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 REDDIT HATES WOMENthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:06 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?throwthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:38 PM
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LEVEL UPthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:46 PM
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RANTthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 01:56 AM
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PICKME CULTUREthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:27 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:44 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:25 PM
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LIES MEN TELLthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:50 PM
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DISCUSSIONthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:18 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:42 PM
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LIES MEN TELLthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:30 AM
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Story time ☕throwthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:23 AM
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PICKME CULTUREthrowthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:25 AM
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#KickHimOut2020throwthisawayred3/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:59 PM
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the lesbians and aces will outlive us all LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:14 PM
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Millenials really got the worst of it. We grew up with teen pop of the 90s and 2000s. That shit was produced BY pedophiles who adored rail thin sexual young women to be CONSUMED by young women of that era. I loved the 90s but also fuck the 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:10 PM
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reason 102 i don't feel bad about NOT dating sure i could've had some learning experiences, but i could've also just napped????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:06 PM
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girl try 10 min
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:59 PM
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i'm watching headspace on netflix right now haha trying my best!! fingers crossed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:55 PM
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better tell your work about it tho and show them a pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:53 PM
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ooo cha cha real smooth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:51 PM
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i literally walk away it's really confusing to them lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:48 PM
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do it girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:36 PM
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People act in patterns so any deviation, actually is a sign of coming in. From frequency in texting another female leading to less communication with you, to less energy in general as it’s being diverted to someone else. duly noted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:57 PM
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Women offering up their bodies, seemingly willingly (but really due to trauma, trafficking, grooming, coercion, cultural messaging, capitalism, desperation, etc.) breaks my heart. yes, thank you. so many other reasons besides straight up cut-and-clear assault. even fucking disney man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:34 PM
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Never delete this post. Also, I knew a man who did everything on this list. I wasn't involved with him, but I knew. You hit every single one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:15 PM
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report report report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:31 AM
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there's literally old timey 50s psychiatric evaluations of women by male psychologists doing this shit example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=meJB-RZvBcY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:30 AM
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ugh, you're so right. he really tried to suck her dry. she's like an addict at this point. the only way out is for her to realize she needs help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:33 AM
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Yes, and I would add, solidify a presence around FDS-type of women. I used to think I should focus on my women friends, but that's just wasted effort if they're a bunch of aimless PickMes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:30 AM
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Not likely. The reasonable conservatives who still identify as such in 2020 are most likely neoliberal Democrats. The 2020 Republican conservatives are literally defined by their extremism, even though they'd LIKE to claim they're "enlightened centrists." They're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:29 AM
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yes, you deserve space too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:27 AM
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Girl, they're ALL bad. Like the girl in the article, I thought mine may be the exception, maybe there's some middle ground. Boy was I wrong. But I got out early, so yay me? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:22 AM
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It's so hard!! I have ADHD, so it's really easy to slip into what my dumb PickMe brain wants. I'm usually pretty good about not giving a shit about dudes, but when it likes that ONE dude, all my good sense and sensibilities go out the damn window. And I go into hyper-obsess mode. Meanwhile, a year has passed, and he's forgotten I exist. I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:16 AM
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Little sympathy, yes. But also -I struggle with this. I found out a guy I was crushing on was a conservative. Did it disgust me? Yes. Did it stop me fantasizing about him and thinking about him? NOPE. PickMe brain sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:33 PM
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She's absolutely a PickMe, but from my own experience -finding out shitty information about the guy serves to only STRENGTHEN your rationalizing if you're a struggling PickMe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:27 PM
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Honestly, I see this in some women, both liberal and conservative. They get their "self esteem" from being a "married woman." It's like a whole ass identity upon which they hang their self worth. And this is like an offshoot of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:26 PM
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so true. fuck disney. and fuck disney for monopolizing the movie industry. then fuck it again for opening Disneyland making workers go in during a pandemic even though the CEOs are staying away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:25 PM
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aka a dumbass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:39 AM
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"Sure, they're ALL nice in the beginning." young me was very very naive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:55 PM
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only for his bigger then average dick, so if he would have kept his stupid mouth shut story of my life lol! so many big dicks i had to turn down cuz once they opened their mouth it was over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:45 PM
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lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:27 PM
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"If a man ever yells at you, leave him. A man who raises his voice to you WILL eventually raise his hand to you and I'm not raising you to be some man's punching bag!" ugh. true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:25 PM
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may i ask what age you started dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:14 AM
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POS ex had said to me “you’re very smart” like he couldn’t believe it. I could hear in his voice that he was very surprised. I always feel offended when men go "wow" or express surprise when I say anything intelligible. It SEEMS like it should be a compliment, but it absolutely is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:52 AM
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wasn't her father an Earl or something? like she was royalty too before the marriage, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:41 AM
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when that bag smacked his face, i felt that in my soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:30 AM
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cat tax!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:35 AM
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Sometimes it's just preference, but as another person said, when it comes to actual legitimate fear -it's ALWAYS men they react to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:29 AM
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lol but fr though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:56 AM
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He turned out to be controlling and condescending as well, and the sex was good for him, not for me. The final straw was when he disparaged me for winning $500 in a poetry contest. damn did we date the same guy? also 20 year age difference. though probably not, giving the audacity of these fuckfaces. they out here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:51 AM
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I'm never entering another relationship because the guy is keen and I don't think I can do any better. I can do better- by being by myself. OKAY? Like seriously, why isn't this a valid BETTER alternative? Pickmesha culture is stupid af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:39 AM
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wow he sounds like an actual moron i bet he shat himself a fat brick when you said "ok" and stayed broken up with him lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:38 AM
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besides having lots of always-young female friends, were there any other warning flags? how long were you two together? this whole thread makes me wanna punch someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:00 PM
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None of the young women these scrotes actually want (the hot ones) are ever interested. They're too busy being buxed by rich men in their own age group, or absolutely robbing vastly richer old men for nothing more than a dry handy. To prove a point, they'll settle for a low maintenance young ugly girl who doesn't get a lot of attention from men her age, then manipulate her into thinking that she's special. They'll resent her the entire time for being a living reminder of not being able to do bet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:11 PM
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i'm very pro women getting giant ass rottweilers and mastiffs for protection (granted that training and socializing at a young age is an ABSOLUTE must)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:05 PM
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a fat old scrote with hair coming out of his ears and nose, hasn’t done a situp or pushup since high school, and has literally nothing to offer a young woman other than his nonexistent “maturity” except LITERALLY. i was on a codependents anonymous zoom call the other month, and a dude with this description to a TEE was talking about how he had a need to control his much younger partner, and how it hurt him that SHE turned out to be even MORE controlling than his ex wife! imagine that! he was bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:03 PM
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Women and men do not live in the same world. Women think everyone's like them/us. While men are on a whole other level -it's like they're the only ones who know what the world's REALLY like. Why? Because pickme culture denies that THAT worldview exists. It's an INTENTIONAL blanket of wool over women's eyes to shield them from the TRUE nature of men. If women really saw how men operated inside their heads, they'd be shocked. And the men? They know EXACTLY what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:54 PM
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narc parents not giving a shit since 3500 BC 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:48 PM
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It's easy to believe that the nice guy is who he really is, which is why so many women end up chasing their own tail trying to get this non-existent man to come back. This truth is, men don't "change" - they get comfortable. Comfortable enough to show you who they really are. this. so glad i'm single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:40 PM
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I also thought that as long as I get with a guy who wants a relationship then he doesn't just want sex. I was very naive. wow. um?...i feel stupid? lol (how did i never realize this?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:34 PM
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are all the discussions here backed up on there though??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:32 PM
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pinkpillfeminism tl;dr?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:32 PM
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basically what beyonce TRIED to do on lemonade, but kinda failed. lol (come for me) (btw her song "I care" on the album before Lemonade is this tweet embodied)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 08:30 PM
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Dr Gail Dines talks alot about how women are groomed by pop culture, and how men are groomed by Porn culture. Then the two meet and BOOM disaster and abuse ensues. absolutely. it's a horrible combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:09 PM
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he turned out to be horribly jaded and cruel wow. what'd he do to you? feel free to PM me. that shit sucks, i know; i was in a similar situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:51 PM
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I could've wrote what you just said. Exact same situation. I listened to my gut, though it was really hard cuz he was so handsome lol He was older too... it just felt off. Yep. Run run run away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:15 PM
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It's fucking hard, when you see good things in someone, but DON'T DO IT. It's not your job to be someone's spiritual midwife. If they want to grow, they will. lessons painfully learned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:10 PM
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she really should've gotten with Krum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:09 PM
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yep. all that energy i give to men cuz i can't help myself? redirect. to me. to my family. to my friends. (to my kids first, if i had any)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:06 PM
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And THIS is why the “just get consent” message is wrong. It ignores the sexual pressure from media and porn that young women grow up with. THANK YOU. i've been yelling at libfems about this for YEARS. but no no, we're all over 18 so everything's automatically FINE personally, i've resisted in dubious situations cuz i wasn't sure, KNOWING that i had a lot of de-programming to do. ie i wasn't sure of MYSELF and my ability to adequately consent. i listened to my gut on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:04 PM
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my sex policy is this: if you want it, you've got to experience it FIRST. want anal? you get to experience a strap on before we even DISCUSS ME doing it. want to cum in my mouth? you get to eat your own cum first. or even a regular blowjob? this strap-on's multipurpose baby! fair is fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:01 PM
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The standard you walk past is the standard you accept." x10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:01 PM
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Narcissists see forgiveness as approval. gonna go tattoo that brb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:01 PM
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I’m in my 20s now but 90% of my friends who had stepdads had “incidents”. Stuff like this makes me question divorce and re-marriage with kids in tow. I feel like a total puritan thinking it too, but like, that shit ain't natural. Of COURSE it's gonna get weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:57 PM
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It's the definition of trauma bonding, re-packaged and sold as "healing." So glad I never engaged. Smelled the bullshit from a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:47 PM
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But remember, that “niceness” is abuse too, because it’s all a part of the bigger manipulation cycle. so so true And if you manage to not react at all in the space of one argument, you can literally see them cycle through the tactics super fast, to get that reaction from you that they used to get. after reading up on NPD/BPD, that shit is pathetic. i used to be so caught up in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:44 PM
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To see if you're a low self-esteem woman with no other options. You won't leave him and you won't clock his rude behaviour as a red flag. To see if he can 'book' you and waste your time so you don't go out with other men. To see how much shit you'll eat from day one. To see if he can leave you on the shelf and you'll sit there like a good object while he sees other women or has fun with his bros, or has a nap. He knows you're safe and tucked away and he doesn't have to worry. To get you used to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:49 AM
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make it up to you. do you think that's just rescheduling the date, or should i expect something else too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:40 AM
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I wasn’t impressed by needing to assert boundaries so strongly. I notice that if I have to do this, it's a no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:32 AM
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And if you take a woman out, they should not be starving at the end of the date because that signifies your capability to take care of her. x10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:28 AM
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sadly it probably is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:26 AM
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Just as equally I had a doctor in his 30s bring me to dinner at a uber nice restaurant then plummet the date into the ground when he insinuated he deserves that I go to his place with him after. The AU-FUCKING-DACITY. I said goodnight and never spoke to him again. adfjdaf i had the same thing happen. it was like having sex with him after was a GIVEN. fuck off fuck off fuck off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:23 AM
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unnecessary, unjustified, undeserved unrequited love is a disease
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:20 AM
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it was hard to shake the pervasive idea and fantasy that these things would earn me the “respect” or appreciation of men. I realized I was groomed my whole life for that to be the driving force of what I do. Ouch. So true. Never saw it that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:18 AM
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Me too. I'm super happy to have discovered this sub. I already had FDS views, but I was getting invalidated left and right in libfem spaces (which I didn't realize were libfem or what that meant). They refused to see the harm from the sex fiend scrote I was dealing with. (BuT sEx POsitiViTY!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:13 AM
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I'm still learning this lesson. I don't beg, but I "perform" to passively get their attention if I'm near them, as a form of begging. Ugh. Somebody help my dumb ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:02 AM
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they posted in natural hair subreddits too i messaged FDS mods to reach out to their mods about this troll. dunno if they did anything about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:57 AM
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"play the tape till the end". Don't just play the good part of what is going to happen. Play out the entire scenario, and see the consequences too How does this apply to this particular post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:49 AM
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I know men who've felt traumatized by older women when they were younger. It took them DECADES to come to terms with it. Based on your attitude about it, I think you're absolutely disgusting and wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:43 AM
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never heard of Witch Wave. any specific podcast episode you'd recommend to get hooked on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:33 PM
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best form of self-care is discipline what? the capitalism version of self-care didn't work? i am SHOCKED. (sorry, had to lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:31 PM
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Men are being violent and misogynistic? Let's pretend we love it, we're in control of it and that it was our idea all along. somewhere i can hear some libfem clacking away at the keyboards, angry that you pointed out their own abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:25 PM
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find a man to basically help me pay my student loans while HE'S also got a 120k loan? pshhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:20 PM
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Wow, I had the exact same situation with the dorms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:15 PM
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and that's AFTER having to drag a ball and chain around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:12 PM
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Who had learned to turn their trauma into adventures for him to stumble blindly through. I consistently feel bad for this dude's ex. She was the world's BIGGEST pickme with some severe "daddy issues" (is there a better word for this?) He was MUCH older, and she was my age. He wanted an open relationship after his divorce, and she said yes. All because he was terrified of being lonely, and too unconscionable to leave a poor girl out of his post-divorce mess, so he used her (per advice of Dan Sava…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:01 PM
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i try not to think about it too much cuz i love the show lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:53 PM
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Men openly seek out women with personality traits they ascribe to men. "She's like a dude!" is something they say with reverence and longing. Most guys want someone with traditionally male interests and hobbies. It's kind of homophobic NOT to acknowledge how gay it is, IMO. that's fascinating af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:31 AM
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https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/jok2df/please_stop_doing_this/gb8zz1k/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:18 PM
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if you don't mind my asking -what are the signs of autism in a girl that has come to light?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:13 PM
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Right, because rarely do men actually communicate with women. Usually we’re just the mirror/vessel through which they monologue to themselves. o.m.g
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:49 PM
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"wait until marriage" was created by patriarchal religious men cuz they know EXACTLY what THEY'RE like. believe them. they're telling you on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:15 AM
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they = libfems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:02 AM
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Fuck 'growing up and settling down', I'm just getting started! x10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:50 PM
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If he wants to cum in my mouth, he also has to makeout with me with his cum in it right after the fact. Same with anal -you gotta take a dildo up yours' first, THEN we'll talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:50 AM
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I like moving on from men knowing they never touched my body. Less hurtful . me 100% and when i do decide to have sex, it better to be saucy af or i'm not doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:26 AM
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honestly i think the women who do that are just younger women. younger people, generally speaking, don't have the discipline of evaluating anything over a long period of time, because they simply haven't yet required it due to their young life. with perspective and time though, this will change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:24 AM
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tangentially related: the amount of beautiful asian women walking around with beer belly balding white men in nothing but old polos and khakis is WAY too damn high and bonus! she's 100% the one converting to judaism/christianity for him. NEVER the other way around. imagine changing your whole ethos for a floppy seal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:18 AM
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same here. i don't need to take that risk. plus -why do men wanna be OBGYNs anyway? even if they're the utmost respectful doctors, it's still like..why though???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:04 AM
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i would've made a judgey stank face tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:53 AM
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your username tho!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:49 AM
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it’s literally impossible to have a normal conversation... either it goes into nothing because they can’t relate to you or you feel like some child who get lectured. Are you me? I'm still confused about the one date I had over a year go. It was exactly like this. He COMPLETELY killed my vibe. I tried to get to know him, like where he's from, etc etc. And all I got was patronizing and condescension. Oh and he only talked about sex. I tried to bring up other subjects but his mood would sour and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:44 AM
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the thing is, it's completely understandable for them to feel that way -not the smugness, but the knowing more than you. but that's only because they're supposed to!! motherfucker you got 20 years on me you SHOULD know more! but it shouldn't be an egotistical thing, which it always is for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:41 AM
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the lion the witch and the audacity of this scrote! jail except like actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:35 AM
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I fancy you so it's convenient for me to think of you as an adult, rather than think of myself as a pedophile." Kinda like how Boomers think of Millenials as kids so they can justify us being broke. Most Millenials are almost 40!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:33 AM
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Similarly, I've never heard a woman say - Wow! Now that I have a son, I finally have empathy for men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:28 AM
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Can one of you mods reach out to the mods over at r/naturalhair? Their latest post is there. I wonder if they're doing the same thing over there. Shady AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:31 AM
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It's so hard. If you're in feminist spaces, they're usually libfem. But I don't want to be friends with conservative ass Karens either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:28 AM
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Whenever I want to edge I think of his face. loooooolllll this took me tf out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:56 PM
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"I don't eat pussy" sounds a lot like "Someone else does." that's some queen fucking energy i'm gonna start using it for everything -"i don't want a relationship" sounds a lot like "someone else does." etc etc NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:52 PM
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Ugh. Rich-ish men who are penny pinchers are actually the WORST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:38 PM
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that energy is there because the person always intended to extract value from you and add as little as possible to your life. Yep. They're like this in EVERY area of their life. I once dated a guy like this, and I checked out the employee reviews for his company and was not at ALL surprised to see similar complaints as a business owner -penny pinching capitalist libertarian ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:36 PM
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golddiger is a term made up by men who ain't got no gold. and the ones who do got "gold" use the term because they know they can't get a girl without it. losers either way. confident rich men don't give af about spending money on his lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:43 PM
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same here. girlfriends will run to me when their boyfriends treat them like shit or they get dumped. but they go right back and stop responding. no more free counseling for pickme's and LVW. you get 1 consultation and that's it. and even then that's me doing YOU a favor, after looking down at me for being a hard ass feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:11 AM
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NO EXPLANATION! i don't need these scrotes getting smart about the why's of it all and twisting their bullshit and fooling women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:09 AM
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sigh problem is, (minority) women have to tolerate SO SO much more, so it's a CONSTANT battle having to extricate ourselves out of bad situations and encounters, by either fight or flight. so sometimes i just stay, cuz i'm so fucking tired of having to resist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:06 AM
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Anxiously awaiting your response Oh are you really. Spit that passive aggressive bullshit elsewhere. If you could read, CAREFULLY, this time, I said "nuanced," whereas you fired back with the exact opposite: black and white thinking aka "perfect." ...which is exactly why I said nuanced. So, since you're "wondering" and so anxiously waiting for my response - the answer is I'm looking for the exact opposite of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:32 PM
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And the liberal “woke” boys who claim to be allies do that too. I find them much, much worse. Not only for being undetectable wolf in sheep's clothing, but because unlike traditional men who brings home the bacon and expects submissive women, these liberal men bring home nothing, expects 50/50, demand sex, AND STILL WANT SUBMISSIVE WOMEN. (all low key of course) And if you confront them about it, they'll literally fucking cry. assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:22 PM
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feels good man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:23 AM
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guess what? after you dump them, they'll cry to R/askmen and their friends how they opened up to their girlfriend and was rejected and "that's why men don't open up" as if we're responsible for giving them the 101 lecture on emotional communication
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 10:19 AM
3

even better! go you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:24 AM
-4

if you can find them, sure. nothing wrong with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:44 AM
-11

i didn't say "perfect." don't put words in my mouth. "perfect" is black and white thinking and exactly why i said "nuanced" is better. take your passive aggressiveness somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:41 AM
2

I don’t think Beyoncé is a feminist icon! spill!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:10 AM
3

And on top of that, it has further driven a wedge between woc and ww then the preceding waves tell me more?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:08 AM
8

men will only advocate for a version of feminism that benefits them aka the free sex, promiscuous, pro-casual hookups type of women and feminism deviate from that and their misogyny seeps out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:01 AM
5

what's pink and black pill? i swear there's so many of these i can't keep up. and what's that sub you're referring to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:37 AM
7

okay, i asked this on FDS before, but i guess ppl wanted to be dismissive and petty -but I really want to know what r/gendercritical is about. nobody would explain it to me just because i participated in trollx a few times. like, tf??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:37 AM
14

Even women's health subs like PCOS now have male moderators installed to keep the womenfolks in line. really? how do you know that? sometimes i go there for info and i'd really like to know if it's been corrupted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:32 AM
5

Get out and leave. Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:31 AM
2

nope nope nope. get out get out. only if mentally and emotionally for the time being until you can physically distance yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:23 AM
3

they need to change flairs to user-adjusted and include age range, like "30s". the current flairs are so useless tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:17 AM
5

i wish i had this place when i was teen. i was going through so much bullshit with no one to turn to (super conservative community).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:55 AM
2

same q here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:02 AM
1

https://www.therealfemaledatingstrategy.com/post/testing-post-3 dead links in list?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:51 AM
1

would also like the book recs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:28 AM
1

Not always. (I'm thinking of bitches like Megyn Kelly from Bombshell -refused to help out the other women.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:26 AM
4

they want to know if the curtain matches the drapes. disgusting. i know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:16 AM
4

they want to know if the curtain matches the drapes. disgusting. i know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:16 AM
8

It's humbling seeing all the women here in their 20s already living the ideals that some of us took well into our 30s, 40s, 50s to figure out. But the rising tide lifts all boats 🙂👑 well said! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:26 AM
4

I stayed for companionship, love, ect. He stayed to use me. This was my waking moment as well. They don't have empathy like you. They don't think like you. They are NOT playing by the same rules. You think they're just lonely and confused and don't know? WRONG. They KNOW exactly what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:18 AM
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Aside from her writing, Lady Mary is also known for introducing and advocating for smallpox inoculation to Britain after her return from Turkey. and we love a pro-vax queen! Before starting for the East, Lady Mary Wortley Montagu had met Alexander Pope, and during her Embassy travels with her husband, they wrote each other a series of letters. While Pope may have been fascinated by her wit and elegance, Lady Mary's replies to his letters reveal that she was not equally smitten.[3] Very few lette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:29 AM
23

1/3 is not even majority. i wouldn't count that as "female managed." which means, despite it being only partly women, it's STILL gaining the upper hand. i hope these women go to the top, cuz men in power at their firms don't deserve to profit off their instincts. it's borderline exploitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:17 AM
3

i love your username!!! haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:36 AM
8

yeah, i always thought "sex positive" was progressive, but then some guy used that to neg me into having sex with him. that's when i started googling "sex critical". lots of articles came up and it aligned with my beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:34 AM
5

the only poly/bdsm person i know is HELLA libertarian conservative. (straight dude) also reminds me of Dan Savage who pushes poly/bdsm/kink-agenda onto straight women (he's gay)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:31 AM
13

and the thing they're never able to counter is -did you have a healthy childhood and a good relationship with your primary caregivers? no? it's always no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:17 AM
14

yeah, i'd love to just cut my narc parents off in a snap, but i can't. so it continues to ride on my self esteem and confidence in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:56 AM
3

the current flairs aren't helpful/informative at all. almost everyone's a newbie. i think it should be set to be whatever you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:54 AM
4

1) Chumplady.com 2) Dr Ramani on youtube 3) Deborrah Cooper https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMu0MsC5gmin3IodVo6lBPTRMEqAoaUOV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 09:01 AM
1

pls do some googling and let us know what became of them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:48 AM
12

Men will always take what they can get, but only respect what they earn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:00 AM
3

i wonder if this is how it'd feel if i cut off my narc parents. longest breakup of my life... btw -how did it go when he actually came home? don't leave us hanging!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:04 AM
1

its called fds...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:12 PM
1

which mra?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:24 PM
2

did you leave pre wedding?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:18 PM
1

how do you tell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:33 AM
1

how do you tell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:33 AM
12

oh oops, yes, libfem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:08 AM
20

the principle found her on it, so it's a double standard if he isn't also reprimanded. regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:23 AM
47

right now, TrollX is downvoting someone for saying that students seeing their teacher on OnlyFans would be disruptive to their learning. like...i get teachers are underpaid, but OnlyFans is NOT similar to any other "second job" (their argument). seriously. how did i ever buy into "sex positive" libfem arguments?? ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:48 PM
15

is her name T.P.??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:47 PM
11

given no one here is advocating for harem style dating. parts of this discussion thread implies the advantages of this though, specifically advocating for multiple male father figures by deceiving who's the real father. i'm against this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:31 PM
13

there's a lady (skenazy?) who advocates for the "free range children" movement, supported by Malcolm Gladwell (she's from Yale or something) and other academics. she promotes letting your kids play unsupervised in public parks and the like, which i kinda get, but she takes it too far. like bitch. this makes sense for boys. but not for girls! and not for minority girls!! she needs to take her white lady academic trash and shove it. her entire book and proposal is to gaslight parents out of their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:19 PM
30

i bet she's a huge Pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:13 PM
8

as a non-lesb, what are LVW behaviors specific to lesbian women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:11 PM
23

I still think monogamy is advantageous in humans though, when it's the women's active choice. It's always a slippery slope to point at animal behavior as our role model. For example, there's a lot of polygamy (gorillas) and rape (so many species) in animals, don't mean it's something to point at and mirror. In fact, *cels have used the same "look at the apes" argument to defend reprehensible acts against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:06 PM
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societal pressure aka pressure on ALL women to marry means even the "beta" males are gonna be partnered up when they shouldn't be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:59 PM
55

SeX-POsiTiVity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:53 PM
66

free emotional labor 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:50 PM
90

every post by a girl in askmen ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:48 PM
9

it's "cool girl" + "save the bad misunderstood dog by loving it to goodness" i'm sure that's familiar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:28 PM
9

yeah, the votes have been swinging wildly even moreso than normal. i'm sure there's a couple of FDS-ers here who're offended by that. the only "working job" part of the pitbull is to defend property and attack people. at least that i'm aware of. it's not like they herd or retrieve or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 04:35 PM
6

Was he super chatty then got lost in the Bermuda Triangle? Drop him who knew the bermuda triangle was all over the world lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:05 PM
42

I’m literally a homosexual, so seeing a dick ruins my whole day. lolololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:37 PM
20

wtf?? why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:00 PM
11

For me, I've always believed in FDS-stuff. Unfortunately, no woman around me did, so I spent decades doubting myself and feeling confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:52 PM
16

I'd argue for the middle ground - At the beginning, the guy needs to ask questions, observe, and you should point things out if he misses it. But if after a while, he forgets basic shit and/or you have to constantly remind him, then that's a no. Every woman needs to define for herself what that line is though. Goes without saying, this only applies to person-specific quirks and actions that are going above and beyond. You should NEVER have to ask for basic decency and respect, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:46 PM
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unpopular opinion: only (mostly?) Pickmes want a pitbull (mean dog) you'll never gaslight me into believing an untrained chihuahua is equally dangerous as an untrained pitbull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:49 PM
4

so the handbook basically lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:40 PM
9

LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:37 PM
6

Dating is an exclusionary activity by nature. It’s not my job to be a charity. It’s my job to choose the best possible option, for me and my future children. yessss men think it's them at the buffet line when it's really julia roberts in pretty woman sitting down when they present all the pretty clothing options to her for her to pick and choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:10 AM
13

If we can do it, then why do we have to accept men who can't? fucking. mic. drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:05 AM
8

gavin says the SAME exact thing in his book "the gift of fear"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:53 AM
6

brutal truth right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:48 AM
10

prolly bald
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:38 AM
5

Go for the jugular. Tell him all about his trifling, tawdry, nasty, disgusting freak ass. lolol girl YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:35 AM
1

tell us about a copule of those instances when it felt off and then it turned out to be right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:05 AM
7

i know a rich doctor (family member) he's the biggest asshole i know he shouldn't procreate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:02 AM
3

this got me vibin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:09 PM
8

i think it's to avoid fixing their own lives nobody likes fixing their own shit. men dive into work, women dive into saving men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:05 PM
13

i had this EXACT thing happen ALSO asked him about pegging (quickly dismissed as "i tried it once it wasn't for me) before moving onto my kinks lmfaooooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:57 PM
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unfortunately it's always right on the money Ex: I had this exact screenshot happen. "you're open minded" in text -> let's talk about sex within 15min of meeting (aka let's go have it after this)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 09:32 PM
1

Ugh. Good point. I've come across some rich men and I honestly just don't understand them. Their wealth SIGNIFICANTLY skewed their thinking. It was kinda a mindfuck tbh. It was like, they wanted to be SEEN as good and nice, but they were just not (by their actions and past history). :/ Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:57 PM
5

Wow, what a lovely turn of ideas. They certainly have it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:55 PM
6

nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:50 PM
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It was also reported that Stodden's father was four years younger than his son-in-law Hutchison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:11 PM
9

Right? It's so confusing...cuz I WANT to like John Legend! But the people you're married to always says something about who YOU are, one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:07 PM
0

It's gonna seem misogynistic -but I only know her through John Legend's music (her husband).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:06 PM
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take a look at this twitter post (image shot) I kinda went on a rant about this: Sometimes when men look for "girlfriends," they're really looking for "free hookers." Don't be a free hooker. Male Depravity = not understanding the term "girlfriend" the way we do. we think "caring, nurturing relationship. sometimes with sex if we've established an emotional connection and it's an expression of our love." they think "be able to stick my dick in this girl whenever i want since we're 'dating'." for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:41 PM
4

Damn, what a fascinating insight, thank you. Go THEM. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:23 PM
8

mostly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:39 AM
25

he can go sit on a cactus and spin FUCK HIM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:31 AM
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I think most, if not all, women on this sub have been emotionally, sexually and physically abused to different degrees. i made this comment to a couple radfems some time ago and they all disagreed with me. and i'm like...we've ALL shared with each other stories of harrassment with each other at the very LEAST wtf are you talking about ppl love being ignorant to their own pain sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:29 AM
1

pls tell me you got revenge on this petty biach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:04 AM
3

given that she was trying for cleavage just shows how jealous she was. what a hateful ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:00 AM
1

are you talking about the mobile app? that's the google result for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:21 AM
5

i can watch all the harry potter movies with that amount of projection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:36 AM
3

LOL! what a nut!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:34 AM
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and gay men like Dan Savage who give advice to straight women to go and fuck freely like gay men do, and encourage women to be porn/kink friendly. (and excuse underage dating!!) they can all go shove it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:26 AM
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oof now i'm super curious -how much did the richest dude you've ever dated make? and did you find that their attitude was markedly different than the "poorer" millionaires? any specific thing in their upbringing or background that was determinant of this difference? also, any major red flags when it comes to rich men that maybe regular ppl don't know about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:06 AM
4

quick reminder to everybody here - mail in ballots must be received on 10/31 yall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:04 AM
3

And based on general observation, Chinese women are more feisty and brave than Japanese and Korean women - they are colder, harsher, less empathetic. Interesting! Do you know why this is? And are you talking about Chinese/Japanese/Korean women in America, or elsewhere? Cuz I know there's a big diaspora.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:22 PM
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now i'm curious -how'd he earn his million? what were the professions of the previous millionaires? side note: millionaires like these probably don't practice ethical business standards, shown here in his ego and entitlement. i'd rather date a mobster. at least they KNOW they're stealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:57 PM
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Right??? Why is this labeled "how to High-Value"??? are we giving out cookies for being committed to your wife??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:46 PM
3

do you ever try to play captain save a hoe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:43 PM
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So, SO important. I had to drop several Pickme friends who'd come to me with problems, I'd listen, give some advice, then weeks later....come complaining again. I'm never going to mean to other women trying to figure it out, but if you show ZERO effort to take responsibility, again and again, I need you to gtfo outta my house and outta my life. I don't want you around my kids with your bullshit neither. Go stew in your own dumb b*ch shit. I'm too busy leveling up. 💁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:40 PM
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i fear even feminist/women-supporting men are threatened by it. it's like an evolutionary thing. some of them actively try to fight against their own irritation but it's like they can't help it. and that's the best we could ask for i guess. ugh. (i know a HVM who talked to his therapist about this -he actively did work on his own internalized misogyny.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:30 PM
3

can identify how to use serums i need help too pls lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:17 PM
4

a lot of them jewish WM with East AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:15 PM
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mainly because the women there are not afraid to cause a scene. i'm ignorant on this -can you tell me more? i wasn't aware of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:08 PM
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he can go FUCK himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:40 PM
3

what was that sub about? i'm new to reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:02 PM
2

link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:02 PM
2

is this subreddit archived on there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:01 PM
1

she dated g eazy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:33 PM
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I agree with you. OP -don't be surprised if this dude turns out to be controlling...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:18 PM
2

any surprising things you learned from that book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:11 PM
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there's a great book for unrequited love and friendships by Samara O'Shea called "loves me not" -i re-read it all the time. it's like a friend talking to me, with plenty of illuminating anecdotes to illustrate her points. honestly one of my favorite books of all time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:10 PM
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ugh, i'm so sorry. men are such shitheads sometimes. i wish more women talked to each other about these experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:04 PM
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this is so hilarious and not so hilariously true. ugh. i feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:12 PM
2

If we treat ourselves with reverance and care we recieve the same treatment in return. I somewhat disagree. While it's true for a lot of people, true HVM will treat you with respect and care no matter how shitty you see yourself. They're rare though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:51 PM
10

he'd done a school year's worth of JROTC like 13 years ago in high school (before he dropped out) and to him that meant he'd met his lifetime quota for outdoor activities ok why you have to call me out like that lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:43 AM
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It's always the women that I see wanting to be better and do better in a relationship when it really needs to be the dude that should step up Big example: Beyonce and Jay Z she even sings in Lemonade -what did I do wrong? oh i already asked that, my bad. that entire song is about HER trying to be better so he wouldn't keep cheating on her. like. TF! (Also -I hear a LOT more about women converting to x-religion for her husband rather than the other way around.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:39 AM
1

a mod in the wild! question -what do you think about changing flairs to be self-adjusted? like we can indicate age or age range, which i find much more helpful when gauging reactions, especially as i'm a bit of an older egg and would prefer to know when i'm taking advice from someone younger or older!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:09 PM
1

i had a friend like this HAD. no ragrets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:49 PM
1

i wonder if we could create a member only FDS verified r4r community here on reddit in search of other FDS friends in our own cities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:44 PM
11

She's a pickme by being cold and non-inclusive. And she will sabotage you out of her own unhappiness. Don't let her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:17 PM
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He's huge in the gay community due to his political activism, even endorsed at one point by OBAMA. And he's been around for a long time (he's in his 40s now), and has a long running podcast. And yes, I absolutely agree, which is why I think it's a terrible sphere to model OUR straight women relationships after. Legalizing gay marriage certainly didn't erase all the decades of shame and oppression that's always been in the community, and that's something that the community itself will have to wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:12 PM
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and it started 100 years ago with women's right to vote. we have to continue to vote, and vote in issues about abortion, rape within marriage, and right to divorce. none of this would be possible without voting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:49 PM
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don't hold your breath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:47 PM
4

or make em yourself instead of following men telling you how to treat yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:18 PM
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and then there's Dan Savage pushing for it (he's gay) cuz the SeX-POsiTiViTY1!!! oh and guess what? he pushes that harmful shit onto straight women as well. douche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 01:17 PM
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People really hate it when other people have higher standards than themselves because you're holding up a very uncomfortable mirror to them. you have NO idea. i grew up around an entire community and culture of "women are supposed to be feminine and therefore be caring nurturing loving gentle blah blah blah blah blah" little me was VERY against it and didn't give a single fuck about showing it (helps when you're bi lmao). however, that ended up with other girls in my grade talking a lot of shit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:57 PM
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Bonus point: posted by a queer libfem supporting the man's side. barf Male Depravity=not understanding the term "girlfriend" the way that we, the women, do. we think "caring, nurturing relationship. sometimes with sex if we've established an emotional connection and it's an expression of our love." they think "be able to stick my dick in this girl whenever i want cuz she'll always be by my side since we're 'dating'." for these men, dating IS sex. FREE sex. and if you asked them, "what's the diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:43 PM
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Including gay men. Including gay men like Dan Savage who excuse adults dating underage girls cuz he dated an older woman in his youth. Only shame is the other women who call in to his show and ask him questions as IF he could answer them properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:31 PM
5

until he meets the one he does want a commitment wit do you overlook his past LVM/NVM behavior with other women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:10 AM
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truest shit ever. i went on a date with a guy who literally said he realized he "wasn't ready" with his last gf. and guess what yall? he was looking for a gf and casual hookup at the same time -um WHAT? bangmaid. bangmaid was the answer. gf=consistent sex for these NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:59 AM
7

You determine the boundaries & show men how to respect you by just how much you tolerate if he realizes later that he was disrespectful, apologizes, and wants to try again, and actually shows a 180 in action, would you give him a 2nd chance. i know some here would not but what are your thoughts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:49 AM
13

He is a leech and you are the Giving Tree without boundaries. So he will continue to "work on things" and/or even have the audacity to do "couples counseling" for a few months (manipulating the couples counselor the whole time to gaslight you so he can maximize his benefits from you) x100
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:36 AM
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i didn't see it at the time, but a guy told me he was looking for a gf aka to date someone, but he also admitted to wanting casual hookups -so what he ACTUALLY wanted was a bangmaid -someone to consistently provide sex aka fwb they're either too scared to admit it (to you or to themselves) but their definition of a "girlfriend" is NOT the same as ours sometimes and we have also ask what their definition of a girlfriend is. sometimes it's "consistent and reliable sexual partner" aka "i don't REAL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:49 AM
7

why would that be a red flag? seems like he wants to start a discussion or confirmation on what yall are both looking for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:47 AM
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. Also, if you're the only one asking questions, then you know he doesn't give AF about you or your life. so, so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:18 PM
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The internet, being the murky, swampy scum-soup that it is, from the article lolol (also? 9 year difference isn't exactly age appropriate...?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 11:10 PM
5

Your situation sounds scarily like something I would've had to experience if I said yes to a guy. I am so glad you're away from him now. He sounds like he suffers from Borderline PD. Was his ex also BPD or NPD?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:11 PM
12

another POC dude called ME exotic i'm like bitch wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:03 PM
41

"You're right. I'm NOT like the other girls. I am much, MUCH worse."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:01 PM
12

Basically if you see anyone try to change your perception or dont take into consideration how YOU are feeling, flips the script to make you feel guilty for something they did, leave. What happened with the guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:54 PM
21

GIRL. tell me about it. my entire recent comment history is about this. i fucking hate sex positive male feminists, gay or not, pushing women for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:27 PM
22

a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:19 PM
7

if this place is banned or quarantined, is there an archive somewhere? I think we should all migrate to the FDS Verified sub, and only show weekly snippets here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:45 AM
2

I think he's super dangerous to women cuz he's a white gay and super super progressive, and gets involved with political causes a LOT. Even endorsed at one point by Obama and other celebrities. It's really hard to point out how insidious his messaging is, because it's wrapped up in some really good feminist messaging. People take him really seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:51 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:55 PM
2

One most obvious would be them feeding your words back to you. Why do you think they do this? And this is just them using the same words you used right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:55 PM
48

the amount of beautiful asian women hanging off of ugly balding white men wearing polos and khakis is too damn high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:09 PM
15

There's people out there who want to have these agreements in place, knowing they're non legally blinding, to put the terms of "play" in place. Whatever. Nothing wrong with that. But these people always seem to have a screw loose somewhere. Like it's good to have open communication and write shit down, but why's it always these boundary-less wackjobs in these circles? If I posted this anywhere else on reddit, I'd be downvoted for kinkshaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:52 PM
7

probably not points to all of history being male-run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:27 PM
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I COMPLETELY completely agree with you. Here's a few articles I came across that you can bookmark them to read for later but I thought I'd share. I had to read these after a guy I dated who loved D4n S4v4ge (a famous sex-positive porn-pushing gay white man who has a podcast) used sex-positivity to push for sex. 3 Reasons Why Sex-Positivity without Critical Analysis Is Harmful Why "Sex-Positive" Feminism Is Negative For Me r/feminism: Does anyone else feel that sex positive feminism has become to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:26 PM
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you should contact the mods to sticky this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:17 PM
3

Good distinctions. Can you explain the difference between gender equity and gender equality? Also, have you encountered these men in the dating scene? How do you tell who's legit pro-gender equity besides not broadcasting it via words or instagram posts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:15 PM
3

That's why you don't get into a discussion with these people in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:08 PM
4

should've femme-splained by kicking him in the nuts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:05 PM
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For D4n S4v4g3, it'd be "unfounded confidence in what cis/hetero women want bECauSe i"m A whIte GAY mAn sO I'M alLOwed tO giVe ThIS adVIcE." (Named changed so he can't google himself here.) He's constantly telling women on his weekly podcast to fuck regardless of emotions and determine "sexual compatibility" and plenty of other bullshit, all from a gay white male perspective. I hate ALL of his advice for women. For example, in a recent podcast he defended a 21yo man dating a 17yo after the older…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:00 PM
4

ewwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:45 PM
6

What's the difference between libfems and radfems? Maybe I'm getting too old to catch up with the new terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:43 PM
1

i had the same thing happen -accused of being distrusting cuz i wasn't laying out my life's trauma for him on the 1st date like bitch i ain't got TRUST ISSUES. i just don't trust YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:24 PM
2

I am so glad that I’m learning about their sly ways of manipulation, which now alerts me to similar red flags with online dating share?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:42 PM
6

Right now I'm very entrenched in my hobby... If you're not more fun than my hobby then I can't see a relationship developing. this is a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:17 AM
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mann....i feel you hard his parents and grandparents aren’t narcissists i'm assuming this is from personal experience? care to tell the tale? i've always wondered about this because i grew up with an nmom and ndad, but i've done the work to get myself out, or as much as possible. so that makes me hestitate on judging dudes too hard about having nmom/ndads who try to work it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:07 AM
3

finally, someone who also wants a nice voice haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:07 AM
2

Got any links? I've never really liked him tbh. I think he panders a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:06 AM
3

Everyone else thought I was so mean. Like I was SO HORRIBLE for it. I think this was would've pissed me off the most -to not have your girlfriends understand you and gaslight you into thinking YOU'RE in the wrong. How did you deal with that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:08 PM
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LMFAOOOO ok there's this one guy who literally wears a black button-down shirt with black slacks at all times. i know he's got a million of them in his closet, but still. he's worn this outfit M-F for the past...10 years????? i know this was metaphorical but this tweet hit way too close to home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:46 AM
1

Thank you, and the last paragraph is a very good point. I guess the key is finding points of fear or trepidation in them and making them take that leap lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:21 AM
1

what do you personally look for to see if he's going to and/or is committed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:07 AM
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Thank you! I definitely tried doing it my last date. His patronizing made me feel so deflated, and he asked if I wanted to go back to his place afterwards, and I had to say no. I was really soft about it, but I said NO nonetheless! That was a hard date. I am definitely a soft yolk trying to be a hard boiled egg LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:01 AM
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Duly noted for next time!! I usually prefer to be nice and polite, and sometimes can't believe my ears when men act obnoxious on a date. I'm gonna have to be a bit more bitchy next time around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:55 AM
0

Apparently you can't respond to disagreement without calling other women names. Take care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:51 AM
1

Thanks for actually linking these! I had an interesting response earlier that the user (and then mods) deleted lol Reading these now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:50 AM
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Um you didn't understand it properly as you get the answer to when do you have sex, when to cook for him etc from the handbook, if you really read it you wouldn't be asking the same questions. We get sick of the same comments and questions about the same basic things from people who aren't reading the handbook. This is why it exists and people took time to write it. So I'll pointing you in the right direction, the handbook. It will tell you to have sex only when committed and when you're comfort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:14 AM
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You're dismissing women who use it to mean super duper submissive men. Same with incel men who use the term "white knight." It's sometimes different when women use it, so I'm going to disagree with you here. I know what it means. It's just not always used in the same context elsewhere as it is here in FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:57 AM
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I've read it, but I guess I forgot it's in there. Edit: It's not in there. Y'all need to stop downvoting women in here who're trying to improve. It really is unnecessary. The attitude too. I've encountered it way too many times in this sub with a lot of comments. Instead of downvoting or giving attitude, point people in the right direction. There's no need to be bitchy to each other here. Save it for the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:53 AM
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do you think sex should happen after 1) vetting and then 2) determining exclusivity? i don't know what the FDS recommendation on this is. i'm guessing not everybody here is abstinence only until marriage. also, when should ANY of these happen in the vetting order? when do you cook for him? buy him bday gifts? etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:25 AM
4

what kind of doctor is he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:04 PM
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haha i can just imagine the operator on the other end hearing this with the claps like...uh..yes m'am lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:53 PM
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Currently reading Gift of Fear -it's so good. Everyone should read it. Read something the other night that said something like -we have a tough time DISQUALIFYING someone than QUALIFYING them. We're always looking for reasons to qualify people, to give them the benefit of the doubt, and try to overlook their faults (and sometimes some very dangerous red flags), especially when it comes to men. (And the author writes from the perspective of counseling those in domestic violence situations.) The P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:45 PM
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He must've been REALLY obnoxious then. I guess my guy had a little more grace...which isn't saying much... These dudes I swear. Clueless at best. And DEFINITELY should not be in the dating pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:35 AM
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i dated someone like this too. they put everyone in a hierarchy of who they can treat like shit and who can treat THEM like shit (aka they'll have to respect). i don't fuck with anyone who's constantly evaluating pecking order and assigning respect based on it. fuck off. you don't get to be a patronizing dickwad and then suddenly act all small when i don't take the bait. unfortunately, i really prefer being nice and polite. i SHOULD've been like you -mouthed off and left early. we never followed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:01 AM
0

wouldn't that be a good thing? to be invested in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:10 AM
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Hey Butterscotch! Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I think you're right on the money. He micromanages a lot. He booted his startup with his dad's money. (yeah, one of those) He's grown it a lot, but yeah, that's how he's at the top. But that's rich ppl for ya. They genuinely believe they're at the top due to their own hard work. I think I misspoke but he doesn't actively shit on ppl who're poorer, he just has very libertarian beliefs: you work hard you get rich, if you're lazy you end up poor. Sorry …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:30 PM
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he works with, supports, and donates to organizations and nonprofits that promotes better health/educational access for impoverished people. again, i don't get this dude. i'm still trying to understand his beliefs. (he's a libertarian)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:23 PM
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no idea, actually. never got around to asking. i'm not with him now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:51 PM
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He's a massive simp though. Does that change anything? He grew up rich so he thinks everybody at the economic bottom deserves being there for being lazy/dumb, but he also gets pussy-whipped easily. i don't get this dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:44 PM
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re: Wealthy Dudes How do yall feel about rich dudes who buy you expensive jewelry and treat you to high-class experiences but treat their employees like shit? His glassdoor is filled with negative reviews about terrible management, hostile working environments, high turnover, and near non-existent benefits. Nobody likes working there. Is this a red flag???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:06 PM
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Thanks. His family's pretty shitty and very narcissistic, especially the abusive dad. It's made him very codependent AND narcissistic. Go figure. I guess he's trying his best, but it's hard to pull away from all that childhood mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:43 PM
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Thank you for your reply. whew I'm from a poor area as well, so the whole maid thing is kinda snobbish to me, but I suppose it's an efficiency thing. It's hard to wrap my mind around. Both my parents cleaned their own crap lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:47 AM
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what if he uses a maid? vetting is difficult when they're busy traveling professionals with no time to clean but still want to keep a clean place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:36 AM
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how do you feel about shit their siblings have done? from DUIs up to a car accident that killed someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:12 AM
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how do you feel about shit their siblings have done? from DUIs up to a car accident that killed someone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:12 AM
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a lot of FDS-ology here would say someone like that isn't good enough. there's some opposing viewpoints here, which is expected, but definitely a lot of variation on who or what constitutes a "HVM"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:12 AM
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i thought this was Meg thee Stallion lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:10 AM
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key is to not play that game to begin with done with it (personally) they need to either engage or don't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:05 AM
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They are also prone to fake it his favor, but with less effort. Can you rephrase? I'm not understanding. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:00 AM
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Girl. Let. him. GO. I sympathize though. The heart want what it wants, even if it's stupid af. I get you. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:40 AM
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right??? like i don't know what to do to make these Pickmes go on their merry Pickme way. they're annoying as hell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:38 AM
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Good points, thank you. I know in my case the 2 women have very loyal husbands, but the women- they just have very low self-esteem. Nothing I can do, but that low self-esteem tends to get everywhere... I think they just don't like me cuz I'm younger and as smart as they are. It sucks cuz we have so much in common and I tried befriending them at first. They did not respond in kind. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:35 AM
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that low self esteem is real and blatant i want to know how to make them go away! ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:29 AM
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they try to be low key about their obsession too. i don't know how to deal with them. between confronting or ghosting them, i just don't want to deal with them, cuz they don't seem to want to go away on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:27 AM
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Ugh. I just posted another reply where I'm having very similar issues. These catty attitudes really affect work environments which you can't walk away from. Even harder in smaller circles where you can't avoid them. I'm younger than 2 of the women by at least 5 years, and their husbands are also fugly as hell or at the very least not my type. As IF I'd be interested in them. It's fucking tiring trying to play nice with these 2 bi*hes. Problem is, you never know what kind of problems they can cau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:59 PM
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And if they try to befriend you for ulterior motives (like gain insight into your relationship with the man and target of her interest?).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:50 PM
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I'm kinda on the other side of this. Married pickme's think I'm flirting with their husband, and they're jealous cuz I'm just talking to him, like...? I've had this happen with these 2 slightly older married PHD women (who're friends with each other) in my academic circle and I guess their egos were threatened?? Their husbands and I sometimes cross paths cuz we do similar work in our professional lives, and I can just see them sulking off the side. Either that or they find opportunities to be me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:38 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:17 PM
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Women are really out here mailing thank you cards, keeping in touch with our distant family members, bringing treats to their classmates/coworkers, putting in the effort spending hours to get ready (shaving/waxing, doing our hair, skincare routine, putting on make-up, picking out an outfit, perfume etc.) dudes really out here thinking they could just show up to dates problem is, if they're doing that on the reg, i imagine they're able to cuz women (pickmes) are receptive to that and don't have s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:34 AM
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Upvote! Women and my inner pickmesha always acting like the sales person even though THEY're the one approaching me. What an ass-backwards approach! Like, what kinda salesmen goes up to another, and the other one does the selling! So stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:24 AM
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great insight. i'm not in sales, can you expand upon the connection? i'm sure i can take some blind guesses, but i'd really like to hear from someone who's worked in sales to gain some insight and connections i might not be able to see! thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:34 PM
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Oh it's definitely that. I already know it. And I still refuse to solve my own problems first. I'm dumb like that. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:31 PM
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my dumb ass always wanna be saving somebody ugh puts on cone of shame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:32 PM
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damn. that's some good shit. now why aren't you with him again? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:12 AM
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1st answer says LVM mindset. He talks about "guys" as if it's other guys. Nope. "Guys" also = him. He's stringing you along, at least for this year when he's unhappy. He just doesn't want to be lonely. He literally admits that he's not giving you what you should have. Loud and clear. I don't know your situation but those 2 things sound like a dump-his-ass situation. I certainly wouldn't put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:22 PM
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Oh my gosh, that sounds like it. He also "floodlighted" me, giving me way too much personal info about himself, explicitly saying how he was sharing so I'd feel compelled to share as well in a quid pro quo flow. His lack of boundaries for himself felt hella weird for someone that old. (For reference, he's 18yrs older, divorced for 2, married for 15, and I'm early 30s). Why do you think they do this???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:18 PM
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i don't know why your comment is so triggering, but i had a date with a much older dude who did the same thing regarding something much less like deciding a time "we can decide the week before when to set up the date" or somesuch (oh it's fine we can do x....as if i had no voice and he made the choice FOR me). like, you just made the decision for me. and he'd say "we waited for x" when it was he who waited, i wanted to go for it. like, who tf is we. it was YOU who dropped the ball. and no surpri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:11 AM
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i wish i had friends like you apparently i'm an uptight prude / rampaging femcel for thinking like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:55 AM
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Well said. What standards did he raise in you that you didn't know to expect previously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:31 AM
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Oh, they were flirting by the end. She reaches out and puts a hand over his hand to reassure him and calm him, and they exchange a ~ look ~. I just thought that wasn't necessary. definitely therapeutic. i have no idea why either haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:00 AM
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Maybe I'm biased but I knew a rich developer type and he was definitely selfish and narcissistic.. the new hubby reminded me of him and i was like ugh, too real. Though I suppose he was nice enough. We don't see much of him in this movie. But yeah, the asian dude depicted was awesome. Though, I suppose my one critique is the lovely Indian newswoman who ended up with the old professor, like? Why do Hollywood male writers always get beautiful women to go after baldy Paul Giamatti types? Like..why?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:08 AM
2

Wow. Got it. Responsibility and gentleness, gotta remember that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:58 AM
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I love San Andreas! Just watched it again last week. It's one of my comfort movies. And you're right, Ben and his funny brother is HVM material for sure. The rich dude who ran off? Who's surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:55 AM
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yeah, i saw that one a few months ago and it really hit badly the 2nd time around. i was like...wait..he was in his 20s when he dated a teen??? did NOT realize how fucked up that was. and of course the strong woman character needed HIS saving instead of just turning around and leaving his unfaithful ass in the dust like she should've. but, that movie would've been really fucking short lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:30 PM
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i watched a few seasons of this and i hated it too as a kid. i couldn't put my finger on it at the time, but i hated that she allowed him to get away for so much. everybody bent over for House's "crazed genius" and it's irritating as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:28 PM
1

unfortunately i've never read the comics. tell us about the HVW MJ in the comic version?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:26 PM
6

right? turn yourself into 007 and then we'll talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 10:06 PM
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i'm not sure if this will help -but remember that we, and all the other women around you, both physically and not, your mother and grandmother and all your foremothers, and all the women who's ever existed -are behind you and cheering you on! don't look to LVM/HVM to validate you -look to yourself and those who love you and want the best for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:39 AM
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True, just pointing out the age difference is stil there. Speaking of which, the usual "half his age plus 7" is not the best. "Not old enough to have fathered her" seems to be a much better metric. Anything more than that is just ew. (like sean penn's case) I find age gaps less questionable when the woman is 35+ Agreed. But I wonder if there's a mental age at play here too, especially with women who were born in earlier generations not having access to FDS-type of guidance so even though they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:08 AM
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he looks like a rotisserie chicken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:56 AM
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Idris Elba on his 3rd marriage to someone 17 years younger. pass. (47 and 30, married last year)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:52 AM
5

11 years is still a pretty significant difference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:40 AM
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i wasn't allowed to watch that show growing up, but a few years ago read the synopsis on wiki. and let's just say, i'm so glad i didn't grow up thinking THAT was romance, cuz her actions were so fucking stupid. like, girl, he. is. TRASH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:31 PM
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and of course she wins an oscar for it! hollywood's full of old scrotes with young pickmeishas loving a story of a WoMan whoS NOt AfrAId to FIghT for Her MAN aNd IS soO FEIsTY! barf (and let's not forget who got her there)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:28 PM
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she should've dated and married Mark and watched Ross cry like a lil bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:26 PM
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oh GOD. fucking ROSS. don't even GET me started i used think maybe that's just how things go when you want a kid and life gets in the way. now i realize the whole thing was FUCKED and completely BS. even JOEY's better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:25 PM
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i made the mistake of accepting a dick pic (he asked to send it) and commenting on it (it was nice and big lmao) and guess what yall? he spent the ENTIRE first date talking about sex. any attempts to talk about normal shit like where he's from led back to sex. let's talk about your family or job or ANYTHING ELSE! nope. back to sex. ugh. don't accept dick pics yall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:04 AM
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now THIS is the kind of advice i need for my lazy ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:56 AM
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ugh this reminds me of this bird in 1987 that was recorded singing to a mate that'll never come cuz it's extinct and he's the last one of his kind. (and they mate for life!) when the researchers played his birdsong back to him, he flew to the recording thinking he found his mate. 😭😭😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:52 AM
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She's easy to listen to, but in case you want to know the basics: She sold it as a face oil / skincare thing, and labeled it for use on the face to avoid blame. Caught, tortured, and killed after a lady had 2nd thoughts about poisoning her husband. Her husband tortured the info out of her. Usually this was only told by word of mouth to trusted confidants. Contained lead, arsenic, belladonna, etc. Colorless, odorless liquid, to be poured into water, drinks, soups. Slow-acting so husband would thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:29 AM
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leave my delicious chicken tendies outta this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:19 AM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:10 PM
5

DONE! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:09 PM
3

he protecc he provide but most important he burp bb's bacc -my 5am brain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:04 AM
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yep yep yep. don't tell me about all that big stuff. can you do the SMALL stuff. like. did he do the small thing this week that he told me he was gonna do LAST week. don't worry about the big stuff dude. show me you can wash your ass first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:01 AM
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this pickmeisha going hard in askmen threads damn lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:13 AM
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it hides an ugly face but THEY're not gonna tell you that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:12 PM
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heads up -she's a self-proclaimed conservative (twitter bio) saying that Planned Parenthood is doing the trafficking.... i've always been critical of the porn industry. i've also read her book and followed her on social media over the past decade or so. while i agree with her general critique, i think she needs to be taken with a grain of salt over certain statements
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:42 AM
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spill the tea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:14 AM
1

Do tell? What would you tell yourself if you could go back in time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:29 PM
2

Just don’t ever get into a relationship while in a hard time personally. This is like being the ultimate narc treat. And trust your gut. If it feels like it’s wrong - it is. Don’t rationalize your fears to dismiss them. oh my god. please say more about that. i really need to hear it right now. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:21 AM
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have either of you been previously married or have kids with exes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:33 AM
2

what about SHARED trauma? like putting up with similarly shitty parents or siblings growing up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:13 AM
3

You sound like you have lots of experience? Please share? The best and worst of the older and younger ones you've been with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:42 AM
1

I missed serious red flags because I got used to dismiss every little gut feeling about him. Please share with us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:36 AM
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does it change your opinion knowing his gf is 8yrs younger than him? (47 and 55)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:16 AM
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i get what you're saying. i was using him as a popular example. you brought up something else too -what if all these dudes our age are HVM now, but when they get older, they're just like the older dudes who go after young women? it's like...they could still turn into NVMs, no? and Keanu's current gf is still 8yrs younger than him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:13 AM
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sorry i'm new here -what's the tl;dr on serial monogamists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:10 AM
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it seems the only older dudes i'd date are the ones who'd say no to younger women. it's a catch-22 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:09 AM
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what's the oldest you've seriously considered? and yeah, you're right about the cross-generational thing. met a guy who's in tech and seems hip enough, but yeah, even if everything's equal between us, then i'm suspicious as to WHY...cuz he SHOULD be different. and then i don't respect HIM for it. it's a conundrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:08 AM
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and they fully know it too. this one guy last year bait-and-switched me and it's taken me a full year to come to terms with the fact that he just didn't respect me as he only wanted sex. he pulled a fast one on me and i'm still coming to terms with it cuz he was so charming. (also a slick-talking polyam lawyer. can i get a UGH)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:56 AM
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