| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1067 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVE | MALE DEPRAVITY | thisissomeshitman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 04:02 PM |
| 466 | “I am not a monster” | REMINDER 👑 | thisissomeshitman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:43 PM |
| 10 | Ladies. Guard your womb. Men’s obsession with “finishing” in you is nothing to entertain. | thisissomeshitman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 11:58 PM | |
| 1 | Y’all mind if I SCREAM? | #JustLVMThings | thisissomeshitman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 08:37 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 8 | Ladies. Guard your womb. Men’s obsession with “finishing” in you is nothing to entertain.the noise i made when i read that 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Ladies. Guard your womb. Men’s obsession with “finishing” in you is nothing to entertain.This obsession with “cream pies” and “breeding” is out of control. I personally despise it, and my last ex of 10+ years was allowed to “finish” in me all of TWO TIMES. I think it’s gross (i’m also realizing now that i may be a lot more into women than just bisexual… but who knows, sexuality is such a spectrum). It fucks up my flora/pH, and the one time i took Plan B it gave me a yeast infection so bad i thought i was gonna die. Stop letting these fucking street rats “finish” inside of you. Stop … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 12:03 AM |
| 36 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceWow this is exactly what my ex always banked on. The inheritance included $$$$ of property, millions of dollars, side businesses etc. but in the meantime i was the breadwinner AND he wanted a family! He said he always saw me as “having it all” (Which I’m sure he meant as a compliment, but we all know that just meant that he expected me to work full-time and somehow be super mommy and bangmaid). To craft your future plans around inheritance is a giant fucking loser thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 11:43 PM |
| 63 | Scrote whines about having no free time while his wife does all the work. Oh, and he’s cheating on her. 🤡As a nanny, I can say: even when we are paid “way too much” it’s a drop in the bucket when you consider the price of hiring a normal, sweet, loving adult who won’t fuck up your kids 🤣🤣 this guy sucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 01:07 PM |
| 135 | Is Leaving Early the New Coming Home Late for ZVM Who Buy S*x Workers?thanks, sis that means a lot. I am not proud of the things I did, but it showed me the deep rot that men are capable of hiding. My ex financially abused me so SW gave me the ability to make money he could not touch (cash is truly king). One of my clients was hugely supportive (monetarily) when i finally left and while i am hugely appreciative, i still did a block and delete as soon as the money cleared, and he never pressed to charge back the $$$ (cashapp on this rare occasion—also, seeing how m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:02 AM |
| 382 | Is Leaving Early the New Coming Home Late for ZVM Who Buy S*x Workers?Former SW here (reformed, rehabbed, fourth wave AF and anti-SW now). My clients were $$$$$ men who would only meet me for breakfast or lunch dates. I never did a nighttime meeting for safety reasons. But these men would pay for a hotel room or have me meet them in one of their many apartments/airbnb’s between 10am-1pm. I was never in their presence after 3pm. My experience was different than most—I made a fuck ton of money and have minimal trauma, the real trauma came from my LVX who encouraged … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 11:39 PM |
| 20 | What's the difference between harmless dirty talk and objectification?thanks, i hate this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:32 AM |
| 44 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?my ex always said it was safe to throw objects because he chose soft ones but honestly he would slam pillows against the wall and floor and i thought he’d break shit anyway so what’s the difference, it’s all equally scary tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:55 AM |
| 53 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Or blowing up your phone when you physically are able to leave. there is no space when you get 100’s of insane text messages when you’re just trying to cool off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:54 AM |
| 59 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?this list is so good it’s actually frightening. I’ve been out for 8mo now and i don’t live in fear or despair but wowweee that list had some jolting reminders. A+ scared the fuck outta me at almost 1am lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:52 AM |
| 199 | Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized TraumaWow, I felt this DEEPLY. I am so proud of you for recognizing what was really happening, and using Bancroft’s terminology here. I spent over a decade with mr sensitive and despite being in a much better place now, i can still see and feel the deep wounds he left on my psyche. Glad you got the fuck out, and we definitely need more real life examples like this, so thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 05:53 PM |
| 26 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Oh like how my ex is blaming everything for him being diagnosed autistic? like bro don’t make me out to be some ablest creep, autism or not that doesn’t excuse emotional/verbal/sexual abuse? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:21 AM |
| 16 | This is narcissistic abuse.This was insanely triggering, and brought back so many instances that i recorded because i was terrified for my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:36 AM |
| 16 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?omg this happened to me at my first home too!! Except if just watched the first episodes of Haunting of Hill House and when the coyotes started howling i was TERRIFIED that i was gonna die hahaha. Truly they sound wild especially when you’re not used to it!! this made me cackle haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:41 AM |
| 49 | When Karma come to bite you.This literally happened to me and honestly, my HVW and i cackle laugh every time we talk about “what terrible cheaters we are.” We have a gorgeous home together and just adopted a second puppy and are stupidly in love. Thanks for opening things up, ex! Byeeeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 04:32 AM |
| 155 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?There are several reasons why he couldn’t stay at full mast: most likely anti-depressants, anxiety about first interaction, or too much porn usage. The sucky at giving head part usually goes hand in hand with the porn usage (they don’t really know or understand or care to figure out what feels good, but rather will just mimic the performative aspects of oral seen in porn). I’m a big believer in “running the bases” aka kissing, hand stuff, oral, all before sex is on the table. if he can’t make yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:10 AM |
| 13 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionAs someone who LOVES to do my HVGF nails and toes, i think i would die if she posted a photo of me being so… submissive. In my day to day career i’m seen as a very assertive person, and while it’s clear i would move the moon and stars for her, i don’t need people to see that intimate moment. Also, chris pratt in general can fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:44 AM |
| 4 | Bikini waxing?Full bikini wax is some patriarchy bullshit, pedaled to us by Sex and the City aka the Pick Me bible. I stopped full waxing years ago while in a LTR, because he didn’t fuck me anyway, and he never had an opinion about it anyway. I keep it neat/trimmed, and shave where i feel it’s necessary but the idea of full bikini wax is just fuckin weird pedo gaze shit IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:14 AM |
| 429 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyIn the fucking basement where they belong | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:28 PM |
| 10 | I'm not sure what to think of this guy I've been on 4 dates withRead the handbook. I’m shocked the mods let this one post, probably cause they know we are gonna knock some sense into you cause this shit sounds DUMB. Run, girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:39 PM |
| 5 | Weaponized incompetence is a form of mental abuse.we have the same ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 09:38 PM |
| 39 | Bi & wlw gals, how have your experiences compared in hetero dating versus wlw?My life is infinitely better with my HV girlfriend. She makes me breakfast every morning, we buy eachother gifts (sometimes the same ones at the same time on accident lol), i always am excited to get home and try to make dinner or make it cozy (i’m home first), and the days that she gets home first (at least once a week) i’m treated to dinner and a special date activity at home or out that evening. even just sitting together watching a movie feels cozy and loving without expectations or weird vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 07:55 AM |
| 1 | Man baby and forever gftrue true i definitely do NOT condone it. I did it out if necessity (my LVX was like “yeah babe go for it” instead of “i’ll just GET A JOB TO HELP WITH THOSE DEBTS.”) i have a lottttt to say so maybe it’ll be cathartic. And the tea is PIPING HOT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Man baby and forever gfMaybe i’ll write something out and see how it feels. I really would like to share my experience, although i’m sure FDS mods would be horrified that my SW experience was actually… pretty fine? Granted, I upped the chance to be abused/killed by 1000% every time i did it, even with my screening process. In fact, I’d probably be more-likely to get killed by a repeat client since they knew my guard was down (or rather, bought?) tbh All SW really did was make me thankful to be bisexual cause my HV gir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Man baby and forever gfOh absolutely. I really would love to make a post about it but i am still healing from it all myself. And really, truly, i hesitate to share the red flags because don’t think a lot of people want to hear about it, because it’s so fucking abysmal. My clients were CEOs, Doctors, married with kids (to drop dead gorgeous women who were high power attorneys, doctors, and even famous actresses). They were “ideal family men” who exhibited HV traits—even to me, a SW. Between sending me luxury cars to ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 10:43 PM |
| 12 | Man baby and forever gfFormer libfem SW here, the amount of men who will send $$$$ for nothing after spending $$$$ to fuck you one time is UNREAL. I had to shut the part of my brain off that made me feel sorry for their SO’s because well… it’s really nice to open your cashapp and see someone sent you a part of their whole ass paycheck just because… well, just because. She’s a goddamn master and as much as i feel sorry for the girlfriend, she is a dipshit for sticking around (saying this as also a former dipshit/foreve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 07:16 PM |
| 25 | I bailed on a date and I’ve never been more proud of myselfOhhh this is my new favorite song! More posts like thisssss, ladies!!!! Eeek, i’m so proud of you. Hope you do something nice for yourself tonight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Pay 👏 attention 👏 to your bodily reactions 👏 Anytime I've been consciously or subconsciously stressed & suspicious about a guy/relationship, I'd get MAD BREAKOUTS which immediately cleared EVERY TIME upon breaking up.My body loves to give me UTI/Yeast infections when it’s time to break up. it’s like my vag figured it out wayyyy before me. She’s the smart one i guess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:11 PM |
| 8 | Pay 👏 attention 👏 to your bodily reactions 👏 Anytime I've been consciously or subconsciously stressed & suspicious about a guy/relationship, I'd get MAD BREAKOUTS which immediately cleared EVERY TIME upon breaking up.My body loves to give me UTI/Yeast infections when it’s time to break up. it’s like my vag figured it out wayyyy before me. She’s the smart one i guess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:10 PM |
| 10 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣lol it really does sound like a movie lmaoooo maybe one day i’ll make a post about it all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:25 PM |
| 151 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣I was in a “poly” (read: exploitative however that’s another story for another day) relationship with my LVX. our girlfriend was above and beyond my dream partner, so we ditched him, and i am living a perfectly balanced HV Life with a beautiful woman in a gorgeous home in a new city (i thank god every day i am bisexual because holy fuck men are trash). LMFAO @ Poly lifestyle. As a former libfem/kink-meisha i could write a goddamn book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:14 PM |
| 49 | [A LOVE LETTER] Thank you all for helping me escape my batterer.As a recent escapee, this made me tear up. I love FDS. I feel so empowered, and not scared and alone as i did for so many years. Fuck yeah, cheers!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:58 PM |
| 8 | I love you FDS!!I feel like i could have written this. Hell yes!! Proud of you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 05:52 PM |
| 37 | Notice how she's the one trying to get advice, not himFinance bros are douche bags that come with cocaine addiction and rampant cheating (source: im in my mid-30’s from NYC where the finance bro reigns supreme. ALL of my friends who were with finance bros got cheated on and they had horrific cocaine problems that they either hid or gloated. about. not sure which was worse.) vet vet vet vet vet vet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:19 PM |
| 28 | Notice how she's the one trying to get advice, not himi’m sorry, bb. onwards and upwards 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:29 AM |
| 110 | Notice how she's the one trying to get advice, not hima b s o l u t e l y | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:10 AM |
| 410 | Notice how she's the one trying to get advice, not himFriendly reminder to the baby queens that “Pre-Med” doesn’t guarantee shit, and even if he graduates, he will be paying his medical school debt for a minute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:29 AM |
| 10 | ‘Guy friends’: the real evil men?figuratively fuck em. not literally LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 07:56 PM |
| 22 | ‘Guy friends’: the real evil men?Never had guy friends ask to hook up with me… but My guy friends (all but THREE—was four…) all sided with my LVX. All of them told me i was being absurd and unfair. The one i thought was my fourth had the audacity to say it “was weird seeing me so happy after all of it” because he cannot wrap his stupid fucking pea brain around my celebrating being away from an abuser. Fuck male friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 39 | I absolutely love reading stories like this. Like what do you expect the outcome to be?lol this is almost exactly how my last relationship ended. LVX is on a smear campaign on how i had an affair. Not sure how you can have an affair in an open relationship but ok, man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 02:25 PM |
| 4 | It's in the small victories, Queens!Queen vs THE THING/IT lmfaoooo so proud of you! Also yes, fuck that app (if it’s the one i’m thinking of). it’s a pretty quick way to see who of your guy friends are cheaters, according to my previous clients (former libfem SW turned radfem) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inthanks, sis 🥺🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:52 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-inI’ve been doing so well after leaving my toxic LVX, but i have begun grieving my lost time. All i ever wanted was to be a mom/have a family. My LVX expected me to work/be the career woman, and the super mommy who could handle it all. I love kids. but i sit here in my mid-30’s and i just am heartbroken at the time i’ve lost. Probably doesn’t help i start my period today so i’m real weepy haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 3 | “I am not a monster”gotchu, girl 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 05:14 AM |
| 8 | “I am not a monster”i am so glad WE got out!! what a blessing🧡✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:46 AM |
| 27 | “I am not a monster”i had to finally chill on sharing some things after my two best friends literally burst into tears at some of the ugly things that were said to me. I did pick 4 trusted friends and share one really devastating story that i’d been hiding. Just one. I’ve kept the circle very very tight during this time as well. I scrapped all social media except one sock account on a platform to send periodic location and photo updates to the trusted four. everybody else gets zilch or niceties no further than “i’m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:08 AM |
| 15 | “I am not a monster”i thought about it by my LVX is sooo litigious i wouldn’t be surprised if it gets there. Thanking my lucky stars we are NOT married | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:03 PM |
| 16 | “I am not a monster”SEE??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:02 PM |
| 8 | “I am not a monster”yes yes yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:07 PM |
| 9 | “I am not a monster”Thank you🥺🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:37 PM |
| 35 | “I am not a monster”“whatever this is” … isnt it wild how they never call it “whatever” it is? It’s a break up. It’s an ending. I wrote a whole letter reiterating the terms “breaking up” “break up” “the end” “ending.” and hes still calling it anything but a break up. Your ex removing belonging and STILL CALLING IT “w h a t e v e r this is” is making me howwwwl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 13 | “I am not a monster”thanks, sis 🥺😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:23 PM |
| 495 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.It absolutely breaks my heart that this fuckboy CEO took 20% from sex workers paychecks to build an empire and cast them aside. This is the fuckiness of libfem ideology. Yes, queen own your body! But if someone is taking 20% of your body’s hard earned money… only to discard you for investors… uh… you don’t own shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:15 PM |
| 17 | “I am not a monster”It. is. bonkers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:13 PM |
| 12 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)It’s jarring. Absolutely. I’ve been playing specific playlists that make me feel brave or empowered, so i can get through it. Screen shotting the bonkers shit that sounds so familiar and sending it to my trusted circle of friends to say WOW ITS HIM. If i ever ever get the crazy thought to go back (i won’t), they will never ever let me haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 89 | “I am not a monster”i’ve got my best friend reading it now, so it’s nice to have someone to discuss it with outside of the internet/with a direct link to my LVX so we can discuss the pattern. I am just so sad. I am embarased at how much time i spent being unhappy. I am so happy now. I’m gaining weight (from eating THREE meals a day… THREE!!!!), i’m walking every day, i read FDS religiously, and i dip into the abuse subreddits. something about seeing other people write what could easily be my own story, and label it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 51 | “I am not a monster”Sounds like we have both been through it! I have a google doc i viciously typed into the first week i left. I haven’t opened it yet, but i have a vivid memory of slamming/typing into my keyboard all the horrible things i was called, while on a 5am flight away from my LVX into the arms of my loved ones. The anger saved me. I need to stay angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:27 PM |
| 86 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)This was my LVX through and through. I gasped when i read this part and also screenshot it for my friends because Holy FUCK. This book is brilliant, but a total shake up for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:38 AM |
| 19 | Need advice on confusing behaviorthis will probably be deleted but jesus… read the damn guidebook, sis. This guy is a mess and sounds like my LVX | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:24 AM |
| 3 | Welcome to FDS!Thank you, mods! I’ve been trying to get my friend into FDS and i sent her the main information tab but i think is a wonderful way to snatch up those curious queens who want to change their lives 🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 68 | Yikes....... I mean.. at least he admits what 90% of men won't (scroll)I just yelled “HELLO????” so loud at this? Is this actual real life i am gonna vomit??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:27 PM |
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