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If you're fine with either perpetually being broke or being the breadwinner forever, then keep the relationship. This would be a deal breaker for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 10:17 PM
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I see many say conservative, but my husband is more of an independent. I just wanted to put that here. The rest of the suggestions are good. Basically, meet people in real life and find some sort of community.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/26 05:23 AM
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Unfortunately, the problem is not you. I'd work on the unhealthy weight, regardless. But, do it for you and your future! This guy doesn't actually love you. My spouse because obese/overweight and it hasn't affected our marriage. I will always love and desire him! I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Yes, it's a constant battle and upkeep to maintain a healthy weight. If you believe you can do it and commit, it'll happen. You're going to have bad or cheat days, and that's okay. Don't use …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/25 02:48 AM
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"traditional" and "masculine" are relative terms. I'm afraid we will need more specifics. Were you nagging or demanding he be a certain way to meet your ideal and expectations? No one person is going to be the same. Beyond standards, I think you should be open-minded in your search for a spouse. Cooking is seen as feminine, but there ain't nothing wrong with a man cooking!
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/25 07:28 PM
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Sounds like therapy would be beneficial.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 06:09 PM
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When you marry, you also marry the responsibilities, like sick parents. It sounds like you need to talk to a family law lawyer. Unfortunately, with this being your second serious relationship in life, there are going to be complications. I don't understand the school issue. Maybe look into homeschooling? Can they take a bus? Go to a different type of school where maybe you drive 45 minutes 2x week? Fixing the relationship comes first. Yes, there will be sacrifices. If y'all can't get on the same…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 04:02 AM
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Oh, I was mistaken. I'm sorry. I thought you were 28. Yes....but things are different when you age. I had a baby at 27 and developed a chronic injury. This injury still bugs me some after 3 years and PT. The weight also gets stickier. I'm not keeping up with the current research, as I'm done having children, so I can't tell you exact numbers; but your chance of complications and multiples does increase with age. This doesn't even factor in fertility issues or miscarriages.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 05:52 AM
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I'm not sure I understand the reasons to wait for marriage. When you marry, your spouse is your family and you're supposed to "leave" your parents' household. You become your own, new household, which comes FIRST. Why not go through the family stuff together? You can still help family members in a marriage. Waiting for things to be perfect is unwise. The whole idea behind marriage is to go through life together; thick and thin. At 28, your youth is quickly fleeting. As women, we have a biologica…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 10:53 PM
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So, in my experience, trust your gut. This is one area to have strong boundaries, but I fear, it's wife-boundary territory. How long have you guys been together? No ring at 28? Why can't you go to the event? Honestly, what you're feeling is jealousy and insecurity. This you will want to get into therapy for. To be extra clear, I'm with you. It's weird. Don't tear him away from his other friends, though. You may just need to hang around a lot more when she's around.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 05:23 AM
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I think maturity and wisdom, discernment, if you will. Take some time off from dating to reflect on your past relationships, and even, dates. What went wrong? What can you improve on? Maybe it's as simple as how you find these prospects. Maybe you need higher standards. Maybe you need to work on yourself in some way. I never really had a dating phase. I knew my husband and we hit it off after I turned 18. The rest is history. I was mature and knew what I wanted, though. Dating around at a colleg…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 07:31 PM
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Hun, you don't sound ready to date. Can you meet people in real life?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 04:38 AM
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I know a person who found the job. Mine is very simple and does not require any "qualifications". I do, however, have an Associate's degree and a retail management certificate.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/24 02:35 AM
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This is a good point. 8 months ago, too? Honey, it's (past) time to stop only looking at sales jobs. Is he paying your bills now??? How much does he make? What's the COL in your area? I work, but they're feminine roles. Cleaning and a remote/flexible virtual assistant job. Maybe your boyfriend is secretly intermediated by you because you are the type to work sales? Maybe sales just isn't working out for you because you're not that type of young lady.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 06:28 AM
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Are we supposed to list ages when we post in this sub? I think it's great you're learning and self reflecting. Are you young, or are you having trouble getting a relationship to stick? I would recommend analyzing your use of the word "toxic". And take caution when consuming content that uses the word, because I've seen it used a lot in the Feminist community and other more left-wing circles. I think loosely throwing the word around is a bit of a flag. The word should be used when something is ac…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 04:21 PM
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It really is as simple as this. Part of me, as I'm aging and seeing more posts on this sub, does wonder if the criteria and factors change as you age into your late 20's and early 30's. From my experience and observations, many meet their partners young, or you're facing some relationship baggage. I know a couple who ended up getting married later in their lives, but the dude was hesitant and unsure about settling down, because he had really been hurt in a previous marriage. Something like that …
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 08:04 PM
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Honestly, would you want to date someone who was a player? I would not.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 02:15 AM
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It's very possible that they either have relationship baggage and got burned, or they do not wish to settle down. I'm not sure about the numbers, but there is a set of people who never want to get married or have children. It sounds like you may be looking in the wrong areas. All of my friends are married.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 02:13 AM
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I mean, I met my husband when I was 16 through an ex-boyfriend (it was a party).
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/24 02:09 AM
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I think there may be a disconnect going on here. You refer to how men accomplish what you want in life and also your mother's feminine role in life, but neither of those match your current situation. 1) You are not a man. You will never be a man. Life works differently for women, including relationally and in the workplace. I would encourage you to look at the core differences between men and women. How do women like to relate to people versus men? 2) You are working, not a SAHM. Even working pe…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 09:01 PM
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No, given that this has been a deal breaker for you in past relationships, I do not think it's just the hair thing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 01:08 AM
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I have to wonder if you have realistic expectations. I agree with what you're saying, but I also think we need more information on what specifically makes him feminine. What is a good work ethic in your eyes? Not everyone is going to want to bite at every promotional opportunity they get and not everyone is going to want to hop companies seeking to get the higher buck for their time and effort. Neither of those things mean they lack a work ethic or ambition.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 01:06 AM
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My answer isn't going to be as well thought out as the others. I couldn't imagine not being active in the bedroom with my spouse. We're going on 10 years married with 4 kids. Touch is high for both of us, so that could be a factor. It's how we show and receive love. For us, no two sessions feel the same and it's always an adventure. I just enjoy being close/intimate with him sometimes. All this you have to do xy and z first sounds funny to me. I think you naturally have good vibes and will enjoy…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 10:44 PM
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I'm afraid you didn't tell me how long you've been married, which leads me to think that I have more experience than you. Yes, 4. It was actually 6-8 weeks and it was fine. Is that what you're referring to? Many women have babies....
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 01:40 AM
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May I ask how long you've been married and if y'all have hit any rough patches in your marriage? Are you both, honestly, satisfied with your sex lives? Do you even talk about the topic?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 10:29 PM
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They both deserve fulfilling sex lives. Size and pain are major compatibility issues and goes beyond not liking a certain position. It's painful, it's not possible. if x,y and z are automatically off the table but also you don't like a,b and c that sounds pretty limiting. That's my two cents having been married for 9.5 years.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 01:41 AM
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This is not good long term relationship advice. As a couple progresses in a relationship, especially in marriage, you want to keep things interesting and spicy, so having physical limitations, which cannot be altered, from the beginning is not ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 07:33 PM
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I personally would move on to someone who is a better physical fit, especially if you're looking for long term and marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 07:31 PM
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I, personally, do not recommend postponing the honeymoon. Prioritize it and go after the wedding. Life will always happen and an excuse will always be there. He and you can start budgeting now. Learning good budgeting skills now will be very useful in the future. As far as the future financial situation goes, he can and most likely will make more money as time goes on. People move up and get raises, plus bonuses are a possibility. You are not stuck. Make a plan for buying a house and then execut…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 12:40 AM
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It's more than that, China, I believe, is one of those countries who favors birthing one gender over the other. It's ridiculously hard for certain countries to thrive when the man is expected to provide everything for a woman, before a woman will even consider them as a suitable partner. Maybe I'm getting confused with Japan. Life and people, suck in today's culture. Too many people want to have their cake and eat it too, without even batting an eye at self-sacrifice. I know in India they have a…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/09/23 07:48 PM
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Women need to have the right perspective when entering a relationship, especially marriage. Two things jumped out at me when reading your post. The first, is he is going to disappoint you someday. You're also likely to mess up and disappoint him. Forgiveness is very important. Yes, love is important, but so is having the right understanding and realistic thinking. I think your aunt went into the relationship thinking wrongly that she could change or fix her ex-husband. Change only truly happens …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 09:17 PM
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It's not worth it. Partners come first, not children.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 02:35 PM
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When my husband and I were dating it was straight up stated that sarcasm is hurtful. I didn't forget that and it's 9 years later. No one is going to be perfect all the time. This behavior would probably be a deal breaker from me. I can forgive it if it's said in an agitated, emotional state during a fight, but day-to-day? Forget it. That's a flag, man.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 02:57 AM
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Being on Reddit as a Redpill stinks. So many times someone wants to argue with me and I end up looking at their profile to see how not RP their life is. I think the last one was a blue haired overweight woman. We stand out, but so do the other side. The ones in the middle probably don't have the time or energy to care. Lol. I feel like love and respect are absolute foreign ideas to some folks. Like, move on. Get a hobby that isn't Reddit three hours a day.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 04:02 AM
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Being in love is not all it's cracked up to be in the movies. Marriage is a choice. It's work. It's deciding to unconditionally love that person for the rest of your life. It sounds like you are expecting a fairytale and should definitely not be committing yourself to marriage with your current state of mind. Ya gotta know you love him.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 05:19 AM
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I know women who have husbands with different religious views and they're constantly wishing differently for their spouses Spiritually. Take from that what you may. Core values and beliefs are going to be huge one day. Make or break, even. How does he feel about divorce and forgiveness and grudges and love? Is love conditional in his opinion? Y'all are going to screw up. Marriages are not something to go at light-heartedly and think you're always going to be in-love. There will be hard times.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 08:02 PM
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These comments are mixed. Marrying young is ideal, in my opinion. Yes, you're giving him wife privileges without a ring on it. I'd advise you to reevaluate this area. What if you get pregnant?????? Also, yes, chill. It's time to ask yourself some hard questions. Is this guy really what you're looking for? Readdress the timeline issue and express your concerns. When is he thinking of having children? "Eventually" is very dismissive, honestly. You may not need to know a specific time, but a timefr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 06:58 PM
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Hi! I just wrote a reply to another commenter on this comment thread. Please take a look.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 08:58 PM
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I agree. That is a valid point and concern. My personal experience is I began a relationship with my husband when I was 18. We had known each other since I was 16, but did not connect much with each other until just before the relationship started. I was able to stay with my mom in college, but it was a trade-off, as my mom has significant mental health issues, which she is not getting treatment for at all. I was fortunate enough to have my own car, but I did have to work for gas and food money …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 08:53 PM
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Take caution with this advice. Some RP men really value housewives/SAHMs. Education is a different topic, as good knowledge and skills can lead to premium conversation, which is appealing to some men. Additionally, there is appeal in having your own interests and hobbies, but that does not mean you must be a career woman. The career woman is actually associated with the strong, independent, feminist type.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 08:21 PM
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I do work, but they're not career type jobs, in my opinion. The closest thing I have to a career is being a homeschooling parent, along with volunteering for churches. Currently, I hold a virtual assistant job for a network installation company and I'm a custodian. Skills of mine are attention to detail and getting stuck on things off the floors. I get a lot of fulfillment out of my occupations and would probably hate the idea of a career in the traditional sense (full-time, all the office polit…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 04:05 PM
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Every person has needs. It almost sounds like proper communication is not happening. Each person matters in the relationship. If you miss intimacy, then he needs to know.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 03:42 PM
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I hear ya. I think it's still worth a thought, though. Maybe try in the morning or a time where everyone is not exhausted. We have 4 kids, eight and under, plus both work, I homeschool, help in the church, ect. Sex is important in our relationship, so we prioritize it higher in our lives.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 05:46 AM
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Yes. Never thought to rate myself, though. I'm confident in a good way. It's a personal boost to be attractive and at a nice weight, but my confidence lies in my abilities and knowing who I am as a person. I do enjoy clothes and want to look nice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 05:34 AM
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I tried not to say no to sex. We would do BJs after the birth. Not immediately after, because that's ridiculous. Maybe it's because one of my main love languages is touch, but I never regretted it. Is it him or you that's preventing sexual activity right now? Getting some of those feel good hormones may actually bring some comfort in the weirdness of pregnancy. It's a very feminine experience overall, to have a baby and then care for him or her. I highly recommend educating yourself now on breas…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 01:26 AM
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He's losing out on YOU, hun. I'm sorry, that just sounds awful. Remember that love is not just an emotion, it is a decision to give to that other person no matter what may come at you. Rough times happen to every person on the planet. Falling out of love is a sorry excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 11:24 PM
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It is where you are looking, hun. I'd be upfront about what you are looking for in any dating profiles. But honestly, I would delete your profiles altogether and meet people in real life. I'm married, older than you, and got hit on not long ago by a complete stranger. What was I doing? Going on a walk. The best advice I can give you is to get involved somewhere. Meet good people and do good. Become a part of a community.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 02:42 AM
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You need to understand how food works. Eating certain things with other certain things can cause you to retain and gain weight. I do not recommend a diet. Diets are fads and not long term plans. I have noticed that a lot of people who've lost a significant amount of weight either have unhealthy eating habits or ideas about food (still) or they had surgery.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 05:32 AM
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You're only talking about the men. Feminist women are way, way more likely to go to college/university whereas traditional women like me may only get an associate's degree at best. Making the men not serious about searching for a mate among their classmates.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/20 05:53 PM
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College is also full of feminist, hipster, mainstream thinking people (both genders). And, so is the case in the workforce. Short of going to a religious college, it is not the place to be searching for a suitable husband. My point was that it's a turn-off. Not that women should avoid attending college or pursuing a career while they wait to find a man. I personally believe that women who do attend college should be passionate about their chosen field of study. The money shouldn't matter. Althou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 05:20 PM
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I met mine when I was still a teenager. We later connected, I went to college and held a part-time job while we were dating. We became engaged and I turned down an internship right before our wedding. I did finish the degree I was working on while pregnant with our first, but it was just 2 online classes (I had planned ahead and worked very hard.) I was 20 when we got married. I may have hit the lottery because I was surrounded by the right people (homeschooled conservatives). We were religious,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 05:12 PM
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This is just not true. It is still possible to support a family on one income. What is a major factor and why some men may not like career women is whether they carry student (or other) debt that they then would be responsible for when she became a SAHM, or it would be a roadblock in starting a family, as they would want to pay it off first. One reason why the Red Pill is so attractive is that it doesn't follow mainstream societal views, like everyone has to get a college degree. Yes, education …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 04:53 PM
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I am too. It didn't hinder me finding a suitable husband. In fact, I think those traits will only help you to be a good housewife or SAHM.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 04:42 PM
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I gave up finishing school and even found an internship because I had baby fever and was getting married. I, personally, am really glad that I did for 2 reasons. One, I didn't end up taking out student loans. Two, I have been given (soon) 4 beautiful, healthy children with healthy, uncomplicated pregnancies. Since I've learned more about reproducing and age, I am very glad I made the decision I did. Somehow we're getting 2 girls, then 2 boys! The idea of being pregnant in my 30's makes me quite …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/20 05:39 AM
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Mine works from home (since March), but also is on calls or doing work tasks (DBA). It can go late into the night, but not terribly often. We're about to have our 4th baby and my hands are definitely full. On top of that, I am homeschooling. Thankfully, my eldest just started and I will only have one school-aged child, until the coming baby is 1 years old. It will be manageable. The pandemic has allowed me to come up with a good routine and it has helped me mentally quite a bit. I am doing more …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 08:19 PM
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Will incentives help? "If everyone gets their chores done, we can go on a walk/hike/bike ride/to the park." Would your husband be interested in exercising together, as a family? I completely understand that it's hard finding time. I'm currently only taking mine out once a week. Mine are young still and we're expecting a 4th. It's a lot right now and I'm just taking it one day, one thing at a time. Planning ahead the best I can. I'm really grateful that only one child is homeschooling, until the …
/r/RedPillWives10/11/20 06:15 PM
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I'm going to be honest here. This is not burnout, but overload. Being a SAHM, especially one who homeschools multiple children, is a full-time in itself. Yes, as one you do have to make time for yourself. You're doing too much by also working. How are you homeschooling? Are you using a full curriculum or going with a more un-schooling approach? Is it heavily structured and scheduled or do you have freedom to make schedules and have lax days? Can you include homemaking and exercise into the lesso…
/r/RedPillWives10/11/20 05:36 AM
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I know a couple of working women. Neither of them are quite the type you describe. Some women have to work and some women feel the need to work because of the way their childhood was (think poverty and abuse). The ones in my life are wonderful women who either greatly desire to become a mother or already are a loving, caring mom. They have other feminine traits, like enjoying to cook, garden, loving their husbands as we do, ect. Being a career woman is not inherently bad. I do believe in traditi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 01:23 AM
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By being comfortable in my traditional role and not letting anyone get me down. I love this. I own this. You made different decisions in life? Cool. Me too! I guess we do have something in common. Us showing respect and love despite differences is going to shine brighter than shoving our agendas and lifestyles down their throats.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 01:04 AM
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I disagree. This may be small and even insignificant, but I frequently hear of working women complain that their husbands don't do enough around the house. They become resentful and will even moan about it, make fun of them. The truth of the matter is that life is hard, yet the mundane responsiblities of breadwinning and homekeeping/childrearing still have to get done every single day. Being a woman who stays home is no easy feat, especially when you add children into the mix, but it does work. …
/r/RedPillWives01/09/20 02:59 AM
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It does work with men for young women. It's not impossible by any means to find a good man later on or if you already have a child or two, but it is less attractive to men and thus, harder on women. The advice from young women is geared for young women. No, it's not fair at all. Life happens and some women are simply at a disadvantage because of where they live or other life circumstances. I think one thing that would be great for any RPW is to have real life friends who share the same views, ma…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 08:08 PM
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It's not ALL about gender roles. Gender roles are very attractive to men and definitely help in a relationship/marriage/family. Common beliefs are important, intelligence is important, and some women will need more financial security than others. Also, one cannot ignore good characters, such as communication, honesty, respect, ect. Love is more than an emotion in a marriage or long-term relationship, it is a decision. Emotions are fleeting.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 07:52 PM
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Some tips: Do one room at a time. Consider decluttering/minimizing, so there is less to move. Get a Swiffer for quickly cleaning up sticky messes between mop sessions. I put down a towel and move that along as I mop. I start from one end of the room and go to the other, so I know exactly where I've cleaned already. I also found that tossing things on the floor into a bin for a quicker pickup instead of putting everything where it belongs right then and there, saves time when the floor simply jus…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 04:30 PM
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Getting dish basins to soak the dishes in before washing was a game changer for me. I also despise doing the dishes, but they have to get done every day. Sometimes I do have to scrub pots and pans, but for the most part soaking them makes it very easy to wipe off with a sponge and then rinse. It's one of those things that you just have to get done. Hopefully it will become more of a habit than a chore and won't feel so difficult to do.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 04:23 PM
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Honestly, only you know what you're looking for in a man. What will work for one, will be challenging for another, even if we all have similar beliefs. Having a good relationship and the things you mentioned I consider a must. Have you guys discussed future career plans or is this a career he's going to stay in and never make much money? How long have you been together for? What are your ages? What does he want financially? Any debt? How does he feel about debt? Do y'all want children? How many …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 03:18 PM
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Excellent point. It is possible to be friends with those who have differing views. What you're really looking for is maturity and mutual respect. I remember hearing "there's 3 things you never talk about with your friends" when I was a teenager and that didn't make any sense to me at all! The deeper, important things are exactly what you should be able to peacefully discuss with loved ones and those you care about!
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 06:48 PM
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Social media is also a very interesting place, especially Reddit where any account holder can either upvote or downvote you. If you don't agree with the majority of the populous, you will feel like an outcast. Our type(s) may be too busy enjoying our lives and family to constantly be on social media, so we can easily feel separated and even disconnected from the majority. There are times where I refrain from commenting because I just know it'll be downvoted into oblivion. I personally don't have…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 04:04 PM
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That is rough. I would encourage you to keep trying different churches. There should be one that fits well! I've moved a lot in my life. We got very lucky and found a wonderful church on the second try. Is it possible to try a different type of church as well? For example, instead of Baptist check out a Bible church. No one church family is the exact same, although there are lots of wonderful people across the community and from what I've seen, they also move around, especially if they're in the…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 03:53 PM
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I understand. I replied to a comment just yesterday where someone sounded like they would possibly really like what homeschooling has to offer. All I did was ask if they would be interested and I got downvoted. Like, it was a question, dude. Thankfully, there was no ridiculous argument or trolling. It was a post about being concerned for our children's future.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 03:38 PM
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This is a good question. Frankly, he's being paranoid and buying into the fear that the media has been shoving down everyone's throat. Unless I'm missing info where one or both of y'all are obese, you should have no issues sharing a kiss and hug. He can't reasonably expect you to not kiss him for months on end, even a year or longer. I commend you for going as long as you have and for the level of respect that you've been showing him. Good job! If he understands how you feel and still insists on…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/20 03:50 AM
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It's tough having a baby. It will get better. I have made a habit of not working beyond finishing dinner or fixing a quick/easy one and putting said food away. I put the children to bed and I do my best to relax/spend time with my husband. I would start adjusting baby's schedule and yours to align with your husband's. Can you put the child in your room to make things easier? Feed the baby and everyone goes back to sleep. Pumping while breastfeeding is quite unpleasant. When I did it, I wanted to…
/r/RedPillWives16/05/20 09:58 PM
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The point was that by setting the boundary you're potentially avoiding abuse down the road because you know he can show you respect by waiting to live with you until marriage. Being able to establish boundaries with your SO is also a good thing to know you can do. Boundaries are healthy. Showing these traits to your potential husband are also good. I'm saying marriage is more than a simple commitment. It's a mindset. I explain it a bit better in another comment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 11:03 PM
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There is legality involved. It's all quite interesting. That doesn't quite explain how wanting to take that legal commitment isn't romantic. When I read his comment I got a very big vibe that his views are towards teaching his daughter some importance of the seriousness that marriage is, and solely from a financial standpoint. Marriage is so much more than finances and a piece of paper. That is what some other commenters are trying to say with their comparisons to commitment, such as moving in, …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 08:27 PM
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I did understand. I respectfully disagree. If they cannot agree on whether to live together before marriage or not, then you have differing views/beliefs and likely are incompatible. I used to believe that people would divorce for selfish reasons, like "no longer being in love", but then I heard real people's stories and understood that my thinking was naive. There are many reasons people divorce and a lot of different ways one can be abused. One can theorize all they want, but divorces are not …
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 08:13 PM
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Yes, and for many horrible reasons. Just because divorces happen, does not mean that we should downplay how awful they are, not in the least.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 04:50 PM
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Technically, you are correct. Given that we're talking about romantic relationships, in which folks obviously greatly care for each other, romance is a key factor. If I go to an animal shelter and decide to get a dog, I am making a significant commitment. If things don't work out with this dog, I don't have to go through a (sometimes) lengthy legal process to be free of this dog. No one moves in with someone with the intention of breaking up in 6 months. I consider a lack of commitment in a long…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 04:47 PM
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Except, marriage is the biggest commitment move you can make. Deciding to marry someone and proposing is one of the most romantic things ever.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 03:48 PM
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I'm someone with strong beliefs. A low N count was important to me. I didn't have issues at all finding a husband with a 0 N count. Divorce is awful and happens for many reasons. Sexual issues, money issues, loyalty issues, abuse, ect. You really cannot and should not stereotype divorcees. Sex is important in a marriage. It's apart of getting married and keeping or breaking a marriage. Cheating is an absolute deal-breaker, or, it should be. N count will matter to some folks in suiting, but it sh…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 05:53 PM
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I would honestly just ride it out. Your babe will be 1 and you can start weaning before you know it. By that time, hopefully the stores are opened again.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/20 10:40 PM
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For clarification, y'all have been together for 8 months. You just really like this guy? It sounds like y'all are having communication issues. Do you not trust him? Are you afraid of him? You mentioned there being other things. Is this really the reason why you're second-guessing or is it the things you're not disclosing? Honestly, if you really liked this guy and respected him, you wouldn't have written this post and definitely wouldn't have done it with a burner account. I think y'all are havi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 02:44 AM
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I would take the medicine. How far along are you? It's advised to trust your doctor. If you want a more natural approach, have you considered a midwife? I had a midwife with my last pregnancy and loved it!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/20 08:37 PM
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I think I left out something important. We are homeschooling, which means they're going to be with me a lot, so being an example to them in every aspect is of significance. It's a lot of work and responsibility. They get to see first-hand what I do and how I behave. I am not just a mother. I am going to be there teacher. They're by my side when I cook, do chores, clean, run errands, do the shopping, declutter, ect. There's pressure. The difference with boys, is I don't know how to be a man. Nor,…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 05:38 AM
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I'm in the same boat, but my son is 1. Little boys are wonderful! Strong male role models. Husband being the main. My friend also had 2 girls, then 1 boy, and 1 girl. There was an age gap. He started to love school because there were other boys who wanted to do what he wanted to do. I think having like-minded people around with similar values is very important for people of any age. It's good for even toddlers to learn social skills and build relationships. Children learn so much just from their…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 08:20 PM
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No. Set the boundary. This will be difficult for him. His cheating, of any kind, is a deal killer. Your marriage is priority. You are a team. You respect him and he respects you. You love him and he loves you. You stay faithful and he stays faithful to you. It is not one way. It is not I do for you, then you do for me. Stability in a marriage, faithfulness, is a must. It is not an option. You haven't lost those great years. You still have the memories and I imagine you still care for him. There'…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 04:04 PM
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Monogamy means monogamous around the globe. When you leave the country, you are still married to the same person. It doesn't change. All I can recommend is 1) stop the sleeping around immediately. He needs to cold turkey texting, calling, chatting, following on social media all of these ladies. 2) lots of communication 3) GET COUPLES COUNSELLING 4) find other monogamous friends/real life examples and learn from them. Cheating is the one marriage killer. I understand it was consensual, but marria…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/20 06:04 AM
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Both work, really. Hubby is my partner and we are a team, in it together, working together towards common goals, and supporting each other. I usually call him my husband or by his first name. However, I have mentioned in conversation with him how we're a team, in this together, ect. If you prefer him addressing one over the other, than communicate that with him.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 01:31 AM
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Keeping myself busy helps. We normally stay home a lot and have children, so schedule really can't change that much. Hubby is working from home, so he's busy for a lot of the day. My house has been a mess with 3 kids and having a baby last year, so I'm trying to get it cleaned. I am still working on the kitchen and catching up on chores. Haha! There's so much to do around here, getting out is an escape. I have also been enjoying more cooking. I've done a ham and a pot roast, so far.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 04:08 PM
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You may benefit from couples counselling. There needs to be respect from both parties. He has to try as much as you. You can't be the only one that's understanding and putting forth all the effort to please him. You guys are a team, in everything. You are to be submissive and he is to love you as he does himself. I would encourage you to befriend some Christian married women IRL. Bible studies are wonderful!
/r/RedPillWives05/03/20 06:31 PM
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So many people complain about being middle-class and it has me so confused. I don't understand how you can be unhappy when all of your needs are being met and you can pay back your student loans or save or go out, ect. They don't understand what true poverty is, nor what being poor in a first world country means. I forget the statistic, but most the world is middle-class.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 04:56 PM
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I would imagine there's some sort of singles dating resource, no? I didn't find mine from a church. I found mine from an ex and we had homeschooling in common. We met at a party. I guess I'm saying broaden your horizons outside the church.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 04:57 PM
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I am very glad I settled at a young age (20). Yes, it was important to me because I wanted a religious man. Having that kind of patience and self control really says something about a man's integrity and values, self-worth. Societal norms can be really pressuring, especially for men. It's very easy to think it's weird to have men be 30 year old virgins, yet, there is something really special about him holding out and waiting for that special one who he marries. Talk about romance! It's probably …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 04:47 PM
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1 is important for yourself. #7 is also important as it can simply enable you to keep up your brain health. If you're not interested in it for men or friends, do it for you. It only makes sense that people who strive to be the best they can be, attract other well-rounded people who are worth being around. Figure out a plan for yourself to become an attractive, intelligent, and interesting individual for your sake and the relationships will follow. What do you like? What do you want to be as a pe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 04:54 PM
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Hahaha, that place is awful. I've been banned, too.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 01:21 AM
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You know what they say? "Next!"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/01/20 01:02 AM
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Be careful with the last part. As much as we want to, we can't successfully control our kids to that degree. The best we can do is teach them and talk about things. Teenagers especially rebel. Guidance is the best gift we can give them. We also really don't want them to end up getting pregnant or a health issue, so teaching them about safe sex is a must.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/20 05:54 PM
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That's one thing I am really grateful for from my mother. She taught me abstinence before marriage and I was saved (became a Christian) at a young age, because of her witnessing to me. I almost got into trouble as a teenager, but these two things ended up stopping me. After entering a relationship with my husband, I was very glad that I hadn't done more than kiss my ex. I even regretted kissing him, to be honest. This is why I believe in teaching abstinence. I also believe it's important to teac…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/20 05:47 PM
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For Christmas breakfast I made English Muffin egg sandwiches with Kraft Singles and turkey bacon. Success! I got a couple of fancy cheeses and Triscuits for a snack. We are also going to decorate a gingerbread house and have hot cocoa. For dinner we're having a ham, latkes, and baby carrots. With the ham bone I am going to make a very tasty and nutritious split pea soup. I will likely pick up some sort of bread or rolls to go along with the soup. It was a success last time I did it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/19 06:15 PM
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I would not say normal, but they do still exist. I think the most I've ever been offended is when a young cashier (female) acted like it was a bad thing I didn't work and had three kids. I straight up told her I didn't want to work! Family first.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/12/19 05:55 AM
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The argument is if women can choose to have a baby or not, then men can choose not to pay child support.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/19 06:02 AM
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There was a post recently on r/sex about a woman having a large number in a single year. On this post there were men saying how they weren't as happy with their number because of the fact that those who seek numbers are lacking intimacy. Furthermore, there's a study that was done on this topic, which found that married women found the most happiness and pleasure with their sex lives.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 10:20 PM
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Interestingly enough, there are benefits to having children such as a little bit of their DNA stays with you and women who bear children tend to live longer. It, arguably, could make one more health conscious by wanting what's best for the child. Apparently it can ease period pains, it lessens the risk of breast cancer, lowers the risk of other cancers, better sex, less risk for MS, healthier heart, and boosts mood.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:24 PM
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It can be true. I recently saw a post on Reddit about a poor woman who had 4th degree tear and then they made mistakes, which made things worse. Poor woman. I will say, it's not the norm and having children is SO worth it. It boils down to it being a personal decision. Also in defense, it is difficult being pregnant. Cravings, aversions, and other side effects, making it really hard to maintain healthy choices.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:16 PM
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I'm a millennial ('93), happily married with 3 kids. You have to determine your values and stick to it. You may feel like the weird, odd one out, but someone is waiting for you. Yes, pornography is a huge problem, but I don't think much has changed in the years. It has, like other things, just become common knowledge that it is a frequent problem among men (and some women). It is actually considered an addiction, thus referring to it as a problem. Be careful on red pill men. This sub is a lot be…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:44 PM
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Yes. Tell him everything. Try not to be afraid either. Odds are he will still love you just as much. Everyone makes mistakes. Honestly is admirable.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 12:33 AM
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I would stay away from Amazon's dresses. I tried a couple and it was hit or miss. Too thin (need to wear something underneath), or the seams came apart. I'm not sure, but they may be the same as the new ones (from China) on eBay. Individual sellers are your best bet.
/r/RedPillWives27/08/19 05:16 PM
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There is also more to work out than just sex after marriage. You're combining your entire life together and living together.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 10:51 PM
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Absolutely, 100% worth waiting. The wedding night is already super special and there is nothing more romantic than losing it then. It is very respectable. Women are emotional and men are visual in regards to sex. Honestly, having sex with the one is never the same, it is always different! (At least, in my experience.) Bottom line is that it is your decision. I would caution you not to get married too quickly because you're waiting to have sex. I'm not sure about men's thoughts on this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 10:44 PM
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I would not do it for others. It needs to be something you want and that is all. I would avoid dying your hair for the sake of men. Some men find cosmetic changes (dying hair, surgery, ect) unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 02:10 AM
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Have hope. I met my husband in SoCal. He grew up there.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 10:10 PM
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Honestly, there are precautions you can set in place for what-ifs financially, such as becoming debt free, saving a rainy day fund, saving an emergency fund (job loss), life insurance policies, ect. Research, talk about it, plan together.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 10:12 PM
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I had always wanted to be a housewife/SAHM. I did think I would have a career or at start one before having children. I ended up changing my mind, which I was very glad I did. It was a little bit of a shock to suddenly really want children while in college. Due to my fiance being in a different country (work) I managed to have time to finish my associate's and certificate (I needed a bachelor's and registration, including an internship for my chosen career.) I worked my butt off to finish as qui…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 10:06 PM
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You can also consider decluttering and looking into minimalism to make cleaning easier.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 09:08 PM
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I think a woman should be able to do basic things around the house like take out the trash, paint the walls, hang pictures and curtains (basic use of tools like a drill), easy house repairs (unclog a toilet), put furniture together, ect.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 09:06 PM
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Focus on his career and you, any children you may have in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 09:02 PM
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Well, I do all the homely stuff, even take out the trash and stay home with the kids. I have always wanted to do this sort of thing, so it comes naturally to me. It's how I show I love him. By doing as much as I can to make his life easier as he works hard to make the money and provide. I do ask him to pick up things from the store sometimes. He will ask me if he can help me do anything and I say "no" because it is just easier for me to do it because I know what needs done and how I want it done…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 09:00 PM
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There are communities where you can find women who are going through the same things and stages of pregnancy as you. It totally helps!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 08:51 PM
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I would be careful with this thinking. Not all men like cosmetic surgery and some find it unattractive.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 08:29 PM
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Your history may actually be helpful in getting pregnant and maintaining a healthy pregnancy with a healthy baby. It's very important to eat right. Calorie counting can be good in regards of making sure you're getting enough food. It can cause problems if your gain too much weight and vice versa. The caloric needs change as the trimester does. One thing you'll also want to keep in mind is that with breastfeeding you're also supposed to consume more calories, just as if you were still in your thi…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 08:23 PM
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He picked it out. I always thought I would like a big, pretty diamond ring, but I ended up loving what he chose. It was a blue topaz with a heart engraved in it and white stones on the side. He picked it because it was both of our birthstones (born in the same month). I would honestly suggest letting him pick it. You can always get other jewelry down the line for anniversary and such that you let him know you want.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:56 PM
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She can't change him nor should she try. People can change, but they need to do it with their own free-will.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:42 AM
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I don't think he's the one for you. If you have any doubt about compatibility, it's time to move on. Some folks just like to argue. It's a game, debate is fun for them. I dated a guy similar and I actually thought he was boring. Constantly wanting to debate and challenge just drained me. These things you mentioned are important. Feelings, emotions are fleeting. When you get married it's a decision to love this person no matter what for the rest of your life. It's a big deal!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:40 AM
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Wear tasteful clothing, always while out. I have rules such as: no spaghetti straps, no shorts, no cutouts in the back or shoulders, dress and skirt length to or past the tips of my fingers when my arms are down. I do allow V cuts tops, but will wear a tank top underneath if the V shows too much cleavage. I do also wear some "sleeveless" tops, but they do not have those thin spaghetti straps. If you want to go really classy, or even conservative, wear floor length dresses and skirts. Some women …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 03:33 AM
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