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| 47 | The BIGGEST fucking RED FLAG!!!This reminds me of my ZVM narc ex who had me screaming and crying hysterically trying to return to him a gun he dropped off at my home without my permission under the guise that even though we were not together he wanted to me to be “safe” from other men when I eventually started dating again. Long story short when he found out I was seeing other men again like a day later (him stalking) while I was single he asked for it back and I returned it to him immediately (I had to drive 40 minutes and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how I could have better handled this situation? I find this happens to me all too often..I have read it but I need to read it again honestly 😅 I have kinda just been busy with school work though. But now I know thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how I could have better handled this situation? I find this happens to me all too often..Update: he replied with “And maybe if you weren’t so fat I’d spend money on you “ I responded with, “I have no shortage of guys blowing money on me for my time and chasing after me. I don’t need some zero value man to give me validation. 🤷🏻♀️ “ and blocked. 😇 It’s funny how we’re all fat or ugly as soon as we reject men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how I could have better handled this situation? I find this happens to me all too often..I will do that next time lol sometimes I think it’s just fun to call them out but the step above that would to just leave them on read. Genius, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:12 PM |
| 84 | Exactly! Stop accepting zero effort and start demanding what you deserve!I talked on the phone last night with a guy from bumble who asked me why I liked older guys than me (he was 26 I’m 22 soon to be 23) I expressed I prefer slightly older men because despite me still being in school I have a preference for men who are established because they can generally and afford to treat me to nice dates. He then started laughing and said but “you’re broke, why do you deserve that? What do you have to bring to the table?” I then told him I had no shortage of men offering me t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 45 | It do be like thatIt’s so crazy to me how normal it is for men to do the bare minimum in terms of their appearance and expect women to always look and dress to the nines. I always look flawless and amazing because that’s who I am and love to be, but the amount of dates I’ve been on with men who look like they don’t deserve me is astounding. I’ll have my makeup and hair done with heels on and a beautiful dress on and a guy will be wearing khaki pants a t-shirt and some sneakers. Many of them tell me I look beautif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:51 PM |
| 138 | Never going to date a cheap man ever againI started implementing a policy for dating apps for myself that I have at least one phone call with any man I’m going to go on a date with prior to the date. Usually on said phone call I like to tell a story of a guy once asking me to go 50/50 and explain how I think that’s such a turn off and gauge their response. Most of the time the men I’ve vetted to get that far to a date also agree it’s such a LVM thing to do but one time a guy told me “hah, any guy who doesn’t do that is a simp. If we’re … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:08 PM |
| 111 | When a LVM is too cheap to buy a dessert, so he’s gotta start making up new etiquette rules. 😂😂😂I’ve been negged for finishing two tacos on a date once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:44 PM |
| 12 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeThis reminds me of the time my ZVM ex threw my $500 KitchenAid mixer down the stairs during an argument. I had saved up for so long during college to buy that stand mixer and I had always dreamed of having one ever since I was a little girl watching cooking shows. Needless to say he’s gone now and I have a new stand mixer. 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 10:56 PM |
| 48 | Women only gyms need to be normalized so that we don’t have to deal with being stared at, harassed or catcalled while trying to workout🙄🙄There’s one chain of women’s only gyms here in Texas, I’m sure is in other states as well it’s called “Curves!” Link to their website. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:45 AM |
| 10 | They try to invalidate grown women because impressing us is harder 🤷🏻♀️Lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:24 AM |
| 2 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”I am thinking we are seeing the same person because he literally said the same thing almost word per word to me... may I dm you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 03:13 AM |
| 9 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Wow that’s really insane, I kind of had a feeling he was perhaps a narc because I had just got out of a relationship with an abusive one of three years. I saw small similarities in both their characters but kind of chocked it up to nothing because my ex had explosive anger and was a rage-o-Holic. This guy was very charming, cunning, sneaky, and definitely played a “I’m a very mature guy” Role and didn’t really let me see behind the mask. All my concerns to him were nothing but mere insecurity an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 12:57 AM |
| 20 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”You know I kind of saw of the red flags but kind of ignored my intuition because I told myself I was just being insecure, he got a phone call from a woman one time when we were in bed and it was a woman he hadn’t spoken to in like two years I know this because she said it when he picked up “long time no see it’s been x amount how have you been etc” (friend from college he said) and she lived states away in NY she was talking to him and catching up and she was like, “by the way I’m single now I b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 12:43 AM |
| 24 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Yeah this is something I’m kinda noticing a trend about. This isn’t the first guy in law / law school I’ve talked to, I’m kinda noticing a pattern in inflated egos because they’re going to be lAwYeRs they feel like they can get any woman they want and have tons of benchwarmers. News flash honey: I was way out of your league and when I’m done with school I’m going to be making much more money than you will. 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:28 PM |
| 9 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Thank you! You know I had thought I was doing all the right things and was following FDS prior to this (continuing to see other men etc, trying to read actions rather than words etc.) But he caught me slipping when he made me vulnerable and invest emotionally all while he was supposedly doing the same. I thought I was reading all the right signs, he was doing zoom movie dates with me, getting me gifts, calling me on the phone, sending me pictures of his daily life all the time etc. Everything se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:10 PM |
| 17 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Yeah this dude really hooked me in with grand promises of what lied ahead and future faking asking me to marry him before I “changed my mind.” Etc, some real fucked up shit tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:07 PM |
| 28 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Yeah his excuse to that was because were long distance (he’s in Miami and I’m in Houston.) Initially when we started seeing eachother it was because he was in town visiting family. I took him as a joke because he didn’t even live here and he started filling my head with lies that he wanted me to move to Miami with him and it was possible to make it work. As our relationship grew stronger he pulled back suddenly and said it was too much pressure for him for things to work out for me to move there… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:50 PM |
| 40 | Literally, the audacity!I needed to read this lmfao, this guy who I was seeing who I thought was a HVM told me he didn’t have time right now for a relationship because he needs to focus on finishing law school strong (EVEN THOUGH HE SPENT MONTHS WOOING ME AND ASKING ME TO MOVE WITH HIM). Only to tell me after I was emotionally invested, “after I finish law school I would like to try this again, but right now I just don’t have the time for a relationship.” Even though he was telling me the entire time he was seeing me t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:48 AM |
| 27 | If you are serious about levelling up, you need to get comfortable with taking accountability for your actions and behavioursYES. THIS!! I realized I got my pickme tendencies because my parents were emotionally unavailable and cold. I had my basic needs met but never experienced true love from them and was very often emotionally and physically abused. When I became an adult it only became natural to enter into relationships with men who were the same and often did not respect me whatsoever. It felt in an odd way comforting because it was familiar even though it caused me so much emotional suffering. I was a people ple… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 02:06 PM |
| 2 | “wHy dOn’T wOmEn iN AbUsiVe ReLaTiOnShIpS jUsT LeAve!?!!?!”I stopped responding months ago but recently blocked his email because he started saying rude and offensive things. Should I unblock him just to keep an eye out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:02 PM |
| 42 | “wHy dOn’T wOmEn iN AbUsiVe ReLaTiOnShIpS jUsT LeAve!?!!?!”As someone who regularly gets constant emails from my abusive ex MONTHS after I left, this is so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:19 AM |
| 33 | This one is an all time low, ladies. Just sad.I literally didn’t know what that was either until recently lol to be honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:37 PM |
| 6 | My abusive ex would regularly get mad at me for talking to my friends, suspecting it was always about him and ‘lies’ about what he was like. His reactions pushed me into deeper cycles of isolation and abuse. Nothing that hurts you is sacred. Run the very first time he does anything like this.LMFAOOO MY EX SAID THIS TO ME AFTER I REACHED OUT TO HIS FAMILY TO TELL THEM WHAT HE HAD BEEN DOING TO CONTINUE TO HARASS ME AFTER WE WERE THROUGH IN AN EFFORT TO GET IT TO STOP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 07:42 PM |
| 51 | Turn down for what?This!!! I even so much as made a rule for myself that I will not speak to any man who refers to women as “females.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:49 PM |
| 95 | R/Dating Banned Me For Advising Young Women Not To Fall For Manipulation Tactics To Have Sex Early/ Without Commitment On A Woman's Post Opposing Men Expecting Sex On The Third Date (EYE ROLL)This is 100% facts to where any time I talk to a guy who is older than me and I ask if my age (22) is an issue and they say, “I usually date younger because older women are X, Y, and Z.” I run like hell out of there. That’s essentially just code for older women aren’t manipulated easily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Toxic ex sent me a “friendly” email to try to get in touch with me again. Don’t fall for it!We must’ve dated the same guy because my ex alternates between sending me emails like this and angry emails where he calls me a bitch and says I used him for self esteem. When in reality I had no self esteem entering the relationship with him and built myself up until I realized I should leave for something better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:33 PM |
| 6 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.Yeah it was tempting to link him to this reddit post lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 4 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.Yeah he was 32 and I’m 22. Usually I am open minded cause I once met a HVM who was 32 and super respectful/wonderful. But this man was a straight up creep. He took me to a decently fancy restaurant but still I didn’t order an actual dinner cause I wasn’t that hungry, I just asked him to share an app with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:23 PM |
| 24 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.I blocked him while he was still typing more bullshit to send my way 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:07 PM |
| 21 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.Yes he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:53 AM |
| 52 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.Sorry no I realize it’s a little confusing. That “I’m outside” was when I was outside the restaurant. I thought he was still in the parking lot so I was letting him know I was there. The hour that elapsed was us eating and having drinks. Shortly after we sat in his car for a bit and chatted because I didn’t wanna waste the waiters time serving us cause we had stopped ordering and were just chatting. While we were in his car listening to music and talking he suggested that I come back to his apar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:50 AM |
| 192 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.32!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 01:20 AM |
| 123 | NVM upset because I wouldn’t come over and fuck after the first date.I’m just glad I didn’t insist on going Dutch or I would be mad right now lmfaooo. Mind you this guy is a lawyer/bragged about making so much money and is complaining about buying me two drinks and an appetizer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 01:12 AM |
| 19 | Men be like: Women’s standards are too high!! They won’t even look at a guy unless he’s a 10/10!! When so many couples look like this:Shout this from the ROOftops 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Just got out a relationship with an average looking toxic “nice guy” and now am finding myself being pickier on looks/status than I was before lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 02:41 PM |
| 18 | For those of us who were in abusive relationships:Thank you for this.. My exes mom just texted me tonight and told me “I hope you’re happy with the mess you left behind. We accepted you into our family and you cut ties like we were nothing to you. It’s okay because karma will come back to you.” It really ate me up inside because she doesn’t even know the half of what I went through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:47 AM |
| 11 | Blocked LVM after trying to lure me to come over because of “corona”I used to think so as well! In fact I just got out of an abusive relationship that started off much like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 10:01 PM |
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