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Make more girl friends. Doesn’t matter if you want to pursue them or not, they just have to be in your circle. I’ve seen a lot of people say on this sub that if a girl (that you want to get) sees you with another girl (your friend possibly) it validates you as someone who is not a weirdo. Having more girl friends also makes you less likely to give disproportionate amounts of attention to another girl (putting them on a pedestal) since you’ll hopefully be used to talking to them. Once you can hav…
/r/seduction14/04/20 11:24 PM
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Depends on how close you are to them, as well as what her behavior is like around other guy friends. She may be simply physically comfortable with you and not necessarily interested.
/r/seduction05/04/20 04:20 AM
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I think the gray area can be used to your advantage. Imagine it as a fork in the road. You’ve been talking to this girl for enough that you’re not a complete stranger, but you’re also not close friends. Like you sometimes respond to her story on Snapchat or something or she’s in your project group in class. Eventually, there’s a point where you either make a move which can get her to see you differently if she finds you attractive and now she’s in bed with you, or you don’t make a move, continue…
/r/seduction19/03/20 02:24 AM
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Yeah the way I do it is say something witty or even just something relevant to the story and myself, wait for the reply, and continue the conversation from there. I don’t try to direct it anywhere but I’m sure if I wanted to I could. Honestly the reply doesn’t even have to be witty, just relevant but open to further discussion. Like I saw a picture of some tv show she was watching on her story, and I replied asking what season she was on since I watch that show too.
/r/seduction09/03/20 06:07 AM
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If she posts something on her story, maybe swipe up on it and say something witty regarding the story. I’ve done that with a couple of the girls I follow on Insta but haven’t met in person (but we go to the same college). I’m not trying to get with them, more so just trying to talk to new people.
/r/seduction09/03/20 06:01 AM
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Even if she does stalk your Facebook she’s still going to want to learn about you from you in person. Like if you bring something up that she saw on your Facebook, she’s not gonna be like “Oh yeah I saw that on your FB” unless you posted that after you accepted her request. So just accept it, it won’t hurt.
/r/seduction07/02/20 08:50 PM
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I think your actions on the date matter more than what you label it to be. Spending time can be spending time, but what you do with her (and to her) is what determines the tone of your relationship, not what you label it. The best way I think is to be super casual and ambiguous like “hey, you should join me to do X on Y” and then let your actions at X on Y do the talking.
/r/seduction31/01/20 07:10 AM
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“What’s your opinion on Instagram accounts for dogs?” (or anything else that’s not serious). She’ll say something about dogs. You ask her if she has a dog.
/r/seduction29/01/20 07:33 PM
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The next step should be seeing her in person again. Don’t be her texting buddy obviously so use texting to invite her to do something with you. I was a texting buddy to a girl once and it reserved me a spot in the friend zone. You don’t need to label your hang out anything to her, your actions are more important. Don’t stick in one spot for too long because it might get boring. Explore a bit with her, and ease into getting physical with her.
/r/seduction29/01/20 05:09 AM
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That’s pretty good. The only step up would be knowing what action makes her feel the way you want her to feel (happy, sensual, etc) and still maintaining and aura of spontaneity and “it just happened”
/r/seduction24/01/20 04:24 AM
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Yeah common interests is good. Humor is pretty good too.
/r/seduction24/01/20 04:14 AM
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To answer Q1, if you’re vibin’ with a girl then you’re basically in tune with her signals and can effortlessly say the right things to get the reaction you want, and you know what she’ll want to do next and you’ll take a leadership role in taking her there. Conversation flows naturally even when you’re employing seduction stuff.
/r/seduction24/01/20 04:04 AM
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Even if you’re driving you can still keep some conversation going. Obviously you can’t be very physical while you’re driving but you can still talk, maybe about music or something.
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:34 PM
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Another thing I’ve seen mentioned on this subreddit is that going to different locations makes it feel like you’re going on multiple dates with her, and that opens her up more to your advances.
/r/seduction22/01/20 06:16 AM
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I think spontaneity is a great thing for getting people more interested in doing stuff together. I know this subreddit is about non-platonic relationships but I guess I had a similar experience with a friend (she’s a girl I’m a guy). We were texting each other about when to meet up again before college and initially the plan was to just get lunch. I (told her) wanted to hang out more but she wanted to spend time with her parents, so I thought we would just do lunch. So we met up at the restauran…
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:41 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/cr9ayl/my_girlfriend_reacting_to_my_game/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I remember reading this a while back, it may help you.
/r/seduction21/01/20 02:37 PM
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Haha maybe he knew her? Like from work or something? I can definitely make my girl friends laugh in a few words.
/r/seduction08/01/20 03:34 AM
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The photos of yourself part is great. I talk a lot with girls by sending Snaps of myself/surroundings with captions. It’s a great way to have something (in the background) to talk about, and you get the bonus of facial expressions. All without the downside of video chatting which is staring at each other until someone figures out something to say.
/r/seduction02/01/20 01:58 AM
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I’m definitely more touchy with girls than with guys, but that’s just because I really only hug my guy friends if I haven’t seen them in a while. I think what I do is match the level of touchiness that the other person is. The friend in this post is very touchy, so I know what her comfort level is. As long as the touching isn’t extremely awkward, and she is comfortable with your close presence and touches, she won’t have a problem. Especially not if your conversation can keep her smiling and lau…
/r/seduction01/01/20 08:48 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction01/01/20 08:42 PM
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Ah ok my bad.
/r/seduction01/01/20 02:31 PM
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I’m not protective of her at all. The closest thing would be reaching out to her if she sends a concerning message or something, and she appreciates it when I do that. But I never force her to do something with me, nor do I spend all my time with her.
/r/seduction01/01/20 03:30 AM
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It took me a good 5 years to learn that.
/r/seduction01/01/20 03:26 AM
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I swear I didn’t pay them.
/r/seduction01/01/20 12:35 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction01/01/20 12:35 AM
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Yeah I know that’s going to happen at some point, but we don’t see each other often and I don’t text her everyday or anything either. I’m rejecting the more sexual advice here because I know it won’t work. For now I’m just working on myself and trying to make myself attractive in general. My sights are more set on another girl I graduated with, but really only for a summer fling. The timing is not right for me and the girl I’m friends with. I’m not going to make any real moves until I know I hav…
/r/seduction31/12/19 11:59 PM
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Yeah, that was kinda my intention haha. It’s subtle enough that it can be masked by the fact that it makes sense to whisper since we’re in a theater, but it’s still a “hot” action nonetheless.
/r/seduction31/12/19 10:39 PM
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If she didn’t like it or was creeped out by it, there were plenty of chances for her to stop me and/or cut off contact. And she’s done that before, so I’m aware of her capabilities in that department. You’ve read through the comments, so you’ll have read that her reaction has been the exact opposite: she’s smiling, laughing, continuing the conversation, and we’re hanging out again this week before I head back for college.
/r/seduction31/12/19 07:13 PM
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Yeah I don’t do any flirting while also doing the touching. And honestly some of the trust comes from the fact that she’s known me for a while. But I’ve also improved my physical appearance a lot. I’m not super attractive now or anything, but a lot of people are saying I look much better now than I did last year.
/r/seduction31/12/19 07:10 PM
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What do you mean by “actual man”
/r/seduction31/12/19 06:20 PM
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Yeah I do hug my bros but not as frequently. Like the girl who I was hanging out with, she hugs me and others on the daily or whenever we see each other. With guys it’s normally only if we haven’t seen each other in a while, but it still happens.
/r/seduction31/12/19 05:58 PM
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I definitely will. I enjoy using this Reddit account as a sort of journal for relationship stuff. Happy New Year to you again.
/r/seduction31/12/19 04:23 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction31/12/19 04:12 PM
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Good video. When he talked about touching her and making conversation about the part of her that he was touching is a good play, since it’s natural. It’s a more escalated version of the “compare hand sizes so we can interlock fingers” deal.
/r/seduction31/12/19 04:09 PM
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Nah she has a boyfriend at college which is why I’m never going to go further than hugging and whatever this is, unless we’re both single at the same time. But my point still stands, which is that she’s had multiple chances to stop me from going further but she never has, because she enjoys it too.
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:37 PM
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If I’m gonna be successful in any aspect of my life I still have to be confident, and I think I’m finally on the right path to do so.
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:25 PM
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Yeah I definitely will. I’m tired of being “just friends” with every girl I meet. I haven’t even gotten to first base in my life. Part of my resolution is also to work out more, mainly because I still have some stomach flab that I want to get rid off before the end of the semester.
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:16 PM
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If I was putting off weirdo vibes, she would definitely have cut me off. A few months ago she cut me off when she found out I liked her. We had a nice long conversation about it and another topic that was more pertinent, but we became friends again. But she’s not doing anything of the sort. She’s smiling, laughing, and enjoying herself whether or not I pull these moves on her. And we’re hanging out alone again in the new year because I’m going back to college within the week (we go to colleges 1…
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:13 PM
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Nice to hear you’ve been improving too! 2020 will be good to us.
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:08 PM
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She has complained to me multiple times when it’s just the two of us that she doesn’t like always being treated like a guy, especially when she’s with the group. If treating her like a woman because she is woman makes her more feel comfortable, then I will treat her like a woman. Just because she’s a friend doesn’t mean I have to completely disregard the fact that she’s a woman too. And if she didn’t want me touching her that way, she wouldn’t be smiling and laughing whilst also talking to me, a…
/r/seduction31/12/19 01:42 PM
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Not right now. We go to colleges 1000 miles apart, and she has a boyfriend. Yeah call me an asshole for doing this but she’s also way more touchy with everyone in general. We were also hanging out with other friends, which is why we were walking to the correct movie theater. She has also told me multiple times that she wants to be in my life for as long as possible, which is why we frequently talk about our education and career goals. But I’m not waiting for her or anything. This is just practic…
/r/seduction31/12/19 01:27 PM
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This girl is a part of my friend group which is already mostly guys so there’s enough bro time already for her. She’s way more physical than me (she’s the one who would hug me when I wasn’t confident enough). For conversation, we talk about things we’re both interested in, and that doesn’t differ from what I talk about with the boys.
/r/seduction31/12/19 01:17 PM
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Look, you need to put effort in somewhere that isn’t sobbing about it on the internet to me. Take advantage of opportunities involving girls that are already in your life, or are at an arms reach. You don’t have to date or fuck them, but you need to get used to talking to them and being around them. That was my first step, and now I’m so much more comfortable around girls, even complete strangers.
/r/seduction31/12/19 06:25 AM
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I can’t actually push for anything more sexual because she has a boyfriend at college. But we’re close friends, and I did have a thing for her before college (kinda still do, don’t shit on me), so I’m just testing light seduction advice on her because she’s in my comfort zone. I do have another (single) very cute friend that I’m dying to try all this out with and maybe start a FWB thing, but I won’t see her until May. So I’m just gonna work on my game at college with girls in my classes, if I ma…
/r/seduction31/12/19 06:20 AM
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I’m nothing close to a chad. The only thing I had going for me for years was just intelligence, which isn’t enough to win over girls as I learned. Until my high school graduation 6 months ago, I only hugged one girl in school. So hugs have only been a part of my life in recent times, and only when I’m on breaks. I’ve also been overweight for as long as I can remember, which ruined my confidence and made it impossible to get girls. But I made changes over my first semester at college. I lost abou…
/r/seduction31/12/19 06:16 AM
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Ah ok. I do use texting to meetup with her but today we were both busy and she was replying to some of my Snaps so I was replying back. And I was just being playful with this innuendo and wanted to figure out why she stopped responding if had to do with butt jokes. The last joke was just about me being a butt guy lol.
/r/seduction29/12/19 03:39 AM
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So in this case, since I’m not replying to her (I’m busy with other stuff), that would be me PUSHing her away. But that still doesn’t answer my question of how far I should pull or continue pulling. Unless it’s that I should just reply with something normal, but then I would be double texting her.
/r/seduction29/12/19 03:21 AM
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Can you explain push/pull to me?
/r/seduction29/12/19 02:53 AM
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I agree. This is just some of my two cents based off what I’ve learned and my small list of experiences. Being nice gets you friends. If you define being nice as not showing your asshole side, then if you want to be more than friends you have to show who you are beyond your nice side, which may include some of your assholery. That doesn’t mean be a complete asshole to them, but making them do double takes when you say or do something is what keeps them excited about you, and wanting to figure yo…
/r/seduction29/12/19 02:24 AM
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Yep, yep, and yep. Making her laugh is easy money for me, it’s just the more seduction side of things that I’m still working on. But I hope to improve in that department as well as others. Thanks for the advice!
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:23 AM
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Oops, I deleted the post, but yeah I‘m not planning on moving fast. To me, that means no sex on the first date (I’m also a virgin). We’ll just do something fun that’ll make her want to see me again. I’ve flirted with her in the past, and while it wasn’t bad it also wasn’t great (in terms of quality). The main thing I need to work on is my game I think, that to just the wit and the kino. Physical attraction isn’t a problem since she said I looked good (something many people have been saying since…
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:16 AM
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The more you post this the uglier your face gets
/r/seduction28/12/19 02:33 AM
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Got it, no holding hands. Also, our plans kinda changed just now. I won't be picking her up since she needs to run errands after, which makes some of the stuff you suggested I do that don't involve talking/eye contact a little harder to work in. We're going to meet in the parking lot so maybe while we're walking I could hold her waist or something. The errands also mess up going to the mall but I'll see if its still possible. But lunch is still the same so I'll have some stuff to work with there…
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:57 PM
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I’m going to establish at least basic physical contact by hugging her when I first see her. Then when we’re walking or wherever I’ll start by just walking really close to her, so that at least our arms are touching. If she doesn’t move away from me, I’ll take it a small step further by putting my arm on her waist or something. Actually, I might be able to start that right off the bat by opening the car door for her and kinda holding my right arm out in line with my back so that she walks in fron…
/r/seduction26/12/19 04:41 AM
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I really liked the “You look different” line so I’m definitely going to use it. For physical stuff I mean I’m obviously going to hug her when I see her, but I’m not used to doing other kinds of physical contact. I feel like I could test the waters by just getting really close with her when we’re walking. And I guess the benefit of going to the mall after lunch is that if she’s responsive to what I’m doing before then, there’s a better chance of getting to hand -holding I guess. Speaking of hand-…
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:59 AM
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Ok I see what you mean. It’s also not too far off from my personality when I’m with closer friends, so I feel like I could at something well-timed and witty that establishes the kind of dynamic I’m looking for. Thanks for the advice!
/r/seduction26/12/19 12:01 AM
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Yeah I see where my thought process is flawed. I do tend to overthink and imagine stuff a lot. Also I’ve never done this and I’m still working on my confidence which is why I am worried about stepping out of both of our comfort zones. When I said “too risky”, I was thinking along the lines of stuff that is overly sexual and would most likely get a negative response. Stuff like “I want to eat you out”, which people on this sub have non-jokingly told me to say. That said, the advice you gave is ex…
/r/seduction25/12/19 11:58 PM
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Lmao I’ve been doing martial arts for the past several years but I don’t have the stature to back it up. But if you’re saying “carry yourself more confidently” I’ve been working on that and I think I’ve improved in that area. I guess I should specify things like physical contact and the type of things to say that produce the vibe I’m looking for.
/r/seduction25/12/19 11:31 PM
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I’ve never dated or done anything of the sort but I’d probably react the same way initially if a girl said this to me; just leave because she clearly wants some time to herself.
/r/seduction16/11/19 03:25 AM
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I’ve seen many posts in this sub about guys using seduction techniques on their girlfriends and it made their relationship better in many ways, so I don’t think “beta nice guys” win long term. It’s definitely more of a hybrid role in healthy relationships, where they are both supportive/sweet (“beta” side) and seductive/romantic (“alpha” side). Even then, obviously the man supports his woman but I think it also goes both ways (or at least it should) rather than just one way. The relationship mig…
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:32 AM
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Yeah I definitely feel that way. I’ve only been to one house party, but one of my fantasies is hooking up with some girl at a party/shortly after, and not necessarily as a one night stand. It’s just that whole craziness and intensity of attraction that makes it appealing to me. But my overarching desire is companionship and cuddling and an actual relationship rather than just a hookup. Even though I’m very logical normally, I feel like I do have an emotional side that I’d like to get in touch wi…
/r/seduction12/11/19 01:38 AM
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Thanks. We’re part of the same friend group back home and we’re all going to be seeing each other again for winter break, so I can’t really burn bridges, but I can be a bit more distant, which is understandable since we’re all making new friends at college.
/r/seduction04/11/19 12:08 AM
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That’s the “strategy” I’m using with the girl I like. Since we’re both at colleges 1000 miles apart there’s no point in pursuing. Besides, she’s already pursuing guys there, and I’m working on myself so I can pursue girls here. When college started we used to talk maybe every other day but when she got into something with a guy I shut that down and we talk at most once a week for barely any time, and that’s helping me get over her at least. I guess I’m treating college almost like a “hard reset”…
/r/seduction03/11/19 05:34 PM
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That’s what I’m working on. My weight is technically fine but I need more muscle and less fat. I tried running a mile every day this past week but honestly I walk so much in college that I can easily get my “run” in by walking 6 times as much at half the speed I run. I just need to do more weights and calisthenics.
/r/seduction21/10/19 09:02 PM
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Confidence in myself. I don't feel physically attractive, so I know that girls won't find me physically attractive either.
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:26 PM
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Sorry for wasting your time with all this side plot. I really appreciate the advice, so I’ll take that to heart. I’m not even going to bother with the other girl until I’m at a place where I know it can lead somewhere. I’m only wary about burning bridges because I’ve done it in the past and the pain from losing a friend hurts a lot more than losing an interest, not to mention that she’s in our friend group and burning a bridge with her would make things worse.
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:03 PM
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Honestly, I don’t even feel pain or insecurity from her anymore and that’s basically all because of distance. We still talk but it’s just chit chat and jokes at this point, nothing to do with emotional stuff. She isn’t the person for me right now so that’s why I’m not even bothering with escalating that (nor should I). There’s plenty of cute girls on campus so really that (and all the much better looking guys) is what motivates me to get better. I’m not ready to date right now not because of her…
/r/seduction12/10/19 03:17 PM
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Yeah I understand hence I'm trying to do stuff like this post. I'm in a pickle because I still have some feelings, but I also don't want to burn a bridge and go NC just to get rid of them. But even if she did want to date me right now I wouldn't want to do an LDR, so there's really no point in thinking about her. She gets a shit ton of male attention from the guys in her residence hall anyways (not that she's dating any one of them), but I still mean a little bit more to her because we've known …
/r/seduction12/10/19 01:24 PM
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Oh that was a neg? Ah well thanks anyways haha. For that specific girl though I’ve been her friend for a few months (acquaintances for a few years), liked her but she didn’t feel the same way. So I guess that can’t go anywhere in the future, as much as I hope it’s possible with effort (I have a massive crush but distance is helping). Unless it can?
/r/seduction11/10/19 11:00 PM
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Thanks. I just want to get better at stepping out of my comfort zone and actually talking to a girl I don’t know.
/r/seduction11/10/19 06:19 AM
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I understand that but we're also not together right now. Just because she's my #1 priority doesn't mean I'm hers. I have to do things that make her want to do things for me in return. Don't you think a wife has to contribute to a marriage as much as the husband has to?
/r/seduction10/10/19 08:17 PM
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I get that it's a primal urge but like I told the other guy, she seems to like me for who I am right now, and I don't want to drive her away by acting like someone I'm not. I will work on being more physical though since that's something I want to do more of in general.
/r/seduction10/10/19 08:14 PM
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She seems to like me for who I am right now and while I do want to improve myself I also don't want to drive her away because I start acting like a pimp. I'm definitely going to be more confident because that's what attracts girls, but asking to go down on her seems like a bad time for me (I'm not attractive enough to say that off the bat).
/r/seduction10/10/19 08:12 PM
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I don't shower girls with compliments, so I'm doing that right. I feel like I'm getting better at timing though. Today I was FaceTiming a friend at a different college and she was saying how her hair looks messy and I said something like "it looks natural" (wasn't trying to compliment just talking) and she still liked it so I guess it wasn't too bad.
/r/seduction10/10/19 08:09 PM
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Yeah I don't understand what's beta about a compliment. It's not even something super deep like "you have beautiful eyes" she clearly made a choice to get that second piercing so if someone says it looks nice she'll be happy that other people like it.
/r/seduction10/10/19 07:58 PM
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I'm not going to worship a girl, if that's what you're suggesting. The kind relationship I want with a girl is one where we're both putting effort into making the other party happy. That's what a meaningful long term relationship looks like to me. Obviously if she needs help with something I will help her but I'm also not going to be on her beck and call to do everything for her.
/r/seduction10/10/19 07:57 PM
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I never tease to make a girl feel bad about herself. My goal in teasing is to make her laugh and say something like "stop itttttt" because it clearly shows that she's enjoying it. But in order to figure out my boundaries in terms of teasing, that's why I also want to establish who I am with a girl before I start teasing. I haven't done much in terms of teasing but the first example that comes to mind is when I teased a friend about her thumb being abnormally large (the pic she sent had a weird a…
/r/seduction10/10/19 07:52 PM
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Yeah I’m going to get some kind of contact information the next time I see her. I don’t see her outside of class since she lives on the other side of campus, and we have different majors.
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:24 PM
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Yeah I’m still trying to figure out college so I don’t want to get in a relationship right now so I’m just trying to expand my network and what not. Maybe it will become a relationship, maybe it won’t.
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:22 PM
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Yeah thankfully I asked for a replacement since the first one broke and they sent me one. I actually walked with this girl because I was heading to the post office to pick up the replacement. But it’s useless since I have 2 more of the better ones left.
/r/seduction10/10/19 04:18 PM
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Great read. I do want to be that guy, but another part of that same fantasy she may have is the appearance of that guy. I’m only 5’8” and while I’m mostly secure about that, even if I managed to get jacked I’m still not going to be the same as a 6’ tall guy that’s also jacked. Still though, I am going to work on my confidence, and part of that is working out more so that I’m more confident in my appearance. I can’t mold myself to anyone’s fantasy but my own, and this is part of that. As for lett…
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:49 AM
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I’m going to ask her for her Snapchat or number the next time I see her, which will unfortunately be next week since she lives on the other side of campus, we have no more common classes this week, and fall break is this weekend.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:22 AM
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That’s the plan. I also don’t feel ready to date because I’m still figuring out college and I want to focus on school before relationships. I just want to make connections and maybe in the future the connections may yield someone to get in a relationship with. I’m not super keen on hookups since I want to experience an actual relationship for the first time rather than just some one time thing.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:21 AM
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I’ve definitely stopped putting girls on pedestals. The only reason I’m focused more on this girl is just because she seems the easiest to approach and talk with based on how she responds to me when we make eye contact. There are other girls and I see them about as often as I see this girl, which is not that often. I actually only recently started posting on this subreddit. I was more in dating_advice or relationship_advice since before college I only focused on one girl at a time. Now that I kn…
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:19 AM
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Honestly I’m a better listener than a speaker since I’m on the introverted side and I don’t like talking. I do need to be less introverted and also start asking better questions that lead to more interesting conversations. As for how she acts around me, she does the whole smiling at me thing a lot more with me than the other guys in my class. I don’t see her a whole lot outside class so I’m going to try to get a Snapchat or phone number from her when I see her.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:15 AM
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Yeah I know I’m talking to more people.
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:53 AM
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I mean I don’t exactly see her around (different majors, dorms on opposite sides of campus). And class is cancelled for Friday so I’m not seeing her until like next week. I really don’t want to rush things because I’m still getting used to new routines, especially studying a lot more than I currently am.
/r/seduction09/10/19 11:45 PM
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Yeah I definitely kept eye contact in class when she was smiling (I was smiling back too). I can’t really keep eye contact while walking but occasionally I did turn my head to look at her. The teasing part is another thing I still have to get comfortable with. I can tease girl friends I’ve known for a while but I’m still getting comfortable with holding conversation with a girl I barely know.
/r/seduction09/10/19 11:02 PM
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Yeah I’ve done a little bit of that but I’m trying to start using the rowing machine since I’ve read it also helps with muscle development.
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:21 PM
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Thanks, yeah I’m working on just being a little more fit so I feel more confident in my body. I’ve already some lost weight and everyone who knew me before says I look skinnier now, but I still have some stomach fat I want to get rid of, and I want to build more muscle. I’ll probably start using the rowing machines to do both. Otherwise I keep myself groomed, and I don’t smell bad either.
/r/seduction06/10/19 02:25 AM
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Yeah that’s what my plan is. There’s a cute girl in my English class that I’d like to get to know better so I’ll sit next to her and talk to her more. I go to school events but there’s just a lot of people and I go with my friends (all guys) as do the girls so it’s hard to just go up to one girl.
/r/seduction06/10/19 02:22 AM
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Thanks. I’m trying to work on that by just talking to girls in my smaller classes at college. There’s a cute girl in my English class that I’d love to get to know more, so I’ll just try talking to her in class. And she’s one of the girls that isn’t indifferent to me, so that’s a bonus there. After that I’ll spread to some of my larger classes, maybe also girls in dining halls that are sitting by themselves or something.
/r/seduction06/10/19 02:20 AM
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Ok so like what should I do to throw some tension into the mix? I’ve never dated or kissed a girl so I’m pretty inexperienced here.
/r/seduction04/10/19 06:11 AM
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If you have a vibe that she likes, then she’ll want to keep talking to you.
/r/seduction04/10/19 02:27 AM
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That’s a lot better than my idea. Thanks!
/r/seduction26/09/19 05:46 PM
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Depending on how much in advance you ask her to homecoming, you should hang out with her alone a few times so the dance (especially slow dancing) isn’t awkward. If you guys are doing well and the dance goes smoothly, make a move when the dance is winding down. That could be going for a kiss or just asking her out on an actual date.
/r/seduction24/09/19 05:42 AM
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There’s texting a good amount (more than just making plans) but then there’s texting every day. Girls get bored if you’re just asking them how their day was. Like you said, you want to make them laugh, which I agree with. But how are you gonna make them laugh if you’re asking about their day? From my experience, my female friends have been most responsive over text if we are having a deep and meaningful conversation or if we’re both making jokes and laughing a lot. Yesterday I had an hour long c…
/r/seduction21/09/19 02:53 AM
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I have noticed one thing, which is that for most girls I’ve become friends with, it’s always been through another guy. Yeah I’ve made friends with other girls through some girl, but I became friends with that some girl through a guy. Only exception had probably been one pretty extroverted girl that made me her friend before she became mine I guess. So I still have a ways to go, but at least now I’m starting to get a bit more comfortable. Maybe soon I can start talking to girls that I meet myself
/r/seduction19/09/19 05:06 AM
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I think she kinda has to know the type of person you actually are before you alter that image by teasing her or whatever. Example: I’ve never dated this girl (or any girl) but she and I were a little more than acquaintances at this point. We were snapchatting at night and then she sent me a pic with her thumbs up. I teased her by saying “your thumb looks huge lol” or something like that. She definitely interpreted it as a joke/tease and later on she still kept teasing me about that and bringing …
/r/seduction16/09/19 12:16 AM
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She can’t tell if you left her on read in iMessage or SMS unless you have read receipts on.
/r/seduction14/09/19 07:50 PM
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Reminds me of the post yesterday about a guy wanting to date a girl at his coworking space. People at coworking spaces have no professional relation with each other. It’s literally like dating someone who lives in your apartment building but is on a completely different floor. But those guys just love typing “don’t shit where you eat” the second they see “girl” and “work”. Like yeah it’s a good idea but everyone’s scenario is a little different from each other’s.
/r/seduction13/09/19 08:38 PM
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Yeah it should be 50/50 so that she doesn’t have to carry the entire conversation.
/r/seduction11/09/19 12:06 AM
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And I think the context of her organizing a meet up with you puts the odds more in your favor.
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:38 PM
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I mean I get what the other guy said that she’s looking for attention but if that was the case she’s probably also told other people. If you know you’re the only person who knows then I would think that’s a signal.
/r/seduction04/09/19 03:19 AM
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Yup, realized this when I posted to another sub. I’ve decided I’m not going to the party. To quote myself: Fuck it I think there’s a theme (event is called “Space Jam”) and everything and I really don’t have time to bother with this, not gonna go especially if there’s a stupid requirement like this. I’m not that low. If I’m gonna go to a party, I’m going to it on my terms. And this party doesn’t seem like that. So I’m just gonna work on myself, be more social, and that, not girls, will get me in…
/r/seduction03/09/19 04:28 PM
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Yeah I think what I'll do is get breakfast and try to sit with some girls or something and just introduce myself. I'd like to think I'm average looking to the point where they'd actually want to talk to me.
/r/seduction03/09/19 04:56 AM
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How can I tell if they want to be approached? Like I kinda don't want to bother a girl that is trying to get work done; I'm not attractive enough to win that kind of uphill battle for attention.
/r/seduction03/09/19 04:47 AM
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Lmao I was hanging out with my boys today and getting into parties came up, that was one of the plans mentioned. But yeah I'm going to try to at least talk to more girls. I don't have many classes tomorrow to get that chance so lounge areas/dining halls are probably a better option, but on Wednesday/Friday I have more classes with more girls and therefore more opportunities to talk.
/r/seduction03/09/19 04:31 AM
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I am working on stuff that I want to change about myself, mainly just being more fit (therefore physical attraction) and being more social, and this challenge that I've taken on is definitely more on the latter side. The classes I have tomorrow don't have girls in them (or at least not freshman girls) so I think my best chance will be in lounge areas and dining halls. Only problem is people might be busy, so I'll have to work with that.
/r/seduction03/09/19 04:26 AM
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Cool. I’m probably going to see her again when I come home for Thanksgiving or winter break but I’m still not gonna pursue her. I probably won’t have changed so much that she will want to pursue me, but that’s the end goal honestly.
/r/seduction02/09/19 02:58 PM
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Good news is she still likes you if she was teasing you about it afterwards. Just take things a bit slower with her.
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:35 AM
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I’m the same way, but it’s just a matter of confidence. Being nice is important, but girls are attracted to confidence (as well as looks obviously). And it’s definitely possible to be kind, confident, and good-looking. I haven’t reached that stage myself but I’m working on it.
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:30 AM
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I don’t have anything to offer but I’m literally in the same place as you right now. The girl I had a crush on told me that she had feelings for someone else for a long time when she found out I liked her. Now, I’m trying to become a better guy overall so that I don’t run into the same problem at college. I really want to be more social and physically attractive. I’ve started walking a lot more (at least 7 miles per day) in order to lose weight, but I still haven’t become more social, at least w…
/r/seduction31/08/19 05:36 AM
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Yeah I mean it’s possible to convey a playful tone through text, especially if you use emojis. But I’d personally never use lines like these. However I do tease in order to get a more “animated” reaction which generally improves conversation. The “you’re not that boring” seems a bit pushy so I’d probably say something that’s a little more lighthearted and “memey” but has the same intent, like “spill the tea”
/r/seduction23/08/19 02:47 AM
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What kind of furniture? Also a lot of the girls I know love IKEA so your girl probably enjoy doing this. Maybe cook/order food afterwards?
/r/seduction22/08/19 02:45 PM
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I think that if the sides are swapped then the girl is still putting effort into the conversation, which is what this strategy is trying to achieve. The only “counter” would be to maintain the energy in the conversation.
/r/seduction20/08/19 04:04 AM
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I feel like “strike one” seems a bit too harsh whereas “you’re not that boring” is more playful, which I think works better. I’m a guy but if I got a message saying “strike one” I’d get kinda disinterested.
/r/seduction20/08/19 02:09 AM
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Sorry, now I look stupid. I'll just delete my comment, it should leave the actual response you wanted.
/r/seduction17/05/19 01:36 AM
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