I have gone NC with my LVX. Unfortunately i cannot fully block him as we have shared assets (property, investments, etc) to be addressed. He sends me emails, letters, and texts. These long sad apologies, remorseful prose about what he should have done differently. About how i never deserved it. I do not reapond. I only write emails regarding the above mentioned assets. Reading “Why Does He Do That” had been integral in me not giving into the performance of guilt/sadness. Additionally, the smartest advice i got when i left was “Talk about it. Tell everybody. The more you share the more people will know what you went through and are more likely to keep you from going back.” Talking, reading, FDS, and learning to genuinely love myself have been my main hobbies. The flowery language, the sadness (both genuine and performative), the half-assed apologies… it’s all a way to break down your boundaries. Don’t give in! I know I’m not the only queen out there dealing with this right now. This is your sign to continue to be strong. We have got this!!!