If your friends are calling you “prude” and pressuring you... they’re not your friends. Find some new people to hang out with that aren’t complete assholes :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:34 AM
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I think age gaps lose the “weirdness” the older you are. 40’s to 50’s and 50’s to 60’s are totally no big deal. 20’s to 30’s and late teens to late 20’s are a no-no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:14 AM
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Thanks for including these awesome statistics! It’s definitely important to note that, while it’s common, it doesn’t mean the relationship is a good one! Thanks for the sources!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:47 AM
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Just like them calling us “slut” when there’s no male equivalent for doing the same thing 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:43 AM
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Some commenters were saying they’d be fine dating someone much younger as long as they’re in the same stage of life as themselves (independent, working, etc.). I still think it’s gross and strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:33 AM
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Because it doesn’t favor them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:31 AM
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Full text below: “30 something men who date 20 something women aren't 'predators'.. they're normal Age gaps of 8 or even 12 years are actually fairly common between men in their mid 30s and women in their mid 20s. And the controversy around it never comes from those in the relationships themselves, as those in the relationships know why they are in them and want to be in them. And before you say 'a 22-25 year old woman doesn't know that she's being manipulated' or some such nonsense, just consid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:47 AM
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The comment section gets significantly worse. Tons of Scrotes and incels saying things like how we’re more likely to cheat because we have so many options, we’re all misandrists, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:42 AM
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I think they just have different ways of expressing these red flags. I feel you, though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 11:06 PM
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I’m the exact same way! Ultimately, you’re attracted to who you’re attracted to! As long as they’re HVM and treat you the way you deserve, date whoever! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:39 PM
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Is this a shitpost? This can’t be real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:22 AM
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So, what do you mean when you say he “asked you out”? Did he ask you out on a date or to be his girlfriend? If he asked you on a date, it’s no big deal to be using dating apps. You aren’t exclusive and should have your options open. If he asked you to be his girlfriend, it would be wrong to use dating apps behind his back, as you’d be exclusive. If you agreed to be his girlfriend but you don’t feel ready, you need to talk with him and let him know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:42 AM
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This was posted in another sub! Thankfully wasn’t sent to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:47 PM
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First off, posting on most dating subs (other than FDS) will get you biased advice from men and pickme’s which is counterintuitive to any advice we give. From personal experience, if he makes excuses like “I like you, but...[insert excuse],” it means he’s not that into you. If he really was into you, he’d do anything to make it work. I had a guy friend who I really liked and he told me he liked me, but he was a “free spirit” and didn’t want to be in a relationship. After a year or so of me pinin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 08:03 AM
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Totally. When we complain about men, we’re talking about a specific subgroup: LVM/NVM, rapists, abusers, and the like. When men complain about women, they’re talking about how much they hate our entire gender, yet, beg to be fucked by us. You can’t have it both ways!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:25 AM
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LOL literally just had a MGTOW male lurker private message me to say that men are harmed by women because they get “MeToo-ed” Scrotes getting triggered 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:59 AM
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Hahahaha this is incredible!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:38 AM
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I had a classmate from elementary to high school who was killed in a mass shooting by an incel. Women don’t pose a threat to men, physically or systematically. That’s what they don’t understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:34 AM
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Yes, absolutely! I saw a post on another sub about how this guy wanted to buy a girl he met in a club a drink, so they go to the bar and she orders expensive drinks for all her friends and expected him to pay for it. THAT’S what gives us a bad rep! He was interested, so he wanted to pay for her drink, but she got greedy and ended up with the bill for the drinks she ordered. I totally approve of him leaving her with the bill in that scenario! It’s definitely justified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:27 AM
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Lol it isn’t even a “he”! She’s a woman posing as a man. I looked at her profile and she’s posing naked on NSFW subs. She’s just the ultimate pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:17 AM
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I struggle with this too, so you’re definitely not alone. When it comes down to it, if a man has the means to take care of me, I’m going to let him! If he wants the benefits of my company, he has to be willing to provide something in return (I.e dinner). If he doesn’t pay/wants to split, he’s just a friend and doesn’t deserve your romantic interest. Plus, if you’re getting the vibe that your date will expect something in return, you probably shouldn’t be dating them and that’s your cue to block …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:56 AM
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mEn WhO cAn’T fRoNt ThE bIlL sHoUlDn’T bE iN rElAtIoNsHiPs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:09 PM
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LVM can’t comprehend the physical/emotional labor we endure because they don’t/can’t do what we do. If it’s not monetary, it doesn’t count in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:07 PM
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I don’t think you need to have a response ready other than to go ahead and split it. Him asking you to do that already shows how he’d treat you in the future. That’s how you know not to waste your time with him further
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:03 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:02 PM
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He’s not good looking enough to have this many requirements
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:26 PM
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I think men and women show it in different ways. At the extremes, women play the “cool girl”/pickme role to get male attention, while men become incels because of entitlement. While both care about validation, women are looking for love while men are looking to get laid. Both ways are problematic, but I think the extreme with men is obviously more detrimental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:39 PM
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If they follow only/mostly women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:04 AM
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Hate to be the devil’s advocate over here, but you have to understand that these people being catfished 100% think the person they’re talking to is real. It only becomes actualized when they see who it really is face-to-face. Personally, if I was in that situation, I’d be absolutely pissed if I had been lied to like that too. You grow to trust this person and they’ve completely betrayed you. It doesn’t matter if the person ends up being good looking.. if it’s not the same person in the picture, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:01 AM
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I’d love to know what on earth these Scrotes eat when they’re single & living alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:58 AM
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Isn’t Blue Apron a service that provides the ingredients and you COOK the meal??? I bet this guy has never cooked in his life. Claiming she’s lazy but he won’t do anything about it. Make a PB&J or put a pizza in the oven if you don’t like the food.. it’s not a big deal 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:43 AM
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This is exactly how my last boyfriend treated me. He’d even go so far as to rip his hand away from mine if i tried to hold it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:50 AM
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Get Pinterest and start looking at Business fashion or other work-appropriate clothes! Target carries some pretty decent and affordable options for work wear :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:16 AM
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Separate bank accounts for life!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:02 PM
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Totally agree with you! Honestly, I think she posted this as more of a joke/to get a rise out of people. I’m so pleased to see so many women supporting her! Men just love to find a reason to be mad at us for the hell of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:20 AM
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?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 10:06 AM
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You are totally valid in the way you feel. I’m so upset for you for how your mom spoke to you—you opened up to her and she used it against you. Take a breather from your mom and clear your head a bit. For my safety, I have a stun gun that looks like a flashlight that I keep with me. It’s easy to use and will absolutely fuck someone up if they come at me. Just make sure you know how to use it and be careful with it so you don’t accidentally shock yourself. Here is the link to it on Amazon. You ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:05 PM
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Ariana’s white though? I don’t think she’s trying to target WOC, I think she’s really just talking about relevant artists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:36 PM
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Maybe some unethical advice here but pretend to be deaf??? Throw some hand gestures up and they’ll give up. (Just want to clarify that I’m a huge supporter of the Deaf community and this is not meant to offend anyone!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 08:56 AM
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Several months ago, I was talking with a man who was a friend from high school that moved to the other side of the country. We had talked about me coming to visit him and possibly dating. He was very religious and volunteered to run a youth ministry in his church. Although I don’t really hold religious beliefs, I really liked that he wanted to serve others and he seemed pretty high value. A few months pass, we’re messaging one night and he says that if I came to visit him while he had a girlfrie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:07 AM
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I finally made a solid group of friends at university! I started losing weight (which he constantly complained about, but refused to help me make it happen). I got an incredible position at a research lab at school. I studied abroad for a second time. I found a mentor. I tried new things that I never would have tried before. I reinstated my high standards and set solid boundaries. Everything has been so much better since I dumped his ass! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:50 AM
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I’m going through the same thing as you. These past three years have been really hard on my self-esteem for many reasons. I’m finally starting to try to put an effort into improving myself and my life! I’m sick of feeling like a prisoner in my body, so yesterday, I started counting my calories and eating healthy meals to get my weight to where I want it. I also convinced my mom to join me so we can hold each other accountable! I’m going to prepare a workout regimen to get my strength back up to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:45 AM
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I totally empathize with you, girl. Told my ex about the guy who sexually assaulted me as a teenager. My ex later tried to rape me twice during our relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 09:49 AM
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Right?! Incestuous, much? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:06 AM
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I’m a little disappointed in myself because I’m usually very good at that, but I took the bait today :( Next time, I’ll do better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:51 AM
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I love how he’s getting so angry in his replies. Why bother posting if you can’t take any criticism? Don’t ask a question if you don’t want to know the answer 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:50 PM
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Dean was so jealous and emotionally manipulative though. Never mind the fact that he cheated on Lindsey with Rory. Absolute LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 06:03 PM
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I know a man I used to work with when I was employed by a school district who dated single moms. I think it really depends on the man, honestly. This guy was highkey a predator, which is even more sickening that he worked with youth. He dated moms with disabilities who had children, so......... I can’t see why a young man would want to date a single mom, it’s a lot to handle for someone who’s immature. If single moms are a large portion of the dating pool at that age and he is ready to be a pare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:06 AM
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Love that the dog is licking his greasy ass head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:40 AM
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He was actually handsome and had more of a “hipster” vibe to him. I’m sure he has no problems in real life getting women (to sleep with him lol). Luckily for me, he displays his sexual deviance loudly enough to where I know to swipe left and don’t waste my time with some sleazy perv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:05 PM
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My now ex didn’t post a photo of me until maybe the 8th month we were together after his friends (a couple) asked why he never posted photos of me. I broke up with him about two months later. He was emotionally abusive and always picked on my appearance. I know he never posted photos of me because he was embarrassed of me. He found someone new after we had been apart for two months (but still sleeping together) and posted photos of her ALL THE TIME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:14 PM
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This is exactly like my last relationship. You’re not alone, girl! HVM would never treat us that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:01 AM
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I stopped reading about halfway because I think this could’ve been handled better. While I don’t agree that he was right in being so vocal about his distaste for your hometown, you allowed him to bother you and got on his level. Everyone is entitled to have an opinion, but the way you engage with those who have differing opinions speaks to your character. I think it would’ve been better to say something like “I’m sorry you feel that way about NYC. I love my hometown and I’m proud of where I’m fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:42 AM
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Men usually like to spend money on women, but the magnitude of these gifts is, personally, a little much for me. It’s one thing if you guys have been officially together for a little while, but the relationship hasn’t really been defined yet. If I were in your shoes, I would thank him for the gesture but decline. The worst thing would be if he ends up being a LVM and expects you to repay him for these extravagant gifts or uses it against you in some way if things go south. The smaller gestures, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:32 AM
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There’s actually a scientific study that was done about people’s preferences when it comes to attractiveness—Those with more symmetrical and “average” faces were found more attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:55 AM
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His outward disdain for that certain type of woman is a “no” for me. Just like another commenter said, everyone has a past and it depends on what mental state he is in and how he outwardly expresses that. I would’ve potentially considered him, up until you stated how he spoke about that specific type of woman. But that’s just my opinion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 06:23 AM
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I usually switch out “value” for “quality.” My gal pals understand :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:57 AM
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ISFJ-T!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:32 AM
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I opened up to my now ex about how I had been sexually assaulted as a teenager.. this ex then tried raping me twice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:32 PM
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This looks like a place where your dog is supposed to give birth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:12 AM
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