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thedarkaquarian007/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 09:34 PM
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The very first thing to do is hire a lawyer and secure your assets.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 12:06 PM
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Yes, have sex with other women.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 12:45 AM
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mediation is the best course of action. Politely explain to her that you want out of the marriage and hope she will understand.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 09:07 PM
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In North Carolina, partners have to be legally separated for one year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/22 01:57 AM
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I believe in second chances; however there are too many other problems and both parties aren't committed to solving them Once the trust is gone. The marriage is dead.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 12:13 AM
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I believe you two should " rip off the bandage". She deserves to be with someone more loyal to her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 08:17 PM
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No! You should have gotten the PFA already. You cannot allow exes to do these things.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 02:32 AM
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Get a restraining order immediately. When a spouse or any of her family members harasses you, get a restraining order.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 04:07 PM
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An annulment should be the best option for your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 06:27 PM
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in your state, a judge can look at your adulterous behavior when deciding the amount, duration, and form of alimony payments one former spouse must make to the other. So in theory, you can end up paying more alimony and having to surrender more marital assets based on your cheating and the decretion of the judge. Not to mention, half of your retirement. Even worst, this could permanently damage your relationship with your children. What about your estate? are you going to leave anything to your …
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 02:43 AM
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Yes, financially this could be your get-out-of-jail-free card. Hire a lawyer and collect as much evidence as possible. P.S. substance abusers have a high infidelity rate.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 12:50 AM
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Hard evidence that the allegations made against you are false.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 03:29 PM
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Yes, you could be arrested as soon as you returned. If it's not permanent alimony, i suggest you pay it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 09:05 PM
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You have been psychologically enslaved. Brainwashed into believing that an emotionally and Psychologically abusive marriage is normal. First, you need to realize that you are in an abusive marriage, afterward, you need to speak to a divorce attorney and plan your escape. An attorney will assist you in getting out of the marriage with minimal financial damage. You can stay and suffer until she cheats on you and blames you for it before moving in with her new boyfriend and alienating your children…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 09:14 PM
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Women initiate 80% of divorce so her ego may be bruised. Also, she will feel you are abandoning the child because you refuse to take her abuse Like a real "man".
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:24 AM
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He is divorcing his wife..not his child. If the relationship is toxic..he should leave, period. He should not remain in an abusive marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:12 AM
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What was her reaction and response after you left?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 02:10 AM
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She "leans on you more than ever?" Google. Narcissistic personality disorder and Hoovering". She trying to suck you back into her toxic relationship like a vacuum cleaner. If you do not have children. tell her to Fuck Off and seek counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 03:42 AM
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Google, borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder. Your wife is showing signs of either one or both. Of course, i am not a shrink. Also, implement the 180 and gray rock methods whenever she becomes vicious.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 01:14 PM
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Go on youtube and search "living the van life." This content creator lives in a 4WD off-road capable sprinter van and driving it to the arctic circle. Northern Canada.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 04:33 PM
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Wow, How times have changed😕. Suppose he quit his job and moved to another state with her. Maybe he should contact his former employer and move back. Lawyers aren't cheap, and she is cutting him off financially.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 05:13 PM
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Does she realize that she can end up paying alimony? which is probably why she wants to cut you out of her account.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 01:35 AM
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Yes, the system is designed to keep men trapped in toxic marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 03:32 PM
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Read Rollo tomassi, the rational male, on amazon.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 01:10 PM
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You never worked in Corporate America. Most companies have professional conduct policies. If you sleep with a co-worker, spouse, that is grounds for termination. Also, you keep your personal and professional separate.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 07:00 PM
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To screw a co-worker's wife? That is sociopathic behavior. And yes, he is holding his wife accountable by divorcing her. If he lacks the moral compass to sleep with a Co-workers wife. Can pretend to be his friend while banging his wife. He can commit fraud, embezzalment, and other abuses. Furthermore, what he has now is a hostile work environment.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 06:56 PM
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Because the co-worker who screwed his wife needs to be held accountable.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 02:30 PM
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That was meant as a joke...do not for the love of Christ; kill your ex. 🤣🤣🤣 I forgot that there are crazy people online.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 01:24 PM
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Hire an assassin to kill her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 12:57 AM
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The point is to recognize the warning signs of a manipulative, abusive, or toxic person and take steps to avoid or protect yourself from them.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 03:08 AM
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Disrespecting your mom is a dealbreaker for me—Google narcissistic personality disorder. Your wife may be one. 1st you must carefully plan your escape. Collect all evidence of her abuse hires an attorney. Use the gray rock and 180 methods when she becomes abusive. Play nice with your spouse. Don't piss her off. Hire a lawyer. They will guide you through the process. You want to blindside her with divorce and take whatever legal action is needed to prevent her from taking the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 02:09 AM
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Good, as a precaution record all interactions with her. She may become desperate.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 02:25 AM
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She is in denial. She somehow believes that either she will convince you to reconcile, or the court will award her a large enough settlement that she will be able to afford such a property. Any guns in the house? If so, you better get a ride of them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 01:53 AM
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These traits are narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and other toxic manipulative behavior. ASPD..etc
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:07 PM
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You are viewing things by the wrong lens. Most cheaters male and female are narcissistic. You should look at personality traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:38 PM
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So? Your wife sees you as an adversary to be defeated. Not a companion or teammate. First thing is that I would make sure she is not having an affair. a spouse is trying to demean you or tear you down? that is a sign of narcissism. Either way, you need to plan your exit from the marriage, she doesn't love you, a wife who loves her husband will be proud of her husband. She doesn't have to work. You financially take care of her as if she is a child. And it cost more to feed and clothes her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 06:04 AM
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Ohh. I forgot to mention. Speak to a lawyer before deciding to move out. It may best be in your best interest to remain in the home.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 02:56 AM
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It is important to speak to a lawyer and plan your escape. Your wife may try to alienate you from your child, may slander you to friends and close relatives etc. Generally speaking, experienced family law attorneys know how to pre-empt these things.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 12:37 AM
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Get off dating apps. Look within your social circle for a boyfriend. Too many crazy people and other weirdos on dating apps.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 12:08 AM
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You will have to plan your escape before you have her served. First thing is to look for a place to stay. If possible, move out while she is at work. As for the mortgage, see if you can apply for a deferment. Find a good attorney, they will help you create an escape plan. Also, give advice on dealing with your wife's behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 12:01 AM
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1) speak to a lawyer ASAP. methodically plan your escape. your attorney will guide you through the process. and help you formulate your escape. and put you in the best position for joint custody etc. 2) get individual counselling.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/22 02:38 AM
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Alabama is one of the few states that limits alimony to 5 years. Unless the couple has been married for more than 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 10:34 PM
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You are doing a great job given the circumstances. Your goal should be an amicable divorce. However, be prepared to fight back if necessary. Please buy some audio and video recording devices. S.C. law allows you to record your interactions with her. She may use the "play dirty" strategy against you so be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 12:41 PM
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Well now that we established that she's crazy. 1) . Are there any guns in the house? Get control or get rid of them. 2) is there any relative or close friend that has your back? Time to get in contact with them 3) buy video and an audio recorder and record all interaction with her. Find another place to stay. Play dirty Strategy; Provoke her into being violent. And record her assaulting you. Afterwards, call the cops have her arrested, and get a restraining order..lol.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 11:52 PM
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The first thing you need to do is speak to a lawyer without your wife's knowledge. With your attorney, methodically plan your exit from the marriage. Separation agreement etc. In S.C. you have to be separated for 1 year before the divorce is final. Have the papers drawn up and served without warning. Do you have proof of infidelity? S.C. is an at-fault state and could affect your spouse able to receive alimony. . Also, if you can prove emotional and physical abuse, this may help your case.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 06:18 PM
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Consult an attorney, find out how a divorce will look like for you. And start planning the divorce process. Child custody, division of assets etc.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 01:54 PM
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Could that be used to ban paternity fraud? And common law marriages?
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 04:18 PM
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Lol..if you're going to be rude I am going to call you out. That is what men do. Also, you were the one who seemed to be offended by my crass language. Yet you want to lecture me on sensitivity. And yes, I encountered manipulative and toxic people. in corporate America, relationships, and I have many deceitful relatives who I cannot trust. This is why I know how to handle them. Merry Christmas 🎄
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 06:21 PM
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What? First of all, most of the women I date have high body counts. Some were bisexual! However if she is lying, she should be called out because she is trying to get some sucker to commit to her. Whom she is going to exploit and discard. Now stop your childish name-calling and enjoy your Christmas! BTW ..I Am Not white, So stop with the racial slurs!
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 05:34 PM
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OMG. Drop everything and leave. Go zero contact with her. My dad abandoned me when I was five years old . My mom was abusive and even shot at him nearly killing him. There are some situation that is out of your control. She had you kicked out of your house. Left you homeless. having to buy a car so you can have a roof over your head? 1) Go zero contact. 2 find work and a place of your own to stay. 3. Start planning a new life. Go back to school, study I.T. automotive mechanics or some other trad…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 01:55 PM
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She has been with more than four guys. Likely I double digits. She also has likely had lots of one night's stands. I hate women who lie about their body counts. If you fucked hundreds of men, say you fucked hundreds of men.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 12:36 PM
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Ok, then hire a lawyer, find out how a divorce will look for you. Plan your exit and file.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 10:50 PM
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You will have to hire a lawyer. I'm sorry. It is sad to see a couple who had been married this long divorce. Please, find a very good marriage counsellor and give it a shot. 😕😕😕😕
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 04:09 AM
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I do not believe she will see a dime.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 03:11 AM
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Methodically carry out whatever escape plan you and your attorney have crafted. close to joint accounts, securing another place to live. collecting all financial documents etc. that it is expected that a man remains in an abusive marriage. Western societies encourage women to leave abusive marriages. And men? try harder: get counselling, it is not in the best interest of the kids. Do you see the double standard? Our governments spend millions of dollars on battered women shelters, counselling, p…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 02:12 AM
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get a court order from a judge. If, not Take him to your parents and dare her to come to take him from you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 03:06 AM
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....lol..lol. Grammarly sucks! Ok?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 06:41 PM
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No, I did not copy it from another post and I spent hours writing this post. I purposely made it gender-neutral so it wouldn't be banned on surviving infidelity. However, it was the betrayed husbands that inspired me to write this post.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 04:58 PM
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Thanks, I will look into it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 11:03 PM
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Agreed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 01:19 AM
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I did, they won't respond to my message.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/21 12:54 AM
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You go on a dating app. And start meeting women. Also, do a complete 180 and grey rock.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 04:03 AM
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It's not women! Its personality disorders. Study narcissism, psychopathy, and antisocial personality disorder. There are many context creators on youtube who are diagnosed as narcissists, I am watching a video of an Australian beauty queen who has ASPD. Her name is Kamika Batra. Also, a context creator goes by the name cluster b milkshake. On youtube is another person would recommend. You are prey to them. They are seeking you out. That's why you keep getting into toxic relationships.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 02:12 AM
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If you live in the southeast. Look into buying a modular home. Not a trailer. But modular home. Clayton homes sell them. So, look for a lot of lands. Consult a builder. In most southern cities, you can find lots in nice areas for around 50k and a modular home for 100-150k at most installed. You can save 50 to 100k. Also, modular homes appreciate, unlike trailers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/21 02:38 AM
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Ex-wife a radical feminist. Next time you meet her. Wear a MAGA shirt and trump hat to piss her off...lol...lol. I would to see her reactions.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/21 02:31 AM
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No, stand your ground and do not allow her to bully you!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/21 02:47 PM
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Hire an attorney, and file for divorce get an order to have the child remain in your city. Act now before it's too late. Take time off from work and take action now. You should have done this already.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 04:12 PM
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If you get married in the state of California without an airtight prenup, and you are the breadwinner you are fucked! Period! Get a lawyer! Now. 1, record all interactions with your wife.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/21 08:26 PM
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Mspy Spyiene These are two spyware app that you can purchase online and download the app into her iPhone without access to her phone. It will recover all deleted texts photos etc. Also, it well allows access to anything on her phone. You can even listen to any conversations.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/21 01:46 PM
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Ok, contact a good IT guy. There's a lot of them in Asia... If legal in Asia, download spyware onto her phone. If she has an iPhone, you may not need physical access to her phone.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/21 12:42 AM
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Ok; your wife is no longer the person you married. She is now your enemy and you need to treat her as such. Lawyer up now! She want you to "live in limbo" because it gives her time to screw you over. She "may not want a divorce? Wants to be separated for a while? Sound like manipulation. Is she having an affair? Have you looked into that? Is she communicating with some guy in Canada? Or Asia? Either way, she is planning her escape from the marriage and has totally checked out. You do not take a …
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/21 04:06 AM
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If you are living overseas, then you may be outside of Ontario jurisdictions. My advice is to contact 2 attorneys Local attorney in the country you live in, and an Ontario attorney. Something you should have done already. If you have children, be prepared for custody. File in the jurisdiction that favours you. Also, be the first to file for divorce. Do not allow her to move back to Canada and file.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/21 12:57 AM
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My thought exactly! Hard consequences is how you deal with cheaters. Blow up her/ his world.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/21 04:29 PM
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No, she will only blame shift. And go underground with her affair. She is cheating on you! I know this sounds counterintuitive. However, Hire a lawyer, file for divorce. Leave a small window open for reconciliation. However, she must fight like hell to regain your trust. Listen! It does not matter how long you've been married, how many kids you have, how hard you worked etc. etc. Modern women reserve the right to leave you with or without cause. They also reserve the right to seek out more desia…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/21 01:13 PM
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Im sorry, you have to deal with your ex first before getting into a new relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/21 09:06 PM
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The best way to split is to hire an attorney. Not only will a good experience lawyer show you what a divorce will look like for you. He will advise you on how to tell your wife you want a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/21 01:09 PM
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I'm not saying get into another relationship or sleep around. However, he needs to get out and socialize. Nothing helps a man's confidence more than knowing other women finds him attractive.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 01:15 PM
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I forgot to mention that I would not suggest that O.P. does anything vindictive. He should not do anything he is uncomfortable with or could make things more unpleasant for him in family court. However, given my temperament; that is how o would have likely reacted. Lol..take the high road O.P.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 04:52 AM
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Go to function and pretend? No way! Om to the type of person who will go there simply to embarrass her?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 04:09 AM
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Tell her No! And start emotionally detaching yourself from her. Also, show through your actions that you are moving on. Hit the gym, get counselling, start looking out for yourself and as soon as legally possible start meeting other women.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 03:31 AM
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Stop talking to her. Consult an attorney, find out how a divorce will look like for you and file. Let your actions do the talking
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/21 03:26 AM
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Listen your wife is likely cheating on you. No one abruptly wants a divorce. Hire a lawyer and make the divorce ugly for her. Then offer mediation. Right, when you are finishing school and is planning to become more financial she springs this on you? She is not the woman you married, she necer were, instead she deceive you into believing otherwise. Guys; when ever a woman brings up divorce. Say ok; i will hire a lawyer. Walk away and do exactly that hire a lawyer and file! Sleep in the other roo…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/21 11:45 PM
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If she cheated on you during the marriage?... If yes,... divorce! Don't be a fool! 90% of cheaters will cheat again! Does she have a substance abuse problem? Yes? Than divorce! Men need to stop complicating their lives.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/21 12:31 AM
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Your wife is a narcissist. Google it. Research it on youtube. There are two content creators that has NPD and talk about living with it and how they manipulate others. Lee hammond. Mental healness on youtube and TikTok And cluster b milkshake; she is a diagnosed narcissist And she talks about how she developed NPD. And how she cheated on her husband and manipulated others mostly men. Divorce is your only option with her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 10:13 PM
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BOOM! ....LOL...Your wife is a narcissist! They lack empathy but fear shame. She is trying to be the victim. Tell your close friends that she is not at all interested in reconciliation. Has not shown any remorse toward me because she doesn't have any. Cut contact with anyone who sides with her. And File for divorce! It is over! Cover your ass because she may try to have you arrested, and could try to slander you behind your back. Go no contact her as soon as possible. Or minimal contact since yo…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 08:54 PM
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Wow! So she is not trying to reconcile? No remorse for her actions? My advice is to cover your ass, record all interactions with her. By a couple of hidden cameras and audio recorders. She is not the person you thought she was. Personally, and I am not advising you to do this. I would have revenge cheated of her with multiple women, I would have inflicted as much emotional pain as possible. Would have treated her like absolute shit. I would have been extremely vindictive / emotionally abusive to…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 07:05 PM
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Collect as much evidence of the a.p. drug abuse history to strengthen your case. I case your stbxw becomes hostile.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 06:26 PM
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Most states are moving away from lifetime alimony. Except for California of course.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 06:13 PM
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Ok! Honestly these are the deal breaker in regards to men divorcing their wives. Infidelity, drug/alcohol abuse, serious mental illness, Emotional/psychological abuse and the lack of empathy. If your wife is not doing the things listed above. then I would suggest marriage counselling. If she refuses marriage counselling or wants to change marriage counsellor because he/she did not take her side or held her accountable to her role in the decline of the marriage. Then I would file for divorce beca…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 06:11 PM
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Adulty play no role in the financial aspect of a divorce in the state of Ohio. However, it can affect child custody if Paramore has skeletons in the closet. Find out who the a.p. is. More importantly, if that person has a criminal record or other skeletons in the closet, then it may help your case regarding child custody. This may help your case further. Personally, if I lived in a no fault, and my wife cheats on me. I would cheat on her back. There have to be consequences for infidelity and mos…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:07 PM
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Even you are willing to split everything 50/50, still seek legal counsel. Mediation attorneys are far less expensive.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 12:40 AM
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He is around the age where he can choose which parents to live with. I would look into having him stay with you full time on the grounds of emotional abuse. She may then have to pay child support.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 03:17 AM
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From what I have read. She may have gained a lot of weight. Neglected her appearance or became emotionally distant.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 02:33 AM
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Now sir. A lot of people are encouraging you to leave, however, I disagree. Some mens unhappiness tends to come from issues unrelated to their wife. Often depression or other issues. As a result, they may blame their wife even though she has not done anything to cause his unhappiness. Since you admitted she is a good person. I strongly urge you to consider individual counselling. As for the men telling you to leave. If she is not abusive, unfaithful, insane or abusing drugs etc. I suggest workin…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 02:00 AM
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It's time to get the cops to involve...does she have a history of violence? File and restraining order. Document and record all incident and file a restraining order
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/21 09:06 PM
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Ok, the best thing to do is divorce her before you receive the inheritance. Also, speak to an esrate attorney. Maybe a trust could protect your inheritance.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/21 01:58 AM
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Most men make that mistake. It's our culture.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/21 02:17 AM
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Do Not sign anything! Take control! hire a lawyer! Hire a lawyer! Hire a lawyer!
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/21 12:47 AM
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You had enough. Normally I would say work things out, go to counselling unless infidelity is involved. However, you do not have children, probaly you won't have to pay alimony. I see a get out of jail free card here. Lofe is too short and you have dealt with this for ten years.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/21 02:04 AM
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Do not put women on a pedestal. Many of them can be every bit as toxic, emotionally abusive even violent as men.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/21 01:52 AM
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LMAO...You have to show through your actions that you are willing to move on. My..well ...your... biggest fear is that she may try to get you arrested. Be careful with her. No physical contact, do not speak to her. Move into and sleep in another room. Also, get those hidden camera and voice recorders. Best buy, the target may have them. She is your enemy now. Treat her as such. Record only your interactions with her. Anything else may be illegal.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 02:19 AM
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It is all ready an all-out war. Google sign of narcissism. Search it on youtube.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 12:04 AM
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Yep! She is demonizing you. Time to get out. Also, do not rely on your phone. Buy hidden cameras, there are USB adapters, and ink pen cameras etc. Start separating your finances Do a hard 180. Do not talk to her. Go out with your buddies this weekend. Meet women but do not cheat!
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/21 12:03 AM
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Do Not Move Out! Dont do it unless you consult an attorney first. Assume she has sought legal concil with out your knowledge. Ok; an engineer who has the potential to earn 6 figures but refused to work. Red flag number 1. She wants you to move out and has been cold and distant I assume. Red flag #2 I strongly suspect infidelity. , it is very easy for wayward spouses to hide an affair. Dating apps. Snap chat and burner phones make easy for her to bide the affair. I am pretty sure she has cheated …
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 11:56 PM
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She is toxic. I'm sorry, I know you have feelings for her. But you have to rip off the bandage and move on with your life. I know men whose cheating wives gave them HIV and Herpes. I knew a guy who caught his fiance in bed with another man. And that guy attacked him and beat him to death in his apartment, in front of his fiance. She cried, testified in court (he got 20 yrs). She moved on with her life, got married and had children. Men need to realize that toxic women can put your health, life, …
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 05:54 PM
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Start by finding a good divorce attorney. Then you go to best buy, Walmart or brink security and buy some audio recorders and hidden cameras. Record all interactions with her until you can move out. Which you should as soon as possible. Also, I might get banned by saying this but you need to study narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder. These are toxic people who lack empathy or remorse. You are prey to these people. they seek nice guys like you to manipulate and abus…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 01:03 PM
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Your wife tried to get you arrested, Yet you tried to reconcile? Go ahead give her a second chance to get you arrest. Why..why..why do men complicate their lies? Dude you need to divorce her and see a counsellor.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/21 04:16 AM
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File for divorce now. She does not want to stay married to you. And she is waiting for the ten-year mark so she can get permanent alimony. The only thing she cares about is how much money she can get from you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 02:25 PM
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Move the guns and separate from her. Record all interactions with a small audio recorder and/ or hidden camera now! You can get them at best buy.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/21 03:56 PM
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I read your post a second time. Your wife is a narcissist, her behaviour is not your fault. Narcissists lack empathy, they are incapable of remorse( they can fake empathy but eventually they will reveal their true nature. They prey on nice guys like yourself. They are easily bored with relationships and discard romantic partners like trash. And in some cases their children. Narcissistic parents have been known to abuse and neglect their kids. Be jealous of their son and daughters. Sleep with the…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 11:33 PM
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It's not about revenge, it's about holding her accountable for her actions. At the very least, she can commit financially to the children upbringing. You are making all the sacrifices and she gets to travel and sleep around. I do not believe in karma. However, I do believe that people should be held accountable. Whatever you decide God bless you man.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 10:03 PM
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The united states has a child support enforcement agreement with Spain. File child for child support in your jurisdiction. Maybe contact a family law attorney. The case will go to child support enforcement and they should contact the Spanish gov. To enforce child support. Also, does she had dual citizenship? Does she speak Spanish? She will have to work, Spain is not a cheap country to live in. They have high unemployment, and unless she is a citizen, she won't get welfare. Basically, you should…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 05:42 PM
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Personally, I will not allow her to see the kids. Also, the united stare has a child support enforcement agreement with every English speaking country and most European nations. File for child support, let the courts know that she has left the country, and contact child support enforcement. What country did she move to?
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 02:41 PM
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I'm going to be direct, hire an attorney, file for full custody and make sure you order her to pay child support for 4 kids. Get counselling and support from your family. It going to be rough, however, it will get better over time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 02:11 PM
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This is where you need to start planning your escape from the marriage. 1) seen an attorney, and document any evidence of physical abuse. 2)get your financial affairs in order and if you believe she is cheating, get evidence. 3). Blindside her with divorce. Do not tell her simply have the papers served.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 09:41 PM
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Honestly, that is a question that is best answered by a probate attorney. You do not want people giving you bad advice.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/21 08:42 PM
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Install hidden ones. There are smoke detector cameras, USB adapter cameras etc. Motion detection cameras etc. Also, consult a P.I.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 09:13 PM
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Get a lawyer, record any interaction with her. Place a hidden camera in your house( but make sure it is legal first,). File for custody and have the courts banned her from taking your children out of the country. Never ever marry a foreigner again. Is she Latin or easter European? Those women are notorious for using men to get a green card. Have the court order her to return half of the money, maybe have her bank account frozen. Time to fight back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 09:10 PM
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I'm, not an attorney, however, in many states, the courts could view that as abandonment and can negatively affect your case regarding custody, alimony and child support. Let her move out, record all interaction with her using a hidden camera or a pocket audio recorder. You do not take a break from a marriage, ever. If she is suggesting some sort of trial separation It means she has checked out of the marriage and is planning to divorce you. My response would have been "ok, if you decide to leav…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 07:42 PM
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Always hire the best attorney you can afford. If you were charged with a crime and were facing decades in prison, or even a life sentence. Would you hire a flat rate attorney in order to save a little cash?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 02:41 PM
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First thing first; get control of your emotions and hire a lawyer. You are at war, she is likely telling your parents that you were abusive, cheated on her etc. Your wife is a narcissist you need to study N.P.D. As for your parent, go no contact with them. Do not speak to them or respond to any calls. Tell them you will not talk to them as long as you are in contact with your wife. Get an attorney, collect as much evidence as possible, file for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 11:29 PM
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OMG, you are being played for a fool. She is likely having an affair or want to see other men. 1) Do not move out, it will likely hurt you in a divorce regarding custody alimony, etc. 2) hire a lawyer, file for divorce now, take control away from her! Most importantly, find out if she is having an affair.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 09:30 PM
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Lol..Hey, he needs to do whatever it takes to see his kid.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/21 02:29 AM
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So, let's see. 1 year of child support, possibly alimony, maybe sell the house and receive 50% equity. If you can advoid financial ruin, then file for divorce. Most men who decide to divorce will sit down with the wife and tell her they want a divorce. I would speak to a lawyer, get your legal and financial affairs in order, and blindside her with divorce papers. Have her served without warning.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 03:46 PM
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I assumed you have younger children. If you can prove emotional abuse, this may help you in family court. Califonia family court system is notorious biased against men, it is the only state that I know where a woman can Cheat on her husband, commit paternity fraud, run off with her new boyfriend and still take half of his wealth, even force him to pay child support for a kid that is not his biologically. You should never stay in a toxic marriage. However, it is in your best interest to hire an a…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 12:54 PM
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I'm from north Carolina. My advice, while searching for a lawyer. Use a false surrender strategy, beg her to come home, tell her that you love her and will do anything for her. Tell her that you miss her and will do anything for her, lay it on thick! If this, works get your lawyer and file for divorce with a court order forbidding her from taking your son away. Record all conversations and save all text messages.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 12:36 AM
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Hire a lawyer and file for divorce. If you have to " move back to your mother's house" you need to get out of the marriage. BTW...a lawyer will most likely tell you to get your ass back in that house! It could be considered abandonment. And can hurt you regarding custody, alimony, child support etc. Move back in, buy some audio and hidden cameras and gather as much evidence about her. Then file for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/21 06:56 PM
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Based on what I have read, your wife shows strong signs of narcissism. You should study narcissistic personality disorder, also, Search lee hammond on youtube. His page is mental healness, with an H. He is a clinically diagnosed narcissist. And he discusses how narcissist manipulates and abuse their spouses. Being a black American from the inner city, I know a lot of "boss Bitches". Most if not all of them are very narcissistic and prey on nice guts like a lion does a sheep. Your wife lacks empa…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/21 06:51 PM
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That is a talk to a family law/ probate lawyer question.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 01:42 PM
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Do not take her back, she will play the good girl for a while and then return to her abusive behaviour. This time she will likely become pregnant to trap you in this toxic marriage. Leave!
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:26 PM
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1) stop having sex with her. If she initiated, tell her to go fuck herself. 2) get the divorce 3) based on what I have read your wife and stepmother are narcissists. People with NPD and very parasitic and abusive, they are incapable of empathy and respect for no one. Get the divorce, and do not have any kids with her. Study narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Also bipolar disorder and antisocial personality disorder. Lee Hammond is a content creator on youtube. Also, he has been di…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 12:46 AM
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Dude. You need to study narcissism. You are the perfect mark for one. I am pretty sure your wife is one. Also, the state of Pennsylvania has force men to pay child support to a child conceived for an affair. Even with a negative paternity test. Be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 11:56 PM
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Ok, you are dealing with a narcissist young man. She will make your life a living hell. 1st, get the divorce. 2. Get a paternity test, if you are not the father cut her out of your life! 3. If you are the father hire a lawyer and sue for joint custody. Educate yourself. Study narcissistic personality disorder. Grandiose and covert narcissism Your wife sounds like a covert narcissist. Go on youtube and search " mental healness". The content creator lee Hammond is a clinically diagnosed narcissist…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 11:51 PM
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Ok; for online dating to work for men, you have to sell a fun and interesting lifestyle, you have to work out, dress nice, and post photos of yourself engaging in fun and interesting things. Plan a trip to Europe, take lots of photos and put them online. You have to sell a lifestyle that is fun and exciting.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/21 11:21 PM
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Yes consult a lawyer, she sounds like a narcissist. She is not going to get much. A little alimony at most, Do not get her pregnant, record all interactions with a voice-activated recorder. If legal, place hidden cameras in the house. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/21 03:06 PM
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Lol..a p.i receipt is very clever.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/21 02:46 AM
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Wait, hire a P.I. and find out if she is having an affair. 2. If a woman ever records a private conversation you dump her immediately. 3. Get an attorney and file for divorce separate and cancel all joint accounts. 3. Do a hard 180 and go no contact if you do not have children. Study narcissist personality disorder, especially covert narcissism.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 03:33 PM
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Narcissists respects no one. I have a few of them in my family. He needs to cut that vampire out of his life and get counselling. Otherwise, he will end up with another toxic woman. 100k per year? Sounds like a nerdy I.T. guy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 01:21 AM
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Ok; you make 100k per year. that put you in the top10% of income earners. You do not know your value. You really need to grow a spine. She is a parasite who is using you and I am shocked that you do not see what she is doing. Your wife sounds like a narcissist. Search different types of narcissists, especially covert narcissism. Change the locks, tell her she is not allowed to return home and that you retained a lawyer and will file for divorce. and block her number. If you have kids she will ge…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 01:17 AM
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Do not say anything to her. Sound like she wants to take custody of the kids because it benefits her financially. Speak to a lawyer, separate your finances, close all joint credit cards accounts. Try to get a court order preventing her from taking the kids until the term of custody is settled. File for joint custody. As a precaution go to the courthouse and file a petition preventing her from taking your kids without your consent until the term of custody has been resolved.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/21 02:52 PM
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Do not take her back. She will only cheat again, and leave you again. She sounds like a narcissist, which is what most cheaters are. Look up signs of narcissistic personality disorder on youtube. As for your kids, be as involved in their lives as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/21 03:39 PM
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Let's see, no kids, may have to pay spousal support, and she could use her disibility to her advantage. Speak to a lawyer first. Gather any evidence of abuse. Forget about counselling if you can get out with little damage to your finances. Do not cheat, she can use that against you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/21 03:36 AM
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The problem with men is 1) they make their lives more complicated than they should be 2) they remain in relationships with unfaithful women Here are the consequences for reconciling with a cheater. STDs cheating spouse rarely uses condoms every time they hook up. Paternity fraud. You could end up raising another child. Many states like California will force you to pay child support to a child that is not yours biologically. men have committed suicide over this. Dangerous and violent Affair partn…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/21 03:30 AM
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Lol..yes I am generalizing. He really needs to speak to a probate/ family law attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 07:10 PM
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Ok, you know what you need to do! It's time to divorce her and move on. First, I would find out if she is having an affair. A real possibility based on what I have read. Collect all financial records, close any joint account and credit cards hire an attorney and file for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 06:54 PM
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The court should not be able to touch anything that is not in his name. Of course, I'm not a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 06:25 PM
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I respectfully disagree with you. And I believe that you are a great person. 👍. It is certianly not my attention to encourage him to use his child as a weapon. Sound like his ex is doing so already. And yes you are RIGHT asking a three year old is "mommy saying mean things about him?" is not wise". However, I have seen many mother say say hurtful, and despicable things about their child's father in their presence and suffers zero consequence for their actions. Even worst, they acually succeed in…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 06:22 PM
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I understand that there are a lot of moralists on this post. Millions of fathers are denied access to their kids by vindictive mothers and a family court system that is most cases are biases against men. Often, The father is forced to spend tens of thousands of dollars in attorney fees just to get visitation, let alone joint custody, only to have the courts deny them visitation. Furthermore, in most states in America; courts can garnish half of the father's net income for child support and alimo…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 03:11 PM
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Sounds like a trust fund, trust funds are lawsuit/ divorce-proof. If it's in your father's name, then your spouse cannot touch it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 01:03 AM
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Honestly only a good lawyer will call women out on their bullshit in the family. More often than not, these women will settle for mediation afterwards.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 08:30 PM
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Sound like your ex is trying to turn the child against you. Make sure you have court-enforced visitation rights. And try to build a parental alienation case. Ask the child if mommy say bad things about you and make sure you record it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 06:09 PM
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Become the fun dad. You should be an escape from boredom and stress. Do fun things and activities with her. Buy a puppy. A golden retriever for example so she can have a fun companion when she comes over.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 03:17 AM
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No, however, I will advise seeking individual therapy or counselling. Unless she cheated, abused drugs or became physically abusive.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 08:38 PM
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OMG. Ok, dating is a numbers game. I am going to give you some steps to improve your chances with the ladies. 1) hit the gym, work out, and improve your physical appearance, the more handsome you are, the better your results, Study fashion and start buying new stylish clothes. Invest in some high-quality fragrances Yves Saint Laurent l Homme le perfume for men. Bleu de Chanel Sauvage for men etc. Smell good! You can find them at Macy's 2, improve yourself financially, go back to school, try to l…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 02:54 AM
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Record all interactions with her. Speak to a lawyer and fight for full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 12:04 AM
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Run, no kids, no assets, run! Now!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 12:02 AM
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Be ruthless, get an restraining order, hire an attorney and file for divorce. If you have children, file for full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 12:01 AM
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No! The first thing you do is hire an attorney and begin the divorce process. Telling the kids could hurt you in family court. You must consult an experienced family law attorney to guide you through this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/21 08:53 PM
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Do not get married in California! When dating in a state like that Ca. No cohabitation No long term relationship. Date non exclusively. That state makes me want to vote republican!☹☹
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/21 08:11 PM
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Yes, definitely. However military guys seem to get screwed over worst.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/21 02:06 AM
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Lol.I just watch a Reddit post on youtube. The OP is a military guy whose wife slept with 60 different men. (A sociopath,) While he was deployed. Even worst she got pregnant by a black soldier and he is white. You guys need to take things slow and carefully vet these women.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 11:36 PM
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You handled that situation well. 👍 The next step should be therapy, not just for yourself, but also for your kids. Your Stbxw shows strong signs of narcissism. most females who cheat tend to be narcissistic. Study the dark triad personality traits. Narcissism, Sociopathy and Machiavellianism. Their all on youtube. Learn to recognize the red flags and avoid relationships with women who shows them. Go on youtube. And search for "mental healness". The content creator is a clinically diagnosed narci…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/21 08:18 PM
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Never confront your wife if she is cheating, gather evidence, hire a p.i. and speak to an attorney first.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/21 01:56 AM
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OMG..please give us an update. Men need to learn how to deal with unfaithful/ toxic women.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/21 02:43 AM
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Yes. The system is designed to keep the breadwinner( mostly men ) trapped in toxic marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 04:00 AM
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First thing first; get therapy, build a case for emotional and psychological abuse. Speak to an attorney and explore your options. And find out how a divorce will look like for her. Be passive-aggressive to trigger her rage and record it. Plan your exit. Hell the next time you are up for vacation. Leave her at home and take the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/21 12:56 AM
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They are most dangerous when they know you are leaving them. I had to buy a gun because a crazy ex GF who I dumped for cheating lied to her brother ( violent ex-felon) and cousin( violent ex-felon also ) that I abused her. They threatened to kill me. Etc.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 10:03 PM
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Hire a lawyer, record all conversations, save text messages, any proof of extramarital affairs. If you have children, please fight for full custody. A drug/ alcoholic should not have custody of the children regardless of gender. Document any signs of abuse she has inflicted on your children. Be prepared to fight, no more Mr nice guy.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/21 09:46 PM
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1st thing first, I believe that it is in the children best interest that they are raised by both biological parents under the same roof. The exceptions are infidelity, emotional/ physical abuse, etc. If none of these things is happening. Then, I strongly advise marital counselling. That said, if you want to divorce, the first thing you do is see an attorney, and get your legal and financial ducks in order. Also, it will be in your best interest to go through mediation. Also, your attorney may su…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/21 06:33 PM
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Hopefully she weighs less than 200 lbs. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/21 08:28 PM
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I'm sorry but if he is an abusive prick, he is not going to agree to give half, you are going to have to hire an attorney and fight him in court.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 12:15 PM
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Protect your finances. Since your marriage is now a corpse. Conduct a marriage autopsy with a therapist, find out what went wrong, so you won't make the same mistake going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 02:38 AM
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It sounds like he is bitter. Can I ask why you are divorcing? Other than infidelity or abuse, children are better off raised by both biological parents together.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 02:34 AM
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In that case, follow his advice. His focus is on protecting you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 01:47 AM
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You have to fight back. Show her you won't tolerate such behaviour. If she gets away with this. Then other women will think they can do the same thing to you. She is showing strong signs of narcissism. Go on youtube and search fresh and fit punish and behaviour. He is a controversal dating coach name myron gaines.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 01:22 AM
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You are not a bitch! Lose that mentality and cut anyone who thinks you are out of your life You hit her back, you can get arrested, likely lose your job, you cannot return to your home and collect your possisions because you have a restraining order against you, she can badmouth you to your friend and family, fuck other guys while your either locked up or has a restraining order, take full custody of any kids you have with her, take out a child support order. She can ruin your life. This is why …
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 01:12 AM
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Be ruthless and NUKE HER ASS! This is not about her. You have to show females that you will not tolerate being assaulted.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/21 12:56 AM
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If you can hire a defence attorney, get the DV charges thrown out. Get a restraining order against her, and file for divorce. Divorce that women, grow a backbone! Cut her out of your life especially if you do not have children. If you have kids the fight for a joint custody arrangement.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/21 11:42 PM
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I alway wanted to travel there how are the women
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 10:44 PM
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Stop arguing with her, hire an attorney and start divorce proceeding. She is a toxic parasitic woman you need to cut her out of your life ASAP! To her, you are nothing but a disposable commodity. Once you are no longer needed, she will flush you down the toilet like used toilet tissue! Are you the father of her kids? If not, fuck those kids! They are not your responsibility! Stop having sex with her. Her next plan may be to baby trap you. The longer you stay married to her the more alimony she c…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 07:55 PM
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Covertly speak to an attorney, do not threaten or let her know you are divorcing her. get your legal and financial ducks in a row, assets division joint custody etc. Through your attorney plan your exit. Have the divorce papers filed. Basically, you should blindside her with the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 02:15 PM
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Can you file an adjustment to your alimony and child support? Citing economic hardship?
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 02:35 AM
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Dude. I'm sorry, but I have to read your post again. Her behaviour shows signs of covert narcissism. Google signs of covert narcissism. If those traits fit your wife, then I would lean toward divorce, these women are dangerous. So carefully plan your escape, speak to a lawyer and do not tell her you to want a divorce. They are very passive-aggressive and manipulative.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 02:16 AM
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In my opinion, children are much better off being raised by both biological parent. Abuse, drug or substance addiction, or infidelity being the exception. it is common for the most therapist to listen for the first couple of session so they can identify the issues and come up with a solution. That said it, is probably best that you seek a new therapist. should you choose divorce, multiple attempts with marriage counselling should work in your favour. Finally, there is a saying in the south, "The…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 04:24 PM
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Before divorce; I would suggest couples counselling. If you do not have children. please don't get her pregnant. If counselling fails, then divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/21 03:58 AM
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Honestly; start working out, doing fun and interesting hobbies, but most importantly, start dating! It will take some time, but the best way to get over a women, is to get on top of another one. However, you start dating again. Seek therapy, and conduct a marriage autopsy and find out what went wrong and how to correct them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/21 10:00 PM
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I suggest marriage counselling. Your children are better off with both biological parent raising them together. There is a saying in the southern united states. " "The grass is greener because it is covered in bullshit!".
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/21 02:28 PM
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You have to take her to court and file for joint custody!
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/21 02:24 PM
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