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throwawayandtossout/r/askTRP25/01/21 04:15 AM
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throwawayandtossout/r/askTRP26/05/20 12:07 AM
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So you're saying you're too bussy for pusy?
/r/askTRP31/01/21 08:27 PM
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Is he Asian?
/r/askTRP26/01/21 02:10 AM
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A 60 yo who looks 30? 😂 Maybe a worn-out, drugged out 30yo, but not like a real 30yo, and definitely no one with half a brain would actually believe he's 30yo. Even if he's had work done to look younger (which would be a fucking stupid thing to do), that guy doesn't look 30. Maybe mid-late 40s ...
/r/askTRP25/01/21 11:34 PM
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I agree with your first point .. makes a lot of sense actually. Regarding it being beta behavior, I don't buy that. I think that's the same type of skewed thinking we see a lot around here. It isn't beta or alpha to get your girl off (or want to), rather it depends on the why behind it. If I cared because I cared what she thought or what others thought of me, I'd say that would be beta. But it really is what I want .. which isn't beta at all. And as for the reasons, I think it could be because o…
/r/askTRP25/01/21 04:59 AM
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First priority should always be self, and specifically in this case, getting your mental illness controlled. How do you expect to be a good friend to anyone if you aren't in a good head-space yourself? Do you think any woman would want to spend time with you if you aren't mentally healthy? Focus on improving that area of your life, and the rest will fall into place as it should. Seek therapy, support groups, a mentor, medication, etc. Whatever you need to do in order to become healthy. That shou…
/r/askTRP24/01/21 03:00 AM
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Wouldn't it greatly depend on the specific circumstances of each individual?
/r/askTRP17/01/21 06:31 PM
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Dude, this is one big projection of a reply. Trying to get the dude to doubt his gf's loyalty? Really? You don't even know him or his girl .. what the fuck is the matter with you?
/r/askTRP16/01/21 11:43 PM
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Technically half of that, since I assume OP isn't bisexual. 38mil ...
/r/askTRP16/01/21 07:00 PM
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Are you serious? Obviously what your sister did was bullshit, but not surprising. That's typical these days. But, men do the same thing. If you were chatting with a gal who was beautiful, but then met her and she was 5'4" 180lbs, would you continue seeing her? Maybe you'd be nice about "letting her down easy" (I know I wouldn't be outright rude about it), but many dudes (many here) would call her a land whale and ghost her. Men and women both do this shit. It isn't surprising or shocking.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/21 06:43 PM
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It just clicked .. so fuck off :)
/r/askTRP04/01/21 03:54 PM
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I feel like if this was your response, it would open up further questioning, as the woman wouldn't know what you mean by it. Have you found that to be the case? That she then asks something along the lines of, "What does that mean?" .. ? How then do you respond? Just as you did here?
/r/askTRP03/01/21 10:06 PM
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What's the insinuation?
/r/askTRP03/01/21 04:29 PM
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I haven't looked at the true percentages recently tbh, and maybe your 99% figure is average across all ages. Or maybe it's the survival rate for young, healthy people without any comorbidities. I do know if you're 70, 80, or 90 years old with underlying health conditions, the survivability is not 99%. So that means for people like you or me (younger, healthier, etc.), we don't really need to worry about ourselves. But for our parents, grandparents, or any other sick people in our lives or person…
/r/askTRP03/01/21 04:21 PM
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Now you're just acting like a retard. Stop. What's your firsthand experience? Because I did a patient's case a week ago who has a trach, in ICU, COV positive (of course), and could very well be dead by now. Hospitals are empty? Really? Hospitals are never empty .. stop spreading false information. They may not be full, but they are never empty. And what do you mean "turning away patients"? You mean not allowing surgeries? Not taking new admissions? Be specific .. because those are two very diffe…
/r/askTRP03/01/21 12:46 AM
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Absolutely .. which is why I specifically said "I'm not saying be a hermit and don't do anything". Look, there's absolutely a balance to be struck between total isolation and carrying on entirely as usual (as if there isn't a pandemic going on right now). Both, for different reasons, would be unhealthy approaches to take. And attending massive parties falls into the latter category. This really isn't rocket science.
/r/askTRP03/01/21 12:16 AM
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Your best friend's little bro is a fucking moron if he's going to parties with 500+ people right now. I'm not saying be a hermit and don't do anything. But going to parties with lots of people (doubtful they're wearing masks) is pretty fucking stupid. I work in a hospital .. I see the patients dying and stuck in the ICU for weeks or longer. Be smart, don't be stupid.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 09:18 PM
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I was seeing a girl briefly earlier this year .. maybe for a month. Told her it was gonna work out, and respectfully made it clear I wasn't interested. That same conversation, she told me how she went back with the guy she was seeing before me ("okay, cool .. I really don't care what you do"). Also said how my ex wasn't that attractive ("okay, cool .. it doesn't really matter to me what you think"). And here we are months later and she still sends me messages, texts, etc., even though I moved ac…
/r/askTRP30/12/20 04:55 AM
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Grow a pair dude and grow the fuck up. You're devastated? Because one immature girl thinks you're too short? You'd rather be ugly? Get the fuck outta here .. what a waste of digital footprint. We're all dumber and at a loss for having read your little bitch fest.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 12:02 AM
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Yes, it's definitely more complicated than originally implied, especially for the non-human studies. I'm referring to one particular study posted here some months back .. someone shared it as proof that women who have too many partners lose their ability to pair bond and remain monogamous. The study never said "women", rather it said "people". I just want to be clear here that I have not yet read any study that says this only pertains to women, as if men can have many partners and not be unaffec…
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 05:09 PM
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You don't have a clue what my conclusions are, and I don't care what you or anyone else believes. I was asking it to get people to think about it.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 04:16 PM
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Who do you believe is less likely to be faithful, a partner who has been with 1 other men, or a partner who has been with 100 other men?
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 04:05 PM
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I could very well be mistaken (someone please correct me if I'm wrong here), but I believe the study you're referencing said people, not women. People (women AND men) have difficulty creating bonds for a long-term relationship after having more partners. It isn't just women from what I remember ...
/r/TheRedPill26/12/20 04:02 PM
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I'd say you need to get a life and figure out what's what. Your time is the most important, valuable thing you have. Why waste your time sitting in classes for a degree you don't even want? Figure out what career you can enjoy and do happily for the next 40yrs of your life (that also provides the standard of living you will need), and then get into that as soon as possible. Women should never be your primary goal in life ... you should be your primary goal.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 04:27 AM
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I don't think it's as clear as you're making it. If you have an on-off thing with someone, that doesn't make it a respectful move to hookup with someone else with you sleeping in the next room over. We really don't know what the agreement they had going (maybe there was one, maybe not). Whether they had an agreement or not, the fact that she did this right in front of OP (with one of his friends) is an entirely disrespectful, and people do have a right to be angry when they're disrespected. Yes …
/r/askTRP25/12/20 03:34 PM
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That's a great post, and could be one possibility (that OP's gf is just seeking emotional reassurance here). But it could just as easily be the case that they have different libidos/sexual needs (as someone else pointed out), and that really they aren't compatible. Is this a new issue OP? How long has this been going on? Has your desire decreased? Has hers increased? These things are definitely complex, no doubt.
/r/askTRP21/12/20 07:25 PM
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Break up with her .. she needs to have a plan for where she's going to live when she moves out. You just wrote that you'd feel slightly relieved if she broke up with you and moved out. This isn't a relationship that's working for you, and dude .. life's too freakin short man. It's too short to settle for anything or anyone who isn't dramatically worth your time and energy.
/r/askTRP21/12/20 07:19 PM
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To answer your question, my first instinct is to say it's extremely unlikely imo. I think the world is, and has been, moving away from traditionalism for the last 40-60yrs. It started in the West and I believe it's just a matter of time until the other, non-Western nations follow suit. With society moving in one direction, women (and men) are being told that liberal, non-traditional things are okay and acceptable now, when just 20-30 years ago they weren't viewed that way. With more and more peo…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 06:28 PM
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I'd be willing to bet it was as much about the actual act of shaving your head, as it was about your attitude of saying "Fuck it", and not allowing your hair to define you. Reading OP's comments, I can't help but notice how important his hair is to him. It's not really any different from some other dude with a head full of hair but who is always talking about his hair, running his hands through it, pointing out to others how great his hair is. Hair is hair. Some have a lot, some have a little. I…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 06:05 PM
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Ha! No need to project onto me buddy. I use technology all the time, and I have social media. But I very rarely post updates because, again, nobody cares. Again, the data shows increased social media use and posting correlates with narcissism and depression. That's what the research is showing. Furthermore, who the fuck cares what "the best guys" do?
/r/askTRP13/12/20 08:59 PM
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Social media is stupid dude. Why do so many people feel the need to broadcast about their little lives .. as if anyone else cares? There's a ton of data showing increased time and post count on social media linked and correlates to higher levels of depression. These chicks posting multiple times a day on the SC, tiktok, or twitter? Guaranteed they're mostly fucked up in their minds, one way or another. And don't kid yourself .. if you're posting to social media, the entire point is to validate a…
/r/askTRP13/12/20 06:10 PM
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How would she know "you're doing that"?
/r/askTRP13/12/20 03:50 AM
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Why would you do such a stupid thing? You can speak the truth around dudes, but why would you say that .. especially to women? 🤦‍♂️
/r/askTRP07/12/20 04:33 AM
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I'd say it's contextual, and you can't just say being called an asshole is good, but being called a dick isn't. It depends on the circumstances and the female emotions behind it. I guess my point in asking is to say that you don't need to be a jerk (or act like one) in order to be respected and desired by women. In fact, I think taking that path is going to be more headache and problems in the long run. But who knows. Just be yourself .. don't try to be or act in a way that isn't authentic to wh…
/r/askTRP04/12/20 04:18 AM
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I mean, if you want to get into semantics and define each one as two separate things, that's fine. In the end though, I'm still not sure why anyone would want to be seen as either, nor am I understanding what benefit either one would bring (if in fact we're going to assign a different definition to each one).
/r/askTRP04/12/20 03:31 AM
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Why would you want anyone to view you as an asshole?
/r/askTRP03/12/20 09:32 PM
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I honestly think your time/energy/attention should be focused on yourself. First thing you mention is that you're a virgin. Okay .. I don't think that's a big deal at all given your age. I was until I was just about 24yo too. I wouldn't be rushing to change that if I were you (I'll explain later). Then you mention being overweight, and not know how to approach men, followed with mentioning your mental health issues (which seem to be becoming more and more prevalent in our society these days, for…
/r/askTRP23/11/20 04:31 PM
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Actually, I think asking which music anyone "should" enjoy or listen to is what's beta. Music is about personal preference, personal taste. Taking advice on what music you "should" listen to, or worse yet, worrying what anyone else thinks about you music preference is what makes you beta. To answer your question, I listen to a variety of stuff, but a lot of it is depressing and talks about love. And I couldn't give two wet shits what anyone thinks about me because of it.
/r/askTRP23/11/20 05:58 AM
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Who says OP is a good looking man? 😆
/r/askTRP21/11/20 01:10 AM
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Bongo
/r/askTRP18/11/20 05:51 PM
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Bango
/r/askTRP18/11/20 05:51 PM
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Bingo
/r/askTRP18/11/20 05:51 PM
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I bet you scored low on reading comprehension in grade school.
/r/askTRP18/11/20 03:01 PM
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You know what they say, you are what you eat .. 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/askTRP17/11/20 09:35 PM
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I expect you'll be banned for this. As you should ..
/r/askTRP17/11/20 08:02 PM
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Question: Has anyone actually ever done this and it was legitimate? I've seen those "meet up" offers, but always just assume you send them the money, and then never hear from them again. Pretty sure those are scams and there is no girl on the other end actually meeting up with anyone, but I could very well be wrong!
/r/askTRP15/11/20 11:52 PM
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Dude, thumbs up on the ice hockey! Been playing for 6yrs or so and wish I would have started 20yrs ago haha. I think the point you raise is a big one, and something most guys have trouble wrapping their head around. Having the abundance mentality is 100% is the biggest factor in maintaining frame imo, and goes a long way towards acceptance, contentment, etc. in life. I think your point on the difference in mindset (knowing you could get girls if you wanted to vs knowing you cannot) when focusing…
/r/askTRP14/11/20 06:08 PM
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Yeah, and it's the jackass friend's fault for taking advantage of a girl who is stupid piss drunk. Time for OP to get some new friends ... sounds like a bunch of drama and a waste of brain cells.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 04:46 AM
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Of course women are jealous. Nice try pivoting and avoiding the bigger issue here. I'm done .. good luck dude! 👍
/r/askTRP14/11/20 03:10 AM
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Uhh huh, keep telling yourself that. If it wasn't that complicated, she wouldn't be upset at the idea of you hanging with "another bitch", and you wouldn't be talking to other women.
/r/askTRP14/11/20 12:28 AM
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Maybe they're not focusing on what you want them to focus on, but that doesn't make it the "wrong thing". It's a valid point, and one you need to give some real thought towards rather than sidestep it.
/r/askTRP13/11/20 08:06 PM
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Wait, so she knows you talk to other girls (presumably because you make sure she knows that), and yet you are kinda pissed off that she went on another date? Am I misunderstanding what you said there?
/r/askTRP13/11/20 04:19 AM
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First, not lifting weights for 2yrs isn't going to completely ruin his chances at anything going forward. Secondly, there's always the possibility of having dialogue. There's always another option. "Do what it takes to win"? That sounds so lame. Being honest and having good character will take you so much further in life than "doing what it takes to win". Or, any teenager/young adult doesn't like the rules of the house, go take care of yourself and live on your own.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 11:02 PM
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Wrong.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 03:51 PM
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Either you're attracting and choosing women that do this, or they do it because of something you're doing. So either you keep picking argumentative, headstrong-type women, or maybe they're sensing that you know very little about the subject at hand, and, even though they don't know much about it either, they're doing their best to call you out on your bullshitting?
/r/askTRP11/11/20 12:01 AM
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Naaww, I call bullshit on that. Being lied to does hurt, and it would hurt his dad as well as himself. I thought trp is about self-improvement? Explain to me how lying makes him a better man? A better person? Liars are fools and liars lack honor. Be a man, be open and honest with your actions and words. Hiding behind lies is the cowards way out, and there are plenty of better options to seek what you desire other than lie.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 02:58 PM
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You had me, and then you lost me. Emotions are absolutely the cause of this, and that was the first thing I thought of when reading you title (before reading your post). Most things don't matter, and most things aren't that serious. Focusing on improvement of self is the key to the majority of issues that arise. But to say this world and this life is meaningless? To turn to nihilism? That isn't the answer at all. Probably the major problem I have with trp is the nihilistic, selfish approach to l…
/r/askTRP10/11/20 02:35 PM
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Definitely. She's uhh .. more "mature" we'll say. But I had an eye-opening experience a couple years back with a classmate of mine. She said one of her closest friends has HSV (assuming HSV2), and they both discussed whether it was appropriate to discuss that with potential dates. As if there should be anything to discuss, but I wasn't totally surprised (made me lose some respect for my classmate though). And that's not just a woman thing. Obviously some dude didn't discuss it with the friend, a…
/r/askTRP10/11/20 02:01 AM
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Don't listen to any of these morons telling you to lie or disobey your dad. Cowards choose to lie and deceive. You're living under his roof? He's paying your your electricity, internet, food, and water? Then you need to respect him and be a man about it .. even if he isn't choosing to do that (not by refusing to let you work out, but to refuse to engage and explain why he doesn't want you to). Take the other poster's response .. see if you can join the wrestling or football team and lift then. O…
/r/askTRP10/11/20 12:43 AM
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Of course that's okay to do. With a medication like this (many medications), reducing the dose is fine .. it's increasing the dose without consulting a professional that could get you into trouble. Half a pill will be approx 10mg. Try it and see if that's enough.
/r/askTRP09/11/20 08:37 PM
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Again, I think it's important to be specific about what we're talking about. Is it >71% for HSV1 (oral strain)? Or HSV2 .. genital strain? My guess would be HSV1, since that strain is the cause of canker sores around the mouth, which is very very common. You could get that by kissing someone (even a non-romantic kiss). Either way, there's a lot of misinformation out there about these things. And if you really really don't want to get anything, best to go monk mode. Even condoms aren't 100% prote…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 06:50 PM
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Had a date voluntarily share this info with me recently as well .. I didn't even ask, she just said how in the past she's had a positive blood test for HSV (didn't say whether it was oral or genital HSV, and I didn't ask), but that she's never had lesions or any outbreaks. I also had tests done recently, and the girl drawing my blood said how a high percentage of the general population has HSV antibodies, but have never had outbreaks. Same goes for HPV. Which is why the vast majority of the time…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 06:32 PM
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I'll respond to you directly, in addition to my response to OP. I work in healthcare (advanced practice, specialist), and have always been cautious when it comes to STDs. Went to get tested a few weeks back (because it's been a few months), and the gal working there said high percentages of the general population test positive for HSV (she didn't specify whether it was HSV1 [oral] or HSV2 [genital]) antibodies when a direct blood test is given, which is why they don't normally test for it unless…
/r/askTRP09/11/20 06:27 PM
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And NBA starting lineup is .. only 5 guys .. ?
/r/askTRP09/11/20 05:52 PM
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Maybe. I don't think it's worth reading too much into things like that .. buzzed/drunk people do stupid things all the time.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/20 03:02 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eGgGUysVsQY
/r/askTRP07/11/20 04:33 AM
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My understanding isn't that TRP doesn't advocate for morality .. rather the teachings themselves are amoral. This doesn't mean if a dude comes in here saying he wants to beat his girl, or kill some bro who hit on his woman, that we all shouldn't say not to do these things which are clearly and openly wrong. Lying is universally accepted as wrongdoing, and I wouldn't condone lying ever. Rather instead, ask yourself .. if someone did this to me, would I be okay with it? If someone did this to my l…
/r/askTRP06/11/20 04:02 PM
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I'd say the opposite actually. Experiencing these types of situations repeatedly is just asking for a serious problem eventually. I would take a long hard look at the choices you're making on where/when/how you're hanging out with your girl, and change something. Avoiding the possibility of conflict is a huge step towards making your life easier and better. Best of luck OP.
/r/askTRP05/11/20 03:10 PM
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That's understandable, but also find me one dude who wouldn't have wanted to sleep with her or been tempted to. You're human .. and you're a man. Learn from it, and move on. Ask yourself what you would do different next time. Maybe have a plan in case something like that ever happens again (ie. plan on disengaging from the start next time a girl like that is "dropped off").
/r/askTRP31/10/20 04:23 PM
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Bro, one of the least beta traits is having your mindset. You became aware of an issue that makes you worse off, and you're making a choice to better yourself without hurting anyone else. There isn't anything wrong with focusing on things that improve your life and state of mind, and ignoring the people/things that detract. The media preys on people's anxieties and fears .. fear-mongering all the way. By disconnecting and removing that stuff from your mindset, you're only going to help your depr…
/r/askTRP31/10/20 03:28 PM
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OP, it doesn't really matter what other men will do. You stuck to your morals and your inner conscience .. that's a good thing. Also, you potentially dodged a ton of bullets and made your life much simpler easier for yourself! Imagine if this chick went back and told her bf/fiance/whatever what happened and gave him your address? Your life would suck right now, no matter how good the sex was. Or, imagine if she instead told him you raped her after getting her drunk? In all areas of life (not jus…
/r/askTRP31/10/20 03:19 PM
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Probably, but at least OP can look himself in the mirror with a clean conscience about sticking up for his own values. Having inner peace throughout life goes a long, long way imo.
/r/askTRP31/10/20 03:15 PM
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You can read 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson, but I'd also recommend watching his youtube lectures and interviews to get a really good sense of his views on the current, postmodernist, liberal extremism that seems to be permeating western society.
/r/askTRP19/10/20 04:29 PM
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You can give explanation for why you did what you did, but that doesn't excuse it. You made a series of decision leading up to fucking your "friend's" gf, knowing full-well where things were heading. Stop thinking with your dick and use your brain .. you'll go further and have less drama in your life. Also, regardless of the "why", cheating is never a good option, especially when you already know the other people. There are too many women out there that will bring you less headache. Best of luck…
/r/askTRP19/10/20 04:15 PM
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Honestly, if you're moving in a few weeks, move on with your life and don't say anything. And don't be a dick and cheat on your "friends". You knew what you were doing the entire time, and you went forward with it anyways. That's fucked up, and your friend will be better off without people like you in his life (and hopefully he gets the pos chick out of his life too).
/r/askTRP19/10/20 05:31 AM
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Yeah, we see where you're coming from .. and it isn't good (which is what the poster above tried telling you). You realize that if you ended up "flexing on her", you'd be stooping back down to her level, and she'd see right through what you're trying to do. In fact, it would have the opposite effect that you think it would .. it would show her that you still think/care about her. Grow up and move on.
/r/askTRP19/10/20 05:25 AM
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Yeah, I spent the last 7ish years living in the Bay .. South Bay and East Bay, as well as back and forth between Sac and the Bay. Just finished grad school and relocated to NM for a new job. Let me tell you, I think what I said still applies. Focus on yourself .. make yourself more interesting, read more, be able to carry on a quality conversation so you aren't just another "schmuck". There are plenty of tips to improve your odds with women .. trp is a great start to understanding many dynamics …
/r/askTRP18/10/20 09:42 PM
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Got complemented on my scent last week. Guess what? I wasn't wearing anything other than some good smelling deodorant I wear for dates (it isn't anti-perspirant, unfortunately, but it gets the job done).
/r/askTRP18/10/20 12:54 AM
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IMO, this is the wrong mindset to have. Women are everywhere .. young, skinny, educated, upper class, lower class, etc. etc. You can find women who meet your desires anywhere on earth. In my mind, you're far better off focusing your attention and energy on yourself and on improving your SMV and "game", rather than trying to focus on "where the women are at".
/r/askTRP18/10/20 12:42 AM
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You could try using the magic phrase! Just tell your manager, "I'm feeling harassed at work by X". Companies must take harassment seriously, because there have been lawsuits in the past. I would recommend start documenting these events when they happened .. write down the date, time, and a brief summary of what happened. Be objective here, but also include the customers' responses (because companies care most about their bottom line, so documenting that customers were confused, "put-off", left s…
/r/askTRP11/10/20 03:54 PM
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Probably not the answer you're looking for, and may get downvoted, but what the hell. Why are you working a minimum wage job? I'm not shitting on min wage workers (I've worked those jobs in the past myself), but many will agree that time is our greatest asset in this life. For you to so casually insinuate that you really don't care if you keep or lose your job, it seems like a royal waste of time to me for you to even be working there. You should be bettering yourself and your situation, and sin…
/r/askTRP11/10/20 03:45 PM
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1) I wouldn't initiate communication with her going forward. If there's an issue that needs to be addressed, write it on a list. If it's urgent, then address all issues on the list at one time. You can keep communication to text .. ie. text or email her with all the things that you need to have answers to when you're out of the house/away. But keep the frequency to a minimum, and only bring them up when it's urgent. 2) If you think about this clearly, you'll know you shouldn't sleep with her aga…
/r/askTRP07/10/20 02:34 AM
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Truly, it is. I guess I meant more about the flower gardens and picket fences ;) But you're right .. accepting what we are able to control and influence, and letting go of everything else is a huge life lesson indeed.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 04:38 AM
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Don't answer. Why do you care how you come across to her? The most "redpill way" is to not give a shit what anyone thinks about you, and definitely don't care about "giving powerful answers" to bullshit. Why? Because even responding is a waste of your time. If your time isn't valuable (meaning you aren't high value yourself), then go ahead and keep spinning your wheels trying to think of how best to reply.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 05:10 PM
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I'm gonna quote some horseshit-sounding stuff a therapist told me years ago (but it's actually wisdom and truth). Your entire life is like a house, with a garden and little white picket fence surrounding it (told you it'd sound like therapist BS). You can only control and change what is inside your yard .. clean up your house, weed the garden, prune the trees. You cannot control what happens outside your fence. Your life is going really well dude. It sounds like you come from a moderately dysfun…
/r/askTRP04/10/20 04:39 AM
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Practicing gratitude. Changing your mindset goes a long ways towards fostering happiness and inner peace. By focusing on how good your situation is, you learn how to accept and tolerate when the bad comes along. Things may be bad, but they could always be worse (just look around at others who have it worse than you do).
/r/askTRP03/10/20 01:25 AM
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Take an upvote for a moderate, level-headed, rational reply that is helpful to OP.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 01:19 AM
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My interpretation from OP is that he meant you may feel "regret" that you were selfish all those years by not having children and just pursuing pleasure. But I could be way off here.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 01:17 AM
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I really hope not to offend too much here, but this post screams so much stupid to me. First, why the hell would she tell her dad that she's using illegal drugs with you? Especially if she knows that he wouldn't be cool or supportive of that? Further, why the hell are you doing cocaine? You think it's worth your time to workout, but you're using cocaine? Do you have any understanding of the effects of cocaine on your body? While I agree with others that meeting her dad in private would probably …
/r/askTRP18/09/20 02:44 AM
0

No
/r/askTRP13/09/20 06:35 PM
3

Seems like you have a good amount of self-awareness .. that's a good trait to have and will help you throughout your life. I'll just say that it isn't about taking part of the blame. It's about giving her something that will get her to accept your decision with as little drama as possible. Having a big ego will only hurt you in life, so I advise working on that. This is a perfect opportunity to try my advice and take part of the blame (even if it's a total lie and untrue). Why would you ego care…
/r/askTRP13/09/20 06:32 PM
3

Sometimes, it is possible to reason and give an explanation that can be received by another person. Many times, it isn't. I agree that just ghosting/blocking an ex out of nowhere is immature and will often cause future headaches. However, it sounds like OP tried communicating towards the end, and she was bombarding him to the point that he didn't feel further communication was healthy for him or would be productive towards her understanding. I am confused why OP decided to reopen communication l…
/r/askTRP13/09/20 05:07 PM
4

Please stop insulting us by pretending you just want to be friends with this woman (and stop lying to yourself if you truly believe that). Would you be "just asking to hangout" if she was a dump truck? You only want to hangout with her because you're attracted to her. You're hoping for more than just friends. I'll repeat the same advice every single response has been .. don't pursue your coworker unless you're okay risking your job. This isn't rocket science.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:32 PM
2

Why not dating apps? I've met plenty of women using apps. If you think that somehow trying to meet women at work is better than non-coworkers off apps, you're a moron dude. Cast a wide net and you'll catch more fish.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:29 PM
1

Yeah, that doesn't sound like someone anyone with a right mind would want to continue seeing. She sounds manipulative and unremorseful .. I'd move on and rather quickly if it were me, but I also know how difficult that can be when you're actually the one in the relationship (and not some keyboard warrior typing from somewhere around the world). Best of luck.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:26 PM
0

Absolutely. If she doesn't fully own her shit and put in the effort to change and be better, she isn't worth a moment of further thought from you. Trust her actions, not just what she says.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:15 PM
-2

Sorry, but that simply isn't true. Again, if you want me to send a link, just ask. There are plenty of relationships that have recovered from infidelity and have gone on to be as successful as any other. But it is rare, and most people don't have the power/patience/self-control/capacity for forgiveness, etc. It has nothing to do with being beta or alpha btw. You attempting to make it about that only shows your lack of knowledge.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:14 PM
1

Holding it over her would definitely be manipulative and unnatural, and it would set the relationship up for major failure imo. In the end, you gotta do what is best for you, and no one else can guilt you or talk you into making a decision either way. Go with what your head/heart/gut tells you .. at least you'll know you followed your instinct in the end.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:12 PM
-12

False. I can provide you with a link to one account of this not being true, and you can easily find others online and elsewhere.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 05:52 PM
3

Maybe, maybe not. There are plenty of anecdotal accounts of cheaters cheating once, and not repeating the deed. Making blanket statements isn't always helpful towards accurate, honest discussion.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 05:51 PM
1

I don't disagree with you and your logic, though I think many/most here will. I actually think it's the weak, simple, powerless women who would be willing to tolerate what many here say your gf should be tolerating. And that high value women will not tolerate it, because they know they can find a man who they won't have to share with any other women. My advice is as follows: if you like this girl, and you're happy with the relationship with her, don't complicate things by opening up your relatio…
/r/askTRP09/09/20 03:46 PM
3

While I don't disagree with any of your logic here, I just want to say that for OP, who has stated how content and satisfied he is with his current situation/relationship, there will be pain by losing the situation. Whether that's a good or bad thing is up for debate and really up to him and how he handles it all. I personally think looking for threesomes with a solid, stable partner is foolish and just asking for the demise of the relationship. Be content with what you have, especially if you a…
/r/askTRP09/09/20 03:36 PM
2

"All relationships end ..." Do they? I know it isn't as common these days (and much more common a few generations ago), but I don't think you can make an absolute statement like this. some relationships will not end until one of the partners passes away. Likely? Maybe between 40-60% seem to not end in divorce. Just trying to state some real facts and highlight an absolutism that probably isn't safe to say.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 05:34 AM
2

I'd say meditation would count. I think you can be spiritual and even acknowledge the likelihood of a G-d Creator without being religious. We all walk our paths and come to our own conclusions .. in the end, pursuing truth and seeking out what that truth demands of us is the most important question you can ask yourself imo.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:01 AM
9

No, I mean OP says she is since .. she told him she is. But come on .. we all know better here, don't we? She has a bf (not sure how long they've been together), but she's "saving herself for someone special"? And she's saying all sorts of filth to OP? I mean, I'm just not buying it ..
/r/askTRP29/08/20 11:41 PM
2

Then don't do it. Life isn't this difficult or confusing. If you don't want to do something, then don't do it. Ignore her. Tell her you aren't interested in fucking her .. that will make things crystal clear to her. This isn't even a friend or someone you need need to give a second thought to .. why are you? Shit.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 10:44 PM
18

She isn't a virgin (if that wasn't excessively obvious).
/r/askTRP29/08/20 10:42 PM
26

1) Work towards having a mindset of gratitude .. focus on the positives and what you do have and not the negatives and what you don't have. 2) Focus more on your career than anything else of a practical nature. You will most likely be working for the next 40-50yrs .. choose a career that is a) satisfying/fulfilling, b) financially rewarding, and c) secure/stable *you'll spend more time working throughout the rest of your life than you will (most likely) with any woman you meet along the way 3) C…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 10:39 PM
1

Sorry, I still don't get it. Serious question .. you make her lick your asshole? And you enjoy that? And do you kiss her afterwards?
/r/askTRP29/08/20 06:04 PM
1

What do you mean by "rimjobs when she's not behaving"?
/r/askTRP29/08/20 04:00 PM
1

You say "obviously", but if rich and famous men can end up in those situations, then I'm not gonna pretend it couldn't happen to me (or anyone else). Be smart. Don't push things too far. Definitely read the girl .. best way to phrase it.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 03:55 PM
2

I understand what you say about the typical advice you get here .. "abundance mindset, get more plates, etc.". But let me ask you ... what makes you a prize? How much money do you earn each week? How attractive are you? What is your SMV? Judging purely based off you post here, I'd say you are prob lower SMV, and really wanting to plate women. See the disconnect there? You must FIRST raise your SMV before even thinking about women! Otherwise, you'll face frequent rejection, frustration, and anger…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 03:51 PM
1

While true, I'd also balance it by saying don't be a dumbass. With the culture today, it's very easy for a woman to make a false accusation. Record/save all communication, and don't do anything that could be easily misconstrued. You don't want to risk being the next Aziz Ansari purely because you chose to escalate and get too touchy/feely with some chick. No woman is worth the fallout from that.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 10:42 PM
1

I'll counter with "If you think it's prudent to live life with an absolutism mindset, closing off everything and anything that isn't 100% aligned with your thoughts, beliefs, ideals, you've got a long way to go friend". ;) I don't disagree with your premise that no one is unbiased, but relatively speaking, a therapist will be less biased than many other options.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 10:33 PM
4

Maybe he did. But when you're hurting, it isn't usually easy to see reason, and it's usually very easy to self-centered, focused only on the pain you're feeling. I'm sure going through your world collapsing wasn't easy, and there were probably times you made mistakes, felt hopeless, angry, etc. I know I definitely did. But I'm not far enough removed from all of that to not be understanding or show compassion on people when they're in that storm and unable to see the golden shores on the other si…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 07:35 PM
2

I'm not sure I understand your question. You can easily talk about your interests without proving yourself. Just wait for it to come up naturally, or ask the girl what her interests are, and she'll most likely answer and put the question back to you.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 06:33 PM
1

Why? There's a purpose and benefit to hearing another perspective from someone unbiased.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 06:26 PM
68

I've dealt with cheating .. my ex-wife. Do you think your situation was as bad as mine .. having your wife and best friend cheat on you? Now compare my situation to "Fred's". His wife cheated on them too, except he has children with her. Do you think my situation is as bad as Fred's? Now compare Fred's situation to "Bob's". It was Bob's wife too who cheated, and wouldn't you know it, they have children as well. Except Bob makes all the money in their relationship, and now Bob's cheating soon-to-…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:43 PM
3

Cats hate their bellies being rubbed, just sayin ..
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:36 PM
2

I'd say it's as simple as the sex not being enjoyable for her. If the sex was good for her, why would she move on? I've read people here saying you shouldn't concern yourself with her pleasure/orgasm, and that's a fine choice to make. But if she doesn't enjoy it, she's more likely to feel like she is only being used for your pleasure, which may make her feel more like a slut. I think a girl is more apt to stick around (whether the relationship is going to go beyond casual or not) if she enjoys h…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 03:01 PM
2

Assuming everything you've written is honest and true, here are my thoughts. First, I'm curious how you're meeting the women you go on dates with. An app? Online? It could be that your profile portrays you in a certain way that you aren't living up to in person (more attractive in photos than in person, or photos not recent or not accurate to your current look). Or, if you're meeting them in-person prior to the date, then scratch all of that .. I'd say your issue isn't that you aren't attractive…
/r/askTRP21/08/20 04:29 AM
3

No, apparently you get into an odd, uncomfortable sexual relationship with his daughter that's on thin ice, making you unsure how best to proceed without potentially destroying any future you may have had in the industry ..
/r/askTRP21/08/20 01:46 AM
2

This way my thought. Make a power-move and order a skimpy-ass man thong speedo. Then just say, "Ya know, I liked your bathing suit so much, I decided to get something similar for me!". See how she responds.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 05:31 AM
10

He could also wait for stbx gf to reach out and apologize for hitting him. Now he has it from her what went down. I'd just wait for her to reach out, and then communicate in a way that pushes her to acknowledge/admit that she got physical. Now you have proof from her. But you can't be too careful when it comes to accusations. Maybe talk to a family member or friend who is an attorney so you don't have to pay any fees.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 03:02 AM
1

Oh gotcha, I misread what you were asking. I just wouldn't say anything. Why put a label on it? Why change something at all that's working great for you?
/r/askTRP17/08/20 03:08 AM
2

Never supposed to do .. what? These things should all be taken as guidelines. If you want something, then pursue it. There shouldn't be any hard and fast rules here.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 02:03 AM
5

Why hasn't she brought it up? Maybe she's been had by one too many redpillers here, and when she always pushed about a relationship, they always nexted her 😂🤷‍♂️ So she's wised up ...
/r/askTRP17/08/20 02:02 AM
1

Love it .. well done haha.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 11:36 PM
5

How'd you get the "Pizza Harpoon Legion" flair!? 😂 Also, agree with most others here. It's a shitty lesson, but a valuable one when you first realize quality > quantity. Don't beat yourself up, rather learn from the experience and don't repeat it. Could be a helluva lot worse!
/r/askTRP16/08/20 07:18 PM
2

Listen to this guy. You're negative and pessimistic. Maybe you have a reason to be (esp given everything you've written here). But staying negative and refusing to give any thought to trying or hope won't help you. You must pull it together and find some positivity. Any job right now is better than no job. You have to start somewhere. Go pound the pavement and get your ass out there.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 04:31 PM
2

Possibly. I'm not going to sit here and pretend I know definitively. And that's for my OWN experience. If any of you armchair quarterbacks want to pretend you have more insight into my personal experience than I do, enjoy your delusion haha. Also, I don't try to pretend I don't have thoughts or feelings. Regardless, I made a change that works for me, and I'm happy with my game and options. Why that may be a problem for me or anyone else is beyond me. To be clear, I never "compromise my standards…
/r/askTRP16/08/20 02:25 PM
1

What are the specific plans to meet up generally? Your place?
/r/askTRP16/08/20 03:49 AM
2

Bro, not shaving since May isn't stubble for me. It's a full-on beard. Like I said .. homeless caveman (those fools weren't sporting stubble). All I'm saying is, it's very woman dependent, and very much periphery when it comes to the big picture imo.
/r/askTRP16/08/20 03:42 AM
2

Sooo, sledgehammer?
/r/askTRP16/08/20 01:30 AM
11

No, they absolutely should be "shammed". STDs are disgusting and many are not curable (much less with apple cider vinegar).
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:26 AM
8

I'm not saying I "cared" what they thought about me. I'm saying I sensed judgment from them, and it affected how they perceived me. And I'm not saying I didn't drink beforehand, I just felt awkward in my response, and decided to change that in order to get what I wanted. EDIT: Just to add .. I see this a lot around this sub. Guys saying things like "If she doesn't put out by date #X, then I'm nexting", or "I'm not going to do X, Y, or Z. Her loss". I wouldn't say I'm a redpilled guy, but I take …
/r/askTRP16/08/20 12:20 AM
22

I think you gotta do you. If you feel marginalized or judged for choosing not to drink, and it's preventing you from getting something you want (friends, socializing, women), then what harm is grabbing one beer or one drink? Sip it all night. I understand though. I started feeling a little judged by women's reactions when I told them I don't drink. So I incorporated it into my "game" and have my go-to drink. I'll order a Mule of some kind or Dark and Stormy if it seems appropriate, but I'll neve…
/r/askTRP15/08/20 10:21 PM
1

Never get married and you don't need to worry about that. I don't mind paying for brunches and drinks and coffees ... pales in comparison to getting sodomized in the courtroom with a divorce. I actually step up to pay every time .. mainly because I can. And you'd be fooling yourself if you thought women didn't notice a man who has a (financial) abundance mindset.
/r/askTRP15/08/20 10:18 PM
1

B) either way,just keep doing whatever you're doing. When you meet roommate: be laid-back,be IDGAF,be confident,hold frame,be charismatic,be playful,be masculine, and *make sure your grooming*(and looks) are on point. Ha! I've been thinking about this a lot recently. I'm rockin the COVID doo .. may hair is about 6-7" long, and haven't shaved my face since May. I'm really looking like a homeless caveman these days. And yet, I went out with a new girl on Wednesday, banged a different girl Thursday…
/r/askTRP15/08/20 10:00 PM
1

This is your answer OP. Non-hormonal copper IUD. Rather, why don't you talk to your gf about her discussing options with her GYN? If it comes from someone else, you won't be blamed for any side effects. Why would you voluntarily give her advice when she can get it from an expert?
/r/askTRP15/08/20 09:51 PM
2

That's the spirit! But to be serious, if you're actually trying to blame your intolerable ex gfs on your alcoholism, that's freakin hilarious 😂 I mean, almost believable, but whatever.
/r/askTRP15/08/20 09:34 PM
5

There are non-condom methods of birth control fyi. The only real benefit to a condom is that it can (not guaranteed for all) prevent certain STDs.
/r/askTRP15/08/20 09:31 PM
2

Bingo. You do you .. forget what these others say.
/r/askTRP14/08/20 08:25 PM
6

Dumb. Use Bumble .. AND Tinder. And OKC. And whatever the hell else you want to use. Cast a wide net and you tend to yield higher results. Hell, I went to close one of my bank accounts this week, and the middle-aged dude helping me started chatting me up, asking me all kinds of semi-random personal questions and asks if I have a gf. I'm thinking, "Fuck, this guy is gonna ask me out" 🤦‍♂️ Turns out he has a daughter, and now I have his daughter's digits. So I could say, "Fuck Bumble and Tinder ..…
/r/askTRP14/08/20 08:24 PM
21

I've played dumb .. "What does a fuckboy mean?" or "What's a fuckboy?". Then when she tells you, you can turn the screws on her and say something like, "Oh, so you've hooked up with that type of guy before?".
/r/askTRP14/08/20 03:53 PM
1

Why are you surprised that a woman is being illogical? Are you actually trying to find logic in her approach to dating? It's very simple ..
/r/askTRP14/08/20 03:06 PM
2

I do own it, and it is worth a re-read (for myself as well). I went through a shitty divorce post-ex's infidelity a few years back. I was down, depressed, and really didn't want to live anymore. I've slowly crawled out of that despair, and cultivating gratitude has helped me tremendously. Many of the women I go on dates with notice and/or comment on it as well.
/r/askTRP13/08/20 11:09 PM
3

Focus on practicing gratitude daily to build a mindset of thankfulness in your life. No matter how "bad" you might think you have it, there are countless others who are worse off than yourself. By choosing (that's correct, it's a decision) to focus on all the good in your life, or at least on how much worse off you could be, I believe you develop an overall positive arc in your persona. And others will recognize this. People who are positive are desirable to be around .. to both men and women. N…
/r/askTRP13/08/20 10:14 PM
5

So if you don't send her anything, what are you asking here? You said yourself you don't have much tolerance for women games. Don't reach out to her and don't reply to her. Move on .. too many games here and there's plenty of other women, right?
/r/askTRP13/08/20 05:41 AM
13

He isn't saying physique doesn't matter. He's saying game is more important. I'm 34yo, ~5'8"-5'9", about 145lbs (haven't worked out since high school), and believe I'm fairly attractive. I play hockey regularly, but that's it for exercise. I don't have a problem attracting attractive women, but that really changed once I developed my "style" or "game" for dating. I take some of trp philosophies, but also reject some of them. I work with what I find works for me .. and I'm happy with the results.…
/r/askTRP12/08/20 03:39 AM
16

Best part of the story is she went from being "Jennifer" the entire time, to "Jessica" at the very end 😂
/r/TheRedPill12/08/20 01:42 AM
1

How important is it for you to eat with your buddies? That should direct you towards making the right choice here. Not rocket science ...
/r/askTRP11/08/20 12:45 AM
1

My understanding is that love is a choice. It isn't about feelings .. those come and go by the minute. But to love someone goes beyond that. It's a choice. You choose to love your child, regardless of how similar they are to you and regardless of the life choices (good or bad) they make. You choose to love anyone in the same way.
/r/askTRP10/08/20 05:00 PM
4

How'd it go with tying your shoes? Or wiping your ass? Practice helps improve everything in life (I'm sure someone will come along and nitpick the "everything", but I don't really care .. it's true).
/r/askTRP06/08/20 05:22 AM
1

I believe the antidote to this type of thinking is fairly simple (though not necessarily easy perhaps). You say you're comparing yourself to people who have a relatively easy life compared to your own. First off, you likely have no idea what struggles they're dealing with. For example, a few years back, I was going through a shitty, soul-crushing divorce. I took two weeks off work immediately following our blow-up (a year or so before we actually divorced) because I couldn't function. I get back…
/r/askTRP03/08/20 04:09 AM
11

I'm not surprised. Everything you said reflects my thoughts .. thanks for sharing.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/20 03:31 AM
28

Just to be clear, are these studies specifically about women? It seems like they're just saying "people" in general, as in both men and women.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/20 01:23 AM
1

What can you do with that degree? What is your plan in how you plan to use it for your career?
/r/askTRP18/07/20 02:02 PM
2

Re: your last sentence, I don't think it's funny per se, I think it actually makes a lot of sense. I just graduated with an advanced healthcare degree (not MD) and have the luxury that money will most likely never be an issue for me ever again. When I was dating during my training, I was much more conscientious about paying vs. seeing if the girl would offer, split, etc. I had no problem offering and paying, but it was definitely something on my mind. Now, I'm making bank! And I've noticed it is…
/r/askTRP18/07/20 12:14 PM
2

The thing that stood out to me the most after reading your post was regret. You seem to regret the past .. of not "living" in your early 20s while in undergrad. One question stood out to me the most too .. and it really only has one answer, and a one-word answer at that. What can you do to change your past? The answer is very simple and easy (I'm fairly sure you know it). Which leads to my main point .. why worry or invest any emotions, thoughts, or time towards something you cannot change? Inst…
/r/askTRP14/07/20 03:29 AM
2

Where? Link?
/r/askTRP14/07/20 12:06 AM
1

Same. Everyone I shadowed before applying couldn't speak highly enough about it. I worked CVICU for almost 4yrs before started school. I'd recommend getting into a high-acuity ICU at a large hospital if possible. Looks good on the app. Best of luck dude.
/r/askTRP13/07/20 11:52 PM
1

I wasn't aware of the TRP then. It was a coworker, but I never said it was a guy .. which really illustrates how messed up in the head she became. Lots of childhood trauma, rejection issues by her mom, self-esteem issues. She was conservative and reserved when we met, and is full-on SJW, pro LGBT, etc. Early on after I found out what she was up to, she tried saying she was a lesbian and not attracted to men (uhh huh .. all those orgasms over the years wouldn't have happened if you were really a …
/r/TheRedPill13/07/20 11:51 PM
1

Yep .. love it and definitely recommend it. Though I do have a buddy in a desirable, urban area on the West Coast making $160-180K/yr as an RN (working some OT). Overall, healthcare is pretty rock solid imo.
/r/askTRP13/07/20 03:57 AM
2

Really depends on what interests you and what you're open to doing. I went into nursing and wouldn't have changed it for anything in the world. Decided to specialize and now making ~$xx,xxx/month. Best job in the US imo.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 08:17 PM
2

And you could be right. I've heard in the past (even before this story broke) that they had some form of an "open relationship", however that would have been in the last few years, and this happened ~4yrs ago. Who knows what their marriage looked like for the 25yrs prior to them "taking a break". Who knows what their conversation was when they both agreed to "take a break". Did they agree no sleeping around? Did he sleep around after she did? We'll never know all the details. But from the video,…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 08:15 PM
3

That's a great question, which I don't know the answer to (but have thought about many times). I mean, attorneys can make your life a living hell and manipulate the law and drag things out until you cave, so I'd imagine it could still be trouble for the man. I'd love for someone to chime in who knows with certainty.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 08:06 PM
1

Well, maybe we're saying the same thing, but in different ways. I see this as a marriage thing, because if he wasn't married to her, and she burned him in this way, he could easily kick her to the curb without the fear of financial loss. She has him by the balls here because they're married, not because she's a woman. If they were just dating or together long-term, she wouldn't have him by the balls in this way .. hence, it's a marriage thing. Saying she saw weakness in him and took advantage ..…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 06:22 PM
5

Unless you've been married to someone you truly love (in some ways more than yourself), and that person destroys you in this way, you won't be able to understand the depths of that dude's pain. Hiding it? That's really the last thing he cares about right now.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 06:16 PM
6

Hey! I had that .. she still ended up cheating, shocking everyone, and we're divorced now. My only saving grace was she didn't go to battle with lawyers. We ended things evenly and pretty fairly, and I got out on the cheap.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 05:59 PM
19

Bingo. When she decides one day she's had enough and chooses to leave you, you'll still have to pay child support (which you should), but at least she won't be able to take 50% of the marital assets plus alimony. Do it exactly as if you were married .. even buy her a ring if she really wants and have a ceremony. Just don't get the state/government involved in your relationship. The benefits of doing so are far less than the risks you'd be taking on.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 05:58 PM
4

"This isn't a marriage thing. This is a AWALT thing" Which makes it ... a marriage thing (unless you're planning to marry another dude).
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 05:55 PM
2

Maybe, maybe not. But at least you won't be ass-raped in the court system like you would if you were the bread-winner.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/20 04:54 AM
3

I think in the context of OPs post, that's a little outrageous to bring up tbh. I mean, sure, anything is possible .. she could actually be a dude. That's possible too. But is it worth bringing up? No .. because it is so highly unlikely.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 04:53 AM
2

Yeah, she was really biding her time waiting 2+ years to plan all that out :eyeroll:
/r/askTRP11/07/20 09:46 PM
1

I'll say it again, I don't recommend getting married unless you're able to find a woman who makes the same amount or more than you do.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/20 03:12 PM
2

I don't recommend marrying any woman unless she makes the same amount or more money than you do. Good luck finding that .. but I'm sure it is possible to find.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 05:24 AM
3

Most people here are overweight .. it is far from being just an issue with women.
/r/askTRP09/07/20 08:24 PM
2

Very true. Again, we can all make assumptions all day, but we really have no idea, and assuming one way or the other is pretty ignorant/naive imo.
/r/askTRP07/07/20 12:30 PM
3

Exactly. It's so easy to play armchair analyst with these field reports/experiences, but in actuality, we really have no fuckin idea what's goin on on her end. I think your approach makes sense. Abundance mentality, don't give it anymore thought, and move forward with or without her. And if she does reach out, I'd play it less aggressive and let her dictate when she is free to meet. I wouldn't be overly available, and I wouldn't be overly eager to meet up (but I also wouldn't play too cold ... t…
/r/askTRP07/07/20 05:20 AM
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She isn't interested .. and that's why she approached OP and asked for his number? Normally I'd agree with you, and while it's possible she's not interested, I'd say it's very likely there's more to the story on her end.
/r/askTRP07/07/20 02:21 AM
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My advice would be to not let anyone (dad, mom, friends, etc.) pressure YOU into making a choice right away. If you don't know how to react, that's okay. You don't need to know right now. Take some time to think about it .. that is 100% a valid response to give when asked too. Say, "I'm not sure how I feel about this, and will take some time to think it over to decide what's best for me". Consider talking with a therapist/counselor/pastor/mentor/friend about it too. Don't allow that person to te…
/r/askTRP07/07/20 02:18 AM
1

My comment had nothing to do with acceptability or respectability, but rather moreso in response to the commenter who I responded to.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 09:48 PM
15

Against prostitution? Prostitution has been around since the beginning.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 02:05 AM
2

For sure dude! And it sounds like you have the right attitude overall. Take care!
/r/askTRP05/07/20 11:32 PM
2

"You can hold onto something so tight, you've already lost it" Solid lyrics from a solid band .. and there's truth in them. Must be willing to let something/someone go in order to keep them.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 09:46 PM
3

That isn't what happened in my past relationship, so you shouldn't state it as fact or absolute.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 09:02 PM
1

Let me tell you a little story .. my story. I'll be brief .. This was years ago: first gf .. dated for almost 2yrs before we got married. She too came from a conservative, religious home .. she was conservative/religious herself. Her parents had been married 30-40yrs! She too cooked, cleaned, and was overall very submissive and quick to serve (me and others). She never drank or did drugs, definitely didn't have any gay friends, and not liberal at all. She was a year or so younger than me, but we…
/r/askTRP05/07/20 05:12 PM
1

I have some belief that my ex-wife has at least some mild to moderate BPD symptoms. She definitely checks a number of those boxes, but it really all came out towards the end. Early on, the symptoms were more difficult to see and/or she didn't act on them.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 04:04 PM
1

Not sure I agree here. On the flip-side, I could say women are always branch swinging and looking to upgrade partners. They want the one who will provide the most for them, therefore by choosing not to provide (esp if you're able to), you're only devaluing yourself in her eyes and giving her less incentive to choose you for that time.
/r/askTRP27/06/20 05:55 PM
1

Healthcare is golden .. at least in the US.
/r/askTRP27/06/20 04:08 PM
5

Focus less on what's around you (women, young or old) and more on yourself. You seem to have some issues and thankfully, you seem aware you have them. I recommend seeing a therapist (probably a man tbh) and straightening out some of these issues you have. Focus on bettering yourself and how to improve yourself (anger, frustration) and your outlook on life (why you're so angry towards others). Honestly, I believe a lot of truth comes from attachment theory, and your "fucked up childhood" is almos…
/r/askTRP21/06/20 02:47 PM
3

First, I agree about women being no different than men .. we're all human, all flawed, all self-centered naturally. Accepting this goes a long way to accepting reality and finding peace in life. However I think you're wrong about the last part. Long-term studies have shown what brings happiness. It has nothing to do with "self-actualization", but actually numerous, meaningful relationships .. deep connection with others. We are very social creatures, and developing such relationships goes a long…
/r/askTRP20/06/20 07:06 PM
1

Great reply! I agree about the numbers/odds thing, and think your point about "not prop up your world around someone" is something I really had to learn the hard way when my marriage ended. Acknowledging the impermanence of everything in life (not just relationships) is a huge step towards peace and "frame". Great insight ...
/r/TheRedPill20/06/20 02:43 PM
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Best reply so far imo ... spot on. I completely agree. Marrying a "model" and pursuing, marrying, and starting a family with that type of woman is just asking for headaches.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/20 02:40 PM
5

Did you read what I wrote? I never said she didn't think about it ("I'm not saying they were never tempted, or never considered"). I said it's a true fact that there are indeed high SMV women throughout history, including recent history, who never cheated. Explain why the never did even when given the opportunity? Your explanation is that some women use their brains more than others (and thus, ignore their instincts)? Anything more substantive? Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/20 04:11 AM
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I don't disagree with the fact that women will branch swing and risk everything for sex with someone new and above their partners. The question I have is .. how do you make sense of the women who never do? I mean, it's a fact that there have been women (even in recent history) who never cheated or left their partners (conservative, religious women come to mind). Even beautiful, high SMV ones. I'm not saying they were never tempted, or never considered, but I'm saying there have been high SMV wom…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/20 12:54 AM
9

Danny Devito has done pretty well for himself if I'm not mistaken ...
/r/TheRedPill20/06/20 12:47 AM
3

So we should all base our own behaviors off of what other scummy dirt would do to us? Makes no sense. Be a man. Own your decisions. Do what is right, regardless of what TRP teaches. In the end, you have to live with yourself and your choices. Be respectful of others regardless of how others treat you.
/r/askTRP19/06/20 12:00 AM
8

Maybe be smart and get off social media? Or at least, don't use it as a platform to post shit, and just use it as a communication tool? I have accounts and rarely ever login to check them.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/20 01:30 AM
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I'm not into the "party" and my life doesn't suck. I'd much rather go out into the wilderness and nature and see beauty in solitude than be around a bunch of sweaty people crammed into a bar/club getting drunk and chasing "fun". But that's just me, and to each his own. Point is, you don't have to be into the party scene in order to enjoy life. I'd argue the majority of those people are chasing something and trying to fill some void that partying will never fill, but I could be wrong there.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 04:25 AM
7

Why would you even dick around with hormones? Your testosterone levels are normal per your lab results .. don't fuck with that stuff. As a guy who has always been naturally skinny and lightweight, it's a combination of your metabolism, diet, and workout routine. Focus on your diet and workout ...
/r/askTRP07/06/20 07:13 PM
2

Self-destructive behavior is any behavior that is harmful to the person doing it. Making decisions that have a negative impact rather than a beneficial impact. For example, I would say choosing to try substances for the first time that are highly addictive would be considering self-destructive behavior. Other examples would include compulsive gambling, binge eating and losing control of your weight/health, or high-risk sexual behavior (I have an uncle who died of AIDS in the 90s .. hard to say i…
/r/askTRP07/06/20 07:10 PM
3

That's because things here have become more and more polarized in recent years, and the moderates/indys/middle-grounders, who refuse to blindly follow the left and right extreme ends of the political spectrum, are slowly becoming fewer and further between. Which makes sense since both extremes demand absolute agreement on all issues, or else you're labeled as the opposition (so we middlers tend to just keep our mouths shut).
/r/askTRP04/06/20 07:50 PM
1

My advice would be to spend your youth being serious about a career. Being seen by women as successful, financially stable, and driven goes a long way towards women's attraction towards you. You need to be smart and not become anyone's meal ticket, but in the end, getting a good foundation for a career early on is worth the sacrifices required to get to that point.
/r/askTRP01/06/20 08:41 PM
0

It's situational. Lower value women? Sure, they might be open to reengaging. But I doubt any high-value woman would .. just by the nature of her value.
/r/askTRP31/05/20 03:37 PM
1

Yeah, ignore her if you don't mind if she moves on and completely moves on from you (which seems to be the goal of having an abundance mindset anyways).
/r/askTRP31/05/20 02:51 PM
2

Driving those types of cars brings the attention most of the time. You have to decide for yourself if the pleasure you get from driving them is worth the attention that driving them brings.
/r/askTRP31/05/20 05:00 AM
1

Great point .. and spot on.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 09:17 PM
1

Worrying about this is the lamest thing. You can't change it, right? So in the end, you have to go with what you have no matter what that looks like. So, just go with what you have! What other option do you have?
/r/askTRP30/05/20 05:19 PM
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Regardless of how blue-pilled he is, how important his friendship to you? If you value it and/or care about him, I'd tell him. Who cares what his response is though .. you're responsible for you. Not sure what TRP theory would say though.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 05:03 PM
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Can't agree more! This is the top advice you will get. Frankly, I believe if you're sitting on stacks of money, you want to present yourself as if you are an average dude. Don't be flashy, don't drive fancy cars, don't live in an enormous house. Invest it, enjoy it (in ways that don't attract attention outwardly), and you'll have a lot fewer problems in your life.
/r/askTRP30/05/20 04:54 PM
1

That was me to a T. I'm not red-pilled by any means .. was raised conservative and religious, and always did everything "right". Met my ex .. my first for everything when I was about 23yo. Worked together for about a year before we started dating, so we were friends and had a good foundation. She was more conservative than me, religious, everything. Everyone told me how good she was, etc. etc. Dated for about 18mos and got married. Married about 4.5yrs when she started her emotional affair with …
/r/askTRP29/05/20 08:18 PM
2

Yeah, and also know that the 2% who do screen properly may still have major problems down the road (like me with my ex who had a mid-life crisis at 29yo).
/r/askTRP29/05/20 02:36 PM
1

Now that makes sense to me. I would never (as a man) initiate sexting. But texting, communicating .. I think it isn't so black and white. I think initiating communication (for any reason) is more about frequency/neediness than it is about who initiates it, but that's just me.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:54 PM
2

I'm aware that this is commonly accepted as "truth" around here, but can anyone explain why? Why is it not possible to build attraction while texting? Can women not be wooed with words? So texting, emailing, old school love letters, etc. are all incapable of building attraction with women? I find it difficult to believe to be honest. Thanks.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 10:26 PM
1

It actually stands for "Hot Babe". I agree with everything else you said. And I was never considering her for anything serious, and understand how much of a red flag that should be.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 12:56 AM
1

I'd go out of your way to "train". Would putting on a movie really loud with lots of yelling, shouting, arguing bring about the same response inside you? Maybe have a friend come over (or a fellow red-piller in your area .. someone you trust for sure) and try to get the same response out of you.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:21 PM
1

I'm really curious to know the details of how this unfolded. So, she waited until you fell asleep, grabbed your phone from your bedside table and snooped? Then when you woke up, she incriminated herself by telling you she snooped and what she found? What did she say to you exactly? Have you changed your password yet?
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:35 PM
1

I'd say the degree to which your "niceness" and caring nature is perceived by others as weakness is inversely proportional to the amount of success, confidence, and neediness you have. The more of those traits you possess, the less it's perceived that way. If you're being nice for any reason other than to just be nice (ie if you're doing for any selfish reason), it will be easily noticeable by others.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:15 PM
1

Does it though? 100%? I'm far from RP or BP .. I just do my own thing. But reading all the RP stuff is interesting to me, so there's that. All I can say is I did this once after a chick was drinking earlier with a gf. She was tipsy and couldn't drive, and is a poor college student trying to save for grad studies. So I paid for her uber and drove her home after .. and made something out of nothing. I don't think things are always so black and white as RP makes them seem.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 01:08 AM
2

Why? Genuinely asking and trying to understand. EDIT: Instead of being a spineless tool and just downvote, respond to my question with some logic and reason please :)
/r/askTRP14/05/20 08:21 PM
4

Would he be hoping to fuck his friends if they came over?
/r/askTRP14/05/20 08:21 PM
9

Hmm, she feels bad, but didn't do anything wrong. Got it.
/r/askTRP14/05/20 12:10 AM
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