Time Running Out

2020-07-13T19:05:25+00:00

Feel lost in life? Listen to what I say:

FULLY READ THE SIDEBAR. THEN READ IT AGAIN

Find your purpose. Purpose is something you enjoy doing even if you fail at it.
Work-out. Stop being a fucking pussy. Drink water and eat natural
Realize your on your own...... Till your not. BUILD VALUE
BUILD VALUE; Money, skills, and education on multiple subjects. GET SUM.
READ instead of playing video games read plato
Embrace "I AM ENOUGH" Ingrain that mantra in your skull

You care about what others think. You want to fit in. You want to belong.

SO DOES EVERYBODY ELSE.

Guys like me, we belong to ourselves. Women and friends may ride with you for awhile. However all relationships end. Whether physical or spiritual.

Be your own mental point of origin.

I started my masculine journey with the book: Letters of a stoic by SENCA. I point you to start there if you need certain direction.

2020-07-13T19:34:30+00:00

listen, a man's prime is usually in his mid-thirties. You have two options right now: leave your studies on the side and chase after girls, who'll forget everything about you and your shit life situation as soon as she sees another guy.

Or, you could actually take YOUR life more seriously and be more attractive to girls (when you'll get your degree and a nice job, you'll probably be richer and fitter than you are right now) and get girls. You won't get all the girls in the world, you probably won't get as much girls as Chad McThundercock, but you'll have the best version of yourself.

Bitches come and go, but you are forever.

Musicgoon · 2020-07-13T19:52:48+00:00

You're young. You're not even at your peak smv. You'll hit that in your thirties and even 40's. You need to change your attitude. You complain like a baby. Realize that you're a man. You need to lift and you MUST practice game. The incels have taken over this sub and don't understand how important it is to be social and actually TRY. As previously suggested, reread the sidebar.

Distribution-Normal · 2020-07-13T20:44:57+00:00

Obviously I’d look & feel extremely immature participating in those events at this age, but am having huge regret.

Lolwut? You're 26 dude...

Age is a mindset, and honestly, it sounds like you've bought into the idea of being "old".

Keep it up and you'll be one of those dudes who's 40, sits there and does nothing because he's "too old".

I know guys who are 80+ who go rock climbing, fly planes, and will drink people a quarter of their age under the table at a party. They don't let "being old" hold them back from doing anything they want to do.

beigesun · 2020-07-13T20:00:21+00:00

Finish the masters bs (it is really unless ur going to academics which is a trap but if its your passion then u'll figure it out), be humble and join group activities where u'll suck like fights, crossfit, dancing, job parties, etc.

Stuff your cash in stock market and learn about it. The rest of the cash use to your body: Yes external shit like teeths, hair, clothes, and internal (brain/soul/exp) like traveling, books, and social events. "oh but i dont like to..." well there u go.

Yes u can't take your 20's back and neither do I. 30 is already on the corner and so is mine. But 35 is farther and u can reach there worse than now ( even if u think it'll be the same, nah, it'll be worse if u don't fight against time), or closer of what u want.

Thing is we want to have other results doing the same we r doing and well this is impossible period. Since u r an engineer it's easy to understand and hard to do: In an RPG how do u get capabilities? Level Up, meet characters, beat the final boss? U first go out and die in the unknown. U can choose to stay in the initial city for the whole game, but that makes u no better than an NPC. The difference is that U'LL DIE. Don't have forever, as u probably tought u had at 20's and it's seeing it's not the case at 30's.

noNooodleArms · 2020-07-13T22:18:16+00:00

I got my bachelor's in mathematics at 41. I'm now 6 years into my career. Remote work just got seriously mainstreamed. Life is good.

beigesun · 2020-07-13T23:59:25+00:00

Focus on studies, lifting and money.

Quit being a whiny thirsty simp and focus on the important shit.

Women will come later and easier.

throwawayandtossout · 2020-07-14T03:29:45+00:00

The thing that stood out to me the most after reading your post was regret. You seem to regret the past .. of not "living" in your early 20s while in undergrad.

One question stood out to me the most too .. and it really only has one answer, and a one-word answer at that.

What can you do to change your past?

The answer is very simple and easy (I'm fairly sure you know it). Which leads to my main point .. why worry or invest any emotions, thoughts, or time towards something you cannot change? Instead, turn your attention from behind you to ahead of you, and focus your energy, time, emotions, and thoughts there!

covertpenguin3390 · 2020-07-14T15:42:36+00:00

While yes, there are a few guys in college who crush it, just like most people who brag, your perception of what they actually did is far above what they actually did. Reminds me of when i talk to my group of pro poker player friends. Always talking about the big scores and never about the nights they lost 10k. I had the frat experience in college and at the end of the 4 years i banged like 13 chicks (i had a gf for a good amount of time in there too, so i guess it could’ve been higher in theory), out of those 13 lays, i would rank my girlfriend as the best by a long shot and then all of the other were mediocre and some horrific. Literally just over hyped notches on my belt and some that if i went back in time i wouldn’t even do. My point? Whoring it up as a drunk maniac in college isn’t all it’s hyped up to be. I wouldn’t change my experience for the world, but if your main regret is not getting pussy, have no fear. You missed on a few good years of fun, but i ended up banging over 30 more girls in my 20s before meeting my now wife. You’re just experiencing massive FOMO because you’re still on the college realm where all your buddies just highlight the terribly mediocre blacked out drunken one night stand they had.

Once i made something of myself around 27 and fired back up tinder, it was absolutely raining pussy (though mostly bruised up mediocre pussy because it’s tinder) more so then at college. You have plenty of time. I’m only 30 and had i not gotten married, i promise i could’ve kept this up and then some for another 10 years at a minimum. You have time. Take your regret as a lesson to put yourself in more social situations so you don’t ruin your late 20-30s. Join clubs/groups/whatever if you feel you don’t have friends. When someone invites you to something and it’s not in the way of work or school always say yes. Get ripped and make money. And you’ll be fine.

Yaking72 · 2020-07-13T23:04:12+00:00

I actually envy you. I am working on my Biomedical and Mechanical undergraduate degree and have a couple of years left. I am 31. I raged it up in my 20s, partied, got laid a lot, and socialized a ton but; while this experience was educational and allowed me to grow socially, I was stagnant in terms of my status in society. Sure I developed talking and people skills but this could/should have been done concurrently with my education and hobbies.

Heck, with you getting a masters in engineering you will be set from a financial and stability standpoint. From here, just work on being social with your hobbies. Play in a band if you are into music. Find workout buddies. Go to concerts you are interested in. I don't drink but if that's your fancy, invite people out for a drink or two. Try partner dancing classes. I know that girls in engineering are like parking spots (the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped) but you can still create a good network of bros in that degree field.

Nowadays, partly due to quarantine, I am focused entirely on developing myself. Engineering, health(lift), and music. Society gives you a pass to go to school for 4+ years to just work on yourself. Take advantage of this and don't dismiss this opportunity to grow and set your future self up well for success. I wish I did all of this right after high school but then again, I was lost and had no idea what I was doing.

Take an active interest in what you want to do/be and be prepared for the sacrifices which need to be made. Typically this is simply stepping outside of your comfort zone and accepting that things take time (like getting your masters for example, great job committing to this and making it that far!). Same applies to girls. Go out and meet some and you will learn that they are not all that. They key is to just do it. Fear is easy to overcome when you acknowledge that you are afraid. "Embrace the pain and you will win this game"

Anyway this is all to say that you have to follow your own path. As long as you are constantly growing and improving, it doesn't matter if you went in a straight line or along a curve. Each path is worthwhile and it is easy for us to get distracted when we compare ourselves to others and think about what could have been or what should be.

beigesun · 2020-07-14T02:33:45+00:00

Your sexual peak shouldn't be until your 30's.

It shouldn't start to climb steadily until your mid 20's. You're pretty much right on schedule.

Title	Time Running Out
Author	beigesun
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	July 13, 2020 6:22 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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