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tifunumber3/r/ThankTRP04/09/15 02:15 AM
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tifunumber3/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 12:05 AM
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Basic Questiontifunumber3/r/askMRP12/08/15 06:00 PM
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tifunumber3/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 04:59 PM
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Thanks man. I am still learning tho. My biggest struggle is maintaining frame even when we don't have sex. That being butthurt thing is difficult to shake, but I am doing whatever I need to. This is for me more.
/r/ThankTRP08/09/15 02:47 AM
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I look forward to. "So when did you guys make the decision that your wife would run the household, what was that conversation like?"
/r/ThankTRP04/09/15 03:36 PM
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If you feel like things are not in your control, then why are you even letting them stress you out? Stressing about them isn't going to change anything not one bit. It doesn't help and it just hurts your relationship. Focus on something else
/r/askMRP20/08/15 12:57 AM
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Implying is what Nice Guys do on a daily basis through covert contracts. Be careful with this. I know you are hyped for change but it's the difference between being chronically constipated and deciding to get rid of the excess cheese in your diet and adding more fiber as compared to adding more fiber AND taking a laxative.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 10:17 PM
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Yeah, I agree with Dandar. Those are all good things and on top of those adding a lock to your phone seems like you have something to hide.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 09:55 PM
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There is a difference between "venting" and "victim puking". Venting goes something like "X was really tough, but I am going to do Y to handle it, thanks for listening." Victim puking goes something like "X was really though and I don't know how I am going to handle it and I don't know what to do and I am lost and confused and I just, I think I am going to give up and I just wish I had an idea and if only...and it always seems like I never...
/r/askMRP19/08/15 09:53 PM
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On it.
/r/askMRP14/08/15 09:16 PM
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I live in a townhouse, it often doesnt let water water drain efficiently..would rather not stand in pool of blood.
/r/askMRP12/08/15 06:28 PM
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It is a true concept. You both can't lead, one will be following the other. The concept of an egalitarian marriage with two leaders is really just two bad followers. They are following the lead of society to tell them how to live their marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 06:42 PM
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I think this is more of a gloating post than anything. "My wife cheated on me, but it was with a woman isn't that hawt?"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 11:09 PM
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I think this is where NMMNG talks about the Nice Guy seeking external validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:46 PM
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The lessons I am learning. Before, I would have understood where he was coming from. Now I see what paradigm he is living in.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:44 PM
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It seems absurd doesn't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:11 PM
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Maybe you shouldn't do anything. Tell your wife it's fine and you are glad she doesn't feel guilty anymore. That you will work through it, especially for the kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 03:47 PM
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I think he is curious because he has already decided what he wants to do. He just wants to know what MRP would do so he can convince himself that his choice is the better choice. Ball of Emotions Not sure what to do next Has a kid This individual will rationalize staying in the marriage for the child. The child will grow up and have anxiety disorders from the seething contempt and frustration from the non-verbals of the married couple. The child will grow up and have unstable relationships, all …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 03:39 PM
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What about the women who despise feminism what is there role?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:49 PM
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Thank you. I am reading them and I am actively working on myself. It is just hard to wrap my mind around not caring about her feelings. To clarify, the lust was looking at porn and that is self imposed. I will not renounce that conviction.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 12:13 AM
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What is the endgame of the feminists? From my cultural context they destroyed the Black Family, vilified the Black Male, and have mutated the learning context of the Male to either become effeminate and lacking in self esteem or aggressive and ending up in jail. What is the purpose?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 11:04 PM
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I am slowly starting to realize this whole thing is a game. Redpill realizes that it is a game and has also figured out the rules. Bluepill would rather play the game of not seeing that they are playing a game
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:54 PM
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I too am interested in what he should have done here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:25 PM
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The not trusting part, I feel, is sort of in my control. She caught me masturbating to porn oh what a motherfucking night that was and felt it was tantamount to infidelity. I explained that I wasn't getting sex from her and was tired of feeling like I was bothering her with it. I am a Christian Man, so I have a moral standard that prohibits lust. That is something I have done away with, I do not feel I am being the best man I can be and look at pornography. I think she has quite a few reasons no…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:20 PM
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Yes I am lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:55 PM
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Yeah, that is a wonderful post. I needed to read it. Once I made the mistake of telling my wife I was changing for myself and you know what she said "Blue travels faster than Thursday"...Translation: I am not going to validate that for you. Show me. I think she would actively assist me on my journey if I would but consistently start the trek.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:18 PM
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You are right. I have ordered all the books and I am veraciously reading all the side-bar materials. When I tell you that I have had absolutely no training in how to be a man and that, in fact, my mother perpetuated, quite loudly, that I was to not be like other black men, I internalized that shit. I have fooled no one but myself. I have started taking care of business 2 hours ago. I don't even know what manning up looks like, it is difficult to take charge when you have always had someone do it…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 02:46 AM
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Got it. Go Slow.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 02:23 AM
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Thanks. Stop putting my wife first. Develop my plan and goal for life. Execute.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 02:10 AM
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I sure will. I am so grateful, now when I work with couples I will have worked through my own bullshit and wont take this shit in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:11 AM
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I really appreciate your help man. It is like it has been built into me, I feel physically sick if I dont respond emotionally when my wife is emotional. She has dropped several hints about this "I feel like you always try to fix things....Sometimes I want you to just listen".
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:06 AM
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Damn man, You are right. All the loud ass, loud music, pants sagging acting like donkey-shit when they don't get their way, I do the same thing non verbally. I have been screaming so silently. Son-of-a-Bitch. Fear is a big one...I fuck. It is like you are peering into my life. Will the sidebar work for my particular cultural context?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 12:51 AM
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Got it. I need to be the Morpheus for other black men, I just have to get there first.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 12:36 AM
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Also, my wife is white. She has said to me "I am not going to be your slave master" I was being beta and asking her what to do in a situation that I should have clearly taken hold of She seems seriously supportive, but I don't want it to be a trick. The game you talk about from Black Morpheus...I guess just Morpheus in my situation, I already know it. It is the opposite of all the shit my mom taught me. It just feels wrong. On top of "God will punish you if..." I always wondered why the picture …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 12:24 AM
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I think this is a possibility but you are leaving out that, should he decide to explain it to his wife, and she has been shit testing him... She will point out, quite effortlessly, his role in the problem. We are saying the same things, my pill is red in a blue bottle.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 04:00 PM
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Speaking my language. Whether it's telling a friend, a coworker, God, a forum, porn (that she just happens to find), a book...anything that is not generated from within is a third party.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:52 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly. You make an excellent point. The red pill is for those at the end of their rope. I want to make a pill for those who think this option is not an option. They need to do the same things you guys do, but to quote RD Lang "They would rather play the game of not seeing they are playing a game"
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 03:49 PM
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Correct. RP works. Here's why. I think it would be interesting for me to do a write-up on why blue-pill doesn't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/15 09:11 AM
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Oh, well then I did exactly as I set out to do. I did want to give a basic skeleton outline. I believe MRP is one result of the application of these principles, but I do believe there are other ways of packaging it based on the gender and emotional issues you bring up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 09:39 PM
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In fact I think insight causes blindness...which is ironic because that is what is happening here.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 09:30 PM
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What you are referring to is change sans insight. The goal of traditional therapy is insight, not so much with traditional theories of family therapy. We just want resolution of the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 09:30 PM
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What did I say that is in contradiction to the themes of married red pill? The guy who wrote NNMNG (Who is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) uses the same principles I have outlined here...He took MRI Brief THerapy, repackaged it with some curse words and humor, and it is the book that you guys know and love today?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 08:26 PM
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I need to go back and examine what I wrote and see why people are viewing it as an attack on the red pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 08:24 PM
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I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 08:22 PM
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Judging individual growth by your wife's emotional response is a guaranteed failure. Emotions are reactive and often irrational We judge ourselves in relation to everyone else. At the most basic level we are constantly sending out messages that say "This is how I see you" to which people respond "This is how I see you, seeing me, seeing you" We can't judge ourselves by just ourselves we would have no frame of reference. Your metric and your way of thinking 1) lacks pragmatism and 2) is hard to i…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:55 PM
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Sex is Sex, but the meaning you attribute to it is what matters. Do you want her to think "I have to do this or he will leave me?" or "I want to do this because there is nothing else I'd rather do"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:50 PM
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I definitely agree with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:43 PM
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And simply knowing something changes the outcome.(Double-Slit Experiment) Which is why they read and then magically something changes in their relationship, but they don't want to give credit to TRP because they disagreed with the way it was packaged. So then they go boast to blue pill about "Red pill sucks I was right the whole time"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:42 PM
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Its funny that the name of the book I got this from is call "The Pragmatics of Human Communication". And I did not mean to be pragmatic, you guys have already done that. I simply wanted to provide theory to support.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:41 PM
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9, 10, 11, and 12 are the only four that I have a problem with. The rest are all character traits of a confident and strong man. They all rest on the same premise "Do this or I will leave you" Now, if you don't care whether or not your wife has sex with you because she truly desires to and you just want the pussy, then go right ahead. This will work. In fact, some women might want to see just how serious you are and this will work, but I believe if you do 1-8 correct and in "Go Slow" as the wiki…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:40 PM
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Married. I learned I was quite the Blue Pill during studies... And I would say the exact same thing that you are saying, but you have to package it in a way that they don't dismiss it entirely. You have to take what they give you and take it to absurdity, show them the fault using their own logic. They can choose to dismiss it, but they won't be able to be ignorant about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:29 PM
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Also, your frame of "keeping it simple" also my lack of sources, but mostly the frame that you hold is exactly why you hated my post. It goes against your frame. I simply wanted to show that there are other frames out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:27 PM
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This forum is the third party.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:25 PM
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Sure, Psychologists and Marriage and Family Therapists (NMMNG Author), focus on two completely different things for observation. The psychologist focuses on the individual and their innate drives and whats "really" going on. The MFT looks at the relationship. It stands to reason that the psychologist, because of some personal bias, would vilify the male. Where as I would say that the "victim" is just as powerful a role as the "victimizer". The psychologist subjectively claims objectivity, wherea…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:25 PM
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Well I really appreciate you for reading it. Perhaps it was not for you. Maybe there is some blue-pill who really wants to by into this, but just doesn't like the packaging. Those are the people this was geared towards.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:19 PM
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I am not sure you understand that TRP is about the man changing himself. Thats it. There is no "working on the relationship". The two are not mutually exclusive. The man is in the relationship. By changing himself he is changing his relationship to his spouse.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:18 PM
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Yes, I definitely want to have a niche in sex therapy. I think I will use a variety of paradoxical interventions that may be construed as owning their shit. However, I would do it in such a way that they don't know that I am doing it. I believe the sole reason the blue pill exists is because we are trying to relate a concept that is outside of their framework of viewing the world. So if I had a blue pill member come in for therapy and he was discussing how terrible his wife is. I would accept it…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:16 PM
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I apologize, I will definitely cite some sources please give me some time to update it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 06:13 PM
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