Some men love calling women gold diggers, yet here I am (politely) turning down a “rich” guy after 1‼️ date. Imagine feeling so entitled and simultaneously so insufferable that even your $$$ can’t keep a woman interested since that’s all he thinks I’m after, I have to laugh 😘

Ms_Tilly · 2020-09-01T19:50:39+00:00

And then they whine about ghosting. This is exactly why I just block them without an explanation. I had one I didn't want to see again try to reverse psychology me with "I'm not sure we're a good match". I was like OH I am so relieved you said that because I feel the same way. And then he got upset and backtracked and wanted to know why I thought we weren't a good match. Boy, bye 👋

purasangria · 2020-09-01T19:59:55+00:00

Hahahaha ok so apparently lots of women leave him?

CalceatedContessa · 2020-09-01T19:48:29+00:00

Edit: In reference to the diet comment he made, we had dinner at Ruth Chris and he said he wanted to lose some weight. I told him I lost over 20 pounds this year and this was my cheat meal.

I mean that’s the tip of the ice berg since there’s a lot to unpack here LOL

SunnydaleHSDropout · 2020-09-01T20:14:41+00:00

He sounds like a subscriber to the Where are all the Good Men philosophy, especially with that “not after you’ve had a kid” comment. They all have this fucked up fantasy that all the women who nexted them end up fat, unhappy, single mothers who lament the day they turned them down. Consider this a bullet dodged!

2020-09-01T20:14:22+00:00

Men say women are gold diggers but always get so angry and offended when women reject rich guys.

Men love gold diggers, they only hate that they're too expensive. Because paying sex, marriage and kids for money is truly the easiest, most convenient and lowest effort relationship men can get. That's why even today mail order bride still exists.

CalceatedContessa · 2020-09-01T20:22:39+00:00

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Pasdepromesses · 2020-09-01T20:04:30+00:00

I walked away from a millionaire too. No money is word your peace, autonomy or self-respect.

purasangria · 2020-09-01T20:44:21+00:00

OMG. Could he be any more insufferable?? What a pig.

No amount of money could induce me to date -- much less marry -- a man I didn't like. And he's not likeable.

seraphinelysion · 2020-09-01T21:16:39+00:00

No amount of money can buy you out of a shitty personality.

cryptohobo · 2020-09-01T20:20:21+00:00

Actual millionaires don’t brag about being millionaires. The only exception is rappers. Also very presumptuous for him to think you’re not wealthy and need a man to pay your bills. I wonder what trick he’d pull out of his hat if you told him you’re already a millionaire yourself. He’s so desperate it’s hidden in plain sight and boils down to this phrase: “please come back” lol.

4E4ME · 2020-09-02T01:13:26+00:00

Ugh. Lawyers go to school to learn how never to lose an argument. I stopped dating lawyers a long time ago. They are like a dog with a bone, they'll never let go. They will argue and argue and argue until you just give up, they never seem to realize that their personal life operates on different rules than their professional life. This guy just kept throwing arguments at you. Way to go dude, you've just proven that you refuse to accept boundaries! What a catch you are!

OP, you handled the whole thing with a lot of poise and class. Nicely done.

SpringJonesOcean · 2020-09-01T21:16:03+00:00

"You will probably regret that decision." Nah, I don't think so.

Annia_Cornificia · 2020-09-01T23:31:03+00:00

Men complain about gold diggers and then "subtly" drop the word "millionaire" in casual conversation completely unwarranted. Lol wtf is wrong with them.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2020-09-01T21:41:41+00:00

I hate when you reject guys and they can’t take no for an answer. I couldn’t dump a guy without him begging and pleading for another chance.

2020-09-01T22:12:59+00:00

Sure, he's a "millionaire". These guys are a laugh riot.

2020-09-01T20:13:11+00:00

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DallasOMalley · 2020-09-01T22:20:00+00:00

Aw, you hurt his widdle feefees! 😂

A simple civil rejection and he's already coming unhinged, though? Yikes.

Eluniae · 2020-09-01T20:19:45+00:00

When he said you won’t find anyone interested in you that’s better than him, I felt that. I stayed in a toxic 3-year relationship because my manipulative LVM ex kept telling me that I’ll never find someone who would want me like him. I had low self-esteem and was scared of being alone, so I was convinced he was right and stayed with him for 3 years instead of ending it before the first year. These men are scum. Unmatch him and move on.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-09-01T22:42:53+00:00

Money cannot buy good manners or class.

2020-09-01T23:13:33+00:00

100% he is not as rich as he’s saying he is 😂

vmuzondi · 2020-09-01T23:05:56+00:00

Hmm for someone with so many prospects, he sure does spend a lot of time sending paragraphs on tinder.

PinkestMango · 2020-09-02T00:48:33+00:00

"Good luck with the diet"

Awww he is worthless

palmettojla · 2020-09-02T02:54:38+00:00

W.t.f? Hahaha! Omg! What a doofus!

Alexa1219 · 2020-09-02T12:51:45+00:00

How the fuck is this even real. Girl. So glad you dropped his ass.

estu0 · 2020-09-02T13:37:02+00:00

“Good luck with the diet” mmmmmmmm get fucked

Buckley92 · 2020-09-02T01:43:23+00:00

Dude... would you seriously rather be landed with a girl who's only there for the money? At least OP was honest.

I turned down a guy with money too, because he couldn't respect the fact that I had to work the next day and wanted me to go clubbing at 11pm on a Thursday night.

kaitybubbly · 2020-09-02T02:04:38+00:00

Hooo girl you dodged a bullet. The gall he had to send those.. unbelievable

luckylexxi · 2020-09-02T02:12:26+00:00

I. am. crying. 💀

OrchidLion · 2020-09-02T04:49:58+00:00

Ok buddy.

Partypuppers · 2020-09-02T10:21:33+00:00

Ah yes. I've been hit on by many millionaires (this entire story is probably going to sound very braggy so apologies in advance). One notable millionaire was a guy I met while I was flying business class back from an international work event. We were sat together.

Now, the event was in Switzerland and I had spent that morning mountain biking along a local hiking trail so I was pretty pooped and looking forward to napping on the flight.

Queue Mr. Millions (MM). MM made a beeline for me as soon as he saw me. He initiated conversation straight away, asked for my age (inappropriate), and proceeded to basically tell me ALL ABOUT HIM over the course of the flight. It was a hostage situation, y'all. A couple of times the flight attendant shot me concerned looks (he was much older and was obviously paying too much attention to me) but I can hold my own and was enjoying psychoanalysing him so I didn't mention anything to her.

During the course of the 1hr flight he overshared about his entire life including such gems like:

He was working at Lehman Bros when the financial crisis happened and was arrested by US police for his involvement in shady deals that had a hand in causing the crisis.
He proudly mentioned he was avoiding tax (I understand that wealthy people like being tax efficient but proudly saying you avoid tax is not really moral or polite conversation imo).
He told me he separated from his wife and children, he told me his wife had divorced him because he was always working too much and never around.
He said he was so sad that women only ever used him for his money and that he always attracted the wrong people.
This was straight after he (completely unprompted) mentioned he had 345 million in the bank though 😂😂 (I thought, then maybe you shouldn't lead with your money dude?)
The flight was almost over at this point and I wanted to avoid an awkward scene. I had a sense he wanted to ask for my contact details so instead I went on the offensive and asked HIM if he could be my mentor. He gave me his email address and I promised him I would contact him (lol). Of course I never did, but if I ever see him again (it's a small world) I'll have plausible deniability that I just lost his email address.

If I had wanted to use him I would have had no doubt that he would have bought me expensive designer bags and shoes and taken me on expensive holidays and made me his sugar baby. He had already become infatuated with me during our conversation (like I said, I can hold my own). But I'm not a whore, and I could never love a man who thought all it took to impress me was a bit of money and then I would be his. Sorry, but your personality is trash, you should go to therapy and stop offloading all your baggage on to younger women you've only just met. I'm happy to make my own way and would prefer to date a man who is the entire package and has more decorum and class in social situations.

rayvin4000 · 2020-09-02T11:54:42+00:00

Lol🤡

ragetimethrowaway · 2020-09-02T14:55:57+00:00

LOL. What a little shit. Bullet=dodged

typeadhd · 2020-09-02T14:58:56+00:00

What an asshole fuck this guy for real

Emotionally immature child who thinks he doesn’t have to have manners, a personality or generally be interesting because his looks and money will compensate for these things.

No sweetie. You’re trash. He seems like the type of person who thinks he’s such a gift to women.

purasangria · 2020-09-01T19:59:43+00:00

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Winner-Takes-All · 2020-09-01T20:51:29+00:00

My ex also pulled the "you-won't-find-another-guy-like-me" card. But in the end, he was the one so obsessed with getting me back that he put an actual tracking device under my car.

And this so-called "millionaire" is obviously neither wealthy nor desired by women, hence why he is so salty.

Stankypanky1 · 2020-09-01T23:26:56+00:00

What- is he even saying “like other woman in my past”????

2020-09-02T07:58:40+00:00

Overly aggressive responses to polite rejection are why it’s often just better to block

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