| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 222 | Got a 🍤🤏 pic once due to my activity here, but today I woke up to my first hate-spewing PM. | SCROTES MAD | thegenuinedarkfly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:51 AM |
| 117 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S. | STRATEGY | thegenuinedarkfly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 07:40 AM |
| 8 | Pick a superpower | DISCUSSION | thegenuinedarkfly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:36 PM |
| 1 | I need a mod ASAP. My ex can creep on me here. | MALE DEPRAVITY | thegenuinedarkfly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 02:49 AM |
| 1 | A VBF vs. a BFF | How-To High Value | thegenuinedarkfly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:16 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 8 | "Florida man accused of killing entire family cries on witness stand and blames wife for the murders"Who is it from again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 03:37 AM |
| 34 | Why “safewording” is not as safe as the kink community paints it to be. 💔 ‘consent’ here really doesn’t mean much when it comes to trying to claim it isn’t abuse. There’s an unhealthy power dynamic where the ‘sub’ feels like they cannot deny their ‘dom’ of pleasure through being put through torture.There’s a reason it’s the #1 flavour! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 02:10 PM |
| 39 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?I was in a pageant for young women when I was 18 and won runner up (“Princess” - lol). Like someone else before me, it was an agricultural community. We didn’t have a talent portion or a swimsuit competition. I wouldn’t have agreed if that was the case. Over the course of 14 weeks, we learned public speaking, how to field on-the-spot questions and there was an extensive test on community knowledge. These were all part of each contestants total score and we all took it pretty seriously. Looking g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 10:59 PM |
| 48 | I couldn’t find the original source of this text unfortunately, however I felt like this has to be shared. I was groomed into ddlg as a minor & am still unlearning the collective gaslighting from the kink community. Daddy dom/little girl or caregiver/little is not harmless. It glorifies pedophelia.The thought of being called “mommy” by a sexual partner is a complete turn off as I’m sure it is for most women. It’s enough of a turn off that many men treat us like their mommy outside the bedroom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 04:36 PM |
| 6 | Twelve Everyday Sexist and Misogynistic Things That Men Need to Stop Doing Right NowOne of the ads was unsettling to say the least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Makeup Give UpCOVID was a blessing in regards to makeup for me. If I’m going out for nothing special it’s just BB cream, powder and a little mascara now. Super quick and the savings are nice too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 11:33 PM |
| 36 | A simple trick to combat negging...I find a short pause followed by a neutral, “thank you for letting me know” is effective in almost any negging type scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 03:10 PM |
| 32 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:19 AM |
| 29 | Vetting strategies for dating a gamer.Girls (and women too), but I mean actual girls are just as present with platform and online games as the boys are right now. I’m talking the 8-12 set. With so much cool tech it’s not a mystery. Great tips all around btw. I’m an old but I’ve almost always enjoyed gaming on some level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:44 PM |
| 31 | Remember no man can be "baby trapped" if he doesn't let it happenI’m 100% sure Olivia Mann isn’t trapped with or without John M. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:33 PM |
| 200 | For the laughs, ladies! Now men are calling us "entitled" for wanting the bare minimum!I really don’t understand men who don’t want to continue going on dates with their wives or girlfriends. Don’t they enjoy a nice evening out? A movie? Dinner? I just don’t get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:23 PM |
| 92 | I don’t know who’s worse: her trifling mama or her POS husband. I found this on Facebook and was shook. Honestly I probably would have went to jail.OMG - that’s terrible! I know this is a sub on dating strategies and not a self-help group but it’s important to acknowledge toxic family members (and a not insignificant amount of terrible mothers as well as fathers) affecting so many of our choices - especially the ones we make when we’re still at home or freshly on our own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpYou’re probably not wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:02 PM |
| 56 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpHe did Cordelia and Willow dirty too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 523 | Zero Effort Valentine’s DayIf you’ve been dating less than a year, then this was your first Valentine’s Day together? And he “forgot”? I’m sorry sis, but if he wanted to he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:34 PM |
| 84 | When you move in with a man that doesn't even respect youThis has to be a troll, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 05:50 PM |
| 21 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outTeam swamp witch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 336 | Promise rings are a fucking joke.I thought promise rings were for teenagers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 45 | Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men?It’s extremely difficult to write women convincingly if you’re not one. Wally Lamb received huge acclaim for writing “She’s Come Undone” - a first person female narrative - because it’s just that difficult to do. What chance does some rando on Reddit have? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:28 PM |
| 5 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬Oh no - that’s terrible! And yes, it was the one you said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 10:55 AM |
| 122 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬Honestly, I’m mad for them! They don’t get to enjoy sex or the act of making love to a woman. No one knew at the outset that porn was going to be this damaging. Men went from looking at semi-tasteful nudes in a limited monthly publication that they had the good sense to keep to themselves to consuming a constantly devolving and ever more debased and endless stream of porn available 24/7. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:35 PM |
| 115 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬It wasn’t all sunshine and roses back then, but at least men’s dicks worked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:30 PM |
| 286 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬This is so bizarre and definitely not normal! I’m from the pre-internet porn era and men in their 20s and 30s should have no problem getting hard or staying hard until completion. This was a non-issue when I was in my 20s and 30s. TBH, I’d be a little WTH if I encountered this situation tomorrow. It sounds like an entire generation of men have been ruined - literally ruined - by porn. How incredibly senseless and sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 10:37 PM |
| 74 | LostYou should more than qualify for Legal Aid. You can request a postponement while you apply to retain a lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:48 PM |
| 4 | 'He proposed and a few days later we went ring shopping'My ex might have gotten a lot of things wrong, but he gets credit for an absolutely perfect proposal, which included a ring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 112 | This man is 24. His “best friend” was 14 while he was a 20 year old man waiting for her to be legal to call his GF. This man is a pedophile.He looks older than 24 too with his receding hairline already. That girl literally looks like a goddess. Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 10:31 PM |
| 20 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.I have experience with AA in a similar way and this was also my experience. The program is helpful for some people, but there are other options out there. I found it a bit like a cult at times, damaging at others - but there are good parts too. Attend women’s only meetings though. If you can’t - or there’s a meeting you really want to attend - take some friends for safety. Stay safe out there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 439 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”Imagine that coming at you for some lovin’. 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:17 PM |
| 14 | "oh sweetie, daddy went to war" - I have seen this too much irl and it's funny how something from 10 years ago is still relevant.That’s demented! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 48 | This made me throw up in my mouth just a littleIsn’t Nic Cage constantly on the verge of bankruptcy though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 40 | Men knows they’re saying hurtful things to youAh yes… I too had an “honest” man in my life. It’s amazing that he could only be hOneSt when saying hurtful personal things to me but lied constantly about everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:22 PM |
| 36 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.I know, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:54 PM |
| 22 | [deleted by user]I bet! Nice work btw! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 08:37 PM |
| 113 | [deleted by user]The tiny penis ones! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 07:15 PM |
| 110 | Today marks the 32nd anniversary of the Polytechnique massacre in which 14 women were killed for being engineering students.Such a terrible tragedy borne out of hatred of women. I’ve already read my share of “not all men!” and “women can be murderers too!” for the day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:40 PM |
| 18 | How long is too long for a guy to reply to a text?For myself, there are plenty of times it’s 12+ hours sometimes between texts with my best friend. I think I’d give it 24 hours at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:42 AM |
| 16 | Disappointed by my date todayEw! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:43 AM |
| 1 | My Boyfriend’s Father’s Obsession With Virginity & ThanksgivingOh yes - mine would make up things. He even admitted to it in family counseling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 04:01 PM |
| 47 | This is it. I've found the neg to end all negs.That’s quite a roller coaster! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 31 | My Boyfriend’s Father’s Obsession With Virginity & ThanksgivingMy ex did/does this with his family and me (we have children together). At the time, I didn’t think to question WHY he was telling me these things. He’d run back to his family after and tell them anything I said as a result, forever ensuring we’d be at odds with each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:44 PM |
| 40 | Assault disguised as "mischief"Yes! I accidentally left medication in a bag that went through the washer. Of course, the container opened and everything dissolved. It was an awkward conversation with my doctor for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:45 PM |
| 9 | These NVM ain’t even trying to cover up what they really think anymore… it’s truly sad that their are women that will actually choose to match with these sick men.What an edgy guy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 05:27 AM |
| 58 | Woman’s date goes berserk over “National Dog Mom Day”As someone who also hates the entire “dog mom/dad” business, I’d just quietly unmatch. The tirade is something else though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:46 PM |
| 3 | The number one danger in women’s lives is men they knowAs a Canadian, I’d like to endorse hat pins coming back into fashion! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:46 PM |
| 8 | WOC be careful fetishization is real....So much “aRE yOu A NaTurAl ReDheAD?” followed by creepy innuendos to do with pubic hair. Complete strangers would feel comfortable asking that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:24 PM |
| 94 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different wayAs a Gen-X who has Gen-Z children, it’s all out of control. I meant social media in general is a plague. I think fake nails have come a long way. I have a hard time understanding who wants them. Long nails are a PITA and harbour bacteria. There’s a reason surgeons don’t have long nails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 12:42 AM |
| 247 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different way10-15 years ago fake lashes were for a special event (like a wedding or walking the red carpet somewhere). Fake nails have been around (Lee press-ons!) since the 80s. I really think Instagram influencers are terrible for anyone, but especially so for impressionable girls and young women. So many looks that aren’t achievable IRL, or looks that can only be achieved in a bubble (posed shots). All of it looks terrible close up, especially in daylight. Overly styled eyebrows will be the 90s “line eye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 10:35 PM |
| 13 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌Oh, this was 20 years ago. Now I just shake my head and wonder what he was thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 07:42 PM |
| 46 | I think all women should have height requirements actually. 😌Exactly! I remember weighing ~110lbs. and my ex would constantly comment on how much I ate to the point of me developing disordered eating and dropping down to under 100lbs. He called me “heifer”. What an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 7 | The AUDACITY of my abusive exThis is the answer every time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:14 PM |
| 68 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.Young boys too - make no mistake. Protect your children at any cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:41 AM |
| 92 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Because women date men with bad hygiene all the time. Stop it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:10 PM |
| 123 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.It’s 100% porn driven, no doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:29 PM |
| 87 | It was too good to be true.I’ve been seeing OF ads for months letting me know that their platform is for artists and creators, NOT JUST PORN. I guess it was an attempt to rebrand that failed miserably. As an artist, there’s no way I’d use their service to promote my art. Can you imagine asking a potential client to check your OnlyFans and get back to you? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:19 PM |
| 42 | She's a 35 year old mom, he's 58 grandp..dadThis looks like a picture of a grandfather, daughter and grandchild! Why isn’t he embarrassed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:20 AM |
| 13 | In a post asking reddit to ban incel subs after an incel shooting in the UK, comments that FDS needs to be bannedJust one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”I don’t know! I kind of want to listen to it now though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:52 AM |
| 53 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”He was also engaged to Alanis Morisette for 3 years and their engagement “ended”. She wrote an album about their 5 year relationship and described it as “cathartic”. TBH, I’m disappointed that Canada sent some of our finest (Reynolds, Gosling) and they’ve turned out to be disappointments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 11:40 PM |
| 24 | What power shift?? Lies men tell XD Women get BETTER with ageIt’s been going on for as long as Old Hollywood at least - where the leading men were noticeably older than their female counterparts and were actually fine physical specimens. Some aged wonderfully - Paul Newman, Sean Connery. Hmm… can only think of two examples off the top of my head. Modern day equivalent is probably George Clooney. Then there’s the tragic tale of Marlon Brando, who curdled like old milk by middle age. There’s a lot more that go this route than the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Wait...what?Break me off a piece of that… fill in the blank. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:07 PM |
| 59 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...Most women aren’t going to have an orgasm from PIV (for a lot of reasons), but there is no excuse for a man “getting his” and neglecting yours. I’m an old, but I will never forget an even older friend of mine saying, “If they didn’t do their job, then I want them to know”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:07 PM |
| 4 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]I’m in your age bracket and no one here seems to want to “listen to the words of their elders”, but the wisdom is literally how you’re here. No one wants to make the same mistakes as our parents but lately it’s tween dramas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 4 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]What about the women who didn’t? Even someone in their mid-30s is feeling outside a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:07 PM |
| 6 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]There are questions to be asked though. Do we all wander away when we’ve met our HVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 15 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]I have some questions I’m scared to ask here because of it seeming like a space for 18-24 year old women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 15 | Is the transitioning stage always this hard?You are a strong person because you’ve not only managed your own life, but you’ve also been carrying the planks of others. Saying “no” isn’t selfish and shouldn’t warrant anyone going on a tirade. If someone can’t hear the word “no” and get on with their life, that’s on them. I also love that you said “another think coming” because that’s the proper way and most people mess it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 30 | do men just turn into complete POS when they hit 50 or is it that generation?Gross, but true. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:44 PM |
| 34 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyNow THIS is what I came here for! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:19 PM |
| 3 | LVM like to say we shame them for being men….Did you mean gracious instead of gratuitous? Otherwise, agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 08:35 PM |
| 33 | Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about datingThe Rules! Yes, it was very FDS and much like FDS was heavily criticized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 132 | Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about datingI’m Gen X and feel like we followed an unwritten code that was very FDS-minded. I’m honestly surprised that so many people here consider 95% of the principles here to be new information. Porn wasn’t the issue it is today and we didn’t have social media (for better or worse). Otherwise it’s the same dance. My grandmother knew the things you’re just learning if you’re young enough to not know better. I don’t understand why someone wouldn’t want the benefit of someone else’s wisdom? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:02 PM |
| 23 | The idea that family courts are biased against men is a dangerous LIE. Evidence shows Family courts are biased against WOMEN.Woody Allen though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 06:38 PM |
| 58 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himCoupled with a gambling addiction! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:56 PM |
| 46 | Reminder for my Queens ❤❤It’s the independence that’s terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:35 PM |
| -5 | A friend sent me a 🍤-pic out of nowhere and I feel betrayedI truly hope not because I want to believe that childhood friends are somehow different and an exception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:07 PM |
| 82 | Got a 🍤🤏 pic once due to my activity here, but today I woke up to my first hate-spewing PM.“Hate-boner” was used and I know what they meant but I have literally never been turned on by someone I “hate”. They also called me “bro” and “dude” while calling me out as a woman here. It turns out I’m just jealous because I’m an ugly blobfish who has never known happiness. The only nice thing that scrote called me was salty*. It’s taken me 30 years to grow my salt and every crystal has been well earned. I could practically hear the Doritos bag open and smell the scrote who sent me that messag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:06 AM |
| 11 | dating strategies are different for men vs womenWhy even? And yes, there are all kinds of poisonous slugs! Induct him to the hall of shame immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:14 AM |
| 11 | dating strategies are different for men vs womenNow I want to know even more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:51 AM |
| 14 | dating strategies are different for men vs womenNow I need to know about Slug Guy! Spill it sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:09 AM |
| 8 | Why Do So Many Men Kill Their Pregnant Partners?A terrifying true tale: I was friends with my ex for 10 years before we even dated. I met his family before then also. I was ambivalent about having children and it wasn’t important to me at the time whether I ever had a child or not. We married a year to the date after our first date (so romantic!) and we waited a year after that to start a family so we could enjoy “just being a married couple” first. My suggestion. Barf. We were both older so that family didn’t happen easily but when it did… S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:51 PM |
| 3 | She’s 19 and pregnant by a 28 y/o 🤡 The age gap strikes again! 🤢🤢🤢I have fraternal twins who are very different as people. They are also my only children so it’s easily observable. The things they have most in common are nurtured behaviours. Nurture definitely overpowers nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 30 | Asking Men: Why do you need women? 90% get the answer wrong ... to be expected.The smiling dude that never blinks. 🔪🔪🔪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 15 | A HVM won’t be in contact with his ex30+ years later, I’m “friends” with a couple of ex boyfriends from high school who weren’t horrible to me. It was nice seeing how their lives turned out and to share a glimpse of mine with them. If either of them acted weird or suddenly wanted to chat a lot, I’d put them in their place and then delete without hesitation. I felt OK (safe enough) because of the passage of time but also distance. I live on the opposite side of the country now so there’s no possibility to interact IRL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:26 PM |
| 10 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 08:44 PM |
| 23 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂Only the finest Christian porn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 08:42 PM |
| 79 | dating strategies are different for men vs womenThis and the nest dude should be on permanent exhibit here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 08:23 PM |
| 9 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.I hate vacuuming and avoid it whenever possible. I also don’t have carpeting (an area rug) so the vacuum is mainly to catch the spiders. But if you’ll handle the dust (allergies which is why I don’t have carpet) then I’ll not only fold your laundry but I’ll wash and dry it too! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:56 AM |
| 32 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.Fellow fan of folding… pretty much anything. Underwear, all the clothing, sheets (even the fitted ones!) paper. Very relaxing. You do you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 10:43 PM |
| 12 | A scrote blocked the sidewalk with his car in order to flirt.Of course they do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.I also have a loud whistle that can be worn around the neck and one on my keychain. I also carry my phone with my finger on the emergency call button. 5 taps and it makes a lot of noise and automatically calls 911 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:31 PM |
| 10 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.I got the auto mod reminder about my post here so it’s probably going to disappear as soon as the mods are up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:14 AM |
| 8 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.No problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:11 AM |
| 9 | The CheckRight? That’s how it’s done. Imagine a group of professional women acting like this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 01:45 AM |
| 28 | The CheckI treat my friends (women) when I can and they treat me back (when they can). It’s small things but they’re always well thought out or a loving gesture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:24 AM |
| 57 | So true. 😍 👑I’m also pretty sure he’s not talking about home cooked meals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:07 AM |
| 60 | So true. 😍 👑No. No. No. Nooooooo!!! I really want to know his excuse for either, but especially your birthday! What even? My ex pulled this and it isn’t why he’s my ex but it definitely got the ball rolling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:05 AM |
| 14 | Dead bedroom? It's just biology at work, sweatyEwwwwwwww! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:27 AM |
| 32 | Have any of you experienced worse street harassment since lockdown?The expressionless stare discourages a lot of foolery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:19 PM |
| 105 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.I’m an old, but even back in the 80s I knew there was definitely something off about anyone bragging about a “body count”. That’s also a really gross term since it goes hand-in-hand with murderers and serial killers. If anyone is bragging or even talking about their “body count” that’s an easy pass. Stay away! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:52 AM |
| 36 | "Self made man" by Norah Vincent just shows how easy a male life is and how scary a women's life is.How did anyone literally not notice she is a woman? Magazine covers and a bulky suit aside, she’s feminine and has a womanly shape (complete with obvious breasts at the bowling alley). If I met her and she told me she is a man I would treat her as such but where did they find the men who were “I had NO idea!!!”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:47 AM |
| 28 | All it takes for a woman to be reduced to an object is too much eyeliner | Arwa MahdawiEvery day in every way. Amen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Went on a lot of coffee dates in my pickme days.. never again!This woman is using filters on her video. My comment got removed last time for suggesting filters were being used. It’s obvious if you know what to look for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Pick a superpowerThere’s a terrible Twilight Zone episode about that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:47 PM |
| 25 | What kids really need. Not porn.I love that there’s so many amazing books like the ones mentioned! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 09:18 PM |
| 2 | FunnyAh, OK. Why am I getting downvoted for asking a question? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 04:02 AM |
| 4 | The Male GazeD’accord. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 03:13 AM |
| 1 | The Male GazeCan you provide a source? I’m not familiar with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 03:05 AM |
| 5 | The Male GazeNot just any woman though. I’m skilled with a camera. I take decent portraits but I’d have no idea how to make a woman feel free and yet secure in a studio, except by virtue that I’m a woman. If you’re considering hiring a photographer as a woman to do shots where you will be (or even might be) vulnerable ask for their portfolio. Don’t meet up with a stranger on the internet who may/may not be a woman (or might even have a woman involved just to make contact/put you at ease). Vet a photographer … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:44 PM |
| 6 | The Male GazeThere’s also The Testaments which is a follow up to The Handmaid’s Tale but I haven’t read it yet. When The Handmaid’s Tale was published it seemed like a much further away preview to a dark future that doesn’t seem that far away anymore. Men read here (hate-read or otherwise). It’s broadcasting a strategy which is unfortunate, but possibly necessary. The series is a lot more violent than the book could have imagined, partly because it’s trying to be a relevant product of its time, but (maybe?) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:36 PM |
| 4 | The Male GazeSo much this, but you need to look for a woman who knows her art as a photographer also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:50 PM |
| 10 | The Male GazeI highly recommend all the Atwood, especially The Handmaid’s Tale because it’s relevant. All her books are good, thought provoking reads. I especially loved Cat’s Eye (a book about the problematic girls who turn into women in our lives) and Alias Grace (historical fiction). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:47 PM |
| 37 | MEN ARE THE BIGGEST GOSSIPERSSame! I was not just surprised at the gossip but how “catty” men can be towards each other (including their friends)! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:05 PM |
| 15 | Found on Instagram... I am really liking the algorithm 💁♀️Eh, no. Depend on no one except yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 05:13 AM |
| 29 | If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore.Yes! If men actually wanted to learn how to be a good boyfriend or husband then they would study it and they would do those things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:32 AM |
| 32 | And we‘re the toxic people...😒It was mostly pubes and a large gut with a small and unattractive penis that was overpowered by the pubes. I’m sure whoever sent it was trying to assert some dominance but I was already familiar with the territory since I married a man who eventually suffered from buried penis due to marriage and bad habits (took less than 4 years for him to reach his final form). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:00 AM |
| 21 | And we‘re the toxic people...😒🔎🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 78 | And we‘re the toxic people...😒All I got was a dick pic and it was so small. 🍤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 07:14 PM |
| 55 | Indian scrotes discussing what they’d ask women before an arranged marriage. The audacity.How smol is the peepee? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:37 PM |
| 90 | True crime and age gapsAgreed. It was easy for Pickton (serial killer/pig farmer) to disappear nearly 50 women (that we know of) because they were prostitutes and addicts in Vancouver’s lower east side. Same with many of Canada’s indigenous women and girls, except in this case it’s very obviously racially (un)motivated. Hundreds of missing women there who will almost certainly never be found. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:14 PM |
| 2 | His gift to her for her first Mother's day as a mom was "him making her a mom." Comments say she's partly to blame because she didn't explicitly say that she wanted something...Thank you. It was the last one we spent as a couple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 6 | His gift to her for her first Mother's day as a mom was "him making her a mom." Comments say she's partly to blame because she didn't explicitly say that she wanted something...I could relate so much from the twins to being overlooked by my husband on my first Mother’s Day. It was yet another nail in the coffin of our marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 12 | Classic scrote cheating signs- from the rookie to the serial cheat. Why modern women must trust instinct > firm evidence.That’s exactly it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 04:06 AM |
| 40 | Classic scrote cheating signs- from the rookie to the serial cheat. Why modern women must trust instinct > firm evidence.This is a fantastic list/resource. I’d like to add that if you’re in a LTR/married and your partner accuses you of cheating out of the blue, they’re either already cheating on you or they’re seriously contemplating it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 08:14 PM |
| 19 | Age-gap relationships make me cringe.Super creepy! Looking back at the 21/22 year old that I dated at 15/16. What even?!? I get why I thought the relationship was cool (older boyfriend, full time employed, cool car). Guess he was hot for my 10PM curfew (11 on weekends!) and all the sex I never had with him. I shake my head over Kelly every chance I get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 10:15 PM |
| 25 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)I agree. Hemsworth is objectively handsome and needs an 11/10 bod to play a literal god. I’m not sure this is healthy realism. He doesn’t do it for me, but to each their own I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:56 PM |
| 25 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I regret not fighting harder for at least using my surname as a middle name for my children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:15 PM |
| 3 | This is how women are silenced today - so afraid of being called "that lady" aka the K word that she's afraid to send an email to her kid's school!lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:45 AM |
| 19 | This is how women are silenced today - so afraid of being called "that lady" aka the K word that she's afraid to send an email to her kid's school!Karen is just as bad as the Stacy in the incel “Stacy and Chad” nonsense. FWIW, my middle name is Karen so if someone calls me one I will eventually say, “well, my middle name IS Karen” like someone would if their middle name was Danger I guess? It’s pretty pervasive among tweens at this point for “a woman complaining” regardless of context. It’s the next evolution of sexism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:53 AM |
| 28 | This is how women are silenced today - so afraid of being called "that lady" aka the K word that she's afraid to send an email to her kid's school!Sometimes it’s Kyle or Ken but mostly people just shrug and say, “you know... a male Karen “ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:46 AM |
| -1 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.The most successful women I’ve known in a variety of careers didn’t wear makeup and no one cared because they were amazing at their jobs. I do skincare because I think that’s sensible for anyone. My routine is inexpensive and basic but that’s probably how it should be. I do wear makeup for fun sometimes even if I’m not going anywhere further than the grocery store because of COVID. Other times I feel lazy and I don’t care. Again, I keep my routine fairly light and basic. I was blessed with many … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 6 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Some of my comments have been removed for questioning the integrity of this post or it’s position on crowns and how they perpetuate a patriarchy as a symbol. This is a good group of women but we should be able to challenge one another and be open to discourse without being hidden because I disagree. If we can’t agree to disagree then it’s an echo chamber. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:39 AM |
| -6 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋Her phone is already in front of her face. That and losing basic tracking on your photos gets the job done. I’m not criticizing the crown per sé, but an Insta photo without mentioning the actual pain involved in wearing a tiara or crown (costume or otherwise) is bad form for women everywhere. Unless you’re also taking a pic for the ‘gram then that hurts and it’s no better than using a waist trainer for likes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:12 AM |
| -2 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I already said crowns and such are straight out of the patriarchy. I love the energy but I think it’s misdirected and my main complaint was that this isn’t a real photo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 03:02 AM |
| -6 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋That’s fair and I am older. I’ve done my dating, married (for better and worse), had children. We had a lot of fads but buying a crown that hurts to wear and unless it’s a costume will make you look cray - save that money. Buy good jewelry and not costume. Allocate your assets however you want, but the importance of a group is important. Rings, tiaras, crowns - doesn’t matter. This sort of thing is important to people who want to belong here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:36 AM |
| -15 | Bought myself a crown just bcuz I wanna celebrate the scrote-free air I get to breath for the first time after 11 years✨ ANY future scrote that makes me feel less than how I make myself feel rn is not worth it 👋I love the idea so much and I’m going to come across as salty but this pic has a lot of filters and also looks photoshopped. As an older woman here who has eyes for days for this kind of thing professionally, I’m a bit concerned that it’s going to become a thing here (like the rings) and you all have better things to spend your money on. By all means, treat yourself but not through a silly group fad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 30 | Can we please stop praising fathers just for "trying"Truth. Mine called so many times they eventually got tired of hearing from him and let him know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 09:27 PM |
| 6 | I love this and him.lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 34 | This is a website dedicated to documenting women and girls who've been murdered by their partners who've used the "rough sex" defense in the UK. It’s scary how this is becoming so normalized, along with “hard kinks” ...I also had to stop reading at a certain point. The number of men who hid the body of their spouse and or long term partner while carrying on with their day is vile and so, so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:39 PM |
| 18 | This is a website dedicated to documenting women and girls who've been murdered by their partners who've used the "rough sex" defense in the UK. It’s scary how this is becoming so normalized, along with “hard kinks” ...That was a chilling read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:18 PM |
| 48 | So true.My grandmother had a lusty appetite and didn’t let the notion of being thin bother her, but her daughter (my mother) was very caught up in an unhealthy relationship with food and very critical of my very normal weight. I only gained approval by starving myself also. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:15 AM |
| 116 | I should really stop lurking around. From a post about age gap relashionships and how they aren't weird. Yes they are.I was on a sub yesterday where a woman in her 20s was talking about not being able to find an equal value partner her age. She was 25 I think and was very successful. Most of the advice was for her to seek out a man in his 40s! I replied “ew” and got called an ageist bigot. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 12:34 AM |
| 113 | 50/50I’m not sure we want the men on hormonal birth control. Didn’t they get occasional headaches or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:24 AM |
| 7 | One of the most disgusting things I've ever readI don’t know who the Fein’s are but my ex probably has this book on his bookshelf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:03 AM |
| 8 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?Absolutely! I’m older and no longer dating but this was kind of an understood rule pre-internet even though our best defence at the time was doing this all in person. Risky, but the men back then were less risky too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:00 AM |
| 27 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I’d be tempted to name and shame, but it’s not worth getting murdered over. To escape safely from a person like this, agree in a benign/general way. At this point it doesn’t matter how right you are - it matters that you’re safe. Keep the texts. Move on, don’t engage, lock your doors. Don’t be the topic of the Dateline podcast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:30 AM |
| 8 | One of the most disgusting things I've ever readI guess I know why my marriage failed now. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:20 AM |
| 27 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?A man wouldn’t consider you as a serious partner if he thought for one moment you’d been “around”. No one wants a man slut. They also tend to stay that way so likely to cheat or want an open relationship after you’ve had their kids. Ew. Move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:04 AM |
| 26 | What is it with scrotes and balls?I remember the neuticals because that was so ridiculous. As a responsible pet owner, I had both of my cats neutered/spayed as soon as it was safe to do so. I wanted a bonded pair of cats and adopted the boys/girl pair out of the litter. Getting the boy cat’s balls off was such a blessing. The girl cat hadn’t even had a chance to go into heat yet, but he was kind of showing signs of wanting to mimic some cat sexy times with his sister. Balls off, he’s a true gentleman. He is extra chill, cuddly, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:31 AM |
| 76 | ✩ FDS FOR TEENS ✩ PART 1: LITTERALLY ANYTHING ELSE > MENIt’s probably true. You could have done your studies and still had a cute and sweet summer romance 20-30 years ago. It sounds impossible now. There were definitely men who expected too much then too, but it was also kind of easier to ghost thanks to lack of technology. Everything about dating today sounds like I’d end up on an episode of Dateline (which actually sounds like a series about bad dates/entanglements. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:16 AM |
| 26 | One of the most disgusting things I've ever readThat’s a nice rapey text. What even is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 05:07 AM |
| 11 | Great Men are Not Good PeopleShe was a really cool chick. We drank wine together, she shared her recipe although it was just general ingredients so I still had to do math and figure it out exactly. She was always fun. I will always talk her up around my sons. She contributed something useful and was never anything less than gracious. She’s kind of vying for my role model with my own grandmother who is also not here. They’re kind of both my heroes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 12:00 AM |
| 24 | Great Men are Not Good PeopleMy sons are the legacy of a “great man” that they don’t really know anything about other than his name and misdeeds here. They’re confused about the family worship (not my fam, got treated terribly when I was). Exalted family member is unimportant. He had a massive coronary event in his 60s that killed him instantly. I never met the man but he would have been nothing without a woman by his side. I’d rather talk about her. Bea lived well into her 90s and even though we’re not related by blood lef… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:52 PM |
| 12 | If a man I'm feeling out ask me to add his snapchat its an immediate BLOCK. - if you need an app that deletes messages then I don't need you.I’m an old, but I’m commenting to say that this is nonsense. No Snapchat, no insta, no nothing. Make them do the work. If they’re not willing then that’s the only flag you need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 08:58 PM |
| 2 | The reason some men are so awful is because pick-mes let them get away with using and disrespecting them.This is the way. It’s not OK to treat Mommy like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 08:51 PM |
| 41 | The biggest problem with "sex positivity" is that it put the cart before the horse.I’m 50 and I concur. I can’t imagine trying to navigate my way through dating as a younger woman in these times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:36 PM |
| 12 | SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELPAdults don’t ask random kids for help. Men don’t ask women they don’t know for help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 05:53 PM |
| 12 | An infuriating example why we dress to impress only ourselves and NOT LVM/NVM!!Yes, we do! They are generally so up front about their creepy fetish that it’s easy to spot them however. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:46 AM |
| 114 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...Yes. The odds increase by 700%! It’s a big predictor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Today is a terrible day to have eyesIt was a story that kept getting worse with each sentence and didn’t answer any of my questions. You can build an entire loft bed and shelving, but you can’t make a ladder? Also, where is the piss jug? You know he’s not climbing down on that rickety step ladder to use the bathroom in the middle of the night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 01:00 AM |
| 55 | NVM afraid to be judged like he judges single moms, cry me a river. The *last* interaction I will ever have OLD, 7 months clean and a much, much happier life without it!As a single mom (who is happily forever alone), I’d like to say that it’s a myth that “no man will ever want a single mom”. Quite the opposite. Most men don’t care, especially if they’re just looking for sex. OTOH, there’s plenty of literature about male predators latching onto single moms for easy access to children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 12:37 AM |
| 43 | Leave him Rachel!Artists like credit for their work. You did the right thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:20 PM |
| 15 | That’s her 2nd one??She needs FDS ASAPIt’s amazing (and not in a good way) how many people don’t know this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:43 PM |
| 22 | I had to hang curtains because I was receiving disgusting texts from my LVM neighbor who could see in from his porch. I hate them, but I hate him more. It's bad enough that he was looking in my windows, but the audacity that he would text me about the "sexy hair flip" that I did "FOR HIM"....I was just going to ask if you know your other neighbors. Since the police aren’t listening or taking this seriously, I’d at least make them aware of the situation and ask them to keep an eye out. Also, I’d definitely get some security lights and a camera. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 06:43 PM |
| 24 | “Traditional” relationshipsThis is the way. Nothing gets out, nothing can fall in. Aesthetically, it looks better too. My toilet is an equal opportunity toilet. We all have to put the lid down here. Also keeps the cats from drinking out of the bowl. Win-win-win! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:57 PM |
| 44 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI think the fact that they had to coin a term to describe a man like that back in the 90s meant things were already going to hell in a handcart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 135 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveWe had the beginnings of this in the 90s and early aughts: the “metrosexual” who looked fine, smelled nice, knew how to dress, always wore stylish shoes (and as an added bonus knew how to dance due to a renewed interest in Big Band). The women loved it. The scrotes shamed them relentlessly. I guess the approval of their “peers” mattered more than the approval of the women in their lives. Or they all got married and gave up. Who knows? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:15 PM |
| 3 | My kids got me a Valentines Day gift without me asking or reminding them. My heart is touched. I am doing my best to raise the next gen if HVM and HVW.My sons also treated me right with a lovely bouquet and some sweet homemade cards. I have hope that I’m raising HVM as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 11:59 PM |
| 12 | Stay vigilant. Stay vetting. *Kisses <3*Menopause has been awesome! I’m a big fan. Look forward to it ladies! The process might be bumpy (hey, so was having a monthly cycle tbh) - but the end result has been pretty sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 02:49 PM |
| 33 | Time after time there’s articles that prove that women are HAPPIEST when they’re unmarried and have no kids YET scrotes constantly try to shame women who don’t want to fulfill the trad role because deep down they know we’re happier without them and want us to continue serving them.I’d be curious about that too! The kids were totally worth it, but the man was not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 01:45 PM |
| 10 | Women exist only for male pleasure...🤢🤢At the time, yes. God forbid anyone catch you with VPL. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:37 AM |
| 15 | Women exist only for male pleasure...🤢🤢We used to call this “VPL” in women code for “visible panty lines”. It was the scourge of the 90s and mentioned in pop media/TV on the regular. Now I’m 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 01:54 AM |
| 37 | Reminder: The Wall is a lie men desperately try to project onto women to disguise their own pathetically lackluster lives.I recently turned 50 and have yet to find this mysterious wall, much less run into it. Proper skincare doesn’t have to be complicated. Stay hydrated, wear sunscreen, use a daily moisturizer (don’t forget your neck!) and a decent night cream. Get a proper night’s sleep every night. Stay away from the Botox and fillers. My sons are 10 and are discovering the value of a basic skin routine for the first time and are really into it. I hope it becomes a lifelong habit (along with a love for fresh, qua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:51 PM |
| 16 | Reminder: If you have kids with a LVM, automatically have one more kidI told my LVM to leave when I had twins under 6 months old. Life was SO MUCH EASIER after that. Two babies on my own was suddenly less difficult. He was a lot of work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 11:33 PM |
| 55 | Her scrote bf told her she doesn't "look" anorexic, told her to lose more weight. Comment section say CoMmUnIcAtERun girl! I waffled between 98-105 lbs. at 5’4” and dated a guy who I was quite serious about who called me “heifer” (not as a joke), referred to me as a “big girl” and constantly told me how tiny his previous girlfriend was. I did not end up with an eating disorder but I definitely had disordered eating while I was with him. Ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 10:57 PM |
| 10 | Marriage KoUNseLInG is a waste of money unless it Post Divorce CounselingDid marriage counseling while married and it didn’t really help anything. Did counseling after separation because we co-parent and after nearly TWO YEARS it helped make things tolerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:21 PM |
| 31 | Guy admitting that he lied about liking a girl so that he could have sex with herOut of context, I’d assume he was talking about taking a dump. ETA: every time I watch this and replace “laying some pipe” with “taking a shit”, it gets funnier. Especially at the end when he says “loosey goosey” - maybe he had diarrhea? Honestly, I think “laying pipe” was legit bathroom speak for poop awhile ago. I’m an old, but that’s how it reads to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 58 | Guys need to stop being comfortable about things that don’t affect them....Often more than once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:08 AM |
| 1 | I need a mod ASAP. My ex can creep on me here.I tried asking this same thing but I bungled it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:27 AM |
| 8 | Things My 86 Year Old Mother Says About Men and RelationshipsAwesome list! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 26 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?Do it! The thing is, hardly any of the FDS information is new. What is new is that it can be widely read by anyone with an internet connection and that it has been updated to be current with the times in which we live. Widespread porn and “sending n00dS” wasn’t something our mothers and grandmothers had to deal with (they dealt with other BS instead - trust!). I imagine a lot of their advice would still resonate today. Technology might have evolved, but people largely have not. I’m happy to help… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:01 PM |
| 3 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingIt’s one of the things that really stood out to me and at the time it was a lightbulb/of course moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 6 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingYes, the old “lost puppy” ruse, or asking for directions, carrying something, etc. An adult that doesn’t have bad intentions would never ask a child for help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 13 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingThe #1 rule I drilled into my kids was “adults don’t ask kids for help”. It’s been a few years since I read it (and I’ve since passed it along to someone else), but the core of the book is really about trusting your instincts - or gut feelings - about when a person or situation is off. This applies to kids around strangers but also mothers who are out with their children. If you feel vulnerable as a single woman in a situation, you’re 100 times more so when you’re with your baby/child (and of co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 18 | Never Give an Inch—Its Small and Fragile and the Only Thing Worth HavingI haven’t read this book, but I did scour Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe. I’d highly recommend it to any parent. It’s really important as women to trust our instincts about the people (especially men) around us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:57 PM |
| 2 | sex is not a need, it’s a wantNo, it wasn’t regarding medication. Did some internet digging and it looks like the form my doctor uses is a combination of PHQ-9 and Beck’s Depression Inventory (BDI). Beck’s is the one with questions regarding sex and mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 05:17 PM |
| 9 | sex is not a need, it’s a wantI honestly can’t remember the exact words (and that’s a relief) - but the implication is that if you’re not having as much sex as ever it could be affecting your mood, in the same way as not eating, sleeping or basic self-care (like bathing) would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Petition Signed 😎 💅🏼Amen sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 11:08 AM |
| 15 | Petition Signed 😎 💅🏼I’m an old from before the time of dick pics and “send noods” so it was pretty random. OTOH, I have no patience to entertain nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:29 AM |
| 35 | Petition Signed 😎 💅🏼I said nothing and blocked the user. It was like finding a 🍤 a briar patch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:03 PM |
| 78 | sex is not a need, it’s a wantI struggle with depression and because of that I have to fill in “the purple form” at any doctors visit. I’m thankful that all appointments are over the phone currently so I don’t have to fill it in. The “purple form” is 10 odd questions pertaining to mood that you answer by rating from “not at all”, “always”, and “about the same”. There’s always a sex question and I hate it. No, I’m not depressed because I didn’t get laid. If anything, I’m relieved I don’t have to deal with it. I always answer … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:27 PM |
| 122 | Petition Signed 😎 💅🏼I got my first dick pic from a rando on Reddit a couple of weeks ago. It was as sad as one might expect. I’m not sure self respect is a scrote friendly term. Also, it was small and ugly. 🤏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:15 PM |
| 29 | In today's news, doing the bare minimum is now considered a "challenge".This is what I’d expect on a date, but I’m older (and am not dating). This used to be standard. Exception for rule 6: keep your phone with you for safety. I never left the house without cab fare and a quarter for the pay phone, which was a real thing 20 years ago (sounds archaic to say now). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:29 PM |
| 30 | And they wonder why we call them incels...So tiny! 🤏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:56 PM |
| 38 | One of the comments on this post said “porn is ruining sex” and I couldn’t agree moreI’ve never been more thankful to be old and out of touch. Is this what women are expected to tolerate now? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 07:36 PM |
| 12 | This hit.Thanks for all the replies and nice words. I feel seen, even without sharing details and that’s an amazing feeling. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:17 PM |
| 134 | This hit.No one has ever heard mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:44 AM |
| 16 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateBullet dodged. Next time though, don’t wait in the rain, no matter if you’re early. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | I need a mod ASAP. My ex can creep on me here.Anyone? I got an auto mod. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Went on my first date and got groped.I’ve been in this situation over a 30 year career many times (explicitly or implied - usually implied because the kind of men who put women in these situations are cowardly at heart). The men who truly helped me out professionally along the way never pointed out their kindness or asked anything in return. Not once. The other kind made sure I knew and expected something in return every time. You did the best you could in a bad situation. Block and delete this person from your life. Don’t waste yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:19 PM |
| 5 | Just a reminder to women that cellulite isn’t this evil thing that only ‘fat’ people have. Most women, including well known celebrities have cellulite.I hate to disappoint but elbows aren’t exempt. Men check them to see if/how wrinkly they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:01 AM |
| 6 | We have a list of demands. 1. Clean sheets.I’m in the process of buying my sons a top sheet but Walmart is sold out. They appreciate fresh bedding at 10. That top sheet will blow their mind. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:43 AM |
| 5 | Major trigger warning!!!My thought as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 27 | If a guy says FDS is like red pillMy hunch is that he knows exactly what FDS is and was testing the waters to see if you did too. You did the right thing playing dumb. I’d have my guard up if I were you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:32 PM |
| 7 | Day to day ManipulationI too had iMpoSsIbLe sTaNDarDs of cleanliness. And by that I mean he was lazy and cleaned nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Anyone ever had to deal with an ex at work?I had to work with an ex once. Same story with the lovebombing and after a few months we broke up. He was my supervisor in a department of 2 people and actively campaigned to get me fired. It was a truly awful time. Eventually, he had a meltdown, cleaned out his desk over the weekend and quit without notice because he was a spiteful loser. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 04:49 PM |
| 14 | The FDS Mod Team When Only Two Men Show Up for the Anti-FDS Brigade Reddit Tried to OrganizeSo tiny! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:33 PM |
| 9 | Truth.Oh, it was definitely worse! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 46 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis Preferences🦐😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 06:40 PM |
| 7 | About this whole “Karen” thing Can we spread “Paul Paraphilia” please?As someone who has been affected by the takeover of the name Karen to mean “an entitled woman acting like an asshole”, I’m reluctant to ruin someone else’s name. Also, it will never catch on in the same way. There’s no consensus over Kyle/Ken/Kevin or Terry mainly because “an entitled man acting like an asshole” is the rule, not the exception. Call the pedophiles by their name. Call the paraphilia parade by their name. Call a scrote a scrote in other words. I like asshole because anyone can be o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:23 PM |
| 1 | I’m quitting birth control.I was on HBC from age 18-32 to help mainly with cramps. I stopped taking it because I wasn’t dating and because I was tired of paying for it. I wanted to see what would happen also. My cycle was regular, I had no more serious issues with cramps (maybe mild ones the first or second day, easily managed), slightly oilier skin temporarily and that was it. Highly recommend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 03:59 PM |
| 48 | No title neededShe’s definitely my hero! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:38 AM |
| 16 | Mindset shift for women who find themselves doing more of the houseworkIn all fairness, I’m sure your competency does make things difficult for scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:49 PM |
| 72 | Mindset shift for women who find themselves doing more of the houseworkAh yes, the old “I couldn’t possibly meet your standards so I’ll do nothing instead” ruse. Been there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:31 PM |
| 10 | And to think, I used to consider merely having a bookshelf a green flag 🤦♀️This would explain a lot about my ex. He’s a big fan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 11 | For real thoughFor sure! Back then it was a dirty magazine and that was that. Watching porn was rare since it was considered shameful and desperate to walk past the curtain into the “adult” section. I’m constantly horrified reading about young men in their 20s today with erectile dysfunction and how commonplace it seems! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 02:08 PM |
| 59 | For real thoughMaybe I’m an old, but this epidemic of men who can’t/don’t please a woman (or care to) seems foreign to me. I only encountered it after I got married and the laziness settled in. Give a warning and then walk/run away. Lord. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 20 | For those almost a year shy of being single- what do you Not miss? 😛Coming up on 10 years single and I don’t miss any of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 06:18 PM |
| 100 | Butt hurtI have also had my “confidence” questioned, but only by men. Funny that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:15 PM |
| 7 | "You should’ve asked"I don’t mind at all! I’ve been accused of it by my ex-NVM but next time I will. He considers himself smarter than thou, but he’s lazy and gross in appearance. Even our children complain about it and they’re 10! A nag isn’t something you call a man, so it was meant to bring me down and it did at the time. Not again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:38 AM |
| 41 | "You should’ve asked"Been there. Did ask. Gave out gentle reminders but that was “nagging”. This hit the nail on the head so hard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 06:30 PM |
| 22 | Wisdom of our elders...Dorothy knows what’s up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:45 PM |
| 16 | Marriage timeline - am I ridiculous ?If you’re 34 and want a future with biological children in it, you can’t afford to wait around for 5 years. Source: myself, married at 35. Waited a year to start our family and discovered I had nearly waited too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:53 PM |
| 33 | It’s alarming how men treat powerless womenIn my city with the COVID-19 shut-down, access to any public bathrooms was pretty much nil until recently. The city put up some port-a-potties but there was no water to wash your hands afterwards, much less anything else. Disposable tampons, pads and liners are the best options to donate safely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:45 PM |
| 14 | She finished him 😂That was beautiful and I’m 100% here for it. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 14 | LVM gets dumped after telling his fiancé a wedding would be stupidAudacity at it’s finest! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:22 AM |
| 45 | LVM gets dumped after telling his fiancé a wedding would be stupidI had one sewn from a pattern for $80 + cost of materials. It was definitely under $200. My ex-husband’s cuff links and tie cost more (not to mention his $2000 suit)! Such a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 10:19 PM |
| 4 | My opinion was most men are trash oopsie daisyRight in the strawberry basket! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:33 PM |
| 23 | Nothing will change his mind if he’s decided he doesn’t want you.Father Time! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:07 PM |
| 16 | Woman goes on hunger strike for 10 days to get increasingly sick husband to go to the hospital.My ex refused to see a doctor for a very long time over worrisome chest pain and a malady of other symptoms. I even had his family intervene and he still wouldn’t go. It turned out he was hiding a raging secret drug habit and knew the gig would be up as soon as he got even a basic physical. I’m 100% sure he would have let me hunger strike myself to death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:00 PM |
| 2 | What a read 🙄🙄 "miNiMAL bloOdsHed"I Googled the recordings and they’re definitely a must-listen of an absolute loser of a man even all these years later. Times change, but the audacity stays the same. 10/10 recommend if you want to sit there with a wtf look on your face for 4 minutes. Poor Olga. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 04:47 PM |
| 4 | What a read 🙄🙄 "miNiMAL bloOdsHed"Yes! The messages and his photo popping up in the media was what made all the pieces come together for me. Prior to that, I thought he was some creepy rando. The first time he tried to get my attention I was having my lunch break in a small park near work. I was alone, reading a book and enjoying the peace and quiet. At the time, I must have been 32 which should have aged me out but I was super cute and barely looking 25 so I guess that’s why he pulled over in his car and tried to get my attenti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 04:33 PM |
| 14 | What a read 🙄🙄 "miNiMAL bloOdsHed"Gross. Fun fact: James Sears AKA “Dimitri the Lover”/PUA tried twice to pick me up and failed back in the early aughts. I had no idea who he was at the time. I’m not surprised he’d write about Minassian. He’s a revolting, racist person in his own right. He also had weak game. Total loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 02:49 AM |
| 53 | I was beaten for having confidence last night.Take the kids with you when you go. Don’t leave them in the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:39 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, validation needed!The wall was just a substitute for you, for now. Glad you ended things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 07:32 AM |
| 14 | Says it all.Who’s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 08:29 PM |
| 7 | And there are women who would reply “oh hahaha good one” and continue to talk to this person. I hate OLD culture. Tasteless. (Taken from r/tinder)Wow, that is an old one. Is this guy a grandpa? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 10:02 PM |
| 11 | Advice on Marriage To Young Ladies ✨Feed the Brute. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 07:55 PM |
| 12 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.My now ex roomed in with us after the birth of our twins, slept most of the time and wasn’t much help. A nurse shot him such a dirty look when she came in to check on us and he was snoring loudly the entire time. We split while our babies were still infants. I was doing 95% of the care (including all night time feedings, etc.). I was still expected to do all the laundry, cleaning and cooking. After he left, I couldn’t believe how much easier everything was because I wasn’t looking after a fully … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 08:30 PM |
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