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| 10 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin? | throwaway2392384 | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 01:37 PM |
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| 1 | How to stand out as a mediocre guy?I invest quite a bit of money and time into my wardrobe. Though while I am fashionable, I probably don't have my own style. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | How to stand out as a mediocre guy?I have a PhD in molecular biology. In contrast to engineering, the biomedical sciences have a much more balanced gender ratio. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/02/23 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Why isn’t it working?"If you are really such an awesome guy, why is nobody attracted to you?" | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Why isn’t it working?When I was in my early 20s, I took the comments pretty much at face value. I thought: "Well, it didn't work out this time but you are still are pretty awesome guy". But now at 35, it is hard to not second guess yourself. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/07/22 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Being a nerd is bad?Scientist here. Being interested in science and being passionate about science is good. Being a scientist is bad: nobody want's a 35 year old who works 60 hours per week for barely more than minimum wage. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Turned 30 recently and still 0 experience with womenthey've giving you positive attention / conversation then you can go for it I do believe that is the biggest issue. Most people don't get positive attention. I certainly never had (unless you consider just talking to me positive attention). | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Turned 30 recently and still 0 experience with womenAre you talking about cold approaching? I though people are advising against that. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/07/22 04:28 PM |
| 6 | what can we do to pull men out of / deter men from the redpill?When it comes to adressing people's problems, you should either (1) help people solve their problems, or (2) at least validate their problems. The redpill does (2), which is inherently appealing to many men because talking about their dating problems is anathema in many other communities. I believe that a large majority of redpillers are pragmatic enough to be not married to the ideology. These man are looking for positive changes in their lives. Show them something that works and they will easi… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/22 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsMy mistake. Edited it. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsThese men would be punishing women for not valuing them for something they didn't have yet when the women didn't value it yet. In my opinion, the word "punishing" implies a certain degree of entitlement. Not wanting to date you is not a punishment. It would be completely reasonable for these men to date someone younger if they are so inclined. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsYou seem to assume that everybody who struggles financially is working in some low skill field or is financially irresponsible. The problem is simply that many jobs are seriously underpaid. I made 50k as a PhD-level cancer researcher until I ditched academia. And even making 200k now, I struggle to live a middle class lifestyle in most biotech hubs. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/07/22 12:35 AM |
| 22 | Women In Their 30's Aren't Lowering Their StandardsSo when a young guy in his 20s is a incel or blackpilled, or starting the red pill, etc. they often worry that women will only be interested in them once they've established themselves and the women have hit "the wall." They worry that they will be a afterthought choice for women who have aged out of better choices. Second choices aren't always worse choices. Sometimes early choices are mistakes. Some people get lucky with their early partners. They happen into great partners. Others have to lea… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/22 04:33 PM |
| 5 | i have gotten to the conclusion that blackpill and inceldom are not an universal reality but a mindset3 improve your image, wash your hair, clean your fingertips, go to thegym, use creams, use a good perfume, a good, deodorant and wear well. I don't understand why it is always assumed that incels lack in that department. Maybe besides the gym which is outside many people's control. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/07/22 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Question: If BlackPill is true...This is usually not something therapists specialize on. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/22 06:48 PM |
| 6 | Question: If BlackPill is true...Most men worldwide do arrive to a stage in their lives where they get sexual and emotional connections to women if they are interested in getting them. Emphasis on most. For quite a few men, it simply never happens. When I was in my 20s, I was pretty much thinking as you were saying: I am still young and that stage will arrive eventually. It just never did. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/07/22 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Any good lifting advice or tips for a starter?Not really. Slow or nonexisting progress can be demotivating. And let's be real, many people do lift for aesthetics. I made progress in my six years of consistent lifting which other people make in half a year, and it is hard to keep going on sometimes. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/22 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Any good lifting advice or tips for a starter?More muscular != muscular. Some people end up where others start out. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/22 07:30 PM |
| 3 | Any good lifting advice or tips for a starter?Unfortunately, your progress at the gym will be to a large extent determined by physical and physiological attributes such as testosterone level. I have been working out for six years and I am not even close to muscular. Not everyone can get big. Also, our idea of muscular is very much distorted by people who take PED. Nearly every big guy you'll meet will be on the juice. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/07/22 01:57 PM |
| 12 | I'm not sure does this really count, but I saw this with title "What women are tired to hear, is what men want to hear". Is there truth to this?I get what you are saying. On the other hand, I was always pretty happy when gay guys gave me compliments. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/07/22 01:27 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Thanks! | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/22 01:44 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?I keep thinking the same. When I look into the mirror, I generally like what I am seeing. But it is hard to not second guess yourself when you didn't have success for 20 years. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/22 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Red pill gives losers like myself reassurance about women but also is a miserable hellI've been having 4-5 weekly 90 min lifting sessions for six years now. And at least 10 hrs / week of rock climbing on top of that. If anything, it made me feel worse about my body. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/07/22 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Red pill gives losers like myself reassurance about women but also is a miserable hellWorking out is overrated in my opinion. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/07/22 10:59 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?As I said elsewhere, I had more female than male friends since high school. Never been good around other men. And I had quite a few crushes of them, but this kinda interest was never reciprocated. And no, I haven't noticed any signals. What signals are you talking about? | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Do you mind explaining a little more about your social awkwardness? Could you provide specific instances where you feel as though your social interactions impeded your dating life? Have you been on any dates? Lots of small things. First of all, I am terrible with names and faces which inherently limits the size of my social network. If I met someone at a party, it will be very likely that I will not remember them the next time. I am personally approached by people who say they know me but I have… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?I like the message you give yourself, “I got that pretty much down” or “I am good the way I am." But those are conclusions I got from comparing myself to (incorrect) red pill physical standards. When it comes to other standards, I feel like I have little to offer. For example, someone in this thread was saying that being socially awkward is pretty much an instant turnoff. Or that "Women can pick up on things that you may not even realize". This is the stuff which really robs you of all hope. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 04:43 PM |
| 5 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Of course, most of my friends are girls. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 04:39 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Is it not? | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 04:09 PM |
| 4 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Hard to say since I am not sure that I am mentally ready for a long-term relationship. Which is a bit of a problem because many women my age are looking to settle down and have children. Overall, I am of course looking for shared ambitions and shared interests in life. Personality wise, I rather myself on the stoic and introverted side, so maybe someone who would balance that out a little bit. But in the end, it all comes down to chemistry and if there is chemistry, everything else is secondary. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 03:52 PM |
| 4 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Let's say you like MMA. You then join a gym and consistently go 5 times a week. What will happen is people will see your determination and passion for the activity, you will see the same people all the time, and it is only natural to get to know each other more. This can lead to friends, external events with your new friends like dinners or watching fights, etc and it snowballs from there. Interacting with people in real life consistently is critical, as living online and in your own head is not… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 03:09 PM |
| -1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?I don't know if I have autism. What I know with some certainty is that I am pretty faceblind. But this is such a weird thing to bond over. I'd rather join groups based on shared interests or shared hobbies or shared ambitions - instead of shared diseases. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Believe me, I tried to become less socially awkward, more confident and more assertive for two decades. It's just not who I am. I wasted so many nights beating myself up and feeling bad over misreading social situations, or not getting a joke, or not remembering a face, or saying awkward stuff. Guess I'd rather be myself. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 02:53 PM |
| 4 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?That's the sad truth. I am somewhat socially awkward and it is very hard to get over it. This is also the reason why I am drawn to the red pill. I feel that the picture of dating that the red pill paints is much more forgiving and affirming to men than reality. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 02:38 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Hobbies are great. I assume you have both male and female friends Always had more female than male friends. For some reason, I don't do well with other men. If I asked you the reason why you are a virgin at your age... what would your answer be? No idea. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 02:25 PM |
| 1 | What is your advice for a 35 year old virgin?Yes. Though it is more structure around hobbies now. The times where I went to bars / clubs / parties two times a week are over. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/22 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Who else used TRP to appear big in order to not feel small and insignificant?I was always kinda drawn to the red and black pills because they made me feel good about myself. In the red pill world, I should be a winner or at least be on the right way. The red pill sets a certain standard for men but I meet this standard to a large degree. Accordingly, whenever I read red pill stuff, I oftentimes think to myself: "You are pretty well off" or "You are good enough". | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/22 10:20 PM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners did men and women hace un 2021I'm a bit confused at how the data is distributed sometimes. Let's take the figure called "2021 Sexual Partners, Age 18-25" for example. For Female, we see 0% 4 Partners, 0% 11-20 Partners, 0% 21-100 Partners, but 5% 5-10 Partners. Such a high degree of variation between adjacent bins usually only occurs when the data is underpowered. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/06/22 12:58 PM |
| 1 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.After six years? Most of these numbers aren't even intermediate. I have seen so many dudes hit those numbers within one years of consistent lifting. Also, I don't look like I lift at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 02:19 PM |
| 2 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.All of my training logs are written in pen so I cannot easily share them. I am experimenting a lot since nothing really works and I am currently trying a bi-weekly periodized PPL split with reverse pyramids, and deload every six weeks: Week 1 - high reps, low weight (<=8 reps for max weight/ first set (excluding warmup), then 10% weight reduction and extra rep each set; if 8 reps without failure, weight is increased next session). Day 1 - push 1: 4 sets BB bench press - currently at 6 reps with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 02:07 PM |
| 4 | We know gym can really fix fat/skinny guys into a more attractive version, what about the rest.I've been on a variety of programs, from the obligatory 5x5 at the starts to PPL and fullbody, periodized or not. And all I realized was that I have shit genetics. There never was a bigger confidence killer than going to the gym. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 01:26 PM |
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