| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 378 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a Narcissist | LESSON LEARNED | thedollparts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:44 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Dispatches from the other side: Marriage isn't a finish lineThis was great. Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Laboring for BM & getting nothing in return is so normalized in the black community. I’m honestly tired of it. I wish we would retire the “strong, black woman” trope as well because it doesn’t serve us at all.And this has been pointed out by several black female social media commentators, but every black male who has created BLM art featuring women and children are married to non black women and have non-black children. Isn't that interesting? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 03:18 AM |
| 4 | Laboring for BM & getting nothing in return is so normalized in the black community. I’m honestly tired of it. I wish we would retire the “strong, black woman” trope as well because it doesn’t serve us at all.It's definitely a parody account. As stupid as Umar is I think he would be conscious of how this messaging compromises his MaScULiNiTy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:55 AM |
| 4 | Laboring for BM & getting nothing in return is so normalized in the black community. I’m honestly tired of it. I wish we would retire the “strong, black woman” trope as well because it doesn’t serve us at all.I have so much to say on this but I am debating on whether or not it will it my podcast theme. The recent protest and the number of women and *fully black children** I see out there...infuriates me. It's pure indoctrination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Don’t be easily impressedI know I'm not the only one who read your story and thought I would have done the same thing you did to be nice. Predators rely on that. Thanks again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 11:18 PM |
| 10 | Don’t be easily impressedI also want to thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry you experienced this. The fucker has probably tried it more than once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 08:06 PM |
| 17 | Just some Sunday motivation.Needed to see this today. Back to work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 118 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Please don't underestimate a man's ability to tell you what he thinks you want to hear. Just head's up. Time and observation area always the best tests. Test his enthusiasm for getting to know you and your interests, and actually REMEMBERING the things you say. This is why non-home dates are so important. Test each other in these environments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:02 PM |
| 13 | LVM find women so easily and it’s infuriatingYou will never heal from this if you keep hurting yourself by looking at his page. Block him. Don't worry about what it looks like to him or other, people this is for you: Block block block the fucker now. Your logical mind knows it is unlikely he has changed much, even if he is putting on a show during the idealization stage of the new relationship. I wonder why it's so "easy" for these types to find new women too. It's easy because women are conditioned to want relationships, so many will over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:34 AM |
| 50 | Most men gleefully cheer on predatory selfish sociopath traits in other men (especially those used to exploit women) but they expect TONS of sympathy from women when they feel stepped on by a much bigger sociopath male who simply has more money/power to exploit them (politicians etc).Facts. I just watched as a LVM on my timeline was congratulated by all his friends for finally getting into a relationship (after stringing a bunch of women along). Of course, several of his friends alluded to him having some sort of super human pimp powers like... For a split second I was annoyed but then I just realized I feel sorry for the girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:13 AM |
| 6 | Pick me qualities I’m seeing in this groupMaaaaaan this post is amazing. Thank you! Bookmarking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:03 AM |
| 2 | If your man looks at other women, he’s willing to cheat on youRight. I was amazed this was published in a "respectable" paper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:42 AM |
| 2 | Never put yourself down for your past choice in menGreat post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:18 AM |
| 36 | If your man looks at other women, he’s willing to cheat on you"If she's so fine then that's where you should be, your eyes better not wander while you're walking next to me" -Nicole Wray LOL. I dont know why we internalize the BS in music but I never really internalized these lyrics until recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 03:14 PM |
| 8 | If your man looks at other women, he’s willing to cheat on youThis was just published in the Guardian today: I’m in a long-distance relationship – will porn stop me being unfaithful? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/08/im-in-a-long-distance-relationship-will-porn-stop-me-being-unfaithful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | I feel insecureMy cousin is about this height and she has no problems, but let me tell you the key: If you are insecure and it shows in your body language, for some reason it's magnified when you're tall. You are a beautiful tree. You have to hold yourself upright with confidence. If you bend, if you look weak, it will show. I think it shows more readily than if you're short/little/insecure. There are plenty of men who are your height and taller, they will not mind your height especially if your body is nice. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:01 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts?You say this as if the line between consensual and coerced is thick and bright red with a "Stop" sign. I assure you it's not. A lot of these "sex workers" are being pimped too. Trust me on that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 6 | Advice needed about letting go of angerForgive yourself. Be your own best friend. What would you say to the girl sitting next to you, beating herself over this? Write it down and repeat it to yourself. I don't know a woman who hasn't compromised herself in this way, we're practically socialized to do it. We give these dummies way too much credit, and give ourselves way too little. He's a leech. You peeled him off. He's gonna wiggle around stupidly until he finds another host. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 11:03 PM |
| 50 | Thoughts?If I even get a whiff that a guy I'm dating has used sex workers, I'm automatically done. I've come to accept 90% of guys in the military have done it at least once. I just wish I knew ways to figure out other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 10:32 PM |
| 5 | I’d like you to consider making a dating handbook for pre-teen and teenaged girlsUnfortunately, they're doing it...even earlier than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:18 PM |
| 22 | #NoTtaLlmEn!! #YesALLMen #RECEIPTS 🤷🏿♀️I would be suspicious and wouldn't feel an ounce of guilt. The nanny cam thing is a good move regardless of the sex of the sitter though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 6 | Scrotes' way of thinkingThank God he showed his ass before the marriage. If this girl was smart she's bolt. Imagine trying to buy a house or raise kids with this creep? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:44 PM |
| 83 | She bought her fiancé a house and he wouldn't move with her, nor would he look for a better-paying job... this is why a proposal doesn't necessarily mean a happy endingI am gobsmacked. This girl is TV pretty, smart, hardworking, and willing to put up with his shit. And even now she's defending the hell out of him. I hope she doesn't even think about marriage for another 5 years. She has no idea what she's worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 2 | I'm constantly seeing red flags..."making it so hard for mens mental health to be taken seriously" Drop this dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Remain committed to the light at the end of the tunnelGreat post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:04 PM |
| 16 | I did it. I cut him off.It never ceases to amaze me how they have no problem doing boyfriend shit until it's time to be a big boy and commit. Don't let him crawl back either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:25 PM |
| 120 | As this queen says, stop projecting your ability to have empathy and emotional intelligence on men. They are socialized to see us as extensions of themselves. Don’t take their behavior personally because it was never personal to begin with.Let me dig up my twitter account to follow this chick. I'm so glad she mentioned skin tone too. So many of us dark or "dusky" girls are gaslit for pointing this out. I know a few guys who got into serial situationships with brown skinned girls, but were only trying to seriously date mixed race women or women of a different race. These were almost all darker skinned black men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Can a “Couch Creature” be a HVM?If a man doesn't have a job he needs to be looking for one, not looking to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:49 PM |
| 2 | His true colors have been revealedThis is so true. And be wary of women who are in too long and very male-identified. They will cover for the guys, make excuses for them, become rape apologists. I was kicked out of a facebook group after cursing out a chick for claiming female marines rape/assault men just as much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | Question: while our assumption may be that "everyone" is looking for a partner to love, do you think many men are actually looking for a partner to hate?A lot of them are looking for partners to submit to servitude with little pushback. Some are also looking for ego boosters and easy sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:14 PM |
| 15 | Misogyny is learned behaviorNow I want donuts smh...but that's the first thing i thought too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistDon't bother. It's masturbation material for aspiring sociopaths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 11:01 AM |
| 26 | You don’t like a low value man, you were manipulated by him. Emotional manipulation is the way LVM get sex from women. Please stop saying you like him. You were manipulated and are delusional. You wouldn’t like him if you knew who he really was inside.Once again for the kids in the back of the class: "Emotional manipulation is the way LVM get sex from women" "You wouldn’t like him if you knew who he really was inside." And he KNOWS this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 10:04 AM |
| 12 | Dating advice for a 39 year old never married womanI think your location in the US is something to consider. In more conservative/religious areas people get married earlier. In places like NYC or LA a never-married 39 year old woman is not unusual. I can't answer how things go on apps because I haven't used any in years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:14 AM |
| 4 | It's nothing crazy, but I've never been treated like this until I found FDS and ditched the LVM/NVM I had been dating.We love to see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistYou love them so much but they do their best to make your life miserable. I know other mothers with this experience. No one talks about it, it’s taboo. Kids are supposed to be innocent angels and the parent must be the bad guy. This is why no one believes you until your kid is an older teen and starts breaking the law. I'm not a mother yet but I empathize. There are whole facebook groups devoted to motherhood regret, unfortunately we are conditioned to just believe we're supposed to do it. As yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 01:16 AM |
| 11 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistI am so sorry, and I hope you're on the mend. 2 books that always have me raising my eyebrow with guys: the 5 love languages and the 48 laws of Power. They're like guidebooks for covert narcs lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a Narcissistlowers, does not eliminate risks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:45 AM |
| 7 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistShe's amazing, and I'm so so happy for you. Whenever I felt myself slipping into questioning the entire situation, I listen to HG Tudor and force myself to remember: my power is in choosing logic over emotion, and living for my (very bright) future! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:37 AM |
| 7 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistAnd plenty of life-threatening and permanent sexually transmitted diseases... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:30 AM |
| 9 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistSame! Unfortunately she was able to call the entire situation because (like so many of us) she's been through it. I owe her for hours of free therapy lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 12:29 AM |
| 8 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistDefinitely! I'm only recently beginning to study the subcategories of narcissism, and i can't imagine growing up in a family like that. However, I did grow up in a family that also made me a narc magnet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 13 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistYou're right. I actually appreciate this response lol. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:32 PM |
| 30 | Assume Every Man You Meet is a NarcissistExactly! I had no idea there was an entire framework to understand a lot of the behavior we see in dating culture. I'm lucky this situationship didn't last long. Unfortunately I'm long-winded so I know this might not reach a lot of people, but it's so important for girls to understand the narcissistic cycle and break it before you get in too deep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 27 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesGiven the number of ways men (and even some women) mock others for the way their genitalia looks, I say do you boo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:09 PM |
| 14 | “Playing hard to get only makes you hard to want”🤡🤡🤡Calling a child ug? Did you parents know about this? Someone should have knocked him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do we get SO much hate for not wanting to move in with a man??Get a creepy male roommate with no boundaries and I'm sure you'll be fine in 2-3 days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 09:02 PM |
| 2 | I found a HVMlmao!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:49 PM |
| 8 | I found a HVMSo cute! I can't wait to get mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 12:14 PM |
| 3 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.Just posting a much-needed reminder that social media is never ever the whole truth, and he is likely intentionally posting the highlights to create and maintain the narrative he wants ya'll to see. You will never be privy to the private ways he deals with her, and that is much harder to fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 04:23 PM |
| 1 | How to eat, sleep, and breathe FDS Is this why she created the summary/booklet? I would like more information on this. My intuition tells me it's true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Try not to take low value behaviour personally. They’ve treated women badly before you and it’s very likely they will treat women badly after you. THEY are the problem.First of all, block him and don't ever communicate with him again. Secondly, forgive yourself. We've all been there and it could have been much worse. He should feel like shit for being a user but it's unlikely he has the emotional range or empathy to do that anyway. Good riddance to him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:20 AM |
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