I don't want to relive middle school. I was sexually abused. Puberty was rough. Nothing has ever been that intense. You treat it like it was some baby shit but I saw some thing that took over 15 years to heal from.
And what if he has been trying since middle school to get a job but for whatever reason no one will hire him and his social anxiety prevents him from leaving the house?
He wanted a job since middle school but all the online application emails were rejections. This rejection left him in a pit of complete and total depression. He stopped caring and felt too old to get a job and get a romantic relationship and just cut himself off from the world. His parents pay for everything but are always condescending towards him since he was little. They made the "age appropriate" time but he needed a little more time and then got depressed and avoided it. He has had driving …
In reality, the brain doesn't fully develop until a person reaches their 40s and it is highly dependent on what they do. Male or female? Different ages. Active or passive? Different ages. Remember the game "brain age?" Well somewhat like that but for routines, habits, and social interactions. The way people bring that study up is basically moving the goal posts. Do you want the age of consent to be changed to 25? How about age 40? Should we have a license for brain age that we must test every 5 …
He got a bad concussion / head injury at around 18 and so from 18 to like 23/24 he had zero libido. Zero motivation. The only motivation ended up being semi-bad addictive ones. Also fearful of speaking with women in general. And he grew up in a hoarding home and was home schooled. Piles and piles of junk. It is still a messy house to this day.
It is hard to have friends if you don't talk with anyone. Ever. And were home-schooled. In a hoarding home. Never slept on a bed or ate on a table. Never had a childhood.
Yes, your posts are pretty pointless. Just "men bad, women queens" type energy. You make a lot of assumptions too. It seems like you need to take your own advice to be honest. If he asked out every woman over the age of 18 out on a date, eventually one hottie would say yes. It is just a numbers game.
I still don't think you understand. All he has to do is leave his house and people will find him attractive. I have see it happen. But because of covid and other issues, he has been isolated away from people for years now. He went out to get the mail and someone walking her dog started flirting with him. It makes no sense. If you were a person in cast away (the movie), alone in your own world, it actually is relevant to go out and talk to people. But like cast away, the island is alone and isola…
Forever alone women aren't happy alone though. They wouldn't say "forever alone." That's a unique title for someone who is unhappy. They are also probably ugly and inexperienced as a general rule. Both are in a similar lifestyle position.
That's true. So yes, basically the entire time is feeling a sensation of pointlessness and doom and gloom and just avoiding life because there is no point. Straight men with a sex drive need women more than straight women with a sex drive need men. I think it is by design but I am not sure the purpose at the moment.
A forever alone woman can probably still attract someone better looking and more experienced than someone unattractive and quite frankly, nothing to offer sexually. Not really. They are in the same position as a forever alone male.
First, why would anyone want to date someone who is repulsive? Second, everyone wants someone who is hot for as little effort as possible. That's why porn is an issue. Third, even unattractive women have high standards. Even "hot" women have "unconventional standards." There are no "leagues." And lastly, he just needs to work on his social life. Not really "30 years" of no hot women. More like "socially isolated for the last 25 years." He is 6'2", 170 pounds, good skin quality, good hair. Just n…
The human brain doesn't even develop fully until 25 which just means that you are still becoming the basis of the person who you will be. That's a myth.
You assuming she can get "attractive skilled men" to sleep with her. And generally speaking, sure they may sleep with her, but that might be it. I am talking about attracting someone in the same position. A forever alone type if you wish.
He gave up on dating when he was 16 because he read that the 30s are the best time to date anyways. Why on gods earth would you date someone repulsive? Even hot girls can be extremely repulsive because of their attitude. Or doing drugs. Cocaine body is a thing.
They don't drink, don't really have the money, and lack transportation. Leaving the house is low dopamine compared to video games / porn / internet / anime / sleeping. No real point to it.
How is being a 30 year old virgin a personal choice? And no, paying for sex is illegal. You could sum up everything as a "personal choice" but it ignores the greater systematic issues at play.
Reframe the question: why should a given woman date that particular guy? What's the reward for her? Hopefully they would be mutual sex toys for each others. To avoid the crushing bleach reality of isolation.
And most are on reddit. 5 percent is still 16 million people. Sex is very hard to get when you are a virgin. Just the fact that you are a virgin is off-putting.
It would feel amazing to have someone "fetish-ize" me. Like to have actual sexual value. People will say that is the worse thing ever. But that's mainly women saying it. Fetish my loserness, my skin color, my height, my weight, my eyes, my arms, my hands, ANYTHING. Please. No? Back into isolation I go. Prison is more rewarding than this because at least there is a time limit.
I can't say for sure how far that will take him at this point but it is what he needs to do if he wants more than to age in place. Is it too late? Is the quality of romantic relationships that are available not worth it at this point? Being a 30 year old virgin is basically a social death sentence and a one-way ticket to dying a virgin.
Not meaning to be flip, but if he lives with his parents wouldn't his mom hug him? My parents hug me. I know it's not the same thing as a sexual or romantic relationship but it is still human contact. No, this person has never been hugged in over 20 years. Any physical touch becomes unwanted sexual sensation and it is extremely awkward to hug someone with an erection. I recommend first off that he earn a degree/get training/do what he needs to do to improve his financial situation. I can't imagi…
No, that's too general of a definition. Not by choices in this context means: not asexual, not waiting for marriage, appears to be invisible in the dating world, and struggles with common tasks like holding employment.
I am sorry if it feels like I am living in the past. Unfortunately, the body keeps the score and I have several layers of trauma I am currently processing with a therapist. I feel like I have mentally hit a wall and keep repeating similar behaviors. While I am physically attractive, my mental focus suffers. I can be good 9 out of 10 times but the time I am not it goes down hill very quickly. I have autism if that helps. But I don't really use it has a crutch, it is just my processing is always c…
What is a success you have had no matter how minor? Well ironically I have been to several kink events to give this some context (before COVID). I did this one acting power-play scene and allowed myself to cuddle with the girl afterwards as aftercare. I normally am very hesitant around touch but I originally did it for her. It felt nice and helped me calm down as well. I am currently in therapy but I don't think they quite understand my issues surrounding touch and bodily fluids. I told the ther…
I never mentioned the vaccine. There is a long dark history within the psychiatry world. The same world that creates a disease from the body (removal of healthy tissue like seen in a circumcision) is a similar force that can create the disease of the mind. It is a form of control. Anyone who objects to the current economic system will get medicated so that they lose a sense of executive functioning. But that's just my thoughts. And yes, people do have positive results. But having an open convers…
