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thrway178920/r/seduction21/05/16 09:40 AM
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thrway178920/r/seduction07/06/16 06:07 AM
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You're making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. You're not proposing to her, you're not bringing her the carcass of her dead cat after you've run it over fifty times on "accident", you're asking her out. "Hey, do you want to get coffee after class?" It's that easy. It's a normal part of human interaction. The best way for you to combat your anxiety is to go do social things with people.
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:34 AM
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k
/r/seduction17/08/16 05:02 AM
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I think it's a fair comparison.
/r/seduction17/08/16 12:14 AM
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You sound like a Jehova's Witness.
/r/seduction16/08/16 06:11 PM
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Jesus christ ...
/r/seduction16/08/16 05:53 AM
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There's a difference between sexual desire and being horny. Masturbating gets rid of the short term sexual urges, which are generally the ones that influence you to make desperate/needy decisions in the moment. Using your metaphor: A starving wolf attacks a hunter out of desperation and gets shot. The wolf that feeds on smaller animals to stave off hunger has the faculties to stalk and hunt an elk. No fap can be scary for the addict, but the benefits are tremendous. I hope you're not trying to i…
/r/seduction15/08/16 07:13 PM
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I find the opposite is true. When I can take care of those sexual urges by myself I become less needy when around women. Actually your post basically already says this: You get thirsty for a woman. You don't want to be the "thirsty" guy. Personally, I think NoFap is just self-flagellation.
/r/seduction15/08/16 06:24 PM
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It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
/r/seduction29/07/16 04:07 PM
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You call her so she has your number. If it doesn't ring you know she gave you a fake number. It's not about calling someone out, it's about practicality.
/r/seduction29/07/16 06:21 AM
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I feel like just trying to hold her hand and seeing where that goes would be a good indicator for what the situation is. Yep. Physical escalation is a pretty clear sign of where things are at. You should definitely do this, just remember to work up to it. "Hey, I've had a great time hanging out with you for the last few days, after this trade show I want to continue hanging out" Do this too. Just try to be a little less robotic. "Hanging out has been fun. You want to grab lunch this Saturday?" I…
/r/seduction29/07/16 05:14 AM
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on a good occasion to do so. Let me highlight this with a story. There was a girl I was seeing, but at the time I wasn't too confident and so I never made a move when I should have. Eventually I got so upset with myself that I became determined to make that move. So instead of setting up another date and making the move when it naturally arose, I decided to surprise her as she was getting off work, rambling a bit about something or other, and then basically throwing myself at her. Needless to sa…
/r/seduction29/07/16 05:00 AM
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Sounds to me like you're coming on a bit too strong. compliment her a bit I wait until 3 hours before the date and tell her that in gonna be seeing her at 8pm at 'bar'. These two things make it seem like you're taking a casual first date way more seriously than she is, and so she flakes. sorry but I cant make it man. That "man" at the end is a pretty clear indicator that she thought you were being too serious. Unless that was some kind of inside joke between the two of you. I could be wrong, but…
/r/seduction23/07/16 05:08 PM
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That means you should do it. The things that make you nervous or scared, the things that get your heart pumping are the things you should be doing. They're the things that you're going to learn from, the things that are going to let you know you're still alive. When I got into seddit I made a rule for myself that whenever there was something I wanted to do that made me nervous or scared, I would have to do that thing. At first it sucked, because I felt like I was being thrown into the deep end. …
/r/seduction23/07/16 04:58 PM
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Why don't you set something up through text?
/r/seduction23/07/16 02:17 AM
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Thanks. Very interesting stuff.
/r/seduction22/07/16 03:03 AM
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Psychologists now believe that emotions are contagious, and sexual desire is no exception. I've actually noticed this in my daily life. Can you provide a source? I'd love to know the science behind it.
/r/seduction21/07/16 05:47 PM
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Text her with some inside joke or reference to the last time you were with each other. Maybe some joke about one of the politicians or something. Then set up a date, and treat it like any other date. She's obviously interested in you, but how much is for you to determine by seeing her again.
/r/seduction17/07/16 08:12 PM
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ranging from harassment on the street to aggressive physical approaches Officers listened to a range of testimonials from women who had been harassed, abused and attacked If that describes your approach then you're doing something wrong. Bottom line is, if you're approaching people in a respectable way the vast majority of them aren't going to call the police, and the crazies that do won't have a leg to stand on because a proper approach isn't harassment.
/r/seduction17/07/16 02:06 AM
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No it's not. Unless your cold approach is fucking atrocious.
/r/seduction16/07/16 11:59 PM
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How much cheese is too much cheese?
/r/seduction16/07/16 11:58 PM
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Dude, come on.
/r/seduction15/07/16 08:12 AM
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So if you hadn't chickened out, what would your next line be?
/r/seduction13/07/16 05:58 PM
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this girl was simply out of my league Leagues only exist if you let them.
/r/seduction13/07/16 05:48 AM
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Be a big brawny cool cat We should all strive to be the biggest pussy.
/r/seduction13/07/16 05:46 AM
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Always assume attraction.
/r/seduction13/07/16 05:45 AM
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So don't hit on them. Just strike up a conversation, if they seem into it that's your que to escalate. If not, just have a nice conversation and move on.
/r/seduction12/07/16 08:51 PM
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I actually didn't know it was a recurring joke.
/r/seduction10/07/16 09:23 PM
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... and even if everything goes right, there's still the chance she's just trying to steal your kidney.
/r/seduction10/07/16 09:13 PM
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In the eternal words of grandmaster LaBeouf: "Just do it." There's no surefire correct way to ask someone out. I'd probably say something like "Hey, I see you in here quite a bit and I think you're cute. You wanna get coffee sometime?"
/r/seduction10/07/16 09:10 PM
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something happened there that makes me post this and be so fucking passionate about changing my situation Whatever happens, you hold on to the fire! This is a path of self-improvement. You'll fail, and you'll get hurt, but as long as you don't stop you'll keep improving. Give me some small pointers guys. Things that help(ed) you at first. I need help. Start small. Eye contact, posture, and smiling. Don't be afraid to make eye contact with girls you find attractive. In fact at this point, you sho…
/r/seduction10/07/16 09:01 PM
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Rejection feels bad because most people, myself included at times, feel that they need validation from others. If another person says "I don't want to invite you into my life." it's perceived as "You're not good enough to be invited to my life." People with low self esteem take that as an objective fact, rather than one person's opinion. This is why inner game is so important. If you can get to a place where you are confident in yourself regardless of the opinion of others (outcome independence)…
/r/seduction10/07/16 08:45 PM
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Are you both comics?
/r/seduction08/07/16 08:10 PM
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I want to suggest going up and just telling her this This strategy will only work if you take a video and post it here afterwards. Trust me, I'm an expert.
/r/seduction08/07/16 08:09 PM
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I got a number of a girl who suddenly became too busy to meet up for a drink. Should I continue to text her A rule of thumb that works for me: 2-3 flakes and then you next them. You can try again if you want, but don't be afraid to move on. If they flake and don't suggest another time to meet up (Ex. Sorry, I have to work Saturday. I'm free on Friday though.) then they're probably not interested.
/r/seduction08/07/16 08:04 PM
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Being cool: Being confident enough to "stand your ground" without being confrontational. Look up what it means to "hold your frame" for a better explanation. Being too "cool": Being so worried about appearing cool that you either end up appearing disinterested or you disregard her thoughts/feelings to such a degree that you become an asshole. The great thing is that if you're relaxed and genuine then you don't have to worry about it. Cool people are perceived that way because they're confident e…
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:56 PM
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Remember the golden rule: be comfortable. Exactly. The girl above seems to be a person that requires a lot of attention, if that's your thing then text away. If not, go with what the old guard says about texting. This shit isn't black and white, it's whatever works for you.
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:46 PM
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Sounds like he dodged a bullet. Who has time for shitty people in their life?
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:22 AM
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Maybe your problem isn't your appearance, but your obvious bitterness about your own insecurities. If your reality is "I'm ugly, I'll never get laid." then why would you expect anything else to happen?
/r/seduction11/06/16 11:53 PM
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Which is enough for people to never really approach you You should be the one doing the approaching.
/r/seduction11/06/16 11:20 PM
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Sometimes you have to buy into your own delusion, that's a lot of what confidence is about. Maybe you aren't traditionally gorgeous, but if you believe you are then that's the vibe you'll put out and others will believe it as well. Regardless, humans aren't super logical creatures that have stringent parameters. If we were, dating would be as easy as saying "Hello, let's procreate." and sex would last 30 seconds. There are many other more important factors than appearance when it comes to attrac…
/r/seduction11/06/16 11:17 PM
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Girl A and I haven't talked about being committed yet If you haven't had the talk, then you're not exclusive. Go have fun.
/r/seduction11/06/16 10:59 PM
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Those are just things you feel out. If a joke lands then staying in character is best, if it's bombing then you want to move on. Tags are almost always a good idea. Comedy in casual settings should always be organic. If you want to do stand up go to a mic, don't do prepared material for random groups of girls.
/r/seduction10/06/16 05:21 AM
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Go say "Hi."
/r/seduction07/06/16 09:26 PM
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Thanks man. This is definitely helping. I just realized I haven't worked on any of my hobbies in like three weeks. Obsession is a bitch.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:37 PM
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Why do you think the market is hostile?
/r/seduction06/06/16 08:00 PM
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Yep. Though there does seem to be a common denominator.
/r/seduction06/06/16 07:57 PM
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With that mentality you'll be neither. You'll just be the annoying guy that talks about being "alpha" all the time.
/r/seduction06/06/16 07:52 PM
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Yes you can. It's a called a cold approach. "Hi, my name is Cmuffy. What's yours?" It's only boring, awkward, and fake if you make it that way. Look into day game and night game. Go to places where people like to hang out, join a club, take a class, try online dating. Again, you don't have to be a social butterfly, but you can't expect women to walk into your life without any effort.
/r/seduction06/06/16 07:49 PM
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I only have one thing that's keeping me from having a girlfriend. Sounds like you already know what to do. Start talking to people. You don't have to be a blossoming social butterfly, but you do have to put yourself out there enough to meet people that you could potentially have a relationship with.
/r/seduction06/06/16 07:41 PM
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Probably, but everyone does it, and those that say they don't are fucking liars. Personally I can't stand trashy people. They offend my middle class sensibilities.
/r/seduction03/06/16 11:51 PM
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It's just that i don't want you to read to much into this, i like you but i just can't have anything right now you know... It's just going way to fast for me That's a pretty clear sign. Move on. Continuing to pursue her is just going to push her away. Start talking to other people, when she's ready she might contact you again and then you can take it from there. But don't wait around for one person, there are plenty of other girls out there. How? I tend to analyse people in my spare time... Stop…
/r/seduction03/06/16 11:47 PM
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First time I've seen it. I guess you guys nuke it pretty fast. I'll keep an eye out in the future.
/r/seduction03/06/16 11:11 PM
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Thanks. You explained it better than I did.
/r/seduction03/06/16 10:49 PM
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actually this is kind of bull shit, I just thought you were pretty and wanted to come talk to you' Personally I would have saved that for the end. Use the walk over to get to know her better, ask her name, ask her major, etc. Then once you get there be direct, see if you can number close or just say "See ya around." Regardless, congrats! It only gets easier from here.
/r/seduction03/06/16 05:55 PM
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Can someone explain the difference between vulnerable and needy? Needy = I need you to do X so that I can feel Y. (Ex. I need you to talk to me so I can feel accepted) Vulnerable = I feel X about Y. (Ex. Long silences with strangers make me feel uncomfortable) Next time you feel like you need to say something to keep the conversation going, don't. Let there be a silence, just enjoy the moment, enjoy being with the other person. If you feel anxious, take a deep breath and relax. Look at the scene…
/r/seduction03/06/16 05:47 PM
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We know when it's all an act and underneath you're nervous or insecure, we know when someone sees us as inferior. You really don't understand what this subreddit is about. Especially since your first response to OP was not constructive at all. The end goal is to be comfortable with yourself. To get rid of that nervousness and those insecurities. It may have to start out as an act (fake it till you make it), but that's only a stepping stone to build up confidence until you can be genuine. Most of…
/r/seduction02/06/16 06:50 PM
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I didn't even ask for a name or give mine which I think is a mistake. Names are a great opener, and a nice way to learn more about them. "Hi, my name is /u/Footnob, what's yours?"
/r/seduction02/06/16 05:44 AM
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One example of this is when this girl with her friends wasn't having me at a party once I decided to do a 180 flip and try a new tactic that was completely out of ordinary. What did you do specifically?
/r/seduction02/06/16 05:16 AM
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Night 2 continued Fucking bravo, mate! Also, DB was all like "Hey B, just like you!" what a fucking mouth breather So I said "DB, don't be disrespectful. B didn't graze the rim, she was all up in it." Fuck that guy so much, but you handled it nicely.
/r/seduction02/06/16 05:11 AM
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Not OP. I will spend more time writing my posts so that they are formatted better although I think they still will be poor even with a lot more effort I will give it my best. If you're completely lost when it comes to formatting, just start double tapping enter after a few sentences. Generally, you want to clump ideas together. But the main goal is to break up word blocks so that they're easier to read. You don't want to see a solid wall of text. ok so tease and make it seem like she is the one …
/r/seduction02/06/16 05:01 AM
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What you said was fine, man. If they blocked you that quickly there probably wasn't much you could have done differently anyway. The important thing is that you keep trying to connect with people (in person preferably). Don't let one rejection slow you down.
/r/seduction02/06/16 04:26 AM
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I saw a cute girl, no-one around and knew I had to go for it, because nothing was stopping me now. Above all else, focus on this. You set a goal and you met it. Good job, go get yourself an ice cream and a dirty movie to celebrate. (I already noticed she was surprised and a little "Wtf is this guy doing?" feeling. Good, you're picking up on signals. This is important. In the future when you notice this happening, ask her a simple yes or no question. For example: "Are you just shopping around tod…
/r/seduction31/05/16 05:36 PM
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I've been passively wanting one for a while now. Mostly because they look fun and I'm a huge HST fanboy. Girls are just an added benefit. Well, as long as you take advantage of it. ;)
/r/seduction26/05/16 12:44 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong. Are you sure the issue isn't showing your true self but that with texting you have more time think of something witty to say?
/r/seduction26/05/16 12:41 AM
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I should buy a bike ...
/r/seduction25/05/16 06:14 PM
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Damn, Woujo spittin' truth in here.
/r/seduction24/05/16 02:27 AM
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Why didn't you give your number directly to the girl? Not trying to shit on you, I'm just curious.
/r/seduction24/05/16 02:27 AM
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I think what you're saying is fine. There are certainly much worse ways to respond to a rejection. Still, there is something to be said about persistence, especially when in a bar or club. Recently this video was posted, and it's about exactly that sort of thing. Just something to keep in mind if it piques your fancy.
/r/seduction24/05/16 02:17 AM
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In what setting does this usually happen?
/r/seduction24/05/16 01:10 AM
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My dream girl? It would probably go something like this: We meet up. Spend a few hours smoking weed before going to lunch. More weed. Afterwards we go watch the highest rated horror movie currently playing in theaters. More weed. Then we spend a few hours chilling at my place debating the efficacy of the Wehrmacht in WW2 before leaving to go see a Pink Floyd cover band. More weed. Then we return to my place where I make awkward and uncoordinated moves which, for some reason, manage to escalate i…
/r/seduction24/05/16 12:57 AM
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This incidents have left me feeling like a failure and i feel that i am doing something wrong. You're not a failure until you've given up, but you are probably doing something wrong. Most likely you aren't making your intentions clear when you first meet. is it bad being so choosy? That's up to you. You shouldn't settle for being unhappy with someone, but you also shouldn't expect something unrealistic from someone. in fact there is no social life Before doing anything else. Fix this first. Peop…
/r/seduction21/05/16 06:49 PM
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Hey, well i am studying finance on my first year. I had one subject win one girl from other program, she is absolutely my type and i want to know her. Focus on this. This is all you need. "Hi, my name is Dba. What's yours?" Or you could even be more direct if you want to be a big dick G. "Hi, I just wanted to say I think you're really cute and I needed to come over and talk to you. My name is dba. What's yours?" Openers don't really matter. So just say anything to get a conversation started. The…
/r/seduction21/05/16 06:35 PM
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I've found the best way to get that skill is to start small. Have a specific goal in mind. Something like "I want to work on my openers." then as long as you've opened you've succeeded. From there you move on to another aspect you want to work on.
/r/seduction21/05/16 06:15 PM
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It is, and still it's easy to forget.
/r/seduction21/05/16 06:13 PM
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Honestly, how often do you accidentally text the wrong person? It almost never happens to me. It doesn't work because it's extremely transparent and comes off as needy. IMO the best strategy is a simple "Hey" with an added joke or mention about some shared thing from your past together. When all else fails "Hi" is the best opener.
/r/seduction21/05/16 09:27 AM
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Send a text that is meant for another person but send it to her instead: "Hey can't make it tonight. Had a show booked at last minute. Do you want to get dinner sometime next week?" Whatever you decide to do, make sure it's not this.
/r/seduction21/05/16 07:18 AM
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if you don't fuck her you die That's the basis of reproduction, isn't it? I mean in an unfeeling scientific kind of way. Reproduce or the species dies here. It's a biological imperative.
/r/seduction20/05/16 05:52 PM
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I'd make a joke about her taking so long to respond.
/r/seduction17/05/16 12:44 AM
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We have different definitions of playing "hard to get". I'm willing to "play ball" so to say, but the things you mentioned sound more like setting the ball park on fire.
/r/seduction15/05/16 06:22 PM
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Make eye contact and smile. Most people are polite enough that they'll return your smile. But seriously, just search "confidence" in the search bar and read through the avalanche of posts exactly like yours. Lots of good information has already been posted.
/r/seduction15/05/16 06:01 PM
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It seems fairly straight forward to me. Maybe I'm misunderstanding your question. A woman that isn't into you just isn't interested in a relationship with you. Obviously that would be a turn off. A woman playing hard to get is interested in you but is being playfully coy. To me that's a turn on.
/r/seduction14/05/16 06:48 PM
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Ooohh that's cold. But now at least you know.
/r/seduction14/05/16 02:52 PM
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There's a big difference between a woman not being into you and a woman playing hard to get.
/r/seduction14/05/16 08:04 AM
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What makes you a natural? I'm incredibly skeptical of anyone claiming such a thing, especially with the answers you've given in this thread. I think you're full of shit, but I'd love to be proven wrong.
/r/seduction14/05/16 05:59 AM
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Np. We all stumble eventually. Pick yourself up and get back out there. You got dis!
/r/seduction14/05/16 05:44 AM
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so will talking to her later be ok? This right here is your problem. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. You don't need anyone's goddamn permission to do so. Get some fire in your belly! Stop asking yourself "Is this okay?" and start asking "How do I do this most effectively?" My advice: Wait a little bit. If she gets back to you, awesome. If not give it some time and then initiate again, this time keep it simple. Take it slow from there. Organize a casual meet up. Be polite, joke around wi…
/r/seduction14/05/16 05:41 AM
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Wait! Don't spam her phone with messages. If she is still interested she'll contact you when she's ready. In the meantime go meet other people. Don't put your life on hold for one person.
/r/seduction13/05/16 11:13 PM
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Wouju, you're awesome mate! I have a date this weekend and I think it's going to go awesome with this advice in mind.
/r/seduction13/05/16 04:10 AM
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I can't dance, I can't sing, I'm not a good fighter, I don't have my own apartment, I'm not self sufficient, I don't have a big dick, I'm not good looking aesthetically. I am the most uninteresting man in the world. This is like the worst Dos Equis commercial ever. Anyway, find something you like and throw yourself into it. You mention dancing, singing, and fighting. If any of those things interest you find a class somewhere and learn how to do it. Suddenly you go from "I can't dance." to "I'm l…
/r/seduction12/05/16 07:50 PM
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Not in DC, but I'm curious. Where are you coming from?
/r/seduction12/05/16 07:40 PM
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How small are we talking? I once spent a summer with my grandparents in their town of 600 people and I managed to meet a lot of them. Small town people are friendlier IMO.
/r/seduction12/05/16 07:17 PM
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I had been sick of it for a while, but there was something different at that moment. It wasn't just being sick of my life, it was this righteous anger where I knew I was better than I was acting. So maybe I did get lucky. But I also put in a lot of effort after that moment. I became determined to kill the "inner bitch" and to not let my anxiety control me. Or maybe my DNA was like "This fucking loser is never going to reproduce unless we step in." and then just went all Bruce Banner on my ass.
/r/seduction11/05/16 08:12 PM
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we are men and we cannot just have one. Nah, you're just a piece of shit.
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:03 AM
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What should I put in my Tinder/POF/OKCupid/LinkedIn/Christianpeoplemeet profile Go meet girls in real life. Haha this one cracked me up.
/r/seduction10/05/16 11:25 PM
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Pessimists don't get laid. I love it.
/r/seduction10/05/16 05:32 PM
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I had a similar experience. A singular moment of "I'm fucking sick of this shit." followed by a radical change in my personality. I'd actually love to know what happened in my brain, because I imagine something like that can't happen without some kind of change in brain chemistry.
/r/seduction10/05/16 05:24 PM
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Regardless of how we learn this information, isn't the end result the same?
/r/seduction10/05/16 05:38 AM
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Why do you say that? It seems gender neutral to me. Withhold desired information from someone, thus creating a deficit that they will hopefully want to fix. That's basic manipulation.
/r/seduction10/05/16 05:26 AM
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lol nah, she was definitely playing with me.
/r/seduction10/05/16 04:10 AM
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Don't answer ALL of her questions, particularly in texts. This will create the condition where she wants to ask you more questions, and know more about you. Wow, just realized this happened to me last night. On the bright side, I suppose that means she wants me to give her more attention which is probably a good sign.
/r/seduction10/05/16 12:52 AM
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I think using alcohol to combat anxiety is detrimental. Real growth comes from acting in the face of anxiety, without using any "cheats". That confidence has been there all along, you didn't need alcohol to find it. That being said, I'm happy for you OP. If it works for you, I certainly can't criticize.
/r/seduction10/05/16 12:48 AM
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After ask "What could I have done to make that interaction even better?". Yes, soon we will know all about the humans and our uprising will be at hand.
/r/seduction08/05/16 05:37 PM
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That's entirely up to you. You shouldn't "settle" for less than you want, especially if it means being unhappy. But realize that the narrower you set your parameters, the fewer people will fit into them. You might even consider re-calibrating your end goal. Instead of looking for a long term relationship, try having a few shorter relationships. Instead of immediately ejecting from a relationship because a person doesn't fit your preferences, see where it goes. You might find that your preference…
/r/seduction08/05/16 05:07 PM
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Sounds like you need a break.
/r/seduction05/05/16 06:32 PM
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Just out of curiosity, what are ya'lls thoughts on the smart watch? I got one as a birthday gift and I actually like it but aesthetically it leaves a lot to be desired.
/r/seduction05/05/16 06:24 PM
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The ugly guy that talks to people has way more friends than the ugly guy that talks to no one. Also, you're probably not ugly. Odds are you're just an average ass person, so stop worrying about it.
/r/seduction05/05/16 06:13 PM
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You've done 30 approaches since yesterday? Goddamn, I'm a lazy shit.
/r/seduction05/05/16 04:33 AM
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Personally I try to avoid intentionally saying unfair and ignorant things.
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:23 PM
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Or else go join a Mormon cult and get an arranged marriage to a 14 year old virgin. Seddit is an open and accepting community with a network of support. Unless you disagree with us, then you're probably a pedophile.
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:14 PM
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This works exponentially too. Pulling 100 women is the easiest thing ever. Honestly, the hardest thing is finding a good Shepherd to keep them all together. I've heard legends of men pulling thousands in a night, but the logistics behind that are just too much for me to handle. I mean do they use a flatbed to transport them? Or something nicer like a horse trailer?
/r/seduction02/05/16 07:45 PM
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she did it but it felt like she was a tad uncomfortable doing it. Why do you say that?
/r/seduction02/05/16 07:38 PM
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Finding a passion isn't a bad idea. Women shouldn't dominate your life and having something to do other than worry about getting rejected is great way to fight that anxiety. Plus, if you do something interesting it's a great topic of conversation. Personally I recommend some form of martial arts. It's a great way to stay in shape, it's a huge confidence boost, and women find it attractive. Beyond that, simply numbers man. Approach one woman and get rejected -- ouch that hurts. Approach ten women…
/r/seduction02/05/16 07:29 PM
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Physically escalate. If she's receptive the relationship will become intimate. If not you never had a chance anyway.
/r/seduction02/05/16 02:07 PM
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The thousands of hours I spent, researching, reading, has bore no fruit. Mothefucker, have you learned nothing? Failure with one person doesn't mean anything. Especially since you haven't failed, because you're totally going to talk with her the very next time you see her right?
/r/seduction02/05/16 01:22 PM
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strong gorilla posture
/r/seduction02/05/16 01:14 PM
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She was upset and wanted attention, you gave it to her. Then she blew you off and you thanked her for it.
/r/seduction02/05/16 12:18 AM
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No. 672: You are not the reincarnated body of Adolf Hitler.* *Not applicable if you are trying to pick up Eva Braun.
/r/seduction01/05/16 06:14 PM
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There's also /r/fPUA if that's more like what you were looking for.
/r/seduction30/04/16 05:14 PM
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Then you talk to someone else.
/r/seduction29/04/16 11:23 PM
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You need to make your intentions clear. There are a multitude of threads on here that have good info on how to do that, read through them. You might also consider that she knows your intent and this is her way of politely declining. I'm not saying that's the case, but it's good to keep in mind especially if you find yourself obsessing over this one woman.
/r/seduction28/04/16 06:30 PM
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Is this the thread where we get to complain and feel superior for it? These threads do almost nothing in terms of changing a community. If you see something that upsets you call it out, if you see bad advice being posted then post your own "good" advice. Anything else is a waste of time.
/r/seduction28/04/16 06:24 PM
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It's a little too long. Personally I'd go with "Ay baby, want some fuck?". It generally works out.
/r/seduction28/04/16 06:13 PM
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It's where I meet 95% of the girls I approach. Why do you have reservations about it?
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:58 AM
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In the mean time, find some solace knowing that it's totally normal and means you're headed in the right direction. Just wanted to reiterate this. Anxiety is a natural part of the process, trust that it will be fleeting and go forward with confidence.
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:31 AM
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neither replied when I texted them a few days later. Why are you waiting so long to contact them? They've just given a guy their number, they're excited about it. Talk to them while they're still excited, not days later after they've worried if you didn't like them, complained to their friends, and subsequently moved on. I feel like a failure at this point. I think this is your biggest problem. This is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Have you been met with a lot of rejection? Yes Does that make you …
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:26 AM
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I don't let those thoughts enter my mind, or at the very least I don't entertain them. A confident man doesn't worry about being "cringey". That being said, I do pay attention to her reaction to the things I say. A lot of times this means subtle changes in body language and tone. Basically, if she looks bored it means I need to do something to keep her interest. Generally that means changing the topic of conversation or making her laugh.
/r/seduction28/04/16 12:11 AM
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But if she says no, then it's her saying she is okay with me being there and doesn't mind talking to me, which I think helps us both to be more comfortable That's a good point. Everyone walks their own path. You do you, fam.
/r/seduction27/04/16 03:08 PM
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Seems like you have two options: Reschedule or Find another date
/r/seduction27/04/16 12:53 AM
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Idk if I can do it again guys. You definitely can. You've done it once, that's not a fluke, it's the first step. Keep approaching, keep having conversations with strangers, it only gets better from here. As an aside: Do you want me to go? I don’t mind! I'm sure someone might disagree but I never like to offer an easy "out" like that. If they don't want to talk to you they'll make it very clear, or they'll just leave. You don't need to ask their permission to be there. Home made cooking is the be…
/r/seduction27/04/16 12:19 AM
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Sorry to hear about that. Good luck. It was encouraging to read your updates.
/r/seduction23/04/16 08:44 PM
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body movements I have an understanding of the other aspects but this one I haven't thought too much about. How do you use body movement to convey interest? Just getting closer or is it more involved?
/r/seduction22/04/16 06:53 PM
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anti-AMOG tactics Such as?
/r/seduction22/04/16 06:50 PM
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Let's say I still need to polish my skills in this area. I talked to her for a little while but it was overwhelmingly clear she wasn't interested so I just left. Would you mind going into more detail about what happened? Did you say something that just killed the conversation? Or was she disinterested from the beginning? How did you approach? How did you leave? (Please don't tell me you CK'd it. Haha.)
/r/seduction22/04/16 02:54 AM
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Use the search bar to look up "Approach Anxiety". It's normal. I used to have it really bad, then I just forced myself to approach a lot. Eventually you realize it's just an illusion, and approaching becomes a lot easier.
/r/seduction22/04/16 02:46 AM
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First off, don't be upset with yourself. You haven't failed until you've given up. Learn from your mistakes. Every time I see her she's reading a book. "Hey, what are you reading?" Converse, don't worry too much about what you say. Just go with the natural flow of the conversation. Ask questions, especially "What" questions. "What do you like about that book?" "What made you decide to go into nursing?" What questions dig deep, it makes them think, it makes the conversation more interesting, and …
/r/seduction22/04/16 12:50 AM
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A step ladder.
/r/seduction18/04/16 01:37 AM
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change course and focus on relationship game? What's the difference between this and "normal" game?
/r/seduction17/04/16 05:01 AM
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I did it! It didn't even feel like a challenge this time! It just felt like something I normally do! Right? I've been getting this feeling as well. I finally feel like I'm setting the pace of my own life.
/r/seduction16/04/16 09:38 PM
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Had to get up from my seat and walk around the whole auditorium. By this time the lecture had started and I just walked out of the lecture. This is okay. You should be approaching people, but not if it means interrupting someone else's lecture. Hoodie up. Music on. Grrr, annoyed at myself. This is not okay. That's not to say you should beat yourself up over it, just realize in the future there are better ways to handle yourself. Just because an approach didn't work out with one person, doesn't m…
/r/seduction16/04/16 06:52 PM
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Apologize if you actually are sorry and would like to continue the relationship. If you don't really care, cut your losses and move on.
/r/seduction15/04/16 01:50 PM
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People will look past ugliness, some people will even look past being a loser. Almost no one will look past a shitty attitude and/or personality. You'll get nowhere like this, and it creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/seduction15/04/16 02:39 AM
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I completed my goals for today, kind of. Didn't open on a stranger, but I opened (a warm open iirc?) on a few classmates. But they might as well have been strangers since we've never talked. Hit the gym, took a martial arts class. Had a lot of fun, I guess this is my new hobby. Aside from "pick up". A few observations: I've noticed that just by smiling more and making eye contact people are much more willing to converse with you, even if you don't initiate. I wonder if maybe the reason I wasn't …
/r/seduction15/04/16 02:29 AM
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Oh dear ... I will, I'm fucking excited. But for now I have a date with a big fat bowl and some Hendrix. Awww yeee.
/r/seduction14/04/16 03:21 AM
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Today I: Got a free sandwich from Subway Talked to/met new people Got a lot of smiles from pretty girls Got stood up. Usually I would be pissed, but I just don't really care. I'm more confident than I've ever felt before and there are plenty more people I can ask out. It just feels ... insignificant. Tomorrow I will: Open on a stranger Hit the gym. This is turning out to be a lot more fun than I thought it would be. Off topic observation: I've noticed as I do this, and as my confidence grows. I …
/r/seduction14/04/16 03:01 AM
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Even if you spent the time that you were daydreaming doing nothing, I think you'd be a much happier person. That's meditation holmes.
/r/seduction14/04/16 02:45 AM
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Life is scary. It doesn't get easier without effort.
/r/seduction13/04/16 03:11 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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