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DISCUSSIONtimeforstretchpants/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 12:55 AM
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Some things do just seem weird to say, so for those I start with something like "this is probably going to sound cheesy, but...". He is not the romantic type, but this paves the way for me to compliment him in a gushy way. This is so cheesy to say, but I just really admire the way you make decisions so thoughtfully. I'm going to be a total cornball right now and tell you that I respect you. Like, you actually have integrity and keep your promises. It makes me feel really safe
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 02:57 AM
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Did you use to work? If so, why did you leave? I worked before we got married, but we immediately moved and my husband was happy to have me at home Do you think it is better for kids to have moms at home? Probably depends on the woman and the situation How do you fill your day when the kids aren’t home? My son is not even two, so he's always home What does this lifestyle choice do for your marriage? Well since I stay home with my son and my husband has a WFH job we are spending the summer overse…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/21 07:40 PM
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I was out to dinner with a new (girl) friend and this man came over because he was friends with my friend. We all had dinner together. The man and I had a lot in common. We've been married 4 years now
/r/RedPillWives22/05/21 03:30 AM
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I had a negative net worth before I got married and became a housewife (maybe 20k in student loans from my master's degree). My husband refers to it as my bride price 😂
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 03:18 AM
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We exchanged messages a few years ago and I haven't heard from her since. Where are you, Laney? PS if any young lady wants input from a married 30 something, feel free to message me
/r/RedPillWives27/09/20 02:56 PM
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Can i register now for next year's follow up Ted talk "How I totally rocked it and you can too"? We have a toddler and are going to start ttc soon.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 06:13 PM
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I agree with that advice (although getting my one year old to do anything for 20 minutes straight would be an achievement). If you can take a nice walk right before your husband gets home, it might give you a moment to breathe and reflect on some positive things about your day. If you can carry that through to when you greet your husband it might set you up for a peaceful evening.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 10:00 PM
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I am too. I love fall and I like costumes but Halloween is not my thing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 12:59 AM
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Just a few questions I was wondering as I read - If you look at him objectively (if you didn't have a history with him) would you think "wow - there's a great catch!"? Will you be proud to introduce him to your (future) professional colleagues? If he stays in his current job and does start professional school in 2 years, will marriage, house, and kids get pushed back until after he finishes?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 08:22 PM
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If you want to stay with your church, it might be a good idea to approach a pastor or elder and lay out what's going on. You don't need to tell the whole church community. The leadership might be able to help (by connecting you with resources, helping pay for counseling, or even just listening).
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/20 02:34 PM
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Are you me? I feel so similar. I was a housewife before my son was born 8 months ago. I'm the one doing all the exhausting childcare, even weekends. I'm grumpy that my husband stays up late and sleeps in, while I get up at 6 and then crash into bed before 11. I'm grumpy that I can't go anywhere or do anything that would actually give me a break. I'm grumpy that we can't travel to family and family can't travel to us. This is a very tiring age of baby development and a trying time due to covid. E…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/20 03:01 PM
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How far are you in your 30 day plan? Get that really underway and let him see how you change before you say anything.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 07:16 PM
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Hi! I have the same disdain for stinky lunch containers. It hasn't been an issue for me lately due to a combination of him remembering to dump it out, eating out more for lunch, and just using the dishwasher more consistently. Here is what helped me in situations where my husband said he would do something but didn't or where I've expressed a need /desire for something to be done and he agreed: speaking his language. Saying "I've asked you to abc" or "you said you'd xyz" somehow didn't click wit…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 09:35 PM
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You're still letting people in to your house? That seems just as problematic
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 01:43 PM
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So glad you said this. Idk why so many people believe women didn't work. For most of history, most women were working in some capacity. Farming, sewing/weaving/spinning, typing, cleaning, selling, trading, serving, nursing, educating, cooking, writing, entertaining, "entertaining", etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 08:04 PM
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Thanks for finding it!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 07:08 PM
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It sure helped me to learn what trust and respect are about. It also made space for him to become a better man
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 02:58 AM
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I can't find it, but there was a post from probably the end of 2015 about stfu. I was lurking on this sub trying to understand my recently ex boyfriend. Something clicked. I asked him to take me back. Everything changed. We've been married 3 years.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 01:32 AM
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Ooh the "keeping your word" aspect. I'm going to use this.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/20 04:38 PM
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Omg brilliant
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 02:45 PM
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I've got a four month old, and while my old friends haven't deserted me I still wanted to expand my circle. Maybe meeting new people will give you a fresh start socially. Here's where I've met new people - baby storytime at the library new mom groups (there are a few churches in my area that have these, and my city has a nonprofit running groups for first time parents) peanut app "tinder for mom friends" local mom Facebook groups host meetups flagging down women with strollers when I'm out on wa…
/r/RedPillWives05/02/20 05:23 AM
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My siblings started going in together for gifts for our parents for that reason. We'd rather give them one really expensive thing they'd never buy for themselves instead of each giving them something reasonable that they'd probably end up buying anyway. And as for inventing items for a wish list, I do that too. My mom is the only person that asks what I want, so I started thinking, "What would be something nice to have that I don't care enough about to get for myself?" Last year I asked for real…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 09:21 PM
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I made a nice wreath for our front door, put up our tiny Christmas tree, and put (electric) candles in all the windows. That's it as far as decorating. Oh! And candles. I front loaded the season with Christmas movies and now don't feel the need to watch any more. But I've got Christmas music going all day (yesterday choral music, today gentle piano). My husband and I are reading through an advent book every night. I baked a bunch of cookies for my husband to bring to work, which I do every year.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 08:58 PM
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Send him a link to an interesting news story, blog post, or podcast episodes and tell him you'd love to discuss it next time you chat. Even if he doesn't get around to reading /listening to it, you can give him the main idea and ask his opinion. Ask for a book recommendation (something he likes, not just something he thinks you'll like) and then as you read it you'll be able to update him and discuss. "omg. I just read the chapter where x does y." Basically, find things you can continually conne…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 04:57 AM
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You have time to take your time. That became my mantra after back to back second trimester stillbirths when I was freaking out that I was getting older and wanting living children. I'm now 32 and have a 3 month old. The top statement applies to you as well. You don't have to conceive again this very moment. You don't have to plan out when to conceive any future children, let alone 4 more. Get yourself into a healthy place emotionally and physically and get your daughter into a better routine. TH…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/19 06:18 PM
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Is this right? The only American Lion I know of is about Andrew Jackson. I'd love a good recommendation for Teddy though
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 05:00 AM
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There are a lot of factors: your relationship status /stability, your finances, age and maturity level.
/r/RedPillWives23/11/19 05:38 PM
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That's the same age I was when I moved to Asia. I made some great friends through work and church, and I met my husband there! You're in for a great adventure!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 02:10 PM
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My husband also despises makeup and I respect his wishes to not wear it. I'm interested in everyone's advice since I haven't have any success talking to my husband about this. I generally just use bb cream and chapstick. occasionally concealer or light eyeliner. I do keep my eye brows shaped and curl my lashes often.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 01:32 AM
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Really depends on your personality and social life. I liked having a roommate or two since I tend to be more of a loner and living with people encouraged me to participate in more activities (hanging out with roommates and their friends, hearing their weekend plans and remembering that I should make my own plans, etc). Without them, I would tend to stay in by myself. If you're super outgoing, maybe your home is your one refuge.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 02:48 AM
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In my case, we started out in the same place but I moved (internationally) for a job. Online gaming actually played a large part in our long distance period. I was not into video games before and I'm not now, but during that time it was a way for us to do an activity together and chat about something other than "so what did you do today". This was important to him because he hates just talking on the phone anyway. Like you said, best not to keep bringing up the issue of WHEN he'll visit, but sin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 04:04 PM
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This just reminded me that I used to do this for my (now) husband. We met while living in Asia, so he missed American food. He especially liked French toast sticks at the time. I've done a variety of things by now, from breakfast burritos to stirfry. There are a lot of sites devoted to freezer cooking, so it just depends on taste. If you can, freeze in portions so he won't have to cook an entire casserole for himself
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 05:15 PM
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I understand the jealousy. By the time I got engaged (age 29) all my college friends were married and most had at least one child. In addition, my sisters (4 and 6 years younger than me) had both gotten engaged less than two months before me. Not fun to hear them take turns complaining to me. One with "I've been with my guy longer and I'm older and I'm so jealous she got engaged first". And the other "I just know she's going to try to make her wedding before mine and upstage me". Meanwhile I was…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 01:35 AM
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Wow. So this is bigger than city mouse vs country mouse (vs suburban mouse, which to me seems like the worst of both worlds). I can understand wanting to be near family, but he is talking about a major upheaval for the whole family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 04:22 PM
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What are his reasons for wanting to be in the city? Shorter commute, better job, more educational /cultural opportunities? Those are pretty valid. Have you looked into the urban homesteading scene in your potential city? Gardening, keeping chickens, etc may still be possibilities
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 01:49 PM
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Are you me? People love to paint the picture that men are always hungry for sex and women should get used to that, so I entered marriage really eager to please. If it were up to me we'd be doing it 5+ days a week. My husband just has low libido. He's up for once or occasionally twice a week.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 12:51 PM
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Don't sweat the small stuff. Truly. There is a point before your wedding day where you need to walk away from the planning. No more wondering whether to change napkin color. No more diy projects. Accept that some things will go wrong and that it won't matter. I'm 2.5 years past my wedding. When I've brought up the snags in my wedding (the greenery along the aisle went all the way to the front and I had to walk over it to it get to the stairs, the cake arrived with no decoration, table numbers we…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 12:55 PM
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Plenty of women (myself included) have not had any serious boyfriends by age 20. It doesn't matter. You're not collecting Pokémon. You say you're conservative and religious. Presumably you have girlfriends with similar values. Check out any events hosted by their church's 'college and career group' or campus ministry. Meet their older brothers.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 09:03 PM
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I'm assuming they live in America too, so there's no telling where they on the spectrum of cultural adaptation. Try to get a feel from your bf about what mom typically wears. When in doubt, cover thighs and shoulders.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 06:48 PM
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How long will you consider yourself >still young, still discovering things about myself? And (assuming you want to be married) at what point will you want to start thinking about marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 04:17 PM
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I was out having dinner with a new friend from church. He happened to stop in for dinner as well, also knew my friend from church, and I suggested we all eat together. It wasn't love at first sight, but I definitely thought "I want to get to know this guy more. I think we could be friends". We got married the week before I turned 30.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 01:42 PM
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At 26 I came to a place where I was content with myself and confident I could have a meaningful life even without a husband and children of my own. (I still wanted them, but decided not to wait around putting off all my other aspirations.) I moved to Asia for a job, thinking I was locking myself into spinsterhood. I met my husband there when I was 27. ​ Keep living life!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 03:14 PM
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Mmm gotcha. It's one thing to have to interact with an ex you see regularly through work or your social circle. To seek out an ex to get advice about your current relationship... Yikes. Personally if he was a standup guy aside from this one incident I'd consider giving a second chance because people do weird things when they're under stress. Benefit of the doubt. No third chances though.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 01:53 AM
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I was just trying to help OP think about her own behavior first. I never said his actions were right and I would certainly be upset too if my partner was seeking out an ex
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/19 09:59 PM
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How many times does he have to break up with you before you'll actually believe he doesn't want to be with you?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 03:49 PM
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How do I move on without causing a big fuss? By moving on. Actually moving on. Not obsessing over it and bringing it up again and again. What struck me about your post is that you admit to having arguments and overreacting to little things. Do you tend to blow up often? If this is the norm for you, I can understand why he would be so reluctant to tell you. This is probably exactly what he thought would happen. If you want a relationship based on openness and trust, there has to be a foundation o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 03:19 PM
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I think the key is still basic rp- how you treat him. Be the savviest attorney at work, but when you're home turn that off and be the loving, submissive wife. Let him know how much you appreciate all the non monetary things he brings to the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 08:35 PM
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That's really sad
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 01:15 AM
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Agreed. I know several who volunteer or who have started their own business for something they're already passionate about (childcare for fitness centers, environmentally friendly beauty products, etc). So far no one has mentioned an interest in stock trading
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:50 AM
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I'm actually surprised you know so many housewives at your age
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 12:38 AM
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Being unintelligent or ditzy doesn't look cute ever. The ditziest person I know is actually a doctor. The housewives I know are well-read, intelligent, and active in the community.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 11:33 PM
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When we got married we joined all our accounts. I handle bills and he handles investments. We don't have a monthly budget because he doesn't feel it's necessary. We both spend responsibly and reasonably. For anything we want that's over $75 we run it by the other person. So far I've only been denied a robot vacuum. We are city mice and derive a lot of enjoyment from eating at all the diverse, fun restaurants around us. So that's always a treat, but never in a romantic surprise way (if that's wha…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/19 11:46 PM
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Agreed. OP doesn't see how characteristics and choices can run on a spectrum. My husband is 6 years older. Does he count as my age, or much older? I wasn't looking for money, just a guy as stable in his career as I was in mine. Turns out my guy's field had much higher earning potential than mine and I can be a housewife. That doesn't mean I'll never go back to work. And if I do seek employment, I don't have to go back to climbing the ladder of my former field. We have so much choice.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 02:02 AM
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You talked on the phone one time and now he wants you reporting in every day? Yikes
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 07:08 PM
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Good! I was in similar shoes in my first year of marriage (just without the international move). I had spent pretty much my entire life with tight finances and my hobbies reflected that. I never baked anything I wasn't sure I could do perfectly. If I ever bought a book instead of borrowing it was secondhand and probably from the clearance rack. But my husband has encouraged me to experiment in my baking and sewing etc and enjoy the process. It's very freeing to know that he supports my attempts …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 04:23 PM
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Talk to your husband about finances. He obviously wants to and is able to provide for you both. Is he concerned about keeping a tight budget? In my first year of marriage I got anxious about finances every so often. I'd just ask my husband to go over our accounts with me. It always made me feel better to see how our accounts were growing. Personally, I have full access to all accounts online and my own credit /debit cards for all accounts. I enjoy not having to share cards. I have full authority…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 04:01 AM
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The guys around you sound young. Do they live on their own? Do they appreciate how much effort goes into making a home? Just because you want to be a housewife doesn't mean you have to start being one right now. You don't know how long you'll be looking for Mr Right. If you never got married, what would you want your life to be like? Start creating that life. Learn, explore, have a job you like. Be the woman the man you're looking for will be looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 02:21 AM
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So he wants children. He wants them with you. He wants to provide a good life for them. That's great! For now, focus on what you can do to be as well prepared as possible. Healthy mind, healthy body.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 02:52 PM
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Sounds like a fine answer considering you aren't married, haven't said how long you've been together, and admitted yourself that you aren't ready for children right now. What did you want him to say?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 01:36 PM
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Gotcha. Maybe my old karate school was outside the norm. They had a pre-k class that did basic stances and strikes mixed with games. Very discipline focused. My only other idea was if you've got any kind of "wilderness school" around you. My friends boys spend one day per week out in the woods. Climbing, jumping, all that rough-and-tumble stuff
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 03:52 PM
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Your husband does martial arts, can your son not also?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 02:26 PM
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I hope it works out as well as I'm imagining. I know he can already procure food, do laundry, do dishes, buy things from a store, hold a baby, pick up and put down a baby. That's already a lot of practical support, and he'll pick up the rest as we settle in
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 08:40 PM
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My plan (at first) is to let him take care of me while I care for Baby. He knows how to do that and he's really good at it. He can do baby things as he feels comfortable (whether because we've taken a class or he's watched me do it).
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 01:41 PM
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I don't see any reason why you'd need to submit to your friends, so maybe we are thinking of different definitions or are from different cultures. But when people are telling you that you "know what you want and you're not afraid to make it known" that sounds like a loudmouth. There's a different between having opinions and always making sure everyone knows your opinions about every topic that comes up. Maybe you constantly push the group to do what you want to do. If this sounds like what your …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:43 PM
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I had guy friends and had dated a good bit but by ~27 I had only had one (mediocre) boyfriend. I made peace with the fact that my life might not include marriage, and I was honestly content with that. I decided instead of waiting around for love, I'd focus on the rest of my life goals. I moved to Asia to teach. Ten months in I met the most incredible guy. Our two year wedding anniversary is in a couple weeks.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 10:46 PM
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Congrats! Me too! Had a stillbirth last year and the year before. Exciting and nerve wracking
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 10:31 PM
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Can you expound on this? You are the one doing the shopping (and bill pay?) and you have your husband transfer money into your account every time you need to pay for household things? I don't consider that an allowance, just a functioning household. Regardless, instead of approaching this by first thinking about how much you think you should be spending, start tracking how much you actually spend per month. Use something like Mint. Once you see how much you spend, you can gage where to cut back.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 03:52 PM
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I'm in a (blue) city. I've had a couple women say that they couldn't be a housewife for financial /social /emotional reasons (and then in the next breath complain about their job). I'm happy doing what I'm doing, and most people are happy to see happy people.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 06:07 PM
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I'm a housewife and I don't get criticism from anyone. Older women say "what a blessing" and younger women say "goals!". When I was employed (before marriage) my now-husband would do laundry, dishes, help cook, etc.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 04:28 PM
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I've been a housewife for almost 2 years and I've definitely had cabin fever days. I think my cabin fever comes not from lack of things to do, but lack of human interaction. For me it helped to just get out of the house and seek little conversations with a neighbor, store clerk, mailman, cashier, etc. I go to the same coffee shop every Friday and befriended a barista. Since you're taking an online class, take your laptop to a cafe or library and become a temporary regular. Get to know the staff …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 08:34 PM
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To add on to the advice here, make sure you are getting your own financial situation in order. Make sure your mom can't access your bank account. Make sure she can't interfere with you going to university.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 05:56 PM
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I understood her to mean people remark that she dresses like she's 10 years old. Too juvenile
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 01:22 AM
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Lot of good thoughts here. I just wanted to say that you remind me of my sister in law. She's a nice person, but ugh she's so mild and deferential about everything and that annoys me to bits. She has no strong opinions, no spunk. I often feel like I'm pushing her around because she refuses to be the decision maker about anything, even when I specifically ask. Being feminine doesn't mean being devoid of strength or personality. Is this you? Are you too passive?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 01:20 AM
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Haha I hadn't even thought of it that way. We are both American, but we met while living abroad. I moved back for a new job and he followed several months later.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 01:27 PM
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I was not consulted or included in the ring buying process, which really made it feel like it was his gift to me. He got me a 1ct solitaire (diamond). I still have no idea how much it cost. He moved internationally to be with me, so I knew he was going to propose but I didn't know when. He took me to a secluded spot by a steam he used to go to and really poured out his heart to me. I didn't even know he had a ring. Turned out he bought it before moving, so he'd had it at least two months. We got…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/18 04:03 PM
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All that changing sounds a little excessive. I think you'd be fine with just daytime, outing and evening. My husband works from home 4 or 5 days a month, and he is definitely "in the zone" during that time. He wouldn't like me trying to catch his attention all day with different outfits. Not to mention, I have my own stuff to do during the day. On wfh days I just check on him every so often to massage his shoulders, scratch his head, or bring him water and snacks. I tell him how much I appreciat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 05:25 PM
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I think you need to dig deeper before you do anything else. Does he have families with young children in his life? (Does he know how exhausting is can be to raise children?) Has he witnessed sisters or friends go through pregnancy? (Does he know every body handles it differently?) Does he know how important it is to you? What is his plan for raising children? How does it align with your vision? (He sounds like someone who has little knowledge of human development and just thinks discipline and r…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 02:00 PM
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I view a proposal as a man's way to signal that he is willing and prepared for a lifetime of responsibility for that woman. He values the woman enough to invite her into the creation of one family unit. He is asking the woman to trust him with their future. That's life-changing. The woman has to decide whether she can submit to that man for their lifetime. Maybe I'd view things differently through different cultural lenses, but I tend to assume that a woman who proposes wants to be in control. ​…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 09:26 PM
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I know your post was mostly about FIRE and commitment, but the things you said about your relationship were interesting. It sounds like you are not suggesting to your partner, "hey, let's have a party to celebrate our x years of commitment". It sounds like you want to PROPOSE - to officially ask him to commit to you (in some kind of ceremony with witnesses). I don't really think of that as being a woman's role, so I'm curious about your perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:20 PM
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Can you clarify your situation? What is your perspective about how to honor your man's place as leader with you proposing?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 03:00 PM
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The first time we hung out alone we had only known each other for about 2 weeks. We talked for 6 hours straight about our lives and our individual goals. I told him I wanted to be married and stay home to raise a family. He said he'd like a wife and a couple children and then went on about how a married couple is a team and both people have different but vital roles. It was another year and a half before he decided on me, but I knew from the start he was looking for a wife. That wasn't the first…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 11:00 PM
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I was long distance Asia /US with my boyfriend (now husband) for 7 months, with only about a one month visit in the middle. By the time we went long distance we had already been dating over a year, had already met each other's families, and I already knew I wanted to marry him. So for us it worked because we already knew what the other person was like and we already had memories together. Prior to meeting my husband, I had started talking to someone long distance who I had only met in person dur…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 04:22 AM
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We are also not gift givers. We just buy what we want and plan trips together. We also share a birthday and don't buy gifts for that either. I do feel pressured to buy gifts for his family though, since they get us something. It feels so stressful to find something they'd want, partly because I don't feel like I know them well, and partly because money isn't an issue for them
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 02:34 AM
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Don't skip 'for men' (if that's the section that talks about COUPLE)! It's great to reflect on and consider how you much you relate to those desires
/r/RedPillWives19/08/18 04:10 AM
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Talk to Husband. Make sure you understand what he expects. Are there any tasks he wants to keep doing? Who will be responsible for paying bills, walking dogs, car maintenance, etc? Housewife =/= homebound. Get out and interact with other humans during the day. A class, the gym, lunch with friends. Something fun and simulating, with the bonus that it will provide you something to talk about later. Cooking and cleaning aren't interesting discussion topics. Becoming a housewife should create a low-…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/18 08:13 PM
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I'm not sure you're having an identity crisis exactly, but you seem to be realizing that personalities are complex. If you meet someone new and can accurately predict every aspect of their life, they've probably got a boring life. I wouldn't have guessed my favorite barista took this job after quitting her lucrative IT job. I didn't know my lawyer friend loves country music. Or that my sister in law gardens. And they don't know I love watching MMA. We can't discuss every aspect of our lives to e…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:31 PM
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I'm here with super long hair too purely because my husband likes it. I don't care about length, so why not make him happy?
/r/RedPillWives22/07/18 12:57 PM
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I listened to OEM for probably 2 straight years! It was really helpful as I prepared for marriage
/r/RedPillWives08/06/18 03:02 PM
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I came here for the practical tips and advice about the submissive mentality I thought I had. That is, I already agreed with the theory, but I realized I wasn't living it out. I found rpw (and reddit) because I broke up with my boyfriend (more like "took a break") and I was searching online for some help. I resolved to try out some ideas like stfu and actually let him lead. Immediate, incredible change. We've been married almost a year and a half now.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 01:16 PM
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Agreed. This is about relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 02:02 PM
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My pledge was to love, respect, encourage, and obey. His pledge was to love, keep, honor, and cherish. We wrote our vows according to what we could realistically do and what the other person will need. Our families had no say
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 03:18 AM
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It's tough to make homeschooling a dealbreaker since (I assume) you don't have children and don't know whether you and your future children will all thrive in a homeschooling environment. From what I've heard, it can be done on nearly any budget and there are lots of resell /swap opportunities for curricula. Still, it's ok to talk about this as a goal. If you say "one day I hope to become a mother and stay home with my kids and try homeschooling" your date/boyfriend will either say "Interesting.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 03:27 AM
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I was sort of in your shoes. We moved for my husband's job and hoped to start ttc within a few months. Like you, I didn't want to start a new job only to leave it within a year. The thing that helped me was getting reassurance from my husband. Are we ok financially if I don't work? How would you feel about that? What if we don't conceive after 6 months of trying? Will there be a point when you think I should get a job while we investigate other options for growing our family? Will there be a poi…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/18 04:06 AM
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By the time I got married (at 30) I had been working (part or full-time) for 15 years, had finished two undergraduate majors and a Master's in education. I had lived overseas and funded my own extensive travels. I assume you're in high school and that you don't earn any money. Starting a job now doesn't mean you are committing to it for life. You can learn something from any job you take and get a better sense of what you're good at. Plus, money. There are plenty of valid reasons for not going t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 03:22 PM
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We live in a high-rise apartment. I do all the housework, shopping, and cooking (except he occasionally makes his own oatmeal concoction). He takes out the trash. I don't know if this will change once kids are in the picture. I think he'd be more willing to hire help than learn how to use our appliances
/r/RedPillWives20/03/18 02:25 AM
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I was almost 30 when I got married, and I didn't want my dad "giving me away" either. Still, I knew he had been looking forward to walking me down the aisle my entire life. So he did that. He walked me down the aisle and sat down. My husband and I constructed the ceremony ourselves, so it was easy to cut that out, along with other stuff we didn't want (bridal party, exchange of rings, first kiss, unity candles). Traditional vows were important to us, and it was important to me that we recited th…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/18 01:04 PM
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Because I refuse to buy expensive pajamas and I'm not looking for great quality, I've so far only bought from TJMaxx (or maybe it was Ross?) and Amazon. I feel so much more comfortable trying them on at home. I just bought this one for under $20: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B077SBYZ1M/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1 And I love it! It's soft and feminine and nice for relaxing
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 03:02 AM
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I became a housewife when I got married (age 30). My husband was already making over $100k so there was so transition or discussion about threshold. I don't miss working. You've gotta budget out what you want your life to look like in terms of where you live, how you live, and savings /investment goals.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 08:34 PM
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I think the goal with nails (real or fake) is to look clean and neat. You don't want their length preventing you from daily life tasks (typing, cooking, kickboxing, etc). You also don't want that gross limbo with fakes where some are falling off or growing out. If you can handle the maintenance of fakes, fine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 05:35 PM
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He despises lipstick and dangley earrings, so I avoid them. I guess we have a simple (non) fashion look anyway, so it doesn't affect me much. Mostly just if I'm in a wedding or something and I'm wearing full makeup, earrings and an updo (another dislike lol) I'll think "I look fabulous!" and he's thinking "Ugh, you look fake. Why can't you dress like your natural beautiful self?"
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 07:06 PM
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Interesting. Reminds me of a Christian marriage book I read years ago called Love & Respect. Iirc, it laid out basic things that make a woman feel loved, things that make a man feel respected, and how those desires play off each other.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/18 04:06 PM
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Finances are a huge part of life. You need to be on the same page about it or it's going to cause you stress in your marriage. Having debt is not a huge issue in itself, but I think there are two things to be considered. What is the debt from? (Was he caught in a tough spot? Or was he making stupid purchases?) What is HIS plan for paying off the debt? A guy who is serious about his future will figure out a plan (with help from the internet, an advisor, Dave Ramsey, etc). He should be disciplined…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 04:28 PM
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When we were engaged we discussed how marriage would make us a unit. A team. We're supporting each other, but in different roles. He funds us. I handle home. Even though I could be out in the working world with my husband's blessing, I'm happy not to. I know too many couples that both work full time and then come home and stress over dinner, errands, cleaning, etc. I didn't want that. This works well for us, but it took me a little while to realize I can be proud of it. At first I felt the need …
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 04:50 AM
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I probably do every year. In July I finally got a kindle and I've read more than 20 books on it already.
/r/RedPillWives01/01/18 12:48 AM
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I had my hopes up for a year I guess because I knew I wanted to spend my life with him way before he had decided on me. I moved internationally for a job and it wasn't until he moved to be with me that I was positive he would propose. Then he waited another 2 months. (I've no idea why; he later admitted he bought the ring before he moved.) I guess he wanted to take me to a particular spot that meant a lot to him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/17 10:49 PM
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Broke out my sewing machine again after a couple year break. I want Baby to have some unique, homemade lovies. So far I've finished a ruffled blankie and I'm working on turning Husband's old sweater into a stuffed animal
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 08:07 PM
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Childless housewife checking in! We got married this past winter and immediately moved for my husband's new job. I took the opportunity to take up a new career as a housewife, and it has been working out well for us. Since this is the route you want, I probably don't have to explain how nice it is (but I'm happy to talk about it if anyone wants). Yes, I've had family ask "Are you even looking for a job? What do you do all day?" and telling me about potential opportunities in my new city. From fr…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 09:18 PM
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Since the rules don't say "no asking", I assumed sharing a faceless photo of "typical outfit before vs after" or "stock photo example of before vs after" would've been ok to share if she wanted. Oh well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:25 PM
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Can you please please pretty please share before and after photos?!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 03:25 AM
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At the beginning of OPs post, I thought maybe the friend sees red flags that she doesn't see. But by the end... No.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 03:30 PM
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Stealing this. I like the idea of attaching gratitude to something tangible (like a pay stub).
/r/RedPillWives01/02/17 02:14 PM
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Since it sounds like that's the only job offer you have at the moment, and since you're financially responsible for yourself, take it. It seems like you don't think of yourself as an adult, so some distance will help you establish yourself.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 06:40 PM
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<3 He's basically nesting. Our wedding is next month and we've talked about starting a family within the next year. So he's been in super provider mode: looking at new (4-door) cars, interviewing for (6 figure) jobs, talking about what kind of house we should buy and what we should name the kids. Before we got engaged, I knew he was responsible with money, but I had no idea just how much he had saved up in preparation for our future. I'm so glad you posed this question. I've been wanting to gush…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/17 11:24 PM
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From what I remember, Patel left his girlfriend thinking he needed a fellow Indian. But realized she enjoyed learning and incorporating his family's culture. Likewise, he enjoyed mainstream American culture. So they got back together because they blended. The difficulty is culture more than skin color. You're right that open communication helps bridge the gap; it's even better when both sides can witness things like marital and extended family dynamics for both of their backgrounds, then figure …
/r/RedPillWives06/01/17 06:35 PM
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I've only read the comments so far and... Uh... I'm confused but laughing so hard
/r/RedPillWives18/12/16 01:06 PM
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Succinct and well written
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/16 01:08 PM
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I am thankful for my loving, levelheaded, faithful fiance. He just proposed 2 weeks ago and I'm beyond excited. I am so grateful for sound advice from the rp women of the internet. A year ago I had just broken up with my boyfriend even though I loved him. (It's all hazy now, thankfully). I put myself through reformation bootcamp, reading everything about successful relationships and focusing on what was really true. I realized how terrible I had been despite previously thinking I had tried my be…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/16 05:36 PM
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This is also why routines can be good for people, I imagine.
/r/RedPillWives12/11/16 01:31 PM
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<3 Cotton On, my love, how I miss you <3
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 11:31 AM
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There's a difference between "Oh, I usually go by my middle name" and "Oh, I intentionally lie to women". Maybe he does care about you, but...
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/16 06:49 PM
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Your fbil sounds a little... unpleasant. I'm a Christian and I'd probably avoid him. A lot of churches are happy to have curious and respectful non Christians and people still figuring out what they believe. Your church might have groups/events for women, couples, newcomers, etc. Like in any new situation, it can take time to figure out who to befriend. You can probably find contact info on the church website for the people in charge of different groups. They can likely connect you with people y…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 08:46 AM
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😢 The thought of my SO never getting to have fun makes me really sad.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 04:39 PM
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I like this question. Anyone have creative examples or incentives? I've heard some variations of "Oh good, you didn't [important task] yet... I love watching you [use your muscles/ get sweaty/ fix stuff] "
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 10:06 PM
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I'm reuniting with my guy in 10 days too! Except we're meeting up first in a different city bc I have a 2 week business trip. And I'm supposed to start my cycle right then. Work stress + reunion joy + hormone overload = I'll probably just be crying for 2 days straight. Hope your reunion will be less chaotic!
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 08:02 PM
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This one always makes me happy. It's what I imagine every man wanting. Cheerleader
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 10:20 PM
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This one! I had to look it up based on the lyrics, which are always stuck in my head Selena Gomez - good for you
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 10:12 PM
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I really, really wanted him to say it first. Uggggh. But I waited months and he never said it. Finally I was so head-over-heels for him that I couldn't hold it in any longer. To stave off a potentially awkward situation, I said it while he was asleep. I just had to let out the "i love you". It felt good it say out loud. Except he wasn't asleep. He heard it and he didn't say anything back, which was what I had been dreading. He just cuddled me in closer. Months after that, it came up in conversat…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:14 PM
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That is absolutely adorable ♥️
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 07:39 PM
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This vaguely reminds me of a Japanese man who came to Thailand to father as many children as possible. Story link 🔗 he wasn't polygamous, but still a little crazy and determined to reproduce. Not that OP cares about my opinion, but I had some very broken Thai-Chinese students who came from polygamous families where there was intense competition and backstabbing among wives and their children. That has been my only firsthand experience and it was not good.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 10:54 PM
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I'm not sure about the likeliness of Europeans to have student debt. I was under the impression is was almost nonexistent. I'm more interested in the ages of the people in the study. And which countries were represented. And whether long-term partnerships were considered as well. And a lot of other factors. My Master's is in education administration so I'm keenly interested in the study and at the same time incredibly skeptical that it has any meaning
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 09:48 PM
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I have to agree. If she said they were married/committed for life, it would be her responsibility to make it work. And while she hasn't detailed the extent of the disability, the fact that he needs a nurse doesn't give the impression that he'd be able to work a normal job (unless it was from home, maybe) or take care of the home while OP works. Plus the question of whether children would be desired/possible. Pragmatically, we have to consider what he is bringing to the table. It sounds rather co…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 03:44 AM
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it was a pain to take all the magnets off I'm not really picturing what you're talking about, but if it involved a lot of magnets, I'd probably give it up too. I just have my one little magnet that moves around. Here's what I used as the basis for mine: Gameboard style cleaning routine And /u/PhantomDream09 I definitely think it would adapt well for kids. When I was a kid, our system was a weekly all-or-nothing. If I missed one day of chores, no allowance. Well obviously if I missed something on…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 10:16 PM
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I live alone and travel a lot for work, so I'm always lacking motivation and/or time to maintain my apartment properly. I adapted a gameboard type chart that i found online. It hangs on my fridge and i move my little magnet around the square as i complete tasks. Things like doing dishes and sweeping floors are on there every other square. Cleaning bathroom, sorting mail, cleaning porches, etc are less frequent. Some days I don't get anything done. Other days i do 2 or 3 squares. It works for me …
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 05:14 PM
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I tried everything to remedy the mysterious hair problem I've had in my new apartment. It never felt clean. Finally I resorted to rinsing with distilled water. Now I've got that sorted I can look into hair glaze. Sounds fabulous! Thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 05:05 PM
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And I thought i read that they are encouraging the opening of more day care facilities in order for women to return to work after giving birth. I wonder how much demand there is for that, though. PS I'll be in ROK at the end of September!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 11:42 AM
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Cleaning service yes 100%. And make meals easy. Order in, use a crockpot, whatever. Make time to be on the couch with your man. You don't need to care about the show. He'd probably like having you there, just existing in a peaceful state.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/16 10:13 PM
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That is the saddest thing I've heard all day. I hope you have weiner friends, at least
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 09:22 PM
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I hope I have 10 weiner dogs when I'm old and wrinkly.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 04:32 PM
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This sub is a lot of people saying "Hey, here's what's working for me". Nobody will agree with everything that gets posted. Freshman year has a lot of questioning and growing. And you've already started questioning the way you were raised and trying to figure out what kind of woman you want to become. Keep at it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 01:56 AM
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You're in a really great place! Even if you don't go 'whole hog' into RPW, you're setting a good foundation. You're so young and can avoid the mistakes that so many of us have made. You didn't mention what kind of situation you'll be in at university (how far from home, living situation, type of institution, etc) but I'm sure you'll have opportunities to make the type of friends you'd like. Now is your chance to break away from the bad influences and find ladies who will be worthwhile, lifelong …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 10:51 PM
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"asking a man what he's feeling out of the blue is like asking someone to tell a joke out of the blue" -my boyfriend It's just not on his mind
/r/RedPillWives05/08/16 03:48 PM
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Wow your situation is much different from what I've seen in America. How do people normally start relationships in your country? In OP's case, I still think letting people know you're open to being introduced is a valid way (in casual conversation with married girlfriends, aunts, older coworkers, etc. ) I'd stick to the female network. Although the average age to get married varies by region in the US, 24 is considered a normal age. I doubt anyone would tell her she's too young (assuming she is …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/16 05:16 PM
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Nice save! While I'm getting good at S-ingTFU, i still struggle with situations like this when I'm tempted to lash out. Your phrasing gives me a nice replacement for "I WAS JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU! "
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 12:31 AM
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I haven't tried it myself and actually know only a few people who have done it. Of those, two resulted in marriage. One because she lived in a large city with lots of young professionals. The other because (although he was in a small town) he had the money to go travel to meet the women in person. Hopefully someone better qualified will weigh in. I'm rooting for you!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 11:49 PM
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This doesn't seem super seductive, but it's one of my favorite tricks, used sparingly. It's especially useful when we're out somewhere boring and I'm ready to go haha. Doesn't matter if I'm facing him or standing next to him. I take his hand and discreetly brush it down my hip. Two seconds later we're out the door. What is this? My guy has carefully trained himself to detect panty lines, and when I pull his hand over my hip it instantly registers that I'm not wearing underwear.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 05:33 AM
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Haven't tried it out on my guy yet. I imagine it's going be hard for me to keep a straight face, but even harder for him to sit patiently in the chair
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 05:09 AM
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If you aren't engaged in two years, are you giving up on the idea of marriage? Seems like you're actually saying you want to get engaged asap, which is just another way of conveying you're ready to settle down. Get serious about dating. When job hunting, we reach out to people we know. We go to events, put our resumes online, join professional organizations. We use all our resources. Make this your MO. Let it be known that you're looking for a good man and see if your network of trusted friends …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 04:42 AM
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Yes-the tease! Last month I watched some YouTube videos on giving lap dances. One of the things that stuck with me was that you (can) go the whole dance without touching him. Just winding, winding, winding him up... 😏
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 04:04 AM
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Thanks! I was in Thailand. I got to travel all over, but never made it to the Philippines. Wish I had
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 02:36 PM
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Yay! Hi ladies. New here and not actually a wife yet, but hopefully soon! I'm 29 and just moved back to the US after a few years in Asia. While there, I met my handsome fella, who is moving here in September to be with me! 😁 Would love to get to know some people, especially anyone with insight on Atlanta or Chattanooga
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 12:19 AM
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I'm with ya. I've always been against dating men with kids. Maybe if I already had my own I'd feel differently. I do want my own, so I'm just not interested in raising someone else's first.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/16 11:55 PM
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Woot woot LDRs. I agree that they can be hard, but saying the odds are not in your favor is a stretch. It really depends what your relationship was like before you became LD and whether there's a plan to close the distance.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/16 11:13 PM
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As the others have said, keep on being supportive and joyful etc. Back when my BF was really stressed and at the end of a high-paying contract with nothing on the horizon, he asked me to "help". I learned the hard way that it did NOT mean he wanted to talk through every possible scenario. Apparently this stresses men out more than the original problem. Weird. Here are some of the successful semi-covert tactics I used. Maybe some will inspire you. I took a massage course and got pretty good at gi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 05:48 AM
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I don't know of any guys specifically looking for a lady with nice nails, but i have guys notice my nails VERY often. It always catches me off-guard
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 01:12 AM
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I tried to calculate when my guy first brought it up... I was 27 when we met, but he's six years older... Good thing we had some intense conversations the first week we met!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/16 09:31 PM
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I'm envisioning this as a really nice chart. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/16 09:08 PM
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I should have clarified. Not looking for advice about my sister. More interested in hearing general opinions about if/when women should move on from guys who seem content to never marry (assuming marriage is the goal). My sister... Oy. We don't get on as well as I'd like as it is. No way I'd intervene!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 04:32 PM
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I clicked this thread because the title led me to believe it would be focusing more on this question: At what point must she leave her LTR in pursuits of a family? I'm getting concerned for my sister (25) and her boyfriend of 4 years (probably 27-28). When I saw them a few weeks ago, the BF was gearing up to start a 2 year grad program. I haven't stuck my nose in to ask if he's planning to ever marry her, but I know she gets frustrated that other friends have started relationships after her yet …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 11:24 PM
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Maybe men approach negotiation with their poker faces on? I've always been smiley and expressed delight that they've offered me a job. When they talk salary, I've said things like "I'm really excited to come work with you; is there any way we can... (change out x benefit for a higher salary, talk about shifting my work hours, etc)" or "You told me I exceeded your desired qualifications, so I was hoping for a salary closer to $X " Smiling and gracious through it all, of course. I try to show that…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 04:58 AM
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This was quite a ramble. I'm trying to untangle it and find the real issue. You said everything I know is here and I feel like if I'm not 100% feeling great about our relationship then won't moving make it worse. What do you see wrong with your relationship? You mentioned *Not enough sex (I encourage you to check out the podcast called One Extraordinary Marriage.) *He doesn't take initiative often or in the ways you want him to and you switch into 'jerk mode' (Can you give an example?) Does he s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/16 05:02 PM
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What does he like about you? Or what are you bringing to the table? While this may not be the case, you're making your guy out to be rather malicious. There is a difference between needing space due to anger/frustration with someone and actively doing things to punish that person.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/16 01:39 PM
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Agreed. Education doesn't necessarily tell you anything. Instead, I look for someone who can analyze complex ideas, pays attention to world news, and enjoys intellectual conversations. And i would say taking pride in his work is more important than just having a stable career. He's gotta be hardworking. I couldn't stand one of those guys who did the bare minimum and complained about his job all the time
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/16 02:42 AM
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Sounds like a fun childhood! Has your boyfriend ever seen you in a skirt/dress or with makeup or hair down? Has he mentioned a desire to see you with a different look? Does he like the way you treat him? I tried a really girly look with makeup and fancy hair and skirts when I was new to rpw and trying to improve my relationship... Gradually i figured out my bf prefers a very simple hair down, no makeup look and doesn't think skirts are better than pants. High heels though! Appearance things were…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/16 05:14 PM
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Ease into it. Test out what works for you. As in, don't go break the bank on tonnes of clothes and makeup right off the bat. Don't throw away all your hair elastics. Don't go overboard or your SO may not recognize you. One of the basics to being feminine is how you carry yourself. No slouching, no shuffling. Here are 2 videos to start you off. Getting in/out of cars gracefully https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fI9AgAaOQEQ Standing/walking posture https://www.youtube.com/user/WhenWomenWalk/videos Y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/16 11:10 PM
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A lot of young expats work as teachers, so you might find friends in the neighborhoods around international (and/or Christian) schools. Plus, they'd probably appreciate a friend from outside their work circle. You might just be able to search facebook for Americans in Xcity or Xcity Expats to find people and events. Homesickness will probably happen at some point. I got all my family and a couple close friends to install the messaging app popular in my country so i could easily text and send pho…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/16 03:57 AM
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Thanks! The Cornish hens recipe looks so easy. I have always shied away from them because they seem so fancy. Will definitely try now :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/16 04:42 PM
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I love this! Usually I'll add a can of black beans too
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/16 04:39 PM
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Boyfriend was here for the past month, and it was the first time I've gotten/had to consistently cook for him. We met living in Thailand, where eating out is generally cheaper/easier than cooking. He insists he's not a picky eater, but he hates cheese and anything 'creamy' like sour cream, cream of X soup. cream cheese, yogurt, etc. A lot of my favorite recipes involve one of those (mmm casseroles). Anyway, I planned well in advance and made a freezerful of meals, sides, and desserts. Everything…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/16 02:17 AM
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This sounds tough. How long will you be long distance? (are you Thai? )
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/16 03:22 AM
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You say he has friends there and a community. Does this mean he has lived there before? How well does he speak the language? Is this a 'forever move' or just a short contract for work? What I'm getting at is, how invested do you need to be in this place? EDIT: Refreshed my page and saw you already addressed these. I think language school could be a solid option for you. Some schools teach culture and history too, which could give you interesting conversation material. What makes a SAHM less attr…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/16 03:50 PM
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Agreed. I'm currently 2/3 through Surrendered Wife, and I am NOT loving it. She seems really big into nevers. Never correct him. Never offer advice. If he drops the ball on something, never pick it up. Never allow yourself to even know how your finances are. 'Money? Don't worry. Just hand him a list of your expenses for the month and have him give you cash. And don't be surprised when he starts showering you with gifts' Maybe this was geared toward rich, power-hungry women who are at the end of …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/16 02:37 AM
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This pros and cons list is just what I had been contemplating.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 04:48 PM
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Absolutely understand. I've heard from many people -men and women alike- that it's dangerous for a woman to take too much time away from work because of various reasons and then they follow up with advice of how to remain marketable after x years outside the industry. Maybe I'll need to know all that. Hopefully not. I never made it widely known that I'd drop everything for the chance to have a family because I don't want my current career to be negatively impacted by something that isn't current…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 12:26 PM
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I was 26 the first time I met women who were married, childless (Korean) homemakers. "Why would you NOT work? What do they do with all their time?" I thought. And then I realized they have time to exercise, meet with friends, clean, shop, and cook good food every day. Evenings and weekends get to be enjoyable time with hubs. It totally shifted my thinking. So thanks, Sunmi and Other Lady whose name is escaping me, for putting me on the path to a transformation.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/16 11:33 PM
1

Are people badmouthing him (he's not supportive, he's a selfish jerk type of thing)? Or mostly just surprised?
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/16 04:43 PM
3

This was me! I moved to Asia at 26 and initially had a hard time finding good female friends. Keep looking! My friends came from my time volunteering and taking language classes. Classes are doubly good because even if you don't make great friends, you'll be learning language/cooking/art/whatever. And the good thing about expat life (where I was, anyway, ) was that every few months new people would move in.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 11:56 PM
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Doesn't really bother me. I think of it in comparison to a marriage of convenience or an arrangement. With your best friend, you have inside jokes, shared interests, support, the intimacy of secrets, etc. So more like, "This is my husband. And we're best friends" as opposed to a transaction like, "This is my husband. I agreed to produce him an heir if he brought me to this country" or be his arm candy if he'd give me a certain standard of living. Or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 03:18 AM
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