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| 4 | Women have no idea what an average man isblue eyes Random one to call out. The average guy here (Scotland) does have blue eyes. I don't really care about eye colour but it would be more picky of me to prefer a colour other than blue. And assuming you're in the US, your population has one of the highest prevalences of blue eyes in the world. It isn't uncommon at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 04:47 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about surnames in a marriage?I think people should do what works for them. My husband and I kept our names and we've given our son both of them. If he wants to drop one or change it entirely when he's older he can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 07:25 PM |
| 2 | I dont believe maternal instinct is a noble traitas for disabled adults they are almost always cared for by biological kin or paid professionals. the general public and women in general do not feel a maternal or cute urge toward a massive clunky disabled man the way they do toward a child Why do you want "the general public" to be providing care to a vulnerable adult instead of a paid professional or their loved ones? Why is that an expectation that you have? Paid professionals are people from the general public who have decided to go into tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/26 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations?Here (UK) holiday pay and sick pay are distinct and separate categories. At my company everyone gets the same holiday entitlement (bar a few extras you get with promotions or additional length of service), and then sick pay is a separate thing on top of that. Everyone also gets the same sick pay entitlement (again, slightly dependent on length of service but everyone over 2 years service has the same). So if you have a health condition you can take the time you need, but also get all the same ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 03:58 PM |
| 11 | Do women have a thing that they want to be the only one a man does it for?No, I think it's because a lot of the guys on here say they won't date single mothers because [insert rant about how single mothers are essentially the worst people in existence]. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to deal with all the things that come with being a potential step-parent, but there's no need to make out that single mothers are basically deficient as a person in some way, which is what the common reasoning seems to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, be honest: is a guy wearing apple watch/smart watch a turn off on a first dates?I doubt I'd notice or care tbh. I couldn't pick an apple watch out of a line up for one thing, so I don't know that I'd necessarily know they had a smart watch on unless I was purposefully trying to look at the face. I'm not really into watches though anyway, they're a neutral functional accessory and don't add to or detract from someone's general attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 02:43 PM |
| – | How good do you think woman can actually filter men?Not going 50-50 I disagree with this. Everyone I know who's in a shitty relationship is with a guy who's the breadwinner. He thinks he's owed her subservience because he pays for stuff, she thinks she can't leave because she's not in the financial position to do so. When kids come along these guys mostly seem to expect to just continue to pay for whatever they normally pay for, but for the women to somehow pick up all the child-related expenditure, leaving the women with nothing. If she dares tr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Why is slut shaming wrong?Conveniently ignoring the fact that the figures vary wildly and it could be significantly lower than that. Also funny how you try to blame the mum and not the absent father in those cases where the criminal was raised by a single mum. Also, the UK isn't the best case study, as criminals are disproportionately immigrant, and immigrants tend to be more traditional (ie married parents). The vast majority of criminals in the UK are UK nationals, so whether or not immigrant families are more traditio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:09 PM |
| 3 | Do you think it is possible that in the future women will be the ones whom society will expect to be providers rather than men?one will ultimately provide more. Like paying for dinner, doing the chores, etc Women are still unemployed more than men and I guarantee you it is a man doing the providing. So you've listed chores as a way to provide but then say you guarantee men are doing the providing. In relationships where the woman isn't in paid employment it's normally because she's caring for the children. So she is providing childcare, and in most cases chores as well. So neither is "the provider" in this scenario sinc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/26 02:21 PM |
| 10 | Why is slut shaming wrong?Almost everyone in prison was raised by a single mother You appear to be lying I've slept with loads of people. Now I'm married, in a decade long relationship, raising a child with my husband. Whereas you're... What? Cry wanking in a basement every night about how no one wants to shag you? Really giving back to society there 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/25 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Do you genuinely expect your partner to lay down their life for you if push came to shove?No I don't expect it. Practically speaking, if it's a choice between the two of us then it makes more sense for me to die - I'm worth more dead than he is (by about 2.5x) so he'd at least get the consolation of a chunk of money to help him through his grief 😅 although complicated now by the fact we have a baby - I expect my husband would think I should be the one to live since I'm breastfeeding. But the financial aspect is still a key consideration there I reckon. Going to aim for us to both jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 09:52 PM |
| 7 | Who gives more and who takes more: men vs womenI disagree with your guess. Generally I think it's probably more even across genders, but quite dependent on the individual person and general dynamic. I'm a woman. In my friendship group I tend to host and do the cooking (although not always), but with family it's a more shared responsibility, so I'll have meals provided by family several times a year. I don't know if this counts as "just because", because realistically it is reciprocal. The only free labour I've had is babysitting, but the bab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 12:13 AM |
| 9 | The reason some men are not being good fathers could be that they are not allowed to be responsible and spend more time with their kids and more importantly have no expections to raise their children.If you have to wait around to be given a role, then you aren't fit to be a parent. I just had a baby. I didn't hand my baby to the midwife and say "okay, let me know what you need me to do" - I spent the pregnancy researching, my husband and I attended classes, we had access to all the same information as each other. So when I had my baby I just did what needed to be done. As does my husband btw - he doesn't wait around to be given a role. He uses his eyes (and ears and nose!) and brain and take… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 05:56 PM |
| 6 | Women, what is the reason you don’t do onlyfans? (not trolling)I already have a job and simply don't have the time, energy or desire to earn money doing anything else. People have offered me money for baking cakes, making quilts and having sex, but whilst I enjoy all of these things I'd prefer to keep just doing them on my own terms and not try to monetise them. Same goes for taking sexy pics/whatever else goes into an only fans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/25 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Is your partner meeting your standards for the house chores, cooking and cleaningIf I ever witnessed someone blowing their nose on a pillow case I'd leave the relationship immediately and never talk to them again. That is absolutely horrifyingly disgusting and I actually can't fathom how you could ever look at or touch him again after that 😅 the thought of it is making me feel queasy. Peeing in the sink, if it was a one-off emergency and they cleaned the sink and surrounding area thoroughly afterwards .. but if it was ever done "just because" I wouldn't be in that relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 02:32 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, have you even not been into someone despite them being good in bed?There's a lot more to a relationship than just sex. Having good sex together means you're compatible for hook ups, but doesn't mean you're compatible for relationships. I hooked up with a guy a few times who was perfectly nice and excellent in bed, but it wasn't any deeper than that - he was a kinda hippyish vegetarian who wanted to live in a van, I have a stable job at a bank, had my own place, enjoy skinning/gutting/butchering animals for meat. We enjoyed our hook ups but were mutually disinte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 02:51 PM |
| 16 | As Gender Equality Grows, So Does Women's Prison Populationhttps://www-bbc-co-uk.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cumbria-64950862.amp?amp_gsa=1&_js_v=a9&usqp=mq331AQIUAKwASCAAgM%3D#amp_tf=From%20%251%24s&aoh=17646924610321&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/aug/24/woman-jailed-10-years-false-rape-claims-jemma-beale Perjury and sexual assault cases are definitely not punished. Stop lying. There are cases where the woman was caught and punished. I can't be bothered linking more but you ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 04:25 PM |
| 6 | Women suffer from Romantic Neuroticism and Weaponized Competence.So you're expecting her to read your mind. Which is just what you're saying women do 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 05:13 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever been with a man that had a pocket pussy or other sex toys?Nope | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 03:07 PM |
| 13 | Have you ever been with a man that had a pocket pussy or other sex toys?Yes my ex had a fleshlight type thing. My husband had a variety of toys when we met (butt plugs, bondage stuff, cock rings etc) and we've continued to add to the collection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 02:08 PM |
| -1 | Feminist opposition to legal paternal surrender/paper abortion is clearly not actually about the best interests of the child, since it disappears the moment that a woman is exercising paternal surrender on the man's behalf...obviously not if they're not paying child support they're due to pay. I don't know why you've written this as if it's some sort of gotcha. Neither parent should be able to get away without paying child support if they're due to pay it, and avoiding it does make them a shitty selfish parent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: If the first man you had sex with was the perfect man, would you have been fine with only experiencing sex with one person your whole life?Or they're not lying. Just because you agree with one person's take doesn't mean everyone with a different opinion is lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:10 AM |
| 0 | How polarized you are in gender wars? How often do you support "male side" in arguments?I rarely agree with guys on this particular sub because they're mostly straight up batshit (not so much all the comments but certainly most of the posts). But then I also think most of the posts from women on here are straight up batshit. In general I agree with the "male side" on a few issues and have waded in on them - off the top of my head, recent examples: The whole paying on dates thing. We should all just split. I don't think it's valid to say the person that did the asking should do the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them.No, men cannot and do not unconditionally love women. They may cling to them out of desperation because they're afraid of being alone, but that isn't love. It's just pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Would you prefer if men put as much effort into their looks as women, or if women put as little as men?The second one, but really it should ideally be a bit of a middle ground (which from my perspective it is, certainly amongst my friends/family/colleagues) where people are mostly comfortable and practical but will make a bit of additional effort for specific occasions. I find this is currently the case for men and women in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/25 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Would you cheat for $10 million dollars; let your bf/husband cheat for $10 million; or neither.Nah. Used to live near a swingers club and we talked about going but then realised we actually can't be bothered going and trying to have sex with other people 😅 the sex we have together is the best sex we've had, so no real benefit in opening things up. That's one of the reasons we went monogamous in the first place. We have said maybe when we're older and empty nesters if we're in need of a hobby we might take up swinging, but more as a couples activity to do together rather than opening the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Would you cheat for $10 million dollars; let your bf/husband cheat for $10 million; or neither.He can do it. Had a baby recently and breastfeeding hormones are doing their best to sabotage sex, so while I could probably rally for 10 million, I reckon he'd get a lot more out of it than me right now 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 09:46 PM |
| 5 | Would you cheat for $10 million dollars; let your bf/husband cheat for $10 million; or neither.My husband and I have discussed this before and are in agreement that if anyone is crazy enough to offer us millions for a shag, then it's really in our best interests as a couple to accept that 😅 besides which we were together for months before we were monogamous and had threesomes separately and together during that time with no issues, so I don't think it would have any negative impact on our relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 09:36 PM |
| 2 | To both men and women: Tell me your requirements for a partnerAtheist lefty slut, beloved by grannies, animals and children. Enjoys food, rock/metal gigs and camping. Able (and willing) to manage their own finances, work a washing machine/dishwasher/hoover, and cook a meal (but happy for me to cook the majority of the time). Non-smoker, light/occasional drinker, more appreciative of a cosy night in than a night out on the randan. A fellow millennial who can work a computer because I get fed up of having to teach people in work how to open task manager and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Would you rather date an NBA player or a nerdy tech geek?Not everyone has the bank of mummy and daddy pay for their thousands of dollars of Lego when they're 12, so maybe when they're older and have their own money they indulge a little in the hobby. It's not really any different to any other model building, like Warhammer etc - which plenty of adults also do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Who would you rather pick for a partner and why?Are you really young or something? Most adults don't "party much" so it's not a deal-breaker to many women unless they're 19 probably. And no one dates a clone of themselves, so you're always going to have hobbies that aren't in common with each other. I don't personally enjoy Warhammer or 3D printing but it's not a negative that my husband has those hobbies. Just like he isn't into embroidery but he doesn't think it's a negative that I am. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Is it a red flag if a man doesn't own a home?No, not a red flag to not own. A compatibility issue if they didn't want to ever own though, or wanted to wait until they were much older. I bought my own place when I was 25 and then later my husband and I bought a place together. I rented for 7 years prior to that and there's a lack of stability - your landlord can decide to raise rent or sell up or whatever - and I didn't want to have children while I was renting due to that. It also makes things really tricky if you want pets as a lot of ren… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 03:43 AM |
| 6 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Is it specifically her getting down on all fours you have a problem with? Because there are other positions for anal too, are they okay? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 08:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you have so much confidence or ego?I have a great life, and I judge that by what's important to me and not what's important to other people. I could scroll social media and it could tell me I need to have a gigantic house and a 6 figure salary to be happy, or I need 11 kids and a tradwife lifestyle, or to have washboard abs and hang out on yachts or whatever lifestyles people try and sell online. But I'd rather focus on achieving the things that actually make me happy, and not what someone online tells me should make me happy. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 04:46 PM |
| 14 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Because a dick pic is personal and directed, as it's sent to a specific person. Whereas out and about it's not (unless they're purposefully flashing someone, which is really the irl equivalent of a dick pic and thus objectionable). And wearing tight or revealing clothes is completely different to waving your naked wang in someone's face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 05:36 PM |
| – | Is it true that women view average-sized guys as small?These people are lying. They're not having sex, they're sending a dick pic and asking for feedback, and the recipients are saying whatever they know the guy doesn't want to hear because they're annoyed at the unwanted dick pic. Guys who actually get sex don't ask for feedback on their penis, because they're not that fucking insecure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 09:02 AM |
| – | Is it true that women view average-sized guys as small?A 9" dick sounds absolutely miserable. Would genuinely hate to have sex with that (sorry for anyone reading who has a massive dong, know you can't help it). Just ouch, really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Why use dating apps for casual sex when there are bars/clubs?I've done both. When I was hooking up from bars and clubs I was a student and I was out all the time with my friends, and the hook ups were just incidental because that's where I happened to be spending my time. When on tinder I worked full time and while I'd still do bars/clubs occasionally, my social life was far more geared towards going out for dinner with friends, or having a night in together, or doing stuff during the day like hiking or whatever. I didn't want to drag myself out to a club… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 03:27 AM |
| 3 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?These women can tell me "lets just hookup and see where things go" and I'll happily accept that proposition, but I'm not good looking enough for that. That's not actually how it works though. I have never once ever said that to anyone. That's not how casual sex generally starts. Sounds like you're approaching people to date, which is then what you get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?Again, not the premise of the OP - which is that you can have a relationship, just not casual sex. Attraction is different to everyone and everyone has different thresholds and limits. I've had casual sex with people I found ugly but were a good laugh. I would also certainly never have entertained a relationship with most of my casual sex partners. A relationship needs a combo of compatibility and some level of attraction, so if he can have relationships (which he apparently seems to be able to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 09:02 AM |
| 4 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?She's quite simply incorrect. Looks are not the cost of entry for casual sex. It's much more about being in the right place at the right time. But lots of guys count themselves out of casual sex because they overthink it. I met up with a fairly ugly guy once - who I was meeting for the express purpose of a hook up - who had good chat which is why I'd gone for it. Until we met in person and then he was irritatingly self-deprecating (clearly didn't believe he was attractive enough for casual sex) … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?It doesn't back up the premise of the post though, which appears to be that women are happy to get together with people they wouldn't have casual sex with, they just won't have casual sex with them. Which is not the case in my experience. He's purposefully removing himself from casual sex considerations by only dating for a relationship, thus will only attract people looking for a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 08:37 AM |
| – | What are the signs of a cheater?Most of these are just signs of someone who wants sex too! Can't text or call at certain times Phone on DND When I was on tinder I worked really long awkward shifts and I couldn't have my phone out during work hours because it wasn't that kind of job. So I had really specific times I could text or call. Won't add you on social media Would never add a casual sex partner on social media, because I had no interest in doing so. I only add actual friends or family. Can only hang out at certain times/… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:58 AM |
| -1 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?There's nothing different. Everyone I know who had casual sex, got into a relationship with someone they started out having casual sex with. If you're only dating for relationships then that's what you'll get - people who are also looking for relationships, not casual sex. And I've known some incredibly ugly and awkward guys who have had casual sex, so if you're not getting any then you're probably just never in the right place/right time, or you've locked yourself out of it because you've decid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:46 AM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADMaybe it makes a difference to him? It's okay for people to like their hair and be happy with how they look and to find it jarring when they don't have that any more. I don't think guys need to get hair transplants or whatever, if my husband goes bald I'll still fancy the pants off of him. But if he wanted to get a hair transplant or wear a hairpiece or whatever because it's the look he prefers then I'd be supportive of that. I'm going through the post-partum hair loss stage just now and I'm she… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 09:46 AM |
| 2 | What’s a fair exchange when one partner is the homemaker and the other provides financially?Heavily dependent on where you live and your circumstances. When I was single I rented a flat by myself with no one sharing. I bought my first flat by myself although I was with my husband at that point and he later moved in, but the flat I bought was nicer and bigger (both two bedrooms but the new flat had a bigger kitchen and additional bathroom so more suitable for 2 person accommodation) and it was cheaper than the rented flat by about £100 per month (even though the one I bought had factor'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 09:38 AM |
| 0 | The 50/50 model is a bad deal for women. It's just a roommate situation with sex, and it becomes outright exploitative if you have kids.I don't think you understand what 50/50 means. It's 50/50 in finances (if you earn similar amounts - realistically if there's a drastic difference in income you should split finances proportionally) and 50/50 in effort and time. In a 50/50 relationship, you wouldn't be splitting finances and then left holding the bag for chores, because that's not what 50/50 means. It also doesn't mean splitting every single task equally down the middle, because that's not practical or sensible. You do things ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 09:16 AM |
| 4 | Women, seriously, what the hell is so important about wedding photos?What a very weird point of view. For a lot of people, weddings are one of the few times all their family will be together (aside from funerals which isn't really a photo moment). They're busy and fun days, and unless your guest list brought cameras or now, sits with their phones out, you simply wouldn't get spur of the moment photos and generally wouldn't have photos of the event at all. I can only imagine you've either never been to a wedding or you've only ever seen novelty wedding photos, bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Women, seriously, what the hell is so important about wedding photos?Desperate for what, exactly? And why tacky? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Women, seriously, what the hell is so important about wedding photos?... You think pictures of a couple getting married look tacky and desperate? Why? Is this a judgement you hold for all photos, or just photos of major life events? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | How many are looking for a financially equal relationship?That's what I wanted and that's what I have. We earn about the same so we have a joint account for joint expenses - mortgage, food, utilities, dates etc. We pay sole expenses from our sole accounts - we each have a car so handle the car expenses individually, and do our own mobile phone expenses. We also do gifts from our sole accounts but we agree a gift budget beforehand for Christmas and birthdays. For anniversaries we just tend to go for a meal so that's from the joint account. We have a cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 08:14 AM |
| 8 | What if men were shown more compassion?Andy's man club is specifically male-only and there are groups around the country. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/25 07:55 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Go have a look at some of the food related subreddits and you will see that no, people in general do not seem to eat vegetables! Just saw someone post a "meal" of mince, chips and bread 😫 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many modern TV shows and movies include anti-male themes? Why is it socially acceptable for today’s media to portray men so negatively?Star Wars prequel: men are weak or hateful, Rey is badass who can do anything. Realistically there are 3 kinda main characters - along with Rey you have Finn & Poe. Poe is basically a very cool badass who can do anything, and Finn is more complex but essentially is a good person at heart who wants to do the right thing and when confronted with hard situations fights his urge to flee in order to do the right thing. It's really on you if you've just laser focused on Rey being badass and completely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 10:17 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵What people find physically attractive can and usually does change over time. I don't know if ppd men don't understand this because you're all convinced that only teenagers are attractive and you'll still only want teenagers when you're 60, but for normal people physical preferences do actually change over time. Like, when I was a teen blonde and fresh-faced Legolas was where it was at, but as I got older Pippin swiftly overtook him. It's also quite reasonable to expect that someone who's young … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 09:45 AM |
| 2 | What is it you actually like about men?Same as with women, I don't like (or dislike) men in general. I like specific men based on their specific traits/personality, and that might be wildly different from the next man I like. Like, I have two male colleagues and I like them both but they're very different: one pretty much keeps to himself but when he does chat he's got a good dry sense of humor, he's honest and doesn't really put up with work crap. He also has a good appreciation for good food so we talk about food quite a lot 😅 wher… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Would you have hooked up with all your past boyfriends?Yep. With my first bf we kept hooking up after we'd broken up - sex and attraction was never what didn't work about the relationship. With my second, I had a massive crush on him at school and then moved away and we reconnected later, and we hooked up on 2nd date before any kind of relationship talk had started. And with my husband, I met him specifically to hook up so hooking up is how we started off. The threshold for a hook up is a lot lower than a relationship though. I've hooked up with lot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/25 08:30 PM |
| 2 | I don’t think a women needs a expensive wedding ring even for $500If people don't want to wear a ring they shouldn't bother. But generally if you are going to wear a wedding ring you want it to be something durable and nice enough that you want to wear it for life. It's not just a woman thing either - my husband's wedding ring was slightly more expensive than mine, but the most important thing is that it's a ring he likes, will wear, and will last him. Same with mine. And no, no one needs that, but no one needs a car or more than one pair of shoes, food that t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 07:17 PM |
| 1 | do you think marriages where one partner is away for work often are more successful?I feel like COVID just proved that a lot of people are in relationships with people they don't really like that much. A relationship only lasting longer because they don't have to put up with each other isn't what I'd define as "successful". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/25 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Women in the past were not unhappy in their marriages, modern women's psychology have just adapted to modern societyI once read an excerpt from a book of letters published around 100 years ago. It was letters from women who wanted to be able to use contraception, and while marriage satisfaction wasn't the focus ("too many children" was the focus) there was a strong theme of deeply unhappy women stuck in shitty marriages with men they hated. Women who had been married off as kids, women who were in a marriage made only because they needed to get married and there was no love in it, women who needed to stop hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 10:30 AM |
| 0 | Most modern men lack the emotional maturity needed to raise a healthy and successful child in today's worldNormal men sleep with and date other women before meeting one they want to marry/have babies with. It's incredibly normal and standard for both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Most modern men lack the emotional maturity needed to raise a healthy and successful child in today's worldPlenty women do and then you all whine about them just settling. Or get butt-hurt about "husband material" which generally also means "father material", but is apparently the greatest insult of all time to guys on this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 07:24 PM |
| – | Where do you draw the line between “being used” and “just a breakup”?I knew a guy who was in a relationship, where the woman had asked him out and he'd accepted, knowing that he didn't really like her and found her annoying. He would complain about her to others and admitted he was only with her because she'd shown interest and he thought he should be in a relationship. I'd say that's being used. Whereas if he'd liked her initially, only to break up with her because he realised he found her annoying in large doses - that's just a break up. Although I don't know i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 08:23 AM |
| 5 | How would you want to be told that your married partner is sleeping around?A direct message with some sort of screenshot is probably best. Early in my relationship a friend did send me a screenshot of my now-husband's tinder profile with just a kind of factual "hey, I was on tinder and came across this profile. May be nothing but I thought you should know" kind of thing. In this case, we both still had our profiles open as we'd recently had a threesome with someone from tinder and were considering looking for someone else, so I was aware and it wasn't anything shady. B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 11:21 AM |
| – | Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that.You're speaking as if you never have - or certainly only ever for very short stretches of time. Do you have kids? Have you been the long-term primary caregiver of a child? Because it doesn't sound like you have. I certainly thought babies were pretty easy when I just babysat my nephew for a day or had him overnight. It's not the same as being there all the time. With people who have babies right now, in most cases the grandparents are still working. My mum works full time, sometimes 60+ hour wee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 09:35 AM |
| – | Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that.I wouldn't describe a baby that only can be put down if they're deep asleep or they'll cry as very calm though But this applies to almost all babies. Not throughout their entire babyhood, but it's a natural instinct for babies to cry when they're put down. It's normal and pretty much everyone will experience this at some point with their baby. Also my experience is when there is a strong support system. The new mom shouldn't also have to take out the trash, and wash the pump I don't take out the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 09:06 AM |
| – | Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that.If you don't do the dishes, you won't have any dishes to eat off of. You'll get smells and bugs in the kitchen. Dishes do actually need to be done, it's not a "nice to do" activity that can be neglected. You also need a clean, clear surface available for sorting out milk storage or prepping bottles etc, which you won't have if you just neglect the kitchen. Plus if you leave it for a few days it suddenly becomes a massive and much more difficult task. Whereas doing them little and often keeps it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 08:33 AM |
| – | Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that.I have a pretty "good" baby. He's not much of a crier, he's pretty chill in general. But it's still constant and hard. It's not "every few hours" it's 3 hours maximum and almost never that long (and certainly not during the day). Even when there's a 3 hour gap, with a newborn you have to feed them again 3 hours from the start of the last feed, not the end. When they're little they don't feed efficiently. So they wake up, need changed, then can spend nearly an hour feeding, then need changed agai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 08:25 AM |
| 2 | People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women.Realistically until they're in nursery or school, that's always going to be the case. Even once they're sleeping through the night you still need to be actively caring for them like 12 or more hours a day. And even once they're in nursery or school, it would be pretty shitty parenting to just wash your hands of your kid and leave it to the other parent because you've been at work. If you don't want to parent, don't have kids. If you want kids then you need to take responsibility for them. Childr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 01:02 AM |
| 8 | People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women.Babies sleeping doesn't always mean the parent is getting a break. Obviously as they get older this is a bit different but certainly in the early stages! We're 7 weeks in and my baby is asleep on me. I can't sleep because it's not safe to do so. My husband and I have been trying to put him down for the past 7 hours and the most we've managed is 10 minutes before the screaming starts. My husband had him downstairs for a couple of hours so I could rest, and I took over about half an hour ago so he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 11:54 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I think the employee is a worse parent. I'm seeing many useless older teenagers/early 20s people enter the workforce and it's partly due to this kind of coddling, where their parents do everything for them. When I was 17 I got myself a job and I got myself there and back again with my own money and not relying on lifts from a parent. A 19 year old should get themselves to and from work. And little kids can fly unaccompanied (or they could, don't know if that's still a thing) a 16 year old defini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:40 PM |
| 5 | Men are fundamentally unsuitable for long term relationshipsToo much to lose for the average Joe Judging by the amount of asshole average to below men I've encountered, they clearly have never received this memo. Assholes be assholes, whether it serves them well or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:13 AM |
| 6 | What’s your advice to men who are too empathetic?Create boundaries. Consider people's actions separately to how you feel about them - for instance, are you just tolerating this behaviour because you like them/want to be friends/don't want them to leave? Or are you genuinely happy with what they're doing? I think this can sometimes be a difficult distinction for people to make so it can require a bit of thought - sometimes considering what you would tell a friend to do in your situation can be helpful. And learn the value of the word "no". It's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:05 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵They can be a slippery slope but if you're sensible with it, will be great for your credit score and handy to have in a pinch. Watch though - I don't know if it's the same where you are, but with my bank in the UK if you're responsible with it then they keep automatically increasing the limit just to try and tempt you to spend more. I now have an £11k credit limit I never applied for, when I think it was probably about £1k when I originally opened the card 😱 so it can be easy to sucked in over y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 09:33 PM |
| 6 | What makes a guy boring?Why do you keep mentioning kids? Realistically you're going to make a decision on whether or not someone has a boring lifestyle before you decide to date them, so kids are irrelevant here, unless you're dating a single parent. Yes your life may become a bit more monotonous for a while when you have very young kids, but that's a decision you make together, so you kind of opt in to it. But you need to have a personality before that (or you will never have one, and just be one of those people who h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 09:43 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵My husband has said to me that it's nice to know what it's like to have a number one fan, and that I make it very clear how attractive I find him, so hopefully I can help with this 😅 I compliment him all the time. Any time I think he's looking particularly fine, or I just look at him and remember how hot he is, I make sure to tell him. I touch him all the time. If he bends over he gets a bum grope, slap or hump. I like to ask him to flash me. And I come in and ogle his naked soapy body when he's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 03:17 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever been shamed for sleeping around?Not really. Probably on this sub but not anything specific I can recall. Never from a person I knew in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever benefited from gender-specific privileges?I'm currently on maternity leave. My husband had to go back to work yesterday after 5 weeks off (3 weeks off which were holiday leave and not actual paternity leave), but I won't have to return to work until July next year. Technically we have the option to share leave, so I could sacrifice some of mine and he could take it instead. But since I'm breastfeeding it's not a workable option. It would be far better if he was allowed a longer time off, with better pay, alongside what I'm offered - ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Do you basically use hookups to get with men who otherwise wouldn’t consider you?Considering I initially met my husband for a hook up and now we're married, no. I just hooked up with people I wanted to hook up with. Hooking up was my only motivation, and just so happened that one of them led to more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 06:54 PM |
| 7 | Therapy is harmful and doesn't actually help women. Men should not go to therapy.I found therapy very helpful. How helpful it is will depend on your issue(s), what you're looking to get out of it, how much you engage with it, and how good your therapist is. Mine talked me through specific tools that I could use to help myself, and I found it helpful to have the accountability - "I know she's going to ask me about this next week so I need to make sure I do it". I didn't enjoy it - in fact I dreaded it every week. But it gave me practical tools to manage the symptoms of anxiet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 10:33 AM |
| – | Sexual compatibility isn't a real thing.Hard disagree. Sexual compatibility is very real. It encompasses a range of things - from your libidos, how you handle not having sex (are you both on board with dirty sex if you're not in the mood or are you comfortable to not have sex without it feeling like a rejection etc), what kind of things you like and dislike, how you view sex in general (is it super special magic to have only with the love of your life or is it a fun activity to be shared with any amount of commenting adults etc). Thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 11:12 AM |
| 3 | Why do women seem to dislike men who like fishing?I never did see anyone with a fish pic on tinder. Dunno if that's because I live in the UK or because I live in a city or a combo of both! I wouldn't have a problem with it if I did see it, but overall I disagree with many of the points you've made: I don't know many people who fish, but most of them actually don't like eating fish. My 9 year old nephew can fish, and when he caught some big ones he wanted to eat them out of pride (despite not normally liking to eat fish). His dad (my sister's hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 10:59 PM |
| 9 | How would you react if you found out the man you were dating had a 'slut phase'?Your the one who said you'd throw a guy away if he became vanilla farther into the relationship. Maybe learn to read before trying to have discussions online, because that's not what I said. Also what do you kinky women even want? You are so proud to go around online talking about being "kinky" and disparaging vanillas sex but I notice when I ask about your sexual proclivities, even online, you go mute. Sounds like you are ashamed of your kinkiness, you can't even name it out loud. Where the fuc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 01:30 PM |
| 15 | How would you react if you found out the man you were dating had a 'slut phase'?Sexual compatibility is a must for a relationship. There is literally no point in continuing an early stage relationship without it. Men are the first to complain when they're not getting their sexual desires met in a relationship, but somehow you're pulling me up because, what, as a woman I should just put up and shut up? So you want men to cater to you sexually That's not what I said. I don't want someone to just cater to me regardless of their desires. I want to be with someone who's sexual d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 12:50 PM |
| 3 | No women should be excited to get married in 2025I don't see the point in being excited for marriage as a general concept, but being excited to be married to a specific person you have that kind of relationship with is different. Statistics and trends aren't absolute and generally I think it's stupid to base your relationship goals on statistics - do what makes you happy, not what seems like it might have the best outcome statistically. My husband shares equally in the chores in general. Currently he's doing most of them because I'm recovering… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 09:43 AM |
| 16 | How would you react if you found out the man you were dating had a 'slut phase'?My husband and I met during our respective slut phases and do all our kinky stuff together. In any case, I base my relationship happiness on whether I'm happy in that relationship, and not on how someone acted in previous relationships. If he wasn't sexually adventurous with me I wouldn't want to be with him regardless of what he'd done with others in the past - if he was vanilla with me then we wouldn't be compatible. It's meaningless whether or not he'd been consistently vanilla in the past. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 08:45 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵But that has literally nothing to do with how you look in comparison to them. Basing attraction on whether you look nice together in pictures is disgustingly shallow and is exactly the kind of thing men on here accuse women of doing (and very strongly assert that it's a bad thing). But suddenly if a woman's using it to shame herself for how she looks it's not only fine and dandy, it's the only way she can show she loves someone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I can’t imagine most women who actually love the dude they are with would want to have the comparison photos, How is this anything to do with love? Caring about how you and your partner look in comparison to each other is just shallow idiocy. You certainly wouldn't think it was about love if a woman wanted a guy to put more effort into his appearance for the comparison photos. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 05:58 PM |
| 34 | What do you think separates women who have good experiences with casual sex from those who don't?I had almost exclusively good experiences with casual sex and I reckon some of the reasons are: I was genuinely only looking for casual and had no other expectations. I'm pretty confident about what I want and happy to communicate it. I would have open discussions before meeting people and only agree to meet people who fit in with what I was looking for and could also communicate openly about what they wanted. I don't have any shame around sex or any sexual hang ups. I was raised to be an atheis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 04:01 PM |
| 3 | If I want to know what kind of men women truly find desirable, should I look at (A) husbands OR (B) the men you are crushing on, flirting with, swiping right on, hooking up, having sexual flings, FWB and situation-ships with?No. You're taking your own personal experience and equating it to all mediocre looking men. That's a mistake. Plenty mediocre looking men get flings and ONS and have people crushing on them. Why you specifically don't get that is unknown. Maybe it's your lifestyle, the particular area you live, the type of women you're attracted to. There are so many variables. I will say that a lot of guys on this sub are incredibly sexually damaged - puritanical when it comes to women's sexuality and massively… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/25 10:22 AM |
| 4 | If I want to know what kind of men women truly find desirable, should I look at (A) husbands OR (B) the men you are crushing on, flirting with, swiping right on, hooking up, having sexual flings, FWB and situation-ships with?No, I've seen plenty of guys get laid and have flings and be crushed on who were all shapes, sizes and levels of attractiveness. You just ignore that because no one wants to have sex with you specifically, so you make up stuff in your head to justify why it's happening. The guys on this sub invent all sorts of theories and checklists and logic to try and make themselves feel better. But actually in reality women casually bang ugly guys all the time. There's no logic, no checklists, the theories … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/25 10:04 AM |
| 0 | If I want to know what kind of men women truly find desirable, should I look at (A) husbands OR (B) the men you are crushing on, flirting with, swiping right on, hooking up, having sexual flings, FWB and situation-ships with?Depends on the person really. I met my husband on tinder and we were hooking up at first until we fell for each other, but my sister did say how he is the epitome of what I find attractive. So he's a good indicator of what I find desirable. But I have also had crushes and hook ups with guys I didn't find desirable - crushes where I found them desirable temporarily because something triggered a crush, and hook ups with a range of people from those I thought were hot to those that I thought were u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/25 07:31 AM |
| 0 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵You're a man who apparently can't keep a relationship - I put no stock in your opinions on what you think women want. I'm a woman and I'm married, with most women I know married or in LTRs. Women in general definitely prefer stable and chill to toxic and "exciting", except if said woman happens to also be toxic, or a bit young and stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 07:24 PM |
| -1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵You sound like you are still very young, and have terrible taste in women. Most relationships do not require drama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 05:59 PM |
| 7 | If women claim to hate guys who pay for sex workers then why do they buy male hookers for bachelorette parties?Probably not the same people. I've never been to a hen do with strippers nor do I know anyone who's been to one. It's not common at all. Whereas I do know quite a few guys who've been to strip clubs as part of a stag do. Seems to be a lot more common. And the majority of clients of male prostitutes are other men. Women are just a lot less likely to pay for sex than men are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 02:02 PM |
| 4 | Women, do you think men who work from home are less masculine?You're still both working though. Before COVID more men worked from home than women. Now it's slightly more skewed towards women but only by a couple of % (27% of men in hybrid working environments compared to 29% of women, in the UK). It's just not a gendered thing and I'm pretty sure you're the only person who thinks it might be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 06:46 AM |
| 26 | If most women don’t care about size & can’t orgasm from PIV, isn’t PIV sex inherently misogynistic?Things can still be pleasurable when they don't result in orgasm - PIV still feels good and is fun. And good sex generally does involve a mix of focuses, for most people good sex isn't just a case of sticking it straight in and doing PIV and nothing else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/25 10:06 AM |
| 27 | Only Women, Children and Pets Are Loved Unconditionally.Oh shut the fuck up with this bullshit. Honestly do you not have anything better to do than just bleat nonsense you've scraped up from someone else? No one is loved unconditionally. It's just not a thing. If it were people wouldn't abuse or kill their pets, children, spouses. Get a grip on reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 09:39 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about the 45% of all men who have never approached a woman?Stop misrepresenting the data. You keep going on about it as if it's all men when it's nowhere near, and as if not approaching women in person somehow means they don't approach at all - for younger people in particular OLD is a particularly popular way to meet people and for all you know every single one of those guys in the study have approached via OLD. Basically you don't know anything, you're blatantly lying about a study to make it seem like a big deal, and then you're making up a bunch of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 10:18 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?I read his post. My response still stands. It's a moral issue and not one of attractiveness. I don't see why you would assume this means I haven't read his post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 09:06 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?So, I've explained to you why you're naive - you don't seem to have a grasp on how the world actually works. Lots of people go to sex workers for all sorts of reasons and most of them are not related to looks or the ability to get sex. You're just throwing out "naive" because you don't have an argument, and you have no basis or explanation for it. So come on, why are blue pillers naive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:56 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?It's not rejecting someone because other girls have already rejected him, it's rejecting someone for using sex workers. There is an enormous difference. And nope. Take responsibility for your own actions. You choose to do something that makes you a bad person, that's on you. To blame someone rejecting you - that's just pathetic. And people who use sex workers are not exclusively or probably even mostly people who can't get sex elsewhere. Plenty of people in relationships cheat with sex workers, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:54 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?You are deeply naive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:43 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?I don't really get your point. People can and will do what they like, that doesn't mean I have to date them or pretend their choices are okay. And yeah, I can say "just don't have sex". It's far better than the alternative, and they do have a choice. There is the choice to do it, or not to do it, and they chose wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:20 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?It is morality. There are plenty of people who can get sex for free who still go to sex workers. From all walks of life, all levels of attractiveness, all socioeconomic levels, all relationship statuses. Therefore it's very obviously not anything to do with "lack of attractiveness to get sex naturally", it's purely a moral issue. They're generally scummy people regardless of what they look like. It's not virtue signalling to be aware of this - in fact all the guys in the comments who don't seem … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:17 PM |
| – | Free the Nipple is the only example of women, as a group, advocating to give up their gendered privilegeBut women do get charged more for health insurance anyway, and if your car insurance laws were the same then men would still get charged more. So it doesn't make any difference. Do you understand what I'm saying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 07:10 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?What government records? Everything I can see agrees that sex trafficking does in fact exist in the Netherlands. So whatever fake records you're referring to probably are meaningless, yes. https://home-affairs.ec.europa.eu/policies/internal-security/organised-crime-and-human-trafficking/together-against-trafficking-human-beings/eu-countries/netherlands_en https://www.coe.int/en/web/anti-human-trafficking/-/greta-publishes-its-third-report-on-the-netherlands https://www.state.gov/reports/2024-tra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 03:28 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?I just don't think people who pay someone for sex view sex in the same way as me. They see it and the person's body as a commodity, otherwise it would never occur to them to do it. Therefore we're fundamentally incompatible. Not to mention the risks of sex trafficking etc - you have very little way of knowing if the person you've bought is there by their own free will or not and it's disgusting to me that anyone would even consider sex under those circumstances. And just from hearing and reading… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 12:41 PM |
| – | WHY would you not date someone who has a paid for sex before?You still can't be confident of anything. The Netherlands has problems with trafficking just like anywhere else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 12:23 PM |
| – | Free the Nipple is the only example of women, as a group, advocating to give up their gendered privilegeBut women do get charged more for health insurance than men, so I don't get your point. There aren't extra expenses for men and not women. Women pay more for healthcare, men pay more for insurance. I don't understand how you're not getting this. It's illegal here to charge men more for car insurance just because they're men, but they still pay more anyway because when they're looked at individually they're riskier. Just like it may well be illegal on paper to charge women more for health premium… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 11:00 AM |
| – | Free the Nipple is the only example of women, as a group, advocating to give up their gendered privilegeBecause they're statistically more likely to need it. And women pay more for long term care insurance than men because they're statistically more likely to need it. Some articles I've seen said women do pay more for their general health insurance premiums too (up to 30% more) because they're statistically more likely to need it. And young drivers who have just passed pay more than older drivers who have just passed, because they're statistically more likely to need it. It's all the same, so agai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 10:23 AM |
| – | Free the Nipple is the only example of women, as a group, advocating to give up their gendered privilegeWay to completely miss the point. The exact same thing can be said for men paying higher car insurance premiums. So how exactly is this discrimination or privilege for either party? Men use car insurance more because they cause more accidents than women and obtain more damage to their cars that requires insurance. Women pay more for healthcare because they use it more (both because of female-specific healthcare like pregnancy, and because men are just less likely to seek healthcare even when the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 09:53 AM |
| – | Free the Nipple is the only example of women, as a group, advocating to give up their gendered privilegeOn the health/car insurance thing. I'm in the UK so it's a bit different because it is already illegal to charge more for car insurance just because you're a man. However, instead they look at individuals and your driving performance - so men get charged more anyway because they're worse drivers - https://passmefast.co.uk/ And even though in the US you can't charge more for health insurance based on gender, women still pay significantly more for their healthcare, because they use it more - https… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/25 09:39 AM |
| 1 | What do women even offer?If it is all women in your circles then yes, that will comprise of people you have chosen to be in your life. Unless you have absolutely no female friends at all and don't really know these women, in which case you're probably just making up their personalities since you have no way of knowing what they're actually like around other people. Men tend to have personalities, women? Not so much, at least not some original ones This just isn't true though, and demonstrates that you have no personalit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/25 09:33 AM |
| 1 | What do women even offer?I don’t choose to surround myself with them, they happen to be in groups I am in as well. So you do choose to surround yourself with them. You could go and make other friends. It is true about men being in similar boat, except the men are also expected to do everything when courting a woman only for a sliver of a chance to get into a relationship with somewhat decent woman (decent in a very broad sense). That’s why there is a dissonance of between the fact that not only men have to put in all th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 10:57 PM |
| 1 | What do women even offer?If that's what your social circle is like I refuse to believe you're any more than as basic as that, and you're just fooling yourself into believing you're not. Not one person in my social circle is like that, because I'm an actual person with an actual life and the people I choose to spend time with are the same. If you choose to surround yourself with boring and passive people then you're probably the same, you just don't have the self reflection skills to realise it. There are swathes of men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/25 10:37 PM |
| – | Would you date a man who is unemployed or starting his own business?My husband was unemployed when I started dating him, didn't bother me. He had some savings and also got benefits and was able to live sensibly within his means until he got a job a few months later, which is the more important thing. My ex was employed but shite with money and racked up debts, and I'd far rather be with someone unemployed but able to manage their finances than someone employed but reckless with money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 10:56 AM |
| 0 | Would You Date A Man With The Following Qualities?No No Depends on the extent. Fine if they dislike the gym, aren't sporty etc. But should like some outdoors movement at least (walks, hikes, canoeing/kayaking etc) and be willing to run around with kids. No No As long as I'm satisfied with our sex life. I've never known the frequency of porn usage in any of my relationships, they could all have watched it 3x a day for all I know. No No Yes Yes No Yes Probably not No No Yes No Yes If we got on, were compatible and were at the same life stage then… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches?Obviously nothing illegal but tbh I neither know nor care what kind of porn my husband watches, it's not really something I think about. I guess it would be an issue if he was getting something from porn that he needed to feel aroused and it started to bleed into our sex life, if it was something I wasn't into. But that hasn't happened so purely theoretical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, In an AI Utopia with UBI, What Kind of Guy Would You Chase?Would change literally nothing for me. I was financially secure and my husband was unemployed when we met. I obviously had absolutely no thoughts of him providing or anything like it, so if we'd had UBI and been on equal footing financially it would have made no difference. He's a hot dimpled ginger who's great in bed, sweet, kind and funny and was willing to try eating eel on our first date. I'm always going to find those things attractive no matter how the world changes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/25 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do You Feel Guilty About Anything You Have Done to a Man?I answered the question. What else are people going to feel guilty about? If you do something to purposefully hurt someone else you're probably less likely to feel that guilty about it, since the kind of people who go out to purposefully hurt others can normally justify it to themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 01:04 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do You Feel Guilty About Anything You Have Done to a Man?I once accidentally elbowed my husband in the head when I turned over in bed with too much wild abandon. I apologised profusely and stroked/kissed his head in penance. In general though, not particularly. I try not to treat people in ways I'll feel guilty about (men or women). If I've been a bit grumpy about something I'll apologise. If I make a mistake that's impacted someone else I'll apologise and try to fix it. But like most normal people I'm not really out here doing lots of crappy stuff I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Who pays?I would always split on first dates, or pay for one part while they get the other. For me or was never an indication I wasn't that interested, I just feel really uncomfortable letting people buy things for me and also I think it's an unfair and outdated expectation to just expect guys to pay for dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/25 09:42 AM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sUgh would you just give it a fucking rest. I do not agree with circumcision. I think it should be banned aside from medical necessity. However, you clearly do not care about circumcision. You care only about whether women grovel and apologise about it to you. If you actually cared, then you would be arguing against the man in your post waxing lyrical about circumcision and defending the right to do it. Instead of responding to all the women who state they're against it with repeated whining abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 09:09 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sNo, you just don't actually care about men's issues. You just don't like women. You have no interest in making anything better for other men. Bit sad really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 07:57 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sAgain, not comparable and not relevant. Moving out or not is nothing at all related to the sphere of bodily mutation. there are circumcision that simply splits open the foreskin and it remains there hanging. That sounds absolutely fucking barbaric and any man I know in his right mind would be wincing hard at that thought. Less sensitive does not mean losing pleasure. I would know as someone that was circumsized 25 years ago and I still feel intense pleasure. Your singular experience is worthless… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 07:03 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sPlenty of people in western society live with their parents well into adulthood. Also not comparable since it's not lopping off a body part. Besides, it does not kill sexual pleasure to be circumsized and it arguably makes it less sensitive You do realise this is a contradiction, right? It does kill sexual pleasure, by making the penis less sensitive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 06:48 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sIf they let their husband decide, they’re using the “I was just following orders” excuse, which hasn’t been valid since Nuremberg. Don't be ridiculous. When something is the cultural norm across your entire country and it's being recommended by doctors, you're not "following orders" if you leave it up to your husband to make a decision on it, as something that he has knowledge and experience of and she doesn't. Yes, my friends are from the UK so they already knew they were firmly against it. But… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 06:42 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sI disagree with it for teenagers unless it's medically necessary. If they want it as a cosmetic thing when an adult they can go for it and consent at that point. But if it's seen as a "rite of passage" then they're at risk of being pressured/coerced into giving "consent" because they feel they need to when it's not what they actually want. It can cause lifelong issues and change sexual pleasure, it's not at all comparable to getting ears pierced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 06:36 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sThat's quite clearly not the case since I've given several examples of initiatives that I applaud, that do not center women. I'm not familiar with Earl Silverman but from a quick read that doesn't sound at all like what happened. He got ridiculed by police (mostly men) didn't get funding from the government (mostly men). Do you have evidence for women cheering over him dying? As I've only found condolences and criticisms of the government from women. Mens shed is a massive organisation, and that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 03:34 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sProbably because it's almost never in a constructive way and is usually used as a way to derail efforts for women's issues. It's almost always framed as "women have this so it should be taken away from them" or jumping on the back of something about women to go "what about men", instead of starting an actual constructive discussion in its own place, under its own merit, and not as a complaint about women. On the rare occasions it is done properly, the reception is significantly better. I used to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 03:16 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sThey can do. Almost every woman tears or is cut during labour, and it can lead to lifelong problems. Not just with their external genitalia, but with cervical prolapse etc and a number of other complications that can lead to sexual dysfunction and incontinence. One of the popular treatments to resolve prolapse can cause lifelong pain, inability to have sex, scarring, infections etc. You're not helping yourself with your insistence on viewing this is as some sort of competition - "men don't have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 12:31 PM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sMothers do the majority of any admin relating to their children. That doesn't mean they made the decision on their own, or at all. I've seen a lot of women say they left it to their husband to decide, because he's the one with the penis, and he decided on it. Now I'm not saying that's right - I'm in the UK so circumcision not much of a thing here but I certainly wouldn't be having a baby with someone who was set on getting it done. But the problem in the US is it's too normalised and it's offere… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 11:27 AM |
| – | Women’s bodies are respected and protected more than men’sLiterally every time I argue against circumcision in males, it's been a guy passionately arguing for it and why it's great and beneficial and I should keep my nose out. I frequently see women, whether feminists or otherwise, say male circumcision is wrong. But men continue to fight to uphold it and protect their right to do it. So maybe it's them you should be discussing this with, not some imaginary feminist bogeyman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 09:59 AM |
| 2 | Why do some women seek Egalitarian marriages instead of partial or full Financial dependence on a man?I just don't want to be with someone for the sake of them buying me stuff. I was raised to look after myself, pay my own way, and to not accept other people paying my way for me. Other people aren't piggy banks that I can just shake when I want to buy something - if I want things I want to work for them and earn them myself. And I would much rather pick a relationship based on how compatible we are and how much I like them, rather than based on how much they make. I think that would be a very po… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you feel about men who live with their parents?Privacy, independence, learning to cope on your own. I moved out when I was 18 and loved it - I didn't need to as my family home was close enough to uni and work to travel in, but it was great. Good for the social aspect as well - people are more likely to go out and get involved in social events at uni if they live down the street as opposed to a half hour/hour train ride away, plus the social aspect of flatmates (which also teaches some good lessons about living with people you're not related … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 08:22 AM |
| 12 | Why do women usually judge women and men sexually more harshly than guys do ?Your observation skills are quite poor if that's what you've observed. It's extremely common for men to harshly judge any type of sex work that women do (though doesn't stop them voraciously consuming it whilst simultaneously claiming it's the downfall of society). Guys do care if women are bisexual. I've actually seen a ton of judgement of bisexual women from guys on this sub. Plenty of men will still date/sleep with bisexual women because they fetishize it. When I was on tinder, half the women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/25 11:39 PM |
| 5 | Women here give wildly contradictory answers depending on who they want to defeat in a argumentIs it not more likely they're just different people, and the ones answering one aren't aware of the stats on the other or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 03:27 PM |
| 1 | What's are your standards for short term involvements/flings(if any)?Personally liking someone enough to sleep with them a few times and liking them enough to actually spend a proper amount of time with them is a drastically different thing 😅 most people are fun in small doses but I'm never going to catch feels for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/25 02:20 PM |
| 7 | Do women actually reject men for being too big down there?Well not an outright rejection but I tried to have sex with someone once and we just couldn't do it because he was too big, so ended up stopping and not trying again. That was girth not length though. I haven't rejected anyone on length. Haven't ever seen any ridiculous sizes but there's been a handful where we needed to go a lot slower and it was limiting on positions due to length, so didn't reject in the first instance but declined to go back for more as it just made it a lot less fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 10:58 PM |
| 0 | Would you like to have a husband who is still a virgin?No. I was an adult when I got married, and had experienced a varied and active sex life. My husband was the same, and that's one of the reasons we're compatible. Adults in their late twenties or beyond who haven't had sex have very different outlooks on sex to me. They might be religious, they might believe sex is super special and must wait for "the one", they might just not really be very sexual, or like many men on this sub they desperately want sex and are very bitter and hate women because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceYes that's madness to me, because I know lots of couples where neither drive and a mix where one or other drives and plenty of men in relationships who don't drive. But I don't live in the US so car/driving culture is different here. Although I would expect even in the US it should depend on where you live. I wouldn't have thought someone living in, say, Manhattan, would be as strict on a driving requirement as someone in backwater Alabama where you can't get around otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 01:49 PM |
| 2 | the game plan for women?I never really had a set plan. When I finished high school my plan was to get a degree and I had no real thoughts beyond that. While doing my degree I thought I might move abroad, but then I didn't. I got together with my now-ex while at uni and after a while plans morphed into maybe buy a house, get married, have kids. That didn't work out. By that time I was 25 so my plans were to save up and either move abroad or buy a place myself within a year or so. Ended up saving up and buying myself a f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/25 08:45 AM |
| 10 | Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenienceThat's so specific and unlikely it's a very silly reason not to be with someone who can't drive. In most cases you'd have plenty of time to get there in a taxi or whatever and not even need the ambulance, so at most it might happen to you once in your life. And people do get taxis to the hospital for labour. People have given birth in taxis. They won't know you're in labour when you order it so they definitely won't refuse to come as they'd have no reason to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 10:27 AM |
| 6 | At what point does sexualization become objectifying and dehumanizing?But it's not "completely understandable" at all. It's rather a signal of a dysfunctional relationship. Jesus Christ no it's not. My husband and I objectify each other all the time - we grope, flash, make sexual innuendo etc throughout the day. But if one of us is having a hard time and talking about something that's important/upsetting etc we both have the respect and courtesy to listen to the other and not randomly inject sex into that scenario. I don't find it arousing when my husband is upset… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 09:07 AM |
| 3 | Dating outside of your education level.I don't really care. I went to uni but I don't think it's given me anything particularly amazing and niche that I'd feel the need to have in a partner. My previous LTR was with a guy who'd gone straight from school to an apprenticeship (electrician) and it was never an issue. Also, my husband went to uni and has the same job at the same company as my sister's husband, who didn't go to university, so while that's just one example, I don't feel uni is necessary for living a certain kind of life et… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 02:29 PM |
| 24 | What makes a woman want to sleep with a man, regardless of intentions?Getting sex is what they're getting in return. A woman sleeping with a guy isn't "giving her body to someone". It's a mutual decision between two people to do a fun activity together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for womenAnd what? That doesn't contradict people saying there aren't many worthy of a relationship. Whether they know beforehand or find out through experience, it still all gives the same result. Whether someone is worthy of a relationship or not has little to do with upfront attraction - otherwise no one would ever feel the need to end relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for womenWhat's your point and how is this comment related to anything I've said? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 01:31 PM |
| 3 | What % of men do you think are both unsuitable as relationship partners?"Not for me" should cut it though. Why wouldn't it? Most people aren't for most people, realistically. There are very few people you'll be properly compatible with to the level you need to be for a successful and long-lived romantic relationship. It isn't a critique or a failing on the part of the people who don't fit that bill - it's just life! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 11:00 PM |
| 2 | What % of men do you think are both unsuitable as relationship partners?Yes, there are lots of non-ambition related examples (or examples of too much ambition!) Maybe it should be substituted with “incompatible”, or some other word that doesn’t prop up the man artificially. It's not propping them up artificially though, they're still a great person and would be great for a relationship with a compatible person, if that's what they want. You seem to be seeing this as some sort of rejection or something that's a negative for the guy, but in a lot of these instances th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:52 PM |
| 5 | What % of men do you think are both unsuitable as relationship partners?But I still find it a little bit odd, when women say, “he is great! but not for me.” “Great” implies relationship material. And the “but not for me” typically implies an unmentionable lack of physical attraction. Great doesn't imply relationship material though, and "not for me" doesn't apply lack of attraction. I know lots of lovely and attractive guys who I would never date, because we just wouldn't have compatible lifestyles. Example - I knew a guy once who was hot, lovely, funny, good compan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 09:47 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for womenI didn't say they did. You're the one saying these so called worthy men are the ones cheating, when they aren't. If they cheat it simply means they aren't worthy and the relationship should end. The whole point of dating and early relationships is to check how compatible you are as partners and to check they're worthy of the relationship - that's why so many relationships end, because most of them aren't right for each other. If you're both suited to eachother, worthy of each other, faithful to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 09:33 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for womenHow did you get that from my comment? Random leapy leap there. I don't think most people choose someone they know is going to be unfaithful to them. Unfortunately you can't generally tell in advance, unless you think clairvoyance is real? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for womenPeople deem different people worthy. I think there are very few people worthy of being in a relationship with, but who I consider worthy will be an entirely different set of people to the next person. Premium men are faithful, because unfaithful men aren't premium. The problem you have is that you seem to have a very narrow view of what you think makes a man worthy of a relationship when it probably isn't actually what anyone else means when they say that. Given that you automatically assume the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 02:59 PM |
| 11 | How Do You Rank a Man’s "Sexual Market Value (SMV)"?There is no ranking. This isn't how attraction works. People don't have a little mental spreadsheet where they tot up a list of points and go with the highest ranking person. People might have an idea of how much different things matter to them, but at the end of the day it generally comes down to actual chemistry and how you get on with someone even if they don't tick the boxes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 10:28 AM |
| – | What is the reason that women have longer sexual experimentation leashes than guys do?Sharing lingerie and vibrators is news to me, I have never come across that in all my life. And being in a cubicle while someone pees is no different to peeing at a urinal in the presence of other guys. It's not like they're standing there staring at each other's bits - you can't actually see anything. In terms of wedding dress dressing - wedding dresses are very fiddly garments and often require a lot of the same attentions needed from the days when women needed a maid to help them dress. Fiddl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 11:37 AM |
| 17 | How many of you have ever mocked a guy based on dick size or know a woman who has?Probably when I was younger, but I'm a lot more conscious of the impact of words and not just throwing things out as insults now. I suppose a similar example is, here it's very common for people to go "ugh that's so gay" when annoyed about something. And if asked they'd probably say there's nothing wrong with being gay and they don't have a problem with it. But they're using it as a insult or to indicate frustration, so it reinforces negative connotations. It's the same with casually throwing ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 09:38 AM |
| 4 | Women, would you find it inappropriate for a man to cold approach you at a nice restaurant?Yes I'd find it really inappropriate. I don't want to be hit on when I'm with my mum and I'd find someone incredibly odd if hitting on me while they were meant to be out with their parents. Even if parents weren't involved, when you're at a restaurant generally you're specifically there to enjoy some food with the people you're there with, and it feels like it would be intrusive for someone to approach. Only exception would be maybe if you were both alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 07:04 AM |
| 9 | Why do you think some women settle for relationships with men who don’t share domestic responsibilities according to their preferences?It was up to her standards. Neat enough means acceptable levels of tidiness: "Enough" adverb to the required degree or extent She's also not a neat freak by any stretch of the imagination - my standards are far higher than hers. But his standards essentially don't seem to exist any more and that wasn't at all evident from when he lived on his own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Why do you think some women settle for relationships with men who don’t share domestic responsibilities according to their preferences?No, because they're not talking about levels of attractiveness, they're talking about levels of household effort. By that logic women and men should continue to put in the same levels of domestic effort they displayed during the dating period. Grooming and makeup are irrelevant to this discussion - no normal and reasonable person expects men or women to consistently put the same effort into their appearance every day for their entire life, because it's impractical and stupid (and personally I'd … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 07:23 AM |
| 17 | Why do you think some women settle for relationships with men who don’t share domestic responsibilities according to their preferences?You can't always tell. I remember when my mum and my stepdad didn't live together, his flat always seemed neat enough. They were together about 5 years before they properly moved in together. Turns out he's an enormous slob who's gotten worse as he gets older. It's just much easier for people to hide this before they live together and then by that time often I think the tidier person of the couple already feels they've invested too much time/feeling into the relationship to leave "just" because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Dear women that think, that men should support equality for women, against discrimination of women. Do you recognize discrimination of men? In which aspects? Did you say against it?Circumcision. I think the NHS here will only cover it for medical reasons, but people can still get it done privately for whatever reason and imo I don't think it should be allowed. Should be medical necessity only (unless you're an adult and want it and go through normal cosmetic surgery routes I guess, similar to how women can go get labiaplasty if they want). Paternity leave/pay. I get to take a year off work and most of it is paid as my work have a generous policy. For men at my work, they g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 10:18 AM |
| 13 | How often do you find yourself initiating intimacy with your partner? And when either of you isn’t feeling it, how do you handle that?We're physically intimate in some manner every day, usually at several points of the day. Fairly evenly initiated. We like to touch, kiss, cuddle, even if it's not going to lead to sex. We both think it's important to have frequent physical intimacy that doesn't lead to sex so it doesn't build the expectation that touching = sex and therefore days with no sex = no touching. From reading various threads across dead bedrooms, relationship advice subs etc I think this is where a lot of people go wr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 09:55 AM |
| 6 | Can there ever be a consensus on penis size for women ?Research isn't a consensus. You're supposed to use your brain and realise that, and not overthink yourself out of a happy relationship because you're hung up on some numbers that have nothing to do with you or your actual relationship. Focus on the person you're having sex with and communicate with them to make sure they're having a good time. That's what actually matters, the research is meaningless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 11:31 AM |
| 1 | How true is the notion that you all are lonely as well because of a lack of good options for boyfriends, not because of a lack of options in general.Most people work with other people and get social interaction from that. The rise in homeworking doesn't help with this (and at least on Reddit I see an increase in people moaning about the necessity of interacting with their colleagues), but most people see their colleagues regularly and are happy to socialise with them through the day. It's still pretty social even if you're not particularly close to your colleagues, but plenty of people have decent or close friendships with those they work wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 09:27 PM |
| – | As a woman, I agree that women are just as shallow as men for looks but not all men need to be "Chad" to be physically preferred.Lololol "charity work". Says a lot about your mindset. It isn't charity work, it isn't "generous", and it isn't pity sex to have sex with someone you're not attracted to, you absolute weirdo. It's mostly just circumstance and horniness and/or desperation and/or alcohol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 10:20 AM |
| – | As a woman, I agree that women are just as shallow as men for looks but not all men need to be "Chad" to be physically preferred.It's normally men saying that though. And if you thought it was women saying it, why on earth do you equate women saying they're having sex with people they aren't attracted to as them "pretending to be better than they really are"? It doesn't make anyone a better person (or worse really, it's probably morally neutral), and no one normal would ever think it does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Misconceptions about men and women "just being friends"I'm not really sure what point you're trying to make with your comments? Not the person you asked but my parents are in their mid-to-late 50s, and my mum's closest friend is a guy. She's also really good friends with his wife but was friends with the guy first. Friendships do drop off as people age but certainly when I was younger she had a big mixed friend group with men and women. My dad has a fair few female friends. My grandad has a mixed gender friendship group. I know other people whose pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?What are you even talking about? You're just ranting irrelevant shit now, what's the point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?That's a horrible instance of someone and her friends being dicks. Not actually relevant to the conversation at hand. And body shaming actually doesn't prove size matters - it proves that she knew what you/guys in general are insecure about and knew to weaponise it. Really shitty thing to do but again, not actually relevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?I'm not reading this wall of shite Big penises HURT They are UNCOMFORTABLE They are not pleasurable Ergo, smaller penises are better. It's nothing to do with that individual or what experiences I have had. It is to do with the fact that larger penises are physically too large, and are therefore not penises I want to be having sex with. There is nothing that can change that, and no experience that will make that different. I don't need to suffer through any more painful dicks to know this for a f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?No, I know none of you listen or care about women's experiences because you're all convinced you know what you're talking about. Which demonstrates to me that you're probably shit in bed because guys like that always are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?You’ve never experienced great sex or orgasms so you internalize that as fact when that doesn’t mean that I've experienced great sex and orgasms. And I know that larger dicks do not give great sex. Even when the guy is great and not doing anything that would cause the sex to be bad, the larger penis makes it less pleasurable. I can make comparisons between different experiences and come to informed conclusions based on that. That's all we can do. I have enough experience to know that larger dick… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?Pretty sure the OP never has. And even for those who have, easy to excuse yourself by assuming it's just a size thing instead of recognising personal failings in terms of actually being able to make sex pleasurable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?What an incredibly stupid question, statement and opinion. If all my experiences with large sizes were great and orgasm central, then I obviously would state a preference for large sizes since that's clearly what would then be doing it for me. Why on earth would someone go "well this felt amazing, have me exactly what I wanted. But I've decided I have a preference for this other thing that doesn't"? That would be ridiculous. Average penises feel better. They are more enjoyable, the experiences a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 02:52 PM |
| 13 | There is a certain behaviour ("damselling") in public that I see exclusively done by women. What is the real reason why those women are doing this?You make it very clear in your post that you think anyone visibly struggling with something is just faking it or putting on a show. I'm under 5ft. Luggage racks on trains and overhead compartments on planes are absolutely too high for me to comfortably reach, particularly hoisting a heavy piece of luggage directly over my head. I don't really like asking strangers for help so I will just go for it anyway (and if I know I'm going to be in this situation I try to pack as lightly as I can to make i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?Not everyone wants above average dicks in their life either 🤷 or realistically, most people probably have a comfortable range and it encompasses below/average/above. Lots of different things impact how a penis feels as well - general shape, girth, angle etc - all which can make a substantial difference in feeling even between penises of the same length. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 11:27 AM |
| 8 | Do women who say " size does matter" ,understand their bodies much better ?Jesus Christ. I've had a lot of sex, I've encountered a range of penises. I know my own body well enough to know what I like and dislike, and I certainly know my own body better than some random dude on the internet who has likely never seen or interacted with a naked woman irl. Just because a study or trend suggests a thing, doesn't mean that 100% of people conform to that. You surely must be aware that's not how it works, so why do you seem hell bent on insisting it does? People have different… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 11:11 AM |
| 13 | Do you feel threatened by women more attractive than you?No. I've never been in a jealous rage in my life, it's just not a way I ever spend my energy. People like who they like. If I like someone and there's someone else they like better it's no skin off my nose, regardless of how attractive the other person is. I also wouldn't assume that just because people are laughing and chatting means they're into one another - this is actually how normal people interact with each other, believe it or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 11:19 AM |
| 11 | What are some of the biggest misconceptions men have regarding women's attraction to size?Hah a wince was my exact reaction 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 09:17 AM |
| 6 | Why are mismatched libidos a problem if sex is not that important and you would rather be single than in a bad relationship?Again, they are extremely unlikely to be the ones who have a problem with their partner having a lower libido than them. Your question is flawed and makes incorrect assumptions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 04:32 PM |
| 11 | Why are mismatched libidos a problem if sex is not that important and you would rather be single than in a bad relationship?The women who think sex is unimportant are unlikely to think it's a problem if their partner has a lower libido than them, so it's a bit of a weird question. If you're bothered by someone having a lower libido then by definition you think sex is important. Ergo, your question is aimed at people who are unlikely to exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 04:25 PM |
| 8 | Why are mismatched libidos a problem if sex is not that important and you would rather be single than in a bad relationship?This isn't a thing that women specifically dislike - most people dislike it. People have different priorities for relationships and if you're going to be in one, you should be in one with someone who has similar priorities to you. Sex is important to me in a relationship. If I was single, I would be having sex, so I expect the same in a relationship. People who don't think sex is important should be with someone who agrees. And that's not to say temporary issues aren't fine - sex is important bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 04:15 PM |
| 10 | Q4W: For $1 million, would you be willing to permanently forgo sex/romance? If not, how much would you need?You can live in a mansion, fly on a private jet, have your favorite celebrities perform privately for you, travel the world on a luxury yacht, etc. None of these are things I would count as life experiences, or things I have any particular desire to do. Even if I was rich right now I wouldn't do any of those things, so seems a little silly to sacrifice my relationship to do things I have no interest in. Alternatively, I'm curious what your response to the follow up is. Imagine a time before you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 12:13 PM |
| 11 | Q4W: For $1 million, would you be willing to permanently forgo sex/romance? If not, how much would you need?No, not for any money. My husband means more to me than money, and imo money can't replace actual life experiences - sex/romance being one of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 12:02 PM |
| 0 | A lot of “icks” and turn-offs are just modern women reinforcing traditional gender roles while pretending to reject themYes. If you could read, you would realise I had addressed that. The difference is barely anything if and only if the other person picks up their end of the chores. The difference is enormous if the other person doesn't pull their weight, which seems frequently to be the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 05:10 PM |
| 0 | A lot of “icks” and turn-offs are just modern women reinforcing traditional gender roles while pretending to reject themA weirdly large amount of difference. I'm a very neat cook, I prep strategically to use as few dishes as possible, I clean as I go so it's never a daunting task (even without a dishwasher since I never had one until I was nearly 30). My clothes are small and light and I averaged one load of washing per week when I lived alone. My husband uses every dish available and can't clean as he cooks as it stresses him out, so the kitchen is an unmitigated disaster once he's finished. Things left out, dis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 04:17 PM |
| -1 | A lot of “icks” and turn-offs are just modern women reinforcing traditional gender roles while pretending to reject themYou do know that pressing the button doesn't serve a purpose, unless you also do the work of - scraping the plates, loading the dishwasher, unloading at the other end and putting everything in the correct place. Sorting laundry where necessary, doing stain removal stuff where needed, adding to machine, removing from machine, hanging out to dry, ironing what needs ironed, folding/hanging and putting away. Reducing it to "pressing a button" is just dismissive, since doing either of these chores ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 01:30 PM |
| 10 | Do women generally experience shame about sex and their sexuality?Mature men of the type that people actually want to spend time with don't do this. It's nothing to do with shame, it's basically just not being an inappropriate, immature arsehole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/25 12:07 PM |
| 6 | What part of a man's personality are women attracted to?It's a connection and vibe thing more than specific parts of their personality, unfortunately it's not really a tick list "if you meet these criteria I'll be attracted" Like, I like humour - but it needs to be humour on a par with mine. We both need to find each other funny and have a sense of humour that's relatable to the other. Kindness and a laid back approach but paired with self respect. If they're nice to people and don't get too het up about the little things, but don't accept being trea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 12:51 PM |
| 3 | How do women in relationships react when they meet a man significantly more attractive and more successful than their current partner?What is your metric for this relationship being "decent but nothing special", because then you go on to talk about dates but nothing lavish. You do know that's absolutely nothing to do with how decent or special a relationship is? I'm not with my husband for his ability to shower buckets of money on me. Earning about the same is pretty much ideal in LTRs. In addition, when I met my husband he was unemployed. So literally every person I met was financially better off than him. We were seeing othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 09:07 AM |
| 2 | how much internalized shame do you think you experienced from purity, sexual, and ect expectations?None. I wasn't raised in a puritanical culture. I don't live in the US or a very religious place which I think helps. I also come from a long line of atheists so I never had any kind of religious undertones to my upbringing. My mum is a scientist and very matter of fact, taught my sister and I about sex and how to have sex safely and make sure it was on our terms etc and not being pressured into things. Very much open and honest conversations with the assumption being that we would be having sex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 08:54 AM |
| 0 | Whats the true minimum?Minimum height. I'm under 5ft and have never met anyone I thought was too short. So none. Minimum fintness level. Able to do normal everyday activities, go for walks etc. Minimum income. None as long as they live within their means. My husband was unemployed and on benefits when we met, but he lived within his means which is the most important thing. Maximum amount of unappealing male hobbies. I think it would be more about what the hobby is than how many there are or how gendered it is - I'm no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 08:08 PM |
| – | In your opinion, how would you like men to introduce sex into the relationship?I don't think I can help you with that. It's just natural. Like, there's a whole scenario with body language and closeness and stuff, and I've never found it anything but obvious what to do when I'm in that situation. It's kinda normal human behaviour and I don't think people on the internet are going to be able to teach you that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 11:27 AM |
| – | In your opinion, how would you like men to introduce sex into the relationship?I think if you're afraid of getting a sexual assault charge from kissing someone on the cheek that you're consensually on a date with, then you need to go to therapy before you start dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 06:07 AM |
| 3 | In your opinion, how would you like men to introduce sex into the relationship?His message is just a bit random and weird. Unless you've already established through chat that you're meeting up precisely to have sex then I think it's best initiated in person. You can see how the vibe is and go for it when it's appropriate instead of just messaging out of the blue when the recipient might just not be in a sex mood. If I'm initiating sex with someone I don't know well then I'd use body language and cues firstly to show that it's on the cards (sitting closer, leaning in, progr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 11:47 AM |
| – | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menIt's a stupid standard though and you're a bad bet for a relationship because of it. Like, there's no point in ever entering a relationship with someone whose sole standard is "don't be fat", because it's indicative of a shallow, short sighted view and it will likely end badly. Most people gain weight as they age, and there are so many factors that can influence how someone's body looks - age, illness, injury, pregnancy etc. You want a doll who will never change, not a person. So buy a doll and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 12:45 PM |
| – | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menYou need both. You can't rely on one person to fulfil all your emotional needs - it's probably a large factor in poor mental health for men. Loads of guys go absolutely off the deep end when their relationship ends because they suddenly have absolutely 0 support network. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 12:40 PM |
| – | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menYou're missing the point - it's not that the individual person is desired, it's just that the guy is so desperate he'll literally hit up anyone with the right genitals. That isn't desire, it isn't anything to do with the recipient. Like, I've had guys slide into my DMs on various platforms over the years, starting the conversation with "hey beautiful, hey sexy, hey gorgeous" etc. When I have no pictures of myself on those platforms, so they have no idea what I look like. This isn't me being desi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Would you wait for a man for a man who said he wasn’t ready for sex, or would you simply break up with him?No would just cut my losses. Have never been interested in waiting a lengthy time for sex (or any time really) so we'd be better off with other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 11:26 PM |
| 6 | Would you wait for a man for a man who said he wasn’t ready for sex, or would you simply break up with him?Everyone is sexually compatible as long as they try and communicate. Not true at all. Some people just don't like the same things, and that's fine. No amount of communication will solve that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing?Fair enough. I'd imagine lots of things can influence it. I was never brought up to believe sex is sacred. I'm not religious (come from a long line of atheists) and don't live in an area that's sexually repressive (I'm from the UK and in general from what I've seen of online conversations our approach to sex tends to be more easy going than the US for instance, where there still seems to be a lot of shame and stigma attached to sex). My mum is very practical and gave sex education early - we wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing?My parents broke up when I was about 2, my mum's been with my stepdad since I was 4 or 5. Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Women, Do You Always Need an Emotional Connection to Sleep with a Man You're Seeing?Nope, never needed an emotional connection. All about chemistry. Not even necessarily physical attraction - I've slept with people I just met and didn't find particularly attractive, but the vibe was just right. Not sure what shaped my view on it, just never really viewed sex as a thing that required emotional connection. Where the emotional connection is there it brings a fun additional dynamic to sex, but it's not a requirement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 11:46 AM |
| 4 | Why do so many women on here say they have lower physical standards for casual sex despite pretty much every study and most people's lived experiences saying otherwise?It was 9 years ago, I can't remember who messaged who first 😅 I think I'm mostly attracted to people "on my level" but I find these kind of questions weird on this sub. The kind of people I find irresistibly attractive aren't the kind of people guys on this sub think I should find irresistibly attractive. I don't like guys who go the gym, I don't like tall guys, I don't like David Coulthard jawlines. Some of the features I find most attractive are ginger hair, dimples and a kinda scruffy aesthet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 07:15 PM |
| 9 | Why do so many women on here say they have lower physical standards for casual sex despite pretty much every study and most people's lived experiences saying otherwise?No, I didn't want a relationship and was just hooking up with whoever I felt like with no real distinctions between them. Generally after 1st hook up they'd then be separated into "wouldn't hook up again" and "would hook up again", but just because I was happy to hook up with someone again didn't mean I would ever start to consider a relationship with them, it was more just on general vibe/friendliness and sexual compatibility. I didn't anticipate that this approach would lead to me meeting the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 06:04 PM |
| 8 | Why do so many women on here say they have lower physical standards for casual sex despite pretty much every study and most people's lived experiences saying otherwise?Or, as is much more common, they hook up via an app and continue hooking up. That's how I met my husband. My sister met her husband because she hooked up with him at a club and they kept hooking up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 05:45 PM |
| 1 | What sort of first dates/outings do you prefer ?Drinks or a fun activity, like pool. I personally wouldn't suggest dinner but I wasn't opposed to going for dinner if they suggested it, I like food. Yes I've approached guys for first dates. Mostly I was aiming to hook up rather than date so maybe that takes the pressure off a bit. Yes if I was chatting to someone I'd normally suggest to meet up within a day or so, don't see the point in dragging it out. I never really cared who made the first move and it's not something I was ever nervous of. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 05:47 PM |
| 3 | What do women value the most?Do you think men value the same things you do? I think everyone values different things at different times, and it isn't based on gender but on your personality and life circumstances. What do you spend the most free time, energy and money working and building towards? At the moment I'm pregnant, so both my husband and I are spending most of our free time, energy and money on preparing for the baby. Whether that's setting aside savings to prepare, or using our time and energy to get the house an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 05:35 PM |
| 10 | What do women even offer?In modern sense this means give them attention, energy, and wealth. Women repay this by giving the man sex They're frustrated because they don't actually understand functional relationships. The basis of a relationship isn't: man provides this, woman provides sex. You should both be providing reciprocal energy and attention. Wealth will depend on the couple as many people have none, so it's irrelevant to their relationship. For a modern couple with money though ideally both parties should be in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 11:55 AM |
| 17 | Women who ask their male partners to not use condoms are in the wrong morally.which respectfully, many men don't want to trust that. They'd rather just use a condom. Have you spoken to many men on this subject? Because in reality a significant proportion of guys seem to very much prefer to go without condoms if they can. I've seen multiple guys on this sub and others say they wouldn't be in a relationship with a woman if they had to wear a condom, because the only benefit of a LTR is for her to use birth control and him not to wear a condom. But realistically, as a woman,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/25 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Alimony Recipients Be Required to Do Domestic Labor.Alimony is meant to be a temporary arrangement to get someone back on their feet. Doing domestic work in return for it prevents that happening. So no, alimony recipients shouldn't be required to do domestic labour, as they should instead be spending their time looking for jobs/building skills/retraining etc to return to the workforce and regain financial independence asap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you hate a man if he divorced you for quitting your job?If I quit my job with no reason and no backup plan and no plans to find something else (and no prior agreement from my husband), I'd think it fairly reasonable for him to be unhappy with this scenario and potentially leave, since it would cause financial hardship and is a crazy selfish thing to do. If I got laid off that's an entirely different matter, since it would be no fault of my own. Besides which, if I got laid off I'd receive a year's worth of salary at least, so jumping to divorce after… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Realistically, what qualities would make you overlook a conventionally attractive man for an unattractive one?Well I'd need to find them attractive, even if they're not conventionally attractive. When I was younger, I quite liked two guys I worked with and they both liked me. One was tall, slim, defined jawline, probably what guys here mean when they say conventionally attractive. The other was short, obese, with a huge crooked nose. He's the one I went for. While he probably isn't seen as conventionally attractive, I found him very attractive. I thought his face was handsome, he had nice eyes and a gre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 12:29 AM |
| 24 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?Not really. I'm fine with a little bigger or smaller than average, and generally prefer it to be within that kind of average range. Bigger can bring discomfort and pain, and limit positions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 12:13 AM |
| 15 | Women on this sub, would you date someone who had a perineal urethrostomy?I hadn't heard of it so I've done some googling. Initial thoughts are yeah, can't see it being a problem. Doesn't seem to impact sexual function or continence etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/25 04:50 PM |
| 2 | CMV: just because she enjoys the sex doesn't mean you aren't using her for her bodyBut it's not true in this case. He's not doing anything exploitative or wrong. Yes she might get hurt but it's her that's taking the action to hurt herself, not him. There is nothing wrong with him having a sexual relationship with someone who willingly offers it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | CMV: just because she enjoys the sex doesn't mean you aren't using her for her bodyThey're an adult and can make their own decisions. If they only want sex as part of a committed relationship they shouldn't have sex until they're in a committed relationship. Having sex in the hopes that will allow them to obtain a relationship is completely obtuse and they only have themselves to blame when it doesn't work out like that. Since in this scenario the man has communicated that they aren't interested in a relationship, if the woman then decides to have sex then he can assume she's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 06:06 PM |
| 2 | CMV: just because she enjoys the sex doesn't mean you aren't using her for her bodyGood god this is a batshit take. It's not "to repeatedly use" if they both want the sex. It's a mutual agreement to have sex with each other. If one party isn't happy that's all that's on offer, the onus is on them to move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 09:31 AM |
| 5 | CMV: just because she enjoys the sex doesn't mean you aren't using her for her bodyNah. She's a grown woman, she can make that decision for herself. For all he knows she could be sleeping with him and made peace with the fact he doesn't want a relationship, and is still dating other people on the side to find the relationship. If he's made his stance clear on not wanting a relationship then that's all he has to do, it's up to her whether she wants to accept what he's offering or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 09:29 AM |
| – | Pretending to be Wonder WomanIt's nothing to do with Reddit. I know plenty of people your age who have never been on reddit yet their husbands can't/won't cook. That's not to say it's everyone - my step dad is in his 50's and is an excellent cook (and my mother freely gives him credit for doing the Christmas dinner and all the other cooking he does. She would never try claiming she'd done the Christmas cooking, although she's also an excellent cook and perfectly capable of cooking a Christmas dinner. Unfortunately my stepda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 01:21 AM |
| – | Pretending to be Wonder WomanJust before Christmas I was having a conversation with two women I work with. They were asking how my Christmas prep was going and did I have a lot of people to buy for? I said I only had a handful, my husband dealt with his side and I dealt with mine and it kept it quite easy to manage. They were both gobsmacked and went on for a bit about how lucky I am and how they wished their husbands would do that, since they need to do all the shopping for everyone. I'm a younger generation than them whic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 12:37 AM |
| – | Pretending to be Wonder WomanEh. Plenty people still iron 😅 I'm only in my early 30s and I still iron. Synthetic clothes aren't wrinkle proof in the slightest. Most of my clothes are synthetic or blends and maybe a third of my wardrobe looks good without ironing, another third I can get away with (but looks better if it is ironed) and the other third is absolutely unwearable unless I iron it. Judging by the fact most of the people I work with don't come in looking like they've just rolled out of bed, I'd say the majority of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Women do you want your partners to do this ?No I don't want any of this. • Paying for first dates I always insist on splitting the first few dates. Once you're more established you can take turns or treat each other when you want etc but definitely best to start off splitting the bill. • Buying flowers weekly without asking No. As someone else said this is a crazy amount of flowers! And a waste of money. • 'Sidewalk rule' I'm guessing this is where they walk on the outside of the pavement? Since people no longer chuck their waste out of w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/25 09:33 AM |
| 6 | Q4W who identify with feminism. Are there any priveleges that mostly benefit women you’re advocating to give up in the name of equality.None of the privileges you've listed apply to me particularly so I don't really see them as privileges, and some of them really aren't even privileges they're just random things. I've put specifics down below in relation to your post but added my general thoughts here first. I can't think of anything that I have that I would need to give up for men to be equal, but a major improvement could be made for men to try and make things more equal: Men should have equal parental leave to women. It shoul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Women's attraction is relative, Men's attraction is absolute.How exactly is that going to demonstrate your point? Dating apps don't tend to be full of people showcasing who they're already dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 11:45 PM |
| 3 | Why don’t women find effort as attractive as men do?The post directly above this claims that men care about nothing but hotness, and as long as they find the woman attractive nothing else matters. So which is it? Maybe get together and get your stories straight before proclaiming all these contradictory sweeping generalisations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Women's attraction is relative, Men's attraction is absolute.Where do you see women dating the fat unkempt neckbeards that say, "Heyyyy Sallyyyy!!!!" Where do you see men dating the female equivalent of a fat unkempt neckbeard? You don't, unless it's two of them dating each other (I know several couples like this. But I also know several fat unkempt weird perpetually single women who have never had a relationship/date whereas every very fat and unkempt man I've known, no matter how weird, has had at least some relationship/dating experience. None of them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?multiple There are not multiple scenarios. There are two highly unlikely scenarios which aren't calls for a paternity test, they're calls for both parents to discuss a DNA test for both of them, as both scenarios make it equally likely that the mum isn't actually the mum. It is a completely different scenario to just getting a paternity test apropos of nothing. because I’m aware of the whole host of other possibilities. But there aren't a host of other possibilities. You are accusing her of infi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?The partner would be aware of sperm donation. If he wasn't that counts as infidelity, so not relevant. The partner would be aware of adoption. Obviously. Since there's no pregnancy. This would maybe be more relevant to the child finding out their dad isn't their bio dad, but not the dad. Not relevant. Heteropaternal superfecundation would result from infidelity since she would have needed to have slept with both guys. So not relevant. Infidelity we've discussed. Paternity fraud also obviously go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?Such as? If you're thinking switched at birth, that would fall under the "reasonable reasons to get DNA testing (not specifically paternity testing)" because the child looks nothing like either of you or whatever. However, that also isn't generally applicable here (UK) because your baby stays with you until you leave the hospital. What are the other number of ways this could happen? Not counting any reasonable reasons to suggest testing (such as a swingers/poly lifestyle, pregnancy via casual se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 11:02 AM |
| 3 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?It's the only way to look at it. A paternity test is an accusation of cheating. Since it can't ever actually rule out cheating regardless of the results, then the requirement to have one means the relationship cannot continue, because there will never be trust. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 10:22 AM |
| 3 | Do you not believe that a mentally sound man could want a paternity test in every single scenario where he’s informed he’s a father to a child?So question is do you not believe it’s possible for a man to trust you very much and not believe you’d ever do such a thing, but also acknowledge that trust isn’t a reliable measure in reality and just as a backup verify what his heart tells him anyway? Or do you genuinely believe that if he gets one he doesn’t trust you at some pretty significant level and the relationship is doomed? Yep. If you're in a committed relationship and actively trying for a baby and surprise surprise a pregnancy happ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 10:17 AM |
| 7 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?How do you know though? I see a lot of guys say this, but realistically do you actually know if someone is playing games or are you just assuming they are because they don't want sex immediately? Unless you're only dating people in your immediate social circle then you won't know what her history is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 05:27 PM |
| 21 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?Well, I'm wifed up because we love each other and are really compatible and decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, but yes neither of us are the type to play games and we wouldn't be interested in being with someone who was. I enjoy sex, and sexual compatibility is extremely important to me, so I never saw the benefit in waiting (certainly not waiting for some and not waiting for others). If I wanted to have sex with someone then I would. However, people wanting to take thing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 03:28 PM |
| 38 | Q4W: How differently do you treat a guy who is a boyfriend/husband material from a guy who is a hookup/FWB material?But the reverse is not true. Uh. Well it is though. My husband is certainly husband material, and I shagged him on the first date. The difference between him and hook up material is that I kept seeing him and it eventually turned into a relationship. I was also more conscientious towards him. I remember a hook up getting really mad at me once because I hadn't bothered to text him after we'd hooked up (he messaged a few weeks later to pick a fight about it). When I didn't feel the need to message… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 09:29 AM |
| 2 | Women ,how do you prefer to split bills in your relationship and after *if* you have kids ?Dating: split things down the middle of a meal, if drinks take turns buying rounds or whatever. After a couple of dates can do turn about/reciprocal or continue to split for the most part. I'm not super fussed on what dates should be, but I don't think early dates should be too fancy or expensive, as they should be a relaxed atmosphere that's easily affordable for both parties and allows you to get to know each other. Grab some food, some drinks, play some pool, whatever. In a relationship: same… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 09:19 AM |
| – | Don’t women not really care about how a man dresses & isn’t wearing nice clothes just something guys y’all aren’t as physically attracted to can attempt to use to add points?You probably do subconsciously. How people dress and style themselves has a huge impact on how they get on in the world, from relationships to the workplace. Even if you're not aware of it, you have unconscious biases based on the appearances of the people around you and you'll be more likely to react favourably to people who style themselves in a way that's pleasing to you. If you asked me what someone was wearing 20 minutes after I saw them I probably couldn't tell you (unless it was very dist… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 11:47 PM |
| – | Don’t women not really care about how a man dresses & isn’t wearing nice clothes just something guys y’all aren’t as physically attracted to can attempt to use to add points?Clothes and styling are immensely important. Have you ever seen the actors from Big Bang Theory on the red carpet? On the show they're styled to be as unattractive as possible, in unflattering clothes and crap hair cuts. But when they're styled to look good they look 1000x more attractive. Obviously that's from one extreme to the other so they probably look somewhere in the middle in reality, but clothes and styling make a gigantic difference. Clothes also send signals about personality. I would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 06:02 PM |
| 2 | What would your response to be to your date/partner opening up to you ?I've never been in a relationship where my partner hasn't been emotionally open with me. My husband and ex LTR partners have all cried in front of me. As has my dad, my stepdad, and occasional men I've worked with. It's normal and expected, and my response is the same as it is for women - give them whatever support they need in that moment and ensure to check up on them afterwards and make sure they're okay/see if they need follow up support. Depending on the situation it might also take the for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/25 07:42 PM |
| 3 | Feminism largely ignores women's part in shaping men and causing men mental issues.I am a man and women do any kind of work way better than men if only hired, I disagree with this, I think men and women can both be equally competent in their work, it's more down to the individual than gendered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 07:48 PM |
| 12 | Feminism largely ignores women's part in shaping men and causing men mental issues.That's not "needing a man" though. That's just needing anyone qualified to do it. Just because these are roles that were traditionally very hard or impossible to get into for women (for instance women weren't actually previously allowed to be police officers or firefighters, and restrictions on what they could do really hindered them from joining for a long time. Yet numbers continue to grow), doesn't mean women aren't capable of doing them. Lots of men in my work come to me for tech support. Wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 04:35 PM |
| 3 | How much is a decent price for an engagement ring?Very much dependent on taste and lifestyle. You want something that the recipient will like and it should ideally last a lifetime. But it should also be affordable - no point putting yourself into debt over anything relating to a wedding. I see people online talking about rings costing 3, 4, 5k or more and it's madness to me (I'd be terrified to wear it!) but I suppose for very well off people this isn't as much of a consideration. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 01:22 PM |
| 2 | How much is a decent price for an engagement ring?Why? I have a 50/50 relationship and I got my husband his own engagement gift. That seems a better option all around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Why do women always seem to have a problem with another woman at work ?Yeah I work in banking, which is still male dominated in the upper echelons, but until you get pretty high up it's a fairly even split (at least in the bank I work for anyway). So probably a different dynamic as there's not really the sense you have to be careful as a woman or be better/work harder then a man to do just as well as him. Equal opportunities to do well but also equal opportunity to behave badly if you're so inclined I suppose 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Why do women always seem to have a problem with another woman at work ?I've just never noticed a gendered difference in it in my experiences. I've worked with bitchy and gossipy men and women! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 11:58 AM |
| 12 | Why do women always seem to have a problem with another woman at work ?That's because they're gossiping about you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Women , would you hook up with/date someone who doesn't share your political beliefs?I never really discussed politics with people I hooked up with so I'm sure I probably hooked up with people who don't politically align with me. I would never date or be in a relationship with someone who doesn't though. I don't feel like it's something that can work long term unless you really don't care about the world around you. That doesn't mean we need to be matching on everything - there are a few areas where my husband and I don't quite match up (I'm staunchly anti death penalty and don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/25 10:19 AM |
| – | In relationships where couples choose not to have children, explain why spousal support exists?95% of the population don't suffer or have anything to do with this. In the US alimony is currently awarded in around 10% of divorces, some of them involving children. So an even tinier percentage where children aren't involved. It's a very niche issue that will never affect you or really anyone you know, so why worry about it? It generally will precisely be in cases where a wealthy spouse has a stay at home spouse to do all the general household management. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/25 02:01 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?🤦 Honestly I don't understand how some of you manage to get through life with this little brain power. Literally the very first thing I mentioned was his attractive features. And the OPs question is already assuming the men in question are physically attractive. He is asking why women like physically attractive men when that apparently makes them dickheads. How would it be relevant for me to say "he's real hot tho" when that's not actually the answer. I have met many attractive people in my life… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 05:13 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?He really is ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 03:35 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?What the guy is trying to get at is, women, when asked these questions, will jump to saying, “He’s lovely and kind,” when what really matters is, first, if he’s physically attractive. The OP I'm responding to asked why women like men who have attractive masculine traits, when that apparently means they must be bad people. So my response is mostly focused on personality because it's a response specifically to the question; the question already assumes physical attraction is there. Besides which I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 03:33 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?Why is is frustrating when women talk about the good personality traits? I don't understand that at all. Why on earth would you assume someone wants to be with you when they find you ugly? If a guy said to me he likes women who are [insert personality traits here] I'm not enough of a moron to think 'oh I have those he must like me' when there are so many things that go into attraction and it's not a tick box exercise. No wonder you all complain about women ditching relationships for "no reason" … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 02:05 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?Yes... why wouldn't we want to be with people we find attractive and nice? Bit of a weird thing to complain about tbh. Guys on here constantly complain about the thought of being chosen for their personality but not their attractiveness, since no one wants their partner not to find them attractive. So what exactly is the problem there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 01:23 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?What? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 01:01 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?I don't think he is the exception, I think a lot of you guys like to think guys like him are the exception because it makes you feel better about yourself. You can't simultaneously claim that handsome/masculine men are nicer and kinder than other men because they're accepted by society, while also claiming that they're horrible people who bully and seek dominance over others. It doesn't work like that. So which is it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 12:58 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?😅 yes, being kind must be a front when you can't fathom actually just being a kind person because that's who you are. He is a genuinely sweet and lovely man in all areas of his life. He doesn't have a workplace to bully anyone in - he works mostly alone, in other people's houses. He gets given sweets, money, tea, gifts etc by his customers because he's so nice to them. I know all his friends and family and, with his family he's the one "they don't know what they would do without" because he's so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 12:21 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?Sorry 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 12:05 PM |
| – | Why do you on average like masculine men so much if they often times cause so much trouble?Just because a guy looks masculine doesn't mean he has to be a dick, realistically. My husband can grow a magnificent beard, has a wonderfully full, hairy chest, has beautifully broad shoulders. The first time my dad met him he said to me afterwards "I like this one, he looks like a proper man". And he's also the sweetest, kindest person I've ever known. He isn't particularly competitive, he can be assertive if he needs to be but generally prefers a chill and laid back approach to life, he's fun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 11:47 AM |
| 2 | q4w: what is a skill that you learned that makes you insanely hot?I'm actually really good at BBQing and my husband humped my leg when I made low n slow smoked brisket, so I'd say he finds that pretty hot. He has a similar reaction to many other things I make, so possibly just being a really good cook in general. Also he says it's "weirdly hot" when I gut, skin, or butcher meat. Even just spatchcocking a chicken, he loves that I'm competent at it and have no hint of squeamishness. These might be things that are only hot to my husband 😅 but that's good enough f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/24 09:30 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD7.5 💪 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 06:03 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🤣 haha indeed! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 05:53 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI think ChatGPT fancies me 🤣 In the image, you have striking features that stand out beautifully. Your eyes are large and expressive, with a soft, warm tone that draws attention, accentuated by defined eyeliner and subtle eyeshadow. Your skin appears smooth with a natural, even tone. Your lips are full and well-shaped, with a rose-pink lipstick that suits your complexion nicely. Your hairstyle includes long, dark hair with bangs that fall just above your eyebrows, framing your face softly. The b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 05:17 PM |
| 0 | It's significantly easier for women to cheat whereas the only time men are able to is when another woman encourages him do so.None of these men ever have the opportunity or time to cheat by themselves, That's not actually true though. Why do you guys sit and think "well I can't have sex with anyone thus it must be true for all men" Most men have sex, most men are perfectly capable of pursuing women and cheating with them (if so inclined), without the woman needing to make the first move. You all go on and on and on about how women never initiate and men do all the work to get sex. But somehow this isn't the case when t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)?Well you don't need to orgasm every time for the sex to still be better in general so I get it from that perspective I guess. I just don't personally think I'd be orgasming more from sex that felt routine, because there is a mental component to orgasms as well as the physical side. She may differ in that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 08:41 AM |
| 3 | Women, do you prefer passionate sex or do you prefer routine sex(with someone who knows you well)?I don't really get this question because I'm not sure your example is comparable to anything in real life. My husband knows me very well sexually, we're both great at giving each other orgasms, and sex is hot and passionate, never "robotic". I can't imagine robotic/routine sex would lead to orgasms because it would be a turn off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 08:15 AM |
| 4 | Do you generally heed the advice that your father (assuming he has your best interests at heart) gives when it comes to interacting with men? Why or why not?Yep plenty of life experience and very good with women. Certainly wouldn't have wanted the kind of life I'd have had were I to end up with someone similar, since he's unreliable and flakey. But I've always been in relationships with guys who are genuinely nice, kind, good to their families etc, and my husband is no exception. My dad really likes my husband actually, I think he's pleased that I ended up with someone his complete opposite 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/24 09:50 AM |
| – | Do you generally heed the advice that your father (assuming he has your best interests at heart) gives when it comes to interacting with men? Why or why not?I'm not sure my dad has ever really given me relationship advice, apart from to say that men are a bunch of scrotes and I should join a nunnery. I did not heed this advice. I don't think he's in the best place to give relationship advice really, since he cheated on my mum then bounced around different girlfriends for years before marrying a woman he'd been friends with for a few decades. They were both alcoholics and had a destructive co-dependent relationship until her alcoholism killed her, wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/24 08:20 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADBecause it's nothing to do with you. Worry about your own body, it's the only one that's really any of your business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/24 09:46 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADUtter dickhead behaviour. Happens far too often that one of these wankers take out people who are just trying to get on with their day. If they crash they should just be left on the side of the road to die. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 10:33 PM |
| 9 | Q4W: would you like being apporached in a bar when you are with your girl friends for a night out? If so, how?I never minded it when I was single. Some approaches that can work: Talk to someone when they're alone at the bar waiting for a drink, and you're doing the same. It's kinda low stakes because you both get company while you wait, and if either of you isn't feeling it then you can simply walk away once you get your drink. Generally if 2 or more guys approached as a group and integrated themselves into the group, at least one would manage to pair off with someone. This probably works best if you're… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Curious what women view as "good guys"1) Women who tell a male friend "your a good guy, you'll find someone eventually." What traits would such a guy have and how would that make him desirable? I've never said that to anyone as far as I recall. There are common traits that good people have but on their own they aren't necessarily going to lead to attraction - there are a lot of other components to compatibility and attraction. 2) What traits do you yourself find desirable in a good man? If we're just talking about what makes someone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 04:03 PM |
| 10 | Q4A: What are your most "self-contradictory" attractions?I love to scoop my husband up in my arms, stroke his hair, make him feel warm and safe. But I also find it very attractive when he does the same to me. We take turns 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Men dont love harderThat's hardly a failing of men though; it's not like they could do it if they wanted to and choose not to. And women who do it are generally choosing to do it - if they didn't want to they could just opt not to, after all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 11:24 PM |
| 1 | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADHaha I know it was more tongue in cheek. Yeah I don't have any requirements like that. I guess I require someone who isn't dangerously underweight or morbidly obese but I'm neither. I prefer people whose general lifestyle and activity level is compatible with my own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 06:25 PM |
| 5 | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADIt's not really a standard but I love gingers and dimples despite not being ginger or dimpled myself. Despite this hypocrisy I managed to entrap my dimpled and ginger-adjacent husband. I actually genuinely don't think I have any hypocritical standards though, and that's not a lack of self awareness, just don't have any. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 05:54 PM |
| 3 | How does a man’s lifestyle affect his attraction level.Neither. "Very active" is a no. I enjoy a healthy amount of activity but in general I embrace my fellow slug life people Anyone who earns 6 figures is probably immediately out because their work life balance is probably shockingly bad. And I've been scarred from working customer service as a youngster - people who earn a lot of money are atrocious people like 90% of the time There's a nice balance between "always has plans with everyone" and "never has plans with anyone" that neither of these ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 05:47 PM |
| 12 | Why do women expect men to use protect them?It's not anything to do with gender roles though. It's just incidental that he happened to be a man, and he's reading too much into it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/24 12:48 PM |
| 15 | Why do women expect men to use protect them?I highly doubt she was. It's natural to seek safety in numbers. If you're perceived to be amongst others you're less likely to be singled out for anything, so just the action of grouping up together de-escalates the situation and actively prevents any "protection" needing to take place. It is absolutely wild that you're all pretending not to understand that, because literally every normal human being does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/24 12:27 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADYou have no idea of the background though and are just assuming the worst because you're projecting your own weird ideas onto the situation. Like sure, maybe her friends are jealous. But having seen and been involved in these situations it's much more likely to be: the person chatting to the bouncer is a flirty drunk but is actually in a relationship so her friends were taking her away before she could do something she'll regret she's got something on in the morning and needs to be up early and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/24 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Do you know any younger, never-married single mothers? If so, how is their dating life?I can only think of one woman off the top of my head who fits this description, a woman I used to work with, although was a few years ago so not sure on her current situation. She was about 27 I think, kid was about 7. When I worked with her she was living with a long term boyfriend. Prior to that she'd been in a relationship for a few years with another guy at work who was lusted after by quite a few people (so I assume she was happy with her options). I don't think she ever had any trouble dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Question for the ladiesI wouldn't do it, and I don't think I'd continue to have a crush on a guy who was willing to cheat on his wife. Just gross. When I was single and on tinder I always turned down people who said they were married/in relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 07:37 AM |
| 1 | How much does it matter that a man dresses well?I think the most important thing is being able to dress appropriately for the event/occasion. My husband mostly lives in cargo shorts and graphic/band tshirts. It's comfy, practical, and personally I think he looks good. For me it would only be a problem if he insisted on dressing like that to things like weddings, nice dinners, "events" that aren't just casual hanging out. While he's a mostly very casual dresser, he enjoys getting dolled up for events and will take any opportunity to put a kilt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/24 07:33 AM |
| 0 | Why do some women behave to attract sexual attention from men and lie about it?Just because you're aroused by something, doesn't mean the other person did that specifically for your arousal. Apart from the fetish vids, they're made to arouse people and aren't relevant to your post. My husband gets turned on by me wearing a significant portion of my "comfy practical" clothes. Am I meant to just buy and wear uncomfy impractical clothes out the house lest some man see me? No, because that would be fucking stupid. It's nice that he finds me hot in my leggings or whatever, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 09:27 AM |
| 3 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?But your point doesn't make sense because you're conflating two entirely different things. Peeing on someone's grave is disrespectful to living people, it's illegal, it's gross. Whether or not the dead person knows about it is irrelevant. But in terms of the dead person's imaginary feelings it's also a very different kettle of fish because one is a normal thing to do and the other is weird and vindictive. I wouldn't be with someone who was so silly and irrational tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/24 03:10 PM |
| 11 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?What a weird comment to make. How do you not see the difference in those things? How is pissing on the grave of the person you love going to help you move on and find happiness? It's a horrible and disrespectful thing to do and it disrespects everyone else there. That is fundamentally different from being able to find love and happiness and continue living life to the fullest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/24 12:25 AM |
| 18 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?But why? Men like to go on about how they're so logical and rational. Why hold a completely illogical and irrational fear? You'll be dead, it'll have nothing to do with you and you're not going to know about it. Why would that even register anywhere in your mind as a concern? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 11:19 PM |
| 16 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?Do most people fear this? Seems a very stupid fear. Of course I want my husband to move on and be happy when I die - I'll be dead, I'm not going to fucking know about it and what is the sense in him wasting his life pining? I would hope most people would be sensible enough to hold a similar position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 11:11 PM |
| 6 | Women, if a man left you because he wasn't the best you've ever had, would you be offended?Why would I be with him if he wasn't the best I'd ever had? I wouldn't be in this situation because I value sexual compatibility in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Rich, Handsome, and FaithfulThere's nothing wrong with minimum wage though. When I met my husband he was unemployed then on min wage for a bit. I bought my own place shortly after we met and I could afford all the expenses on my own, although when he moved in we then split bills/food, and he had a car, and we could afford holidays. We've had lifestyle creep over the years because our incomes increased, but he got a well paying job through pure chance and it wasn't something we would have predicted, since he'd spent his 20s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 10:16 PM |
| 5 | Q4w: Please skip this post if you don't like the options. You can either be an never-married successful employee or be a mother and wife? Choose one.Wtf are you on. Have you never participated in family life or something? Were you just randomly hatched one day and now trying to learn about society from weird reddit subs? Genuinely curious, since your worldview is entirely fucked up. Since we all know unmarried people who function perfectly fine and are perfectly able to socialise with all members of their extended family. You must be a bit sheltered/reclusive/randomly hatched all by yourself to have not experienced it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/24 08:57 AM |
| 4 | Q4w: Please skip this post if you don't like the options. You can either be an never-married successful employee or be a mother and wife? Choose one.I like my life as it is. But it wouldn't have any detrimental impact to me if they'd decided not to have me, since I would never have existed to know about it. I'm not anti procreation or anything - I want kids. I just think it's silly and self righteous to label it some selfless act when there is literally no reason to have kids that isn't selfish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/24 08:26 AM |
| 23 | Q4w: Please skip this post if you don't like the options. You can either be an never-married successful employee or be a mother and wife? Choose one.First option hands down. Homeschooling your kids is guaranteed to turn them into little fucking weirdos, so that rules out option 2 immediately even without any other context. You could argue that having kids is the ultimate in selfish acts. Giving life to people who didn't ask for it just for your own gratification etc not to mention the environmental impacts. Almost everyone lives a selfish life, may as well choose the selfish option that makes you happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/24 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: are there any sex acts or kinks that you would do with a casual partner/hook-up/FWB but not with a long term partner or husband?Different strokes for different folks. I had a threesome with my husband and it was hot. For us, because it's a shared experience it's not something that made either of us feel territorial. We're both very sexually open, had threesomes before, and were confident it wouldn't cause us any problems. I totally get why it's different for others though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 02:09 PM |
| 12 | Q4W: are there any sex acts or kinks that you would do with a casual partner/hook-up/FWB but not with a long term partner or husband?Not in the slightest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 02:04 PM |
| 19 | Q4W: are there any sex acts or kinks that you would do with a casual partner/hook-up/FWB but not with a long term partner or husband?How childish is this guy. If a threesome is a deal breaker for him then he should only date someone who wants a threesome. If he's happy in the relationship and a threesome isn't a deal breaker, then it's fucking meaningless that his partner had one before. I've never spent my energy wondering or caring what any of my partners have done with their ex partners. It's meaningless and irrelevant to the current relationship. You need to decide if you're happy with the relationship based on what's hap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:13 PM |
| 27 | Q4W: are there any sex acts or kinks that you would do with a casual partner/hook-up/FWB but not with a long term partner or husband?No I've done far more weird/kinky shit with my husband than I ever did with hook ups, because we trust each other totally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:17 AM |
| 20 | Q4W: are there any sex acts or kinks that you would do with a casual partner/hook-up/FWB but not with a long term partner or husband?Not having a threesome while in a relationship is actually a reasonable boundary that a lot of men and women both hold. There's a high risk of it burning your relationship down if you're not both totally cool with it. One thing to watch someone you don't care about getting hot n heavy with someone else, quite another to watch someone you love. While it isn't a boundary I have, I can completely understand why some people would. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:14 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Casual and LTR, what was defining about these experiences?Best Casual Experience: we just really clicked. It was hot and passionate and we just fit together. No awkwardness, no bumbling. Just sexy sex. Neutral: not quite on compatible rhythms, nice but not particularly exciting Bad: actively and purposefully disregarding my health and wellbeing (got stealthed). Best LTR: same as first one (my husband is my best casual and best LTR experience) but with love involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/24 10:10 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThey might have working limbs but shit lungs 🤷 or be crap at walking down or over steep/rocky bits etc (whether through fear or lack of co-ordination). Or terrible sense of direction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/24 12:10 PM |
| -1 | Women who are against and mad at paternity test. Just....why?My husband and I are married and actively trying for a baby. If I get pregnant and he turns round and wants a paternity test then he's just accusing me of cheating when he has no basis for it. There is no point in continuing a relationship where there is no trust; I'd happily get the test so he knew it was his kid, but we couldn't be together anymore. Luckily my husband isn't a fucking psycho so this scenario will not happen. Good reasons for paternity tests: someone you're casually fucking gets… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Your cohabitating spouse or SO should have their own bedroom.Having a TV in your bedroom is a terrible idea. Bed death and insomnia lie down that road. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 08:19 PM |
| 3 | If there was a test that could confirm cheating, would you make your man take it?No. I trust him and have never had any reason to suspect he's cheating, therefore have no need of a test. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 10:36 PM |
| 17 | Childrearing is not just "work" and if you think that way, then you shouldn't have kids!How long for? What did this routine look like for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 11:39 AM |
| 36 | Childrearing is not just "work" and if you think that way, then you shouldn't have kids!Have you ever looked after or even met a child? I have a niece and nephew, who I love. They're great children - adorable, smart, funny, well behaved. Looking after them is fun and enjoyable and fulfilling. But by the end of a day with them I'm utterly exhausted. It is far, far more exhausting than my actual paid job. You can be fulfilled by something and want to do it, but still acknowledge that it is hard, and it is work, and it is neverending. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 11:18 AM |
| 7 | For women with a promiscuous past. Is your settle down partner a Ned Flanders compared against the guys you pulled in the past?I met my husband during my promiscuous phase and we were just casually hooking up at the beginning. He's hot, a wonderful person and legit the best sex I've ever had. Therefore we're married. He is also safe, reliable, stable and kind. Mind blowing as this might be to you, but attractive and sexually competent men can also be lovely people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 04:29 PM |
| 1 | People shouldn’t expect potential lovers to always spend money on them or to want to do the same activitiesHah yeah that is a good point, we do end up distracted by what the other is doing quite a lot 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | People shouldn’t expect potential lovers to always spend money on them or to want to do the same activitiesI hope you get that! Our computers are side by side but it is nice just doing our own thing together in whatever configuration :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:33 PM |
| 2 | People shouldn’t expect potential lovers to always spend money on them or to want to do the same activitiesAnd then it probably makes sense to be with someone who also prefers to stay in and watch a movie, so there isn't a disconnect in lifestyle 🤷 I like to do stuff but I don't like doing stuff all the time and I'm quite introverted - I had a busy weekend last week with two social engagements. So it was really important to me to keep this weekend empty of plans and have time to just chill out and recharge. It's great that my husband is on the exact same page as we're getting a nice weekend to potter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:09 PM |
| 3 | People shouldn’t expect potential lovers to always spend money on them or to want to do the same activitiesNo way in hell do all of these men really want to be out here going to a bunch of restaurants going to countless museums Are you genuinely under the impression that men don't enjoy eating out or going to museums? Because there are plenty of men who do. And for women who enjoy these things I don't think it's at all unreasonable to just date guys who also like these things. What kind of miserable boring shit doesn't like nice food and museums, like seriously? Not someone I'd want to spend my life … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 06:34 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI used to work with a woman whose dad was a blacksmith. He made things like decorative banisters and stuff. I think there are also blacksmiths making tools, replica weapons etc - I did a blacksmithing workshop once and we made jewellery, but the person that ran it also made swords. I also viewed a house once that had a forge in one of the outbuildings that was to be included in the sale. My husband and I were so tempted to buy it just for that and take up blacksmithing 😅 but yeah it is a pretty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 07:02 PM |
| 4 | In democracies, there are no laws that discriminate against women, only laws that discriminate against menIn the UK they can draft women and did in WWII. Probably a few places either have no draft or can draft men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 01:06 PM |
| – | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?it's generally accepted that women do on average want casual sex less/have lower sex drives than men. being in the right place at the right time isn't so much a skill but does require people to do certain things. If you sit in your house playing games and not interacting with anyone, or only go to places where you see other men, you will never put yourself in a position to be in the right place. I'm not unique but it doesn't mean every other woman on the planet is exactly like me. There are wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 11:13 AM |
| 6 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveBecause neither of the first two are true. I don't feel insecure around anyone's body and I'm also all for people showing off their strengths. Posting shirtless pics isn't showing off a strength though (everyone seems to be assuming it's someone with a "nice body" - do you still think it's a strength if a fat guy posts a shirtless pic?), it's just douchey. Like women posting ass pics or whatever - also douchey. I attach a negative personality trait to it because people who do those things normal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 08:21 PM |
| 9 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveWhat are you talking about? Are you even paying attention to what you're replying to? I was looking for hook ups. I did not swipe right on shirtless guys because they looked like douchebags. I didn't care what they were looking for, but being shirtless = douchebag usually. How is that settling or anything to do with what he's looking for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 01:50 PM |
| 12 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractive😅 why is that settling? Settling imo would be going for a giant douchebag. Life is much better when you're with people you vibe with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 01:39 PM |
| 7 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveI left swiped everyone with a shirtless pic because I assumed they were a giant douchebag. And right swiped a guy for having an adorable selfie with a goat. That was despite being on tinder specifically for hookups. I vastly preferred people with cute/funny pics than stupid poser pics. Different people like different things and not everyone likes shirtless pics. It's not misleading to acknowledge that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 01:26 PM |
| -2 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Yep, basically whoever is convenient. I once realised I wanted some sex while walking home from a night out so literally just picked up the first guy I walked past. Tbh I have a fairly low bar for physical attraction anyway and I don't find most people ugly, which might have something to do with it. I do get turned off by very rotting teeth, that's the only thing I can think of that I'd actively filter out (just wouldn't want to kiss that mouth) but in my lifetime I've only met a handful of guys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Would it better for the guy to suggest something else fun rather than doing a chore as first date?Yeah I saw that post and I thought it was weird how into the idea everyone was 😅 but I don't see weeding as relaxing. I like gardening but weeding is just a necessary and somewhat unpleasant evil. My husband obviously helps with it because we made the decision together to get a place with a garden and we both live here and use it, but I'd never ask a friend, family member, or (if I became single) a random date to help. My go to for dates was always suggesting drinks because it's low pressure, it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:57 AM |
| 0 | Would you still be interested in a woman that sleeps with you on the first date?Okay, then what is the standard for you to choose who’d you fuck on a one night stand? Physical attraction, right? Nope, not for me anyway. Basically the standard for ONS is "they are present and I'm horny". They could be ugly or whatever, as long as they were available and up for it at the right place/right time then that was it. But then I did sleep with my husband the first time I met him too, he just had that magic combination of great sex, hotness, great personality that meant it could turn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:38 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADOften when I go out it's with work colleagues. We like to socialise but we don't necessarily want twenty of our colleagues crammed into the living room. It's not really reasonable to just expect people to stay in the house all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 11:19 AM |
| 2 | If you found a study saying that men who cheated on their wives had on average 230% more previous sexual partners than men who did not. Would that make you more concerned about body count than you currently are?Nope, because I'm not the kind of person to read a study and apply it to my real life relationships. Since everyone who does that is unhappy and unable to find sex/relationships (judging by this sub), and I'm in a happy relationship, my personal study shows that my way is the preferable one. Also, regardless of likelihood of cheating etc, I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who views sex differently to me. Someone who's a virgin/very inexperienced is extremely unlikely to view sex in th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 11:34 AM |
| – | Would you want to be a man?A cold approach isn't mandatory, plenty of men never cold approach and do just fine without it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/24 09:07 AM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?I don't really like the look of six packs. I like curves and round soft flesh. It's far more visually and tactilely satisfying. I could probably get past that if it was just a visual thing - I've often found myself falling for physical features I once disliked when I'm attracted to someone. But, it's also important that people date those who they're compatible with. I'm never going to be compatible with someone who spends all week in the gym, eats clean constantly, spends their days dehydrating … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 05:59 PM |
| 6 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?Okay. I can't really be bothered responding to this individually because it's getting ridiculous. When it comes down to it, do you want your wife to enjoy sex as much as she enjoys washing the fucking dishes? If so, good for you, hope you never fucking marry. If not and you don't view sex as a distasteful chore that unfortunately needs to be done, then why the fuck do you want to turn it into that for your wife? They are not comparable things. I can't even fathom how brain-dead you have to be to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 05:27 PM |
| 4 | Why do you assume bluepill=simp ?I don’t think these dudes are in danger of single mothers wanting them. Definitely not. In danger of making it onto some kind of watch list maybe! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 04:07 PM |
| 8 | Why do you assume bluepill=simp ?🤮 good god I hope he never has children or is ever within 500 feet of any if he views them like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 04:05 PM |
| 9 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?Yes, and your wife is welcome to leave you for it (or never marry you in the first place) just as you are welcome to leave someone with a mismatched libido. I don't think you understand that the thought of having someone reluctantly dragging themselves around in a relationship is downright abhorrent and exceedingly unattractive. No one wants to be with people like that, those people fucking suck. Washing dishes and cleaning the house is an exception to this general thing because you need to do t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Why do you assume bluepill=simp ?What the fuck is a fuck trophy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 03:15 PM |
| 10 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?Well again, arousal might not happen, it isn't a done deal. And even if it does, resentment can still build. There's the whole part between arousal happening and them getting into it where it's just like a chore they're not really into. The more that happens the more irritating it will be and the harder it will be to get aroused, the more resentment will build. Leading to them generally wanting less sex in general. Repeat until dead bedroom happens because sex is no longer ever on their terms an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 06:48 AM |
| 15 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?It might not, and also way to ignore the majority of my point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 06:21 AM |
| – | Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea?Why would you just not get it in your mouth though? I don't understand why you'd get it in your mouth then spit, you'd still have all the texture issues. Just get them to cum somewhere else?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 10:52 PM |
| 14 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?I dunno, just quoting from the OP as that's apparently a thing men go to for their SOs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 10:39 PM |
| 44 | Why is it wrong to say that if men are in the mood and women are neutral (but not agaisnt it) they should have sex with their SO?If you're not aroused sex is painful and can cause injury. Plus doing something just because your other half wants you to is a good way to build resentment. Do you know a lot of men who wax lyrical about going shopping or to Winter bloody Wonderland With their gfs/wives? No. Obviously they complain about it. It's a chore, it's tedious, it's the subject of jokes and ridicule and something they make clear they don't want to do. So think about this - is that how you want your wife or gf to view sex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 08:39 PM |
| – | Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea?I don't understand why anyone would spit - if it tastes bad spitting isn't going to remove the taste. Surely it's more usual to just finish with your hand and have them cum on your face/tits etc if you don't want to swallow. This is what I mostly do anyway and no one's ever thought it was weird so I assumed it was the norm 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 08:23 PM |
| – | Do women take it personally when men don't want to marry/want a prenup?I don't care about prenups but realistically I would never be in the position where we'd need one. I would never date the kind of person that assumes all men are ruined in a divorce and jealously guards his financed Ford Fiesta like I'm in the relationship to take it away from him. Likewise I wouldn't be with someone who thought marriage was one big conspiracy theory against men, because those guys are idiots and I don't need them in my life. I've been divorced and it cost my ex nothing. He had … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:25 PM |
| 1 | quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged?That's fair enough. I think it's fair to want someone inexperienced if you're also inexperienced; generally you will have different attitudes to sex etc than someone who isn't experienced, so probably aren't compatible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:12 PM |
| 1 | quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged?Wouldn't date him, no. I've been in enough online spaces to know that if there's one thing inexperienced men hate above all else, it's a woman that's had sex. Absolutely can't be bothered with the judgement and jealousy that would likely arise. Plus there's almost no reason I can think of for him having no relationship experience that would be acceptable for me. I wouldn't date religious people, wouldn't date people who view sex as only a special thing that happens when a mummy and daddy love ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 11:01 PM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.I don't understand this mindset at all. Tinder is basically down to who advertises themselves well and it's nothing about who you are as a person or how attractive you are in real life. It's not settling if someone meets you in person, is attracted and falls in love, even if your profile might not have stood out to them on OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 11:49 AM |
| 4 | Would you date someone who is bisexual?Personally I don't really get this point of view. Your everyday dynamics shouldn't be anything to do with submissive/dominant and shouldn't have anything to do with your bedroom dynamic. In addition, there's nothing unmanly about getting pegged or doing anything else sexually submissive. I peg my husband occasionally and it's fucking hot - nothing better than a guy being open sexually. Guys who are overly concerned with being viewed as masculine are a massive turnoff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 10:34 PM |
| 1 | How problematic would it be for a 37 man to have braces?It wouldn't bother me, and honestly I'd be pleased for him as teeth can have such an impact on confidence, it's nice when people can sort the things that bother them. I'm biased though as I'm in my 30s and about to get braces and I'm very excited about it 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 08:49 AM |
| 14 | Why are women so interested in fictional romance, while seemingly being disinterested in real life romance?I massage my husband. I've never mentioned it to anyone irl because the subject has literally never come up in conversation. I gather other women probably also massage their husbands/bfs and just no one has personally mentioned it to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 04:49 PM |
| 3 | While it can be annoying for women to be expected to shave their legs, I think it's preferable to the complete lack of uniformity of body hair grooming standards for menSo what do you think? Would you rather have: a) a single high-effort but predictable body hair grooming standard; or b) a multiplicity of standards, some high-effort, some low-effort, none predictable? B for definite. Everyone should just do what they like with their own body hair and fit their relationship standards around that. I like shaving my legs sometimes, other times I like to let it grow a bit. I simply wouldn't be with someone who expected me to shave all the time. I don't give a crap … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 11:22 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADtheres no way men are this hot and cold towards women They are, just fyi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?Nope | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 11:25 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI don't think normal men would be upset tbh. I've showed some of the husband material stuff to my husband and chatted about it and he thinks it's ridiculous. He said "em these kind of guys are all looking for wife material so how is it any different?" And that he knows he's husband material because I married him 😅 But then, he's a normal guy who's had sex and relationships and we started our relationship with casual sex so he doesn't have the same crazy hang ups as guys on this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:14 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADHope you never find one :) kinda rooting for everyone to just get extraordinarily fat just to mess with you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:06 AM |
| 4 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?She's not actually saying that though, you're just making that part up so you can be annoyed about something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 08:55 AM |
| 13 | Why might women be so averse to using female (internal) condoms?The possibility of it doesn't make it worth it imo. And no one is honest about the potential issues you can have with them, which makes it all the more frustrating. For instance you keep banging on about it stopping or lightening periods, which is what most people say. But if you research it then actually you realise that it may stop or lighten your periods but you may also get much heavier, more painful, more erratic ones, particularly if you're on the non hormonal one. It's actually not unusua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 12:30 AM |
| 20 | Why might women be so averse to using female (internal) condoms?Because IUDs are fucking horrifically shit for some people. If I'd known how bad mine was going to be before I got it, I never would have. I got it taken out after a year and only had a handful of decent weeks throughout that time. It's not baffling at all to not want months of constant pain, being unable to have sex or orgasm, spending more time on a period than off it. It was the worst thing I've been through in my life - more painful than gallstones and pancreatitis, more painful than an ecto… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 12:02 AM |
| 12 | Why might women be so averse to using female (internal) condoms?I'd rather be a few more percentage points sure of preventing unwanted pregnancy than not tbh. They've always been less available, less marketed, more expensive. Female condoms are relatively recent (compared to male ones) and only became available during my lifetime - yet I've never seen an advert or any kind of marketing for them. Whereas I see Durex ads all the time and have all my life. At the clinic they proactively offer free male condoms, but I've never been offered female ones or had any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 09:09 PM |
| 18 | Why might women be so averse to using female (internal) condoms?They're slightly less effective than male condoms which may be why some people have an aversion. I don't have an aversion to them, I've just literally never seen one in a shop. So they're less effective, less available, and I believe more expensive. So a pretty crap option. When I was single though I just had my own stash of male condoms though so I never needed to ask "have you got a condom". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 08:12 PM |
| 12 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalI've never seen anyone claim that all men are unattractive and lacking social skills. Whereas I commonly see men on here claim that all women are unfunny and uninteresting. Which suggests the problem is with those men in particular and not actually all women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 04:48 PM |
| 9 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalYou make it seem like the majority of men on this sub are incorrect and immoral in their views and actions. Realistically, it's the majority of men on here that make it seem like that via the things they post which are mostly terrible and paint them as really vile people. I'm merely presenting a honest picture of that. Regardless, I hope you don’t let the bad apples color your view of men in general It doesn't, I actually have no problem with men in general and think most men I know are generall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 04:42 PM |
| 15 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalOf course we’re interested in women as people. You do not speak for all men and you certainly don't speak for the men I'm talking about, who would probably be the first to tell you that you're not interested in women as people either you just think saying it will help you get in their pants. A fairly common sentiment whenever any man suggests that women might be human after all. But I think you’ve misunderstood some of the RPers as well No. I haven't misunderstood a thing. Go and actually pay at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 03:27 PM |
| 32 | Telling men to 'be kinder to each other' is quite hypocriticalThis sub is full of men who insist that men are fundamentally disinterested in who women are as people. They don't think they're funny, or interesting. They don't care about the music women like, their hobbies, interests, their career, lifestyle. They don't need or want female friends. The only reason any man talks to a woman is to fuck her because women have no value other than that. They think it's ridiculous that any women would dare to think that a guy's talking to her to be friendly, becaus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 02:25 PM |
| – | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADAs a slutty woman I love sluts, I married a slutty man and life is fab. We had a threesome with another slutty woman and that was great. If we think of a new sex thing to try then we try it. It's all good lusty fun. Sexual compatibility is a huge important thing in a relationship, so I definitely couldn't go there with someone sexually repressed or with sexual hangups. Unfortunately some promiscuous people still fit into this (I know a couple of guys who were promiscuous while heavily judging th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/24 10:39 AM |
| – | Many RP men it seems, have a dilemma. They don’t want a marriage/LTR with ‘the whore’, but at the same time resent women who are making them wait. Also, many passport bros who are going to Asian/African countries to meet ‘trad wife/gf’ are simply not equipped to handle a genuinely traditional 0-5n cSex and money aren't equivalent to each other. If someone wants a sexual relationship then you have no business getting into that relationship knowing that you don't want sex. You should be in a relationship with someone who also doesn't want sex, or have no relationship at all. If you want money you can earn it yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 11:31 AM |
| 25 | Old generations had some solid advice. Whenever I went out on a date, my mom cautioned me nver to take any gift other than candies, cheap chocolates, or maybe a rose or two, coz it woyld give men "ideas"My mum gave me fairly good advice. Never marry someone without having sex with them first If someone tries to pressure you into sex before you're ready, tell them to go sleep with "Palm and her five sisters" Always use a condom - when you have sex you're doing it with everyone they've ever slept with and not just them. The vast majority of my sexual experiences have been positive and I've never caught an STI or had an accidental pregnancy so I reckon that was all pretty good advice. We also had … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 01:48 PM |
| 0 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionYou really think men get upset about this just so they can complain? Yes. I have literally never seen a man complain about this because it actually happened to him. It's all complaints from guys talking about a completely hypothetical situation they made up so they had something to get mad about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 07:52 PM |
| – | Men's addiction and dependence on porn is because of womenWe us Stop including yourself in this. You have done nothing for anybody ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Which one are you choosing to see again and which one gets the boot?Thanks I think 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Which one are you choosing to see again and which one gets the boot?If I had to see one of them again probably Glenn. The no sex bit is quite off-putting but not a hard dealbreaker for a first date, depending on the reasons (if it's - I don't have sex on a first date because im saving myself for marriage - then its going to be a dealbreaker). They both lose points for picking the date location and paying. I find neither to be attractive traits (first date should be a mutually agreeable location that we decide on together, and we should pay for ourselves or go 50… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 10:31 AM |
| 18 | Apparently women turn “demisexual” around average menHas it ever occurred to you that a) everyone doesn't see every thread and b) lots of times they just can't be bothered engaging with it? Whenever women talk about liking sex on here they get told they're lying anyway, so what exactly would be the point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 03:30 PM |
| – | Do you agree that the bar is on the floor?I think it honestly really varies depending on the person. There are women who are in terrible relationships and praise the guy for 1 instance of bare minimum niceness despite the fact he's an arse the rest of the time. For those women, their bar is on the floor. There are also women who have massive huge standards who will likely never find someone who meets them - you could argue that their bar is too high, if a relationship is what they want. And then for most people the bar is probably in a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 10:31 AM |
| 4 | Women would finally understand why dating is unfair for many men if job hunting process was similar to men's modern dating experienceThis is exactly how the job hunting process works for the vast majority of people. You always had to initiate contact with the company to get their attention, which is pretty normal but imagine you always have to, they never hit you up and ask you for an interview no matter what. Yes. This is how job hunting works for all normal people. If you've become very specialised/high up etc then companies may reach out to you first but for the absolute vast majority of people this isn't a thing. You also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 09:27 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADYou don't know that it's the core problem though, it could be one of many factors. In the article you linked it stated that even in anonymous tests boys do worse in language based tests - and that may well be a fundamental difference between boys and girls, but it could also be because boys take longer to develop their language skills than girls. Girls typically learn to talk earlier than boys and learn to read faster. If boys get an extra year of language development before joining school could… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 07:49 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADYou do know you can address more than one thing, and put more than one fix in place? Yes that sounds like it's something that should be addressed and changed to be fairer. But that doesn't mean starting school later can't also be a valuable adjustment to make. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 07:28 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADNo .. they do better than children their own age who didn't start later. Yes he is more developed than children a year younger, but that gives him an advantage of being able to essentially gain a whole extra year of worthwhile learning, if normally the first year would have been wasted due to him being too young. You can think it's lazy all you want but if it works why not do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 06:31 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI think there have been some studies showing the benefits of that, that boys do tend to do better in school if they start later. My sister deferred her son's school start because of this and he seems to be doing really well, although he's only been in school a few years (not sure if you really see the full benefit until they're older). He was only deferred by one year but even in the space of that one year it was clear to see how much he'd developed - more time for socialisation, better speech, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Which trait are you getting rid of?This is probably also very dependent on where you live. I only know a handful of people who owned a place before being coupled up - most people need to pool their resources to get a deposit together etc. I know a huge amount of people who just lived with their parents through their teens and twenties, until they got into a serious enough relationship to buy a place together. So renting a 1 bed flat is very successful in comparison. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Which trait are you getting rid of?Can I get rid of more than 1? Don't want 1, 4 or 6. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/24 12:23 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADWhat a weird take (from her). Maybe it's because I grew up with my mum and stepdad both being amazing cooks (neither of whom learned it from the other), but I've never felt cooking skill was particularly gendered. You can be a great cook as a woman, you can be a great cook as a man. You might have learned from a man, woman, both, or just been self taught. And also, even if you did learn from a woman why is that gay. People are so strange. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!Yes that's fair, although where I live rotisserie chickens are a bit crap 😅 weird mix of greasy and dry. Healthy enough but not fun to eat on their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!Well if you think jealous, possessive, boring, stupid, bitter, jaded people are 7s to 9s then I expect you're setting your bar too low and scooping up too much trash to find anyone decent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!I too am a bit of a foodie which is probably at least partly where this comes from. But overall, I get not always wanting to cook - we've all had days where we just picked something up or ordered in. But I need a partner who will prioritise a proper meal the majority of the time. I cook most of the time and I'm happy to, but if I'm ill or late finishing work or whatever then my husband happily steps in and I wouldn't want a partner who wasn't able or willing to do that :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!Isn't the numerical value system based on looks and not personality? None of them have a good personality because they all have massive deal breakers, and therefore whatever they look like is irrelevant, and whatever positive traits they might have are irrelevant. I can feel quite comfortable in saying this, because I'm married and I've had previous LTRs, and I've managed to avoid any of those negative personality traits in all my relationships (possessive/jealous, boring/stupid, jaded/bitter/pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!I get that. But lots of people don't cook at all, and the only mention of cooking in these posts was as an affection thing (and not just "they can cook") which is why I wanted clarification. I couldn't live with someone who can only pick up a rotisserie chicken and salad for instance, they need to actually be able and willing to cook. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!Okay, well in reality I wouldn't choose any of them but for the purposes of this hypothetical I'd go with the third then, maybe. Jealousy/possessiveness is an absolute no and I'm not sure I could live with someone I can't have a decent conversation with. But then 2 seems nicer than 3, I don't love the idea of someone being jaded and passionless, I think that would need to bleed into other areas of the relationship. Hmm. Tricky one, they're all a bit crap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 07:36 PM |
| 14 | Which are you picking: my turn, I've tried making it interesting!Question: Why is cooking a "gesture of affection"? Will the third one cook when he needs to? Like, if I broke my arm would we need to live on takeaway for weeks or is he adult enough to cook as part of his actual adult responsibilities? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Who are you picking?Luke - on paper there's nothing wrong with him and I feel like we'd have the best chance of compatibility. No to Michael because he's an asshole and no to Nathan because I'm not into sporty people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 10:08 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADNo, guys are more likely to message first. But it's not any different if guys do message first as I've also noted in my comment. They're not actually putting any extra effort in. When I messaged first I didn't feel it was any extra effort or that I was hard done by in taking that step. I wasn't being proactive or showing any other extra amazing personality traits that you ascribe to men that get sex. They want sex, they ask for it, they get it. They aren't special. So you can think every man and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 09:47 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADIf this happened to an adult, we would absolutely call it rape (or at least SA, maybe torture? Probably depends on jurisdiction) I don't think it's rape or sexual assault if it's an adult. Finding it hard to get a definitive answer but I think it's most likely GBH or assault - one case I saw was charged with attempted murder. I don't think it should be classed as rape, as it's a different type of crime. Even if genital injury occurs as a result of rape I would think it should be two separate cha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 12:37 AM |
| 6 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADwhereas men being pursuers a high N can show stuff like being proactive When I (a woman) was on tinder, I messaged a guy first and asked if he wanted to hook up. He did. We met. We shagged. How exactly does that show proactivity or any special effort on his part? For the guys that messaged me it was the same scenario. They'd message, we'd establish right away we were looking to hook up, we'd arrange to meet. For people who have sex it isn't any effort, it's only this crazy imagined effort for pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do women not seem to have empathy towards sexual needs of men?Firstly, your response isn't at all relevant to my comment that you're replying to. Secondly, I've never seen a man care or show empathy to a random woman upset that she doesn't have these things. This sub is full of men who are positively gleeful about women who can't find a guy to commit etc. In addition, if you're in a relationship and one person wants kids and the other doesn't then there is no compromise to be made there. You just shouldn't be together. Much like if one of you just doesn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Why do women not seem to have empathy towards sexual needs of men?Yes way to completely miss the point. Well done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 09:46 AM |
| 3 | The current rhetoric is that men and women have unrealistic expectations for potential partners. What unorthodox or off-label quirks or unconventional features do you find attractive?With my wildly curly unkempt hair, freckles and lisp I'm feeling the love rn 😅 I'm a lover of an interesting nose. Big ones, little ones, noses going on a wander across someone's face. I'm bi and I find masculine women and feminine men attractive 😅 but I also find feminine women and masculine men attractive 🤷 and anything in between tbh. I prefer guys who are average height or below. As a very short lady, tall people are not an ergonomic option. I like a little chub, a little softness, a little … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 04:20 PM |
| 15 | Why do women not seem to have empathy towards sexual needs of men?It doesn't have to be as extreme as "just lie there and let him use you as a wank sock every time he has an erection Yeah but when this topic comes up this is pretty much the solution that most guys seem to have in mind, which is an empathy killer. In the OP he specifically mentions someone saying she's tired. How do you acknowledge the issue and "try to find a solution?" If one party is too tired to have sex then the solution is you don't have sex, it's that simple. The horny person can go and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 12:12 PM |
| 43 | Why do women not seem to have empathy towards sexual needs of men?or tell their boyfriend "they are too tired for sex" etc Are you confusing "having empathy" with "having sex". Because this sounds like you think the only way women could show empathy would be to have sex when they don't want to, or with people they don't want to have sex with. I'm also confused as to why you think women should have empathy for this. Men in general don't have empathy for women's sexual issues, so why do women in general need to give a crap about men's? Like imagine a guy said to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 10:34 AM |
| 2 | Women of PPD. If you are in a happy LTR, did your "fall in love at first sight" or did you fall in love over time? If so, what made that happen? Also, did any of you initially dislike / hate your husband / BF only to fall enough with him later? If so, how did it happen?I don't think love at first sight is possible. Lust at first sight maybe, but love builds over time. I met my husband on tinder. Neither of us were looking for a relationship and were just looking to hook up. But everything about him was so nice that we hooked up again, and again, until we realised we'd fallen for each other and wanted to be together. We initially texted for a bit longer than usual before meeting, because I'd matched with him just before going away on holiday. Didn't text loads … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 07:43 AM |
| 6 | What is something that were wrong about ?I've seen many people bring up Liz Truss as an example of why women shouldn't be in power, but all the shite male leaders we've had is apparently not a reason why we shouldn't have men in power. The failures of the men are attributed to them personally, the failures of a woman are attributed to all women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 09:00 AM |
| 2 | What are your opinions on beards?I like beards. I like clean shaven guys too, not particularly fussy on whether or not people have facial hair, but I do prefer it if it's nicely kept/cared for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 09:17 PM |
| 0 | Do you think formerly promiscuous women are mostly disadvantaged in the dating market at least when it comes to getting commitment /marriage?Nope. Or maybe the woman who has fallen for one of her FWB/booty calls This happened to me and I married him. I know a lot of couples who started out with casual sex, ended up catching feelings, and it turned into a LTR or marriage. I don't think it causes a disadvantage at all, much as some of the men on here would like to think it does. Generally guys who are having sex don't have such puritanical views on women who have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Q4W : Build Your Dream ManEveryone should do it. You don't know when you might die and everything is so much easier if you have a will in place. Even if you're married. My gran died without a will and it took over a year and a ton of legal fees to settle probate. My grandpa didn't need anything from her estate so it wasn't a huge deal for him, but if you're relatively young, still working, relying on two incomes etc then you want that kind of thing to be sorted as quickly and cheaply as possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Q4W : Build Your Dream ManShort (+1) Dad bod (0) No previous children (-1) Street smart/not book smart (+1) Slightly comical/decent friend group (-2) College degree (-1) Net Worth 50k (-1) Around the same age (-1) Good looking guy (-3) Gamer (+2) =0 A degree isn't a requirement, I don't think it brings anything to a relationship. But my husband has one and I had the spare points so it's there. I didn't have to add anything I find undesirable so that's nice 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 11:51 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: What is the difference between having sex with a hot woman NOT striving for marriage and a hot woman who charges (time, energy, money) for sex?Why does it matter to you? If someone claims they've been publicly proposed to 30 times why is that anymore believable than being proposed to privately 30 times 😅 and realistically if people communicate properly then there shouldn't be a proposal, if the topic of marriage came up and one person said they don't want to get married. It's then about making the decision on whether you stay together unmarried or if the person who brought up marriage wants to leave. In any case it's all very irrelevan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 11:30 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: What is the difference between having sex with a hot woman NOT striving for marriage and a hot woman who charges (time, energy, money) for sex?This is only really a theory but given the amount of people I know who have been engaged/married (a fuck ton) and the amount of public proposals I've witnessed (1) I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest the vast majority of people do not actually propose publicly. So it's a bit of a weird line. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 10:27 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: What is the difference between having sex with a hot woman NOT striving for marriage and a hot woman who charges (time, energy, money) for sex?What isn't self explanatory is why you think that's necessary. Why do they need witnesses? Lots of people like to keep things like that private. It's frankly bizarre that you're specifying that it needs to be public. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 10:16 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: What is the difference between having sex with a hot woman NOT striving for marriage and a hot woman who charges (time, energy, money) for sex?What do you mean by publicly proposition? If you've not been proposed to via flash mob are you a low value woman or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Housework splitI don't think you know what you're talking about. You're blustering about as if you disagree with me and then you're admitting being in the right place at the right time is lucky - that's the same for everyone. You can put in all the work you want but if the opportunity doesn't come along at the right time then your path could look completely different. Someone earning less than me isn't earning less because they don't work as hard, they've just had a different path with different opportunities … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 08:56 PM |
| 5 | Housework splitidk what you’re talking about being lucky and ending up where you are Because that's how it is for most people unless they have a specific career in mind, which realistically most don't. Promotions aren't easier for women so don't talk absolute rubbish. My husband counts himself lucky to have the salary he does, and it was luck - he was unemployed when we met, then had a minimum wage job, and then was unemployed again, and then happened to come across a company that trained him up and gave a dec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 07:22 PM |
| 7 | Housework splithigher paying jobs generally have much higher stress and accountability and skill level Nah they really often don't. Generally the more you earn, the less you do. I've sacrificed absolutely nothing to achieve higher pay. I'm good at my job and I've worked my way up, but like the vast majority of people, I didn't intend to end up where I am. My choices just turned out luckier than the choices of those who earn less. I do most of the driving in my household, I absolutely do not count it as physica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Housework splitWe split our housework pretty evenly, because we both work full time. Earnings are irrelevant in this calculation. If one of us worked fewer hours, the one who did would pick up more housework. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 05:29 PM |
| 8 | Housework splitI think you're the bean counter if you expect your partner to work for the money you earn tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 05:29 PM |
| 9 | Housework splitI personally believe that the partner who brings more $ to the table gets to relax more at home Yeah but this is a shit belief for shitty people. Housework should be split according to time available, financial contribution should be split according to salary. I earn more than my husband. That doesn't mean he's my servant, or owes more housework to the household just because I happen to have more money. I actually like my husband and want his life to be as enjoyable as mine is. If you do not wan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Modern women use "having things in common" as a red herringNo, having things in common is quite specific and helps with general compatibility. My husband still brings up how excited he was when we'd gone back to mine and I'd put my playlist on, and I had a song on it that he loved that he'd never met anyone else that had heard of it. Plus just generally good overlap in musical tastes overall. As we have stuff in common we have a good relationship where it's easy to spend time together doing mutually enjoyable activities. We go to lots of gigs together, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 02:28 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThanks I quite like it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 08:11 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADMy first time wasn't bad at all. Wasn't painful, wasn't disappointing. Was very fun and enjoyable. If you're properly ready for it I don't think there's a need for it to be bad. I think it helped that I only heard about the "it's supposed to hurt" bit afterwards so I wasn't tense and expecting pain which will definitely make it hurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 07:59 AM |
| – | Women have no right to complaint about men who leave for younger women..Again, if that's your desire then don't get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:26 PM |
| – | Women have no right to complaint about men who leave for younger women..I'm saying if you're old and think your partner is ugly you probably need to look in a mirror and realise you're actually ugly too and you need to adjust your standards to that of an old person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 01:19 PM |
| – | Women have no right to complaint about men who leave for younger women..Most old people are ugly to those who are young. As you get old you really need to adjust your standards of what's ugly. I don't like pot bellied, wrinkly guys with hair like a monk but I don't mind if that's how my husband ends up, as I'll be old and ugly too and we can be old, ugly and in love together. Again: if you aren't prepared for that, don't get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 12:05 PM |
| – | Women have no right to complaint about men who leave for younger women..If you don't sign up for that then you're a fool. If you don't want the risk of your partner aging then don't get married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 11:55 AM |
| 8 | Women have no right to complaint about men who leave for younger women..Someone being a perfectly decent person that you like doesn't mean you're going to be happy in that relationship. Your lifestyles might just not be compatible, you might have married young and grown apart etc. just because someone is a decent person doesn't mean there isn't still a reason for that divorce. But you marry someone knowing they'll get old. So divorcing them because they got old is fucking wild. If you don't want to be married to an old person then don't get married 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 10:46 AM |
| 13 | I think some people don’t realize they don’t love their partner until they end the relationship and experience somebody they truly desirequite average looking, kinda resembling Joseph Gordan Levitt Um excuse me, JGL is a stone cold hottie But yes, I do think a lot of people get in relationships because it's what they think they want (or they just feel the need to be partnered up) and don't really realise there could be someone they're better suited to, and it might actually be better to not be in a relationship at all than be with someone not very suitable. Isn't that the whole basis of why a lot of guys on here want very young a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/24 12:56 PM |
| 2 | What is the difference between being "strong and independent" and being an adult?Lots of adults aren't independent and don't seem to possess the capability to be independent. When I was at uni my friend, a 20 year old man, would take his laundry home to his parents. At one point, I had 4 flatmates and none of them paid their own rent. Three of them didn't work at all, or at the most picked up a summer job. One of them needed to open a bank account and took his mum with him because he didn't know what to do. Three of them got parental financial help with their first mortgage … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 12:44 PM |
| 1 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMWhy do you care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 02:51 PM |
| 0 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMI think people are going to make poor financial decisions whether we think it's okay or not, and this random Reddit discussion thread is not going to change that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 1 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMYes but people aren't generally prone to doing that. I was reading a pensions thread a while ago and an astonishing number of people talked about how they'd forfeited their pension because that money is more important to them to have now, and they will just worry about retirement in the future or hope they die before then. People do the same for kids. And yes, if you're financially sensible it might not seem like a benefit to you, but for them it really is about how much they have to spend day t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 12:33 PM |
| 2 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMYou asked what the benefit for men is though. Since "men in general" falls more into "most people" than just you, personally, specifically, it would seem a bit pointless to frame an argument based on your own personal circumstances. Like, are you married? Do you want kids? How much do you earn? How much does your wife earn? How much do you both have on your pension pots and what do those contributions look like? What jobs do you work in and what kind of benefits do you get? How much is childcare… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 12:24 PM |
| 2 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMMost people don't think about that and just think about what saves them money in the short term. If you don't want your wife to stay at home, have kids with someone who doesn't want to stay at home. But you can't just blanket decide there are no benefits because for plenty of people, "saving money right now" is all the benefit they need to consider. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 12:13 PM |
| 6 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMYou cant see it in isolation, you need to factor in other costs like loss of insurance, loss of retirement, loss of future earning potential, mental stress on the breadwinner. Most people don't think about that. Most people aren't adequately prepared for retirement, most people aren't adequately prepared in case one of them dies. So why do you think they would take it into account for this situation? You need to provide very solid evidence as to why children benefit more from SAHM arrangement co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 12:11 PM |
| 4 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHM... Yes, they can. But obviously there are times where that isn't workable - for example the man has much higher earnings or simply doesn't want to quit his job. If me and my husband have kids and we decide a SAHP is best, he'll be the one to stay at home because he wants to and he earns less and has far fewer workplace benefits, so it would make sense for me to continue working. If the situation were reversed it would make more sense for me to be the SAHP. Most couples would consider these kind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 12:09 PM |
| 7 | There is no benefit for a man to let his wife be a SAHMFor lots of people childcare costs as much or more than one person earns. So if the mum is the lower earner the benefit for the dad (and whole family) of her stopping work is more money. It's also flexibility - if you have a SAHP then if the child is ill then you've got someone there all the time. With two working parents it's a juggling act on who has to take the day off to look after them, and lots of jobs don't pay you for the time off if you need to take it. Even if you're losing out on some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: What would you change about this woman's personality in order to date her?you say you're not interested in said race, Yes but I wouldn't say that because it's not true. Because there isn't a physical characteristic that I think is a barrier to attraction across the board. I've fancied and lusted after tall guys, short guys, fat men, thin men, bald/balding/full head of hair, a guy paralysed down one side of their body, a guy with a huge birth mark across his face, guys of all different races, skin colours, hair colours. I'm also attracted to women and the same applies.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/24 07:11 AM |
| 5 | Q4M: What would you change about this woman's personality in order to date her?But personality is the basis for a relationship. It has to be if you want anything at all long term. People get fat, get ill, get old, get injured, go bald/thinning hair (or start getting hair in weird places), get wrinkles, lose teeth, lose mobility. If they have kids they'll probably get stretch marks, their body shape can change permanently, get saggy skin, droopy boobs, c section belly. If you start sacrificing personality traits in order to have a look which is temporary, then that is the e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 09:29 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADAs a v short person I'm now hoping that's a thing 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What would you change about this woman's personality in order to date her?Hilarious that guys on here insist that women are incapable of love and men are the ones who are romantic, want love/companionship etc. When there are men here, like you (and plenty others judging by what they post), who are basically fine with just having a trophy on your arm that has no personality, as long as it looks nice. Such romance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/24 09:06 PM |
| 3 | Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories.You're the only one who mentioned unconditional love, so I don't know why you're making things up to argue about. What is called love is nothing but animalistic hormones anyway Yes. So if you're at the mercy of these animalistic hormones and therefore in love with someone, you're probably not in that relationship just to use them as a resource, are you? So what was the point in your comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories.Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 12:44 PM |
| 7 | Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories.No, once again you're picking a few outliers and making your whole case based on that. Also "strong independent woman who don't need no man" is just a meme and plenty people say it as a joke without it meaning what you seem to think it means. Like, my husband says that to me if I open a jar by myself. It's a joke because obviously people don't get married just so they've got someone to open jars for them. The overwhelming majority of people get married because they fall in love and want to be wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 07:58 AM |
| 6 | Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories.You just told someone else off for assuming the views of some men can be attributed to more than just a few outliers. So why exactly do you think it's okay to take the view of a few female outliers and use that as your basis for your whole theory? Get a grip, think about the fact that love exists, and stop making stupid posts on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/24 07:13 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI think if women were just more flirtatious and physically touchy, their partners would feel “led on” if it didn’t lead to sex as often as they wanted it. I couldn't be in a relationship like that, I would hate to feel like I couldn't touch my partner for fear of him feeling led on if it didn't end up in sex. My husband and I are both really flirty and touchy feely, but there's no expectation or pressure for it to always lead to sex. We know each other well enough and communicate well enough to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/24 08:58 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What are some examples of "Above and Beyond" behavior you have seen or would like to see from men?When I first started trying to use a menstrual cup, I got it stuck inside me (stupid short arms, and hadn't mastered the "bearing down" technique so couldn't grasp the end of it no matter how hard I tried) and he offered to help and successfully pulled it out. I know loads of guys who are squeamish about periods so not sure how many would have done the same thing 😅 Recently my uncle (mum's brother) died unexpectedly. My mum lives quite far away from me and my stepdad is currently away for work s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/24 05:31 PM |
| 2 | What's the most superficial reason that you have rejected someone in real life, or left swiped them on dating apps?Terrible kisser. I was maybe 15 at the time, he was probably 17 or so and in my friend's band. He was fun and nice and had the most glorious long, curly hair. But then came the kissing and it was just terrible and really uncomfortable. I tried to kind of direct it in a better way but it just wasn't happening. I felt like that was monstrously shallow of me so I went on a second date with him but spent ages dreading kissing him again 🙈 finally plucked up the courage and it was still terrible. Coul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 07:18 PM |
| – | Q4A: How connected are you on social media?I'm a woman 162 contacts - some of these aren't really contacts though, they're like taxi companies, work emergency cascade and probably my driving instructors because I never delete numbers. About 20 - almost exclusively on Whatsapp, a small handful on Facebook messenger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 11:04 AM |
| 3 | Men treat women the way women treat their moneyThe same is absolutely true of women, because if it wasn't there would be no poor married couples. But poor people marry each other all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 08:58 AM |
| 0 | Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRsYou don't deserve the courtesy of neutral discussion because you haven't started from a neutral standpoint. You're just bringing crap to the table as if it's the truth. Since your mind is already made up what's the point in engaging with you in good faith, since you're not posting in good faith? For your information, I have plenty of relationship prospects and my exes have told me I've been an amazing bf Cool story bro | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRsThat's because the women who've had a huge string of hookups have burned out their dopamine receptors by the time it's the next guy's turn (in other words it doesn't feel fun or exciting for them anymore). That isn't actually true btw. If you base your arguments on bullshit how can you expect to be taken seriously? Honestly the crap you guys come up with is astounding. Did you ever think this is why no one wants to shag you, because you're a fucking idiot? Just some food for thought. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/24 03:00 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: What is your personal definition of a "good man"?It's quite telling that you immediately jump to assuming it's dishonest, rather than actually being sensible about it. People aren't attracted to everyone. Just because someone is a good person doesn't mean others will be attracted to them - there are so many other things that go into that, from physical attraction, to general lifestyle compatibility etc. The question specified that it was only about a good man and not what's specifically attractive to you. Being a good person is a fairly standa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 12:37 PM |
| 8 | Q4W: What is your personal definition of a "good man"?Kind and caring - good to their family and friends, respectful of people like service staff, not looking down on people or acting like they're inferior. Honest, follows through on commitments, takes accountability for their own actions. But also self respect and boundaries (there's no value in being really nice to everyone even if they treat you like crap, for example). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/24 11:35 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThe UK has loads of attractive male stand ups :) Alan Davies, James Acaster, Jack Whitehall, Michael McIntyre, Russell Howard, Kevin Bridges, Hugh Dennis, Greg Davies, Rob Bryden... Probably more I've forgotten. We are blessed as a nation with handsome funny guys 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | The sexuality of straight women is the driving force behind patriarchyThroughout history powerful people have married for money, more power, connections. Even if they're not with a golddigger a lot of these people will have strategic pairings that are based on others of the same social class/similar power dynamics, or someone who gives them something. There might be genuine love there but that's then exactly the same scenario as every other man who gets married, which the majority of them do, so not an indicator of success. There will be exceptions to this general… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 12:30 PM |
| 5 | The sexuality of straight women is the driving force behind patriarchyYou're talking about guys in power. Who do you think of when you think that? Go look at them - if you were a woman would you want to date them. Then who do succesful and hottest women date? Successful and hot aren't the same thing as powerful and upholding the patriarchy. They are different sets of people. Use your brain please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 12:00 PM |
| 0 | The sexuality of straight women is the driving force behind patriarchyLol I would absolutely deny that 😅 managing to attract a gold digger who would leave you the instant your circumstances took a drop doesn't "successful with women" make, because you may as well just see prostitutes and pretend that makes you successful with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 11:49 AM |
| 6 | The sexuality of straight women is the driving force behind patriarchyIts a genius plan from women to put men in an unwinnable situation Yes, we discuss it at the AGM 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 11:15 AM |
| -1 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?In terms of absolute badness like that, a very small minority. However, well over 50% were overtly sexual right off the bat without attempting a conversation. Almost everyone who had a halfway decent conversation, upon moving to Whatsapp, instantly sent an unsolicited dick pick even if there had been no prior sexual discussion. There are levels to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?How do you know? Oh because some guy told you so? That isn't actually evidence, just fyi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 07:42 AM |
| 0 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?Those were shown to us and not cherry-picked. The How do you know he didn't just have a text conversation with 7 friends and screenshot? Or the same friend 7 times? I'm not saying he did, I think it's fairly plausible that he had 7 decent chats, but it's hilarious that you're all SO determined to believe it's real when you're SO determined to believe anything women say is fake. I can show you a picture right now of the loch ness monster - does that mean nessie is alive and well and kicking about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?Mm gaslight, the term for people who can't be bothered with a constructive conversation. You're really just proving my point here. Women having dating on easy mode and still mess it up and complain. I matched on tinder with a normal, average looking guy. He messaged me and told me he wanted to rape me. How is that me messing it up? That is 100% on that guy being a total arsehole. Same for the guy who asked if I'd sleep with him for money and when I turned him down he called me an ugly whore (iro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:01 PM |
| 0 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?I find it amusing that the men on here are so keen to dismiss any claim made by a women, even when it's corroborated by thousands of other women. When one singular man posts some cherry picked examples and claims to not have received one single negative message yet suddenly this is undeniable "proof" and shows that all women are lying? Any logical reasonable person with more than a singular braincell would conclude that this one lone experiment isn't a trustworthy source and the data has likely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 10:52 PM |
| 4 | Why do you think the the “Dating Experiment” post was removed?I talked about the results of the experiment, and got nothing but guys misinterpreting, being general fuckwits, and contributing to the endless circle jerk. So what benefit would it have been for any other women to do it? You were all far too busy having self-congratulatory wanks to engage in anything close to a constructive conversation, so why the fuck would most people bother? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 09:54 PM |
| 2 | What percentage of men and what percentage of women do you think would be promiscuous if they are already in a happy relationship and they are “allowed” to be promiscuous by their partner?I don't think it would be that high - at their core people are generally kinda lazy and promiscuity is quite a lot of effort 😅 you might get a small % doing it for a short burst or whatever, but don't think it would be lots of people doing it all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?But do you not see how it's then different to come in off the back of that and make the decision that one entire gender as a whole is not worth your time? Which is essentially what this is saying. That isn't the same as just not ending up with opposite sex friends but being open to it should the opportunity present itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?That's not what this thread is about though, or at least not how I'm reading it. It seems to be about purposefully putting one above the other because they think women are better than men. I don't agree with that no matter which way round it is. And there's a difference between having mostly male-dominated interests and therefore naturally having male friends, or purposefully deciding you don't want any female friends because you assume they won't have similar interests/aren't as fun/interesting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?I thoroughly disagree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?Well, this thread is actually about women so really it would be implying that women need to have male friends if she wants a worthwhile relationship. But that's not quite what I meant in any case, I just think people aren't going to have worthwhile relationships if they're not open to giving the same consideration to men and women. If you, as a man, decide you don't want female friends because you don't enjoy the company of women, prefer men etc, I don't see how you can have a worthwhile romanti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:46 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThey have issues because their Prince Charming hasn't yet arrived, not because they are ugly, asocial, autistic incels. Big difference. Quite the assumption. All of them volcels, who, again, are so because they wait for the Prince Charming. There are "volcel" men on here too, and while there are a few women holding off til marriage on purpose I am sure I've seen some who just struggle to date/have sex. Yes, but they are on the same side as PPD women. They aren't debating against them, but with t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?If I put all my relationships with the women in my life over and above my relationship with my husband, it would be a pretty shit marriage. He'd quite rightfully feel upset, potentially resentful, would probably also then prioritise other relationships over ours etc and there'd be no point in us being married. Same if I had a male friend and a female friend, and I give the woman support etc but not the guy, or I cancel plans with him to hang out with her etc because I think I get more out of her… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:31 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThere are several women here who are vocal about their issues with dating, some female virgins etc. conversely there are men here who are attractive, have girlfriends/wives, have had good sex lives etc. It's not very balanced (the majority of posters are male for example) but there is a mix there. And really, what "power" does life experience give any woman here when most of the men assume anything women post on PPD is a lie anyway? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:18 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: What do you think of girl's girls? Do you consider yourself one?I think it's just as weird as guys who do the same with only really liking/hanging out with other men. Normal people get along with both, like both, enjoy spending time with both. If people don't want to do that then fine but they can't really then expect to have any worthwhile relationships with the opposite sex, which is presumably a problem if they're heterosexual and would like to be in a relationship. One that knows her worth and value doesnt revolve around male validation I feel like I can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 11:14 AM |
| 1 | What would it take for you to make the first move?I think most men reading this post (and how I intended it) as making the first move when it comes to complete strangers, putting yourself out there to ask for a number, a dance a club, buying a drink at a bar, etc., I'm just reading this thread after your edit so I'll answer for this. Mostly alcohol and horniness ngl. Out of the complete non-tinder strangers I've hooked up with, I made the first move on about half of them. They also kinda need something that will 'let' you approach them. Like, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/24 05:40 PM |
| – | I Dated Straight Men So You Don't Have To: A Straight Mans Guide To Dating Straight MenI honestly don't understand how you didn't get a single low effort or sexual message 😅 when I was on tinder I had a handful of nice pics, nothing crazy, no revealing pics (I was wearing an old man flat cap in one drinking from a floral china teacup ffs, there were no bikini pics/nights out etc). I never swiped on anyone with nudes/semi nudes, all just normal dudes with a range of looks. And sure, I got loads of matches and a ton of messages but almost all were overtly sexual immediately (the mos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/24 11:31 PM |
| – | If "most men don't want a partner, they want a mom", then most women don't want a partner, they want a dad.A man who's always financially stable, older than you, has his shit together, buys you things, and never expects you to do anything in return? Sounds an awful lot like your dad. Sounds like the complete opposite of my dad tbf. Apart from "older than me", obvs. I've never met anyone who has his shit less together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 05:09 PM |
| – | Q4W: How do good hookups get around dehumanization?I've just never felt that it's dehumanizing 🤷 I found casual sex to be fun and enjoyable, an activity two people are mutually interested in doing together. There's always going to be the odd bad experience, just like in anything, but in general I had a really nice time with the people I hooked up with. For the most part we'd be trying to make sex mutually enjoyable, chatting about what's good, what we like, doing our best to do good work for the other. We were friendly, respectful. Usually had v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 03:56 PM |
| 8 | Women Reward Results, Not Effortno I say it because I have eyes,and I can see. Most other women do too, and are also aware that this isn't just a well built man. I'm fairly sure you do in fact know this and you're just being a prick 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 08:18 AM |
| 9 | Women Reward Results, Not EffortBoth guys in the above pic will be see as athletic, not bodybuilder physique by women. Where are you getting this? Because as a woman I think you're full of shit. Neither of those are what anyone would term as an "athletic" build. They're both far too bulky. Athletic build is slim, lean, wiry generally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 07:53 AM |
| 4 | Women Reward Results, Not EffortIf you ask her to describe this "some muscle guy," she might envision a physique like Dolph Lundgren's in "Rocky IV." Literally no one means this when they think about "some muscle", he's very bulky and it's not attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 07:12 AM |
| 0 | Boys need a lot more than most GirlsYou're a fucking imbecile, just fyi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 09:21 PM |
| 0 | Boys need a lot more than most GirlsNo, all the rest of it. However I can't imagine someone's dad "trying to stop her from being a hoe" is likely to give a healthy parent-child dynamic either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/24 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Boys need a lot more than most GirlsFucking hell I hope you don't have a daughter, since you'll be destroying her entire life with that attitude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Is lying about your career in hopes of getting a ONS wrong or immoral?I have to say, when looking for ONS I couldn't give two shits what job someone did and I never even saw anyone's car so it would have been a waste of money them renting one 😅 It's probably not a good tactic if you think there's the potential to see the other person again and develop something more serious, because then they'll be annoyed you lied. But for ONS how will anyone know or care if it's true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 12:36 PM |
| – | Women of the purple pill, if you met a guy whose IG was full of selfies, what would you think of him?I know a couple of guys like this (although not so much with the try hard lines, just the rest of it). They're nice guys, friendly enough. We're not really into the same things. I don't get "the ick" from it, I'm just not attracted to them, although that's not really anything to do with their Instagram as I knew I wasn't attracted to them before I ever saw either of their pages. We're just not the kind of people who would be into each other really. I scrolled the comments btw and saw you mention… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 08:16 AM |
| 0 | Would the Male Heterosexual equivalent of yourself have an easier time or harder time in dating?What the fuck is your purpose in asking the question and all your follow up questions if you don't want people to actually answer? Did you just want everyone to go 'yes would be harder poor mens have it so bad why don't you come over for a pity shag?' I'd do fine dating as a man because I'm not a giant argumentative arsehole who thinks the world is out to get me, basically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Would the Male Heterosexual equivalent of yourself have an easier time or harder time in dating?I skimmed the top level comments and not the discussion, how is that hard to understand? I really have a hard time believing that as a person on the shorter end of spectrum that you’d have it just as easy as you say. You can have a hard time all you want, since it's a hypothetical I can only really go with what I think would happen. I don't live in the US and I think the height thing is different here, our average height is shorter etc. I've never met a short guy who particularly struggled with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Would the Male Heterosexual equivalent of yourself have an easier time or harder time in dating?It’s almost as if it’s a pattern. Almost as if people often read the comments before replying and then therefore reply in a similar vein as that's what's fresh in their mind. Pretty much human nature. I'm sure you'd rather believe it's all a big conspiracy though :) Read my first comment which included anything relevant about why it would be the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Would the Male Heterosexual equivalent of yourself have an easier time or harder time in dating?Oh hah, went on a ramble and forgot the question. No need for the condescending arse act :) In terms of relationships probably the same. Casual sex might have been a bit harder but maybe not, most of my dating/relationships took place before the advent of hook up apps and when people actually went out and met each other. With all the reasons in my previous comment I reckon it would probs be largely the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Would the Male Heterosexual equivalent of yourself have an easier time or harder time in dating?I'm short (5'0) and look exactly like my mum. If I was a man I guess I'd be short and look exactly like my dad?? Although my dad is short (5'3) and he's never had trouble dating - he ran off with another woman when I was a kid and has pretty consistently had girlfriends throughout my life, until he got married and then his wife died (which was just under 4 years ago so a few years of being single and now he's seeing someone again) If I still looked exactly like my mum but as a man I would probab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 09:00 AM |
| 1 | What is your most arbitrary “deal-breaker” when contemplating a serious relationship w/someone?Chill Wasn't aware I wasn't chill, it's just stating a fact. You're in a tiny minority of people/vegans. The vegan subreddits are mostly full of people who equate meat eaters to murderers and rapists and would absolutely not tolerate that kind of thing in their house. Even amongst more relaxed vegans - most people live in cities and don't have that kind of upbringing. Most meat eaters I know are queasy if confronted by their meat looking too animal like (as long as it's in the shape of a nugget … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/24 11:07 AM |
| 2 | What is your most arbitrary “deal-breaker” when contemplating a serious relationship w/someone?Yes I don't think I could date a vegan either. Thinking about the times I've killed lobsters, beheaded/skinned rabbits, plucked and gutted pigeons etc in the house or garden and I can't imagine a vegan would be willing to put up with it 😅 and I'm the same where I show love by cooking. I think I'd struggle to be with anyone with any kind of restrictive diet or even just a fussy/picky eater. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/24 05:01 PM |
| 4 | A feminist argument against going 50/50?I don't agree with doing some overall collective agreement about what standards people should accept in relationships. This isn't a workforce and there isn't a dating union. You just need to do what is right for the two people involved in the relationship. If you have an overwhelming disparity in income then financial contributions to the household could be on a pro rata basis, which covers the potential income inequality thing. If someone is unhappy with the amount of chores their partner is do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 11:15 AM |
| 50 | Q4W: Parallels between fathers and husbandsWhat the fuck even is this stream of horseshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion?I said bonding more to your first partner and the whole virginity thing is a social construct. So your response is irrelevant to that, well done. We know scientifically having sex is important for having healthy relationships because it bonds you. Then why the fuck would you marry someone without having sex with them? If sex is important for healthy relationships and you shouldn't marry someone you don't have a healthy relationship with - it's then extremely illogical and pretty stupid to wait t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 11:25 AM |
| 4 | Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion?many men and woman become attached to their first partners that is why taking someone’s virginity is frowned upon if you aren’t interested in them. Don't you think this is actually more of a social construct? We place an idealistic value on "virginity" and the "giving away" of your virginity is touted as some kind of special gift. This comes from purity culture and people not wanting others to sleep around, not because having sex for the first time is inherently special and somehow biologically … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion?When I was a teen my mum gave me some life advice: never marry someone you haven't had sex with in case they're terrible in bed. Even if I hadn't been given that advice I wouldn't have waited until marriage - I really didn't see the point. Sex is sex, it's natural to want sex, and stupid to get married young. I'd have had no interest in waiting potentially a decade or more after sexual maturity to actually have sex. I think intercourse is a thing reserved for two people who love each other This … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 09:33 AM |
| 4 | Saving yourself for marriage - what is your opinion?Your first time will be the most intense bonding experience of your life This just isn't true though. If people want to wait till marriage, fine, but why lie? The first time overall is no more intense a bonding experience than your first or five hundredth time with anyone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/24 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you rather be stranded on an island with a man or a woman?It really depends. If I could choose the person I'd rather be stranded with a man - my husband. We camp, we've learned some Bushcraft skills, we can make fire and shelter and twine and know several effective methods for getting clean water. We did a week in the woods on a Bushcraft thing and a guy there told us we were like the perfect survivalist couple, as we worked so well together and had a range of skills between us 😅 If it was a random person then I'd pick a woman. In my experience when wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/24 06:51 AM |
| 18 | Killing “it” or killing “us”?You don't need to be a thug to up and leave your wife and kids. You don't have to be a thug to die unexpectedly, leaving your family behind. You don't have to be a thug for your relationship to just not work out 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/24 01:46 PM |
| 2 | What are men allowed to complain about today?You're just really making stuff up now. In another part of this thread, you were talking to someone else about boys falling behind in school not being addressed enough. If it was being addressed enough would you just turn around and say it doesn't count because that affects children and not men? I'm pretty sure you would as your responses on here indicate you're absolutely not willing to engage in good faith. If it affects men then it affects men. It doesn't really matter if it happened to them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 08:06 PM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?You kinda are though. Many human activities involve harming ourselves for pleasure - drugs, alcohol, smoking, excessive meat consumption, 12 hour gaming marathons, risky sports, risky sex practices, driving fast cos you like it. Dunno why you're so hung up on this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 03:20 PM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?I dunno it just does 🤷 even just holding your breath gives a more intense orgasm, and there's nothing kinky about that/no danger etc as there's nothing stopping you from breathing again. The cells in your brain are fucking dying when you do this. Eh. Doubt most people continue it for long enough for this to happen. Sure if you're really intensely restricting oxygen that could happen, but the aim shouldn't be to go that intensely. Like yeah it's probably a problem if you're going so long you star… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 10:45 AM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?That's not the same though. Asphyxiation gives an actual benefit for sex ie it makes it feel more intense. As far as I'm aware a skydiving dangerwank would not, therefore it's a stupid comparison. Yes restricting oxygen can be dangerous but it can be done very very safely (much like putting safety controls into adrenaline sports to help reduce injury/death). People have accidentally killed themselves when they've done it alone and tied something around their neck, as that's stupid behaviour (lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 10:02 AM |
| 5 | What are men allowed to complain about today?I've found that when women see that something happens to a child then there's sympathy but if you are an adult male, there's none. If a child complained to me about it then sure I'd be sympathetic, but it isn't children complaining. They don't often know it's even something to complain about until they're men. I personally have sympathy for the man and the consequences for his life, not some hypothetical child. I've encountered the sexual dysfunction it can cause. Yes while the initial incident … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 09:33 AM |
| – | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?Because it is 🤷 most people are not doing it with the intent to be violent or cause harm. Yes, it can be dangerous when not done correctly (so really it is better if it is a person you trust choking you, rather than asphyxiation through other means such as putting something around your neck etc as that way lies the slippery slope to accidental death) but people indulge in lots of dangerous behaviour that no one thinks they're damaged for enjoying - bungee jumping/skydiving/Heli skiing - the list… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many women ask to be choked? Is it because they believe men enjoy this?It makes orgasms feel more intense. Plenty of guys enjoy it too. If you don't enjoy it that's fine, but it's just as normal as any other sexual proclivity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/24 12:16 AM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADNah that's easy - if their driving is shite it's probs an Audi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/24 10:22 PM |
| 10 | Rationalizing a pump and dump"giving up sex" - or, you know, having mutually enjoyable sex because they wanted sex?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/24 04:00 PM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADWell yeah, you can. Tbh I don't give a fuck what some random person had in mind when they designed my clothes. I don't wear them for the purposes of attracting sexual attention. I also don't understand what's wrong in your head (not you specifically - just everyone in general with this opinion) that this is even an issue. I have never once thought I was entitled to stare at someone for any reason but certainly not because I thought they were dressing sexy or whatever. I don't go around staring a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/24 12:41 PM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADIt's nothing about being a victim, people who stare are just shitty people. Just because something is sexual to you doesn't mean the other person is doing it for sexual attention. You could use the same argument for staring at naked people in the changing rooms. You might find naked people sexually arousing but they're not doing it to arouse you, so just grow up and don't fucking stare 🤷 not that hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/24 12:23 PM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADOr you could just not. I learned it was rude to stare when I was about 4, how have you never learned it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/24 07:19 AM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADI would literally need to cut my boobs off to stop men noticing them. I have giant boobs. They're noticeable in everything. At least with cleavage out they can breathe a bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/24 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Rank these 3 men as dating prospects and explain why.None are dateable. I'm finding it difficult to rank, but I'd say 2 and 3 are probably tied, 1 is last. Number 1: I don't think I could be fucked with an influencer type, which is what he sounds like. I would like kids so also his not wanting other kids rules it out. I probably wouldn't want to date someone who already had kids either, although I'm not sure if that's a deal breaker. Number 2: Would literally be perfect with the hunting, fishing, outdoorsy, owning land etc but the long haul truck … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/24 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick?How? People can't live on animal produce entirely, so these "vegan appropriate" foods still need to be grown. Besides which, huge swathes of "vegan appropriate" food is grown to feed animals, so if the animals didn't need fed then a lot of that wouldn't need to exist (all of which involves the same death roll in rodents, birds, bugs). So sure, "vegan appropriate" food will cause death of rodents, birds and bugs. But raising meat causes all this death in addition to killing the animals for meat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 06:36 PM |
| – | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.I'm married, so not really in the need of a date. But thanks for the advice 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/24 08:17 AM |
| 3 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.How is that in any way relevant? Walking into a bar and having some rando agree to sex doesn't solve loneliness. It's nothing to do with loneliness. If it was, then men wouldn't get so pissed off whenever sex workers or women they deem unattractive are suggested as a solution to their loneliness problem. Men can obtain sex easily if they're willing to debase themselves or do something they really don't want to do. Why is it suddenly enviable for a woman to be able to do the same thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 07:54 PM |
| -8 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.The real world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 07:16 PM |
| -2 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.That still isn't how the majority live | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 06:32 PM |
| 11 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.Going to parties constantly for months on end, making some friends, have some fun but ultimately burning out on them, not going anymore because you decided they weren’t your thing anymore but still getting invited to them and knowing that, if you ever wanted to, you could go to a party on any given weekend should the urge strike This isn't how the majority of women live though. This is a very tiny minority, possibly one you've imagined. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 06:12 PM |
| 6 | Can you prove women's alleged "mental load"?🤣 yes, when I was a kid I always used to wonder why my mum got so annoyed if I forgot to take something out the freezer. Now I fully understand haha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 05:21 PM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADIs it? Tbh I barely know anyone that's had a break up then got back together with the person so I don't have much frame of reference. I can only think of 2 examples off the top of my head and neither of them were the 1st case scenario (but neither of them were good relationships either and they probs should have just stayed broken up in both cases). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 12:54 PM |
| 1 | How quickly do women know they want to pursue a relationship/sex with a man?How would you know if you've seen it though, realistically? If you don't think it happens you'd probably just assume they've always been attracted to that person. You're not going to know that they weren't and then developed that attraction over time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 12:47 PM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADI feel like "road head" must be a cultural thing. I could never work out how tf it was a thing but then I realised Americans mostly drive automatics and have giant straight long roads. Road head here would just block the gear shift and cause an accident 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 11:32 AM |
| – | POSTS WITH AFFIRMATIVE CLAIMS AND LOADED QUESTIONS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE" POST FLAIR APPRECIATION DAILY MEGATHREADYou are deliberately equating two different scenarios. If a guy said his wife left him in order to get together with a specific someone else and was then reaching out to him to attempt to cheat on this new person, then he would be rightfully told "omg leave her, you don't deserve that" etc. I know this is true because I've seen guys get this advice in similar situations Where it's "none of their business" is if you broke up for unrelated reasons, happened to have sex with other people while defi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 11:26 AM |
| 2 | How quickly do women know they want to pursue a relationship/sex with a man?But no amount of personality will make someone go from a no to a yes I disagree. I've developed huge lustful crushes on people who I thought were unattractive when I met them, and thus went on to bang them. Sometimes their personality turns them hot 🤷 what was previously an unattractive feature turned to a delightful quirk etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 08:10 AM |
| 23 | Can you prove women's alleged "mental load"?and/or easily recordable, like a shopping list which you can write down on your phone. I don't really understand your point here. Sure you can write down your shopping list, it would be a bit weird not to. But in order to do that you need to plan what food will be consumed over the coming week. You need to have some awareness of what you have in the house or go and check. You need to have some awareness of what the people in your household will eat, and what time there is to cook on a given day.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/24 07:39 AM |
| 13 | Would love to hear different explanations for the difference in answersWomen are more realistic about how this will affect their life whereas men aren't, being less likely to be in this position or know a fellow man in this position. A huge raise/promotion drastically altering life circumstances. Most people have kids. A lot of people think it's more beneficial to stay at home with the kids while they're young. If your partner gets paid the big bucks then it makes sense for the poorer partner to stay home. They then have reduced pension income when they're old, few… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/24 11:55 AM |
| 20 | Why do progressives/feminists rarely object to grooming standards for men?How often do you see men reveal their armpits, apart from the gym or the beach? Ehhh only all the fucking time. Men wearing t-shirts often show their armpit hair as it pokes out their sleeves. This is normal, accepted, and no one comments it. Gym, beach, swimming, hot days with a tank top or topless, football in the park blah blah blah. No one gives a shit about men's armpit hair but women wouldn't be able to go without comments in a single one of these scenarios. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Why do women on dating apps ask what men do for work?I'm a woman and literally every person I've met or spoken to since I've been of working age has asked what I do for work. It's a normal interaction that human people have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 06:01 PM |
| 4 | To the women who have dated or are dating a guy with less relationship experience than you, what is it like ?somethings not adding up 🤔🤔🤔 You obviously can't count very well then. This thread is specifically asking people who are in relationships with less experienced men. Therefore those that don't date less experienced men are much less likely to answer it. Also, the question specifies "less experienced" not "inexperienced" - they are different things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/24 10:36 AM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?Maybe you just hang out with a different demographic of women. A lot of the women on here are conservative or virgins so not likely to have been in a pump and dump situation. The others who do engage in casual sex won't see themselves as being pumped and dumped because the entire expectation of their interaction is no strings attached sex. So presumably your female friends are all having sex with the intention of turning it into a relationship, if they've been pumped and dumped. Which is a bit o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 12:54 PM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?It bugs me when people always assume you're lying when you tell the truth. I have no interest in lying on here - I'm anonymous, what would be the point. I'm also not interested in downvotes/upvotes - but you're saying you got downvotes for saying you liked taller guys, I've been downvoted plenty and had belligerent comments for saying I like short guys. It doesn't matter either way. But I'm a short woman. I like other short people. And sure, shorter guys can struggle but that doesn't mean they a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 12:01 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Looks, money, status... Is it true?Reworded: If your physical Prince Charming took you on an introductory coffee date tomorrow, what status and income level would you expect him to have? Be reasonable, and be honest; please and thanks. None. Status is a meaningless buzzword. And my husband was unemployed and on the dole when I met him. Personality and sexual compatibility are the important things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 09:55 AM |
| 6 | Are Situationships for the most part, a result of women not being able to secure men they wish to date?Lol nurses and teachers make nowhere near that in the UK. From what I can tell by salary banding (from Scotland at least) you'd need to be a head teacher with years if not decades of experience. Average nurse salary is in the 30s. 100k here is richy rich. Salaries and what they get you are very different here compared to the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI read a thing from a couple of years ago that said only a third of men eligible for paternity leave actually took it. If they won't even take a few weeks leave when they're entitled to it and it doesn't reduce the women's leave, how can we hope they're suddenly going to shift to wanting to sacrifice years towards childcare? Obviously that is starting to shift a little and more men are willing to do it, but even if articial wombs were invented tomorrow I can't imagine it making much of a cultura… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathread-Employers can't use discriminatory mindset against you in the workplace like "i won't hire her because she may had kids later" -No more reasons for the motherhood penalty I feel like it would take a very long time to make the cultural shift to men being as likely to take time off/care for their kids. Employers aren't only thinking of pregnancy when they discriminate against women of childbearing age - there are years of potential disruption (many parents need to have one person quit or drop hou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/24 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Daily Community Chat Megathread2nd one. I like my boobs, wouldn't want to go any smaller than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/24 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDepends on the occasion and where we're going, but at least once a year we get up ridiculously fancy and go out for a nice dinner very overdressed. Last time, my husband was in a 3 piece suit and I was in a long white dress and the head waiter guy came over to say we looked fantastic and he just really wanted to know why, was it a special occasion - I think he thought we'd just got married 😅 Managed not to get food on ourselves though, neither of us are particularly prone to food spillage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/24 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Ladies - Did you feel more dependent on your man when you fell in love with him?Yes ish. I wouldn't call it surrender exactly. But although I'm perfectly happy and capable of functioning on my own, I prefer to be with my husband. In previous relationships I really relished the opportunity to spend time alone, but in this one I can take it or leave it. I'm not dependent on him for entertainment or whatever - we can be in the same room doing something completely different. But it's just nicer when he's there. Not sure if that's "being dependent" or just "enjoying someone's co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/24 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: If all men magically became the average man, how would that change your life?Well if every guy suddenly has 4 billion friends I guess they'd be too busy to date, so I guess that's how my life would have been different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 11:20 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: If all men magically became the average man, how would that change your life?has the same friends Is every man in the world friends with every other man in the world? Or do they just have all the same friends because every man is exactly the same in this scenario? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 05:27 PM |
| 2 | I found an interesting video presenting a map of relationship states. I'm curious to know what the PPD community thinks about it.Bill Gates isn't attractive because he's an old man. Nothing to do with not being a bad boy. Ozzy Osbourne is probably a "bad boy" but is also not attractive, because he's an old man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 12:52 PM |
| 3 | I found an interesting video presenting a map of relationship states. I'm curious to know what the PPD community thinks about it.man's physical attractiveness, and his status, power, competence, and confidence. Why are these "bad boy" points? Are only ugly people nice or something? And only bad people confident? Like most of these things, it sounds Iike a bunch of brainless bullshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 10:54 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI have one sibling (sister, 2 years older) we have a good relationship. We only live 20 mins away from each other so see each other quite a lot. We also have a lot of shared interests - cooking, baking, growing veg, sewing, learning a new language together - so we help each other out with things, swap tips and seeds and lend each other equipment. Me, my mum and my sister do occasional "stitch and bitch" evenings where we'll all bring a sewing/knitting/crocheting project and work away at it while… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 04:18 PM |
| 15 | Is a One Night Stand the truest form of a woman showing Burning Sexual Desire?Not in my experience. I've had ONS with people I wasn't particularly attracted to, because I was horny and they were the most convenient person. And I've had burning sexual desire for people I haven't attempted to have sex with for various reasons (because the timing was inappropriate, or one or both of us was in a relationship or whatever). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/24 02:03 PM |
| – | women. opinions on masculine guys adopting feminine traits alongside their masc ones.Caring about something doesn't make it a requirement, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 10:55 AM |
| – | women. opinions on masculine guys adopting feminine traits alongside their masc ones.What's the point in caring about anything? A nice bum is hot and a turn on. Yes it doesn't make the person but neither do any of the physical characteristics or individual personal characteristics that people care about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/24 10:46 AM |
| 2 | Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women.Thanks for the tips, will keep in mind :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women.We had one of those (or a long tyre iron type thing anyway, as far as I can tell they're similar) and it just wouldn't budge at all. I have roadside assistance at home so if I was struggling I'd just call them anyway, it's not like I'd just stand around waiting on a guy (or a woman) to help haha. But in this case we were on holiday, had managed to get to a petrol station, and there was a large and helpful guy working there who was happy to assist. In any case my car doesn't have a spare so I nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 03:29 PM |
| – | Woman really don't like most men sexuallyConsidering men turn to sex with men in prison, I think you are extremely incorrect in your assumption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 12:33 PM |
| – | Woman really don't like most men sexuallyDo you also think men get off to gay blowjob videos like female blowjob videos? FFS can't you read? No, I don't think they do that. Because if they want to watch a blow job they can fucking watch het porn. Just as there would be no point in a guy watching gay porn if he's not attracted to men because he can just watch het anal porn. Whereas lesbian porn gives women something that het porn doesn't give. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 12:27 PM |
| 7 | Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women.I will keep that in mind thank you! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 12:15 PM |
| 4 | Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women.Breast cancer gets more funding because historically it always needed more funding. Don't just parrot this shit, go and do the research. Breast cancer affects men as well as women, so a larger population is at risk of it. It is the most common type of cancer. While breast cancer and prostrate cancer both are more likely with age, breast cancer becomes more likely at a younger age than prostrate. Generally prostrate is extremely slow growing and you are more likely to die of something else in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 10:53 AM |
| 13 | Things are only truly terrible when it happens to women.With the tire situation a lot of women can't change the tire they cant break the lug nuts they can't jack the car up. Yes - I theoretically know how to change a tyre as I've seen it done and assisted with a tyre change. I can jack the car up fine. But then I really struggle to move tyres themselves - moving one off and away from the car, fine. But I wouldn't be able to get a spare one out my boot to put on the car, or put the old tyre back in the boot (without scraping up the back of my car anyw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 10:30 AM |
| – | Woman really don't like most men sexually1.And yet, the vast majority of amateur couples post videos that clearly show them having sex in good lighting Never seen a single one that wasn't awful and just distractingly shit to watch. The same amount of effort that it takes woman to type in lesbian into the search bar on PH, they could easily type in amateur and get off to that. Except it then takes much longer to find one that isn't shit when they could just click the first result for lesbian. A man watching 2 gay guys go at it, is vastl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 09:57 AM |
| – | Woman really don't like most men sexuallyIt's also been invaded by amateur couples that post vid of themselves having sex. Oh yay blurry dark video with awkward angles. Maybe people prefer the production value of professional porn? Heterosexual porn is far more diverse than the stereotype u presented. There are even sites like erotica that cater to romantic, sensual porn that woman desire Who goes researching porn? Most people just want something quick and free to access. Therefore on the mainstream sites if you're looking for that spe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 09:13 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadVery comfortable 10/10 I have atrocious periods so I can't live with someone without them knowing I'm on it, as necking pills and having a hot water bottle surgically attached to me throughout is a bit of a giveaway 😅 so it's pretty much a given that it will come up. In any case we have no secrets, no awkwardness. The man fished a menstrual cup out of my vagina for me because the first time I tried one I got it stuck and I couldn't get it back out 😭 and he sat in the bathroom with me, bloody pad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 11:44 PM |
| 3 | Women, what do you bring to the table?I'm in the UK so maybe the set up is different. I have no idea if scholarships are a thing here because they're never talked about, I only know of them from an American context. I never lived in uni accommodation because I wasn't eligible, but from everyone I know who lived in actual uni accommodation they still had to pay rent and do their own shopping/cook food etc. It's just like renting anywhere else except you have more flatmates and are close to classes. Meh, loans here are means tested wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Women, what do you bring to the table?Getting a degree (at least a college one) involves housing that is paid for, food that is paid for, etc. What, where is that?? 😅 I had to scrimp and save for a year before I went to uni so I could afford to go. I had to juggle a part time job around classes to pay for rent, and bills and food, like every other student I know. I got a student loan "for living costs" that didn't even cover the cost of my uni books. Where is this magical place where housing and food is paid for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Women, what do you bring to the table?Hah yes there are probably a lot of people talking shit on here, and that's the difficulty with posts like these as they're so rarely made in good faith. But I still do think it's subjective overall, what people bring to the table - my skills/hobbies and interests work really well for the life my husband and I have and the life we want - and may well be desirable to others with similar goals. But that's not going to suit everyone and that's fine, we all have different groups of people we're more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 12:22 PM |
| 30 | Women, what do you bring to the table?How do guys dismiss these answers? In the past I've seen responses such as: sex doesn't count because it's bare minimum/he could get someone else to sleep with him/go to a prostitute emotional support doesn't count because men don't need that organising things in the home/for holidays doesn't count because either men don't need/want that or if a woman is organising a holiday she must be a money grabbing bitch who's getting him to pay for it cooking doesn't count, either because men don't need th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 11:28 AM |
| 46 | Women, what do you bring to the table?But this time, let's ask women. "But this time" as if this isn't asked all the time on this sub 😅 Whenever this is asked guys just dismiss any actual answers as not being relevant etc. What people bring to the table is entirely subjective - the things you value in a relationship may not be what others value. To my husband I'm an entirely impressive woman who brings a crazy amount of stuff to the table, but to someone else that stuff might be dismissed as not important. In any case I started writ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 10:45 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhen I was getting a referral to discuss possible endo a couple of years ago, they only had male obgyns. It was fine though, he was a great doctor, took my concerns seriously and explained all my options thoroughly. For physical exams he brought a female nurse in to chaperone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 08:53 AM |
| 4 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?That's quite a big assumption. And just because someone has shared something with you in a friendship context doesn't mean someone else might not share it in a sexual context. From OPs comment it sounds like she was interested in him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 12:53 PM |
| 5 | What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with?Did she tell you about the 3-ways? If so, you never had a chance with her in the first place. Women don’t admit to shit like that in front of guys they like. Not true, obviously. Otherwise poly and swinger communities wouldn't exist. If someone likes having threesomes and then finds themselves attracted to a person, it is in fact quite sensible to tell them about the threesomes to gauge whether or not you're sexually compatible. I wouldn't want to be with someone sexually conservative, it would … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 12:35 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe part that's in his imagination | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 10:01 PM |
| 0 | Why is it that women are confused about why men don’t want to be open about there vulnerabilities ?Surely they’ve heard about or even personally know women who lose respect for men when they become vulnerable No, never. All of my life experiences have shown and taught me that men being open about their vulnerabilities benefits them and is good for their relationships overall. Surely they’ve seen a lot of women use “ insecure “ as an insult . I've seen men use this as a way to insult women too but that's never convinced me that women should hide their vulnerabilities so I'm not sure why it wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/24 09:19 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: Do you ever want to feel sexy just for yourself?you feel some kind of way after you hit a pb. Untouchable. Same when you perfectly nail an eyeliner flick tbh. So rare, and so wonderful when it happens. Even more so when you manage to make both sides match 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 12:07 AM |
| – | Women are becoming increasingly less feminine and exhibiting masculine traits that most men find unattractive, yet due to desperation and simping they have no motivation to stopWomen have always been afforded more leeway to dress androgynously than men. That is slowly changing, but it is something they've had far longer than men nonetheless. Not really, things just go in and out of fashion. While in terms of somewhat current fashion (or fashion for the past hundred years or so), women have been able to dress more androgynously, prior to that there were big chunks of time in the past where men wore heels, powdered wigs, make up, frills, lace. Men cutting about in togas … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 08:49 PM |
| 7 | If females want so much trust in a relationship, then they should be fine without no-fault divorce laws.This is hilarious. So basically you have no idea wtf you're talking about, you're just parroting nonsense you heard somewhere and what, it feels right to you? So you'll just suck to your guns no matter what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/24 12:27 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadLast night, this morning | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 11:29 PM |
| 18 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?Whereas your tactic of picking something you're going to blindly believe and never at all consider there might be other reasons for something is such a good one. Noted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 01:03 PM |
| 16 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?When was the last time you say a "straight" man say he preferred lesbian porn? Well quite a lot of guys like lesbian porn 😅 but I assume you mean gay porn. I know a lot of women who prefer lesbian porn because it's gentler, nicer, more focused on female pleasure. Hetero porn is often for the male gaze and features acts which don't seem to be enjoyable/pleasant for the woman. I assume most lesbian porn is for the male gaze too but it's probably easier to find stuff that's to their taste. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:37 PM |
| 14 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking specifically about the men, of which there are many on this sub, who insist that men are better than women in literally every way. Post pictures of half naked men and insist they're the most handsome creature to walk this earth and any woman who thinks otherwise is lying. However they do not seem inclined to actually date or sleep with men, and I would assume it's for the same reason the women in the OP don't date women. why are you folks upset that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:30 PM |
| 30 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?Men on this sub frequently wax lyrical about handsome and sexy men and then are offended and accuse people of homophobia and misandry if someone suggests they're gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:16 PM |
| 53 | Why Don't Man-Hating Chicks Just Date Other Women?Presumably for the same reason the guys on here who wax lyrical about men (how handsome, empathetic, smart, loyal, and all-round amazing they are) and hate on women (how fake, fat, ugly, shallow, selfish, disloyal, stupid and boring they are) don't just go and date men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThey write with disgust, with dehumanising language, with insults. Someone could say "oh I prefer guys with darker hair over blonde", or "I like tall women, they look so elegant". That's a preference. Or even "for me sex is a really special and intimate act - I only want to do this with the person I want to marry, and I want the person I'm going to marry to have the same values". Saying you will "only fuck and not wife" a "slut" a "degenerate whore" and they can tell because of her "thousand coc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:35 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionA hijab is a head covering so no one is walking about covered from head to toe in one in the first place. I've been out in all sorts of revealing gear and not been hit on, and then been hit on when I have been basically covered head to toe, is my point. It makes little to no difference. Women are still approached, harassed, assaulted whether they're wearing hijabs, burqas, chadors or whatever. So, yes. They do still receive this attention. So again, why shouldn't women just wear what they want. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 04:27 PM |
| – | Women dress provocatively for male attentionSo then why do they also dress in attractive clothes outside of the home? Because they like them and wear conservative clothes when they go out. But they don't like the conservative clothes so why would they wear them. if it's wasnt for me or other men, they would have no desire to wear the same type of revealing outfits outside the house Or, get this, it's because it's what they like to wear. I don't understand how you find this such a difficult concept. People dress how they like to dress, for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 03:19 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSensibly, I married a guy with dodgy knees and asthma so he's unlikely to get drafted 🎉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 08:08 PM |
| – | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.But dating/relationships are about much more than looks, so of course people will find it weird if that's what you're chasing. You can't just base a relationship around the fact you think someone's hot; it's pretty much doomed to fail. Also, just because someone's 25 doesn't mean they're a 10. And just because someone isn't 25 doesn't mean they're not a 10. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 09:02 AM |
| 3 | Why is it very difficult for people to accept younger woman are more attractive.Tbh it's just quite weird as a 45 year old to be attracted to a 25 year old. That's a twenty year age gap. When I was in my teens I found other teens attractive. Now I'm in my 30s they're not. Even with a lesser gap - I work with a lot of guys in their early twenties and they're SO young. I can't imagine being attracted to any of them. They're basically still kids. They dress weird, they use different slang, they're obsessed with tiktok, none of them know how to do anything, they've barely start… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 12:29 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about the SMV flip?I think you're extremely naive to believe anything that comes from someone who makes a living partly out of conning gullible lonely men. You wouldn't believe the life presented to you by a female Instagram influencer so why do you believe in this? Because he's telling you what you want to hear? Or you're desperate to believe in something no matter how far fetched it is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 12:27 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the SMV flip?Pics frequently do lie. Are those women employed to be in that picture? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 07:01 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about the SMV flip?How do you know? Do you believe everything public figures tell you? Bit stupid but okay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 08:32 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the SMV flip?Are they though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 12:46 PM |
| 0 | What do you think about the SMV flip?If our positive attributes increase our desirability in the dating marketplace increases. If those attributes erode so does our ability to get dates. Considering the amount of people who complain about women choosing drug addicts, criminals, ugly/mean/poor guys over them, this apparently doesn't actually track with real life experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 04:14 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about the SMV flip?But then is it healthy to think someone always needs to be productive or doing service in order to be worth something? I get guilty if I feel like I'm not being productive, and I have a lot of "productive" hobbies (cooking, baking, sewing/quilting, growing veg etc). But then I also enjoy unproductive things like reddit and computer games and sudoku. And then comes the stress of feeling guilty when I've been doing "unproductive" things. When in this day and age where we spend most of our lives at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 03:18 PM |
| 6 | What do you think about the SMV flip?Yes, and that's difficult, but also why we should try and move away from this service and value idea. It was seen a lot when things happened such as mines or shipyards closing down - whole towns of men who suddenly feel like they lack a purpose and all they do is sit around drinking and getting angry, and it doesn't do anyone any good. It's fine to want to be busy and want to do stuff but people can always learn a new skill, take up a new hobby. My husband hates feeling like he's not being produ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 02:34 PM |
| 4 | What do you think about the SMV flip?It's not about value though. He's still a human being, he still has worth whether or not he's "contributing to society". Men can and do lose their jobs and continue successfully in their relationships if they don't tank it by behaving like a total dick over a prolonged period of time. A bit of adjustment time is normal and natural but then you need to start working through it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 02:14 PM |
| 5 | What do you think about the SMV flip?Some of us have even experienced it, when my value lowered in a relationship, I got cheated on That is meaningless. Overall you got cheated on because your partner was being a dick. If it was anything to do with "value" then rich, successful, handsome people would never get cheated on whereas that does happen. If you've had something happened that's knocked your confidence and then had someone cheat it's easy to ascribe it to some kind of value system, but it's bull. One thing I see a lot of guy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 02:00 PM |
| 4 | What do you think about the SMV flip?I don't believe in SMV. People aren't objects. We don't increase and decrease in "value". Thinking this shit is probably what gives guys such a hard time dating in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 11:44 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADFair enough if you don't agree, but you can't say it's something women are getting wrong about the discourse when there are a lot of guys on here who make it clear that it's exactly what they mean. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 11:40 AM |
| 6 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYeah the fact you went straight to that and went into detail says a significant amount about you. That isn't a normal person reaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 01:55 AM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADthey think that men are saying that being promiscuous lowers their value as a human being There are plenty men on this sub who do in fact think this. Just like being fat, fit, tall, short, black/white/brown etc doesn't define someone's worth Again, plenty of men on this sub do think those things define actual worth. Possibly not so much the height bit but definitely the other stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 01:39 AM |
| 7 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWell you're fucking psychotic, well done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 01:31 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIf men are holding women to a certain standard of beauty, then it exactly means women are doing it for men otherwise said "standards" wouldn't exist Not really. As is often touted on this sub some women have "tall" as a beauty standard for men. Men aren't being tall for women, they just are tall. Like some men's standards include a certain bodyweight for women, but most women aren't maintaining a certain bodyweight for men. If women didn't care, then why do they say men have high standards in th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:28 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBut "men have high beauty standards" doesn't mean that women do their appearance for men. A contradiction would be: "Men have high beauty standards" "Men don't have high beauty standards" Or "women do their appearance for themselves" "Women do their appearance for men" Men can have high beauty standards that women don't give a shit about, and continue to do their appearance according to their own standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:14 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy is that a contradiction? Both things can be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 08:03 PM |
| – | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingDepends on the guy I suppose. My husband's never been on holiday with his friends (aside from camping within the UK) but I know guys in their 30s who go away at least once a year with their other guy friends. They also do tend to have a boom in late 20s/early 30s of having regular abroad stag dos to attend as all their friends start getting married. Not a regular thing as such but can last a few years while everyone gets married off. And maybe more a rich people thing but my uncle goes on a skii… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingIt's not really about where you're going though, it's more about the willingness to be out and about doing things, and having a social life. You could live in the most beautiful country in the world but if you never leave the house you'd struggle to meet and attract people. Equally you could live in a shit tip but if you get out and about and have a social life you're more likely to be meeting people and spending time with them. I don't think OPs point is that Ibiza is necessarily impressive, it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 01:57 PM |
| 4 | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingYes, I think having a social life would do you better than the wage. If you had a really active social life but earned £25k you'd probably be in a better position for dating etc than you are now. But then the job and wage put you in a better position for your future overall. Definitely preferable to have both where possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingmoney to party at Ibiza. Think OP is coming from a UK angle. From the age of 18 quite a lot of people go on holidays with their friends to Ibiza, Lanzarote, Magaluf etc and will go every year as standard. Flights are dirt cheap, if you're sharing accommodation with a big group of mates it's cost effective, and from what I understand of it the drinks are cheaper than in the UK (depending on destination). I've lived in crap areas, lived in nice areas, worked retail and worked in a bank and have al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 11:54 AM |
| 8 | Men on this sub are probably below average which is why they are strugglingIf you're a £40k per year web developer I'd say that's middle class and not working class. Above average salary, white collar job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/24 11:46 AM |
| 41 | Your personality is mostly determined by factors outside your control and changing it fundamentally is EXTREMELY difficult, contrary to what other people might be espousingHowever, people (and especially women it seems – the ‘empathetic’ gender) do not care about your starting point and how much you have improved. They only care about your current results. Obviously.. why is this a surprise or even something that anyone is unhappy about? Why tf would anyone think it's a good idea to think "you know what this person is a fucking mess but maybe in a few years they'll be approaching normal". When people actually do that and it backfires everyone lines up to be smug a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 11:48 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: have you ever made it work with a woman who’s has a past?She is aware there is nothing better outside the relationship waiting for her. Having no one would be better. Sounds like a reason to never end a relationship. No, sounds like a reason to never have a relationship with anyone that thinks like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 02:04 PM |
| 10 | Q4M: have you ever made it work with a woman who’s has a past?She is insane to stay with you and I really hope she wakes up and realises she should leave and not tolerate such craziness. I was clear that everything she did for, did with or tolerated from previous partners is the base treatment I expected for the relationship to continue This is literally fucking mental. There's no point in relationships ending and new ones starting if you're just expected to put up with all the same shit again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/24 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Who is the most romantically/sexually unsuccessful woman you know? What’s their personality like? Describe her.No, Scotland! Is that a common personality type in northeast US or do you just know someone similar? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 11:40 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: Who is the most romantically/sexually unsuccessful woman you know? What’s their personality like? Describe her.I know 4 women off the top of my head that I've never known to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure if that's for lack of trying or disinterest - they've not had any failed relationships while I've known them but they may have had in the past. Then one who has trouble keeping a relationship. 1st: absolutely no filter and will say anything that crosses their mind, has no concept of personal boundary and will tell you all sorts of weird stuff about their own health/body when you barely know them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 10:46 AM |
| 21 | Would you LTR/marry a woman who has had an abortion?Your question is worded weirdly because at first it seems like you're asking it based on whether she's had an abortion at all in the past, but then you have this bit: My personal take is I would not. I’m ambivalent about others nuking their kids, but I would not be with someone who did that to mine. So you're assuming the abortion in question is your child. So if you've knocked someone up who you're not in an LTR with, you'd prefer to either be stuck in an LTR with them because of a baby or rema… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 02:06 PM |
| 0 | Why do women on this sub often say that they are not attracted to promiscuous men?I have no problem with promiscuous men - they're far preferable to virgin men as we are more compatible in terms of sociosexual behaviour. Lots of the women on here are more sexually conservative though and have noted they aren't interested in casual sex etc, therefore a promiscuous man may not be compatible with them in terms of sociosexual behaviour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Why do you use makeup?I rarely wear make up. When I do it's because I want to accessorise for a particular occasion, much like wearing a particular bracelet or necklace etc. Isn't your natural beauty enough? Unfortunately I wasn't born with a glittery face or fun coloured lips, so sometimes depending on the look I want to achieve no, it's not enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 10:59 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Would you have an issue with men showing off their penises?A) loose clothes are not always practical or appropriate B) I would literally need to be in a bag to hide my shape C) men don't have to wear loose clothes. Why is it fine for a man to wear bicycle shorts but not a woman? Why is it fine for a man to wear a tight sports t-shirt but not a woman? For men it's recognised as being practical for their activity but somehow not for women doing the same activity. Almost as if you're all talking utter bullshit and just want to try and control women's bodie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 10:28 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: Would you have an issue with men showing off their penises?I mostly wear sports bras and I still have very defined breasts and cleavage, because short of actually cutting them off no bra type is going to hide their shape. I was wearing one of those crazy padded Norway coastline suits on a boat recently, with several layers on underneath and you could still tell I have breasts and a bum and a waist. Not that I think we should be hiding the shape of our body anyway, but it's not that easy to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:24 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Would you have an issue with men showing off their penises?The girl with the thong Is your gym set in an 80s music video? Been to many different gyms and never seen anyone cut about in a fucking thong. The guys that are vocal about women covering up are talking about the women showing ass-crease and nipple slips in public. They actually aren't. Guys on here have recently complained about leggings, long sleeved dresses that cover the bum, swimsuits/bikinis and shorts going down to mid thigh. Basically they want women in a full on burqa and nothing slight… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:13 AM |
| 2 | Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most menI really struggle with this reading body language part. I think a lot of people do! Unfortunately if you've got one person who struggles with reading body language and the other also doesn't want to make the first move for whatever reason then you come to a bit of an impasse. Yes. Are there any resources for healing from this? Unfortunately I don't know if anything specific for this, sorry! I know counselling is derided a lot on this sub but I've found it helpful for working through things - if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most menWhat if the woman slaps me? What if that woman screams "creep" and say I sexually assaulted, and ruins my life? Both of these scenarios are incredibly unlikely. If the kiss isn't reciprocated then the most likely result is that the woman will move back out of the way and it might be a bit awkward but you move on from it. It's also generally quite easy to tell if it will be reciprocated, in my experience. I've never just gone and planted a kiss on someone that I didn't think would appreciate it, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most menHow does consent even work with a party smooch? Do people just randomly kiss each other at parties? Not the person you asked but basically yeah. You're drunk, you're talking to someone. It's probably loud so you lean in to hear them better, you're both chatting in eachothers ears basically so all one of you has to do is turn your head a bit and voila! You're kissing. As for consent it's generally relatively easy at that point for the kissed party to retract their head and back off from the kisse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?😭 I was drunk, sorry! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?You have sex, if it's good you see them again. If not you don't... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side?Lol no sex is how I check if I want to see someone again 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 12:45 AM |
| – | Women, if you’re fatter than your dating profile pics, let people know or use newer photosHaha yes, I remember when I was on tinder and I came across an ex from a few years before. Since I had him on FB I knew his tinder profile pic was from his brother's wedding about 4 years and approx 3-4 stone prior 🙈 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Women, what do you think is your responsibility in a relationship?I'll just answer for my relationship with my husband, because every relationship is different and people need different things at different stages. Communication, emotional support, affection (physical, doing nice gestures, verbal affirmation). Pulling my weight in the household chores. Managing our finances (in terms of organising household bills/mortgage/grocery budget etc). Hold up my end of sexual activity in terms of initiation/active participation. Spend time with him. Dispatch any lobster… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 12:07 PM |
| 4 | Women, what do you think is your responsibility in a relationship?Not a single man wants this "communication" BS. But most women in this thread put this first. My husband likes and wants communication. His specific complaint about his ex was her shit communication. Just because you might want a stuffed doll that can't speak to you doesn't mean "not a single man" thinks differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 10:26 AM |
| 4 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Presumably the stats on penis size percentiles are gathered by doing just that, or do you think that's just their perception of inches? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 01:10 AM |
| 6 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 12:56 AM |
| 7 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Actual inches, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/24 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe in the idea of "just be her first?"Q4W: Do you agree with alpha-widow hypothesis? Do you think, based either on your experience or your friends, that the first good sexual relationship leaves a big imprint that is hard to move on from? Nope. I also tend to notice that most happily married women are with someone they met when they were young. And everyone I know who married someone they met when they were young has a shit marriage and seems to hate their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 11:41 PM |
| 7 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?I gave no numbers in the first place. Are you imagining numbers somewhere? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 10:27 PM |
| 16 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Why is Viagra so common and mainstream if this isn't something affecting a lot of guys? If you want to see numbers go do your own research. It is a fact that libido declines as you age, if you want to argue against that you can go and do your own legwork. I don't give a shit about numbers or comparisons, or stats. At the end of the day you can't bank on your partner always being up for sex and you need to prepare for that possibility whether they're a man or a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 09:23 PM |
| 20 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Probably applies to the vast, vast majority of men though. It's not helpful at all to look at male libido from the angle of "they'll always be up for sex and never ever have any issues doing it", because that kind of mindset is where the shaming of men who can't do that comes from. As you age you're more likely to see a decrease in libido, likely to take longer to get an erection, likely to struggle more with maintaining an erection, less likely to be able to go again multiple times in one day. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 08:28 PM |
| 16 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?Average and a bit on either side. The vast majority (like 90%) of penis lengths range from about 4 inches to about 6 inches. Any smaller or bigger and you're in really rare and unusual territory and I reckon would start to make day to day sex a bit more difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 05:57 PM |
| 47 | What are your "sexual standards" for a man?I like a decently high libido and enjoyment of sex because I'm the same, although this is more for starting off - in an LTR you'll both go through peaks and troughs in libido. So probably my standard is more - someone who doesn't equate every physical touch to be an invitation to sex, so intimate touching just goes out the window when sex isn't on the table. If one of you is ill/stressed etc and you can't have sex for a few months then it's manageable as long as there are still other forms of ph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/24 01:37 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.And that's you, plenty men don't have that kind of hang up. If you want a threesome it's extremely weird to discount someone for a relationship because they've had one 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 08:48 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.Kinda stands to reason if someone is up for a threesome in general then they might be up for a threesome with you 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 08:26 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.Well if a woman is double teamed that means twice as many men were involved in that interaction than women, so there are definitely men getting threesomes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 06:49 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.Threesomes don't equal a gangbang, plus men & women both have threesomes so your comment is entirely irrelevant. Most normal men find the thought of threesomes pretty hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 06:45 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.the long term embarrassment from friends and family? Why do you think your friends and family know or indeed care about the sex life of you or your partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 06:42 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.Lol why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 06:40 PM |
| – | The Past Does Matter.in which you have to forgive past actions regarding sex, It's not a case of having to "forgive" past actions, because they didn't do anything wrong. If your value/belief system prohibits casual sex then it stands to reason you won't be compatible with someone who enjoys casual sex. If you yourself enjoy casual sex and don't see it as some sort of moral failing then it shouldn't be any problem to be with a partner who has likewise indulged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 06:04 PM |
| 5 | What made you willing to hook up?It's a fairly common view on here, as well as the view that women all only want a hookup as a way to try and lock down a commitment. Obviously in the real world we're all different and some may hate casual sex/only like it under very specific circumstances while some love it 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 05:53 PM |
| 10 | What made you willing to hook up?For ladies who've had casual sex, what exactly was the thing that sealed the deal that made you go through with it? I wanted sex and didn't want a relationship. What about the guy made you choose him? It had little to do with any of the guys/ladies specifically, they were just whoever was willing and available when I wanted it. Where were you in life currently? I've done casual sex at two points in my life - when I broke up with my first LTR before I got together with my second (a period of arou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 02:22 PM |
| – | How do you split the finances?We earn about equal at the moment so split down the middle. We get paid into our own accounts and have a joint account for bills - we pay an equal amount into that and it covers mortgage, bills & groceries. It also builds up a surplus so we tend to use that for meals out etc. we have a joint savings account and if saving for something particular (like house deposit) we agree an affordable amount to save and do that. He's currently waiting on the outcome of a job application that would result in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 07:00 PM |
| 6 | Do you lovely ladies think you'll be able to pull off a alpha fuxs/beta bucks strategy in a post red pill world?I don't think alpha fucks/beta bucks is a real thing and it exists purely in the minds of sad men who spend too much time on the internet feeling bitter about why they can't get laid. I also don't think normal people think of dating "strategies" and have some sort of master plan of how their dating life will play out. This is thinking reserved for lunatic fringe sections of the internet (both men and women). People will continue to meet, date, fuck, fall in love, form relationships. Those unable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/24 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Are you more attracted to calm, easy going or energetic, vivid personalities?Calm and easy going. I find very high energy people a bit tiring and I don't really feel at ease with them. My husband is super chilled out and laid back, and this was one of the first things I was attracted to about him as he's such a comfortable, calming presence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 11:46 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOh I love game so much. I have heard soaking it in milk for a bit first can tame the flavour a bit though if you've not tried that? I heard wild rabbits can be quite smelly/strong flavoured so last time I had rabbits I brined them for a few hours before butchering. Not sure if that helped with gaminess as such as I hadn't previously eaten rabbit for about a decade so didn't have much of a reference point, but they tasted really good :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Can advocates of casual sex propose it’s merits?In my eyes, it is in every way, shape or form inferior to LTRs. They're not comparable because people get different things out of them. LTRs are great if that's what you want at that time, but not everyone wants that. hindering the development of deep, meaningful connections. It doesn't have any impact whatsoever on deep and meaningful connections. People still build them if they want them. It’s just simply animalistic, hedonistic Yes that's why it's fun reduces sex, an action between two loving… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 09:05 PM |
| 5 | For married women who have cheated on your 1st spouse but not your 2nd one, why did you not cheat on the 2nd one?You're not a friend if you just suddenly ditch all your friends of a certain gender just because you're in a relationship. Are bisexuals not allowed to have any friends at all? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/24 09:36 AM |
| 0 | Men protect their relationship from outside opinions more judiciously than women do.Well they certainly complain about their partners to other women plenty. I've been in many a conversation where a man has just out of the blue started complaining about his gf or wife, when we weren't even talking about that. Getting random digs in when something about the conversation reminds them of it or whatever. I've witnessed it in group conversations where other men are involved too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 06:48 AM |
| 4 | What is the appeal of casual sex for women?You are probably not going to orgasm or enjoy it much, While an orgasm is a bonus, it isn't necessary in order to enjoy sex. I've had a lot of casual sex, some of it included orgasms, most of it was very enjoyable indeed. then there's the risk of pregnancy and higher risk of STDs. That's what condoms are for, and if the condom splits the morning after pill. As for STDs - I know two people who caught STDs while in a supposedly committed relationship because their partners cheated. You can live a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 07:34 PM |
| 0 | Women of PPD: would you consider it strange if a male friend/relative asked you to set him up with one of your friends? (Not a specific one, just a friend in general).I just can't imagine this scenario ever happening (I live in the UK too). It's very prevalent on US TV shows, but I just think it would be weird. I don't really know why 😅 although in fairness I'm of an age where I don't have many single friends and I have no single male relatives (aside from my dad) so there wouldn't really be much of an opportunity anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Are you sure you're aware of the consequences of men stoicly accepting being singleThat isn't the same thing as only being with someone because you don't want to be alone though. So not sure why you're bringing it up. I'm talking, going out with the first person who shows any interest in you regardless of whether you're well suited or whether you particularly like that person. To have a functioning open relationship then you kinda both need to like each other and be able to communicate and be open with one another. Not the same scenario at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 06:32 PM |
| 9 | Are you sure you're aware of the consequences of men stoicly accepting being singlehave a less serious open relationship with someone Most people can't manage this kind of relationship. Someone will always end up more invested than the other and then it just becomes messy. until someone you are really serious about comes along. Isn't this exactly what men on this sub are already complaining about women doing and how it's awful behaviour? Or is it only okay when men do it? Fine if the woman is the more invested one but not the man? People are just choosing to forgo life There i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 08:03 AM |
| 7 | Are you sure you're aware of the consequences of men stoicly accepting being singleBeing happy/accepting of being single doesn't mean you'll never be in a relationship. It just means you're far less likely to end up in a shit relationship out of desperation, and actually be with someone you like - because you like them, and not because you were searching for a relationship. And you might never be in one and you might be happy like that, which is all good too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 12:03 AM |
| 123 | Are you sure you're aware of the consequences of men stoicly accepting being singleYes. I have no interest in being with someone who is only with me because he doesn't want to be alone. What a shitty, shitty basis for a relationship. We absolutely should be putting in effort throughout the relationship and maintaining that love and connection, to ensure both parties are happy and fulfilled and actively choosing to be with one another. Why would anyone want anything different? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 05:11 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever used sexual tease for your advantage consciously?Yes I wouldn't want to be seen that way as it would hamper career development. Unfortunately in some cases I think people believe a woman has flirted her way up to her position but it's not actually the case (same with people assuming she's just a diversity hire or something when actually she's capable and that's why she was hired), but it will have the same negative impact on career. I would assume those who genuinely have flirted to get where they are, are happy with their lot, but I don't kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 12:50 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever used sexual tease for your advantage consciously?No 😅 I just don't think this is how life works for most women. For example I have seen plenty of women flirting to have work advantages or getting out if work simply because they are woman I have literally never once seen this in my life. Maybe it depends where you work but it just wouldn't have that kind of effect in my line of work. I've got work I need to do and I could flirt with someone till the cows come home, I still need to get my work done and I'm going to be the one who has to do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 11:38 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadProbably nails done and makeup/lashes. I don't wear lashes day to day but I do if I'm out doing something nice with female friends and I always get loads of compliments on them. It's not just that they look nice, but I know a lot of women who can't put them on so there's a bit of admiration for people who do their own lashes 😅 Whereas I think straight guys are mostly either indifferent to or actively dislike false lashes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 01:51 AM |
| 6 | When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too?Not generally. I don't tend to want to be the female main character in things I watch either though. When women see a gun fight in shows, do they want the gun fight to end and for stuff to be peaceful, or do they also think "Wowww this is so epic" I enjoy fight scenes. I like rooting for whoever I want to win. There may be some movies where I don't want the fight to happen (for instance if I like both characters and don't want one to die or something, but I can't actually think of any examples o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 12:26 AM |
| – | CMW: Most women have little to offer a high value man in a long-term relationshipI don't 🤷 and I don't find money to be particularly important in my social circles. If every woman you know wants money you're associating with the wrong people. Judging by how money obsessed a lot of the guys on this sub are, I suspect it's often a case of like attracting like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 08:05 PM |
| 9 | CMW: Most women have little to offer a high value man in a long-term relationshipCooking/home care is mutual in today's society This suggests he doesn't value it as he thinks both parties do it. Not just OP either, quite a few guys on this sub have expressed the opinion that cooking doesn't count as a thing - reasons have varied from similar to the above, where they think everyone cooks, or that everyone's a shite cook, or that there's no longer any point in cooking because they eat out for all their meals, or they hate food and just want a beige nutrition paste that fuels t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 05:46 PM |
| 15 | CMW: Most women have little to offer a high value man in a long-term relationshipIt's just a stupid question though. Are the people on this sub ever going to date each other? No. So then why do you care what women on this sub bring to the table? We're all different and we bring different things - both because we all have different personalities and skills, and because men value different things in their partners. The OP dismisses cooking as something that's brought to the table, so that's obviously not important to him. But my husband finds my cooking ability extremely attra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 04:48 PM |
| 4 | To women who have had both casual flings and longer-term partners, did your attraction to your long-term partners ever match up to your visceral lust for your flings?I've not really had visceral lust for any flings right off the bat. Like, on tinder you basically pick a bunch of guys out of a line up and it was whoever was available when I was available and wanted sex, not really much to do with them specifically. As strange as it may be, that kind of proper lust is the kind of thing that needs to be built (for me anyway). When I was a teen working my first job I got to know one of the guys I worked with and really lusted after him - that turned into a relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you want your son/hypothetical son to have children?I don't care. I don't have kids yet and my husband and I considered just going into fostering instead of having kids at all. So I'm not even concerned about my "legacy" never mind that of my hypothetical child. There are a lot of reasons not to have kids so if my hypothetical son doesn't want them I'd be happy with that. If he does want them, I'd be happy with that. If he wants to adopt or have step kids or whatever I'd be happy with that. It's not really something I care about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 11:26 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too muchIt's really telling that you think perfectly normal behaviour must be a lie or "virtue signalling". Gosh how much of an awful, grasping, selfish arse must you be to think enjoying a coffee date is virtuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 09:27 AM |
| – | Women cannot be trusted to speak honestly and accurately about their preferences and standardsIf this were true, every narcissist, psychopath, and petty criminal would be incel, Not really, presumably whichever women are attracted to them don't find them to be "losers". When I see guys who are thuggish/drug addicted/generally rough types, they tend to be with women who are the same. They attract within their circle. If you have a shit personality but you're trying to attract normal people you're not going to get anywhere, you need to go find other shit people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 12:22 PM |
| – | Women cannot be trusted to speak honestly and accurately about their preferences and standardsHow can you be so sure? Do you know these men? Do you anything about what they are like and their experiences with men? Well since it mainly seems to be guys on here who have three issues and talk about this and the ones who do come across like total arses, I'd assume at least some of that bleeds through into their irl persona. Being a conventionally unattractive man is like being a hakarl salesman. It's not impossible per se to find a taker but it is incredibly difficult and not necessarily ach… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 12:16 PM |
| – | Women cannot be trusted to speak honestly and accurately about their preferences and standardsNah. It's a ridiculous victim mentality you want to have where you insist you're just not rich enough or naturally attractive enough for us horrible shallow women. You don't want to admit that maybe it is actually your personality or your social skills or that you're shooting far above what you should be aiming for. So instead "waaah women are LYING". A lot of women I see on this sub are quite honest about wanting a partner who earns a good salary. You take them at their word so why not the ones… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 11:20 AM |
| 7 | How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too muchIf you're not happy in a "situationship" then end it. That goes for men and women. It doesn't matter what previous relationships looked like, it doesn't matter what other people do. If you're not happy then don't put up with it. If you're not married/have kids/own property together/have a lease then there's no way you can be "stuck". Just go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 04:52 PM |
| 15 | How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too muchI couldn't really give two shits about what someone did with previous people they dated. Literally the only thing that matters is if I'm happy with how they're treating me in that moment. You mentioned in another comment things like coffee dates/walks. They're perfectly acceptable dates. Whether or not he has the money for fancy dates is irrelevant since I pay my own way on dates, but I do think it's exceptionally weird to go on a "fancy" date with someone you're not actually in a relationship w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Women: have you ever exploited a man's interest for you own gain?No. If I'm out to dinner with someone I split the bill (or we pay for what we had if there's a big disparity) regardless of whether it's a date or if I'm out with friends or co-workers. And I wouldn't hint at or accept a random gift from someone. I can't imagine saying to someone "I need new shoes" unless it's "hey [husband] I needed new shoes so I've got some in the basket, do you need anything before I check out". I wouldn't even let my co-worker pay for my chewing gum (he was going to the sho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 02:02 PM |
| – | Women, can you describe the guy with whom you've been the most in love with? What was it about that person?My husband. I met him on tinder at a point where I really wasn't interested in a relationship and was just looking to hook up. We grabbed dinner beforehand and the first thing that stood out to me was that I ordered eel and he was happy/excited to taste it. I really like food and I enjoy people who are adventurous and not squeamish when it comes to trying new things. I know a lot of people who'd refuse to eat eel just out of squeamishness so that definitely endeared him to me. I also liked that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 01:45 PM |
| 17 | Question for women: Why do you disagree with the manosphere's explanation of the "MECHANISM" through which dating apps & hookup culture destroy dating, courtship, and formation of relationships? Do you have alternate explanations?When a man is investing that much time and energy, he will be selective. No he won't. Have you ever met another man before? Plenty guys will just hit on anyone and everyone at the bar/club until they find someone to go home with. There's no selectiveness about it. And there's a reason there's a whole trope around waiting until it's near closing time and just picking up whoever's desperate enough to go with it. Plus the whole thing of "beer goggles" and next day regret - picking people up in bars… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/23 11:03 AM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularSome of you posters man...christ. I could say the same about you. I'll repeat really slowly for you. Click. The. Link. You. Posted. You there? You clicked? You made it that far? Scroll. Down. Read. You may need to attend some sort of class first to get that down. It's okay, I'll wait. Get to the part. ON THE WEBSITE YOU LINKED TO. That states very clearly that they have resident drag queens every week. Did that work for you? Have you been guided to the right part? Can you now accept that you're … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 12:41 AM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularhttps://www.dreamboys.co.uk/ I literally just googled it and didn't click on any links and the first thing mentioned drag queens. If you follow the above link, scroll down to the 4th item on their website where they talk about the stripper and drag Queen show they do every Saturday night So maybe instead of accusing people of lying just learn to actually read? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 12:30 AM |
| – | If muscles dont matter for women why are strippers/exotic dancers muscularHa. I live in the UK and I've never heard of dreamboys. Just googled it and the first hit is about their show of hot guys and drag queens. That tells me right off the bat that they probably have a large appeal with gay men. How is it entirely catered to women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 12:17 AM |
| – | A man who's sexually inexperienced is not a "red flag"that he's unattractive, that he suffers from social anxiety, that he lacks the necessary social ski I'm sorry, is your argument that women should find this a prize? Why would anyone go out with someone who they find unattractive and who can't engage with them socially? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 08:42 AM |
| 5 | Nuances on friendship between men and womenJust shows your argument is stupid, not based on reality, and only worth being dismissed. Because if you had an actual point you wouldn't need to resort to such ridiculous exaggerating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Nuances on friendship between men and womenBecause every man with female friends who moved, has been moving their heavy stuff for them. That's not actually true though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/23 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Question for women: What profession, if any, do you find most attractive in a man?I don't find any professions attractive. However for a relationship I'd prefer professions that allow for good work life balance - my husband and I both work 35 hr weeks, weekends and bank holidays off, plenty of holiday allowance through the year. Wouldn't want someone who needs to work away all the time, is constantly working overtime/extra hours/staying late or having to do work on the side during holidays etc. So what's attractive to me is a mindset of "work to live, don't live to work". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 07:52 PM |
| 7 | Women : would you rather be rather be "forced" to work or be forced to marry ?Forced to work, 100% I moved out at 18 so I needed to get a job before that, so I've always been "forced" to work so I could support myself. With your work, it's fairly tolerable to do something you don't like so you can get some money in. I wouldn't find it tolerable to have to marry someone I don't love just so I could survive. Living with someone and having the expectation of sex etc is far more intimate and intrusive than any workplace. You're also reliant on one person for everything, and e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Hinting vs. TellingAhh okay that makes sense. basically just wrote it off as she’s mad at herself for something she meant to do and forgot to, which I experience myself very often but to me it’s never about getting help it’s about beating myself up for a mistake I understand this perspective, but I also think it's just still nice to offer in these situations. Like, even if the intention isn't to get help and help isn't needed (and the offer of help is declined) if someone has verbalised they've forgotten something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Do you think people find you boring?People at work frequently tell me I'm the most interesting person they know 😅 so from that I gather that they don't find me boring. What do you bring to people that prevents their boredom with you? I have quite a lot of hobbies/interests so often can find common ground with people which serves as a good start to conversation:) What about you makes you stand out? Fedora collection? Star wars trivia? I stand out to different people for different reasons! For instance my 8 yr old nephew thinks I'm … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Hinting vs. TellingI’m curious what are your experiences with this dynamic, when does communication become mothering? I think when you need to tell people to do obvious stuff it starts to cross into mothering (cleaning up after yourself, sticking a laundry load on when the basket is full etc). I'm pretty lucky that I've only really observed this dynamic from seeing it in other couples - out of the two partners I've lived with, my ex was decent with housework and my husband is brilliant with it; no mothering needed… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 09:03 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: How would you react if you discovered a man you liked wore a toupee, shoe lifts, etc?At 5’10, he is taller than you in heels. He has also since removed his shoes, and he now stands eye-to-eye with you I'm not always super observant about what people are wearing, but I definitely think I'd notice if he had 10 inch lifts on. I'd probably call out the bulge thing just because it's such a random thing to do and I'd assume it was a joke. There's no need for someone to be giving themselves a bulge in their jeans (IME most men are growers not showers anyway so it seems a bit pointless)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/23 08:19 PM |
| 51 | Makeup plays an enormous role in women’s upper hand and allows them to play several leagues up, many of them look unrecognizable without it.Make-up irl generally has far less power to make someone look "unrecognisable" without it. The kind of really heavy make up that's totally transformative looks great under professional lighting (and often touched up in photos/on video as well) but actually face to face with someone it doesn't tend to look as good and generally people will wear lighter make up than that when they're out and about. You can't use an image of Jennifer Lawrence in a touched up professional photo with professional lev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/23 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Do you think that it’s because of the way genitalia are constructed that the human mind perceives sex/cheating differentlySeriously have you guys never heard of condoms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 11:50 AM |
| 4 | “Women are hornier than men”She really doesn’t. No women wants a dick pic. Ever. Especially an unsolicited one. Um. Yeah, I don't want unsolicited dick pics but I've always enjoyed the occasional solicited one, and I have taken pics of my husband's dick for my own amusement/perusal. I'm sure I can't be the only woman in the world who has similar feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 11:38 AM |
| 1 | There is no presumption of cheating and no paternity test. (That's why, presumption of cheating does not justify being against the test).On the other hand, a negative result does not guarantee that the woman is unfaithful, since: Exchange in the maternity ward; Chimerism; Open relationship; Rape; Changing relationships when she is already pregnant with her previous partner; Any other possible circumstances that I haven't thought of. A negative test would absolutely convince any man that the woman was cheating. I can guarantee that a maternity ward switch or chimerism would never cross his mind for a fucking moment. The relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/23 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Are women turned off more by guys being okay with their pasts than they let on?However, both reacted like they were turned off at me asking to do something to me that was associated with past lovers. I don't get this at all. My husband and I are very open sexually and we've had many a chat about things we've done in the past, what we liked and what we didn't. And actively asking "I've always wanted to try --- have you, did you like it?" Etc. I don't overly associate any sex acts with a particular person though; if we happened to do something together it doesn't mean that b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/23 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Let's say there was a reliable test to see if your male partner had ever cheated or would ever cheat on you. Would you use it, and would you judge other women negatively for using it? Also included in the test is if they've ever abused a woman in the past, or will abuse you in the future.Would you use it, Nope and would you judge other women negatively for using it Yeah probably I can totally get the point of this if it's some magical all seeing thing that will let you know in advance before you invest any time/feelings into a someone, but once you're already in the relationship what's the point. Surely you'd only think to use it once they actually give you cause to think there's an issue, at which point that ship has sailed anyway. It's no different to checking someone's phone … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/23 12:47 AM |
| 15 | Women, I have questionsmany women take my posts negatively and somewhat personally and I don’t intend for it to be Honestly I think women react to your posts defensively because you're annoying. You can't really remove the common and very relevant factor from the equation there. People in general are a lot less likely to be defensive or annoyed when they're having a discussion held in good faith, rather than an interaction with a troll who's getting kicks out of being irritating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 11:55 PM |
| – | In a house with no kids and where the man is at work from 7am - 5pm, what daily tasks do women do around the houseYes but I still answered the question of what things people do in the house aside from employment and childrearing so your answer is still there and you're choosing to ignore it. If you don’t fit the demographic then you have nothing to offer to the discussion Except I can answer what people do at home that isn't childrearing or employment, because that work is common across most households (I have no kids so my housework list is for a childless household). And I have answered that, but you don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:52 PM |
| – | In a house with no kids and where the man is at work from 7am - 5pm, what daily tasks do women do around the houseBecause it's not the reality for those you're talking about. You're talking about women having "so much to do at home". I don't think any woman who's childless and unemployed complains they have too much to do around the house. The people who do complain about that are normally those trying to juggle employment, child rearing, and household tasks (or child care and household tasks where the children are young and at home all day). You can't discount the importance of having a job and children in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:33 PM |
| – | In a house with no kids and where the man is at work from 7am - 5pm, what daily tasks do women do around the houseI mentioned kids because your premise is faulty and you're discussing a scenario that is really unusual. However then go on to fully address your question without mention of kids. So if you want an answer to your question, I suggest going back and reading. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:13 PM |
| – | In a house with no kids and where the man is at work from 7am - 5pm, what daily tasks do women do around the houseYou asked the question. Don't get all mardy at others for "not answering the question" then get pissy when someone actually does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 03:06 PM |
| – | In a house with no kids and where the man is at work from 7am - 5pm, what daily tasks do women do around the houseThe reason I’m asking this is because I keep hearing that women do so much at home but without kids and with their man working all day, I’m struggling to find DAILY tasks You hear people doing so much because they're working and caring for kids, how hard is this to understand? The rest of it doesn't make a full day, but the being employed and raising your kids makes it a packed day. However daily chores could include making breakfast, lunch (possibly making a separate lunch in the evening to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 02:34 PM |
| 3 | 60% of Millennial women are already nearly infertile. And 80% of childless women regret not having kids. Is this why more women are crying on TikTok than ever before?The average age of a first time mum here is now over 30. Hitting 30 or 35 doesn't mean you're "nearly infertile". The guys that are left are either losers (your words not theirs) or serial players Why do you assume childless women are also single women? Lots of couples just like to wait a bit until they're financially stable etc before having a kid, they might have been together for years before making that decision. And 80% of childless women regret not having kids. Curious as to where you got … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Paternity Tests - Catch 22I am absolutely willing to give him that security - by not sleeping with other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Paternity Tests - Catch 22That doesn't make it any better, it's still grounds for divorce. I have no desire to be with someone who doesn't trust me, and they also shouldn't want to be with me if they don't trust me. They would still get the paternity test - they're not getting off the hook for being a parent to their child - but our relationship would be over. Sure, paternity test if you barely know each other/aren't exclusive etc and the pregnancy is out of the blue. But solid relationship where there's no reason to dou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 02:49 PM |
| – | CMV Since 95% off Humans would cheat if there would be a good enough Option, being Loyal makes zero sense. There should be a Philosopher who claims this Thesis because it is very deep.Your post was too long and repetitive. Where are you getting your 95% stats from? Where's your source? Is it just your gut feeling? Cos yeah, there will be plenty people happy to cheat. But there are also plenty who know when they have a good thing and wouldn't want to mess it up. The grass isn't always greener etc, just cos a flashy new toy comes along doesn't mean there's a better option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 12:36 PM |
| 6 | Are women turned off by men that dont have friends or other women interested in them ?If someone has no friends then their partner becomes the beginning and end of all their social interaction. It isn't healthy and will generally lead to problems. It also has the potential to end terribly if the relationship is ending/partner dies etc because suddenly the one with no friends is left completely isolated with no support for this big life change. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 12:34 PM |
| – | CMV Since 95% off Humans would cheat if there would be a good enough Option, being Loyal makes zero sense. There should be a Philosopher who claims this Thesis because it is very deep.Lets just use our brain here, how DELUSIONAL do you have to be to believe you're girl will reject cristiano ronaldo for you? Cristiano Ronaldo is really ugly and looks like a wee weasel, not delusional at all to expect that he'd get rejected. Unless you're with an aspiring WAG I can't see where anyone would see the appeal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 12:24 PM |
| 2 | The fact that so many women have a problem with a man who goes 50/50 is proof that most women just want to use men and don't actually care about them.It isn't most women though 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 10:24 AM |
| 1 | The fact that so many women have a problem with a man who goes 50/50 is proof that most women just want to use men and don't actually care about them.So to combat that you'll only date people who definitely don't want to take an equal share in the relationship but instead finds it acceptable to let you do all the chores, childcare etc while they fling money at a few dates and think that balances it out? Why not instead just date decent guys or no one at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 10:17 AM |
| 1 | The fact that so many women have a problem with a man who goes 50/50 is proof that most women just want to use men and don't actually care about them."so many women" a handful of FDS type women you mean? Just because there are a few people on this sub with that view doesn't mean it's "most women" calm tf down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 10:08 AM |
| 10 | Getting a roommate is better than a 50/50 man as a womanhave mediocre sex with somebody you are not fully attracted to. I feel like there is another option here; have a relationship with a guy you are fully attracted to and who you have good sex with. I've lived with flatmates and I've lived with my husband with whom I split things 50/50. Living with my husband is miles better. There's a level of closeness to that relationship that flatmates will never match, we have great sex, we also take a 50/50 split in the chores. Also one of the women who I had… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/23 11:03 PM |
| – | The thing women don't understand is that there are millions of eligible women out there and a lot of guys can't get ONE (1) girlfriend.I think what your friend actually means is "I get no likes (from hot guys)". This is what men mean when they say they don't get likes though. They're all "woe is me" and then when you get right down to it actually, they get matches, likes and messages from women - just not women they find desirable. So if you're going to blame lonely women for being lonely then you also need to blame lonely men for being lonely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/23 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Young men (18-25) must bring something to the table, young women just bring themselves.That is also a crazy standard. Doesn't mean the standards I posted that come from men are any less crazy. Typical that you don't actually have anything constructive to add so you're just using completely unrelated things to try and derail the discussion 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Young men (18-25) must bring something to the table, young women just bring themselves.How do you know?! Because men talk about it constantly You're not a man Yes, but I can read and I can listen. So I have seen the many many men write about their crazy standards and I've heard them talk about their crazy crazy standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 05:58 PM |
| 0 | Young men (18-25) must bring something to the table, young women just bring themselves.So by your logic women who don't submit to those standards are single ? Obviously not, since nowhere in my post did I say, imply or hint that this applied to all men. The original comment said "no man" has these standards. This is patently false, since lots of men do have these standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 05:26 PM |
| 1 | A woman wanting her man to be emotionally vulnerable is selfish.That's not what I said was made up. I'm saying the bits you made up, are made up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Young men (18-25) must bring something to the table, young women just bring themselves.No man expects you to put a lot of effort into your looks This is a flat out lie though. Many, many men do expect a great deal of this and are extremely vocal about it. She must have long hair (and it can't be unkempt), must have smooth skin, must have hairless skin, must have a nice consistent skin tone, no darker bits around her vulva or bum no sirree, must have small pink tucked in labia, must have large boobs (but not saggy NEVER saggy) must have proportionate nipples and they must be this s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 08:49 AM |
| 3 | A woman wanting her man to be emotionally vulnerable is selfish.All of these things get conveniently left out of every conversation by women Probably because you made them all up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 06:31 PM |
| – | Femininity is NOT AttractiveImagine if the average woman was socially generous, free with compliments and affection, This is hilarious because basically men on reddit complain constantly that they don't get any of this because other men absolutely don't give compliments or affection, so they need to get it from women. So by the average male redditor definition this is absolutely feminine behaviour and not something men do or understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 12:55 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginitiesNot just men, I'm sure women do these things too. It's important for both parties to communicate well :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 11:20 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Girls who do hookups are better than girls who wanna go on a real datesNot really, every woman I know who's done casual sex has hooked up with at least one person they're not attracted to, and usually more than one. It's just something meaningless to scratch an itch, it doesn't need to involve a pretty face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 01:48 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Girls who do hookups are better than girls who wanna go on a real datesMostly short but then I like short guys, being short in no way hampers someone's attractiveness. Certainly some on the trollish end of the spectrum though, but their face doesn't exactly matter when it's just for a hook up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 01:33 AM |
| 10 | Why don’t women want men to help fix things?It's all about how the communication goes. People don't tend to just get annoyed at any solution presented. It's the complete laser focus on a solution without doing the normal human stuff first (so not even waiting to find out if a solution is being worked on). Like, the conversation starts and within a minute you're interrupted with someone going "oh you should try this". It's rude. It assumes the first person hasn't put any thought into this already. It also comes across incredibly dismissive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 12:48 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Girls who do hookups are better than girls who wanna go on a real datesif she wants to hook up immediately then you know she finds you very attractive Not actually true. Maybe for some but definitely not a given. I've had sex with many a guy I didn't find particularly attractive and had no interest in ever seeing again, I just wanted sex and he was the most convenient option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 12:35 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginitiesthey find something that worked with a previous partner and insist on using it with a new partner, despite the new partner saying it doesn't work for them. Having a one size fits all approach to pleasure. getting defensive when a partner wants to give guidance and help with what gives them pleasure being unwilling to discuss what they themselves like and derive pleasure from; refusing to give feedback even when asked for and therefore having a bad time as they're not giving their partner the opp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:59 PM |
| 18 | Why don’t women want men to help fix things?I'm not the person you're responding to but I agree with their original point so I'll add my thoughts. If the problem is solvable and you know the solution, why not just solve it and get it over with? Lots of things can't be solved immediately; you may know the solution but it can't be implemented for a while, or the situation has caused stress/aggravation during your efforts to find a solution and you want to talk about that. Also I actually think it's human nature to share these things. Believ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:02 PM |
| 5 | CMV: The best sexual achievement is taking a ton of virginitiesI’m interested in seeing another metric that might be better than this one as this view causes me personal distress. But I need a metric not some bullshit about metrics not mattering. Why do you need a metric? Metrics not mattering isn't bullshit, it's just the truth. But if you need a metric I agree with the other poster, if you have sex with people you enjoy having sex with that's the greatest achievement. Realistically that involves communicating well and finding someone else who can communic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Straight and/or bi women in supposedly loving and successful non-sexless relationships with men, how transactional is your sexual attraction to your partner, if at all?Not at all. He's not a provider; we both earn about the same, we both split everything down the middle, we pay for dates from the joint account unless one of us is treating the other for their birthday etc. I would find it weird if he suddenly started displaying "provider" behaviour as it's not what I want out of a relationship and it's not the dynamic our relationship was built on. Realistically our relationship was firstly built on sex and the emotional component grew from there - we went on a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 09:01 AM |
| 4 | Would you date a man who has slept with 100 women?Sure. I'm early 30s, I don't think 100 people is particularly unreasonable for someone in their 30s; it's pretty low per year average if you assume becoming sexually active around 17. One day he tells you that the past is the past and he is now ready to settle down with a good woman and that after all this time he now sees you for the wonderful person you are. I mean, this is a bit weird though 😅 I know guys have this in their head that this is what women do but it really isn't. Is he just sitti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 05:25 PM |
| 2 | How traditional or modern is your ideal relationship?Modern all the way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 12:45 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo. Firstly I don't know the kind of people who post shirtless pics on social media. And secondly, even if I did it would be weird to do that as a masturbatory aid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 11:37 PM |
| 1 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsGet some therapy :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 08:59 PM |
| -1 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidssingle mom who marries 40 or 50 something stepdad "before it's too late." Too late for what? She's already got kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 03:34 PM |
| 6 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsMy stepfather met my mom when she was like 36 yo with two kids. At this point it was too late for them to have another kid of their own. My stepfather doesn't have biological kids of his own. If you ask him, he's fine with it and is happy with his life. I actually have a good relationship with my stepdad, he's a saint. But he's exactly the type of guy that women in their prime wouldn't date. He's like a super nice, religious guy that was single for years because he was taking care of his old mot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Being a man means you can’t be lovedWe don't have a wear red day here, or not one that's well known about anyway, I've never heard of it. Or a pink month. Whereas movember is huge and very public, and loads of people get involved. Does prostate cancer need the funding? Apparently the survival rate of prostate cancer has gone from 25% in the 70s to 84% now. In the same period breast cancer has gone from 40% to 78%, so much less of an increase which would suggest breast cancer is more complex and needs more focus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 08:55 AM |
| 15 | Being a man means you can’t be lovedMost people probably don’t even know boys die the most in child abuse. Do you have a source? A quick Google tells me this isn't true, but it was only a quick look so might be missing something. More men die of testicular cancer but breast cancer gets more funding. Breast cancer is vastly more likely than testicular cancer with many, many times the amount of deaths. In the same scenario I’m pretty 99% sure of women will let the man die without even trying……….I might be biased because of personal … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 11:18 PM |
| 0 | College educated women, would you ever consider settling for a man without a college degreeI don't really see it as settling. My ex didn't have a degree and we were together 4 years, his education choices had no bearing on the failure of the relationship. Neither me or my husband work in fields relating to our degree and neither of our jobs required us to have one, I just don't think having a degree is that important. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Obesity, mental health, depression, and responsibilityOff season body builders look like shit. As do on season ones tbf. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 11:21 AM |
| 4 | Obesity, mental health, depression, and responsibilityI know several married men with kids in this scenario. They don’t want to get divorced. What would you say their options are? Accept that they too have aged and become fatter and less attractive - because let's face it, statistically speaking they will have - and suck it the fuck up. Every married woman I know who's gained a substantial amount of weight while in the relationship has a husband who's also gained a substantial amount of weight, so none of them have any business pointing the finger … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 12:32 AM |
| – | Is it wrong to leave men once you start feeling like the male in the relationship or a motherly figure?Why? Her answer was completely not what I would have expected it to be if I'm thinking "traditional gender norms", because it's actually more about how she views his behaviour than her own behaviour. So I don't really see the problem with me asking what behaviour she's talking about rather than making what would have been a completely incorrect assumption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 04:07 PM |
| – | Is it wrong to leave men once you start feeling like the male in the relationship or a motherly figure?It just sounds like you're not attracted to him. It also sounds like you hate women if you think it's "feminine" to be sassy, unwilling to provide, complain about stupid stuff and not be level headed. I don't know that flamboyance and talkativeness are necessarily female behaviours either, most of the flamboyant and talkative people I know are men 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 04:05 PM |
| – | Is it wrong to leave men once you start feeling like the male in the relationship or a motherly figure?What do you mean by "feeling like the man" in the relationship? I wouldn't stay with a guy if I felt like his mum, but I don't get what you mean by feeling like the man. Have you started standing up to pee? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 02:03 PM |
| – | Do you pick your boyfriend’s outfits?Lol no. And where is the line you draw where picking someone’s outfit becomes “controlling?” I think it's fine to give an opinion on whether something suits an occasion (for instance if going for dinner my husband might ask me if I think he should be suited and booted or if it's more jeans and a nice top), or if someone's stuck between two options if you weigh in with what you prefer. But outright picking what they're wearing is probably controlling. So I guess - if it's an invited/asked for opi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 10:46 PM |
| 0 | Women of Reddit, does your potential man’s salary important? What is a reasonable $# you’d accept?My husband was unemployed when we started seeing each other, and then part time on minimum wage for a good 6 months or so, then unemployed again for a bit. He didn't have a permanent job or decent salary until we'd already been together for over a year. So no, not particularly important and there would be no minimum. Even when he was just on benefits, he managed what he had well which is the most important thing - he wasn't living outside his means or racking up debt which is a far better indica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Q4A:Opinions about provocative dressinggood point. Question, do you get more attention by revealing your skin or not revealing your skin? I've had more attention when not revealing skin, but that is probably a consequence of situation; I would guess on balance it's probably about the same regardless of clothing for most people. " Do you suggest that women just don't leave the house again? " Solid point. I would just say that dressing decreases the chances but not eliminates it. Doesn't eliminate at all and from my experience doesn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Q4A:Opinions about provocative dressingIf women say that doing that makes them feel more confident and that men should not sexualize their bodies, isn't it like they know that men are attracted to them and their bodies? As we know that every woman knows that so when they say that it makes them feel confident, aren't they admitting that they are objectifying their bodies to receive attention which gives them a confidence boost? I personally feel confident if I'm wearing things I like the look of, and that I think make me look good. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 08:26 PM |
| 0 | Many women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.Many of your husband's are the docile types who who would heartbroken if you left. A real man don't care. I think when you said "real man" you meant "psychopath". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?I'm not moving goalposts, you're just being really odd. I've not dodged anything. So basically you want to know if I'm turned on by tears. No. Why would you think anyone is? Is this what men on here mean when they say women don't appreciate it when they show vulnerability? Because it doesn't make them want to use your tears as lube and ride your cock? When women say they want a man to be vulnerable, they don't mean for their sexual gratification. They mean for the closeness, trust, emotional con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?Yes. If I take notes for someone in a meeting - not emotional work. If I take on the burden of carrying responsibilities for their family members - emotional work. That is a simple concept. What were you asking then? Do I get horny when I see someone cry? As I'm not a fucking sadist then no. However it deepens emotional connection (which is an extremely large and important part of general attraction, for normal people anyway). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?I really don’t think so at all. Those things aren’t emotional So you don't think caring for relatives constitutes an emotional burden? You're wrong, but okay. If you can’t answer the question it sounds like it’s a no. I did answer the question, did you not read the paragraph of answer I gave? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?I don't think most guys expect this. Seems to be almost the default though; not so much in shorter term relationships but certainly for co-habiting or married couples, the woman is very often expected to take over any and all family related tasks, from present-buying and organising activities, to full on caring responsibilities. Are you more attracted to him as a man when he does this? I don't quite know what you mean by this. In the moment my only thoughts have been to provide comfort and suppo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 12:49 PM |
| 4 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?I know it's not what you want to hear but there is a bit in the middle and the ideal is somewhere around there. how do you negotiate this in your relationships (what do your relationships look like)? My husband is vulnerable with me in that at times of difficult emotion he has been able to cry in front of me and hasn't felt the need to hide it/repress it. He tells me if things aren't going well, which ranges from venting about a bad day to open and frank discussions about his mental health. He k… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 11:26 PM |
| 3 | What are reasons a first date didn't work out for you?I was about 17 and one of my friends invited me to meet up with him and some of his friends. It was a nice time and I hit it off quite well with one of his friends, who subsequently asked me on a date. It was a nice date and he was a lovely guy, but then my friend also asked me on a date - I'd known him for about 4 years and had liked him for parts of that but never thought he was interested. I went on that date too, but by that time he was really starting to get into religion, which is fine in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 12:09 PM |
| 6 | There's a "What are your most controversial or unpopular dating rule/opinion" thread over at r/AskWomenOver30. What are your controversial opinion about their controversial opinions?You made it seem like that: If it’s an American thing it may be because we can’t walk/take the train everywhere But you actually can leave the house and go other places, you don't just stay in the house aside from when a man pays for you to leave it. Seems like it doesn't justify it at all, and it's just a bit of an unpleasant way to behave to expect someone else to foot the bill for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 06:24 PM |
| 6 | There's a "What are your most controversial or unpopular dating rule/opinion" thread over at r/AskWomenOver30. What are your controversial opinion about their controversial opinions?Yesss I'm from the UK too and this thread is crazy to me, it would not ever have occurred to me to expect a guy to send a bloody taxi to pick me up 😅 when single I lived in/near a city center too so none of us had cars, there was no ferrying people about; you just get there under your own steam. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 01:04 PM |
| 8 | There's a "What are your most controversial or unpopular dating rule/opinion" thread over at r/AskWomenOver30. What are your controversial opinion about their controversial opinions?I think what they were asking is how you do other things. You obviously must be able to get to other places or else the only time you'd leave your house is when dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 12:58 PM |
| 1 | how much money did your first sexual partner make?We worked part time at the same shop (which is how we met). If I recall correctly it was about £4.45 an hour and he worked weekends so probably about £50-odd a week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, do you think it’s a red flag if a man grew up with an absent father figure?I can't say I've ever really thought about it tbh. My high school/early uni bf lived just with his mum. His dad was kind of in the picture (but I don't think had lived with the family since the kids were really young) but a total douche. If anything his dad being a bit absent probably helped because he was a much more pleasant person than his dad was 😅 so I wouldn't say it was a red flag in his case. One of my (male) friends had a fairly absent father figure, he's married to one of my other frie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 10:50 PM |
| 5 | Would you be ok covering all expenses for a relationship partner if they lose their job ?I'm a woman, married to a man - yes of course I would. We'd be a bit tight so he'd probably need to get another job within a few months, but that's not anything to do with me being "okay" covering for him, just more general life. We can cover all our bills and mortgage on one salary but we wouldn't have much of a life alongside it 😅 If I earned enough to comfortably support us both on my salary then he wouldn't need to lose his job, he could just quit and I'd happily support him. He wasn't reall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 10:37 PM |
| 9 | There is a disconnect young men face between prominent cultural values in dating vs most other things in life.People who don't want to pay tax have lots of options - don't get a job, get a very low paying job, pay more into pension to keep yourself below certain tax thresholds. If you're going to force people into relationships what are their options? Accept or die? Stop trying to be so bloody edgy, you're talking nonsense and you know it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 08:13 PM |
| 12 | There is a disconnect young men face between prominent cultural values in dating vs most other things in life.What else do you suggest? There isn't another option. You either force someone to be in a relationship, or certain people will end up alone. It's pretty much that simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 07:17 PM |
| 12 | There is a disconnect young men face between prominent cultural values in dating vs most other things in life.It's not the same though. I pay taxes; I earn more than the average person so I pay more taxes than the average person. This helps to fund education, healthcare, care services etc. This is something I'm more than happy to do to ensure others can access these things. This is society wide and it impacts some groups of people more than others, and benefits some groups of people more than others. But it isn't infringing on an individuals freedom bodily autonomy. Literally forcing an individual perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 07:15 PM |
| 16 | There is a disconnect young men face between prominent cultural values in dating vs most other things in life.Well that would essentially mean forcing someone into some kind of sex slavery, assigning them to a relationship they don't want just to keep someone else happy. How is that a viable option? Also, I've seen this idea crop up a few times on this sub and I know for a fact you'd be the first people to complain when you got lumped with a woman you found unattractive. So since it's a shit idea for all involved, how exactly is there a disconnect between that and actual good ideas that help people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 05:28 PM |
| 39 | If sex and relationships were off the table: do women find men appealing in any way? Are we funny or interesting?I have male and female friends; I don't like or dislike people based on their gender but based on how well we get on as people. Neither are "funny or interesting" as a collective; this very much depends on the individual. There are funny and interesting men and women, there are boring men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 04:08 PM |
| 4 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missMaybe different in Europe then, I've never been to a US beach but I've been to a few in hotter European countries and it's not unusual for anyone to wear a bikini. Most bikinis also aren't just "a belt that shows the entire ass", that's ridiculous 🤣 again maybe culturally different but most bikinis I see online/in shops are more along the lines of what I posted; certainly in most high street shops anyway. You get some crazy revealing ones but it isn't the norm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | What are women's motivations for wanting casual sex only?When I was single and wanting casual sex only, it was mostly because I was just out of a long relationship. I had no desire to get into another one and just wanted some casual fun. Most of these were one night only so not that applicable to your situation - there were a few that I slept with more regularly because the sex was particularly good and we had good chat - but good sex and good chat doesn't make a relationship; you're still not necessarily going to have the compatibility required for t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 11:38 AM |
| 5 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missWhere do you live? Like yeah, no one wears a bikini if I go to a beach where I live because they'd freeze to death, but it's pretty common on hot beaches. Also bikinis cover a full range of different styles and they're not necessarily that revealing, such as: https://www.bravissimo.com/products/rio-de-janeiro-bikini-top-sw701/#coral-sw701crl which definitely shows less flesh than a speedo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Double standards are valid since... men sleep with women they would never date and women sleep with men they can never date.’m talking about situations where women have told me that men have strung them along and have been in year long situationships. Then why are you equating it to all casual sex when that's a tiny minority of it? For the majority of casual sex, that's all it is and no one wants anything more. So why does your post make this about all casual sex and then suddenly you change your tune in the comments? Which is it? To me, sex is kind of the holy grail at the end of tunnel. If I commit to you and get s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADMost men aren't down to be pegged either in fairness. I had an ex who wouldn't even let me put my hand on his fully clothed bum cheek 🤷 One can only hope all the people into being pegged eventually meet the ones who are into pegging. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 11:44 PM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWell they're missing out, as it's fab. My husband's sexual openness and appreciation of bum stuff is one of the many reasons I love him so much; he has no hang ups and nothing he's afraid to try, and if it gives pleasure then he sees no shame in it - as it should be. It's a rare trait in a man and a very sexy one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 11:31 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWhy would you assume that? I've pegged my husband several times and we're still together like 7 years after the first time. It's insanely hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 11:23 PM |
| 5 | Double standards are valid since... men sleep with women they would never date and women sleep with men they can never date.If a woman just continually lets men play her and use her like this This seems to be the root of the issue for a lot of you guys. I know you will never believe this, but just because a woman has sex with a man, does not mean she is being played and used. It's far beyond your capabilities to fathom this but women like sex too. Sex is a thing men and woman can actually do together, it isn't something one does to the other. Just because you don't end up in a relationship with someone you've slept w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 11:17 PM |
| 3 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyWhat the fuck are you on about? You do realise this is a thread about FRIENDSHIPS (I'm assuming you realise since you started the fucking thing) how have you derailed yourself to the point of this incoherent rant? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyIn what way do they think and act differently? I'm 5"0 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyBecause men on average are taller than women on average, and it's actually quite hard to find men who are smaller than you. I've never met a grown man shorter than me - my husband's below average height yet is still a head taller than me. If you're thinking a protection angle anyway, height is meaningless. If you were looking for someone to protect you, would you choose Stephen Merchant (6 ft 7, comes across about as dangerous as a butterfly) or Matlala (4"10, world championship boxer). So aside… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 01:15 PM |
| 5 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlybut men are expected to give way more in a friendship with a woman This is not true and I have no idea why it's always parroted on this sub. Protect her Who or what the fuck are my guy friends exactly meant to be protecting me from? This is just not a thing that happens nor an expectation that normal people have of those in their life. help her move heavy stuff What heavy stuff is he ever going to need to lift? Me and my friends don't cart shit around for funsies and it has literally never cropp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Would you date the opposite gender versiomof yourself?In some respects yes but others no - my husband is like me in the ways that we both value (we have very strongly overlapping music taste so enjoy going to gigs together; we have some hobbies in common; we both love sex and can communicate well enough to make it excellent; we're fairly introverted so like a fair amount of quiet time together rather than being out and about all the time; we're both very adventurous with food and love to try new things; we're politically aligned and aligned in gene… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 09:54 AM |
| 20 | Women; what are the actual specific hardships you face in terms of the modern dating marketing place and society at large?Yesss this drives me nuts. At my work they do things for both international women's and men's days. They are of the same scale and the same amount of work is put into both, and colleagues are encouraged to get involved, share their experiences etc. Yet every year without fail on women's day, the Intranet posts will be flooded with discontented men complaining and asking "what about men's day? Men have all these problems and no one cares". Dude your day was 4 months ago and the Intranet was flood… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Women just expect men to pay, even on bad dates. Is this reasonable?It's not reasonable (however it's not all women - the prevalence of it probably depends on where you live though, it's quite normal here for people to split the bill/pay for alternate rounds of drinks etc). I've never let a guy pay for me on a date regardless of whether it's good or not - my mum always taught me that I should pay my own way. Interestingly though, my ex really hated that and asked that if I insisted on paying my share, that I let him put his card down and then just transfer the m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Does this song change your perspective on mens mental health?Men aren't a monolith - many of you do actually have different experiences and different issues; some with solutions some not. And even if there isn't a solution, therapy can provide practical tools to help you manage how you're feeling and make the day to day easier. I also don't know why you assume the things that affect woman always have a solution, as depending on the person's situation they may not. Assuming it's pointless without ever giving it a try is half your problem - nothing will eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Does this song change your perspective on mens mental health?Have you been to therapy? Because I have, and it wasn't just talking and commiserating. We did exercises to explore the root of issues and the majority of it was getting me to think about what I could do to change that. Each week I had things I had to go away and do in order to work on improving my mental health. I put a lot of work in and it helped me develop a lot of practical tools to prevent my mental health from deteriorating again. If it's just sitting there and commiserating then you need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 10:47 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Asking for a paternity test is not an accusation of cheating, and women who think like that are red flagsI've met guys who've insisted on meeting in public first. Did they think I was a rapist? Unlikely. More likely scenario: it's incredibly easy to lie about who you are online and with the prevalence of hookup apps etc you really have no idea if the person you've been talking to is who they say they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 11:11 PM |
| – | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?Its a huger thing to raise another mans kid with one party knowing full well Point out to me where I said it was a competition Not a gram of sympathy from me here Who gives a fuck? No one needs your sympathy. It's just the truth, for most people a request for a paternity test will mean the end of the relationship due to a fundamental breakdown of trust. There is no point in continuing that relationship any more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 05:23 PM |
| 9 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?I wouldn't refuse one, but if I was asked to take it the relationship would be over. How can you have a successful relationship if all the trust is gone? It's a huge thing to suspect your partner has been knocked up by some other guy, so if a DNA test is requested then it clearly shows there are deep rooted and unfixable problems in that relationship. If my husband feels like I might do that he shouldn't be with me or be having kids with me in the first place. However I'd absolutely still do the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 11:16 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMy husband is an expert at teasing me. Being Scottish he has the easiest play in the book - if we're going out somewhere, wear his kilt and make sure I'm aware he has nothing on underneath. He also has a variety of other clothes he knows drives me wild and will use them shamelessly to do so 😅 - tops that show off a hint of chest hair, shirts with the sleeves rolled up, waistcoats 💦 his one very blue plaid shirt that brings out the blue in his eyes and makes his beard even more ginger 🤤 and one o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 08:33 AM |
| 7 | Men, has a woman ever stepped in to protect you from someone? Women have you ever done or seen this?I was on a night out with work people a few years ago. One of the guys was drunk and started squaring up to a random guy for a fight. I stepped in between them and talked my colleague down and pulled him away from the situation. I was more protecting him from himself though - if he'd hit the guy he would've likely been arrested and then definitely would have lost his job. Also on a different night out with a different set of drunk colleagues, a guy who walked with crutches due to an old back inj… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 08:11 AM |
| 10 | Q4A: Male loneliness, what is it to you?I think male loneliness, much like female loneliness, differs from person to person. Some men are happy single and get the company and emotional support they need from their friends. Some men might have plenty friends but still feel lonely because they live by themselves/crave the company of a partner. Some men are in a relationship and get some fulfillment out of that, but overall still feel lonely because they have no other social life so don't feel like they have well rounded social connectio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 10:03 AM |
| 3 | How do you divide financial responsibility, chores and childcare in your relationships?gender, age and marital status F33 married How much do you and your partner bring to the shared budget (in percent)? We split everything down the middle, 50% each Approximately how much time do you and your partner spend on chores and childcare? No kids. Chores - I don't really know tbh, we tend to both do daily chores at the same time as each other. For other things he might do things early on a weekend morning if I'm in bed and he's up, whereas I work compressed hours so I do a lot of my house… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 04:50 PM |
| 23 | CMV: Just because a wife works the same hours as her husband doesn't make it an equal contributionIf the husband was a slow cook and took an hour to prepare dinner, would that be an equal contribution compared to a wife who spends half an hour cleaning and then prepares the same dinner in half an hour? I'm a much quicker and tidier cook than my husband. I can make the same meal in a quarter of the time it takes him, and will generally clean as I go because I'm practiced enough that it isn't stressful for me to do that. My husband takes much longer and is much messier, but his contribution is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 11:05 PM |
| 2 | CMV: It’s not misogynistic or controlling for men to expect/ask the women they date or marry to not dress like they are still singleIf a woman is in a relationship and she dresses like this she is advertising that “Yes I want to hook up with guys on the side even though I’m in a relationship”. No she isn't, don't be ridiculous. Why would someone change how they dress just because they're in a relationship? Ridiculous concept. Also, normal people don't have a crazy weird hang up about this kind of thing. My husband loves it when I'm dressed in more revealing clothes. Say we're going out for dinner and I wear a dress with a ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is your current boyfriend/husband the best looking partner you've ever had sex with?Attraction is a really subjective thing though so it's difficult to do that. I know that one of my gay guy friends thought my ex was better looking than my husband is, but when my dad met my husband he said to me later "yes I like this one, he looks like a man" which I gather was a comment on my husband's appearance generally being more adult (darker hair, beard) compared to my blond clean shaven ex. A few times I slept with a guy who was the spitting image of Nicholas Holt - some people might f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/23 08:30 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Is your current boyfriend/husband the best looking partner you've ever had sex with?I certainly think so, but I caveat that with the understanding that your bond with someone will make them seem more attractive to you. So while i think my husband is the most attractive person I've had sex with (nay, the most attractive person in the world) I recognise that others may not think so and my feelings for him probably have a big influence on that. But on the other hand, he is smoking hot and there is no one hotter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 11:46 PM |
| – | How important is comfort vs value when it comes to a man's quality as a dating option? What balance of value and comfort would you feel you personally want in a man you're with and why?Oh totally, it just isn't my idea of fun and happiness, so I can't see there being any compatibility between me and someone who does enjoy those things. But it's just always touted as the kind of thing that gives someone "value", when for people not into that it has no value at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 05:07 PM |
| – | How important is comfort vs value when it comes to a man's quality as a dating option? What balance of value and comfort would you feel you personally want in a man you're with and why?but you can’t possibly be telling me that with your partner, there were NO indicators of attractiveness that informed your choosing him like height, social status I met my partner on tinder. I was looking for hook ups as was he. He had one pic in which he had a hood up and it was zoomed quite close in. My first perception of him was a kinda chubby metalhead, couldn't really tell if he was attractive but he didn't look horrific and I like metalheads so I swiped. He actually looked totally differe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 05:03 PM |
| – | How important is comfort vs value when it comes to a man's quality as a dating option? What balance of value and comfort would you feel you personally want in a man you're with and why?I just think you're ignoring the big glaring thing - people are people, not objects. You can put all the hypothetical scenarios you want down on paper but it does nothing to reflect real life or how people actually act. We don't all sit down and work out a mathematical formula. You end up with someone and in that relationship you can reflect on the balance of happy days and not so happy days and whether that balance works for you. I don't really like career driven people and I don't really like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 12:37 PM |
| – | How important is comfort vs value when it comes to a man's quality as a dating option? What balance of value and comfort would you feel you personally want in a man you're with and why?I feel like balancing comfort vs value is something you do when considering which pillow to buy, not which person to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 11:45 AM |
| 12 | Would you date a single mother with a dead kid?This is just such a fucking weird take man. Relationships end sometimes, it happens. You literally can never be sure that a relationship won't end in a break-up at some point until one or both of you is dead. So for ultimate certainty no one should ever have children and we can just let the human race die out 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 01:43 PM |
| 0 | What’s the reason women as a group in general seem much more angry about guys playing video games than guys being drug addicts, alcoholics and criminals?Most people don't know/date many drug addicts/alcoholics/criminals but most people do know someone who games too much, so it's just a more common problem. Besides which, people into drugs and crime tend to attract other like minded people. They may well do drugs and crime together, so it isn't behaviour that bothers the other person. My dad's an alcoholic but his wife was also an alcoholic, so they just kept kind of enabling each other's drinking, until her alcoholism killed her which finally pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Non trad women, are you still expecting trad behavior from men?No, I would never want to be with a trad man. We split our bills equally, we both contribute around the house, we both can share how we're feeling and get looked after by the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 01:37 AM |
| 29 | Most guys hate plastic surgery and make up on women. Most guys would never get plastic surgery and do makeup to impress or compete with other guys. So why do women do it for other women?I actually don't think guys do hate plastic surgery or make up on women. They say they do, but then whenever anyone posts a picture of someone they think is hot, generally they have plastic surgery and/or makeup. They might hate it when it's badly done but for the most part I think they don't really notice it, or in fact think it's natural and how women are meant to look. In any case, I don't think it's "for women" as such, it might just be to restore their own self image and make themselves fee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 09:10 AM |
| 3 | You can choose from any of the male physiques presented here, which would you say are the most attractive, which would you prefer your long term partner to have and how would you rank them and why?I mean normal as in not crazy muscular. The OP was asking about what our optimum bodies are, so yes, I'd say his body is the optimum end of "normal". It's achievable without crazy diets, steroids or living in the gym, looks natural and sexy but also comfy and cuddleable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 07:16 AM |
| 5 | You can choose from any of the male physiques presented here, which would you say are the most attractive, which would you prefer your long term partner to have and how would you rank them and why?They're super sexy and have been since I first met him, long before he was my husband. Nice arms and shoulders are a big draw for me and his are perfection :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 10:18 PM |
| 3 | You can choose from any of the male physiques presented here, which would you say are the most attractive, which would you prefer your long term partner to have and how would you rank them and why?I just like... normal looking guys. None of the above, they are all just muscly guys, your labelling of them is just not accurate at all. Like https://images.app.goo.gl/KN2Gb8kxtVrWBEgS6 is, to me, like a slim dad bod. My husband's got similar arms and shoulders and doesn't need to work out to get them, but they're super sexy. It's nice to have a little comfy bit to squeeze around the waist, can be hairier than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/23 09:22 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI prefer below average height, and all my relationships since I was 17 have been with below average height guys. I am really short though which I think is a factor - things like kissing and hand holding are a lot more comfortable with shorter guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 12:26 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah but do you act shitty to her when you play, which seems to be what that post you've linked is about? My husband and I have our computers set up next to either and will game at the same time as each other, but rarely actually play something together as we tend to like different games. On the odd occasions we do play together there's no issue because he doesn't talk down to me or whatever. It's not really a "victim mentality" if your bf is being a dick to you for no reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather be with a man who raises kids that aren't his? Or one the has kids he doesn't raise?The first one. I have my own deadbeat dad I don't need another in my life 😅 In seriousness, I think it demonstrates good traits if someone has stepped up to a responsibility that they didn't need to take and are helping to provide stability where there might otherwise have been none for the child(ren) involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?amateur sexual anthropologist. 🤣 Of course, not much point in putting a finger in if it is just OK though, lol Oh I just meant okay as in it works haha, that combined with clit stimulation is a good way to give an orgasm as long as it's not a finger bang 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?Probably varies by person but I've seen loads of other women discuss it online so I don't think I'm alone :) I don't know if it just causes too much sensory confusion or something, for me anyway it's almost as if it blocks out the sensations on my clit. It's why I've never been interested in vibrator/dildo combo things that are meant to do both at once, but I'd assume it does work for others! Although fingers inside are okay as long as they're moving slowly/gently, just not penises or dildos. Pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?Oh yes, I agree! And generally for PIV the act of finishing the man off is a bit more "energetic" so you might both want to slump down and have a snooze after, which is why it can be helpful to put a priority on the woman finishing first (unless you can reliably finish together!). Having orgasmed makes sex better for me and my husband due to the physiological side effects of orgasm such as increased wetness, contracting of muscles etc, so I'd probably generally recommend the woman orgasming firs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 01:36 PM |
| 6 | Is the orgasm gap simply caused by men being worse sexual partners overall? Or is it down to the physiology and/or physchology of women making it more difficult for them?Big combo of factors. Physiologically, I have no problem reaching orgasm (without any toys for aid I can make myself orgasm in under a minute). For some women this may differ though, just as some men struggle to orgasm. However, with a partner that is harder, because they can't feel what you're feeling and therefore it takes them longer to get there. That's also not exclusive to men though - some men come really quickly with a partner but some struggle to come at all if it's someone else touchin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Have you hooked up with someone for non-sexual reasons?So whether you can get aroused by touching also depends on just how unattractive he is, etc. Again probably depends on the person. If I want to have sex I don't think it matters how unattractive someone might be, I'll still get aroused with the physical stimulation and also the mental stimulation of the lead up to sex if it's sex I want to be having. And realistically physical arousal happens for all sorts of reasons not related to sex so might not have anything to do with my surroundings (like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Have you hooked up with someone for non-sexual reasons?I think this probably depends on the woman tbh. If I'm not attracted to someone I won't get physically aroused until touching starts (unless they have a decent sexy chat game, I find that arousing whether it be verbal or through text etc no matter what the person looks like) , but I don't really need to be, the touching part is very stimulating and gets me to be where I need to be for PIV. Although as far as I recall in this instance he also went down on me for a bit first which is also always a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Have you hooked up with someone for non-sexual reasons?It was fun enough, nothing earth shattering but we both gave it a good go. No, I wouldn't say he's ugly but I didn't find him attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Have you hooked up with someone for non-sexual reasons?Once I was chatting to a friend at a party. We were both a bit drunk and chatting in a room alone. He was feeling a bit down because he fancied one of our other friends but she didn't like him back, and I was avoiding someone I worked with as we always flirted when drunk and I didn't want to make an unwise decision and cause potential work awkwardness. So we basically figured yeah let's have sex, both to kill some time and help prevent us hitting on people we shouldn't 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How do you decide whom to date between 2 men who claim to love you?Well I'd find it weird if either were claiming to love me after a few dates. However, I have been in the situation before where there were two guys I liked and they both liked me back, so the decision was on who to date. I went with the one I felt more comfortable around and had more of a connection with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 09:41 AM |
| 3 | 50-50 doesn't work because men actually have to do more than the woman in order for the relationship to surviveYou've just contradicted yourself in this comment. Women care more and the person who cares more should do more, but actually men should do more? What actually is your point, or do you not have one and you're just talking nonsense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 09:56 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with treating women like children, a lot of women like it when you take care of them in a loving mannerYou both take an active interest and involvement of the household running, since you both live there. You both use your own strengths and experience to pool knowledge together to give the best outcomes for your life together (example - I've worked for a bank for over a decade and as a result I'm more financially savvy than my husband, so I take point in things like organising our mortgage and joint savings - however I make sure he's involved in the process, can give input, and knows how to manag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 12:54 AM |
| 13 | There's nothing wrong with treating women like children, a lot of women like it when you take care of them in a loving mannerIt is very disturbing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:45 PM |
| 12 | There's nothing wrong with treating women like children, a lot of women like it when you take care of them in a loving mannerThis is why you are bitter and don’t get it I'm not bitter in the slightest, I had a very happy childhood and was raised correctly (i.e to not act like the mother to my partner or act like their child). It's just incredibly weird, gross, fucked up to want a parent child relationship with your adult partner. Like, genuinely disgusting to want that kind of dynamic. Having sex with someone you treat like they're your daughter/a child/a baby? So many levels of fucked up. trying to stuff a two way re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 02:43 PM |
| 37 | There's nothing wrong with treating women like children, a lot of women like it when you take care of them in a loving mannerEw this is gross. If someone treats their partner like a child then they certainly shouldn't be having sex with them. Playing silly games, using a baby voice etc. These are things women do when they feel safe in their relationship Do they. I feel plenty safe in my relationship but can't say I've ever used a baby voice. Examples of some things daddy can do: Pay for most dates. Take care of bills, paper work etc. Taking care of all things car related, example: changing oils etc. Playfulness, silly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/23 11:32 AM |
| 2 | in which direction do you think your marriage or relationship will go if we went into another lockdown ?We got engaged during the 2020 Christmas lockdown and married as 2021 restrictions were easing. So maybe another lockdown would bring children? Basically lockdown was great for our relationship. My husband barely worked, I was mostly wfh. We got to spend so much time together and occasionally had sex on my lunch breaks. It was very pleasant, and while I'd prefer not to have another lockdown in general, relationship worries don't factor into that as it wouldn't cause us any issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 12:20 PM |
| 7 | Mens quality of life and health is poor because of women’s workplace needsIf men don’t want to work or be a stay at home dad it’s seen as selfish and lazy. Nobody thinks women are lazy for not wanting to work. This is kinda a class/wealth divide. If people are rich then very few people care if they don't work. It's not really seen as lazy, just a benefit of being rich. However, poor men and women are vilified for not working and both seen as lazy and selfish, "scroungers" etc. This isn't something women get a pass for. It’s also important to note that most women usual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 10:01 AM |
| – | Hypothetical scenario: You have to make the first move. Namely, verbal move (or an explicitly romantic physical move). How/what would you do?I have often made the first physical move. I quite like nerdy shy guys so it has been helpful to have a bit of sexual confidence in the past to make the first move, or we'd be locked in an endless cycle of dithering with no one ever getting anywhere. I'm now married but hypothetically were I to become single again I'd just go with the kind of things that worked in the past. Example - at a bar, seeing a guy left alone as his friends go for a smoke. Ask if he wants some company. Engage in general … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 11:39 PM |
| 9 | Too many women want a father, not a husband.What exactly is your point here? We're not talking about your mum and siblings. You think women want their partner to be their dad because of Christmas and birthday gifts. I have pointed out that it is not just fathers buying their daughters presents. Your mum buys you a present. Is she your dad? Your sister buys you a present. Is she your dad? What I'm saying is that it's nonsensical to equate an expectation to receive gifts for celebrations with a woman wanting her partner to be her dad. Since… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 05:10 PM |
| 11 | Too many women want a father, not a husband.Last I checked, your wife and kids would fall into that category of "loved ones". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 04:48 PM |
| 15 | Too many women want a father, not a husband.who will buy them birthday and Christmas presents TIL this is something dads only do for their daughters and not a basic thing that the majority of people do for their loved ones 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 04:17 PM |
| 18 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantWhy don't you go back and read the comment you're replying to, which already contains the answer to your question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 03:33 PM |
| 27 | Women would be straight up miserable if their partner refused to have sex with them, yet because it usually happens the other way around they find excuses that sex is not importantI don't see why companionship is so much more important than sex. Because as much as you may want to, you're not always going to be able to have sex. So the companionship aspect is so much more important to keep the relationship going through those times. Illness happens, busy times happen, pregnancy and childbirth happen. You need a good solid foundation built on companionship or you won't get through those times. In general, I don't see why as a society we act like sex is not that important fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 09:05 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The reason why most women initiate breakups/divorces is because they are physically unattracted to their partnerWhat actually changed with her divorce? She still has to do 100% of the childcare. But now she has to pay her own rent and bills. Not necessarily - they might have had a joint custody arrangement (or full custody to the dad). Even if not, the kids might have gone to visit their dad at holidays etc so she'll have breaks at points. In addition, she's no longer stuck, beholden to some guy who's never there. So now she can have a life, instead of being bored and lonely can date, see other people. Sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 08:11 AM |
| 6 | CMV: The reason why most women initiate breakups/divorces is because they are physically unattracted to their partnerHowever, I was often able to bring my wife with me to live in places like Bangkok, Boston, Beijing, and San Diego because we didn't have children. That probably helps! When my grandparents were younger my grandpa worked overseas a lot, but he was allowed to take his whole family with him so they could be together and experience living in a different country etc which is a lot better than being left alone continually. On the other hand, I sometimes had to leave my wife alone for extended periods … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 12:02 PM |
| 6 | Would you wait for a guy until he achieved his peak?to add 100 lbs to their bench, and cut their mile time by 45 seconds for you by the end of the year, and also make 6 figures by the end of 5 years into the relationship. (Essentially a 315 bench and 5:00 minute mile) and also promised to grow his dick by 1 inch but it would be without feeling or sensation at the glans. Why would I give a shit about any of this. Who the fuck cares what someone can "bench"? Who the fuck even cares what a mile time is? Who needs a 6 figure salary? Why the fuck woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 10:56 AM |
| 13 | CMV: The reason why most women initiate breakups/divorces is because they are physically unattracted to their partnerHe was pursuing an interesting and exciting career, dropping by home between trips to see the wife and kiddos, while she was climbing the walls in boredom. Her decision to divorce took us all by surprise because there was seemingly no reason for it, apart from boredom. It's funny that this took people by surprise, because from reading it sounds like a really shitty life that I'd never in a million years want. Who wants to be stuck somewhere having to basically take on 100% of the childcare while… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 10:50 AM |
| 1 | What is it like interacting with attractive guys vs an unattractive guys vs so-so guys?No, as I've noted towards the end of my comment - I'm not going to force interaction just because someone has a pretty face. Like everyone I have biases so I'm more likely to attempt conversation with someone I view as being more likely to have something in common with me that we can base a conversation around, but whether or not they're an attractive person doesn't factor into that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 04:44 PM |
| 3 | What is it like interacting with attractive guys vs an unattractive guys vs so-so guys?The difference isn't in whether they're attractive, it's in the possibilities of the conversation (same with interacting with women). Like, there are two guys I work with - neither more or less attractive than the other, neither of whom I'm attracted to. One I have a lot in common with and is generally chattier, so if we're in the office together our interactions are normally fairly animated, we're quite engaged in the conversation, we have impromptu conversation if one of us thinks of something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/23 02:58 PM |
| 23 | Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationshipWhy would the man work harder Salary gives basically no indication of how hard someone works. My step dad earns loads right now as a consultant, he works like 5 hours a week but gets to bill for a day rate even if he only does an hour that day. So he does barely any work. It's obviously not the case all the time but there's a reason it's quite well known for people to say more money = less work. If you feel your money entitles you to buy a servant, then pay for staff to do your housework. That i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 11:30 AM |
| 0 | Women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.Again, people in general will only ever be attracted to a tiny minority of those they see. This isn't some moral failing from women, it's how literally every person lives their life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.Most people don't want to get to know most people. And attraction has little to do with it. People get to know the people that are immediately connected to their life - because they work together, see each other at events, have friends in common etc. The vast majority of other random people you see, most people have no interest in getting to know them because why would they? This counts for men and women and is a fact of life, not women being picky or difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:31 AM |
| 3 | Women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.7 billion people on this planet. Everyone only wants to get to know a minority. And this isn't a computer game, no one is an NPC. However there's only so much time in life to get to know people and it's only ever going to be the tiniest sliver of the population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 09:00 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: Would you date/marry a guy who doesn’t want kids AND isn’t career-oriented?He just works a standard 40-50 hour job I'd really avoid dating someone working 40-50 hours. That is FAR too much, you need some work life balance even if you don't have kids. Tbh neither of us were really into the thought of having kids when we got together and neither of us are very career oriented. I am a bit more so because I enjoy my job - plus I can advance to a decent level while still working 35 hours a week and having 2 months holiday every year, so really I may as well do so in order t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?Oh my god, what is wrong with you, seriously? I responded in a good faith, friendly manner to a post. My response was on topic and answered the question asked. You chose to take it completely incorrectly and make an unnecessary dig, and now you're spewing batshit conspiracy shit because what? You don't like getting called out on it? You don't believe people can enjoy sex? You had a terrible time on tinder? Whatever it is, take a step back, take a look at yourself, and calm down. You're the only … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?Ah, can't think of a response to any of the bits that are actually relevant to this conversation, instead going on AI conspiracy tangent. Weird shift but alright. Maybe I have a huge lack of awareness, maybe I'm just sane, however I really don't see what benefit a Russian spy bot would have hanging out in the PPD sub, extolling the virtues of tinder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?I'm not referring to how I worded it. I'm referring to you automatically assuming that the previous was "respectful" and the second was me being "thrown about like a sack of meat" or whatever gross shit you came up with. Kinks cover an entire variety of things, the majority of which are nothing to do with being "thrown about". Honestly, with the way most women speak of Tinder and the men on there, I get propaganda bot vibes from you. Almost every experience I read from women on Reddit is that Ti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?Well I really think that's a you problem if that's how you read it. My ex didn't care about me having fun or pleasure. He didn't want to engage in foreplay or do anything that might make sex enjoyable. He basically wanted to be able to walk into a room, go "let's have sex" expect me to basically lie there, shut up and put up with it. That's not how things started out and I tried to discuss it with him but he wasn't up for that of course, and was then just put out that I didn't want to be a sex d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 01:55 PM |
| 3 | Lauren Sanchez , Jeff Bezos new wife, shows that looks at the most important thing in maintaining a long term relationship with a man.The fact MacKenzie doesn't even fix her teeth with all the money she has is odd. There isn't anything wrong with her teeth. Should she be seeking you out to find out what you think is wrong with her teeth and changing whatever it is just because she has money? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Does having a 'hoe phase' come from a place of pain?For some it does, others it doesn't. That might change at certain points too. For me mostly it was a place of joy and fun. My first was when I was at uni, I'd go out and have a fun night, and if I happened to hit it off with someone I'd take them home and it was a fun end to a good night. My second wasn't so much trauma and low self esteem as much as within the space of a few weeks I'd split with my ex and suffered a bereavement, and I just wanted to reset things a bit, take a break from grief a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 10:22 PM |
| 9 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?No normal person has absolutely no one liking them. Even completely weird people can usually find someone (for example I once worked with a guy who was super odd socially, really overweight, balding in his 20s, had a terrible skin condition that left him scabby everywhere and resulted in him shedding dead skin all over the place. And he was married, and by all accounts seemed to be really happy with his wife). Almost every guy I've seen on here complain that no one is interested in them adds tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 06:27 PM |
| 47 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?That's just life. With billions of people in the world, most people don't desire most other people. The majority of people you pass day to day are invisible to you regardless of whether you're a man or a woman. You see a cute guy at the mall and you think about talking to him but there is a big chance that if you do, he will feel annoyed or even threatened depending on the way you speak. How does that feel? Just like normal life. Why on earth would I go up to a random guy and start talking to hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 02:16 PM |
| 3 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.I've just literally never seen any other male bodytype be portrayed as "sexy" You have a very strange and sheltered life then. you are like an NPC, for some reason when some "societal truths" get challenged, you shut down and cannot even engage in discussion No. I'm not an NPC - this is real life and not a computer game. Essentially, you're an edgy edgelord who is desperately unhappy and you don't want to admit to yourself that the rest of us aren't the same. There is no point in having a discus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 02:39 PM |
| 7 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.Women literally wear the exact same type of clothing and its seen as super sexy No they don't. Why? Because the female body is sexy while the male one is not No It's not ridiculous, what's ridiculous is the idea that a man could dress in a sexy way and be desirable Only women can do that Untrue If those bodies aren't attractive then no male bodies are lol Look at the cast of magic mike Men need to be super jacked and perfect just not to be disgusting, let alone "sexy" You're really reaching here… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 01:50 PM |
| 8 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.Perfect athletic bodies are generally out there for the male gaze. All these jacked up steroidy guys are in movies made for men. Men in movies aimed at women generally tend to have a different body type. Borat is also aimed at men. And everyone looks ridiculous in a mankini - it is a garment designed to incite ridicule no matter your body. It is literally never sexy. Edit to add - I just googled it (never seen Borat but I am familiar with the mankini) while the garment is ridiculous, Sacha Baron… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 01:24 PM |
| 6 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.Well being that I'm of legal age to have sex and I'm not anorexic then yes, by the standards of this sub and anyone who unironically uses the term "post wall" I am. But when I was 16 and weighed under 100lbs I still felt the same :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 11:51 AM |
| 3 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.Which male body types are utterly desexualised? In what manner are they desexualised? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 11:41 AM |
| 7 | Q for women: would you date an attractive high functioning autistic guy with a high paying occupation or an unattractive/average looking man who was in an average occupation.None of the things you've mentioned are specific to autism though. I actually don't think I've ever met a man who hasn't randomly info dumped on a topic at one point or another, most people are accidentally inappropriate periodically during their life, same to shyness/social awkwardness. Lots of neurodivergent people aren't diagnosed until later in life, or at all. Since their medical professionals or their family they've grown up with don't even notice, how would a random dating prospect? Autis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 11:37 AM |
| 6 | Q for women: would you date an attractive high functioning autistic guy with a high paying occupation or an unattractive/average looking man who was in an average occupation.Yeah everyone's a bit weird at least 5% of the time, at that rate you're not even going to know they're neurodivergent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 10:59 AM |
| 6 | Q for women: would you date an attractive high functioning autistic guy with a high paying occupation or an unattractive/average looking man who was in an average occupation.But your scenario doesn't work then because you've stated that your neurodivergent guy is socially competent. So really this is a nonsense question which actually is comparing looks and occupation and not social competence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 10:47 AM |
| 8 | Q for women: would you date an attractive high functioning autistic guy with a high paying occupation or an unattractive/average looking man who was in an average occupation.Why do the occupations or looks matter in this scenario if you're trying to compare personality/neurodiversity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 10:25 AM |
| 11 | There is a huge disparity between what young&attractive girls want and what PPD girls want and that's one reason for misunderstanding.Back in the day when I was young and attractive I still wouldn't have dated that clown. I've never in my life found overly muscly men attractive - his chest is actually disgusting to me, it looks really wrong and not how a human body should look. While that guy can get "young and attractive" girls, it's the ones who are into that look. There are many thousands of others who aren't. Beauty is subjective - while I find his body disgusting to look at, clearly others will admire it and find it nice.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 10:23 AM |
| 0 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsAnd wouldn't a promiscuous person be more compatible with another promiscuous person? Yes. That's literally what I just said. There are guys on here who want to shag around and be promiscuous, but absolutely refuse to accept that a promiscuous woman would be an acceptable partner, when actually that's the only person they're really going to be compatible with. They're not going to be compatible with someone chaste when they aren't themselves. Even if they aren't successful in being promiscuous t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 09:14 AM |
| 5 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsDoesn't this directly conflict with what so many women on PPD like to say about how body count doesn't matter, that the past doesn't matter, or that only marrying virgins leads to dead bedrooms etc? So, which is it? Does the past matter or doesn't it? Like literally everything that is ever brought up on this fucking sub, it varies by person. This is a very tiny sample of people talking about their shared experience. If there was a video from a formerly promiscuous woman talking about how much sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4Everyone - Facial HairI used to not be a fan of facial hair but as I've gotten older I've really come to appreciate a good beard. My husband has a beard and gets extra points due to it being ginger. He did recently grow it out really long - while I didn't find it quite as aesthetically pleasing, it was quite nice to stroke 😅 but he's back to his normal length now, which is fairly short and neat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 12:33 AM |
| 3 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?I don't equal "a dick" with not being a doormat. I equal "a dick" with "someone who is a dick". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 02:48 PM |
| 3 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?Not that strange, quite a lot of people are judgemental about fat people. That doesn't change the fact that there are people who either actively find it attractive or just simply don't really care about weight/body type. Also, you need to factor in personality. You might just be a bit of a dick, and therefore won't attract people who are willing to get to know you and develop attraction over time. Therefore you're more likely to attract shallow people when you're "conventionally" attractive, suc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 12:03 PM |
| 6 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?I found them attractive, and what's more I found them to be better than this man that you've posted. Someone's follower count, or their abs, don't mean shit about how good, or interesting, or sexy, or attractive they are. This man you've posted is a nothing. He's a shell, that we know nothing about, aside from being able to determine that he cares inordinately about his looks and not in a good way, and he's apparently red pilled which suggests he's probably a bit of a shitty person. I would imag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:57 AM |
| 7 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they're ugly - maybe to you. But I've known, dated, fucked fat men who I've found far more attractive than the one posted. You find the guy attractive, and think others are less so - just because someone else views him as ugly doesn't mean their bar is higher and they view everyone else as ugly too, it just means their bar is set at a different place and the people they find attractive look different to this guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:27 AM |
| 21 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?There's a difference between taking a couple of photos to find the best shot (such as what many people would do with any kind of photo - whether it be scenery, food, your pets etc) and carefully curating a perfectly manicured version of yourself. I actually don't know a single woman (even those older) who takes one selfie and posts it immediately, they all basically shoot 10 photos and then choose the best one among them etc. Yes, you probably do. You actually probably know women who don't take … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:23 AM |
| 68 | How many of you would reject this guy because he is redpilled?Yep, even if he wasn't red pilled he looks like the kind of person who goes on love island. I really dislike how he looks and I doubt we'd have anything at all in common. I'm sure I wouldn't need to reject him though, we are likely to be in very different social circles/have different approaches to life, and the lack of attraction/interest would most likely be entirely mutual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Went full-on pick-me as an experiment and got a boyfriend within a month.If you feel it's "not you" it might be difficult to maintain, however most of these just seem like normal decent behaviour (and not "pick me" as such), so it might be worth thinking more about it to see what is worth it to continue for you. The sex/BJs thing is obviously personal and will vary from person to person. However, taking a hand in planning dates, splitting the cost of dates, engaging in conversation and using compliments all should be normal parts of dating/interacting with humans (al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/23 10:31 AM |
| – | CMV: Women are incredibly entitled and take male providers for grantedIf you expect men to do roughly half of the housework/childcare, would you accept splitting finances roughly 50/50 as well? I would bet money that for most women the answer would be "no". Division of chores should be based on available time. Division of finances should be based on income. If you both work full time then you need to split the chores equally, regardless of the income split. If you earn roughly equally then you should split the finances 50/50. If one person works 16 hours per week … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/23 10:13 AM |
| 0 | Most discussions of overweight women are disingenuous because they reference women with desirable pear shaped bodies, but the vast majority of overweight women do not look like that.Nah it's not a small niche, and they don't need to be tall. The majority of guys I know have physiques like this, and they're mostly in a relationship/married and haven't had any trouble doing so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/23 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Most discussions of overweight women are disingenuous because they reference women with desirable pear shaped bodies, but the vast majority of overweight women do not look like that.There kinda is though. I'd argue that big beefy bear type men are found attractive by a lot of women. Like this kind of physique, where they might not do much or any exercise and they eat their share of junk, they're kinda rounded and cuddly with a big presence https://images.app.goo.gl/HkuLt1TWiBopvsjK6 I also think this is what quite a lot of women mean by dad bod. It isn't a beer belly but it's not fit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/23 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever been aroused by a man's personality who otherwise had no remarkable physical qualities? If so, what drew you in to him ?Examples include being 6'2" or taller, having a huge penis, model level jaw line / looks, or was a body builder or considerably jacked (meaning one of the bigger guys in a 24h fitness. Hah. From your examples, pretty much every guy I've ever been attracted to/aroused by falls into this category. In general, personality wise - probably the main theme is when we have things in common and they're chatty enough and keen enough to share that we can get into really good conversations about it. I've me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/23 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Are woman generally more needy than men?How come woman ask questions such as do you love me or would you love me if I was a worm. My husband asks me questions like that too. They're both just silly things you do in a secure relationship. "Do you love me" might lead to "how much do you love me? Is it enough to get me a biscuit from the kitchen?" Or whatever. The second is just silly fun. Questions my husband and I have asked include but are not limited to "would you love me if I was a potato?", "Would you love me if I could fit in your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 09:11 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women must feel like they are going crazy when most men are willing to sleep with them, but only a handful would be interested in a committed relationshipDoes this seem accurate to you, or am I off base? Completely off base. Like, surely most people of any gender have more people they're willing to sleep with than get into a relationship with? A relationship requires huge amounts of compatibility and basically not annoying the fuck out of eachother. Having sex only requires that you can put up with someone long enough to fuck and then skedaddle. Obviously some people require a bit more of a baseline attraction and some people need more of a conne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Is there certain milestones you would expect men to meet at certain points of their lives?Depends on circumstances etc. For example, by 18 should he have his own place? I moved out at 18 but I went to uni and had flatmates for a couple of years. I wouldn't necessarily expect someone who didn't go to uni to move out at 18, and realistically while it's good for the uni experience to move out it isn't particularly good for finances. I think rather than whether someone has their own place, their home dynamic is a more important indicator (do their parents treat them like an adult, do the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 12:51 PM |
| 8 | How would you feel if a man you met online turned out to be much worse looking in person?I don't think I've ever met anyone who looks the same in photos as they do in real life. Some look better, some look worse. Filters and shit are really obvious so I'd need to be a total idiot to think that's what someone really looked like anyway. The first meeting from online dating is really half to see if you like how they look irl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 05:46 PM |
| 5 | About what percentage of women do you think completely do not care about height?I can count on one hand the amount of women taller than me that I’ve ever hooked up with or who have shown interest in me Yeah but how many women are taller than you? Statistically, unless you're an extreme outlier in height, the vast majority of women will be shorter than you and therefore the majority of the interest you encounter will be from women shorter than you. I could say I love guys shorter than me and want to only be with them, but since I've only ever met one guy shorter than me and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 01:35 PM |
| 7 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?I would always split, I feel uncomfortable knowing I "owe" money to someone I don't know well. Like, in an established relationship we'll treat each other to dinner, it doesn't need to be split. And when I go out with my friends often we'll take turns paying for the other, because it's established practise. But with someone I don't know well it needs to be reciprocal at that time so there's no imbalance. Once I met someone at a work conference and our flights home were at similar times, so we we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Q4A What partner would you prefer to marryB. I've fancied the arse off plenty people I would consider plain to downright ugly, and had excellent sex with some of them. Being slightly below average in terms of looks isn't a barrier to overall attraction and love of a person, but shit or mediocre sex is a huge barrier to a happy life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 10:55 PM |
| 2 | doesn't the jonah hill situation and his delusional "expectations" give validity to the redpill argment to avoid promiscuous womenWhy is it necessarily a "different lifestyle"? I've slept with a lot of people, but promiscuity was in short bursts. In my 15 years of being sexually active, I've spent 14 of those years in long term relationships (3 in total). My husband's past is pretty much the same, with most of his sexually active years being taken up by 2 LTRs, with promiscuity in the middle. While I don't think someone who's never had sex/relationships should go for someone who's been promiscuous (because it's very likely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 11:42 AM |
| 5 | Are women who get in relationships with men who watch porn or occasionally like insta photos of hot women abusively controlling?You discover this early on into the relationship and for whatever reason, maybe he’s still charming warm and kind, makes you feel both validated and desirable so you end up in a relationship with him. I wouldn't do this as I just wouldn't stay in the relationship. It isn't controlling to not want your partner to do something, but it is really fucking stupid to expect them to change (and I say this for both men and women going into a relationship with a person they know they aren't fully happy wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 10:28 AM |
| 0 | Is gossiping more common amongst woman or men?It’s a woman’s MAIN hobby. They like to talk about everything. Oh well now I know you're just trying to troll. Do you really think men talk a ton personal stuff as much as woman? Gossiping isn't necessarily "talking about personal stuff" - it's just as often going to be "talking about other people's personal stuff". Although in terms of talking shit about their own relationship and talking about sex, and gossiping in general, yes I think men and women do it as often as each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 06:37 PM |
| 0 | Is gossiping more common amongst woman or men?Why do you think I'm making it up? I've heard them talk about it lots of times, generally in work but also when out socialising, in bars, at parties etc. And in your bit about not talking down about their gf/wife - I've literally never met a boomer man who hasn't bitched about his wife at least once. In fairness I've never met a boomer woman who hasn't bitched about her husband either, it is a very even spread across genders there. Look at the top 20 female podcasts. They are all about gossiping… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Is gossiping more common amongst woman or men?Never heard a man talk down on his girl or go deep into sex life. Really? I hear men bitch about their wives/GFs and/or talk in graphic detail about their sex lives often. Genuinely do think men and women gossip as much as each other but for some reason lots of men don't count it as gossip when it's them doing it 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: what is your favorite PIV sex position?I don't have an overall favourite, depends on how I'm feeling and time of the month (some positions are a no no as they're too deep sometimes but great at other times). A few notable mentions - me kneeling and facing the headboard of the bed, my husband kneeling behind me. I get good leverage to bounce back on him from holding on to the headboard, and he has access to touch every bit of me, it's pretty hot. The headboard is also useful for a modified girl on top missionary - if he sits up with h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 09:08 AM |
| 2 | Would you be okay marrying a stay at home husband ?I would (provided I earned enough to support it). The favourite time for my husband and I were the 2020/2021 lockdowns, where he didn't work for nearly a year. It was amazing. Unfortunately we couldn't afford to make it permanent, so my goal since then has been to earn enough that he can quit his job 😅 sadly the state of things with cost of living increases is making that a bit of a further away dream at the moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 08:52 AM |
| 2 | How hard or difficult is it for you to find a hot, handsome guy for some fun ?The man you've posted is really unattractive. Plus I've never known anyone in real life who looks like that, they just look photo-shopped really, which isn't what any sensible person wants in reality. Since I'm married it's extremely easy for me to find a hot handsome guy for some fun (my husband). When I was single it was also very easy, however what I mean by a hot guy is not what you mean by a hot guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 10:56 PM |
| 0 | Women who are in "alternative" scenes like punk rock/metal/raves etc, are more open to dating broke or short men but red pill men don't want those types.But the average woman in the UK is 164.4cm and the average height of a man in the UK is 177.8cm. Since the difference in average height is over 13cm, I'm not sure exactly what it proves that only 8% of relationships have a man less than 5cm taller. For the most part, a short man is still going to be more than 5cm taller than a short woman so it just makes sense that's how the numbers play out in relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/23 10:46 PM |
| 2 | Why do women settle for men who are not super rich?It's not settling. The most important factor in a relationship is personal connection and compatibility with each other, nothing to do with wealth. I've never met a rich person I would want to be in a relationship with, whereas I'll continue to be compatible with my husband regardless of how much it little money he has. Also, money can come with problems - my BIL earns a packet but needs to be out of the country for 50% of his working time for his job. I could never be in a relationship like tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 12:10 PM |
| 3 | The Red Pill exists because entire generations of men are lied to about what women find attractive in men, and dismissing it as some angry hate group is simply a way to sweep all of these lies under the rugI don't expect you to, because you're parroting the shit you are so are probably too far gone to think rationally. However hopefully it may help some who are on the fence to realise how batshit this RP stuff is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 10:38 PM |
| 6 | The Red Pill exists because entire generations of men are lied to about what women find attractive in men, and dismissing it as some angry hate group is simply a way to sweep all of these lies under the rugNo, it exists because of a bunch of stupid guys who are stupid and bitter and who have frankly batshit views about the world. I love nice people who treat me right. I'm married to a nice guy who treats me right, and I'm wildly attracted to him. I'm also a nice girl who treats him right, being one of the reasons he's attracted to me. This is the case for many couples. It's also not the case for lots of couples, for a variety of reasons. Some people don't really know what it is to be treated right… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Is it still offensive to ask a woman to disclose how she weighs?It's rude and pointless to ask both men and women how much they weigh. From a dating perspective, you'll be able to see by looking at them whether they're attractive to you or not - the actual number on the scale doesn't matter since that number can sit completely differently on people depending on their height, muscle mass, body shape etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/23 11:50 AM |
| 0 | CMV : Women underestimate the sheer effort and time towards looking like a big muscular gym bro, which is why they say they don’t like gym/muscular guysI don't like guys that spend 3-4 days a week in the gym "taking it seriously". It's boring, they're boring. Give me some flab any day of the week over a gym guy, no matter what they look like. I don't really care for any kind of muscly look and I am certainly not attracted to the kind of effort it takes to get there. It's not an underestimation of anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 03:05 PM |
| – | Do you find plus size women pretty/attractive?Same as thin women, some are attractive and some aren't. I'm bi and I've had sex with a couple of plus size women and greatly enjoyed all the extra boobage 🤷 I'd say it's mostly down to how people carry the weight, and when they're clothed how they style themselves. That goes for thin women too - I've seen plenty thin women whose bodies I personally didn't find attractive. Same goes for men, I've fancied and slept with a range of body types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/23 10:04 AM |
| 14 | Okay am I really high rn or do women do shit that would be really cringey if men did it?Ehh I've known loads of men who dress like goths and collect crystals - there are goth men too. I actually don't know any men or women who are really into horoscopes but if there are women who are I can guarantee there are men who are too. There's a whole fetish scene around men acting like babies. What exactly are childish crafts? Feel like this is a lot of things on this sub where if it's a specific craft a woman likes them it's childish but if a man likes it, it's art 🙄 Also know men who wear… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/23 09:16 AM |
| 2 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversIt's not likely to be really that good if they've only experienced it once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 11:28 AM |
| 3 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversOkay, but you're just a guy making shit up. I'm a woman who's had casual sex and sex in relationships, and it's the connection and the bonding that takes sex from good to amazing. First time sex with someone can be and often is good and fun and you can generally tell if there's potential there, but it will normally take a couple of goes and getting to know each other before it starts getting into amazing territory, and that is down to bond and communication, not general skills that someone has l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 11:27 AM |
| 25 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversNo, it's vastly more likely that they'll remember sex they had with the same person many many times over a long period of time (for instance, in a relationship) than some random they banged once or twice. Besides which, good sex isn't about how many people you've been with - it's about communication and chemistry. You'll be mediocre in bed if you just assume you're mediocre and never try. Amazing sex comes from both parties communicating with each other, listening and responding to what's going … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 11:15 PM |
| 7 | Marriage is not worth it for women who do not marry richThey might argue it, but if they suddenly don't think it's worth it because they aren't getting enough money out of it then I'd say love has nothing to do with that situation. do you think it is a good thing that the government intervenes in marriage and upbringing of children? Do they? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 10:49 AM |
| 27 | Marriage is not worth it for women who do not marry richI disagree. Too many people (men and women) settle and marry people they aren't particularly compatible with - marriage absolutely isn't worth it in that case, but I guess some people might be able to live with that if they're essentially getting financially compensated for it, as horrible a thought as that is. If you marry for love and compatibility and how well you work together then it's 100% worth it. My husband and I are not rich, but I wouldn't trade all the money in the world for the love… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.Except the socially excluded men on here all seem to be really picky with looks - many have stated that they only get undesirable women matching them on tinder. Maybe these undesirable women are in fact the socially awkward ones all too ready to give these guys a chance 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 11:59 AM |
| 3 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.Lol as usual, all women's problems are their fault but men are just helpless victims of society who can do no wrong. Have you ever considered that maybe these awkward men and women are just as much victims of society as each other? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.You're wrong, just fyi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 11:32 AM |
| 4 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.In every single reddit thread on "what will women never understand about men" men continually insist that being "dunked on" is how men express love and camaraderie for each other. I only knew a couple of guys tormented to the extent I've outlined above, both gay guys who were bullied because of that. Quiet, shy, awkward guys got the odd ribbing but nothing more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.People keeping themselves to themselves is like a red flag to a bull for bullies. They want to draw them out and make an example of them. Quiet people get insanely bullied at school. Not to say that all socially awkward people are quiet - depending on your particular brand of social awkwardness, people don't always get the social cues, they can be accidentally annoying or weird or whatever and lack whatever instinct would tell them to keep quiet (or maybe some figure since they get bullied when … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 11:21 AM |
| – | Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around.You've obviously never met a truly socially/mentally awkward woman. I've known plenty and very few of them are in relationships or looked at twice by guys, apart from in school to be tormented - including one girl I knew where a guy pretended to be interested in her and arranged a meet up one lunch time, where instead of him turning up to meet her he spread it about and 30-40 kids went down to mock and laugh at her. Some girls were physically attacked, spat on, had glue chucked on their clothes,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 09:59 PM |
| 1 | If a guy owns a home, do you think it's acceptable for him to charge his girlfriend rent (or require some other kind of financial contribution) to live with him?? Yes and I disagree with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 05:24 PM |
| – | What would happen if (X) gender disappeared?28% of farm workers would still be alive though, which would be sufficient to keep things going while more people moved into those roles (remember 50% of the population would die and women require 80% of the calories of men, so our food production requirements would be less than half of what they are now). Plus the majority of forestry/fishing/agriculture employees would be alive. We'd be fine for food. While training truck drivers food can be transported on smaller vehicles etc, or there'd just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:19 PM |
| 1 | If a guy owns a home, do you think it's acceptable for him to charge his girlfriend rent (or require some other kind of financial contribution) to live with him?I think it's fair to split the mortgage payment and split bills 50/50. Rental prices are significantly higher than mortgage payments so I don't think it's acceptable to base it on market rent; it should instead be half of what you actually currently pay for the place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:09 PM |
| 5 | What would happen if (X) gender disappeared?This doesn't cover all things and really, I think both men and women have a valuable part to play in society today and there's a lot we can achieve together and support one another with. However my thoughts on this as a pure hypothetical below. This is also funny because I just finished reading JD Beresford's "a world of women" yesterday so I've been pondering this same question 😅 If women all died, society would collapse. The population would drop drastically as men fought it out between them f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 11:25 PM |
| 10 | Ladies what is your opinion of husbands, boyfriends, brothers, dads, friends or any of the guys in your life worried about you visiting a male gynecologist?I would think they should get over it tbh. The important thing is quality of care so I'll see who I need to for that, male or female. For pap smears we just see the nurse at the GP here, who are overwhelmingly women so it's always a woman who does my smear. However, I got a referral to investigate possible endometriosis last year and I went private, and the only private consultants locally were men. It was either potentially wait months or years for a woman on the NHS or go to a man. And he was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 09:20 AM |
| – | Does the man provide and the woman returns the favor with sex? Is that how it works or not?Since people and relationships come in varied forms, I expect that some relationships do work like this. It's not the case for me - I don't think it's a healthy dynamic. Besides which I love sex, I don't ever feel "obliged" to have sex, my husband and I have sex when we both want to do so. Also, my husband doesn't "provide". We earn about equal amounts, we take an equal share in paying bills and taking care of the house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 11:31 AM |
| 2 | If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship?It wouldn't get to the point of finding out about exes or even knowing he's perfect in all other respects. Sexual compatibility is really important to me so it wouldn't have got past the first couple of dates if I wasn't happy with the sex. If it was something minor that I was quite happy to live without, then his behaviour with previous exes would have no bearing on that whatsoever. Because that would be stupid. People change, preferences change. That's very much allowed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 01:15 PM |
| – | Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men?I think it's steered me in the right direction really. My dad's a flaky alcoholic who's terrible with money and has issues with basically having temper tantrums and holding grudges. I've always been attracted to the opposite of that. As such my husband is stable, drinks sensibly and handles his money well, and has a very calm temper and wonderful nature. Potentially also as a side effect of my dad being absent for much of my life and just dropping in on odd occasions as and when it suited him, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Women, how would you feel if a man expected you to split rent?I don't know anyone who wouldn't just be expecting to split rent if they moved in with their partner. Only exception being if they're not working (and aren't independently wealthy I guess!). It's just the done thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 07:03 PM |
| 5 | Why are so many child free women not pet free? It doesn’t make sense to not want kids but want pets instead.The reason why people don’t want kids is they are expensive and time consuming This isn't the only reason people don't want kids. You don't need to birth your pet yourself, so it comes with no risks to your health or body You don't have to quit your job, take a massive leave of absence from your career, or alternatively pay thousands in childcare each year for a pet. If you start with a baby pet (puppy/kitten etc) you have a few years of additional commitment in training them but once that's don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Ladies - What percentage of the bills would you expect your man to pay if you lived together?We split our bills 50/50 because we earn roughly the same. If we had a very big disparity in income then I think we'd split proportionally according to income, but it depends - if we were on a combined income of 160k we'd be rolling in it so don't need to budget as such. And we could probably do something like have all the bills/mortgage come out of one person's salary and then combine everything left over and split it up into things like home improvements, holidays, personal spending. I don't t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 10:33 AM |
| 1 | What do you think is more important in relationships: Similarity or polarity?I think it definitely varies, and is probably best as a mix. Like, you should probably have similarity in terms of values, and personally I like that me and my husband have similarity in terms of interests (not everything but we have a good overlap of shared interests which I think helped build our initial connection). Probably good to have some polarity in terms of character/behaviours though - having two high strung people can just lead to a lot of drama and arguments, whereas with one high st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you even want to be portrayed in spaces that facilitate violence and is determined by physical capabilities?Well done for ignoring the entire point :) go back and read the original post, then my response, and it should all make a bit more sense to you. Good luck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 11:16 AM |
| 6 | Do you even want to be portrayed in spaces that facilitate violence and is determined by physical capabilities?But my problem with that is, they have the entire plate of social and less physically demanding workforce on their side. I find it hard to believe women want to leave that, relatively easier, mostly office, air conditioned, 'cushy' workspace or even social media, tik tok e.t.c to go hang out with men in the muds, via construction, MMA or the army. The majority of nurses, carers, cleaners and vets are women - all can be very physically demanding roles, involving blood, shit and other bodily excre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 07:28 AM |
| 0 | Why are attractive girls very similar in their personality and interests?Do you not think this is just because you only notice a certain type of woman/finding a certain type of woman attractive? I've known lots of beautiful women who don't fit that stereotype, but since they don't post themselves on Instagram and aren't out partying all the time then they're less likely to be noticed. Also, if you're constantly posting pics of yourself on social media and going out on nights out you're more likely to be getting your hair and nails done regularly, keeping up with the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?If I wasn't happy with the sex in the initial dating stages I wouldn't progress the relationship. I wouldn't just put up with something I'm not that happy with - sex is a huge part of compatibility. If you're settling for someone you aren't sexually compatible with then that's your problem. I wouldn't be "willing to look past" something that I wanted in the relationship because that's how you end up discontented and resentful. People's preferences and boundaries can and do change over time - it'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?No, because it completely ignores the fact that people change over time. How pissed off, how angry, how raging would you be if you were dumped by a woman not because you don't have sex enough, but because you can't have sex as often as you did when you were 17? You'd think she was a total bitch, a harridan, a harpy. I know because I see men complain on Reddit all the time that women don't appreciate that men can't have as much sex, can't get as hard on demand, can't go at it again as quickly as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 10:56 AM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?No that's entirely on you for being childish though. Firstly it's a stupid scenario because when does this happen? I'm not going to sit down with someone and give them a blow by blow account of all my previous relationships and they aren't going to do the same either. That isn't how adult relationships work. We know the big milestone stuff but we're not sitting discussing the nitty gritty. It's on you to decide whether you're happy in that relationship. If you are then their past relationships s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?This is so stupid though, like mind bogglingly and bafflingly stupid. For instance with sex, there are hundreds of factors which can affect libido and make it drop as you get older - this happens to men too! If a man when he was 17 could have sex 5 times a day and had a refractory period of 30 mins, I'm not going to think he loves me less if he's 35 and doesn't want to or simply can't do the same. If I'm not happy with our sex life then that's taken on its own merit and not based on how things u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 08:56 AM |
| 11 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?I love my husband and I'm happy with how he treats me; there is nothing lacking in my relationship. I'm sure there will be stuff he did with his ex and not me, because people are all different and like different things - however nothing in his past relationships are relevant to how I feel about our relationship. I judge it purely based on whether we make each other happy. Like, if it made him angry for me to spend time with friends then that's problematic behaviour regardless of whether he was d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 11:16 PM |
| 8 | Why body count is different for men and womenNo, it’s not because we’re insecure about our dick size & looks and scared of being compared with previous partners. Except I've seen plenty guys on this sub say that it is exactly about this. They think women who have had sex before have too many other options and won't be satisfied by them - will never be content with their average to small penis because of the giant porn cocks she'll have apparently encountered. Will feel scorn for his normal body shape because of the big buff he-man types sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 09:02 AM |
| 5 | The Definition of a High Value Manability to fuck for 45 minutes without cumming and ability to perform again 15 minutes later. Good lord, the chafing. No one wants that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Can you list and describe all your “types”?My "type" (for men) is short, with at least a strong suggestion of gingerness if not full ginger. Slim to chubby, wiry muscle okay but not ripped. That's probably my main physical type in that I've been strongly attracted to a lot of guys of that type, including my husband. However I have been attracted to a wide range of physical types so it's not set in stone, but it does tend to be what I gravitate to in men. I like tattoos and piercings but they're not a must. I prefer shortish (but not shav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 11:03 PM |
| – | If it wasn't for sex, most men would not bother with women.Circular saws, Kevlar, life rafts, dishwashers, the first computer algorithm, word processors, windshield wipers, medical syringes, fire escapes, glass aquariums, I've cream makers, car heaters, globes, coffee filters... The list goes on. Just because you'd like to believe women don't create or invent anything, doesn't mean it's true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you date a man who owns fleshlights and sex dolls?My husband had toys when we met - fleshlight and a variety of buttplugs. It's one of the many things I loved about him right off the bat - my previous two relationships were with people a lot more sexually conservative who were not willing to try new things and didn't like toys. I love that my husband is sexually adventurous and open about what he enjoys. Sex dolls are a different matter though, as it's like a whole fake person and raises questions around whether he's emotionally attached to it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 08:42 AM |
| 3 | What are women even expected to do during the courting phase?Men need to initiate, whether this be the first message on a dating app or asking a girl out on a date No they don't Men need to further the conversation, aka dance like a monkey and make the girl laugh No they don't Men need to plan the date, have something in mind fun to do No they don't Men need to then pay for that date No they don't Men need to initiate the 1st kiss, and then initiate sex (aka moving the relationship forward) No they don't See in normal interactions with normal people, it's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 10:05 PM |
| 11 | For men dating is basically a series of job interviews.Yes! Almost everyone I meet (that I don't meet through work) asks me what I do for a living, and I'm a woman. It's just normal small talk and a good way to start some conversation flowing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women, can you meet your own standards?Yes... I don't have a wealth, height, facial structure standard anyway. For personal grooming I expect my partner to take care of their teeth and remain reasonably clean (reasonable depending on situation - if it's someone's wedding a higher standard of cleanliness than say, a few days in the woods) which is a standard I meet myself. Otherwise my standards for a partner are things like - able to do chores without needing to be told, able to cook to a reasonable standard, can manage their own mon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:35 AM |
| – | Rate/rank. Short reasoning. Would you swipeWhen I was on tinder I was using it to hook up and not to date, so with that assumption in mind I'd probs swipe all but number 2 - he's reasonably attractive but I hate his chin beard so much it ruins him entirely. Also his bio makes it sound like he's looking to have kids and is generally a little weird. Number 3 is the most attractive, and his bio is normal. Number 1 is decent looking and seems like a nice chap - I feel like we'd have more in common than number 3 but for hook ups I'd swipe bot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Q4 High N Women - What is your lifestyle like?What is your age? 32 What is/was your lifestyle? (job, career, favourite social hobbies etc) I work for a bank, I've worked my way to a reasonable level and have an above-average income. In terms of social hobbies I like having dinner parties, going on walks/hikes in nature with friends, going out for dinner, occasionally pub quizzes and clubs. I'm also married and have been with my husband for nearly 7 years. What lead to your high n? (typical situations etc) When I was about 20 I worked in a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 09:20 PM |
| 0 | Men and women cannot be friends because the woman would still expect the man to do all the same stuff that a boyfriend or husband would do.Kill spiders. Unless they live with you, how are they going to kill or relocate spiders for you? And if you're in the same location as each other and a spider appears, whoever is least scared of them deals with them regardless of gender. If I'm with my sister, I'd deal with a spider because she's terrified of them. I've also got a male friend I'd deal with spiders for. However my husband loves spiders, so if he's about then he'll deal with them, because he likes to let them crawl on his hand and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/22 11:37 AM |
| 5 | Are there some men you will have sex with but not have a relationship with them?Most men I've had sex with I probably wouldn't have had a relationship with. For me, I need to want to have sex with someone in order to want a relationship, but I don't necessarily need to want a relationship in order to want to have sex. It's not anything about a cheating vibe. You just really need to have a very specific connection with someone for a relationship. With my husband we started out having casual sex but we just got on so well, we had so much in common, I loved being around him an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/22 11:22 AM |
| 4 | Men in loving ltr or men that want to be in ltr, would you ever leave your partner if they got ill or were in an accident that changed them physically but still didn’t change their personalities?Ok, so what is wrong with them talking about it, and putting it in writing? And I would assume when most people talk about how they are going to raise their kids, they do so in the context of a relationship. If the relationship ends, that is a whole different context, which requires a different conversation IMO. Sure they can put something in writing, never said there was anything wrong with that? However you have a commitment to your child regardless of how your relationship pans out, and that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 11:37 PM |
| 6 | Men in loving ltr or men that want to be in ltr, would you ever leave your partner if they got ill or were in an accident that changed them physically but still didn’t change their personalities?is most people assume that one parent forces the other parent to stay home, when I think it is more likely that the opposite is true Actually what most people do is sit down and discuss an outcome that makes the most sense for them, their life and their financial situation. You know, like a couple. For many, many people the cost of childcare is more than a full time wage. In this case it makes the most financial sense for one parent to stop working, generally whoever is already the lower earner.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 09:24 PM |
| 8 | Men in loving ltr or men that want to be in ltr, would you ever leave your partner if they got ill or were in an accident that changed them physically but still didn’t change their personalities?Sure, if you earn roughly equally and you split custody 50/50 then you wouldn't have child support. But if you've had a marriage where one partner earns substantially more than the other then it's only fair for the higher earner to continue to contribute to ensure their child doesn't have a negative impact to their life because of the split. If one person has been out of work due to being a stay at home parent, even jumping back into work their earning potential can be vastly reduced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 06:03 PM |
| 11 | Men in loving ltr or men that want to be in ltr, would you ever leave your partner if they got ill or were in an accident that changed them physically but still didn’t change their personalities?I get not paying alimony if they cheated. But child support is for your child. Why punish your child for the actions of your ex? Seems pretty shitty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Fiction written by women for women proves The Red PillI disagree with your premise that the men are superior - that's entirely down to your own view of what you think is superior. Having money doesn't make you better than someone else. Pride and prejudice - Elizabeth is written as intelligent, witty, and fairly kind. Darcy is an arrogant man who has closed himself off and is determined to see the worst in people. Elizabeth makes him want to be better and she falls in love with him only after he starts to show kindness and civility and lose the arro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/22 11:19 AM |
| 2 | If you expect men to handle roughly half the housework and childcare, would you also be willing to split expenses halfway?Why would salary have absolutely anything whatsoever to do with your chore split? If my partner worked twice as many hours as me then sure I'd do more housework, but since we work very similar hours we do very similar levels of housework. For salary - when I was earning more than my husband, I contributed more money towards the relationship because I wanted to. I can't imagine why you wouldn't want to? If I wanted to go on holiday but he couldn't afford it, I carried the cost, because I wanted u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 08:43 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, how would you feel if a guy you were dating ended up giving you his grandmother's engagement/wedding band as a purposal?Also how exactly would a guy ask her if she wants it if he wanted it to be a surprise proposal or does he just do it and hope? It should never be that much of a surprise, since you should have both talked about it beforehand and have an agreement on what you want (do you both want to get married, is a proposal even needed, is a ring wanted etc). Anyway as to the actual question - I would find it a bit odd tbh. My gran on my dad's side had her jewellery divvied up amongst the women in the family,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 08:40 AM |
| 3 | Do you think there’s a difference in the amount of interest on technical or global interests between men and women?Not really. You're not always going to meet people with the same interests as you (and plenty people both men and women have limited interests and knowledge). I also wouldn't say it's necessarily something I'd go into on the first couple of dates with someone or when I'm just getting to know them. Sure me and my husband talk about everything from investing to history, but on our first few dates it was more just general chit chat and getting to know each other, rather than getting into an in-dept… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 07:33 PM |
| 5 | Are attractive women truly single?How many men are having casual sex vs women? I know moderately attractive men who go months or years without getting lucky, and I know moderately attractive women who can have sex on a whim And I know some really ugly men who still get laid regularly, and attractive women who struggle 🤷 but it doesn't actually matter - the point is he made a stupid and untrue tendered distinction, this isn't a thing that's different for men and women. If you're single, you're single. And by not “truly” being sin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 02:31 PM |
| 13 | Are attractive women truly single?Having casual sex doesn't mean you aren't single. Plus you're making a weird distinction between women and men here. Do you think men who are having casual sex aren't single? Most of the single guys I know have casual sex and casual uncommitted dates, but they would still call themselves single and they would be correct. Don't see why that would be different for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 11:47 AM |
| 1 | How many women would date a bisexual men if he himself never had sexual experiemces with men and dont want to?I don't think it's a good sign if someone is bisexual but so self-hating they think their attraction to men makes them "unmasculine". I would far rather date a bi guy who was comfortable in his sexuality, whether he'd had sexual experiences with other guys or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Let's say due to a population crisis your government started issuing lump sum payments to women who had kids. How much would the payment have to be to move the needle for you?Not like they could all help it, really https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=KXrD8rTUHDkC&pg=PA3&source=gbs_toc_r&cad=3#v=onepage&q&f=false | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Do you have any lasting feelings for the guy you lost your virginity to?Do you have any lasting feelings for the guy you lost it to? No, it was about 15 years ago. Would you get back with him? No. We broke up for good reasons and we weren't compatible partners. Was the break up harder because he was your first? No, it was the easiest break up I've had. We got together at 17 and broke up about 20. We didn't live together or have any commitments together that would make a break up difficult, and we were so clearly incompatible that it wasn't really emotionally difficu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 07:56 AM |
| 2 | How much do you think your relationship with your father has affected your dating life?Well my dad's super flaky, ran off with another woman when me and my sister were small (literally ran off, went missing and it turned out he'd skipped off to another country with his friend's wife). When we were kids he'd promise to visit and then just not turn up. He's an alcoholic, is unreliable, has a terrible relationship with his parents and is god awful with money. I have never ever been into the bad boy thing. Always have been attracted to nice polite guys of the type you can introduce to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 11:25 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Would you be mad if a man you liked a lot made you wait for sex?I wouldn't have dated someone for 3 months without having sex. I don't care if they had sex before or not, but I wouldn't be compatible with anyone wanting to wait for marriage to have sex, because I think it's an insanely stupid idea to marry someone you've never fucked. I wouldn't be mad, we just would never have gotten past a second date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 08:45 AM |
| 1 | people who have high n-count, do you find it difficult to maintain ltr relationships?No. I've had 3 LTRs. One was the first person I slept with, which lasted around 3 years. With the 2nd I was below the "high" threshold above, and that lasted 5 years. With my current relationship, I was well into the "high" threshold when we met. We're happily married, been together nearly 7 years. I've never once got bored or felt the desire to cheat. We've also got the best sex life/sexual compatibility by a huge margin out of any of my previous relationships or people I've had sex with. So re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 04:58 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: How often do you make very attractive men wait for sex to vet him?I've never had anyone wait for sex in order to vet them. Sex is pretty much how I vetted them - although if I met someone and didn't want to have sex with them at that point then I wouldn't, but I also just wouldn't see them again. The only exception to that was my first relationship, but it wasn't anything to do with vetting - we were teenagers and both still lived at home, so we didn't have an immediate opportunity. However, I've never gone out with the intention of getting a relationship, so … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 06:55 PM |
| 6 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?Still not a bait and switch, and still an issue on both sides of a relationship and not just something women do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 07:36 PM |
| 14 | Do BJs and the frequency of sex decline after marriage?Jesus Christ Ladies: Is this a bait and switch on your part? Are you aware that you're completely misrepresenting who you are? Are you aware that as people get older, their sex drive drops? Hormone levels change, other commitments change which give less time. Things like work stress, having kids, illness etc will all take a toll. Also a lot of relationships and marriages don't work out - sex will also decline in unhappy relationships. This isn't a bait and switch, it's just life. This also happe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | A man's high body count results in a better sexual experience for women, but a woman's high body count results in a worse sexual experience for men.A woman who is being taught about her own body and cums like crazy That's not how it works though. Most men know fuck all about women's bodies and are almost universally unable to teach them anything about it, no matter how much sex they've had previously. I remember sleeping with a guy once who'd had a fair number of partners. He insisted he knew the way to get any woman to a screaming orgasm. I told him quite firmly that his vigorous finger banging technique was absolutely not the way and was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 09:50 AM |
| 1 | How hard is it actually for you to reach orgasm?It's pretty easy, it can take me less than a minute using my own hands or a vibrator. Takes longer for someone else to do it which is understandable. My husband's great at it and can manage it in a few minutes with vibrator, bit longer with hands. Oral takes quite a bit longer (at least 15+ minutes) because the sensation is so different, but does give a really satisfying conclusion due to the build up. I've never orgasmed through PIV solely (although plenty times with hand/vibe work during PIV) … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 12:13 PM |
| 4 | Question for women: What is your opinion on circumcising boys? Consider when you have a son for example. Is this something you would want for him? Why or why not? Please discussBut they don't feel as well as any other man. Circumcision dulls sensation - some of them might not realize because it's what they're used to, but in general they will have less sexual pleasure than uncircumcised men. It isn't cleaner at all, if people wash. It doesn't look better. You can not criticize me all you like but it doesn't make you better than me. At the end of the day you're advocating for an unnecessary and damaging procedure, and it should not be viewed as just some choice that peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/22 08:02 AM |
| 6 | Question for women: What is your opinion on circumcising boys? Consider when you have a son for example. Is this something you would want for him? Why or why not? Please discussI really don't agree with it - however I'm not in the US and it's really not usual here which has probably helped to shape that opinion. Obviously for medical issues that's fine, but I wouldn't think that would normally present until much later on (I slept with a guy a few times who was circumcised due to phimosis and was telling me about it, but he hadn't known he had an issue until he was 12 or so, getting erections and realising they were really painful). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Question for women: What is your opinion on circumcising boys? Consider when you have a son for example. Is this something you would want for him? Why or why not? Please discussThe sexual dysfunction they'll experience won't be stress free. Circumcised men can suffer a loss of sensitivity from mild to severe and it will cause them problems for the rest of their life. Whereas if you bothered your arse to take 5 mins to teach your son how to wash his dick he wouldn't have any issues. But no, less stress to just cut it off 🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Do most promiscuous women know that men will sleep with anything or are they really that delusional?What do you actually think happens when people hook up on tinder? Do you think that some guy is wooing a girl, telling her she's beautiful and he thinks she's special and he's going to treat her so good and they're going to live happily ever after? Because that just isn't it 🤷 from my experience on tinder it was a brief introduction, then - what are you looking for? We'd both straight up say looking to hook up, we'd arrange to do so. There would be no expectation to see or speak to eachother aga… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Women who DON'T wait for sex with prospective partners, what's your motivation to go against the rule?Is that a rule? My aim was never to get into a relationship. When I was tindering etc my aim was to have sex, so that's what I did. It just so happened that led to me encountering someone I was really compatible with and one thing led to another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/21 03:53 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Sex is sex but Penetrating someone is not the same as being penetratedI peg and have PIV sex. They're not any different. It's all just sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/21 09:01 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W] Women have several options to appear more attrctive and arousing towards their spouses, what options do men have?Probably varies depending on the woman. Things that work particularly well for me with my husband: when he smells of woodsmoke. We have a chiminea in the garden and when he's been pottering about and burning stuff the smell on him drives me crazy dressing up - particularly in a kilt 🤤 and/or waistcoat, bow tie, rolled up shirtsleeves, any top that I can see his chest hair poking out the top. Or when he's undressed - when he's just wandering about in briefs or if he's stretched out naked on the b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/21 04:58 PM |
| – | Sexual Marketplace Value🙄 love how you're trolling everyone for not reading your edits when you apparently can't even read your own comments. Well done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 07:58 AM |
| – | Sexual Marketplace ValueYou've just directly contradicted your edits about SMV and RMV btw. If SMV is just physical attraction then it isn't the same as RMV and they are in fact separate things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/21 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathread🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat Megathread0.00 for both apparently, did I break it? 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 6 | Question for Women: What do you offer a man when you feel interested in him and desire that he invests himself into you?I don't think about what men want and try to mould myself to that. I just do what I want to do, be who I want to be. If someone doesn't like me, that's fine. I derive my sense of value from how happy I am, and how well I met my own standards for how I should live my life. I've never aimed for a relationship or thought about how I could be better for another person (although obviously while I'm in a relationship I do consider what I can do to ensure my partner is happy and fulfilled) My partner h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/21 09:57 AM |
| 5 | Women, what’s the difference between love bombing and desperation?I don't think there is a difference. I think if you're love bombing, you're most likely desperate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 11:39 AM |
| 4 | What do you think about women who pursue extreme sports and women pilots in general? Why is there no equal amount of men who participate in traditinally feminine activities?Society doesn't praise women for sky diving. It's just a thing that men and women both do. Breaking barriers is almost exclusively reserved for getting into male dominated careers. No one thinks you're breaking barriers for being a woman who plays computer games, for instance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 08:00 AM |
| 4 | What do you think about women who pursue extreme sports and women pilots in general? Why is there no equal amount of men who participate in traditinally feminine activities?There are many, many times more injuries caused by gymnastics than ballooning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 07:25 AM |
| 3 | What do you think about women who pursue extreme sports and women pilots in general? Why is there no equal amount of men who participate in traditinally feminine activities?Society doesn't pressure women into doing extreme sports, and it isn't cruel for women to do them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 07:19 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about women who pursue extreme sports and women pilots in general? Why is there no equal amount of men who participate in traditinally feminine activities?Yeah but the 5 were all in the balloon together. Balloon fatalities are really rare - on average just over one per year. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/21 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Would you date a HVM if the relationship was 100% transactional?How does "putting in the same amount of effort" equate to "doing literally fuck all in the relationship until the woman has already done it". That's her putting in more effort. "Putting in the same amount of effort" means taking each other on the date (so, splitting), each sharing each other's food at the same time, both giving each other gifts, only having sex when you both want to do so, and both being equally reciprocal in that. So which do you mean? Do you mean transactional, or do you mean … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you know that you’re gaslighting men when giving them dating advice?... yes, I was clearly referring to you then and anyone else who thinks the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 07:16 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you know that you’re gaslighting men when giving them dating advice?Being "nice" isn't the same thing as calling women "goddesses" - why the fuck would anyone think it was. If that's real advice someone gave you (as opposed to you just assuming that's what they meant) then honestly you're a bit dim to not realise you're being heavily trolled. When people say be nice, be yourself etc - they don't normally mean "be a simp". Be nice as in - don't neg, don't be an ass. Be yourself - don't bend over backwards being someone you're not and just mould yourself into some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/21 07:01 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOoh that sounds good! Might seem like a weird suggestion, but I generally use philly instead of cream in creamy recipes. It gives a much fuller and more interesting flavour (although I'd probs ditch the mozzarella if I was doing that. Top with parmesan and then maybe gremolata before serving). Definitely deglaze with wine as well, would go so well in that! I adore my cast iron skillet ♥️ makes such a difference with meat. I achieved the most perfect crispy skin on chicken thighs with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 2 | What has your experience been regarding women sabotaging other women's relationships?Only once and we were about 14 so not sure if it counts 😅 I think she was just a troubled person tbh - her dad murdered her mum and she had some fairly understandable issues stemming from that, and I think she wanted everyone else to be the same. At the time I remained friends but just tried to ignore what she was doing. As an adult I would distance myself from a person doing that, and I'd encourage anyone else to do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/21 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"🤣🤣 seriously? Good food doesn't need to take hours, who said it does? I think you're the one who needs help if you're getting so upset about this. You're projecting some sort of weird thing on to me - were you hurt by a chef as a child or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"👍 yep, funnily enough I really enjoy eating food that actually tastes nice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 09:01 AM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"Why do you have such an issue with this? Eating food that's out a packet is not the same as eating food that has been skilfully prepared. Take a steak for instance - you can chuck it in the microwave and you've technically "cooked" it - but that doesn't mean anyone is going to want to eat it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 08:38 AM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"...so? You can eat all the pre packaged food you want, I'm not stopping you. It doesn't mean you can cook though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/21 07:05 AM |
| – | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"It's cooking in the barest, most literal sense of the word. But knowing how to warm stuff up isn't the same as knowing how to cook. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 10:09 AM |
| – | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"No it's not cooking, it's heating something up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/21 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"Well, we do get force fed it on the 25th January every year from the time we're toddlers, and it's usually the starter at weddings, so I don't know many people who haven't tried it in fairness 🤣 True, I do think anyone can learn to cook if they put their mind to it. But if your family never did that and you've never grown up around it I can see why it might not become a priority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"Eh, it's kinda just like a big fat sausage really 🤣 using up the bits that go off first so as not to waste them, and using the stomach as a handy cooking bag instead of the intestines as per sausages. Hey, sheep fucking isn't exclusive to Scots! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"😭😭 okay but if you deep fry haggis it's actually pretty good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 01:21 PM |
| 4 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 11:18 AM |
| 10 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"Yeah I think it's a real shame because if people stop learning and using these skills they may well become lost, and in a few generations everyone will just be eating nutrition bricks or some shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 10:42 AM |
| 17 | Women are not wrong in their criticism of "men nowadays"I could say the same for guys though. My ex once made himself microwaved haggis on hard tacos for dinner, and filmed it like it was this amazing culinary conquest🤦 Most of the under-25 year olds I know can't/won't cook at all (men or women). They subsist on takeaways, instant noodles and whatever their mum has made them for dinner. Most people these days view "cooking" as throwing something ready prepared in the oven, or buying jars of ready made sauce etc. And I've seen guys on here complain th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/21 09:13 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadProbably because in general, overweight women look better than overweight men. Women are meant to be fatter than men anyway and just tend to have a more attractive fat distribution, whereas with men it can be a bit hit and miss. I find both fat women and fat men attractive but I'd say I definitely find a higher proportion of fat women attractive than men. Although tbh part of that might be to do with dressing - women will tend to stress to accentuate their waist and show a bit more of a curvy sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadMy (male) friend used to call me a chubby chaser for dating/fancying/sleeping with overweight/obese men. I was in a relationship for like 3 years with a fat guy and I loved the way he looked. I wouldn't necessarily say it's less shallow though, since I thought he was hot 🤷 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 10:36 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSame | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 09:55 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWould you be interested in getting into cooking if it wasn't for the money aspect? Because there are ways to build your skills without having lots of fancy equipment or ingredients! When I was a student I had only very basic kitchen equipment and my food budget was like £30 per week cos I was skint, but I could still be really creative. Batch/bulk cooking is a great way to try recipes while still being frugal, and there are ways around expensive equipment. I didn't have a food processor or morta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThere are no stats to prove your claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYep. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadExcept women sleep with men who are similar attractiveness or uglier all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThat doesn't make any sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhy for women but not for men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadExcept like 70% of people are overweight so there's no such thing as a non fat normal person. Many, many people on this sub have stated time and time again that by being a healthy weight you are automatically well above average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:23 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThe majority of men are overweight too, which means normal men and normal women are overweight. So in that case... There's actually no issue and you guys are all just upset about a boatload of nothing? Everyone can get sex within their "league" and all is well with the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:17 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadExcept normal average guys don't have sex apparently, only chads get sex. Ergo, the hot fit chadly guys must be having sex with fat women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:11 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadSince this sub is obsessed with the following: the majority of women are overweight the majority of women can get sex only chad men are having sex Stand to reason that fit guys must mostly be banging fat women 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/21 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Do overweight women with fit partners acknowledge the difference in appearance? Do they care or view the relationship as "equals"?Being fit doesn't make you better than someone who isn't, and it has nothing to do with how equal you are in the relationship. That said, unless they're blind then yes of course they know there's a difference in physical fitness. I have a friend who is overweight and was with a guy who was really into the gym. She often felt self conscious about it because she worried he didn't really find her attractive. Not everyone is self conscious about this though 🤷 If you aren't attracted to someone then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 06:02 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHave you ever been in a male environment? Cos by all accounts men and boys are horrible to each other. Boys schools are hives of bullying and awful behaviour, everyone knows what happens with priests. The UK army has a dedicated bullying helpline because the behaviour is so rife. Suicide is also rife in the army, and loads of vets end up traumatised, addicted and homeless because men are useless at supporting each other. mostly happens to weak, socially stunted dudes Way to victim blame. I'd sug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 10:36 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadHe didn't do anything, they just didn't like him. Even if he had done something there would be nothing bad enough to justify that treatment. Yes and he raised it to a superior. He was threatened by the guys and the superior basically wanted it brushed under the carpet because boys will be boys 🙄 he said the whole culture was like that - you're encouraged to stick together no matter what and not air the dirty laundry, not bring anyone into disrepute etc. He left shortly after due to a health issu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 09:51 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadEh. My partner's got army training and he said it was eye opening how shitty guys are. Guys ganging up on one dude and beating him to a pulp in the barracks and everyone's meant to just stay quiet about it for the "brotherhood" or some shite. Seems like an appallingly toxic environment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Women in favour of vasectomy. Are you willing to do tubal ligation? Why?I probably do want kids at some point but once I'm done having kids I still probably wouldn't consider tubal ligation. I don't even take the pill, I'm certainly not going to go for full on surgery. It could obviously be fine but every surgery has risks - besides which it's notoriously difficult to get a doctor to agree to it. I'd never make anyone have a vasectomy either; if they don't want to risk the surgery they shouldn't. I'm happy to just use condoms forever as I've never had an accidental … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 09:27 AM |
| 6 | Do your partner's sociopolitical beliefs matter to the relationship?I think my take on this is slightly different as I'm from Scotland and voting generally tends to tend a bit more to left anyway. I always say I wouldn't date a Tory, but in the last election only 10% of 16-34 year olds voted Tory, and that's my age group so it's never actually cropped up as an issue for me 😅 the voting share between men and women across all parties isn't particularly drastically different so in my experience and my social groups men are just as liberal as women. Prompt 2: Whatev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 02:13 AM |
| – | Why is it that you always hear about women being very vocal about not wishing to date men of their opposite political spectrum (the vast majority of the time it's liberal women vs conservative men) but you don't see men doing the same thing nearly as often (mostly conservative men vs liberal women)?There were a bunch of "standards" threads recently and the majority of guys on here said they wouldn't date a feminist. Aside from that though, men here are always banging on about how women are the choosers etc. So they can set whatever standards they want for themselves. Since men are apparently so much more desperate maybe they just feel they have to compromise on the fundamentals 🤷 While political leaning isn't likely to have a big impact on your casual sex life, if you're dating someone wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 01:50 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadNo just likes it as a hobby :) Yeah, the details with the resin are amazing but they are trickier to do - he's had a few prints that have just failed spectacularly. They can be quite sensitive to the external temp so you need a stable place to put it. And then you need to take the time to remove the supports and buff down any edges from them, but if all goes well they do look excellent in terms of fine detail. He's posted some on Reddit but I reckon it's not wise for me to link my partner's prof… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/21 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI personally find derpiness a major sexual turnoff. Also fair 🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/21 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah I didn't find him particularly attractive, but I didn't think he was unattractive either; fairly average and the girl he dated was decent looking but probs fairly average too. I just don't think he looks like a real person now 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/21 11:04 PM |
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