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I was in this exact situation for a few months. It's ultimately an ego/insecurity problem combined with a severe case of oneitis. You need to realize that this whole "first option" business is completely subjective. First option for what? Validation? Emotional support? In both cases she would be spending more time with him than you. You're getting the same thing that he gets (sex) except you don't have to deal with her bullshit (I'm assuming). Trust me man, I met the "first option" guy I had bee…
/r/askTRP09/11/18 08:23 PM
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Every single time I've alpha-widowed a girl and gone no contact, it's always ended up biting me in the ass. One false rape accusation and an overall reputation of being an emotionally abusive/manipulative guy. I'd rather let this one just fizzle out. Thoughts?
/r/askTRP06/11/18 03:52 AM
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This is exactly why I prefer to not have any of my plates on social media. That shit can only be used against you and it's just a massive waste of time. Instagram and Snapchat stories are specifically made to be used against you because they can see if you viewed it or not. These girls get a MASSIVE validation boost from seeing that you viewed their stories it's literally drugs to them. By opting out of social media you're taking away one of her biggest tools to make you jealous/manipulate you i…
/r/askTRP25/06/18 01:39 AM
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Made that same mistake. Definitely fucked me up when she said "let's just say I've never been with a small penis". I left it at that but fuck, if that didn't fuck me up. You ever work past it somehow?
/r/askTRP14/05/18 02:38 AM
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Solid advice, thank you. I've been doing it all wrong.
/r/askTRP12/05/18 04:14 PM
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Let's say she showed up late but not late enough for you to leave the bar. Would you pretend nothing happened, fuck her after, and then soft next her or just soft next her on the spot by being cold and distant?
/r/askTRP12/05/18 03:35 PM
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You've got a point. I need to work on a long-term solution.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 02:27 PM
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I'll check it out thanks.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 02:21 PM
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I probably should have A&A'ed but I honestly gave zero fucks so I just let her talk while I was reading something on my computer. She just went on and on and I just sat there and half-listened, looking up every 20-30 seconds for brief eye-contact with her. I said that if she really feels that way, she can leave. She said she wanted to stay so as soon as she said that, I closed my computer, went over to where she was laying, and fucked her. I don't know that I handled this in the best way, but sh…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:26 AM
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I appreciate this insight. The "talk" I had with her makes a lot more sense now.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:04 AM
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I definitely need to re-read that book. Forgot all about that.
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:00 AM
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what does "DEVI'd" her mean?
/r/askTRP04/05/18 11:47 PM
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I guess trying to make her laugh too much and talking too much in general. Being more reserved is something I could work on. Thank you for the solid advice.
/r/askTRP04/05/18 11:46 PM
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Granted that I am largely unavailable when we aren't together, I think the issue lies in being too available in-person. That's really the only incongruence I can think of. How can I become "unavailable" in person?
/r/askTRP04/05/18 09:51 PM
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I just pretend the girl is dead. When I think about wanting to fuck/hangout/talk to her I ask myself if I'm desperate enough to invest time or put my dick in a girl who is literally not alive. The answer is always no.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:44 PM
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I'll look into this more, definitely has some merit. Thank you for your insight.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 10:43 PM
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in terms of what? We don't ever argue and she does a lot of things for me. She's a good mom I'd say.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 12:56 AM
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The problem I have with pretending I'm the "only guy" is that sometimes you find out about other guys without even digging. A friend might mention it, you might see it on social media, or she might say it/imply it. That's the problem I have. I pretend I'm the "only guy" and then when I find out I'm not, it fucks me over big time. Funny that you mention you were with a BPD chick whose n-count made you insecure. Same situation with my ex. I'm still dealing with that too. Whenever I read the horror…
/r/askTRP26/04/18 04:33 PM
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I know I wasn't this way before I found TRP. I'm undergoing a lot of changes due to reading TRP (lifting, reading, discipline, self-improvement) and I think that I'm using women as a measure of the progress I am making. It is extremely validating to me when a women notices my improvements. Furthermore, if I don't get laid for a couple days or if I don't find a new plate every few weeks I feel like complete shit. How do I do a reset and get back to how I was before? Would temporarily withdrawing …
/r/askTRP26/04/18 03:49 PM
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I hit the gym with such a seething rage last week that I wasn't watching my form and lifting way too heavy. Fucked up my shoulder and I can't lift for the next month according to my physio. What other outlet do you suggest?
/r/askTRP23/04/18 04:25 PM
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I treat every one night stand like a job interview. If you perform well, you're going to get a call back to fill the position full-time. That being said, there could be a million different reasons why a ONS doesn't turn into a plate. You might be over-analyzing here. Some girls don't like becoming a "thing" with a ONS because it reminds them of their slut behavior. If they do it just once they can hamster that it was just a "one time thing" and they're "not like that".
/r/askTRP22/04/18 07:25 PM
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I used to watch some really fucked up porn but have quit 2 months ago. I've been trying to go cold-turkey on sex and masturbation but all the advice on here says to fuck 10 girls to get over the oneitis. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 02:05 AM
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i'm starting to think that's the solution. It's definitely a self-worth issue.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 11:57 PM
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Wow, it looks like I completely misunderstood the dread game theory. I realize now that by implementing dread in a relationship that I was happy in set a toxic dynamic that turned it in to a relationship that ended up turning around and biting me in the ass. Thank you for helping me realize that.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 03:20 PM
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I'd honestly rather have my life and shit together than lay another girl.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:52 PM
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That's 100% what it is. How do I keep my ego in check while also having the confidence of chad?
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:03 AM
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Good point.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:42 PM
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That's a big part of it. I have a certain view of her and even expectations since I'm the one that took her virginity. Thanks for the pointer.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:35 PM
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can you elaborate a bit on the NRE? Is that an acronym New Relationship Energy? How does that make it impossible?
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:32 PM
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Chad is all relative. I am chad with the plates I'm spinning. What I meant is that this whole "chad" thing loses it's value when you know there's been another chad or a higher SMV chad.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:30 PM
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I guess what I meant was I don't care if it's easy for me as long as I know it's hard for everyone else. Once I know it's been easy for at least one other person, it kind of just loses its value for me. That make sense?
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:28 PM
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You definitely should not. Just wanted to point out how willing these girls are.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 11:25 PM
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Just did. I think this might be my issue right here.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 09:54 PM
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I needed that read. Thank you.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 09:50 PM
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College man. The girls will let you hit it raw too since 90% are on some form of birth control.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 09:40 PM
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Solid advice man. I appreciate this infinitely. I'll be revisiting this comment at least once a day until I've got this mentality ingrained in my brain.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 06:32 PM
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I see what you're saying. Judge the present and forget about the past. In my particular situation this happened in the past, but what if it was happening concurrently? Say she's your #1 plate and you thought you were her #1, but you find out you're actually her #2 or even #3 plate, the guy she calls when chad and brad are fucking hotter girls or have football practice. How does that not fuck with you? How can you ignore that? Do you just accept your place in her rotation, give her the best dick …
/r/askTRP05/04/18 06:22 PM
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I think this right here is the best answer in the thread so far. I would think some girls are the biggest whores for doing the same things that me and my buddies do (ONS, fucking in bar bathrooms, 20+ partners). Do I just start holding women to the same sexual standards as "one of the bros"? I feel like if I did that I would end up LTR'ing one of those re-born club sluts who swear "they don't do anal anymore" but who also happens to treat me respectfully.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 05:49 PM
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Yep, basically. That's why I'm taking this so hard. We all laugh at that guy and think he's a cuck but I've literally become that guy. There's always going to be someone that gets the same pussy easier than you, so how do you not laugh at yourself and think that you're a cuck? It's fucking with my self-worth/esteem.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 05:44 PM
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This is honestly so laughable. I have a plate who tells me about a guy who writes her letters in attempts to win her over. Meanwhile, I literally just show up to her place unannounced, fuck her, and then leave.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 05:02 PM
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That totally makes sense. When I was spinning plates for the first year I was seeing her (non-exclusively) she would give me the best sex and she would even initiate sometimes. She was the biggest slut for me. Fast forward to when we started dating, she was always available for sex but the quality declined and I had to initiate, i.e. it became less easy. I also stopped viewing her as a slut so I fucked her less roughly and eased up on the choking and slapping. How do you maintain the pre-relatio…
/r/askTRP05/04/18 04:59 PM
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Showing up late, not compromising on plans, being rude I see what you're saying though, I can work on that.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 05:16 AM
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You're definitely right, I can technically always walk away. The times that I have threatened to leave she has cried and begged me to stay. But in the end I have never left and really just rewarded her shit behavior with great make-up sex. Not my only plate, but definitely my favorite one. You're on to something with the girlfriend thing though. I think mentally I am treating her like my girlfriend via the level of time/resources I invest in her, which is why I am always reluctant to leave. Defi…
/r/askTRP13/02/18 05:07 AM
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